Andy Elliott (9:40)
And I'm like, yeah, babe. But you know, like, if we could just, you know, two years we, we could be in this New place in this new spot. And, you know, she's like, andy, but that's not right. And I'm like, it's a gray area, babe. Why? Because. Because sometimes it's hard to take information from the person that's closest to you. Sometimes. Like, it's like, you guys don't show 20 years, you may be telling them something every damn day. And then one time, I have a conversation one time, and he's like, oh, dude, that makes sense. I'm going to change. And you're like, bro, I've been telling you for 20 damn years. And that's what my wife did on this day. So this day, she decides, all right, this night before, she heats up my food three times. I'm on my way, babe. I'll see you in, you know, 30 minutes. Heats up the food, has it ready. I don't show up hour later. Are you coming or not? Yes, I'm on my way right now. I'm getting in the car. Heats up my food. I don't show up. There's always that one more deal. Always that one more deal. You know what I mean, by the way? So you got to be careful who you're trying to please here. I took better care of my customers than I did my family. Now, listen, a lot of people can't say that. You know why? Because they don't. They don't own their shit. The truth of it is, honestly, if my wife told me something bothered her, I probably would ignore it, maybe try to fix it. But if someone at work was having a real problem, I would step in like the hero. Totally screwed up, man. Like, I. Again, leaderless. We're in a leaderless nation. I was leaderless, and I just. I needed an awakening, right? And so, long story short, Jackie come home one night, that heating up, heating up, heating up. She's like, fine, all right, tonight, I'm gonna lay it out. We're gonna. We're gonna decide some ultimatums. And I don't. She didn't say, like, I'm gonna leave, but I felt like she was sick and tired of being sick and tired. She had enough, and she was drawing a very hard line for me. And she said, well, number one, she triggered me two ways very quickly. One, she said, number one, me and the kids have learned to live without you, period. So just so you're aware, okay, I could have got money on my own. My wife's very independent. She's like, I didn't need you to make money. So if you think you going and making Money and being gone all the time, coming home fucking exhausted, not taking care of the kids, being like, are you kidding me? No ways. I didn't marry you for that, okay? You lied to me. That is not the man I married. And so, like, in my head, I'm thinking, my mom left when I was two. Five brothers and sisters. Jerry Springer show grew up poor. I've done all this. Look who I've become. And she's like, dude, don't sell me that victim shit, okay? I see who you can become. You're not becoming it. And I'm not okay with it. This is where you realize, you, number one, you're either a winner or a loser. A winner realizes, oh, my God, I got someone in my life that believes in me and they want to see me go to a new level. This is my chance. That's how I. That's the road I decided to take, okay? I thought long and hard about it for a minute. Or I could have been like, screw her. Who is she to talk to me like that? I'm doing better than everyone else. I know. I've beaten all odds. I broke the bloodline. Are you kidding me? I've broke generational curse. I could have done all that. You know what? I went now, by the way. So this is where she. The second part triggering. She comes from as I'm like, getting mad and ego. Clearly, your wife knows how to piss you off. Are you married? Your wife knows how to piss you off, bro. She can build you up to be a badass man, or she can cut your legs off in two seconds. She knows you better than anyone else in the world. And so my wife reaches over and grabs my love handle, bro. No, I'm not even joking. And she kind of like grabs it and kind of like pulls on it and she's like, you're getting comfortable. And I didn't like that. And it felt like spiders were crawling up my back when she grabbed my love handle because I could feel how out of shape I was, and I felt disgust. And I almost wanted to take it out on her. And by the way, this is. Anybody that really wants to change their life right now, this is the people say, you got called out, bro. No, I got called up. She gave me a chance to level up as a man at that point and become who I promised her I was going to become the day that I met her. And I lied to her forever. And so you either own it, you become great. I wouldn't be. Look, I50x my income when I changed My life, I was able to do what I never thought I could ever do. I. Bigger than any dream I've ever done. When I decided to start raising my damn standards, get my shit together and become a different person, alter my identity, change my intentions. My intentions from, like, I want to go make money to, like, now. I want to help people and become a good person and be an example, right? I never thought about any of that. My mind never thought that way. But I go in the garage, work out for four hours, dude, I freaking shave my head. I had hair at this time. I shaved my head. I just need to see a different person. I walked back in. I remember my wife sitting there, and she's like, look, you feel better? I was like, yes. And she said, that's because that's who you are. You're made to take care of yourself. You haven't been taking care of yourself. And if you don't take care of yourself, you can't take care of me. You can't take care of the kids. If you don't love you, Andy, you can't love us. That's the way it goes. You work so hard for these people that aren't going to be here for you if something happens and you get sick. None of those people that you're working hard for are going to be here. I will always be here. The kids will always be here. Who are you trying to please? She's like, there is a chance right now you can change everything. Just make some decisions. And so I realized at that point, my wife was my greatest coach, and I just wasn't listening for 15 years. Now I immediately. This is where the pivot happened. I go online. I never went on the Internet, and I literally typed in motivation. And I. Because I needed to be motivated, right? Like, that's like spiritual. Like milk. Like, I needed something to tell me what to do next. And I never went on the Internet. I was never on social media. I didn't even own a social media account. So I go on YouTube, I type in motivation, and Tony Robbins pulls up. I'm like, I watch this guy for, like, two minutes and see how I feel. Long story short, two hours later, I'm sitting there, and I'm, like, feeling different. I'm thinking different. I'm. I'm ready to take over the world. I believe I can do these different things. And, dude, he says what I'm feeling. He goes, if you're feeling different, if you're thinking different now, if you believe now, right? And you can do things that you didn't think you could do before you started watching this. Maybe it's because you can. And the only person that's been hurting you is you. And you're in the way of you. And I was like, is this guy freaking talking to me? And he was talking to me because that's what we do. We talk to people on the other side of the camera like people are right now. And then there was this little button. He goes, if you want to change your life, this is the KBB the broker blueprint course with Dean Graziosi, Tony Robbins and Russell Brunson on how to teach your specialized skill. I don't care what you do for a living. I know you're good at something. What are you good at? And I'm like, I'm good at sales. And I'm thinking, I'm like talking to the TV and I'm like, I'm good at sales. And he's like, you can take that specialized skill and people that are good at whatever you just said you're good at will pay you to learn how to be good at that. You can broker your skill for money. You can leave your job you're in now, the one that you don't want and do what you love and help other people. When's the last time you helped someone? I'm like, dude, is this guy talking to me? And I'm like, I swear on my life, I'm just like this guy talking to me. And then I almost didn't do it. I did what everybody will do. I started talking myself out of it. I'm not this guy. That guy's famous. He's been doing it for 30 years. I've never been on social media. Where would I start? I've never done anything like this. I'm a car salesman. I don't know how to do this. Watch. Craziest thing I tell people all the time is I almost didn't do it, dude. I almost didn't do. I came this close to just click, turning it off instead of click and buying that training program. I bought that training program. It was three grand. Changed my life. Now I've spent millions of dollars on self development. It was the greatest thing I ever did. I just learned this one simple thing. Taken a little bit of time each day to work on me. Not my business, not even my wife, not even my kids. Just on me. My mind is not my friend. It's never been my friend. It's never told me good things. I have to tell my mind how things are going to go. I have to be really good to me. And for 39 years, I was really, really bad to me, and I talked bad to me. And my mind was a trash can, which is why I ruined everything that got in front of me. And my intentions were all about making money, because I thought when I was younger, because we were poor, if we just made money, we would be successful. And then my wife explained the definition of success is getting it all. You. We need to be close to God. We. You need to be a great father. You need to be your children's hero. You need to be. I want to have a husband I admire and I look up to. That's what I want. I want not you to motivate the sales team. I love that. I want you to go to work and come home and be a winner. And I want to look in your eyes and know that you gave it all you got. That's what I want. I married a winner. But also, I want you to come home, motivate the damn family. How about that? And I'm just like. Anyway, so that was when it all changed. And, you know, I'm sure you guys can relate with.