Armchair Anonymous: Bad Dates II

Summary

Armchair Expert: Armchair Anonymous — Bad Dates II

April 10, 2026
Host: Dax Shepard
Co-host: Monica Padman
Theme: Listeners call in to share their worst date experiences, which run the gamut from hilarious and awkward to genuinely unsettling.

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Episode Overview

In this episode, Dax Shepard and Monica Padman invite listeners to share stories of their most disastrous dates. The hosts react in real-time, offering commentary, support, and plenty of laughs. The stories highlight the unpredictable, uncomfortable, and occasionally bizarre realities of modern dating—showcasing both the vulnerability and sheer messiness of being human.

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Featured Stories & Key Segments

1. Bailey: The List of Boundaries

[04:01–17:41]

• Background: Bailey, a Michigan elementary school teacher, recounts her most memorable bad date from 2019.

• Setup:

  • Met Evan, an aerospace engineering student at Notre Dame, through Tinder.
  • Emphasizes her approach: safety precautions, sharing location with friends.
  • First meetup at Cheddar’s, a “Midwest fancy” restaurant.

• Memorable Moments & Quotes:

  • Suit at Cheddar’s:
    Bailey: “He’s wearing a full suit, tie and everything.” [08:00]
    Dax: “Oh, wow. Were you in a ball gown?” [08:02]
  • Physical Boundaries Contract:
    Evan presents a handwritten list with “no touching, no caressing, no fondling, no squeezing, no stroking.” [08:41]
    Monica: “Oh my God.” [08:52]
    Dax: “This list is somehow more perverse than just a note that said, ‘I love hand stuff.’” [08:53]
  • Phone Screensaver Shock:
    Evan’s phone background is a photo of Bailey, one she never sent him, indicating he’d “gone searching for it.” [11:16]
  • Love Bombing:
    After a silent movie night, Evan says: “I love you. In all of the Greek meanings of love in the Bible…” [12:50]
    Dax: “In the panoply of Greek terms.” [12:52]
  • Uncomfortable Escape:
    After declining a walk with him at night, she feigns a call from her mom and flees. [14:07]

• Reflection:

  • Hosts consider whether some of his behavior reflects neurodivergence.
  • Bailey now views the experience with more compassion but remains very unsettled by the overt displays of attachment and boundary “contract.”
  • Bailey gives a shout-out to her coworkers and commends the open-mindedness of the show. [16:20–17:38]

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2. Grace: Lost in Zilker Park

[22:13–31:18]

• Background: Grace, recently relocated to Seattle, shares a bad date story from her time in Austin in 2018.

• Setup:

  • Met the man on Bumble. First date: started normally at a bar in Austin.
  • He offers to show her a “hidden” skyline view; she agrees, despite cautious instincts.

• Events:

  • Unexpected Detour and Red Flags:
    He drives her 20–30 minutes out of the way, then pulls out a large backpack in a remote park at 9 p.m.
    Concern sets in: “Maybe I shouldn’t go to a second location on a first date.” [24:34]
  • Bizarre Outing:
    Unzips a backpack to reveal champagne and a professional camera—proceeds to take photos (not of her).
    Champagne Chugging & Stone-Cold Columns:
    He climbs stone columns, invites her up, calls her “boring” and “lame” when she declines and begins yelling. [26:07]
  • Escalation to Danger:
    • He grabs her phone for flashlight purposes and leaves her alone in the dark.
    • Local teens ignore her pleas for help.
    • Upon his return, he wants to go out drinking.
    • Grace gives her real address so he’ll drive her home, trying to appease him.
    • At her apartment, he insists on being a “gentleman,” forces a goodnight kiss, follows her inside, and refuses to leave, passing out on her couch.
    • She barricades herself in her bedroom until he leaves. [29:09]
  • Aftermath:
    He texts the next day: “I had an awesome time, let’s hang out again.” [29:37]
    • She blocks him—no reply.

• Memorable Commentary:

  • Monica: “This is horrible.” [27:33]
  • Dax: “I’m glad you made it out of Zilker Park alive.” [31:03]
  • Reflect on dating app accountability, the difficulty of reporting, and the mix of shame and survival instincts.

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3. Tabitha: The Spicy Wing (and Milkshake) Catastrophe

[33:02–46:40]

• Background: Tabitha, originally from Southern California but living in Louisville, Kentucky, tells a story that is both mortifying and hilarious.

• Setup:

  • Dating Andrew for a couple months; this is her “meet the family” moment during a Man vs. Food-inspired spicy wing challenge at a restaurant.

• Events:

  • The Wing Challenge:
    Andrew, his father, and brother attempt the restaurant’s insanely spicy wings, wearing gloves and needing to sign a waiver.
  • Immediate Regret:
    The men flee to the alleyway, vomiting violently. [39:12]
  • A Horrific Turn:
    Andrew helps clean up, then uses the restroom without washing hands first—resulting in hot sauce on his penis. [40:47] Andrew (panicking): “There’s hot sauce on my dick!” [40:47] Tabitha: “I’m trying to splash the milk in the alley.” [41:16]
  • Things Escalate:
    • Father, brother, and Andrew all in varying states of distress.
    • Andrew requests his mom buy him a milkshake to—literally—put his penis in it, in a McDonald’s parking lot. [43:04]
    • The family drives home in silence, Andrew sitting in the backseat with his genitals immersed in the milkshake.

• Memorable Quotes:

  • Tabitha: “His mom and dad are...‘don’t sleep in the same room until you’re married’ nice, not wiener out in an alley nice.” [41:40]
  • Monica: “It seems like he just liked what the milk felt like. And he’s like, I want more of that.” [44:18]
  • On their relationship: “Not only was it a bad date, but it also doubled as the first time I met my in-laws.” [44:34]
  • Yes, Tabitha actually married Andrew: “He does not have a dairy kink, can confirm.” [44:36]

• Host Reflection:

  • Milk as a remedy for hot sauce is debated.
  • Dax: “Milk in the same way they give you water. But it doesn’t neutralize capsaicin…It can’t reverse what happened.” [45:15]

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4. Sam: The Bag on the Foot and a Bizarre Restaurant Experience

[47:25–61:19]

• Background: Sam, from Topanga (originally UK), reflects on a date he claims he blocked from memory—a decision vindicated by retelling it.

• Setup:

  • 2009, Thousand Oaks/Simi Valley, meets a Danish woman online.
  • He picks her up, immediately notices she’s aged beyond profile photos and is wearing a grocery store bag tied over her foot.

• Events:

  • Odd Details Pile Up:
    • Blames “injury” for bag but is evasive.
    • Stops at a pet store: She chain-smokes inside, shops for pet supplies with no actual dog, drags the bagged foot like a zombie.
    • At a restaurant, repeatedly calls the server “bitch” – it escalates from playful to disruptive. [54:03]
    • Drinks heavily, demands more wine, volume increases.
    • On the return drive, she begins screaming: “Where are you taking me? You’re going to murder me! You’re going to rape me!” [56:58]
  • Resolution:
    • Arrives at her home; her husband greets him, explains: “Don’t worry, she does this all the time. She’s not taking her meds.” [58:16]
    • Sam flees in shock.
  • Host Analysis:
    • Dax: “It sounds a very bipolar episode.” [58:16]
    • Monica: “Maybe the husband is the most patient person on earth, clearly.” [58:40]
  • Sam’s Reflection:
    • He went on to meet his now-wife online; hosts note his luck swings between extremes.

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Notable Quotes & Reflections

• On Modern Dating:

  • Monica: “There are a lot more bad dates than good ones.” [00:13]
  • Dax: “Everything happens in this. Please enjoy Bad Dates part two.” [00:56]

• On the boundary-list:

  • Dax: “This list is somehow more perverse than just a note that said, ‘I love hand stuff.’” [08:53]
  • Monica: “He’s thought through all the things. Squeezing, stroking.” [09:00]

• On App Accountability:

  • Dax: “You should be able to [review people on dating apps], but so many people are scorned…everyone would be bagging on each other who didn’t get picked.” [30:33]

• On suffering through a date:

  • Dax: “I have had the experience...where I had met someone on MySpace and then when I met him in real life, it was dramatically different...I felt guilty and I proceeded.” [61:46]

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Timestamps for Key Segments

• [04:01] — Bailey’s story begins
• [08:41] — The boundaries contract emerges
• [12:50] — “I love you” in all Greek biblical meanings
• [14:07] — “Do you want to go on a walk?”/her escape
• [22:13] — Grace’s Austin date nightmare starts
• [25:12] — The backpack champagne/sketchy hike reveal
• [29:09] — Grace hides in her room; date passes out
• [33:02] — Tabitha’s spicy wing challenge date
• [40:47] — “There’s hot sauce on my dick!”
• [43:04] — Milkshake in McDonald’s parking lot
• [47:25] — Sam joins; bag-on-foot story begins
• [54:03] — Bizarre restaurant ‘bitch’ exchanges
• [56:58] — Public hysterics, culminating in home drop-off
• [58:16] — Husband explains her mental health
• [61:46] — Host reflection on guilt/dating

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Tone & Style

• Conversational, humorous, and empathetic—never mean-spirited, even with the wildest stories.
• Dax and Monica bring warmth, curiosity, and self-deprecation, still centering the guests’ voices.
• Regular tangent into dating philosophy, pop culture references, and a running debate on milk’s medicinal powers.

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Listener Shout-Outs

• Bailey: Shout out to her coworkers for covering her class so she could record. [16:20]
• Grace: Shout out to her sister Lara, fellow Armcherry. [31:22]

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Episode Takeaways

• Modern dating is a minefield—sometimes traumatic, often weird, and occasionally hilarious in hindsight.
• Vulnerability and open conversation make even bleak stories feel communal and empowering.
• For all the bad dates shared, several callers end up in happy marriages, proving that perseverance sometimes pays off.
• There’s no shortage of “bad date” material for Dax and Monica’s (and listeners’) amusement.

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“Your experience on Planet Earth is just as valid as mine. I’m just having one. You’re having one. I’m curious about yours.” — Dax Shepard [17:27]

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End of Summary

Transcript

[A]

Welcome, welcome. Welcome to Armchair Anonymous. I'm Dax Shepard. I'm joined by Monica Padman. Today we have. Tell us about a really bad date. Oh, no, there's a lot of bad dates out there.

[B]

There are a lot more bad dates than good ones.

[A]

I don't know. I don't have the data on that.

[B]

There are.

[A]

I can only speak anecdotally. I've had mostly only good dates. I mean, definitely, if I add up the bad experiences versus good, it's very, very positive.

[B]

Doesn't mean I dates with the partners. This is dates.

[A]

Well, they started as dates.

[B]

No, you can count those. Yeah, but you can't count once you guys are together.

[A]

Yeah, okay. Just saying. I've been out with people for the most part. It's been fun. It doesn't mean I like, want to go the distance with them. Yeah, but I haven't had like a girl like, you know, sawing on her teeth at the table on her phone or I mean, Grant, I dated in 20 years.

[B]

But yeah, things have changed.

[A]

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[C]

Hello.

[A]

Hi. Is this Bailey?

[B]

It is.

[D]

How are you?

[A]

Good. And right behind you, there's some clues. You have some very elementary stuff happening. The question is, do you like. And this says, apples, oranges, bananas.

[D]

I am a teacher. I am hiding in our speech pathologist's room right now while my kids are in the room across the hall.

[A]

This feels highly dangerous, and I love it.

[B]

I'm so proud of you. But I'm also proud of myself because I almost said, are you a speech therapist?

[A]

But she's not. She's borrowing.

[B]

I know.

[A]

Oh, the room. Yeah. Yeah.

[B]

Before she said it, that would have

[A]

been a good guess.

[D]

Very proud of you.

[B]

Thank you. That's what I'm looking for.

[A]

Give her one of those stars that are on the wall. I see stars and happy faces.

[B]

Yes.

[D]

There's lots of stuff.

[A]

And where are you at?

[D]

So I'm in Grand Rapids.

[A]

Oh, my goodness. Good job, Monica. You instantly knew that was Michigan.

[B]

Of course I know.

[D]

It's one of the big ones. And I'm actually from St. Joe, Michigan. I know that you and Belle like to come through every once in a while.

[A]

Yeah, no, that's next to what St.

[D]

Joe it's by silver beach in Stevensville.

[A]

Yes, Stevensville. We rented a house in Benton Harbor.

[E]

Yeah.

[A]

Yes, Monica, Benton Harbor's where we had that most impossibly good Fourth of July.

[B]

I love that trip.

[A]

Right. They've got, like, a pier on Silver Beach. I got a little thrown when you said St. Joseph because I was thinking of the St. Joseph river, which is southern Michigan. Benton harbor was my wedding, too. Oh, Wabi Wab got married in Benton Harbor.

[C]

Really?

[A]

And they're still together.

[D]

It's amazing.

[E]

I love it.

[A]

Okay, so you're a Michiganite and you've stayed and you're in Grand Rapids. You're in the big city.

[D]

Yes. I love Michigan.

[A]

We're closing in on when it's really good.

[E]

Yes.

[D]

It's about 55 degrees right now and sunny, so we're all loving it.

[A]

Lovely. Okay, so you have a bad date or had a bad date or maybe you've had many bad dates.

[B]

Are you on a bad date right now?

[A]

Would you call this a bad date?

[D]

I don't know. My kids are over there. I had plenty of bad dates, but this one is definitely the top. It's my story for all of my parties and all the things that I've gone to. So it was in 2019. So I was a sophomore in college. I was going to the community college in Benton harbor, and I graduated from a really small school. There was only like, 84 kids there in my senior graduating class. So I did not want to date anybody at my high school in my college. So in my dating apps, I expanded my location to South Bend area.

[A]

Wait, South Bend, Indiana?

[D]

Yeah, it's about a 45 minute drive. So I figured if it worked out, we could make it work. So I met this guy. We'll call him Evan. I don't want to use his real name.

[A]

Well, first of all, you gave him a nice name. I'm assuming you don't love this guy if it was a bad date, but

[B]

it could also go either way.

[D]

Yeah. So we met on Tinder. We FaceTimed and texted for a couple weeks before we met, and he seemed pretty normal. He went to Notre Dame and was in aerospace engineering.

[A]

Can I ask a quick clarification question, Bailey, Because I'm not on the apps. My understanding of Tinder was that that one's geared more towards hookups.

[B]

It was.

[D]

That was not my intention. So I'm a Christian, and that's a very big part of my dating in my life and everything. But I just wanted to meet people because I had a Very small circle.

[B]

Yeah, smart.

[D]

That was not my intention, but it seemed like that wasn't his either. And we were talking.

[E]

It was great.

[D]

We decided to meet at Cheddar's. I don't know if you know what a Cheddar's is.

[A]

No, but it sounds like a Chili's.

[C]

Yes.

[D]

It's like Midwest fancy, you know, like an Olive Garden.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[D]

You go there for special occasions type. Deal. So I have a rule. I never let them pick me up for a date. I share my location with all my friends and all of the things. I was like, there's no way. So we met there, and he comes in, and he's wearing a full suit, tie and everything.

[A]

Oh, wow.

[D]

I was very thrown off.

[A]

Were you in a ball gown?

[D]

No, I was in jeans and, like, a nice top probably. So I was like, okay, maybe he's just trying to impress me. Could be endearing if that was the only red flag, right? So we sat down, and it was a little weird. He was just kind of awkward. It seemed like he was very nervous. And then he says, okay, I want to talk about my physical boundaries with you.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

Oh, my. All right.

[D]

So some background in the Christian dating scene. That's not super atypical, but it is for a first date. And he pulls out a list out of his pocket in his shirt.

[F]

Oh.

[D]

And the list, it said, no touching, no caressing, no fondling, no squeezing.

[B]

Oh, my God.

[D]

No stroking.

[B]

Oh, my God.

[A]

This list is somehow more perverse than just a note that said, I love 100.

[B]

He's thought through all the things. Squeezing, stroking.

[A]

I just think he almost came when

[F]

he wrote this list.

[A]

Yes. I'm sorry, I do need a little clarification. Do you think that meant anywhere on his person or that meant specifically his genitals? Like, did he not want to hold hands at any point?

[D]

I think it was probably not anything. And depending on where you're at in the Christian sphere, some people want to be a little bit more conservative about those types of things than other people, just so it doesn't lead to other things.

[F]

Aha.

[A]

Gateway.

[D]

You know how it goes. Oh, yeah.

[A]

We've all been there once. You start slippery slopes, right?

[D]

So I think he just wanted to cover all of his bases and say nothing.

[A]

And what was your response to the list? Like, cool.

[D]

I sat there with my mouth open. I remember being like, okay. And he asked me. He's like, so, what do you think? What are your boundaries? I said, you, I guess, covered them all. I couldn't think of Anything else to add?

[A]

You left out tickling.

[D]

It's part of the touching. Just no touching.

[A]

Well, no. You could blow. You could blow with your mouth. Yes, I've done some tickling with just air.

[E]

You could.

[A]

Air tickles.

[D]

There was a couple of loopholes.

[A]

What if he wrote air tickles? No, air tickles. Let me add it.

[B]

Let me add it.

[D]

I never had anyone physically write them down and read them to me like that. So that was off putting.

[A]

Yeah, it's almost like he wanted you to sign it. Like it was a contract.

[D]

Right. So we had the movies afterwards. At that point, I was feeling like, oh, my gosh, Like, I do not want to go. But I was 21. I was a people pleaser. He already bought the tickets and I was like, it's two hours in the dark. I know he's not gonna touch me, so it's fine. I was like, whatever. It's two hours. We were going to see Aladdin, the live action that came out. So I was like, it'll be an enjoyable film.

[A]

This is the most PG date I've ever heard of. By the way. You go to Cheddar's, then do Aladdin. You get the list of things, the no, no's.

[D]

Yeah, Nothing on paper. Sounds like a great date. So I was sitting there. He pulls out his phone right before to like turn his sound off. And there was a picture from Facebook.

[A]

No, his phone as his screensaver.

[E]

No, no, no.

[B]

Yeah,

[D]

we had Snapchat and stuff, so it wasn't one that I sent. He had to go searching for it.

[A]

And what kind of photo was it? One of your most conservative or your least conservative photos.

[D]

One of my more conservative ones.

[A]

I just want to know if it's like swimwear photo or something.

[D]

No, it was one of my friends. We did like a photo shoot in the Sunflower Field.

[A]

Okay, lovely.

[B]

Wholesome.

[A]

Wholesome, right.

[D]

A high school fun thing. But I never sent him that picture. It was kind of an old one. This is the most uncomfortable I've ever

[C]

been in my life.

[D]

I cannot confront him about it.

[B]

Do you know how old he is?

[D]

I think we were the same age. I think we were about 21. So he was an aerospace engineer major. So I was thinking that could contribute to it a little bit.

[A]

Yeah, we know what you're saying. Yeah.

[D]

And I work with kids a lot, so like I've got a little bit more of a bubbly personality. Some one like that might not and that's okay. So I was trying to give him the benefit of the doubt. So we sat there, and I did not move. I thought many times about bolting and going to the bathroom and then just not coming back. But again, I just couldn't do it. And so I was, like, frozen. So as soon as the movie was over, I ran to my car, and I was telling him, like, okay, bye. See you later. And he stopped me, and he's like, wait, I have to tell you something. I love you. In all of the Greek meanings of love in the Bible, there are many Greek words of love that God uses to describe how he feels about us. And he told me that he loved me in all of those ways in

[A]

the panoply of Greek terms.

[B]

What?

[D]

So it's like fatherly love, romantic between husband and wife type love, and then friendship, and then there's something else. But first date, he was like, I love you. Do you love me?

[A]

Do you?

[C]

What?

[B]

He asked, do you love me?

[D]

And I said, it's too soon. I can't.

[B]

You're so nice. I'd be like, no.

[D]

So that was a long time ago. So I think if it happened now, it would be totally different. There's no way that that would happen.

[B]

Ew, this is so creepy. He has your background.

[A]

In my opinion, he is either in one of two categories. He's either a psychopath, which I don't think he is, or I think he has some kind of neurodivergent personality. Like, when you watch Love on the Spectrum and they see, like, one person, they're like, yes, I'm going to be husband and wife with them. Like, the thing that they launch off into is a little untethered as I've

[D]

gotten a little bit older and I'm able to look back on it, I think that's probably more where it was. But I did leave out at the very end, after He Loved Me, he pointed to the forest. There was a forest behind me, like, with a trail. And he said, do you want to

[F]

go on a walk?

[D]

No, absolutely not. And I said, my mom's calling me. I gotta go. And I got in my car and I drove off and I cried.

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

That's scary. It's kind of a stressful two hours.

[B]

It feels really uncomfortable.

[A]

Yeah, the screensaver makes it feel unsafe.

[D]

If it was just the other things of him being just a little weird. We've all met some weird people before, so it's like. But now that I've worked around a lot of neurodivergent students and things, I'm like, oh. That, I think, is where it's at So I have a little bit more compassion for him now. He is married.

[A]

Oh, thank God. Great.

[D]

I hope that he's found his perfect match. It just was not me. And I hope he's matured.

[A]

Was he able to drop the whole thing or did he keep reaching out?

[D]

He was able to drop it. As soon as I got home, I sent him this long thing about how it was really nice getting to know him. I just don't think it's gonna work. I don't see anything. And then he said, okay, it was great. I hope God blesses you in your life. And then that was it.

[A]

So the first part, it's hard to relate to, and then the second part's hard to relate to because again, in my mind it's like, well, it takes me a lot to fall in love with somebody. And then conversely, if I'm in love with somebody, I also can't be over it in five seconds. So it's like both sides of it are different, I think.

[B]

Yep. Now, this also opens up an interesting question about love. I hear that. I'm like, well, obviously he's not. He spent 18 minutes with you. But, like, what if he was?

[A]

What is wrong?

[D]

Say he wasn't over those first couple weeks of texting. Maybe that was just it for him and seeing me in person.

[A]

I don't know. I'd also argue if you have never had the attention of a girl ever, the first time you feel that attention, I don't know how you would explain it. The excitement level is so high, it would be easy to think, oh, this is love. Like, this feels so good. I've been waiting for this and here it is. And I love it. And now I want to be her father, her husband, her caretaker, all of the things.

[D]

And now I'm married to the most wonderful golden retriever husband that you could ever ask for. He's the best.

[A]

And did you meet him on an app?

[D]

We did, actually. We met on hinge. So a different one. Can I give a shout out to some of my co workers?

[A]

Yes, please.

[D]

I would love to give a shout out to all of my parapros and all of the support staff and secretaries and all of my other teacher partners that I have here. Just seeing the dedication that they do every day to really work and love on some kids. When I told them that I was coming, they were all very excited and moved around their schedules to be able to come cover my room for me. That's so sweet.

[B]

What a nice shout out.

[A]

It's you and nurses Tied for the best people on the planet. Really?

[B]

That's right.

[D]

Thank you. And I love your podcast. I've listened to it for many years, and even though I'm a Christian and I disagree with you on some things, I love that you have such an open dialogue about it and are able to listen to different people's perspectives. And I think that that's a really amazing trait to have. So I don't feel alienated. And even though we don't share the same beliefs, like, I feel like I can still connect and learn a lot from your podcast.

[A]

I appreciate that, Bailey, because your experience on Planet Earth is just as valid as mine. I'm just having one. You're having one? I'm curious about yours. It's not mine. I'm delighted to hear that. Thank you.

[D]

Thank you so much.

[A]

All right, have a great rest of your day.

[C]

You too.

[A]

Okay, bye. You know, lucky you'd be to have her as your teacher.

[B]

Yeah. I'll go back.

[A]

I'll go back to speech. What room is she?

[B]

Yeah, I did have to go to speech because you had a list, but you all list. My mom didn't believe it, but I did.

[A]

Did you believe it?

[B]

I think I was like, whatever they say. I have to go do this.

[A]

Snacks in there. I'll go. Was there cookies?

[B]

Other cookies? I'll steal them.

[A]

You have been dev in your pursuit of cookies, as we've decided. What if you had learned that the speech pathology department gave cookies? And so you were. You started doing this, and then you knew you got a cookie every time you said a certain word.

[D]

Right?

[A]

And then you all of a sudden, magically, you did this, and then you're, oh, thank you for the cookie.

[B]

She doesn't have one.

[A]

When I'm with her, she doesn't. Well, you don't have cookies.

[B]

I'm not gonna put it past me. I'll do a lot for cookies.

[A]

Hi, Mr. Sarah. I heard that you teach a class on beef pathologies.

[B]

And what flavors do you have?

[A]

You have chocolate? Sip. I can barely say it. Hopefully you'll teach me how to say you have ne.

[B]

I'm not into that one.

[A]

No, but you would say it just because it really exacerbates the esses. Yeah. We're allowed to do this because you had it.

[D]

I had it.

[A]

My deafness.

[B]

I bet I did have it because I had, like, a weird mouth. I had to get braces very young.

[A]

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[B]

Hello.

[A]

Hi, Grace.

[D]

This is so weird.

[A]

Are you wearing cute overalls?

[E]

Yeah. I know. You're a fan. I'm a big fan of overalls.

[A]

Yeah. They're very utilitarian. Right.

[E]

Very functional.

[A]

What kind of things do you keep in the top pocket, like a phone?

[E]

Hair bands, lip gloss, you know?

[A]

Where are you, Grace?

[E]

I am in Seattle, Washington.

[A]

Oh, sure. Lovely.

[B]

How's the rain? Is it rainy today?

[E]

It is not. It's nice out. I just moved here a month ago, so I'm fresh on the whole weather thing, and I've been getting used to it.

[A]

All right. I'm gonna try to guess where you're from.

[D]

Tricky.

[A]

I don't know why I'm gonna try to do that. Because it's a big country.

[B]

It's a big country, but you move there from.

[A]

Okay. You move to see Adam. I don't think you're from Chicago.

[E]

Yes. How did you know?

[C]

That is wild.

[A]

Thank you.

[B]

Walk us through.

[A]

And it hit me like lightning.

[B]

Really?

[F]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. I was like, okay, you're from a town that has a scene, overalls. You don't have an accent. You're not from the South. All of a sudden, I saw Chicago, and I looked at your face. I was like, that's it.

[E]

A western suburb of Chicago. So I still say Chicago.

[A]

Fantastic.

[E]

Yeah. But I actually moved here from North Carolina.

[A]

How was North Carolina?

[E]

Great weather. A lot nicer.

[A]

That was so fun.

[B]

Wow. That was fun. When you get it right.

[A]

Well, there's so many cities to choose from. Yeah.

[B]

I'm impressed.

[A]

Oh, God. Feels great. Okay. So, Bailey, you had a bad date.

[E]

Yes. And this happens in Austin. I've lived in a lot of places.

[A]

Austin was one I was debating, by the way.

[E]

Yeah. So it was 2018. I had also just moved there for work. Really didn't know anybody, was like, okay, what's the best way to meet people in a city? Dating apps. So was there for, like, maybe three weeks at this point. And it was the first person that I had matched with. Just it, like, started as meeting at a bar, had a few drinks.

[A]

Can I ask what app you were using?

[E]

I think it was Bumble. So, yeah, we were just at a bar, had a few drinks. He was Cute. He was, like, a little awkward. You know, it's the first date. Give him the benefit of the doubt. And I was explaining that I was new to the area. Did he have any recommendations for things to do, Places, places to see? And he was from Austin, and he said, oh, there's a really cool lookout spot of the city to see the city skyline. It's. We're really close. Do you want to go check it out? I'm a cautious person.

[A]

It sounds bad spots. It sounds really bad.

[E]

I was like, maybe I shouldn't go to a second location on a first date. But I was, like, trying to be more spontaneous.

[A]

You know, the city and Austin's got a vibe.

[E]

It does. And he was giving off a good vibe. And so he said, we're really close. I have my car. I can drive us there. So we get in the car and it's like 5, 10, 15, 20 minutes. I don't know where anything is in the city. What would make sense? So we pull off into a residential neighborhood, and he's like, okay, we need to walk on a bit of a trailhead to get to this lookout spot. He then gets a giant backpack out of his trunk.

[C]

What?

[E]

We walk into this trail and it's a big clearing.

[A]

Can I ask what time of day it is?

[E]

Yes, good question. It's 9pm oh, my gosh.

[B]

Do you have your location shared with any friends?

[E]

No, I don't really know anybody there.

[A]

And are you seeing like, episodes of dateline in 48 hours in your head as you're on this trail?

[E]

Yeah, but we get there and it's really cool. It's a big clearing. There's these five stone columns. You can see a really pretty view of the skyline. And he then, like, opens the backpack, and in the backpack, there's like a giant bottle of champagne. Oh, my God. A professional camera. So I'm like, was he planning this the whole time? Like, lots of questions. So he is taking pictures. He's chugging the champagne.

[A]

What hold up Are the pictures of you or the skyline?

[E]

No, the skyline.

[A]

Okay. But he was really getting, like, hold this lens.

[B]

Have you become his assistant?

[D]

Yeah.

[E]

Well, the whole energy, I couldn't read if he was trying to be cute and flirty, if it was actually kind of dangerous. And then it turns when he's jumping up onto these, like, stone columns jumping up and down, asking me to join. I'm saying that I not really into that. And he's like, you're so lame. You're being so boring. And he starts yelling at me. So I then come to later realize that where we were was in Zilker Park.

[A]

Oh, oh, okay. Uh huh.

[E]

A bit of a hidden part. And there's lots of trails and paths. And he said, let's see, keep going into the trail. Like a night hike is so fun. That's like Peak Austin. Let's go on a night hike. And that is where I draw the line. I said, you know, no, I'm not doing that. Can we please leave? So as we're talking, kind of arguing, he grabs my phone out of my hand and he says, the flashlight on my phone is broken. I need to take yours to go on my hike.

[B]

What?

[A]

What?

[E]

Then he's gone with my phone.

[A]

Oh my gosh.

[E]

So I'm very afraid. I'm like, do I go back and try to knock on some doors in this neighborhood? What do I do? I have no phone. I have no way to get out of here. And then this whole thing to me is bizarre. Things just keep happening. These boys come out and they're like teenage boys smoking pot, super high. So I'm asking them for help. I'm asking like, can I use your phone to get an Uber? They're out of it. They're like making fun of me. They're not helpful.

[B]

This is horrible.

[A]

It's like a mad house all of a sudden.

[E]

They did not help me. It was a little bit of time. I was just kind of like in a freeze mode. So he comes back and he's like, okay, let's go to the bars.

[B]

So also, he did go on a night hike by himself. Like, what is going on?

[E]

I'm not sure if he's on some other sort of substance. And then I was like, no, I'd really like to go home. That's when again, I make second mistake of the night and tell him where I live. Because I again, wasn't problem solving enough. I just wanted to get home.

[C]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[A]

Frontal lobe wasn't online. You're like in kind of in survival. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[E]

I was trying to figure out how to get home and get out of the situation. So we get back to my apartment and I was like, had a good time. We'll hang out later. Trying to appease the situation. He's like, no, I'm a gentleman. And I walk all my dates to the door.

[A]

Oh, I hate this guy so much. I can't stand him.

[E]

I was like, no, I'm fine. I don't need to be walked to the door. He was like, no, I insist. So he's then walks to my door, and he was like, give me a kiss good night and I'll be on my way. So I did. It was gross, man. And then I go to open my door, and he follows me. No. He forces his way in behind me. You know, I was freaking out. I was in danger. And I was like, can you leave? I'm tired. Please. I want to go to bed. We'll hang out next weekend. And he just said that he was drunk and needed to sleep it off on the couch. So he went and did that. He passed down on my couch, and I go and I lock myself in my bedroom. And I'm so embarrassed that I let it get to this point that I didn't want to call anyone.

[A]

Oh, man, this is so unfair. This is like when people don't report getting scammed.

[D]

Yeah.

[A]

So unfair.

[B]

There's, like, shame, even though there should absolutely not be.

[E]

Yeah.

[C]

So.

[E]

And I didn't really know a lot of people or have close friends. I was like, do I call the. I ended up just staying up all night in my room alert. And he eventually left. Like, I heard the door closed, and I just, like, got up and locked the door.

[B]

Oh, my God.

[A]

Oh, my gosh.

[E]

And the craziest thing to me of the whole situation is the next day he texts me, like, I had an awesome time. Let's hang out again.

[A]

That was a dream date for him. Take a girl up to the top of a mountain and leave her for a while. Take her phone and then force her to let you pass out on her couch and then leave in the middle of the night. Yeah, that sounds like a great date.

[E]

Don't understand how he didn't see that. Like, any of those things could have made me feel uncomfortable and then would want to go on another date with me. But I'm glad that it didn't end a different way.

[A]

How did you respond to him? Did you?

[E]

I didn't. I blocked him.

[B]

Oh, so sorry.

[A]

Reviews, dating apps.

[B]

Oh, I don't think so.

[A]

You should be able to. You should be able to be like, hey, for what it's worth, this was my date with Michael.

[B]

Maybe you could reach out to the dating app itself and say, like, hey, this person really is kind of predatorial just flagging for the site.

[A]

You know why you can't have that system? Because so many people are scorned that they weren't liked back, that everyone would be bagging on each other who didn't get picked.

[B]

You mean if it was just, like, open comments?

[A]

Exactly.

[E]

And, yeah, have had many more. Not a fan of the app.

[A]

Yeah. Were you done with apps at that point or did you give them another go?

[E]

Oh, I kept going at that point.

[A]

Good, good, good, good, good. Yeah, you got it.

[E]

Against my better judgment.

[A]

Have you had some good dates, though, on the apps?

[E]

Oh, yeah, a few.

[B]

Wow. Well, I'm sorry that happened. That's really.

[A]

I'm glad you made it out of Zilker park alive.

[E]

Me too.

[A]

All right. Of all these places you live, what's your favorite?

[E]

Honestly, Austin's probably up there. I lived in New York for a bit. I liked upstate New York, but Austin was just so fun. I'm a huge live music fan, so I went to shows constantly.

[B]

Fun.

[E]

Can I give a quick shout out?

[D]

Yes.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, of course.

[E]

Just to my sister Lara. She's an armchair. She was listening to the Marcus Mumford episode when I told her that I was gonna be on this. And a random question. I listened to all of the armchair Anonymous and there's like a little outro song that you sing at the end and I can't figure out what you're saying. Oh, has this been asked before?

[C]

Yes, it has.

[A]

It has. Yes.

[B]

But tell.

[A]

The line you're most confused by is, I say on the fly, I rhyme dish. I think that's the one that people are. What the fuck did he say?

[B]

Yeah, I think rhyme, dish.

[A]

People are accusing me on the fly. I rhymedish because it's not the most well known word, although it exists in the Webster dictionary.

[B]

Rhyme, dish.

[A]

Rhyme, dish.

[B]

Does it? It doesn't.

[A]

It doesn't.

[B]

It's just that it was almost a rhyme and it wasn't a rhyme, so

[A]

I made it rhyme.

[B]

Ish.

[A]

Yeah, rhymedish.

[E]

That helps me. Every time I, like, make something else

[A]

out of something on the fly, I rhymed. I'm actually glad you asked that question out loud because I've answered it in the comments a bunch, but I'm presuming only one in a hundred people that are confused are gonna take the time to write a comment.

[B]

You're right.

[A]

You haven't written a comment. Right. You're just like, fuck it. If I bump into him, I'll ask.

[E]

I even looked to see if it would come up on, like, the words on Spotify. Like, it's gotten that deep. It says playing music.

[A]

I'm flattered they even labeled it music.

[B]

Glass Half Full.

[A]

All right, well, it's lovely meeting you, Grace.

[E]

So nice meeting you. Thanks so much.

[A]

All right. Good luck in Seattle. I'm beating myself up Right now because I knew I needed Kleenexes in a few different locations. Hi, Tabitha. Can you hear us?

[C]

I can hear you.

[A]

Okay, you're just in time. So I ran out of Kleenexes in a bunch of different areas of my life, and I ordered, like, an 18 pack, and I walked around everywhere, and I put extras upstairs and in the gym under my nightstand. And I forgot the studio main area and probably the place I think about it most that I need Kleenex. Anything you want to complain about that has no impact on the world.

[C]

The horrors are already enough.

[B]

The world is enough.

[A]

Yeah. Tabitha, where are you other than your closet?

[C]

I'm in Louisville, Kentucky.

[A]

Oh. I don't know if you've heard me say this, but I have a new fascination with Kentucky and Louisville.

[C]

It's the best. I'm from Southern California, and I think Louisville is better.

[B]

Whoa, that is a hot take.

[A]

And did a lover bring you there, or did you get interested in Louisville some other way? Work brought me to Louisville, and it's so green, Right? That's what I like about it.

[C]

It's very green. They have so many independent restaurants, more per capita than any other city.

[D]

It's a cool place.

[A]

I believe it.

[B]

It is cool.

[A]

I think it's the next Nashville. Go buy now, Mommy. Bye.

[E]

Bye.

[B]

I already bought it.

[A]

Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye. Bye.

[C]

Get here, get here, get here.

[A]

Where in Southern California? Where are you?

[C]

Laguna. Grew up there.

[B]

Were you on Laguna Beach? Were you on the Hills? No, I'm sorry.

[C]

And that is a real sore spot.

[B]

I understand.

[A]

It must have been so exciting, though, to have that show and be from there.

[C]

So exciting. But also, I wasn't from the cool high school.

[A]

It sounds like Veronica Mars a little bit. Did you watch Veronica Mars?

[E]

Absolutely.

[C]

And it definitely gave vibes.

[A]

What was it? High school. They went Neptune.

[B]

Yeah, Neptune High.

[A]

A lot of hats.

[B]

Great show. It's on Netflix currently, if anyone wants to. To check it out if they missed it. That's right.

[A]

My girls are binging it, but they've diverted in what episode they're on. So no matter what room I'm in, some episode is playing.

[C]

It's real life or an episode.

[E]

I love it.

[A]

Yeah, yeah, yeah. Okay, so you had a bad date story.

[C]

So this bad day took place back in the time of man versus food kind of taking over the world. Everybody had, like, a sandwich challenge or a spicy challenge at every restaurant.

[A]

Oh, okay.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Yes. All right.

[C]

I was dating this guy for a couple months, and he says to me, I know we were gonna Go out. But my family wants to do a spicy wing challenge that they saw on the TV show Man vs Food. Should we just kind of, like, put it all together and you meet the parents and we go on this date, and I'm cool. Chill, lady. So I'm like, let's go.

[A]

That sounds fun, actually.

[C]

That'll break the ice. So we get there, and my date, his name is Andrew, his dad and his brother are like, we're gonna do this spicy wing challenge. And it's so spicy, you have to wear gloves. And because it will burn your hands. And it's like five wings. If you can finish all five, you win a T shirt.

[B]

Okay. It's hot ones.

[C]

Yeah. If you throw up at the table, 100 bucks. Like, all these rules, they have to sign a waiver.

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[C]

We sit down. I'm like, are you gonna do it? And he's like, no, no, no, I would never. So his dad and his brother get into it and it becomes immediately apparent that they are not okay. They're just like burning the eyes, water the nose, and they both run out of the restaurant.

[B]

In my head, they did this at

[A]

their house and they printed up their own T shirt and they had to pay a hundred dollars. Wow.

[B]

Like fun and doing a big thing. Okay, copy.

[A]

This is a turnkey experience.

[C]

We are out in public in, like, downtown Richmond, Virginia, in a restaurant. So they run out of the restaurant and they're throwing up in the alley behind the restaurant.

[E]

Okay.

[C]

Because it's so spicy.

[A]

We can I just say, if you're a tenant in this complex, you've opened up a business and you've put your whole life into it, invested every last penny. And then every five to 10 minutes, people come out and throw up next to it. I mean, what is one to do? I call police and like, they can't serve those wings no more.

[E]

I know this is a recurrent thing

[C]

because she told us when we sat down, by the way, if you're going to throw up, like, go to that spot.

[D]

So there's like a Vomit.

[A]

Vomitorium. Okay, I'm sorry. So the dad, the brother, they run out, they're booting in the alley.

[C]

Yes. Okay. So my date is like, I'm gonna go help. He grabs a bunch of napkins, he heads out there, he goes across the street and buys a gallon of milk. He's like cleaning their faces while they're puking, getting the hot sauce off of them, giving them some milk. And he comes in and he's like, guys, we gotta go. Dinner's over. We're done. So we walk out. As we're leaving, he goes, actually, I'm gonna run in and use the bathroom real quick. So he goes in and we're all just standing out there waiting, and he walks out of the bathroom. I'm standing there and I see his face and it goes white. And then there's this look of terror on his face. And he goes, there's hot sauce on my dick.

[A]

Oh.

[C]

Starts panicking, just full scale panic. And he runs into the alley and he's like, tabitha, grab the milk.

[B]

Oh, is that how it works?

[A]

I don't think so.

[C]

I'm like following him into the alley, and he's like, it's burning, it's burning. And I guess when he went to the bathroom, he hadn't washed hands pre. So the hot sauce sauce is all over burning, and he's got his penis out, and I'm trying to splash the milk in the alley.

[E]

But we're also.

[C]

We're in an alley in, like a city.

[A]

The tenants next door who just watched the father son booting, they were already complaining. And then they glance out the window again, and now guys getting milk splashed all over his dick and balls. And you'd be like, I'm gonna sue.

[C]

His mom and dad are so nice, but they're like, don't sleep in the same room until you're married. Nice. Not wiener out in an alley.

[D]

Nice.

[C]

Right? Like, so this is immort terrifying situation for all parties. At some point, the brother's like, where did Andrew go? And I hear his mother, like, I think she's in the alley putting milk on his wiener. And I'm like, oh, my God, just kill me now. And so we're like, are you okay? And he's like, I'm fine. I just want to leave. I'm done with this day. So we get in the car, and as we're driving, we're very lucky we had ridden with his mom and dad. So his mom and dad are in the front seat. We're in the back. And he goes, was, dad, dad, pull over. You gotta pull over. I'm gonna shit my pants.

[B]

So much is going on.

[C]

The spice must have, like, traveled through his urethra. I think more of, like, an external taint to butthole situation. So I started, like, to activate.

[A]

He really got handsy when he went pee. He's, like, rubbed his perineum.

[B]

He's allergic to dairy. And the milk splash got up his butt.

[C]

Like, is it a milk thing? Because he had whipped it out in the alley and that got more sauce.

[A]

Guys. I think it's unrelated, but continue. Or.

[C]

I don't know if it's just, like, the extreme pain had caused a contraction. I don't even know. So his dad, like, goes into a McDonald's parking lot, pulls over, he jumps out of the car, and he turns around to his mom and he says, mom, I need you to go into McDonald's and get me a milkshake. And she's like, like, what flavor?

[E]

And he's like, I'm gonna put my wiener in it.

[B]

Wait, hold on.

[A]

What happened to the diarrhea?

[C]

We pull into McDonald's so he can run into the bathroom.

[A]

Okay, so he's peeling off to go to the toilet. He does my. That makes more sense. I thought he just, like, got in the parking, was, like, hanging out. Mom, go get me milkshake.

[C]

He's sprinting. She's like, what flavor? Like, she's so confused. And he's like, no, it's for my wiener. She gets out of the car and leaves. And I am sitting in the car with his dad, who was just vomiting in the street 20 minutes prior. The longest 10 minutes of my entire life as I'm sitting quietly, waiting for them to come back. Finally, she comes back. And then he comes back, and she turns around and she's like, I got you a large. Hands him the milkshake. And that is how we drove home from the state. Mom and dad in the front, eyes straightforward, no one making a sound. Me and this guy in the back seat, and him with his whole wiener inside a milkshake.

[A]

Oh, my.

[B]

That is. Is so perverse. Like, I'm gonna put my dick in a milkshake.

[A]

Yeah, it's very. The word odd for me.

[B]

Yeah, it's.

[A]

It's like Adam's family odd.

[E]

I just don't know if it had

[C]

been my first thought, but I also don't have a penis.

[B]

It seems like he just, like, liked what the milk felt like. And he's Like, I want more of that. He became insatiable diarrhea.

[C]

Insatiable dairy kink. What I will say is that I in that not only was a bad day, but it also doubled as the first time I met my in law.

[B]

Wait, you married him?

[C]

I married the milkshake. So he does not have a dairy kink. Can confirm.

[A]

Okay. There was no repeat. And he's a smart man. You married him.

[C]

He's a lawyer.

[A]

Because I don't think either of those techniques do anything.

[C]

The drinking of the milk.

[B]

Yes, that's a thing.

[C]

But does it translate?

[A]

And drinking of the milk doesn't do anything. Just to be clear, as someone who's been on these challenges, many, many. They give you milk. Milk in the same way they give you water. But it doesn't neutralize capsaicin. Like, it's on you. That's that it can't reverse what happened. It's kind of like pouring something on a big cut, thinking the cut's gonna close.

[B]

No, it's not gonna fix it completely, but it does reduce the intensity through dissipation.

[A]

That's all I'm saying is I do think it dissipates it, but so would water or orange juice or. I don't think the milk has anything magic.

[B]

We're gonna have to look it up.

[A]

We're gonna have to do a fact check on this episode.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And how long before the penal discomfort subsided? Was it over when you got home? After a bit.

[D]

No, no, no, no, no.

[C]

It was hours and hours for both the dad and the brother, mouth wise and then also wiener wise. All three were done for a while.

[A]

And do you have any idea how long this restaurant stayed in business?

[C]

I probably should go check. I can't imagine they're still doing this very destructive challenge.

[A]

What if it's like a very busy populated street with businesses, except for there was like, like four vacant buildings on either side of this restaurant? People are like, why can't they rent those out?

[C]

Well, I thought you guys would enjoy a wiener. We had some poop and we had ending up together love story style.

[A]

It checks nearly all the boxes. How long ago was that?

[C]

About 15 years ago.

[A]

Wow. Congratulations. Have the brother and the dad done any other bozo stuff since then? Because that feels like a pattern. Maybe they were in.

[C]

I feel like they. But ended up. I feel like you vomited an alley. And that really shuts it down.

[B]

Sure.

[A]

Like, this isn't our thing.

[B]

They, like, wanted to go rogue.

[E]

Good.

[B]

We want to be cool. And they're like, we're not.

[C]

We flew too close to the side. We're done.

[A]

Okay. Well, Tabitha, that was very exciting.

[B]

So nice to meet you.

[C]

Nice to meet you guys. Have a good one.

[A]

Bye.

[B]

Do you think you're going to try it?

[A]

A milkshake? I learned my lesson with jello.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. I don't think I'll ever go back. Although, who knows? When I'm really old, I'll probably start doing weird stuff again.

[C]

You.

[B]

You now actually just quit dairy, so you can't.

[A]

Yeah, although I had a little lapse. I had some lasagna. External use of dairy, not internal. Oh, smart. Yeah, I probably wouldn't get.

[B]

I know, but according to him, it is all the same.

[A]

Well, yeah, I won't get as handsy, I guess, as he did. I don't think the diarrhea was related to the.

[B]

Well, it could have been. His body just got really, like, flossed, Agitated.

[A]

Can you hear us?

[F]

Yeah, I can hear you.

[A]

Are you a Verstappen fan? First and foremost, no.

[B]

What, you guys are gonna fight?

[A]

What? Why do you have a Red Bull car behind you then?

[F]

I just like the design.

[A]

Oh, okay.

[F]

I'm a designer, so anything that looks pretty. And I'm into toys and that toy is so well built, it's unbelievable. You want to get one? They're fantastic.

[A]

You are a motorcycle rider or no?

[F]

Oh, big time. I'm in the motorcycle industry.

[A]

Oh. I was at the track yesterday. I want to impress you.

[F]

Where?

[A]

Willow Springs streets.

[F]

Yeah, I haven't done that one. I've done Willow Springs. I used to hang out with Keith. Code with the California Superbike School.

[A]

Sure, sure, sure. Where are you at currently?

[F]

Topanga.

[B]

Oh, that's what that nice background is.

[F]

I live in one of the little wooden cabins. That's why I'm not in the closet, because the house is the same size as a closet.

[A]

And where are you from originally?

[F]

Feeling uk, but Santa Barbara mainly. My wife's a Santa Barbara and so we lived in Santa Barbara for many years and then we moved down here for work.

[A]

Last motorcycle question you seem to be leaning against. I can barely see it. But are you on a flat track bike? What are you leaning on there in a picture behind you on the picture over your shoulder.

[F]

That's a trials bike. I used to ride trials and motocross at national level in the uk. Quick story on that. My mother wanted portraits of the family when we were like 20 years old and I wouldn't do it. My sister had one, my mother had one, my father had one. I wouldn't do it unless it was on my trials bike. That's the cheesiest thing that I own. My wife insists on putting it on the wall. I just put it in the attic.

[A]

I love it. My eyes drawn to it. Okay, so, Sam, you had a bad date or maybe you've met many.

[F]

I had a few, but this one sticks out. When I met my new wife, we obviously shared all the stories of our lives. And it was total honesty. All the grime and dirt and you name it, it was completely open for discussion. But I never told this one because I completely and utterly forgot about it. And I think it was some form of ptsd. And then my best friend came around one evening when we were in the UK and reminded me of the story. So it was back in 2009. This happened in the Thousand Oaks, Simi Valley Valley area, and I decided to go dating again. I signed up on a dating platform site and started looking around.

[A]

And this is like on a computer, not on the phone?

[F]

No, this was on a computer. Came across this profile on this lady and she was beautiful. So we started messaging and it all went well for a couple of days. That transferred into cell phone, and we were talking backwards and forwards and she sounded super intelligent and really nice. She had faint accent, and it turned out she was Danish from Denmark. Anyway, we got on like a house on fire. After about five days, we said, well, let's meet up for coffee or for lunch. And we chose lunch. She said, well, come and pick me up from home. And I thought, she's taking chances there. I could be a retired ax murderer.

[B]

Exactly.

[A]

Yeah. Or practicing ax murder.

[F]

So I went up there and went to a house parked out on the drive, walked in, knocked on the door, and she let me in. And it was like, whoa. Some of the photos were of her in her 20s, so I was expecting a difference. But I mean, she was beautiful, so I was expecting some sort of decent transfer.

[A]

Yeah, you were optimistic.

[F]

She was okay, but I'd say she was 20% of what she used to be. But I could tell it was the same person, if you know what I mean.

[A]

Yeah, that would be my question. Yeah, like, is it a total catfish? Like, none of these photos her or just a steep decline?

[F]

She looked like she'd gone through some turmoil or trauma in her life, wasn't doing the best. She invited me in. I stepped in the door to the hallway and looked around while she got her keys. And there was pictures and framed photos on the sideboard on the wall. And it was the same Photos that she'd posted and other ones of us. So it's like this is the person, no doubt about it. I was little bit on the back foot. Anyway, as I was standing there, she came through to the hallway to leave the house. I noticed she had a bag on her left foot, an upper ankle. It wasn't a medical bag, it was a grocery bag.

[B]

Wait, what are you talking about?

[A]

Wait, what, like a plastic bag?

[B]

You mean like coming out of her pants?

[A]

No, covering her foot.

[F]

Covering a foot. And then it was tied around the lower part of this calf muscle, high on the.

[A]

As if something was leaking or expose that she wanted to cover.

[E]

Okay.

[F]

I said, oh, you're okay to go out? And I was sort of inquiring and she said, it's nothing, it's just an injury of some sort. But she was very vague about it, whether it was a sprained ankle or whatever. But if it was an injury, I would have thought she'd have one of those hospital or those medical boots.

[A]

At this point, are you starting to consider her mental health? Like, are you thinking, oh, is she crazy?

[F]

He lightly.

[B]

But you're not there yet.

[A]

But you had talked to her on the phone and she had seemed normal on the phone.

[F]

Absolutely 100%. She was maybe, you know, at this point, a couple of percent off. I just thought, oh, right. Okay. Anyway, so we got in the car.

[A]

I'm so sorry, I have one other question. Did you get a sense that there was a shoe on in a bag? Over. Or was she barefoot with a bag?

[F]

I think there was a shoe.

[A]

Okay.

[F]

She was wearing something like, like Birkenstock type.

[B]

The bag was over the shoe, not like she had it on the foot. Then put the whole bag in the shoe.

[F]

No, no, no. Completely covering the whole thing. So anyway, we got in the car, drove off to a restaurant, you know, asked for table, sat down and she was sort of okay. Ish. The server came along. Can I get you a drink? Etc. She said, yeah, I'll have a glass of Chardonnay. And I said, I'll have the same. I'm not a drinker, so Chardonnay would probably last me a week. I said, he received the drink. She said thank you to the server, but she said, thank you. Oh, now being from the UK back then, I remember everyone was calling each other. Oh, yeah, it became a little bit of a trend over here.

[E]

Sure.

[F]

I picked that up and I thought, oh, well, this is the fashion.

[A]

Yeah, this is like it's Britney 2009.

[F]

Yeah, no, but the server, real nice Guy. Very jolly. Very.

[B]

He's.

[F]

He replied, you're welcome, bitch. Oh, they were having fun.

[A]

Okay, great, great.

[F]

They'd connected and it seemed okay. Anyway, so we carried on talking and the food came and there was a bit more of thanks, bitch. Yeah, you're welcome, bitch. It increased. Then she drank her wine and she said to the guy, can I get another wine, bitch? He then was sort of coming down on the bitches. He didn't reply because he was starting to think, we've had our fun with D. That.

[A]

Yeah.

[F]

But during the meal, she was demanding a few more drinks. Every single other word was, bitch.

[B]

This is so.

[F]

And the volume was raising and it was. Other people were hearing it and it's like, right, okay, I gotta get out of here. Let's finish off. Luckily, we got through to three quarters of the meal and I said, let's go. You know, it's polite, the gentleman. Sorry I missed the part. On the way to the restaurant, she said, could we stop at a pet store and get some supplies? And I said, yeah, no problem. So we went into one of the pet stores.

[A]

Sam, you're very tolerant.

[F]

I just want to say I'm famous for patience and tolerance to my own detriment, basically. So anyway, she lit a cigarette and she went into the store smoking. Now, I'm not a smoker. And it was like, oh, no, this is another thing. I'm not sure about smokers. Anyway, she smoked all the way around the pet store. She found some dog food. She found a bowl. The big thing that was really worrying me around the pet store, which is where I noticed it to begin with, is that the bag on her foot. She got a little limp, but she was dragging her foot like a zombie. And so she got this great big rustling, sliding sound like, oh, my. Go all the way around the store. And I thought, she's going to wear through that bag in a bit. I was really conscious of it. Smoked in the car. I said, do you mind not smoking in the car? Then we went to the restaurant.

[A]

Okay, wow. So she had a couple strikes before the bitch. Yeah.

[F]

When we completed the meal and it was all the bitch, bitch, bitch. And she was loud. I got her out of the restaurant and she. Shuffling out of the restaurant. We got into the car park and headed to the car, and she was stumbling, and I was sort of holding her up. Right outside the restaurant in the car park was CHP car. And he was watching. So I guess he was looking for people that were drinking too much at lunchtime. And I was thinking, oh, my God, we're gonna get stopped. She was getting out of order. So anyway, I managed to help her into the passenger side of the car, closed the door, went round, got into the driving seat and I just thought, oh, God, I hope he doesn't see us. As I was driving out the car park, she started screaming, total volume, like. Like, where are you taking me?

[A]

No.

[F]

She was flinging her arms everywhere. Oh, you're going to murder me. You're going to rape me. And she was pushing the windshield and the side window in the car, like, trying to get out. And she was getting my arm off the steering wheel. I was going, don't worry, I'm taking you home. She was absolutely out of control. I thought, the CHP officer hopefully is going to see this as some sort of domestic argument and nothing else.

[A]

Not a kidnapping.

[F]

I had to drive all the way back to her house with her screaming, and I was thinking, I hope she doesn't open the car door and jump out.

[A]

Yeah.

[F]

So we drove to her house, pulled up outside, and I whizzed round to the passenger door to help her out and just calm her down. And she was calming down a little bit now, so I got her out the car, got halfway down the drive, the front door to her house opened and a guy came out.

[A]

Oh, my goodness.

[F]

Seemed a friendly, quite stocky guy and big beard. And he walked towards us and as he was walking towards us, he just gave me a casual sort of little half wave, like, you know, don't worry type of thing. And he walked up, he said, oh, don't worry, she does this all the time. She's not taking her meds.

[A]

Yeah, it sounds a very bipolar episode.

[F]

What I figured out is that at some point she'd had some sort of mental breakdown in the past. And apparently when she is on a meds or slightly coming off of meds, she does these phone calls, gets on dating sites, makes these appointments, and then her husband has to handle it.

[A]

Meets strange men in his driveway, returning his wife.

[B]

Maybe the husband is the most patient person on earth, clearly.

[F]

Yeah. He striked me as a very patient, understanding guy that had been going through this for probably many years.

[A]

Do you think she had a dog?

[F]

No, that's the other thing. When I picked her up, there was no sound of a dog, no look of a dog, no putting the dog away or anything.

[A]

Did you at all want to ask the husband, hey, what's going on with her foot? Two mysteries to me would be like, does she have a dog? And what was going on with her foot.

[B]

Nothing. Probably nothing.

[F]

No, I didn't. I was just in a bit of shock and it's like, I got to get home.

[E]

Yes.

[F]

The next time I went dating online, I actually met my wife and everything was good.

[A]

Well, they go really one way or the other for you. They're either horrendous or perfect. And you get married. It doesn't sound like a lot of middle ground for you.

[F]

Yeah. But it goes in the story. But, yeah.

[A]

Your loss. Our game. That was very funny.

[F]

So you've got a lot of interest, same as me. I've got a couple of books that I think you should read.

[A]

Oh, tell me.

[F]

Free Fall from a guy called Tom Reed. He's an ex Special Forces guy in the uk, but the story is. Wow. And then the other one is the Feather Men. I don't know if you've heard of this one.

[A]

No. What's that about?

[F]

This is a book by a guy called Ranulph Fiennes. He's one of the greatest explorers of our time. British guy. Absolutely. So resilient. And it's worth reading books about him. His autobiography as a separate thing, but Feathermen. You'll love Special Forces guys that become. Become vigilantes in the uk.

[A]

Yes. Great. Thank you for that. Is it safe to say that you love the Krakauer books? It sounds like you would.

[F]

Yeah. Read Into Thin Air. My wife introduced me to that one. In fact, she introduced me to you guys. So you're special in our lives now. She's been listening to you for a long time. And we listen to you every day. Going into work, into Santa Monica, coming home, going through all your old ones. And I don't like music or noise in a car. It's thinking time for me. But you guys are the only people that are allowed into my car.

[A]

Oh, that's flattering. Thank you.

[F]

So Kim wants to. My wife wants to say hi.

[A]

Let's get her in here. Hi. Hi, Kim.

[B]

It's nice to meet you.

[F]

Nice to meet you.

[D]

You guys are even better looking sort of in person.

[A]

Wow. I'll definitely take that.

[F]

That.

[A]

Well, it's lovely meeting you. That was a great story.

[B]

Yes.

[D]

Yeah, he's got some great stories, but that one made us all laugh.

[F]

Motorcycle stories.

[D]

He's got a lot of motorcycle stories.

[B]

We should probably do a motorcycle prompt. That'd be good.

[A]

Well, lovely meeting both of you.

[F]

Thanks for the opportunity.

[B]

All right, have a great day.

[F]

Ride safely.

[A]

Will do. You, too. Bye.

[B]

He was a kindred spirit of yours.

[A]

What was mean? Yeah. Bag on the foot. The only thing. Thing is I wouldn't have made it when I saw the bag on the foot.

[B]

But what would you have done?

[A]

Well, what I will say is, and I think I've already said it on here, I have had the experience. He's talking about where I had met someone on MySpace.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

And then when I met him in real life, it was dramatically different.

[B]

That's common.

[A]

And I felt guilty and I proceeded.

[D]

Yeah.

[B]

Well.

[A]

So in a way I can relate to, like, well, I made my bed, now I gotta lay playing it feeling, you know.

[B]

Yeah. Because. Oh, actually by like, you have to.

[A]

If you have like some self love. Yeah. You go, you know what? I'm really sorry.

[B]

Before you've even got.

[A]

Because they've kind of deceived you.

[B]

I know, but that's tricky because then they're like, God, all you care about. I'm still me.

[A]

I didn't send a picture of me. And when I was 18, you know,

[B]

look, I know, but I do think that's tricky.

[A]

I think if there's obvious deception afoot, you're entitled. Entitled to go like, hey, I'm not feeling it anymore.

[B]

Oh, it's like, what do you mean? You just got here.

[A]

You were in love with me last week. Yeah, well, so I did proceed and I felt gross about it, but I don't think I would leave a location with someone with a bag on their foot to go out on a date. I'd be like, this is already. Look where it started.

[B]

Maybe I'd be like, hey, why don't we hang out here?

[A]

You're not mobile.

[B]

Yeah. It seems like you have something going on. Do you want to just hang out in the backyard for a little. I'll order us a coffee. And it's like, oh, it's taking forever. I'll go pick it up. And they don't come back.

[A]

That's. That's the way out. Oh, boy. Stressful. I'm so glad I don't go on dates.

[B]

Me too.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I'm so glad I don't go on dates. And this is not helping, you know,

[A]

it feels validating a little bit.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

We could have a good date. Prom, I'm sure. Get you back to neutral.

[F]

Yeah.

[A]

Okay. There's a lot of good dates. Well, his second date led to marriage.

[B]

I know, but he had to go through that bag.

[A]

Our first caller, she met her Christian husband.

[B]

That's right. And our third caller married her bad date.

[A]

Yeah.

[F]

So.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

Pretty good odds.

[B]

All right.

[A]

All right. Love you.

[B]

Love you.

[A]

Do you want to sing a tune

[D]

or something when it was a theme song.

[A]

Oh, okay, great. We don't have a theme song for this new show, so here I go, go, go. We're going to ask some random question questions and with the help of arm cherries, we'll get some suggestions on the fly rhyme dish. On the fly rhyme dish. Enjoy. We are supported by Allstate. Checking Allstate first could save you hundreds on car insurance. That's smart. Not checking which platform you watch that new show on. So frustrating. Fifteen minutes later, you've logged into seven apps, reset two passwords and still haven't found. Found it. Yeah, checking first is smart. So check Allstate first for a quote that could save you hundreds. You're in good hands with Allstate. Potential savings vary, subject to terms, conditions and availability. Allstate North American Insurance Company Affiliates, Northbrook, Illinois.