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Podcast Summary: Ask Pastor John

Episode: Obedience Will Never Ruin Your Life

Date: June 29, 2026
Host: Tony Reinke
Guest: John Piper

Episode Overview

In this episode, Pastor John Piper addresses a heartfelt question from a young Christian woman contemplating abortion, wrestling with whether the pain of obedience to God's will is worth the immense cost. Piper confronts the lie that doing the right thing – even when it's excruciating – will ruin your life, grounding his answer in Biblical truths about suffering, faith, and true meaning. The broader theme: no act of obedience done by faith will ever render your life worthless or without hope, no matter the loss or brokenness endured.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. The Listener’s Crisis ([00:51])

Situation:
The episode centers on an email from an anonymous young, single Christian woman, secretly considering abortion because of fear that carrying her child would “ruin” her life.
Pastoral Concern:
Piper addresses both her particular dilemma and the universal human experience of painful crossroads.

2. Foundational Truth: "Doing the Right Thing Never Ruins Your Life" ([01:54])

Piper reiterates the title and main thesis of a sermon he preached in January 2021 and emphasizes its relevance not only to abortion, but to all situations where obedience is costly.
He identifies “failure to believe that doing the right thing never ruins your life” as a key cause behind many abortions—and, by extension, many moral compromises.

Notable Quote:
“Doing the right thing never, never, never ruins your life. It may cost you your life. It may cost you your friends. It may cost you your previous dreams. It will never ruin your life.”
—John Piper ([02:45])

3. What Is the Right Thing? ([03:40])

Piper defines “doing the right thing” as doing the will of God revealed in the Bible, in reliance on His grace.
Specifically applies this to the situation:
“Don’t participate in the taking of your baby’s life. Don’t do it. Don’t get an abortion. The Bible tells us not to take the life of innocent persons, and it treats the baby in the womb as a person.” ([04:20])

4. The Role of Faith in Crisis ([04:40])

Circumstantial Hopelessness:
Piper empathizes with the overwhelming sense that obedience feels like it will lead to “ruin,” and highlights how thousands make decisions (such as abortion) out of the belief that it’s the only way to avoid disaster.
Call to Active Faith:
Trusting that God can turn “heartbreaking circumstances into something amazingly significant” is key.

5. Obedience Brings Suffering, Not Ruin ([06:00])

Piper warns against sentimentalizing obedience, making clear that it does often lead to suffering because that is the pattern of Christ.
Scriptural Grounding:
He quotes Jesus and Paul extensively as proof that obedience leads to hardship, referencing John 15, Luke 6, Matthew 10, 2 Timothy 3, Romans 8, 2 Corinthians 11, among others.

Notable Quote (Scripture-heavy)
“Welcome to the life of doing the right thing. The unruined, unwasted, beautiful, heartbroken life. Afflicted in every way, but not crushed; perplexed but not driven to despair; persecuted but not forsaken; struck down, but not destroyed. What does that mean? It means not ruined. Not ruined, not ruined. That’s what it means.”
—John Piper ([08:05])

He describes a “beautiful broken-hearted life”—a portrait of believers who remain faithful amid loss, whose stories are valuable and meaningful because of Christ.

6. The Promise Behind Obedience ([09:00])

God’s Sustaining Power:
Piper assures that God will meet every need (Philippians 4), work all things for good (Romans 8), make every act of faith worthwhile (“never in vain”), and remove anxious fear for those who trust and obey.

Notable Quote:
“He will not let your life be ruined. He won’t, if you do the right thing in reliance upon his grace.”
—John Piper ([09:45])

7. The Ultimate Purpose of Life ([09:50])

It's not about escaping difficulty, but about “magnifying the greatness and beauty and worth of Jesus.”
True meaning and joy are found in trusting Christ, especially when obedience is costly or heartbreaking.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

“Doing the right thing never, never, never ruins your life.” – John Piper ([02:45])
“There is such a thing as a beautiful broken-hearted life.” – John Piper ([05:55])
“Afflicted in every way, but not crushed...persecuted but not forsaken; struck down but not destroyed. What does that mean? It means not ruined.” – John Piper ([08:05])
"Because the Christian epitaph on the gravestone over every buried dream reads, ‘Satan meant it for evil, but God meant it for good.’” – John Piper ([09:00])
“The purpose of life is to magnify the greatness and beauty and worth of Jesus, and we do that by trusting him as we gladly and painfully do the right thing.” – John Piper ([09:55])
Closing Plea:
“Don’t believe the lie that doing the right thing will ruin your life. It won’t. I promise you it won’t.”—John Piper ([10:45])

Key Segment Timestamps

[00:51] – Introduction of listener’s dilemma and the “life-ruining” fear
[01:54] – Piper’s main thesis: Doing the right thing never ruins your life
[03:40] – Clarifying “the right thing” and its specific application
[06:00] – Biblical testimony: obedience equals suffering, not ruination
[08:05] – Deep dive: what “not ruined” means, biblical examples
[09:45] – God’s promises for those who obey in faith
[09:55] – Piper articulates the real purpose of life

Tone and Language

Warm, pastoral, and urgent; Piper balances gentle reassurance with firm Biblical challenge.
Frequently uses direct Scripture quotation and repetition for emphasis.
Honest about suffering, but resolute in hope and meaning found in Christ.

Final Thoughts

This episode is a passionate pastoral plea to trust that no faithful act of obedience—no matter how costly—will ever ultimately rob life of its worth or meaning. Instead, a life spent magnifying Christ, even through shattered dreams and tears, is “infinitely worth living.” Piper calls listeners to reject despair and believe that God redeems every act of faith.

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Welcome back to Ask Pastor John with a longtime author and pastor, John Piper. This fiscal year, which ends very soon for us, was a big one for Desiring God. We launched our next generation vision to aggressively spread great joy in a big God to the next generation. And to that end, we are upgrading our technology and expanding the distribution of our resources far and wide. All of it free of charge, of course. And as we end our fiscal year just hours away, now our fiscal year comes to an end. Would you consider joining us by giving a monthly or one time gift to help offset the cost of free for thousands just like you? If so, you can go to desiring God.org give that's desiring God.org give and if you do, support us already. Thank you. We appreciate you very much. Okay. Knowing from reading emails for 13 years, I know many of you listening are facing huge decisions in life right now. A decision that will change your life. A decision from which there will be no turning back. You will live with your answer forever. And it's one of those moments when it feels like doing the right thing will be so costly that it will lead to your ultimate demise in this life. Like doing what you know is right and what will honor God will wreck all the plans you've had and the dreams that you were living for. If you make the right decision today on Ask Pastor John, obedience will never ruin your life. It's the dilemma facing an anonymous woman right now. Pastor John, what would you say to a young single woman, a Christian, who is secretly considering an abortion because it would make life easier? This is where I find myself right now. And I never imagined it would happen to me. Yet here I am, shattered and scared.
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I preached a sermon about the causes of abortion on January 24, 2021 at our north campus at the time. And I would really encourage our friend to listen to that sermon tailor made for her in her situation. It's at the Desiring God website. In fact, I would encourage everybody to listen to it because one of the points I make, it's just so relevant for all of life, not just abortion. The title of the message and the point of this particular podcast that we're making right now is doing the right thing never ruins your life. That's the point of the. That's the title of the message, and that's the point of what I want to say right now. In that sermon, I mentioned three causes that lead to abortion. And the third one was the failure to believe this precious biblical truth. Doing the right thing never, never, never ruins your life. It may cost you your life. It may cost you your friends. It may cost you your previous dreams. It will never ruin your life. And by that I mean it will never make your life worthless. It will never make your life meaningless or useless or unlivable. It will never make your life more than you can bear. It will never make your life joyless or so bad that at the end of it you'll regret it. No, no, no, it won't. That will never happen if you do the right thing. And what I mean by do the right thing is do the will of God revealed in the Bible, depending on his grace to help you do it. That's what I mean by do the right thing. Do the will of God revealed in the Bible, depending on his grace to help you do it. The right thing is do the will of God by trusting the grace of God. If you do that, it will never, never ruin your life. And the right thing when it comes to abortion is don't participate in the taking of your baby's life. Don't do it. Don't get an abortion. The Bible tells us not to take the life of innocent persons, and it treats. The Bible treats the baby in the womb as a person. We could give lots of arguments, but this is not the time for that. To do the right thing takes an active faith in a great, wise, good, sovereign God who can turn the most heartbreaking circumstances into something amazingly significant. The reason I emphasize the need for faith is because everything you can see in your circumstances right now appears to be so contrary to hope, you can't see any circumstances cry out, if I stay pregnant for nine months, if I keep this baby, my life will be ruined. Or a mom or a dad or boyfriend crying out the same thing. If you stay pregnant for nine months, if you keep this baby, our lives will be ruined. Thousands of abortions happen because pregnant women and boyfriends and husbands and parents and grandparents look at the implications for years to come and conclude this is going to ruin our lives. And my argument is that's not true. That is not true. And I can show it's not true from the word of God that doing the right thing never ruins your life. Never. And this relates to every one of us, not just a woman in Christ with a crisis pregnancy. It's every one of us listening to this podcast because it has to do with facing a decision between doing the right thing, no matter the pain, and doing the wrong thing to minimize the pain. All of us have been there, all of us, little or big, we've been there. Abortion just happens to be one glaring example of facing that choice. There is such a thing. Oh, that you would believe me. There is such a thing as a beautiful broken hearted life. Let there be no misunderstanding. Doing the right thing in reliance upon Christ and for the glory of Christ will bring suffering into your life and not just avoiding an abortion. The words of Jesus are unmistakable. A servant is not greater than his master. If they persecuted me, they persecute you. John 15 I will show you how much you must suffer for the sake of my name. People will hate you and exclude you and revile you and spurn your name as evil on account of the Son of man. Luke 6 Do not think that I have come to bring peace on the earth. I have not come to bring peace, but a sword. A person's enemies will be those of his own household. Matthew 10 you will be delivered up even by parents and brothers and relatives and friends, and some of you they will put to death. And the words of Paul are just as clear. All who desire to live a godly life in Christ will be persecuted. 2nd Timothy 3 or it may be tribulation, or distress, or persecution, or famine, or nakedness, or danger or sword. Romans 8 or 2 Corinthians 11 it may be great labors, imprisonments, beating shipwrecked, dangers from rivers, dangers from robbers, dangers in the city, danger in the wilderness, danger at sea, danger from false brothers toil, hardship through many sleepless night, in hunger and thirst, in cold and exposure. Welcome to the life of doing the right thing. The unruined, unwasted, beautiful, heartbroken life. Afflicted in every way, but not crushed, perplexed but not driven to despair. Persecuted but not forsaken, struck down, but not destroyed. What does that mean? It means not ruined. Not ruined, not ruined. That's what it means. Isn't that what the great apostle is saying? Afflicted in every way, but not ruined, not meaningless, not useless, not more than you can bear, not joyless, not regretted, but rather a beautiful life. A beautiful life of broken hearted joy. Broken hearted love, unwavering faithfulness built out of the jagged fragments of shattered dreams and infinitely worth living. Why? Because the Christian epitaph on the gravestone over every buried dream reads, satan meant it for evil, but God meant it for good. When you do the right thing in reliance on God, God promises to meet every need you have. Philippians 4 He promises to work everything together for your good. Romans 8 He promises that abounding in the work of the Lord is never, never, never in vain. He promises that you don't need to be anxious about anything because your father knows what you need before you ask him. In other words, he will not let your life be ruined. He won't if you do the right thing in reliance upon his grace. The great purpose of life is not to escape difficulty or hardship or suffering. The purpose of life is to magnify the greatness and beauty and worth of Jesus. And we do that by trusting him as we gladly and painfully do the right thing. So I plead with our young friend and many like her, don't believe the lie that doing the right thing will ruin your life. It won't. I promise you it won't.
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Yeah, powerful word, Pastor John. It won't. Doing the right thing might cost you your life. It might cost you your friends. It might cost you your previous dreams. It will never ruin your life. So good. Thank you, Pastor John. The promise is that a life lived in obedience, even a brokenhearted one, is never wasted. It's never meaningless to live a life spent magnifying the beauty and worth of Jesus Christ. So good. And on this very important topic of abortion, the evil of abortion, we have covered a lot of angles, including Pastor John's eventful life and the pro life movement. If you haven't read that, see the Ask Pastor John book on pages 59 to 63 to catch up one last time. As our fiscal year at DG comes to an end this month, please consider joining us by giving a monthly or a one time gift to help offset the cost of free for thousands. Just like you go to desiringgod.org give today and if you do already, support us. Thank you. We appreciate you very much for being a partner with us. Well, living such a life laid out here in this episode spent magnifying the beauty and worth of Jesus Christ and making the right decisions requires a vibrant prayer life. And to that we turn. Next, breaking out of our prayer ruts, I'm Tony Reinke. See you on Thursday.