In this meeting of The Late Diagnosis Club, Dr Angela Kingdon welcomes Julie M. Green, a writer, Autistic mother, and late-identified Autistic woman whose self-recognition unfolded through parenting. Julie’s story begins not with her own diagnosis, but with her son’s. As she learned how to support an Autistic child, she slowly began to recognise familiar patterns in herself — sensory sensitivity, rigidity, perfectionism, chronic illness, and lifelong shyness that had always been framed as personality flaws rather than neurodivergence.

Together, Angela and Julie explore maternal guilt, masking across decades, self- and formal diagnosis, and what changes — and what doesn’t — when you finally have language for your nervous system.

🪑 Attendees

Chair: Dr Angela Kingdon — Author, community-builder, and Autistic advocate

Guest: Julie M. Green — Autistic writer, Author, and mother

You: The Listener!

🗒️ Meeting Agenda

Opening remarks from the Chair
Member introduction: Childhood signs without diagnosis
Discussion: Parenting an autistic child while recognising autism in yourself
Masking, perfectionism, and decades of mislabeling
Self-diagnosis, formal diagnosis, and imposter syndrome
Key learnings
Club announcements

🧾 Minutes from the Meeting

1️⃣ Opening Remarks

Angela introduces Julie as a member whose story begins in a paediatrician’s office — not for herself, but for her son. What started as advocacy and research quickly became a mirror, reflecting traits Julie had carried since childhood but never had language for.

2️⃣ Member Introduction: Julie’s Story

Julie grew up in the 1970s and 80s as a highly anxious, perfectionistic, and extremely shy child. Changes in routine triggered meltdowns, collections were rigidly organised, and sensory sensitivities shaped daily life — all framed at the time as personality flaws or the result of being an only child.

In school, Julie was quiet, compliant, and high-achieving. Anxiety and perfectionism were invisible to teachers, while internal distress went unnamed.

Years later, as a first-time mother, Julie struggled with sensory overload, shutdowns, and intense guilt. When her son was diagnosed with autism at age three, Julie immersed herself in research — first to support him, and eventually to understand herself.

3️⃣ Discussion Highlights

Masking and mislabeling: Shyness, rigidity, and perfectionism framed as flaws
Maternal guilt: Internalising blame for sensory overwhelm and burnout
Self-recognition: Seeing autistic traits through parenting without immediately claiming identity
Diagnosis decisions: Self-diagnosis, formal assessment, and imposter syndrome
Disclosure: Navigating silence, validation, and scepticism from others
Autistic parenting: Modelling boundaries, regulation, and self-advocacy

4️⃣ Key Learnings

Autism can become visible through caregiving before self-recognition
Compliance and quiet achievement often hide distress
Formal diagnosis may change nothing — and everything
Self-diagnosis is valid; seeking assessment is a personal choice
Modelling boundaries is a powerful form of parenting
Understanding yourself can reduce shame across generations

📌 Notice Board

Link for Julie’s book: Motherness: A Memoir of Generational Autism, Parenthood, and Radical Acceptance

Julie’s Substack: https://theautisticmom.substack.com/

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