In this episode, I'm joined by Lindsey to talk about her newest book, Don't Burn Your Own House Down—a powerful and practical guide for couples who want to stop self-sabotaging their marriage and learn how to protect what matters most. We unpack how unhealthy rhythms, unmet expectations, loneliness, and emotional struggles can quietly fuel disconnection, and why waiting for your spouse to "fix it" first often makes things worse. Whether your marriage is thriving or struggling, this conversation offers honest insight and hopeful tools to help you fireproof your relationship and pursue deeper connection in every season.

Episode Takeaways

Most marital damage is unintentional but preventable.

Self-sabotage shows up in everyday habits.

Waiting for your spouse to change first keeps couples stuck.

Behavior change alone isn't enough.

Healthy marriages are intentionally "fireproofed."

Quotes from this Episode:

Most couples don't fall apart because they stop caring. They fall apart because they stop considering each other in the little, everyday moments.

Playfulness isn't a luxury—it's an essential ingredient for a thriving, connected marriage.

Outdo each other in showing honor, and watch how your marriage flourishes.

Scorekeeping in marriage poisons connection.

If it needs to start with you, let it start with you. Your reward isn't just in the result—it's in the faithfulness and honor you show, even when it's hard.

In every word and action toward your spouse, you either speak life or spit poison.

When Jesus is at the center of your marriage, your own pride and hurts matter less—making way for unity, healing, and lasting love.

Take time to Reflect:

What little fire are you ignoring today?

Are you believing the lie that it's your spouse's job to take the first step?

What is one small change we could make this week to protect our connection?

Mentioned in this Episode:

Don't Burn Your Own House Down by Lindsey Maestas
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