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Conflict in marriage is inevitable: it’s how you handle it that matters most. But what about couples who really never fight? What happens to conflict that is never addressed and only stays under the surface? Does it ever really go away? Listen today to learn better ways to handle the issues you don’t know how to deal with. We pray this episode is helpful for you and your marriage. Episode highlights include: Tips to initiate a hard conversation you’ve been avoiding How to stay grounded when you want to shut down How conflict can actually lead to better intimacy and connection Helpful nonconfrontational ways to broach difficult topics Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! Couples Conversation Guide: Main takeaway: Dealing with the important issues together paves the way for true peace, and learning effective conflict solving skills is a win for your marriage. Questions to Discuss: Some skills mentioned are: Intentionality - set up a good time to talk, use “I” statements, do not blame your spouse, focus on what you would like to achieve together through the conversation. Pick the one that would help you the most. What is one easy issue you can tackle together to practice better resolution skills? Focus on using your chosen skill. QUOTES If a couple said they never had conflict, I would think they’re not being completely honest with each other. - Dr. Kim Kimberling I think the more you fear conflict, the less you’re able to resolve it. - Lindsay Few We want to equip couples to handle it in a healthy way. - Lindsay Few Conflict is not bad in itself. It’s how we handle conflict. - Dr. Kim Kimberling Yes, we want peace in our homes. But you can’t have it if you ignore things that need to be dealt with. - Dr. Kim Kimberling It’s ok if you get stuck, just don’t stay stuck. - Dr. Kim Kimberling MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Do you want a better friendship with your spouse? Build your friendship with the 5 Day Friendship Challenge. Have you lost the connection you once had? Rebuild friendship with your spouse using the 5 Day Rebuilding Friendship Challenge. Our ministry is made possibly ONLY through our generous donors. Plus, they get each month’s new marriage resource automatically, as well as some other exclusive perks! Learn more about Marriage Changers Membership here. Sign up for Dr. Kim’s Marriage Multiplier email for quick weekly marriage tips!

Have you taken it personally when your spouse came home in a foul mood? Have you ever been in a foul mood yourself, but not communicated about it well to your spouse, leaving them to wonder why you were so grumpy? Communication can really fall apart around our attempts to deal with our spouse's feelings and our own. Today we talk about some of the common breakdowns (it's not just you!) and ways to handle this more effectively. We pray this episode is helpful to you and your marriage. Subscribe to Podcast Email to make sure you never miss an episode and get noteworthy quotes, resources, and more delivered straight to your inbox! *Music for this podcast is created by Noah Copeland. Check him out here! RESOURCES Reading Dr. Kim's Daily Declarations aloud each day is a great way to grow in believing what God says is true about you! Get a free printable copy here! Our Questions To Help Your Spouse Open Up resource is designed to help your marriage become a safer place to open up, and help you and your spouse build a better connection. He's done it again! If you're curious, here is the Bible reference for Dr. Kim's favorite verse! The Achieving Awesome Communication YouVersion plan walks you some helpful ways to improve the communication in your marriage. Subscribe to Dr. Kim's Daily One Thing email and get a reminder to do 1 thing to grow. Become a Marriage Changer and receive some sweet exclusive benefits. Learn more here! We recommend these books to help in growing a healthier mindset: Get Out Of Your Head by Jennie Allen Winning the War in Your Mind by Craig Groeschel Are you satisfied with the sex life in your marriage? The Love Making Survey is designed to help you have a safe, genuine conversation about your sex life with your spouse.

Today on the podcast we welcome special guests Colby & Amanda Taylor. The Taylors are good friends of Dr. Kim's. Amanda and Colby have been married for 11 years and have 5 beautiful children. Amanda is the owner of Embellished Weddings here in Oklahoma City where she plans and coordinates weddings. But Amanda, like us, is more passionate about the health of a marriage than the wedding day. Her heart is for couples to plan for a marriage that's even better than the wedding. Colby is a Pastor at Life.Church and together they love to serve. The Taylor's join Dr. Kim as they discuss how to survive the valleys of life in marriage. Tune in below to learn more about surviving the valleys! RESOURCES You can find out more about Embellished Weddings here.