In the latest podcast, Seibo joins Rob to discuss why men should continue to develop EQ, his journey to get to where he is now and commentary on the benefits and potential pitfalls.

02:09 - Intro

Rob explains his process of being a relationship coach where he supports men to open up and engage in areas of their emotional intelligence they are deficient in. Whether that be social, personal and work life, Rob can help.

03:21 - What Does BAD Mean To Rob?

Interestingly this definition changed over time for Rob, from traditionally badass beliefs expected from society to increasing importance on character values and emotional connection. Listeners should note the importance of staying true to the values you, and only you believe in but then having the fortitude to stand tall when your values are challenged from all sides.

05:26 - Origins of a King

In this section Rob explains his embarrassing story; the feelings of shame and the guilt of being ugly felt during his first rejection led him to take those first steps to develop himself and become the person he is now.

Identifying and taking ownership of his shortcomings led him to refine his relationship skills and incorporate social frameworks. Rob shares that even after developing these social skills you are still not guaranteed success; even after finding success, Rob continued to experience empty interactions which eventually lead to suicidal thoughts.

Rob's experience can be quite relatable to other Asian men and highlights the dangers of neglecting all of our emotions or refusal to confront past trauma which can negatively shape our character. Rob commented that strength to express the full range of emotions to the fullest and embrace this side created vibrancy in life he didn't have before - as men, it can be easy to fall into the trap to pursue complete mastery over our emotions, but in its pursuit can prevent us from being human.

12:36 - How to develop EQ

Rob and Seibo discuss how to take small, actionable steps to begin developing EQ. Many of the key areas require an honest dialogue with yourself such as your fears, forgiveness for an experience that can be seen as shameful and addressing negative self-worth. It should be said, many of these areas can be difficult to explore where it is important to move past the ego which can prevent you from exploring these negative emotions and taking steps to resolve them.

Character experience is developed through slow, incremental changes but with continual, positive experiences and breakthroughs. Over time you can make these changes, but it requires complete effort time. While the journey was long, in Rob's eyes it was worth it.

25:16 - Challenges of being an Asian man

Taking this back to the topic of Asian men, the pair explore aspects of Asian men that can be beneficial or a barrier to developing EQ. The abil...