In this episode of Based Camp, we explore the recent wave of anti-marriage feminist influencers who suddenly get engaged and/or pregnant right after hitting 30. Is “anti-marriage” feminism just mate-blocking by other means? Or is it sour grapes from women who spent their 20s steeped in hookup culture?

We explore:

• The hypocrisy of prominent “stay single” influencers (MJ Gray, Alex Cooper, Wizard Liz, Danielle Walter, etc.)

• Why feminism’s biggest “wins” have mostly hurt women

• The collapse in marriage rates (especially by age 30)

• Mate blocking vs. status denial

• The hollowness of modern hookup/OnlyFans culture and the return to meaning

Get ready for a spicy and honest conversation about dating, marriage, female nature, and cultural trends.

Show Notes

What happened:

* An influencer named MJ Gray branded herself as strongly anti‑marriage and anti‑kids, framing marriage as “enslavement” and something women should avoid because it primarily benefits men and the patriarchy.

* She built a following of nearly 500,000 on TikTok by creating anti-marriage content, often arguing that marriage signifies the “ownership of women” and advising women to avoid it.

* After about nine months of dating a man with no public profile, she announces an engagement in a visibly uncomfortable video titled “Yes, I’m engaged. Yes, this is awkward,” while repeatedly insisting she is “in a good situation.”

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* She claims her stance has always included caveats: marriage can make sense if you plan to have children, share property, or live together, but otherwise it remains a harmful institution.

It turns out she is not the only influencer of the stay single movement who turned around and got married. There are other recent and prominent examples that might indicate some sort of pattern.

This comes at a time when marriage REALLY doesn’t need negative propaganda. Around 2005–2010, roughly 50–55% of adults were married; by the mid-2020s, it’s around 46–51% (e.g., 47.1% of households headed by married couples in 2024, near historic lows).

So what’s going on with women like these? Let’s explore and discuss.

MJ Gray’s Branding

MJ Gray frames herself as a supermodel billionaire (that’s her handle on YouTube)

Has 419K followers on tiktok (@texasgardenfairy)

Has 84.6K followers on Instagram

She shares her thoughts on “The Maneater Podcast”

4.9 stars and 44 reviews on spotify (for reference, Based Camp has 3.8 stars and 205 reviews)

4.9 stars and 9 reviews on Apple Podcasts (for reference, Based Camp has 4.4 stars at 153 reviews)

MJ Gray’s YouTube model is @supermodelbillionaire: https://www.youtube.com/@supermodelbillionaire

8.46K subscribers, 65 videos

Things she says:

* Men should always pay for women because…

* Men are women’s apex predator

* Women’s time is more valuable than men’s time (because their attractive and fertile years are limited)

* Engaging with men is dangerous as you could get pregnant, get an infection

* Women’s presence and attention is more valuable than men’s attention (men spend more on strip clubs and exotic dancers… though apparently she does not know about host clubs)

Other Stay-Single Hypocrites

Alex Cooper

* She is most famous for being co-host of the Call Her Daddy podcast

* She built a massive platform with frank, often casual-sex-positive advice that included heavy skepticism toward traditional marriage and long-term commitment, encouraging women to prioritize autonomy and fun over settling down.

* She faced direct roasting for “preaching anti-marriage” before getting married herself (to Matt Kaplan). Critics highlighted the shift as hypocritical given her earlier messaging.

* Just this week announced her pregnancy

Wizard Liz

* https://www.youtube.com/c/TheWizardliz

* She is known for being a life advice/self-improvement influencer

* Frequently grouped with MJ Gray in discussions of “feminist rhetoric as a placeholder” for building a following before pivoting to relationships/luxury-coded life.

* She has shared content focused on self-love, healing, and high standards that some interpreted as discouraging rushed commitments or highlighting male flaws. She got engaged/married quickly (to Landon Nickerson), faced cheating drama, and drew similar “bait-and-switch” accusations

Danielle Walter

* https://www.tiktok.com/@daniellewalter_

* She is known for being a dating/relationship TikTok influencer, and the “Carrie Bradshaw of San Francisco”

* Gained millions with dating advice, single-era relatability, and content that resonated with women navigating toxic dynamics or high standards (sometimes overlapping with anti-settling or critical-of-men vibes).

* When she entered a relationship and shared extensively about it (including a 21-part series), followers accused her of abandoning principles, hypocrisy, or shifting for a man/clout. Backlash included claims she went “all for a man” after building on single struggles.

What is Really Happening?

Anti-Marriage as Mate Blocking?

Anti-Marriage Being a Pre-Wall Phenomenon?

* MJ Gray was 30 (born August 12, 1995; turned 30 in August 2025). The engagement news broke around April 2026.

* Alex Cooper got engaged at age 31/32

* Wzard Liz got engaged around age 25 (though it ended amid cheating allegations while she was pregnant)

* Danielle Walter entered her long-term relationship around age 32 and got engaged around age 33

Anti-Marriage Being about Women Fundamentally Misunderstanding Men?

Recently trending on X: 2010 Study Shows Testosterone Boosts Fairness in Women

People were discussing a 2009 study titled Prejudice and truth about the effect of testosterone on human bargaining behaviour (2009), in which researchers found that a single dose of testosterone made women behave more fairly in a bargaining game, but simply believing one had received testosterone made people behave more unfairly, regardless of what they actually received.

Episode Transcript

Simone Collins: Hello, Malcolm. I’m excited to be speaking with you again because we have a new episode in our series Women Are Terrible because they’re at it again, Malcolm.

The women are terrible. And what happened most recently was an influencer who goes by MJ Gray. She branded herself as very strongly anti-marriage and anti-kids. She, she framed marriage as enslavement and something that women should avoid because it primarily benefits men and the patriarchy. And she built this following of almost 500,000 people on TikTok.

I’ll link to this in, in the show notes. And it was all about anti-marriage content. She often argued that marriage signifies ownership of women and she strongly advised women to avoid it.

Speaker 11: I really wish women would stop getting married. I wrote off getting married since I was a little girl. I, I put together the pieces of what marriage was and I was like, “Oh, yeah, no.” I could never trust a man, which is why I would never marry a man

Simone Collins: And then lo [00:01:00] and behold After nine months of dating a man with no public profile, she announces an engagement in a visibly uncomfortable video, which is now, she’s trying to scrub it from the internet titled Yes, I’m Engaged.

Yes, This Is Awkward. While repeatedly she insists she’s in a good situation and I, I have a somewhat salvaged part of this at least that I was able to find on the internet for you, Malcolm, if you wanna include it. But I’ll also link to it in the show notes.

Speaker: Yes, I am engaged. Yes, I am the same person who made several videos saying that I never had, never had any plans to get married, I did not wanna get married, and I did not agree with the institution of marriage.

Simone Collins: She claims her stance has always included caveats that sometimes marriage is good.

Sometimes marriage can make sense if you plan to have children or share property or live together. But otherwise, it remains a harmful institution. And of course, very abundantly in, in her content, you know, she’s “Well, having kids is the most horrifying thing. It destroys your body.” So of course, if you have kids, [00:02:00] you know, sharing property, why would you ever do that?

But so- Oh, my

Malcolm Collins: God. So your takeaway, because she watched this happen. She comes to me and she goes, “Malcolm, is feminism just an anti-woman grift?” Is it- Or is it

Simone Collins: meat blocking? That’s what I, I kind of think Well, meat

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