Bawdy Storytelling – Episode 101: "Kinktacular Pt 2" (Folsom St. Fair)

Podcast: Bawdy Storytelling
Host: Dixie De La Tour
Episode Date: December 12, 2019
Live Event: Folsom Street Fair afterparty at the Verdi Club, San Francisco

Episode Overview

This episode is the second half of Bawdy Storytelling’s “Kinktacular” live event, coinciding with San Francisco's legendary Folsom Street Fair, a hub for kinksters and alternative sexuality enthusiasts from across the globe. Host Dixie De La Tour curates a night packed with sex-positive storytelling, comedic musical performance, and celebratory community energy. With stories drawn from real-life sexual experiences, this episode includes tales of kink, self-acceptance, transformation, and the search for connection—often with a hilarious or poignant twist.

Key Segments & Story Highlights

1. Setting the Scene: Kinktacular After Folsom

• [02:15] Dixie De La Tour: Shares her excitement at the overwhelming turnout and the unique energy brought by Folsom Street Fair's audience:

  • “There was latex, there was leather, there were furries… every single kind of pervert in the world in that room packed into the Verdi Club for our sold out show.”
    (03:06)

• Dixie reflects on reaching Episode 100 and the feedback:

  • “This was the best Bawdy Storytelling I’ve ever been to in nearly 13 years.” (03:34)

2. Musical Performance: "Unicorn" by Rachel Lark

• [07:42] Rachel Lark: Performs a satirical song about the “unicorn” hunt (finding a bisexual woman for a straight couple’s fantasy).

  • Mocks expectations placed on unicorns: “I want a girl who’s attracted to me and my wife equally… mentally stable but emotionally available, good abs and able to fuck us for days.” (12:00)
  • On couple privilege and the fantasy: “She’ll be the best sex toy, I mean person that we’ve used, I mean been with, I mean…” (14:12)
  • The crowd responds with laughter and knowing groans, recognizing the tropes and fantasies in poly/kink circles.

• Memorable Moment:
  “I’ve seen it work on TV. Come on, baby, work for me and be my unicorn!” (14:23)

3. Story: "The Boots & Bondage Dream” by Noreen Mechanique

• [19:13] Noreen Mechanique: Shares a detailed, humorous, and candid journey of discovering her kink identity. Themes of fetish (boots), ethical porn, and becoming a performer:

  • Differentiates between foot fetishism and her own boot/heel attraction: “I like the aspect of the boot or heel being a piece of armor, something that’s protecting the person that wears it, and an object of desire for someone who may want to put their face on it.” (19:40)
  • Discovers kink.com and the bondage subculture, especially inspired by performer Claire Adams.
  • On shifting from fantasy to reality, she applies to perform for kink.com:
    • “All these positions that they put performers in… are made for that specific model. And that position is likely not reused for a very long time. So this is sort of a one-moment shot.” (27:28)
  • Describes three elaborate bondage scenarios involving latex, suspension, orgasm denial, and pain/pleasure:
    • First scene: Kneeling, strappado, face-fucked with a dildo; distracts herself by admiring Claire’s boots.
    • Second scene: Mid-air, spread eagle, exposed—all about forced orgasms and endurance.
    • Third scene: Backbend with nipple clamps, her masochistic pleasure (“I do like a little bit of pain…” (32:04)).
  • The pinnacle:
    • “She slowly raises her right foot and plants the full tread of her boot on my throat. And I was no longer in that room. I was on a slip and slide of eroticism.” (32:40)

• Notable Quotes:

  • “Pay for your fucking porn. Pornhub looks cool, but pay the people that make the art, right?” (21:58)
  • “I found an exception to the rule. And her name was Claire Adams.” (31:41)
  • “It was a job. It didn’t suck. It was an important variation on a theme.” (34:02)

4. Story: “Pony Play and Self-Acceptance” by Mollena Williams-Haas

• [38:16] Mollena Williams-Haas: Renowned BDSM educator and performer, tells a transformative story about her journey with “pony play.”
  • Early kink exploration; faces rejection for controversial race-play fantasies:
    • “I immediately discovered that… some of the shit I wanted to do was really unacceptable, even to perverts.” (38:30)
  • Initial pony play experience at a Fetish Flea event—puts on a pony mask and “suddenly, I realized I was getting shitloads of attention for doing nothing. I could just exist and be awesome.” (41:05)
  • Experience in Sweden being led as a “pony,” tapped into performing and nonverbal acceptance:
    • “Because I don’t speak Swedish, I got to experience what it probably is like to be a horse among humans.” (43:33)
  • The climactic story: Negotiates a “pony at the vet” scene (hinting at potential horse-dildo play), but finds fulfillment instead in being adored, not penetrated.
  • Emotional connection:
    • “I realized that I felt beautiful. And that was not something that happens to me very often in my life.” (46:46)
    • Her handler/friend cries with memories of a first horse.
    • “This is the thing that’s so beautiful about what we do as kinky people. We take journeys… It might lead to you getting a 12-inch horse cock up your ass, or it might lead to you having a tiny, pure moment of love and joy.” (51:23)
    • “Dressing up like a fucking horse taught me to stop and stand still in my body, and be.” (51:58)

5. Listener Reflections & Community Impact

• [17:36] Ian (listener voice message):
  Shares his gratitude for Bawdy’s impact on his life—the courage to share shame and joy, and its effect on his relationships.

• [35:15] Sintray (listener message):
  Credits the podcast for inspiring them to begin a graphic memoir about their queer/kink journey.

• [52:44] Noreen Mechanique (with Rachel Lark):
  Affirms: “You have made my sex life better at home… when I listen to your stories, it helps me love my body and love pleasuring him and myself, every single time with no abashed embarrassment.” (53:03)

Notable Quotes & Moments

• On being present in kink:
  “You’re supposed to… just be present and appreciate the journey as it unfolded.”
  — Mollena Williams-Haas (49:33)

• On community:
  “Bawdy Storytelling is a chance to come together in a room with other people who are more like you than you think. It’s a chance to feel less alone in the world.”
  — Dixie De La Tour (53:33)

• On creative sex products and ‘boob-related injuries’:
  Dixie relates how demoing three kinds of motorboats for fans left her boobs “broken” after a particularly enthusiastic show:
  “Somehow I hit somebody in the face with my tits so hard you could hear the slap… I woke up in the morning and realized I had broken my boobs.” (05:57)

Timestamps for Major Segments

• [02:15] Folsom Street Fair context and audience
• [07:42] Rachel Lark performs "Unicorn"
• [19:13] Noreen Mechanique’s "Boots & Bondage" story
• [36:03] Introduction to Mollena Williams-Haas
• [38:16] Mollena’s "Pony Play" story
• [52:44] Listener and performer testimonials about Bawdy’s impact

Episode Tone and Takeaways

• Tone: Irreverent, celebratory, candid, and sex-positive with an emphasis on humor and vulnerability. Speakers are frank, funny, and unpretentious.
• Themes:
  • The importance of community and being seen/accepted for true sexual selves.
  • The intersection of fantasy, reality, and the unexpected lessons kink delivers.
  • Self-acceptance through experimentation and storytelling.
  • The joy (and absurdity) of sexual adventures—whether they end in fantasy fulfilled, unexpected emotional resonance, or just a great story.

For anyone unfamiliar with Bawdy Storytelling, this episode is a testament to the power of truth-telling, the diversity in sexual expression, and the communal laughter and understanding that come from sharing sex and kink stories in a safe, enthusiastic space.