Bawdy Storytelling, Episode 21 – "Cuckolds R Us"

Host: Dixie De La Tour
Date: March 22, 2017

Episode Overview

In this candid and wildly entertaining episode, Bawdy Storytelling dives into the world of cuckoldry—the phenomenon where sexual gratification is derived from watching one’s partner with someone else. Host Dixie De La Tour curates a sex-positive space for original, unscripted storytelling, bringing to the mic two provocative personal stories from "the other man" (the “bull”) perspective: one by Vince Klorthos, the other by Jamar Johnson. With both humor and empathy, the episode demystifies a fetish that lives at the intersection of sexual taboo, power exchange, humiliation, and desire—while highlighting the diversity and depth of those who choose these adventures.

Key Discussion Points and Insights

1. Intro to Cuckoldry & Fetish Language (03:00–05:30)

• Dixie explains the concept of cuckoldry, highlighting that while the term traditionally refers to a man with an adulterous wife, it has become a dominant fetish.
• Unpacks terminology: "cuck queen" (female equivalent), "bull," "stud," and "lover" as labels for the third party.
• Emphasizes sex-positive education and demystification, often with tongue-in-cheek humor:

  “I learned that the female in this relationship is called a cuck queen. Look, we're learning stuff.” – [Dixie, 02:25]

2. Story #1: Vince Klorthos – "A Cuckold's Guide to Mixed Martial Arts" (05:33–16:21)

A deeply honest, explicit, and darkly comic account of fulfilling a "bull" fantasy.

• The Setup:

  • Vince opens with an evocative spoken-word lament about being cuckolded (00:02–01:05), then shifts to his live storytelling.
  • He describes his interest in being “the other man” for couples seeking a bull, and his struggle to stand out in personal ads, humorously lamenting:

    “None of those say, you know, we're looking for a neurotic, socially awkward, balding geek.” – [Vince, 07:09]

  • His girlfriend writes a “letter of recommendation” to help him break into this niche.

• Meeting the Couple:

  • Vince meets Kathy (the wife) and Mike (the husband, aspiring cuckold) over dinner, building rapport and coaching Kathy on dominant humiliation.

    “If you're going to dominate your boyfriend here, you need to learn to put him in line… I'm going to coach you. You're going to be learning from the best.” – [Vince, 09:17]

• Dynamics & Play:

  • Vince and Kathy use dinner prep and sexual banter to humiliate Mike, incorporating him as a helper (retrieving things, removing clothing).
  • The humiliating, service-oriented role for Mike ramps up in the bedroom, with increasingly explicit acts—some crossing into forced bisexuality and mutual humiliation.

    “Have you ever had that problem where you can't lick a woman's clit at the same time as you're having sex with her? Having the cuckold on hand… solves that problem pretty well.” – [Vince, 13:58]

• Climax and Reflection:

  • Story’s sexual apex includes group participation and swapping bodily fluids, all layered with elements of humiliation and forced service.
  • Vince muses about the inherent psychological complexity, noting that sometimes the appeal lies in the tangled interplay of pain, shame, and desire.

• Aftermath:

  • Vince leaves satisfied, reflecting on the power dynamics and his “sadistic” streak, while the couple continues their play.

    “That's how I fulfilled my cuckold fantasy.” – [Vince, 16:16]

3. Dixie’s Reflections on Fetish Psychology and Chaucer (16:21–21:59)

• Dixie reflects on audience impact and psychological motivation behind cuckoldry, highlighting the fetish as a unique form of masochism:

  “Cuckolding... is considered masochism because they like to submit, they like to be humiliated by their partner's infidelity.” – [Dixie, 16:25]

• She jokes about historical connections to the “cuckold” trope in Chaucer’s Canterbury Tales, humorously distancing her show from the medieval tradition.
• Reiterates the inclusive, non-judgmental ethos of Bawdy Storytelling.

4. Story #2: Jamar Johnson – "Big Black Viagra" (21:59–33:06)

A raucous, self-deprecating account of becoming the “bull” for a white couple in New York—navigating racial stereotypes, performance pressure, and sexual politics.

• The Encounter:

  • Jamar recounts how a casual flirtation at a bank leads to being propositioned by a woman and her boyfriend, Howard.
  • With comic exaggeration, he describes his nerves, their interest in his “BBC” (big black cock), and how his ego is both pumped and tentatively protected:

    “A black man and his cock is a very important thing. But my cock is not, like, ginormous huge… So I said, it's illegal in three countries.” – [Jamar, 25:20]

• Escalation:

  • Their trysts are initiated, with Yvette (the woman) lavishing praise and sexually objectifying Jamar, who both enjoys and questions the experience.
  • Howard eventually insists on watching, sitting “like Winnie the Pooh” (shirt, no pants) in the corner—and wants increasingly direct dirty talk from Jamar:

    “Just Winnie the Pooh… he's like, keep drilling her, Tigger, keep juggling. I'm like, this is weird.” – [Jamar, 30:16]

• The Downside:

  • Jamar realizes he’s essentially being used as “black Viagra”—once he performs, Howard is able to have sex with Yvette.
  • After increased, sometimes impersonal group demands, Jamar feels objectified and ultimately phased out for not recruiting more “bulls”:

    “I realized she was using me for my big black cock, and it kind of depressed me for a little.” – [Jamar, 32:14]

• Comic Closure:

  • Jamar’s punchline:

    “Next time a woman asks me if I have a big black cock, you know what I'm going to ask her? Well, how much do you need?” – [Jamar, 32:37]

5. Post-Story Analysis & Broader Reflections (33:06–35:57)

• Dixie discusses evolutionary psychology and jealousy, referencing studies on the evolutionary reasons for sexual jealousy and cuckolding (e.g., “sperm competition”).

  “Mind blown. This relates to sexual jealousy in evolutionary psychology…” – [Dixie, 33:31]

• Explains related fetishes (e.g., CFNM: Clothed Female, Nude Male) and invites listeners to share their experiences to further demystify sexual subcultures.

6. Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Vince Klorthos, re: stereotypical “bull” ads

  "None of those say... we're looking for a neurotic, socially awkward, balding geek." (07:09)

• Jamar Johnson, on fetishization

  "But then I realized she was using me for my big black cock, and it kind of depressed me for a little." (32:14)

• Dixie De La Tour, on storytelling’s impact

  “There were moments when Vince was telling the story where you could have heard a pin drop in that hall.” (16:33)
  “Telling your own story… you can find other people to hang out at the meetings with you.” (17:04)

• Jamar Johnson, comic metaphor

  “He looked like Winnie the Pooh just masturbating.” (29:55)

Timestamps for Key Segments

| Segment | Speaker(s) | Timestamp | |-----------------------------------------------------|-----------------------|------------| | Vince's poetic cuckold intro | Vince Klorthos | 00:02 | | Dixie defines cuckoldry & language | Dixie De La Tour | 01:06–05:30| | Vince’s Story: Meeting, rapport, dinner scene | Vince Klorthos | 05:33–10:23| | Vince’s Story: Bedroom dynamics, humiliation | Vince Klorthos | 10:24–16:21| | Dixie’s post-story reflections & Chaucer anecdote | Dixie De La Tour | 16:21–21:59| | Jamar’s Story: Bank meeting to first encounter | Jamar Johnson | 21:59–28:15| | Jamar’s Story: Bull dynamics, objectification | Jamar Johnson | 28:15–33:06| | Dixie on sperm competition, CFNM, listener invites | Dixie De La Tour | 33:06–35:57|

Tone and Style

• Playful, unfiltered, inclusive. Both stories are told with laughter, candor, and sharp self-awareness—neither romanticizing nor shaming any kink.
• Dixie’s curation is both mischievous and nurturing: She frames taboo topics as worthy of respect, curiosity, and deliberate storytelling.
• Speakers balance comedic exaggeration with moments of real vulnerability, allowing listeners to connect, laugh, and perhaps expand their comfort zones.

Conclusion

This episode of Bawdy Storytelling expertly blends education, hilarity, and emotional honesty, revealing the complex human stories behind the “taboo” fetish of cuckolding. By spotlighting the perspective of the bull—so often flattened into stereotype—Dixie and her storytellers offer a refreshing, sex-positive take on sexual diversity, intimacy, and the pursuit of pleasure, power, and connection.

For listeners interested in the nuances of non-traditional sexual relationships, or simply in the art of honest storytelling, “Cuckolds R Us” is not to be missed.