Episode 38: ‘Social Justice and Sexual Attraction’ (Dara M Wilson)

Summary

Bawdy Storytelling, Episode 38: "Social Justice and Sexual Attraction" (Dara M Wilson)
Date: September 5, 2018
Host: Dixie De La Tour
Storyteller: Dara M. Wilson

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Episode Overview

This episode of Bawdy Storytelling, hosted by the irrepressible Dixie De La Tour, centers on the intersection of social justice and sexual attraction as told through a hilarious, raw, and deeply personal story by Dara M. Wilson. Dara recounts an unforgettable night out in New Orleans where her passion for social activism becomes unexpectedly intertwined with her sexual escapades. The episode exemplifies the show's hallmark blend of humor, vulnerability, and unapologetic sex-positivity.

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Key Discussion Points & Story Breakdown

Introduction & Context (00:11–01:24)

• Dixie sets the tone:
  • Warns about explicit content—"This podcast is adult in nature... Grandma might not want to hear this." (00:11)
  • Intro to Dara M. Wilson, highlighting her writing, hosting, and storytelling creds. (01:24)

Dara’s Story: From Social Justice to Sexy Times (02:27–14:17)

1. Setting the Scene: New Orleans and Old Friends

• Dara agrees to visit New Orleans for someone's birthday, even though they're estranged. Determined to enjoy the city, she brings her friend Claudia as backup. (02:27)
• Claudia is described as “an adorable little brown skinned girl with a fierce ass, short natural haircut” and Dara’s social anchor at parties.

2. The Introduction to Scott

• Claudia suggests meeting her friend Scott, a recent New Orleans transplant she knows from helping with math problem sets.
• Dara’s first impressions: “He looks a little bit like Jesse Williams... I was looking at him like, ooh, you look like a snack. Or like, a snacklet... he looked portable. And I was into that.” (03:35)

3. The Bar Crawl Adventures

• Group’s “sophisticated” art crawl morphs into an epic, on-brand bar crawl.
• Dara humorously narrates the night, describing quirky venue choices, failed swing dance displays, and hot/humid fashion adjustments.

4. Karaoke Chemistry

• Climactic karaoke duet of “Killing Me Softly” with Claudia.
• Dara offers practical mic etiquette: “We don’t drop the mic, actually, because mics are expensive, and you shouldn’t do that.” (06:55)

5. The Social Justice Flare-Up

• At Scott’s “hole in the wall” neighborhood bar, awkward encounters ensue, notably with a “man bun” guy complaining he can’t say the N-word.
  • Dara’s deadpan retort: “If the worst thing in your life is that you can’t say a single word, your life is okay. And I don’t have time to go into the whole context of institutional oppression and blah blah blah. So why don’t you take yourself and your little man bun and go away?” (09:40)
• Dara is asked by a local to sign a petition against gentrification, which she does, further showing her activist streak.

6. The Sexual Escalation

• Scott and Dara sneak off to the back alley, where Scott makes his move:
  • “I’m gonna kiss you now,” he says, backing her against wet New Orleans stone for a passionate kiss and an exploration under her skirt. “Oh, is this a skort?” he asks, leading to Dara’s refusal to elaborate. (11:00)

7. Nightcap and Threesome Hints

• Back at Scott’s place, Dara meets his roommate—a “gorgeous, socially conscientious, tattooed public school teacher.” Dara kisses her: “that kind of stuff really turns me on.” (11:30–11:50)
• Group retires to bed; Scott makes a dramatic entrance: “He crawls up onto the bed like that girl in The Ring…” (12:10)

8. Climax: Intellectual Turn-On

• Dara’s arousal is heightened by Scott’s social awareness:
  • “He was talking about the school to prison pipeline. And I was like, yes, put it in me.” (12:35)
• This builds to an enthusiastic, vocal, and mutually satisfying sexual crescendo involving cunnilingus, oral, and intercourse—interspersed with empowerment and laughter.

9. Dara’s Advice and Takeaway

• Two-part life advice:
  • “Make sure to get yourself to New Orleans and defend the people who need defending, because it’s going to get you laid. Thank you.” (14:10)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Instant Attraction:
  “I was looking at him, I was like, ooh, you look like a snack. Or like, a snacklet...he looked portable. And I was into that.” —Dara M. Wilson (03:35)

• On Awkward Bar Banter:
  “If the worst thing in your life is that you can’t say a single word, your life is okay.” —Dara M. Wilson to the “man bun” guy (09:40)

• On Sex and Social Justice:
  “He was talking about the school to prison pipeline. And I was like, yes, put it in me.” —Dara M. Wilson (12:35)

• Life Advice:
  “Make sure to get yourself to New Orleans and defend the people who need defending, because it’s going to get you laid.” —Dara M. Wilson (14:10)

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Important Timestamps

• 00:11 — Explicit content and episode intro (Dixie de La Tour)
• 01:24 — Introduction of Dara M. Wilson
• 02:27 — Dara Wilson's story begins
• 03:35 — Description of Scott and early attraction
• 06:55 — Karaoke and mic etiquette advice
• 09:40 — Social justice confrontation at neighborhood bar
• 11:00 — First kiss with Scott in the back alley
• 11:30–11:50 — Meeting and kissing Scott’s roommate
• 12:10 — Scott’s memorable “The Ring” impression crawling onto the bed
• 12:35 — Sexual turn-on by discussion of social justice
• 14:10 — Memorable closing advice from Dara

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Episode Tone and Language

• Dara’s storytelling is rich with humor, self-deprecation, and candid sexual detail. She blends sharp social observation with infectious wit, making the story both illuminating and risqué. The episode captures the freewheeling energy of both New Orleans and the Bawdy Storytelling stage: unfiltered, explicit, and exuberant.

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Summary

Dara M. Wilson’s story in this episode is a tribute to the sexy side of activism, the joys of vulnerability and shared experience, and the sometimes hilarious, always unpredictable intersections of political engagement and pleasure. She reminds the audience—with laughter and passion—that standing up for others can be as seductive as any bar crawl or late-night hookup. De La Tour’s curatorial skill brings another tale that is both honest and entertaining, cementing Bawdy Storytelling’s reputation as the “Moth for pervs”—where radical honesty, social justice, and carnal joy go hand in hand.

Transcript

[Dixie de La Tour]

Whoa, hold up. This podcast is adult in nature. The contents are explicit, which means it's just for you. Look around. Grandma might not want to hear this. So put your earbuds in, make sure you're plugged in really well, and let's get going.

[Shirley Noem]

All of my life I've never fit But I won't complain and I won't quit I am enormous. Get used to it. Everyone tells me I'm too much maybe it's just you're not enough for me can't you see I'm the kind of woman I'm supposed to be? Hey, my vagina is eight miles wide. Absolutely everyone can come inside. If you're ever frightened, just run and hide. My vagina is eight miles.

[Dixie de La Tour]

I am sexual folklorist Dixie de La Tour and this is episode 38 of the Bawdy storytelling podcast. Hey, if you're a fan of the concept of a fair and just society, and if you're a fan of great sex, then our story this time is just for you. This one is from Dara M. Wilson. Dara is a writer, a host, a producer, a storyteller. You can find her interviewing up and coming creators of color on Next Big Thing with Courtney and Dara. She's done solo shows like White Gorilla, Red Balloon, or Escaping Squares and Circles. We've had her on stage a couple times. Once at the Punchline here in San Francisco and once at the Verdi Club. This is Dara and Lis.

[Dara M. Wilson]

Oh my gosh. If you're afraid to come to Bodi and tell a story like you shouldn't be, because that is worth it. Just coming on the stage and feeling that love. So great. I'm a big lady. Need a big mic. My story starts in New Orleans. It is my favorite city. I have been there maybe six times. And I love New Orleans so much that even when the girl who I had decided I was no longer going to be friends with said, do you want to come to my birthday party in New Orleans? I was like, yes, girl. Oh my God, I can't wait. I haven't been avoiding you at all. But I know that I'm going to need some backup. So I bring my friend Claudia with me. And Claudia's superpower, besides being a really adorable little brown skinned girl with a fierce ass, short natural haircut, is that she gets along with everybody. And I get tense and uncomfortable in situations with lots of strangers. Not like this, like different other ones that are not like this at all. And so I like to have Claudia there as backup because not only, you know, can she just get along with everybody, but she can also read me. So after two days straight of 15 strange women and men, she says, dara, do you want to get dinner, just the two of us? And I say, yes, absolutely, I want to do that, Claudia. Thank you so much. So we have dinner and at dinner Claudia says, you know, I have this friend Scott. I used to help him out with his problem sets in our math classes in school. And, and I don't know why she's telling me this. Like, this is a selling point. But like, cool problem sets. He just moved to New Orleans, so we should hang out with him. And we say yes. And through text messages, because we're millennials and we're the worst, we decide we're going to get together and have a sophisticated wine and cheese art crawling. Unfortunately, we are not sophisticated people and we timed it all wrong and missed the whole thing. So we had a much more on brand crawl, and that is a bar crawl. So as Scott is taking us to our first destination, I like sort of am taking him in. He looks a little bit like Jesse Williams. Like that doctor from Grey's Anatomy. Mm. Like the same light brown skin, those brown eyes, heavy eyelashes, amazing big beautiful lips. Except like compact because he's like 5 6, which is fine. I was looking at him, I was like, ooh, you look like a snack. Or like, or like a snacklet or whatever it is. Like he looked portable. And I was into that. And immediately I'm looking at him like, uh huh, yeah, that face. I like your face. I want to put your face on my face. Like I want to get close to your face and then put my face on it. So we'll see how that's going to happen throughout the night. So we go to the first bar. It's called Bulldogs. It's like a college bar. The game is on. Every time there's a touchdown, there's free shots all around. It's kind of awkward. Talking about like, man, it's just a real shame that these football are all going to get brain damage as you're drowning your own brain in tequila. But we did it. And I said, oh, Scott, you like football? Is that why you brought us here? And he's like, no, I don't like football. Yeah, it was that awkward. I was like, okay, if I'm going to get my face in his face space, got to do a little bit better than that. So we'll keep working. We go back outside. I'm so happy about what I'm Wearing not only because it's super cute, little black blouse, little black and white skort, which is in right now, and I'm not taking any questions about that, thank you very much. But also because it's hot as balls, because it's New Orleans and it's in September, and you basically have to swim through the humidity from bar to bar. So I appreciate that. Yes, you do. So the next place we go is called Sophie's Place, and it's like a speakeasy with a whole bunch of rooms with different music in each room. And so we have our gimlets and we go to a room with hip hop in it, but you can do that anywhere. So we go to a different room, which is like a really ornate hovel, and it's got a swing band in the corner. Very cramped, like. And so I sat. I swung swing swanged musical theater when I was growing up, and I did the swing dance. And Scott's like, he's not impressed with me, and I'm not particularly impressed with myself. But we're going to keep working on this. So we go to a place with tropical rum drinks. We go to a place with gourmet popcorn. Go to a place where we're taking shots of cracking. And finally, we end up at this place, Jackie's, that has karaoke. This is where I live. This is where I thrive. We put in For Killing Me Softly. We sip our greyhounds while we're waiting. Claudia and I do the song together. This is our song that we do at karaoke. So we're hitting all the harmonies. It sounds amazing. We finish, we drop the mic, and we're out of there. We don't drop the mic, actually, because mics are expensive, and you shouldn't do that. That's, like, not a part of the story, but just like something I like to tell people when I have the chance. Finally, Scott's looking like, oh, like maybe something might be going on here. So he says, I'm going to take you to my neighborhood bar. It's called Everett's. We go in, and it is like the definition of a hole in a wall, which is fine. There's only three people in there other than us. The first is a guy who's at the bar and a little man bun who is like, oh, hey, like, how come I can't say the N word? It's like the worst, right? And I'm like, dude, if the worst thing in your life is that you can't say a single word, your life is okay. And I Don't have time to, like, go into the whole context of institutional oppression and blah, blah, blah. So why don't you take yourself and your little man bun and go away? And Scott's like, oh, so you like to talk about social justice things, huh? I'm like, why yes, Scott. Why yes, I do. And an older woman comes up to me and she is like, you gotta sign this petition for us. Because we used to be able to play music and now we can't play music anymore because all these white people moved in and now they call the cops on us. And Scott's like, oh, hey, this is my friend Judith. You should sign her petition. And I did. And then we went out to a back alley because we both were like, we gotta go to the bathroom. And Scott was like, I'm gonna kiss you now. And he pushed me back against, like, this wet stone. Cause it's New Orleans and it's wet. And he starts to kiss me and it's amazing. And he goes to slide a few fingers underneath my skirt and to feel how wet I am. And he says, oh, is this a skort? I'm not willing to talk about it. Okay. We all decide to go home to Scott's house. He makes us, like, margaritas, which is obviously what we need at this point in the night. I meet his roommate, who is a gorgeous woman who has. She's a public school teacher, and she's, like, really socially conscientious. So I kiss her for a little bit because that kind of stuff really turns me on. And she had tattoos and it was amazing. And I think that's all that's going to happen until we all decide to go to bed. And Scott's at the end of the bed and he has his robe open. And I say, well, come on. And he crawls up onto the bed like that girl in the ring when she comes out of the. And I try really hard not to laugh, but I'm bad at that. So I laughed a little bit. And then he's all over me. He's kissing me, he's sucking on my nipples. He's down sucking on my clit. The come hither, right? And I am so turned on by all of his social justice stuff. Like he was talking about the school to prison pipeline. And I was like, yes, put it in me. I came so hard, so loud, had to put a pillow over my face to stop my 4am screams. And then I pulled him up so that I could have his dick in my mouth because that is all I wanted. I was like, yes, Jackpot. Reward. Come on, come and get this mouth. And he is plunging himself inside of me. And I with every gag and feeling more and more empowered and so happy that I have come to New Orleans again. And finally I shake my head to clear it of all the alcohol because I want to remember every moment of this. And that is the moment that makes him release down my throat and we collapse into loveliness and slumber. And all I want to tell you all is that I have two pieces of advice. Make sure to get yourself to New Orleans and defend the people who need defending, because it's going to get you laid. Thank you.

[Dixie de La Tour]

It's only episode two of season four and we've already got a surprise for you. Go to YouTube.com bodystorytelling and you can watch Dara Wilson tell her story. You loved listening to it. Watch her live on stage in front of hundreds of people telling her tale. I hope you like it. So I woke up this morning to a message from Patreon telling me that one of my supporters had increased his support of this podcast from 15 to $25 a month. And he sent me a message and said that he supports what we do and he wants to make sure we keep it going. Well, I want to keep going and I need your support to do that. So go to patreon.com body give whatever you can, and thanks in advance for doing it. I've been doing story coaching for about 12 years now, and someone reminded me recently that I haven't been putting that information out on the podcast. So I am available for story coaching via Skype. So we can work on a story wherever you are. If you'd like to talk to me and book me for story coaching, I'm [e-mail] I'd love to work with you on your story. Let's talk about the upcoming shows for Body Storytelling. Yes, it's a podcast, but you've heard me say it again and again. The podcast is only part of the body storytelling experience. I love to introduce people to each other. I love to watch their faces while they hear crazy stories about sex, kink and gender. And I love to watch the buzz in the room as people go, oh, wait, that's what we're doing. And they make new friends and get invited to orgies or maybe just go home with their partner and have a conversation they've never had before. So here's what's coming up soon for body storytelling. On September 20th in San Francisco at the Verity Club. The theme is Metamorphosis on September 27th in Seattle, the theme is Pax a Wallop. On September 18th in San Francisco, the theme is Never say never. And October 25th in Seattle, the theme is Wicked. So that shows just a couple days before Halloween. So dress up in your costume. Be a sexy kitty or a sexy witch or a sexy nurse or a sexy lobster. I'd like to see you get creative because costumes are a guaranteed way to engage with other people. I'll see you soon at a live Body storytelling. And remember, there's a couple spots left. Yours needs to be one of them. You know that backrest you use when you sit up in bed and read late at night? Well, that thing in the south is called a husband pillow. And I used that phrase the other day with someone and they went, what? And it made me think of this song I love from Shirley Noem. Every once in a while we're lucky enough that she crosses the border from Canada and performs live on stage at Body Storytelling. She's performed in multiple cities for us and her album Taking it up the Notch has been at the top of the comedy album awards multiple times. This song is from Shirley Noem.

[Shirley Noem]

When you're a sexpot singer guitar slinger There's a sad irony the more successful that you get, the less time that you have for sex. And it got lonely on the road Till I discovered him A man who'll magically appear Whenever I want him near it's really very simple he's quite easy to find I just grab up all available cushions and I lay them out right along my side Right along my side Then I get pillows in the shape of a man Pillows in the shape of a man Firm yet soft A man shaped heap to gently hump until I sleep Pillows in the shape of a man Pillows in the shape of a man A floofy guy I recommend a rumply plumbly Pillow boyfriends that's right. Tis the season for loneliness I had a free night in the city well, I was so lucky to find a real life man who was so sexy I took him back for the bump and grind But I'd forgotten Pillow boyfriend Lying in my bed he asked what's up with all those cushions? Here's exactly what I said It's a. Well, I guess it's a kind of. It's a. But he brought my stutter to an end when he asked me if I had myself a pillow boyfriend I said.

[Dara M. Wilson]

You'Ve heard of that?

[Shirley Noem]

He said, yeah. Then we both fucked the pillows in the shape Of a man the pillars in the shape of a man. There is no pleasure he withholds. We thrust our fists deep in his folds. Pillows in the shape of a man. Pillows in the shape of a man. And then we let him watch us do it all. And told him that his pillow dick was so small you can pick a name of any gender you prefer, but. But for us, we like to call him Feather Downy Junior. He's plump and full of luxury. The higher the thread count, the smoother the sheets. It was so much fun to mistreat. When all the loving's done and I'm lying in between A man of flesh and blood And a man of satin and fleece? You know I want to snuggle the pillows in the shape of a man. The pillow's in the shape of a man. Cause he never tries to roll me off but he doesn't breathe or sneeze or cough. Pillows in the shape of a man. Pillows in the shape of a man. This Fruitfully guy, He set us free for some pillowy, pillowy polyester Amory. Hi, Shirley.

[Dara M. Wilson]

Thank you.

[Dixie de La Tour]

I'mma throw something out there and I don't know if it's going to work, but I'm going to try anyway. I am headed to New York pretty soon. I am going to be going to Brooklyn and then to Connecticut for Camp John Waters, which happens on September 14th through 16th at Club Getaway. So I got a couple days on either side of that campout. If somebody would like to put together a gathering of bawdy storytelling fans, I would love to. Your help. I'd love to sip on a lemon drop and meet you face to face. If you're in New York and you want to organize something, send me an email@dixie bodystorytelling.com maybe we can spend some in person time, which is one of my very favorite things to do. Just putting it out there. Let's see what happens. It's time to say thank you. I want to say thank you to Marty Garcia, my podcast producer, who is making me sound really, really good, isn't he? To David Grossoff, who is our sound engineer in San Francisco. To Dana Hanna, the project manager, who's helping me take these years and years of story archives and organize them so that we can get them on the podcast. To you. To Joe Moore, our archivist and video person in San Francisco and a really important person to thank. Thank you to you. Thank you for listening. Thank you for writing us a review. Letting people know about this word of mouth is the most powerful thing. There is no amount of social media amounts to you telling people that you like about the Body Storytelling Podcast. So please spread the word. I'm sexual folklorist Dixie delator. I'll be back really soon with the next episode of the Body Storytelling Podcast, and here's a peek at what's next.

[Dara M. Wilson]

And then I hear this slapping, and.

[Shirley Noem]

I'm feeling like this on my butt.

[Dara M. Wilson]

You know, as he's doing his business, and all of a sudden I remember he had never taken his pants off. Those are his keys on one side and his gun and his holster on the.