Episode 50: ‘Penthouse Prostate Party‘ (Karin Jones)

Summary

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Bawdy Storytelling Episode 50: ‘Penthouse Prostate Party‘ (Karin Jones)

Podcast: Bawdy Storytelling
Host: Dixie De La Tour
Episode Number: 50
Air Date: November 29, 2018
Storyteller: Karin Jones

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Episode Overview

This landmark 50th episode of Bawdy Storytelling features Karin Jones, a former physician’s assistant turned writer, sharing her bold, transformational journey into midlife sexuality and sexual adventure. As the guest storyteller, Karin recounts her first foray into the world of sex parties after a long marriage and during menopause, culminating in a memorable "Penthouse Prostate Party." The episode explores themes of sexual self-discovery, body acceptance, middle-aged desire, and liberation from social expectations—told with characteristic honesty, vulnerability, and humor.

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Key Discussion Points & Story Beats

Karin’s Life Before the Party (03:01–04:30)

• Karin's Background: Newly single after a 23-year marriage, Karin finds herself living in London with her ex-husband and son as she enters menopause.
• Perks of Menopause: She highlights a surprising benefit—feeling "bolder" and more inclined to take risks, no longer inhibited by societal judgment.
  • Quote: “One of the upsides of going through menopause is that you feel bolder, you feel less like you care about what people think and you just want to take risks.” (03:26, Karin)

Plunging Into Online Dating (03:56–05:15)

• Embracing Online Dating: With the broader London dating pool through Tinder and OkCupid, Karin feels newly desirable.
  • Quote: “When you’re in a dating pool of 10 million people, that is a bonanza. That is a real bonanza.” (04:14, Karin)
• Meeting George: She’s captivated by George, an eloquent, rugged man with "isosceles triangle sideburns," who introduces her to kinkier experiences.

The Invitation: Entering the Sex Party Scene (05:35–09:27)

• The Big Ask: George invites Karin to a "Penthouse Party" hosted by his friend Rob—she confirms it is a sex party and agrees to go, emboldened by menopause.
  • Quote: “George, is this a sex party?”—“Why, yes, it is.” / “Since I was in menopause, yes.” (05:58, Karin)
• Pre-Party Nerves: Karin’s anxiety is fueled by pop culture expectations ("Eyes Wide Shut"), fearing she won't measure up.

The Sex Party Experience (09:27–16:10)

Arrival and Atmosphere (07:05–09:27)

• Not the Fantasy: Instead of movie-gorgeous elites, the host Rob fits no stereotypes—petite, humorous, in a black latex Speedo, and friendly.
• Party Setup: The penthouse is intimate: two beds, couches, tables with both snacks and sex toys.

Social Interactions & First Escapades (09:27–11:39)

• Connecting: Karin mingles with a group of women, one "bodaciously pregnant," finding common ground in parenting.
  • Memorable Moment: The camaraderie among women, including a heavily pregnant party-goer, is both funny and affirming.

Karin’s Sexual Exploits at the Party (11:39–14:30)

• Initiation by the Host: Rob takes Karin aside as the only "new girl," enthusiastically gives her oral sex with, as she puts it, "the enthusiasm of a black lab puppy," before quickly finishing.
  • Quote: “He was like this little black lab puppy looking for its lost chew toy in my vagina.” (12:19, Karin)
• Group Attention: The group of women then take her to the couch, engage her in play—including the pregnant woman sitting on her face, leading to an unintentionally comical, awkward moment involving her medical intuition.
  • Quote: “I was never in the habit of tasting my patients when I gave them vaginal exams. I couldn’t tell if this was bacterial vaginosis or a yeast infection, but, you know, it just wasn’t right.” (13:35, Karin)
• Feeling Demoralized: Attempts to pleasure another man go unreciprocated; she tries not to take it personally, but feels discouraged.

Karin’s Moment of Redemption: The “Penthouse Prostate Party” (14:30–16:57)

• Prostate Play Expertise: Spotting an opportunity with Rob (the host), his girlfriend Pen kneeling before him, she puts her medical experience to use.
• Epic Orgasm: Karin describes milking Rob’s prostate as Pen gives a handjob, triggering a dramatic orgasm and audience applause.
  • Quote: “From the depths of this little man came this enormous, growling, shouting orgasm. And all over Pen’s bird, he blew his load and we got a standing ovation.” (16:27, Karin)
• Afterglow: Karin leaves the party with new confidence, realizing middle age and menopause are not endings, but beginnings.
  • Quote: “Menopause is not the end of anything. It was the start of...” (16:54, Karin)

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On Menopausal Boldness:
  “You feel bolder, you feel less like you care about what people think and you just want to kind of take risks.” (03:26, Karin)

• On Sex Party Anxiety:
  “I’m gonna be sitting in the corner with my hand over my dimpled ass, just watching.” (06:43, Karin)

• On Rob’s Enthusiasm:
  “He was like this little black lab puppy looking for its lost chew toy in my vagina.” (12:19, Karin)

• On Medical Knowledge in Play:
  “I was never in the habit of tasting my patients when I gave them vaginal exams.” (13:35, Karin)

• On Redemption and Prostate Milking:
  “From the depths of this little man came this enormous, growling, shouting orgasm. And all over Pen’s bird, he blew his load, and we got a standing ovation.” (16:27, Karin)

• On Self-Discovery:
  “I was almost 50 years old, and I was suddenly feeling bold, almost fearless. And I realized that, you know, menopause is not the end of anything. It was the start of...” (16:54, Karin)

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Important Segments & Timestamps

• Karin’s Divorce and Menopause Confidence: 03:01–04:30
• Meeting George, Her First Kinky Lover: 04:30–05:35
• Invitation & Pre-Party Jitters: 05:35–07:05
• The Penthouse Party Scene Set: 07:05–09:27
• Initial Sex Party Encounters: 09:27–14:30
• “Penthouse Prostate Party” Climax: 14:30–16:57
• Post-Party Reflections & Takeaway: 16:57–End

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Musical Interludes & Tone

• Featured Band: Creature Hole provides irreverent, celebratory music throughout, setting the playful and inclusive tone.
• Sample Lyric:
  "Hey, my vagina is eight miles wide. Absolutely everyone can come inside…” (00:35, Creature Hole)
• Post-Story Musical Comedy: "Called milking the prostate. Yeah, it's an anally induced jackage." (16:59, Creature Hole & Dixie)

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Episode Tone & Style

The storytelling is open, witty, and unabashedly frank—balancing honest self-reflection with comedic timing and sex-positive celebration. Karin’s medical background leads to both practical insight and hilarious commentary. The supportive Bawdy Storytelling crowd underscores the communal, empowering nature of these experiences.

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Takeaway

Karin’s journey is a frank, funny, and empowering narrative about rediscovering sexuality and joy at midlife. Her adventures at the penthouse party—and particularly her triumphant moment as the “prostate whisperer”—underscore the potential for pleasure, growth, and boldness at any age.

Memorable Message:
Menopause and middle age can be the start of new sexual adventures. Boldness, laughter, and connection are ageless—and sometimes, expert medical skills really do come in handy at a sex party.

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Transcript

[Dixie Delator]

Hang on just a minute, will you? Because this podcast is labeled explicit, we're going to say words that you might not want everybody in your office to hear. So make sure that your earbuds are in or that you're listening in a place where only people who are on board to hear these sorts of stories can hear. These sorts of stories. Sound good? Let's do it.

[Creature Hole (Band Member)]

All of my life I've never fit But I won't complain and I won't quit I am enormous. Get used to it. Everyone tells me I'm too much maybe it's just you're not enough for me can't you see I'm the kind of woman I'm supposed to be? Hey, my vagina is eight miles wide. Absolutely everyone can come inside. If you're ever frightened, just run and hide. My vagina is eight miles.

[Dixie Delator]

Hi there. This is sexual folklorist Dixie Delator. And I'm really excited to say this next part. This is episode 50 of the Body Storytelling Podcast.

[Creature Hole (Band Member)]

50.

[Dixie Delator]

We've made 50 of these things. I'm so excited to tell you that we hit this landmark number and it's a really good episode. To mark the occasion, let's talk about our storyteller. For this episode, she's written a memoir on plunging into online dating just as she was entering menopause. And she's hoping to sell that memoir so that she can travel all over the country telling people how great middle aged sex can be. Her first career was as a physician's assistant where she worked for nearly 20 years. She was well paid. Now she's a poor writer, she makes no money at it and she's ecstatically happy. She's a relationship editor of the Erotic Review magazine and writes a bi monthly column on love and sex called Savvy Love. And this was her first time getting on stage to tell a story. She told this at Body Storytelling in Seattle. And this storyteller is Karen Jo.

[Karen Jo]

You're right, you cannot see anything. I cannot see you guys. And I have a drink up here because I have a bit of cough. I might just start coughing. So that's why I have this. Anyway, so I became single not that long ago after a 23 year marriage. And I just so happened to be living in London with my ex and my son. And around that same time, I was going through menopause and I didn't have the normal symptoms. I did not have night sweats, I didn't have hot flashes. I was losing my mind. But one of the upsides of Going through menopause is that you feel bolder, you feel less like you care about what people think and you just want to kind of take risks. And I, When I moved to England, I decided not to practice medicine anymore because I was in menopause and I didn't want to take care of other people's problems. You know, I take care of my son, I took care of myself, but everyone else could just go to hell. So I got on Tinder and OkCupid, and my God, you know, when you're in a dating pool of 10 million people, that is a bonanza. That is a real bonanza. And it was feeling good. You know, I did. Hadn't felt desired for a long time. So, you know, every time I swiped right and it was like, woo hoo hoo, you know, someone wants me. Finally. So shortly after I started doing this, I met a man named George. Now, I was looking for something a little different. I didn't want to do vanilla anymore. So I was kind of picking these guys out based on their profiles. Now, George was a really eloquent writer, and I'm such a sucker for that, of course. But when he walked through the door, he was about 6 foot 3. He had these isosceles triangle sideburns. He looked like Piers Bronson, except with. He was much more swarthy. And, you know, unlike most of the metrosexuals in London, George wore car hearts. And so this Northwest girl was like, ooh, yeah. So we started talking at the bar and we were immediately smitten with each other. And George asked. Asked me, so what are you interested in? And I said, well, I'm not really sure. I'm just a suburban mom. So George takes my wrist in each of his hands and he slowly pins them behind my back. And he leans down from his large height and he gently bites me on the neck. And that was the most electrifying thing anybody had ever done to me up to that point. So when he looked at me and I could breathe again, I said, that's a good start. So George and I became lovers, and it was wonderful. He taught me all sorts of new things in the bedroom. And one day I got a call from him. He says, karen, I have this friend, his name is Rob, and he has these Penthouse parties. Would you like to go? And I'm thinking, George. I say, george, is this a sex party? And he said, why, yes, it is. I said, since I was in menopause, yes. My first sex party. All right. So he was excited. And so the night of the party. It's cold and it's March, and it's drizzly. And we took a cab from his house on the south side of the river in Brixton, which is very gritty place. And we take the cab over to the north side of the river, to the Hilton Hotel at Westminster. And as we're going up in the elevator to the 11th floor, I'm clutching my reusable Seattle nylon bag with two bottles of Prosecco in it. And I'm starting to get really nervous. And the thing that's going through my head is, you know that scene in Eyes Wide Shut? You know it. You know, like, everybody's so fucking beautiful. Like, all the call girls have these gorgeous bodies, and everyone looks like Tom Cruise. And I'm thinking, oh, shit. I'm gonna be sitting in the corner with my hand over my dimpled ass, just watching. So we knock on the door, and as soon as the door opened, I knew it was gonna be nothing because Rob, the host, was this guy. He was about 5 foot 4, just a little sprite of a guy. Dark curly hair. He looked like this Jewish Dudley Moore. And all he had on was a black latex Speedo. And he throws open his arms and he welcomes us. And he takes our jackets and says, go, introduce yourselves. So we walk into this penthouse. It's not that big. It's just like a studio apartment. It's got a queen bed on one side, and on the opposite end of the room is the king bed. And in between, there's a couple couches and there's some tables and one table there's drinks and finger food. And on the other table there's vibrators and dildos and lube and switches and riding crops. And everybody's still clothed. So we start mingling, and I start talking to these three women. Now, one of them is also an American. She's got very spiky hair. It's all different colors. She's got tattoos everywhere. And I'm kind of feeling intimidated and suburban. And the other two women were also. They were very, very nice. They were all nice. We just started talking about our kids.

[Dixie Delator]

And.

[Karen Jo]

And one of the women was pregnant. I mean, she was bodaciously pregnant, and she was gorgeous. And I thought, oh, how nice is that? I remember being so horny when I was pregnant and what a nice thing it would have been to go to a sex party. But while we're talking, Rob, the host, comes in and interrupts, and he says, can I have some time with you, darling? Because I was the new girl. I was the only new person there. So I said, sure. And he takes me over to the king sized bed and he takes off my dress and he takes off my underwear and he goes to town between my legs. Now, you know who doesn't love oral sex, right? But Rob was so enthusiastic, you know, he was like this little black lab puppy looking for its lost chew toy in my vagina. And then so after, you know, 30 seconds of that, then he puts on his condom and starts fucking me. And you know, after a few minutes, he has his first orgasm. So he was done. And I got up and kissed him on the cheek and went and got my first glass of wine. And I started talking with the women again, thank God, but they start looking at each other like they've got a conspiracy going. And I get taken over to a couch by them and laid down. And one of them starts licking me, which was much, much nicer, much more slow. And another starts fondly my breasts. And wouldn't you know, but the pregnant woman straddled my feet face now. So I look up and there is this unwaxed earth mama snatch coming down onto my face. Now, I don't know about you, but when I sit on someone's face, I make sure they can breathe. But she couldn't see my face because her tummy was like. And on top of that, something just wasn't right. You know, I was never in the habit of tasting my patients when I gave them vaginal exams. I couldn't tell if this was bacterial vaginosis or a yeast infection, but, you know, it just wasn't right. So I started coughing and spluttering and she quickly got off my face and there were snickers all around. And I kind of looked up and I looked over at George and I said. And he looked at me like, oh, just buck up, kiddo. It can only get better. So I went and had another glass of Prosecco. So I started engaging with this other couple. And I really love to give blowjobs. So I thought, okay, I can do this, right? So I go down on this guy and I am sucking him and he's not getting aroused. And so I'm starting to fondle his balls and he's not getting aroused. And I'm like. I'm like, don't take this personally. Don't take this personally. And just kept going and kept going and it wasn't happening. I was starting to take it personally. And finally I just gave up. And he just kind of laughed and I Kissed. And that was it. So I was feeling a little demoralized by this point. You know, I was not really performing very well at the sex party. So George and I. George played with me and made me feel a little bit better. And we're sitting there, and things are kind of winding down, and Rob, the host, is standing in the front of the room, and his girlfriend Pen, is kneeling in front of him, giving him a hand job. And I see an opportunity, so I go over to these two. No, no. Oh, wait, let me say. Say something about Pen. So she's this petite woman, so she's perfect for Rob. She's petite, she's really toned, long dark hair. She's got this gorgeous tattoo across her chest of a bird. And I go over to the two of them and I smear my middle finger with lube. And I lean down next to Rob and look up at him, and he looks down at me and he's like, uh huh. I know what you're gonna do. And so I stick my finger into Rob's ass. Now, this is really familiar territory for me. Not because of what George has taught me over the last few months, but because as a medical provider, I once ran a steel mill clinic, and I gave prostate exams to 300 steel workers every year for their annuals. So I knew a man's prostate, up, down, and all around. So I'm working Rob's prostate, and Penn is working his cock, and he is getting excited, and I do it a little harder. She does it a little harder, and he starts moaning and his ey roll back, and his head goes back and he starts shaking, and he starts hanging on to both of us because he can barely stand. And from the depths of this little man came this enormous, growling, shouting orgasm. And all over Penn's bird, he blew his load and we got a standing ovation. So I went home pretty happy, and George and I took showers, and we cuddled under the comforter and we giggled together. And the thing I realized is that, you know, I was almost 50 years old, and I was suddenly feeling bold, almost fearless. And I realized that, you know, menopause is not the end of anything. It was the start of.

[Creature Hole (Band Member)]

I'm gonna perform a procedure on you.

[Dixie Delator]

Called milking the prostate. Yeah, it's an anally induced jackage.

[Creature Hole (Band Member)]

That's right. Technically, biologically, physically, psychologically, you're gonna feel.

Strong pressure on the prostate gland from inside your rib.

[Karen Jo]

Stop.

[Creature Hole (Band Member)]

Okay, keep doing it. Yeah.

[Karen Jo]

Oh.

[Creature Hole (Band Member)]

Mine's fake, inanimate, but feels great. To stimulate your prostate, relax it's fat. Let me pack your crack and make it all fall up in your second really work so back it up, baby back it up Back it up Back it up, baby Back it up Back it up.

That was awesome.

[Dixie Delator]

I recently got a private message on Twitter from one of our Patreon supporters. She just wanted to say that she was so thankful. Good timing since it was just Thanksgiving. She was so thankful for the Body Storytelling Podcast. She's a supporter of us on Patreon and she wanted me to know what she loves about the podcast format and the stories that she listens to as she sits and crafts Christmas gifts for this year. I love that visual, knowing what you're doing while you're listening to this podcast. So I'm going to ask you to do what she did. I'm going to ask you to support the Body Storytelling Patreon. Patreon is a way to show support for the things that you love and want to see in the world. Because I really just don't think I'm gonna get that TV deal, y'.

[Karen Jo]

All.

[Dixie Delator]

I mean, it might happen, but in the meantime, it's a monthly struggle. And you can help us by supporting us at Patreon. It's P-A-T-R-E-O-N.com Bawdy B A W D Y. Support us at whatever level you can. I'm working on new rewards to go out in 2019. I've got some great ideas. If you have ideas on what you'd like to see as a patron of the arts, please let me know. I love getting messages from you. And thanks in advance for supporting Body Storytelling on Patreon. I'm really excited about the song for this time. After 50 episodes, you might have picked up on the fact that I really like it when people create custom songs for me, and this song is one of those. The band Creature Hole, who is from Seattle, wrote this song and performed it for our Pax a Wallop show earlier this year in Seattle. And recently they came to our larger San Francisco show, came all the way down on tour to perform it on stage at Bawdy in San Francisco. I really like it. This song is called Pax a Wallop and it's from Creature Hole.

[Creature Hole (Band Member)]

Sometimes I don't know exactly what to do with my time Might wanna go out might wanna stay in all night it's hard to do so I don't wanna make up my mind Is that such a crime? And sometimes I want it real hard Real hard Sometimes I want it real Fast, real fast. And sometimes I just wanna lay back with my headphones on, pajamas on and listen to a podcast. This shit's live I feel it inside listening to you talk I feel your body and mind got me creamin' thinkin bout a dollar better call up Dixie because she packs a wallop Tick tick.

Tick.

Turn around you know how I like it with your hands, with your hands now pack a wallop I stick it out I hit harder than you can you about to understand who's the fucking man I turn around, you know how I like it with your hands, with your hands now pack a wallet I stick it out, I hit harder than you can you about to undo understand who's the fucking man? I try to be cool we all.

Know how that goes?

You stray, make me drool when I.

Drool, everyone knows tell me I beg you to swing my way and I'll break through from this locked bare tight box suffocating true you're radiating I'm masturbating and waiting for you to know Kiss.

Me so we can start dating I know you've seen my twinkled eye it's, it's not a sight I've been waking if you felt free feel free to fly or drive on by this ship's not sinking.

Every time I see you, every time.

I think about your smile I wanna.

Be near you hold you with my legs for a little while yeah, I.

Kinda think you're fresh. Okay, I mean fresh to death. So hey, do you wanna go to best be gay and then have some sex? Bending me over in front of you.

Wind yourself around my body tight you.

Might tempted clothes to see me through.

We'll do naked partner pilates.

Bending me over in front of you.

One just of a rest.

[Dixie Delator]

So after listening to this many episodes, you know that the thing that turns me on the most, the thing that makes me happiest in this world, is seeing your face at a live body storytelling show. I love to meet the people who listen to this podcast and who sit in the audience and listen to shows and realize that they have a story to tell too. So I'm going to tell you about upcoming bawdi storytelling shows on December 6th in Seattle. That's coming up really soon. The theme is the naughty bits. Just in time for the holidays, for December 13th in San Francisco. That's at the Verdi Club. And the theme on December 13th is Happy Endings. We'll be back in San Francisco on January 10th. Tickets are online now. And on January 17th, we'll be in Seattle with The theme shenanigans. And that will be right before podcon. I'll be at podcon in Seattle that weekend and send me an email and let me know if you'd like to hang out and get a coffee at podcon because clearly you like podcasting too. If you want to pitch me a story, I'[e-mail] and I love hearing what you think. So send me emails, send me feedback, send me a coffee, invite, whatever it is. But what I want most is to meet you in person. I hope to see you at a live Body Storytelling soon. I want to give a special shout out thank you to Good Vibrations and Babeland for providing the prizes for our live bawdi storytelling shows. When you play Bango, there needs to be an enticement for you to talk to all those strangers, and that enticement is prizes from Good Vibrations and Babeland. We're not gonna make you talk to people without some sort of reward and we want to say thank you to Good Vibes and Babeland for giving us those rewards to give to you. The prize packages are pretty spectacular, so thanks in advance. And when we see you at a live show, there's a chance you can could win a bag of sex toys thanks to them. Thank you to the team that makes this podcast possible. To podcast producer Marty Garcia, who is doing such great work on creating these podcast episodes. To sound engineer David Grossoff, who records in San Francisco and also helps me out from long distance with my Seattle show. To project manager Dana Hanna, to video producer and archivist Joe Moore. Thank you to you for listening. For writing us a review that means so much. Telling your friends wherever they are and sharing this on social media. That's how we grow. That's how we keep going. You spreading the gospel of body storytelling. I'm sexual folklorist Dixie de La Tour. And thank you for listening to episode 50 of the Body Storytelling podcast. Here's a peek at what's next.

[Karen Jo]

It's just gonna be outrageous tonight.

[Dixie Delator]

And the songs tonight, you guys.

[Creature Hole (Band Member)]

Oh my God, the songs, they're like.

Should we do this one?

[Dixie Delator]

Like, no, do the dirty one.