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Episode 52: ‘With Risk! in Brooklyn 4‘
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It’s part 2 of the Bawdy/Risk! live collaboration show in Brooklyn! Bawdy Storytelling went to Brooklyn recently to collaborate with the Risk! podcast, and recorded it live for both podcasts. In this episode, you’ll hear the second half of the...
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Dixie De La Tour
This is a reminder that the podcast you're about to listen to is explicit, not safe for work, an adult in nature.
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Kevin Allison
Thanks for listening.
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Reformed Whores
All of my life I've never fit But I won't complain and I won't quit I am in enormous. Get used to it. Everyone tells me I'm too much maybe it's just you're not enough for me can't you see I'm the kind of woman I'm supposed to be? Hey, my vagina is eight miles wide. Absolutely everyone can come inside. If you're ever frightened, just run and hide. My vagina is eight miles.
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Poet/Performer
Why.
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Storyteller/Narrator
Hi.
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Dixie De La Tour
I am sexual folklorist Dixie Delator, and you are listening to the Body Storytelling podcast. Body Storytelling is the original sex and storytelling series. We're about to celebrate 12 years. And this time you're going to hear part two of the risk Body Storytelling collaboration show that happened in Brooklyn about a month ago. Did you listen to last week's episode? Did you listen to the true stories from Jamie Brickhouse, from Fancy Feast, from Risk host Kevin Allison, and music from JC Cassis and Josh Nova? God, I can't get that ice stick song out of my head, can you?
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Storyteller/Narrator
And from the reformed horrors.
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Dixie De La Tour
This time we're going to have more reformed horrors. We're going to have a story from first time storyteller, ELG and a story from me, Dixie Delator. If you haven't caught up with last week's episode, go back, listen to that and get ready for the second part of the show. So just a reminder, you are listening to my take on the evening Dixie from Bonnie. If you go over to risk-show.com you.
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Storyteller/Narrator
Can hear behind the scenes and thoughts.
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Dixie De La Tour
And secrets from Kevin Allison of the Risk Podcast. The Risk podcast has been out there for a long time, putting pervy stories, risky stories out into the world. It's an amazing podcast. Be sure that you listen and subscribe to Risk.
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Elgato
Huh?
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Reformed Whores
Yes.
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Elgato
Wonderful. Anybody on this side of the room.
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Storyteller/Narrator
Want to come out tonight? I think everybody's ready. That's great. All right, let's do this.
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Elgato
Yes.
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Reformed Whores
You know, some of our queer ladies have been a little upset with us recently because a lot of our songs are quite heterosexual. Because we like the Duke, y' all. Do we do we do. We do. Sorry, not sorry. But we want to make sure everybody feels included. So we're going to dedicate this next song to the queer ladies. Sick and tired of the same routine and craving something new, I thought that it might be time to switch up the menu. My Heart's been chopped and shredded and tossed and diced and julien by you. I'm gonna ate a six year old dick tonight and do what I gotta do. I'm giving up on dating but I'm not staying in no tonight I'm eating.
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Kevin Allison
Out.
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Reformed Whores
I'm an open minded kind of gal never been a picky eater and you know there's nothing sweeter than the taste of a lady's beaver. Don't want no one minute hungry man I'm through with your fast food I'm.
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Elgato
Gonna dive face first into a five.
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Reformed Whores
Course meal that's sprinkle like a good I buttered up some gunna beer But I'm not staying in no tonight I mean ow. Some tried it once in college but they can't handle babe buffet. Need a sophisticated palate to enjoy this hot entree. Something's gumdrum, sweet as pie. Culinary cunningus delight. Sorry, men might never see me again once I take a bite. Is that how you do it?
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Storyteller/Narrator
He doesn't know.
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Reformed Whores
Might not be your cup of tea but I got no reservations. The world's my oyster, I'll slurp it up. Ain't worth starvation you may say hey how do you know that there ain't no dining finer Well, I won't be discreet I know that bitch is sweet cause our team have a vagina Go on. Nothing floppy tonight we're getting sloppy if you savor the flavor, she might return the favor. I'm sampling women but I'm not staying in, no tonight I'm eating owl.
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Poet/Performer
Thank y' all so much. We are reborn lovers.
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Storyteller/Narrator
Give it up again for the reformed whores. So our next storyteller is someone who has been a speaker and presenter at our friends off the Cuffs podcast. They have present they spend a lot of time in dungeons here in New York. I'm picking up on it. And one of the things they like to do is to shoot gummy bears at unspec. Not at unsuspecting booties, into unsuspecting booties. That takes some aim. They are a first time storyteller tonight. So that means you gotta give them so much love. Please welcome to the stage Elgato.
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Elgato
Thank you so much. All right, so I pretty much been a pervert my entire life, ever since I was a little kid. But I kept it inside because of the reactions of other people. I can remember being in sixth grade and I was so excited about this awesome half pony half man jpeg that I found. I'm older than I looked and I'm so excited to show it to my friend and. And he was not impressed. He told the teacher, and I was grounded from using the Macintoshes in our classroom. I also remember being so excited to do this awesome history project on medieval torture implements and then hearing like, ew, why are you presenting on this? You're so weird. And I feel like my relationships were also kind of like this. You have to know about me. I'm sort of like a cat when it comes to physical affection. Like, it takes me a really long time to trust you. You have to touch me in, like, exactly the right way. So I'm pretty guarded. So by this time in my 20s, kind of like early middle 20s, I'd really only had like a couple of long term relationships. And in each case, in my first relationship, you know, you're learning about yourself in your 20s. I came out as queer and also poly. That was a big deal breaker in this relationship. In my next long term relationship, I came out as transgender. And when we're talking about I am interested in taking testosterone, I'm hearing, but you're so pretty. Why would you do that to yourself? Also a deal breaker. So now I am single in New York City. I decide that I want to get out there and discover what the king scene is all about and discover a place where I can really be my myself. So I'm going to munches, I'm going to play parties, and I'm going to classes. And it's at one of these classes that I meet Cambie in. So if you imagine we've got these kinky classes, they take place in these sort of rehearsal spaces. So next door there's like tap dancing going on. There's like an improv group on the other side, and you're just like under these fluorescent lights. And generally the people who go these classes are sort of like, you know, friendly neighborhood folk. And I am like, heavily pierced and a big freak. So I'm looking at this guy across from me in this big circle, and he is sort of like this half man, half goat, if you can imagine, he's got this pointy beard. He's also like, I don't know, 13 years older than me, but somehow we're like making eye contact and I think this guy might be interested in me. So we kind of like meet up after the class. And at first I'm a little weary because there's this thing, especially maybe people who are so socialize as female. Know, like, if a CIS guy is interested in you and you start a conversation with them. Sometimes you just like, can't get rid of them when you realize, like what a creep they are. But you know what, he's like a friendly creep. So I feel comfortable riding the subway home with him in the same direction. And we like, become kinky Facebook FetLife friends. And, you know, I'm like, whatever. But then I start going through his profile and it seems like, you know, he's a really big nerd, which is a turn on. But he's also like really into black metal, which I find very hot. Also, it seems like he might be a really big masochist, which for me is very exciting because I'm like a really sick fuck. So that's exciting. So we kind of like, you know, flirt back and forth over FetLife whatever and we agree to set up a play date. So our first date is at this place called Paddles, which, if you don't know, it is sort of like if a dungeon was a dive bar. It's like super musty and dusty inside and it's open to the public, so there's often like creepy men lurking around. So I'm here on this like first date with Gabion. The only safe place is this one, like dungeon cell area. It's got this like huge iron door, like this full length mirror. And I can like shut us up together in this little space. So I'm, you know, kind of like this is like my first real like intimate play date I have with someone. So I'm feeling like really kind of nervous and fluttery and you know, I was just out of all those long term relationships. Like this is all kind of new to me, but I have to be like the top, right? Like, I'm the one who's in charge. I need to be confident. So I kind of like turn away to kind of get my tools, get myself centered. And he kind of like does his own thing. And when I turn back, he's completely nude. Which, you know, those long term relationships. This is the first like completely new man I've seen in a really long time. And also he has this like really awesome penis piercing that I've never seen in real life before. And so I'm like trying to be polite and just like not look at it, which is weird. But, you know, I kind of like. Because, you know, we're whatever. But I get ahold of myself and I'm like, okay, I like push him up against the wall and I've got, at this point, you know, I've got these little cheap 99 cent store plastic clothespins. And we're both feeling kind of awkward. We're like, you know, giggling and like being weird, first date, whatever. But as I start to kind of caress his neck and apply these like colorful clothespins, I pinch up his skin and put them around. He starts to look like this sort of frilly lizard creature and we are just laughing together and the nervousness kind of goes away and I'm like, okay, now I've got these amazing lifetime guarantee stainless steel clothespins that I've never used before. But I'm like, how do you feel about doing a zipper? And he's like, scared. Because what a zipper is, is where you take a line and you pinch all these clothespins on and then you grab the line and you rip it off all at once. So I do it, of course. I'm like caressing the side of his ribs, which is like super tender. And I'm clipping on these heavy duty clothespins with this line and I'm like, okay, are you ready? And he's like, uh huh. And then I rip it off and I just see like, his eyes get real wide and then they like squinch shut and he like collapses against the wall and he's obviously in like blinding pain. And I feel just like so powerful and like at the top of a roller coaster and there's so much adrenaline, I'm like, yes, I am the top. And then I look down and those lifetime guaranteed clothes fins have like ripped off some of the flesh from the side. And I'm like, oh shit, that wasn't supposed to happen. But I'm in charge, right? So I'm like, ooh, let's go look at it in the mirror. So I put my arm underneath his shoulders and I kind of like breed him over to the mirror and I'm sort of like caressing the wounds. We're looking at it together, we're like having this moment and all of a sudden like, he slips out of my arms, his knees buckle and he's like down on the concrete floor. I'm like, oh shit. What? What the fuck is going on? I like kneel down beside him. He's kind of like floats open his eyes and goes, oh, I fainted. I'm like, what the fuck? But I grab a blanket, I like, you know, cuddle him. We manage to recover the evening and it turns out this is something that happens to him all the time, which I discover as we continue to go out on play dates together. So then, you know, we're like going to parties Doing fun stuff. We start, you know, like, doing vanilla stuff together, right? Like, we'll have study dates or we'll, like, go out to eat. And then I find myself, like, staring into his eyes across, like, the dinner table or whatever. And then all of a sudden, we're, like, sexy texting each other where, you know, I'm the big bad wolf, and he's like this cute little squirrel, and I'm chasing him through the forest, and I'm going to eat him up. Do you guys want to know what that sounds like? High profile. All right, so this is me, the wolf growls as the squirrel, his heart beating fast. Little tastes of blood have aroused his hunger mightily. He pounces on the squirrel, rolling over her body, enjoying the feeling of his hairiness and thinking about how good it'll feel when she's inside of him, filling him up. So that's fun. And in the midst of all these vanilla activities, I find myself also doing cute stuff, like wanting to hold his hand or having sleepovers where we're just cuddling and watching Netflix. And he has this sort of, like, childlike demeanor that's so vulnerable. And it makes me want to, like, ravage him, but also, like, nurture him and take care of him. One day, I'm, like, scrolling around by Petco and I'm like, oh, let me take a look at the dog collars inside. Because I don't know if, you know, like, in the scene, there's this, like, master slave thing. And, like, getting a collar is a really big deal for a slave, but we don't really have that kind of dynamic. So I'm kind of just going for more of, like, a jokey thing. I find this, like, cute little pink dog collar with, like, little black skulls on it. I'm like, oh, this will be really funny to give to him, right? So, but when I give it to him, he looks at me with this, like, literal puppy dog eyes, and he just, like, gets this look on his face, and he kneels down in front of me, and he's like, will you put it on me? Yeah, that's what I thought. I was like, oh, shit. This joke just got real. So I do, you know, and as I'm, like, clicking that little plastic clip around his neck, I'm like, oh, like, suddenly I'm a daddy and this is my boy, right? And it's so natural that this is happening, and it's amazing, and this is going great until one night, so I'm kind of lying in bed, you know, we've been seeing each other for a while, but I'm alone. And I'm noticing this, like kind of fluttery feeling in my stomach. And it doesn't go away. I'm like, trying to figure out is this indigestion, what's going on? But then I like, look a little deeper and all of a sudden it's like I have been unhinged from the gravity of the earth. I am just like floating in space. My brain is going crazy. I'm like, shit. I think I have feelings for this person. And I'm like, no, no, because this is supposed to be about, you know, lust and sadism and kinkiness and suddenly I'm just. All of the insecurities that I have felt from all of the other relationships where I ever told someone I love them come flooding back to me. And I'm just thinking, what if I'm not enough? What if when I cut myself open and I reveal myself for who I truly am to this person, what if he doesn't feel the same way I do? And in this moment, I just feel so afraid. I don't know what to do. But later that week, I have a play date with him. So I just like, kind of stuff this stuff back inside and I go out to this party on Long Island. So if you've ever been to a party outside of Manhattan in the city, it's like a little different, right? So we're like driving out to this deserted industrial area in a place I don't even know what it's called. And we pull up to this sort of abandoned looking building and we go inside and it's all like neon lights and like cheesy carpeting, which turns out to maybe be like a dubious choice because this is a swingers club. I notice the Cisporn playing all the monitors and the signs that say no single men allowed. And I'm like, oh, this is not the usual kind of kinky place I'm used to being in. But you know what? I look fucking hot, right? Like I'm here with my queer slave and we are about to fuck up this like, CIS straight person's getaway in the Long island, okay? So I'm like, got him stripped down to his undies. I'm like, leading him around this party on a leash and I'm just really getting into things. So I find this perfect spot and I kneel him down and I pull out my phone book. So that's one use for those stacks you might see around Manhattan. They do come in handy Every once in a while. So I roll up the phone book and I just like, with my whole body, I'm wailing on him like I'm hitting him in the chest. And this phone book is making this like, whoomp, womp, womp sound throughout the dungeon. And I feel like people must be watching us because how can you not pay attention to this? But I don't even notice because I'm just like so focused in on him. So I'm wailing on him with this phone book. And then I pull out my SAP gloves, which are these like lead weighted gloves, and I peel them on my hands. And then I'm punching him. I'm punching him in the chest and I'm punching him in the thighs, and he's just taking it. He's like swaying back and forth. I'm punching him in the arms and I'm punching him in the face more gently. And then I reach down into my bag and I pull out this big silicone cock and I say, you see this cock? And he's like, uh huh. I'm like, this cock was in my ass earlier and now I'm gonna beat you with it. And his eyes just get real wide and he's like, uh huh, hu.
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Dixie De La Tour
Yeah.
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Elgato
So I'm hitting him in the face and I just notice like, as I'm wailing on this kid, like, there's this like, softening around the eyes and his lips are trembling and I'm like, you know, this is not unusual for him to cry, but there's like, I don't know, something going on. So I like, you know, stop punching him. I put my cock down and I take a step space in my hands and I'm like checking in, like, you know, what are you feeling? What's going on? And he's like, oh, I'm thinking. And you know, he's off in subspace. Like the words are not coming to him. But I just give him a moment. I'm like, what are you thinking? And he says, I'm thinking I love you. And at first I'm like a little surprised, but then all that surprise is gone. And instead there's this feeling of serenity that just comes up through me. It feels like I'm rooted in the earth and it rises up through my chest and my heart and in my mind. And I just think this person loves me and I love him and I'm not afraid anymore. Thank you.
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Poet/Performer
ELG everyone.
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Dixie De La Tour
So you're about to hear my story, but I was interviewed by Kevin Allison of Risk around my story. He wanted to know more about this story and how it affected me and how I felt when I stepped off the stage. You'll hear part of the interview before my story. You'll hear me live on stage in Brooklyn. And then Kevin and I will follow up with more interview after this story. Thanks for listening.
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Elgato
I'm sorry. The number you have reached is not in service at this time.
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Storyteller/Narrator
If you need assistance.
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Elgato
Assistance, please stay on the line and the operator will answer. This is a recording.
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
You know, people often say to me, do you get nervous? Do you get nervous before Risk shows? And my answer is always, I get nervous before some Risk shows. This particular body slash Risk show that we do, we've done it a few times in San Francisco now and a couple times in Brooklyn now. I get nervous before it. And I was trying to think, why is that? And I think it's just because it's so preciously meaningful. I think that what it is is that both you and I grew up feeling traumatized for feeling like we were freaks, you know?
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Kevin Allison
Yeah.
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
This show that we do every year is a little bit more so than most shows that we do. Just clearly a celebration of, oh my God. Just relax. It's okay. Be yourself. Try that thing you want to try.
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Storyteller/Narrator
You know, why does being yourself, like what you just said, this is when.
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Kevin Allison
I can really be myself. And you're like. And it makes me more nervous at the same time.
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Yeah, I think a complex, like a psychological complex is something that you never totally get over, you know, I think that you master it, especially at certain points in your life where you're like, yeah, I'm feeling really good about how I'm being myself, et cetera, et cetera. But then there are other points where you just get those feelings of shame and insecurity and oh my God, what if people find out this about me? Or that kind of stuff kicks in. And so I think I'll spend my whole life in a tug of war between pride in being a non conformist and worry about it.
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Storyteller/Narrator
I have a story I tell sometimes. I had been a pervert, like a.
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Dixie De La Tour
Secret pervert for a long time.
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Kevin Allison
And I'd go out to parties and dressed in leather corsets with my boobs mostly out.
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Dixie De La Tour
And every time I'd come in at.
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Kevin Allison
6 or 7 o' clock in the morning, I was always afraid I was gonna run into my neighbors or run into my landlord. Cause I lived in like a duplex. I was like, please just don't let him be coming out right now. Just don't let him be. Cause like, God knows, the outfit was crazy, you know?
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Storyteller/Narrator
And every time I'd hold my breath.
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Kevin Allison
And one day I come in and it's seven o' clock in the morning, and I take the outfit off, I put my sweats on, I take my dog out for his morning walk, and I'm on the panhandle in Golden Gate park.
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Storyteller/Narrator
And I'm just like.
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Kevin Allison
It's kind of like feeling shame. I'm just feeling like. I'm so tired of feeling. What if people know this is my life, you know? Go back in, just turn the TV on to fall asleep. And Popeye comes on, and Popeye is singing I am what I am. And I'm just like, you know what? You have been alive for so long, it's about time you just fucking accept it. This is it. It's not gonna change. And would you know that there was this little old lady who lived in my neighborhood. She's like 80 years old. She always wore like four housecoats on top of each other. And she was always the neighborhood busybody, always sweeping the street, even though it's clean and stuff like that. So she'd always say hi to me all the time. About a week later, she stops me and she goes, what's going on with you?
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Storyteller/Narrator
And I'm like, what?
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Kevin Allison
She goes, something has changed. And I'm like, what do you mean? She goes, all of a sudden, you're luminous. I was like, oh, my God, it shows. Like, I accepted myself and it shows.
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Oh, God. You originally were thinking of doing this Camp John Water story, which is a really hilarious story we have to have. You'd do that some other time. But then you said, or, Kevin, I could tell this story that really digs into some real heart and soul stuff for me. And of course, you knew I was gonna say, dixie, let's go for the heart and soul one.
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Kevin Allison
And then when you and I started working on the story and going deeper.
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Dixie De La Tour
And deeper, I just kind of took.
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Kevin Allison
Me back to that place, you know?
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Yeah. Yeah. Well, you started to struggle a bit emotionally with it.
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Kevin Allison
Yeah.
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
I was telling you, you know what? Don't go further than you feel like you can go. Because one of the things I always tell people is that storytelling changes over time. Like, you can retell a story, you can tell it in different formats. You can tell an hour long version or a 10 minute version, yada, yada, yada. So I just wanted to make sure that you were okay emotionally sharing as much as you could at that particular Time. You know what I mean? I didn't want to push you too far for that particular night.
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Kevin Allison
So here's the thing about that. I love you, and I want to please you. And when you asked me to dig deeper, even though you let it go, I kept doing it. I kept going, no, no. Kevin asked for that. And he's right. A great story has details, so you have to go into details. Yeah. Which means you have to go into that room.
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Yeah.
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Kevin Allison
And when I went in that room, I really started falling apart. But I'm going, and you keep going. Just let you know, you don't have to do that. I'm like, I know I don't. But still, I kept trying.
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Guys, we have one final story tonight, and I am so honored and so thrilled to present this to introduce her. Like I said, Dixie De La Tour is one of my heroes.
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Poet/Performer
Risk.
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
When we were first starting the show, when I was, like, investigating in 2009, like, okay, wait, there's this American life, and there's the moth, and I was obsessively listening to those, and I was like, wait, wait, wait. I think I could do something kind of different. Can I find a show out there that has something a little bit more in common with me? And that's when I discovered body storytelling. And I'll tell you, the first time I saw Dixie host a show, I was so moved and so touched to see just what a wonderful mama she is to an entire community out there in San Francisco. What an inspiration she is to so many people. So I knew I wanted Dixie to share a story tonight, like, a complete story. And she said, well, I could tell this funny one about this trip to John Waters camp that I recently took. It's, you know, light and funny. Or I could tell this one story that has my entire heart and soul in it. And I was like, dix, you know what I'm gonna say now? She has been so emotional preparing this story. A lot of work and, you know, nervousness. A lot of emotion has gone into the preparing of this story. So we've been giving her plenty of hugs, so you do the same. Let's everyone show a fuck ton of love to Dixie De La Tour.
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Storyteller/Narrator
Rupert's funeral was beautiful. He had just found his community, the Kinksters and the Perverts, just a year or two before he was killed in a freak motorcycle accident. And we were all so shocked. So when they held his wake in West Oakland, I went and I listened to people get up and tell stories about him. And I was kind of Surprised by this divide in the people who were telling stories. His family and his co workers were telling about how he'd always been kind of a depressed person. And then his community was talking about, how are we talking about the same person? He was so happy. He just found his thing when he died. And I left that wake thinking, life's too short. You got to do the things you dream while you can. So I headed home and got back to my house, and my partner Bent was sitting on the couch watching Harry Potter, because he's always watching Harry Potter. I said, honey, I know your dad's been really sick, and I was just wondering, if he had to travel, do you think there's any chance we could get him out here? And he hits pause on the movie, and he goes, what are you thinking? And I tell him about Rupert's wake. And I say, I just think that our families don't get us. And it's really important to me that your dad gets to come to San Francisco. And my family will never not come. Because San Francisco's full of fruits and nuts and flakes. Like, the only way we will get them here is to say, we're having a wedding. And you and I don't care about a wedding. We're domestic partners. It's not important to us. But I think it's the only way that we're going to get them out here all together so they can meet finally. So that when your mom. When my mom calls and she says, how's Pam doing? She's actually going to know your mom, Pam. I feel like I need that. And he says, you're right. Let's do it. So I've just proposed, and he's just said yes. I hadn't thought any farther than that. So I call my venue in San Francisco, and I say, hey, we've decided to do this big event. Do you have any dates available? And the only date they had available was three weeks away. And I say, well, I'll take it. And I hang up the phone and I go, fuck, I guess we're doing this thing. So I start calling the family, I call my mom, and I say, mom, Bent and I have decided to get married. And she says, oh, my God, I can't believe married. That's. You're doing something normal. And I cannot explain to you a lifetime of what normal would look like. But I have always been abnormal. I mean, people come up to me at Body all the time, and they go, you know, considering what you do for a living, you must have been Raised by the most sex positive family. And that's so far from the truth. Like, sex is something you never talk about. Like, when my mother found out that my friends Jeff and Steve were gay, my childhood friends, she'd forbidden me to see them because homosexuality is sick and disgusting. When they said we were going to take sex ed in high school, she refused to sign the permission slip. And I had to go to the library all by myself while everybody else learned about penises and vaginas and where babies came from. And a couple weeks after I graduated from high school, my mom packed my suitcase and she drove me to the ywca. And she said, you don't live with us anymore. This is where you live now. And I was just this scared kid. I was thrown in this building full of drug addicts. And the worst for her would be the lesbians and the prostitutes. And it was just a thin door between me and all of that. So now it's time to start getting everybody out there. I call my brothers. I call a brother in North Carolina, my brother Keith, who lives out in Santa Barbara. I call my brother who lives in West Virginia, and they all decide they're going to come. Even my biological dad, who left when I was 2, decides he's going to come. And this is great. They're going to have the context they need for the rest of their life when they can't travel anymore, they'll have had this moment meeting the other families, but they. The thing that was most important to me was that my Aunt Dot come, because my Aunt Dot was the one who'd always accepted me just the way I was when everybody else was telling me I was wrong. Dot was buying me leopard one piece bathing suits when I was a kid. And she was just like, be who you are. So my mom says, you know, Dot's not going to be able to come because she's really bad when with money and she's not going to have enough. And I said, well, instead of a wedding present, I just want you to get Dot out here. That's all I asked for. And while we're waiting to find out if that's going to happen, Dot calls and she says, well, I still don't know if I'm going to make it to your wedding, but do you think maybe you could get me a vibrator? And I say, hell yeah, I can.
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Reformed Whores
Get you a vibrator.
- [38:22]
Storyteller/Narrator
And I set about filling a giant grocery bag with every kind of vibrator. And then I start thinking, well, Dot's favorite flavor is dark haired men. So I think I'm gonna work on having somebody other than me give it to her. When my mom calls and she says, I'm gonna use my credit card points and Dot will be coming to the wedding, I call my friend, a sex educator, Yoni, and I say, would you be willing to give a giant bag of vibrators away to my aunt Dot at my wedding? And he's like, yes, I will. So I've got the venue, I've called the family, they've arranged for their plane tickets. I've only got three weeks to do this. So I put out an online invite and I contact my freak community and I say, we're doing this thing. And they know me. They know I can't do this all by myself with that short a time. So they take over and say, what do you need? And my friend Carla gets online and she does a spreadsheet for Southern potluck. And everybody's signing up to bring dishes. And my friend little P starts arranging for, you know, decorations and flowers for the table and color coordinated slobber towels for my dog, because my dog's gotta be there. And people are starting to rsvp and it's coming really fast. And initially, my friend Polly Superstar, who was the founder of Kinky Salon, one of the largest sex parties in the world, had RSVP'd no. And she called me two weeks before the wedding and she says, dicks. So I've given it some thought, and I have a new man, and I am madly in love with him. And I've decided to change our plans, and we are going to come to your wedding because it's really important to me that Adam get to meet our amazing community. So we are going to be at your wedding, and he's going to get to meet all of our freaks all in one place. And I go, wait a minute, did my wedding just become a sex party meetup? Because my family's gonna be there. And she's like, you're not fooling anybody. You love it. And I kinda do. But I can't help but realize that, you know, I've been estranged from my family my whole life, and now it's happening. My biological family and my freak family are all gonna be together in the same room. And it's coming up really fast. And so pretty soon, it's the day before the wedding, and the families start getting off the plane. They all start arriving in SFO about the same time. My mom from Virginia, Aunt Dot from West Virginia, the brothers from Assorted places. Bent's dad from Ohio, Bent's mom and stepfather from Arizona. And we carpool them all to Max's Opera Cafe out by the airport. And they meet for the first time over this long buffet table. And they're hugging and they're shaking hands and they're saying hello, and my mom says, is your kid as weird as my kid is?
- [41:47]
Kevin Allison
And Pence.
- [41:47]
Storyteller/Narrator
Mom goes, yes. And they really connect over that. And they talk about how they have.
- [41:56]
Kevin Allison
No idea what they're going to see.
- [41:57]
Storyteller/Narrator
Tomorrow, and it's San Francisco, and they're kind of nervous about what they're going to be walking into. And Bent and I swap knowing glances over the table because all the money and all the time is for this moment, for them to meet face to face. And it's going pretty well. So now it's the day of the wedding, and I take my mom and my Aunt Dot to the venue, and I've arranged for my friend Sister Flora Goodtime to do their makeup. She's a sister of perpetual indulgence to my mom that looks like a cross between a clown and a drag queen. And she's sitting them down, and Mom's not really sure about what's going on. I've told her, mom, you only like to wear gray or white, but I like color. So our wedding colors are orange or turquoise, so I'd like for you to buy something. And she'd gone to the thrift store and she'd bought, like, this orange sheath dress Aunt Dot's wearing, bright blue. And my mom sits down in the chair and she's like, I don't like makeup. I don't like the way it feels. And so she only lets you. Flora put on just the tiniest dust and of makeup on her face. And then Aunt Dot sits down and she lets Flora just go to town on her. And mom goes, how come Dot looks so much better than I do? And I said, because Dot did what the drag queen told her to. That's why.
- [43:32]
Kevin Allison
Everybody'S there.
- [43:33]
Storyteller/Narrator
The team is starting to set up. They're accepting the southern potluck dishes. They've decorated with flowers and pennants that say Dixie and Bent. And the families come in and they choose these tables up near the front, and they're like huddled together because they only know each other and their in laws to be that they just met the day before. And then the guests start coming in. And I have sent out an email when Polly sent me her message, and I have said, you know what? I've always been Wrong. So I guess it's time they see who we are. And you know what? I think it's time for them to see my friends. My amazing friends. So I want you to come to this wedding as who you authentically are, whatever that means to you. So in comes this parade of porn clowns who are wearing. They're wearing grease paint and tutus and leather harnesses and red ribbon noses and tantra teachers who are wearing brilliant turquoise saris. And there's sex educators who are wearing rainbow wigs and stiletto heels and porn stars who are rocking way too much cleavage and tiny little skirts. And the family is a little bit taken aback. The perverts are all hugging hello and greeting each other. And then they look at the family and they start approaching them very quietly so they don't frighten them. And they come up and they sit with the families and they say, are you Bentzion? Dad? Oh, my God, we love your kids so much. Are you Dixie's mom? You must be so proud that she's a community leader and that she does such important work. We love your kids. Thank you for giving birth to them. And the families exchange confused looks. So now it's time for the ceremony. We didn't want a best man and a matron of honor. We had asked Bent's best friend, Marlee, who had just transitioned to a female identity and who also identified as a kitten, to be our best kitten. They take my 160 pound St. Bernard quake, the best dog, and they lead them up to the stage to the officiant, who is a Jewish Easter bunny. And Ben and I walk up together and we stand there in front of the Easter bunny, and he says something and I say something, and I'm not really sure what I say. I think I said, you know, I never really felt like I deserved love. And we've been together about seven years now, and I'm starting to lean in and accept that you're not going anywhere. And it feels really good. And on our first date, I asked you about yourself and you talked about your Grandma Marge. And you said she'd been gone 20 years, but you still missed her so much. And you sobbed and I held you and I said, dude, you can't do shit like this on a first date. And I'm pretty sure you need therapy. But even though it was shocking to watch, we just never were apart from that moment because it was so raw and real and that's my favorite thing in the world. And so somehow there's this blur of activity there's the southern potluck, and there's pulled pork and cornbread and fried chicken and collard greens. And people are eating, and people are starting to tell stories. My friend Leo sets up a microphone on the reception floor, and he says, let's give our best wishes to the bride and groom. And the freaks start creeping up to the mic, and they. At first, it's just like, we love you guys so much. And they tell little inside jokes. And then it starts lining up. People start doing it more and more. And pretty soon, my brother Jay gets up and he gets on the mic. He's the first one in the family. And he says, you know, we just want you guys to have happiness, and we love you. And then my dad gets up and he kind of stumbles up to the mic, and I'm afraid he's going to fall over because he's really old. And I go stand next to him, and he says, I'm really sorry. I've had a stroke, and I'm really hard to understand, but I'm just so happy that I could be here for this day. And it takes a long time for him to get it out. And by the end of it, everybody's crying. My brother Keith gets on the mic and he says, oh, my God. And he looks at me and he goes, you are the author of your own story. And I think, who the fuck talks like that? And I go, I guess the answer is my brother Keith. And then my mom gets on the mic. My mom has a terrible fear of public speaking, and she bursts into tears as soon as she looks at the microphone. And she just goes, oh, my God, you people are amazing. And this is the best party I've ever been to in my life as she cries. So we're coming up toward the end, and I'm not going to throw a bouquet, so I throw a rubber chicken, and Wonder Woman catches it. And I just get this impulse, and I grab the photographer and I say, everybody in the street. And I start leading them out to the middle of Mariposa Avenue. And it takes a minute to get them all out there. And we're blocking traffic the whole time. It's like 150 of my nearest and dearest, my family and my friends standing in the middle of the street. And nobody honks because it is free community at its best. And the next day, we put them on the plane and send them home. And they call and say, just want to let you know we made it home safe. And somehow they keep calling like I hadn't talked to my brother in five or six years, hadn't talked to the twins in forever. And they're just calling to check in and say that was the most amazing party. And my mom and I are starting to talk pretty regularly. And it's about a month after the wedding and she calls one day and I said, mom, I can't talk right now, I'm about to do a show. And she says, oh, I'm sorry, honey. Well, I hope you have a good show. I've been doing this for over 10 years and she has never said, have a good, good show. And I say, mom, do you know why I do what I do? And she sounds interested and she says, no, why? And I say, because you married Johnny Fields when I was 12 years old. And when I was 14, I told you he was sexually assaulting me. You called me a liar. I told you again when I was 27 and again when I was 35 and I wasn't believed. And I kept thinking, I wish there was a place to tell stories and be heard and to be believed. And it didn't exist. So I created it. And I hold my breath and I'm expecting what I've always gotten. And she says, when did you tell me about Johnny? I don't remember that at all. And I said, I can tell you exactly where I was. I was 14 years old. We were standing in the dining room. And you said that one of the neighbors in the trailer park had come to you and said that. I said that he kept coming in my bedroom. So you said, has he ever touched you in a place appropriately? And I said, yeah, that fucking Clint Eastwood looking motherfucker used to get drunk and when I'd hear him coming home, I'd lock myself in my bedroom and he'd come to the door and he'd try and get that door open and he'd whisper to me and I'd just wait. And one night you got home at like 2am and you woke me up banging on that door and you said, what if there was fire? You don't ever lock this bedroom door. And he was standing in the hallway behind you, just staring at me. And suddenly she's crying and she says, I'm so sorry, I'm so sorry I never hurt you. And I go, mom, can we talk tomorrow? I've got to go do my job. And we hang up and she immediately texts and she says, I'm so sorry. I wish you were still alive so that I could kill him for you. And I just look at My phone. And my first thought is. I thought how horrible it must be when your parents die and when you get the news, how that must feel. And my fear had always been, when I got the call and my mom was gone, my first thought was going to be good because she never stood up for me. She never believed me.
- [54:51]
Kevin Allison
But she did.
- [54:53]
Storyteller/Narrator
It took 35 years, but she finally heard me. Mom, if you're listening to this, I.
- [55:06]
Kevin Allison
Know this is a hard story to hear, but I feel like it's really important that I tell it.
- [55:14]
Storyteller/Narrator
You believed me. And I know now when the day comes and I get that call, I will grieve for you. Thank you for believing me. Thank you, Rupert, for showing me that life is too short. And thank you, mom, for teaching me that it's never too late. It's never too late to tell your story and to finally be heard. Thank you.
- [56:14]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
A lot of people would probably be surprised to hear that both you and I, as the ringleaders of these shows, also have stories where we're like, I don't know. That feels a little too risky. I don't know if I'm ready. You know, like, yeah, I mean, I talk about that in therapy every fucking session. Am I ready to tell this story? And my therapist is always saying, oh, you can tell that five years from now or ten years from now or wherever, you know? Whereas I know that as the producer of Risk, I'm like, no, you should put your foot to the fire and tell that pretty soon.
- [56:51]
Kevin Allison
Well, every time you watch somebody be brave and tell something that's, like, so real, you watch it and go, why am I hiding a part of myself?
- [56:59]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Like, I should.
- [57:01]
Kevin Allison
I should be as brave as that person was. We feel inspired by the people we work with in storycoach every single time I watch them doing, and it makes me just open up on stage and tell things that at the end of the night, I have such a vulnerability hangover. I'm just like, oh, my God. Oh, my God. You just told hundreds of people something. Are you ready to have that out in the world? Then the next day, I wake up and I go, it's out there. You know? And then you get the fan mail that says, holy shit, I can't believe you talked about this thing. Like, you share your secrets. Other people go, oh, my God, we're allowed to talk about that. And they open up, too. And it totally pays off every single time. But it's so scary.
- [57:44]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
And the surprising thing is, is that that job is never completely done. You know, you come out about something or let a little bit of a certain mask you're used to wearing fall.
- [57:57]
Poet/Performer
And.
- [57:57]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
And then you're like, oh. And there's another thing that I've never told anybody. You know what I mean? Like, it's an ongoing process of being like, oh, here's a thing I've never even told myself about. You know, like, when you start opening that stuff up, more stuff will start occurring to you. Of, oh, and if I'm being really honest, yeah.
- [58:20]
Kevin Allison
I had one person one time who told me that she came to the show, she listened to all the stories. She and her husband had gone on a date there. They came home at the end of the night, she sat him down on the edge of the bed, and she goes, and now we're going to have.
- [58:34]
Dixie De La Tour
Our next storyteller at Bodi Storytelling. And she told him the story of.
- [58:37]
Kevin Allison
How they'd had a hall pass a year before to go off for a week and do anything they wanted from each other. And she told him the story about hooking up with the cowboy at Burning man and the crazy sex they had and this totally different interaction she had with a person. And it had happened a year ago. They lived in the same house and talked 24 hours a day. But it was only after listening to stories that she went. Because life doesn't give us this perfect opportunity to say the thing that's difficult until you hear somebody being brave telling a story, and suddenly you're like, and now the time is now for me to tell my story, too. And he said, that was my favorite story of the night. Like, he dealt with his jealousy. He just listened to it and went, wow. And he told her about his adventure during the hall pass.
- [59:27]
Storyteller/Narrator
And she was like, that would never.
- [59:29]
Kevin Allison
Have happened if we hadn't gone to bawdy story time. And that makes me so proud that people are connecting in these deeper ways because of the stories you and I are working on with them. Kevin just makes me so proud.
- [59:42]
Dixie De La Tour
There was a guy at the Risk.
- [59:45]
Kevin Allison
Body show in Brooklyn who had that look in his eyes. And I was like, you know, hang on. And he was like, yep. And I walked up to him, and he was just like, this show was 10 times what I was hoping it was going to be. Like. I've never. I've never seen Boddy. You don't come to the east coast very much. I was so excited when I heard that Risk and Boddy were doing a show in Brooklyn and this experience. And he goes, the things you talked about in your story about community Coming together about, like, people don't understand what pervert community is. They don't understand it's not just about sex or kink. It's about this deeper connection with people. I've shown you my true self.
- [60:28]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Right.
- [60:29]
Kevin Allison
You know, and they have this. This just compassion for each other that's different than anywhere else. And he goes, you talked about that in your story.
- [60:39]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Yeah.
- [60:40]
Kevin Allison
And I can't believe that's the thing that I've always pulled out of listening to your podcast. And you somehow brought it to the stage tonight as though you knew that's what stood out to me. And I was like, that was affirming.
- [60:53]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
You were worried that you would just flat out fucking lose it and not be able to reel it back in.
- [60:59]
Kevin Allison
I kind of did. And I'd worked on this story, and I was really happy to where I'd gotten it in the amount of time that we'd worked on it. It's like, now it's as done it's gonna be. You're gonna tell that story. And then I got on stage and.
- [61:12]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Started disassociating how did that feel and what was going through your body and head.
- [61:18]
Storyteller/Narrator
Yeah, it's kind of like.
- [61:21]
Kevin Allison
It's not like you're floating over your body. It's just like you're not in your body. It's just kind of like the main effect for me is it feels like if I were sitting in a chair, it would feel like my chair was falling ever. That's what it feels like. You just feel unbalanced. It's almost like you have vertigo. I feel like I was gonna fall down through that whole story.
- [61:40]
Elgato
Wow.
- [61:41]
Kevin Allison
And at one point, I opened my mouth, and I don't know if it's on the recording or not. I opened my mouth, instantly thought, oh, my God, I'm gonna throw up on this stage, which has never happened to me in my life.
- [61:53]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Oh, my God.
- [61:54]
Kevin Allison
And a burp came out.
- [61:56]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Really?
- [61:56]
Kevin Allison
And I went, holy shit. I just burped into a mic in front of 300 people. She. I cannot believe that just. It just came out of my body.
- [62:05]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
A lot of people said to me that they were crying at certain points in your story. People who had. Cause I was backstage, but people who were in the audience said to me afterwards that it brought tears to their eyes. And then, yeah, I was there to witness this universal standing ovation, which, as supportive and loving and engaged as Risk audiences are, that almost never happens. Like, just, you know, the whole room just suddenly rising to their feet and giving a Huge standing ovation. Have you listened to the recording of you telling the story at the Bell House?
- [62:45]
Dixie De La Tour
I have.
- [62:47]
Kevin Allison
It was a little hard for me to listen to, so I even listened to it once and then just sat there and did the thing where you're.
- [62:54]
Storyteller/Narrator
Like, that is not the story that.
- [62:55]
Kevin Allison
I wanted to tell. It's a great story, but it's like there were so many more pieces that I felt that I wanted to say on stage.
- [63:04]
Storyteller/Narrator
So I hate to be the sort.
- [63:06]
Kevin Allison
Of person who says, there's a piece that's important, and I'm not going to tell you what it is. But one of the things I did when I worked so hard on that story was I was like, why would someone in the audience who doesn't know the characters in the story believe that? My mom didn't believe me. What is the piece that makes clear? Because our natural inclination is going to be to go, she heard you. I worked really hard to go, what's the element that makes someone who's not me understand the conversation? When she called me as I was getting ready for the show where she said, have a good show, when I heard her put it together on the phone, what she was saying was me sitting there in shock going, oh, my God, she is getting it right now. The hard part about that was I put that into the story that was gonna go on stage. It didn't come out because of the disassociation, but that felt like the biggest betrayal. That felt like a betrayal to my mother. And I had just healed this relationship, you know, a lifetime of not getting along, and we had just healed it. And I'm like, and this is gonna be the thing that severs it forever, because that's telling everybody who listens to risk and body something that she doesn't want shared outside of, you know, the building she lives in, for sure.
- [64:39]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Right.
- [64:40]
Kevin Allison
I felt like that was a betrayal, and that was part of why this story was so hard. At the same time, I believe.
- [64:49]
Storyteller/Narrator
That.
- [64:49]
Kevin Allison
If you don't tell these stories, then other people can't listen to them and go, that happened to me. But I thought I was the only one. I thought I caused it. I thought I was the one. That's where shame comes from. I did something. I don't know what it is.
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Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Yeah.
- [65:06]
Kevin Allison
You know, I mean, it's only when I started telling stories like this one, that's when people would come up to me and go, it happened to me. And I never knew anybody else. Nobody talks about this. If one person talks about it, everybody else goes, oh, my God. It wasn't me. If it happened to her, then it can't have been me. It's a very similar story. So I feel like it's really important to tell stories like this.
- [65:36]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Yeah.
- [65:36]
Kevin Allison
And I don't want to indict anybody in that story other than the person who's. Other than the person who's responsible for sexual assault. I don't want anybody else to feel like you. Like, I didn't want to indict my mother.
- [65:51]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Yeah. I felt that compassion of you toward your mom. I think that from the audience's perspective, sometimes those parts of stories, you know, where you're like, gosh, if I reveal too much of what this other person said or what was going on in their life, it doesn't necessarily always need to be there in the story, you know, I feel like your story made emotional sense to us without you having to reveal too much about your mother, other than that your mother had a hard time hearing you talking about that, you know, was going through, like, a severe denial, which. Which is actually very understandable, you know, which is very human, because I had.
- [66:40]
Kevin Allison
Always thought that she had heard me because she'd called me a liar at some point. That I think the first time is when she called me a liar. But after that, it was basically similar phrasing, which felt like saying the same thing again. I think that's why I believed she'd always hurt me. So when I worked on that story, I was like, all right, so 35 years later, why do you. Why would I believe that just now is when she hears me? When you've been telling her forever.
- [67:13]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Yeah. Yeah.
- [67:15]
Kevin Allison
Because any conversation with her about sex was always just. My mother told me the facts of life. When I was 10. I had to get up in the middle and throw up because she was so stressed out about sex. It's kind of why I do. It's part of why I do what I do. I'm like, there's got to be something there. If you're. If she's that freaked out, there's got to be something going on. So I became very interested in sex. I started doing things like I would go to work with her during the summer. I'd say I was going to the local movie theater. I'd get on a bus and go across town in Roanoke, Virginia, go to the Quarter Loops with a roll, a quarter, which was my allowance, and I would watch porno. And the reason I would do it was because I wanted to understand how it worked.
- [68:01]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Yeah. And my mom, the Word sex. S E X was like a four letter word. It would instantly trigger alarm and upset. When I was 12, that's when I came out to myself. I said it out loud when I was 12, I am gay. So I was like, well, when can I tell my parents about this? And that same summer, I guess it was Marvin Gaye's Sexual Healing was number one. And so we were playing it on the radio and my mom walked in the kitchen and said to my sister, she took the little boombox there and she said, when this song comes on the radio, the radio goes off.
- [68:45]
Dixie De La Tour
Oh, my God.
- [68:45]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
She clicked it off. And I was like, I ain't telling her anytime soon after she did that. You know what I mean?
- [68:52]
Kevin Allison
I think what that says is like, maybe I don't want to be. I don't think we want to be a cautionary tale, you and I, Kevin. But I think this is a really good reason to teach your kids about sex or not hide it. Because look at what we do for a living. Yeah, we talk about these things, the things we were told not to talk about. We made this our life's work. If all they had to do is let Marvin Gaye play on the radio, would you be doing what you're doing right now?
- [69:21]
Storytelling Host/Interviewer
Right, right, right. And now they've got to deal with the fact that, oh my God, now he's talking about it all the time.
- [69:26]
Kevin Allison
All.
- [69:38]
Poet/Performer
The world situation should be rated all rated X. Said the world situation should be rated X. Ray dates. Listen, people, not only in the movie show, take a look outside. It's where the truth is really told. It's life in living color. Fighting, killing and no dealing. It's everywhere. What about the crime, relics? What about the killing, fighting, stealing everywhere. They let the children see life destroyed, but they won't let them see its making of what happened to God's creation. The one thing that really bothers me the most is how we come and take the lives of the foe. The world is in a great situation. Dirty water. We can't drink dirty air. It's so un. I know something is missing all over the world. Situation should be great. What about the air relics? What about forgive, fighting, stealing everywhere? Where the dark, where the hope was all love is feeling it.
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Dixie De La Tour
Did you enjoy that interview and that story? Well, there's a lot more to it. If you go over to patreon.com bawdy b a w D Y you can listen to the entire interview. It's about an hour and you can hear Kevin and I talking about the story, even more details that didn't end up on stage in this story, and more. What's really important about Patreon is it's a way that body storytelling podcast can continue to exist and grow. Podcasting can be expensive and I am a really good story coach and I enjoy hosting a podcast, but the tech skills are not what I excel at. So it takes a team and you're helping me pay that team. Through Patreon, you're going to get stories that you can't hear anywhere else. You're going to get to hear interviews and conversations, photos and behind the scenes that you can only get on Patreon. So go to patreon.com body please sign up at whatever level you can because every little bit helps. And thanks for your support. So the podcast you're listening to right now is a live show. There is nothing like a live body storytelling. I want to tell you about upcoming live shows because nothing makes me happier than getting to say hi to you in person on December 13, which is any fucking minute. The theme in San Francisco is Happy Endings. We've got our musical sensation Rachel Lark performing songs to help us end 2018.
- [74:48]
Kevin Allison
You don't want to miss this.
- [74:49]
Dixie De La Tour
Body and Rachel arc together. That's something you'll never Forget. Then on January 9th, we're back in San Francisco.
- [74:57]
Kevin Allison
So here's the thing.
- [74:59]
Dixie De La Tour
Sometimes I need a little help brainstorming, so I haven't found a theme that feels right yet. If you have an idea for a theme for the January 9th show, send it to Dixieodystorytelling.com you're smart and I'd love your help on January 17th in Seattle. So Seattle has these very unique stories. The way they approach polyamory, the way they approach sex, parties and kink. So I've created a brand new theme for 2019 for Seattle on January 17th at the ReBar Seattle. The theme is Shenanigans. If you have a story for me, pitch it for the Seattle show. That's DixieAudistorytelling.com and then on February 3rd, I have a very special event. I alluded to it on last week's podcast and I'm going to give you more details now. You may know the name Dawsey Easton. Dawsey Easton is an icon in the polyamory world. She wrote the Bible on polyamory. She and author Janet Hardy are the co authors of the Ethical Slut. Every single polyamorous person I know has that book on their bookshelf.
- [76:14]
Kevin Allison
In fact, I dated a guy a.
- [76:15]
Dixie De La Tour
While back and I lent him my copy and he never gave it back.
- [76:17]
Kevin Allison
So dude, give me back my copy.
- [76:19]
Dixie De La Tour
Of the ethical slut. On February 3rd, we are going to be celebrating the life of Dawsey Easton. We're celebrating her 75th birthday and it's the 50th anniversary of the adventure that led to her writing the Ethical Slut. You want to know the story? You want to hear about the adventure? Come to the live show. Tickets are going to be on sale soon for February 3rd. The theme is Notorious, A Celebration of the Life of Dawsey Easton. And then on February 14th, I'm doing a show in Seattle on Valentine's Day that's going to sell out really fast. Tickets for all of these shows can be found@bodystorytelling.com you can find them under shows and you can also subscribe to our email list. As you know, because of changes with sexual content, a lot of sites are shutting down. Huge groups. I just heard of a sex positive group on Facebook with over 4,000 members that got shut down. I have Body Stories Telling on Facebook and we have a large following, but I'm worried. Same goes for Instagram, same goes for.
- [77:28]
Kevin Allison
Every other piece of social media.
- [77:29]
Dixie De La Tour
So please go to bodystorytelling.com subscribe because that way we'll never lose Touch Me.
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Poet/Performer
Now.
- [77:45]
Dixie De La Tour
It'S time to say thank you. I have a lot of thank yous to say this time because we had a lot of special stuff in this show. Last week's Storytellers for the Risk Body Storytelling collaboration.
- [77:57]
Kevin Allison
Thank you to Jamie Brookhouse, Fancy Feast.
- [78:01]
Dixie De La Tour
Reformed Whores, JC Cassis, Josh Inova. Thanks to all the performers that were on stage and featured in last week's podcast on Risk and Body Storytelling. This week I'd like to say thank you again to the reformed horrors, to storyteller Elg and to Kevin Allison for the interview, the help and the inspiration that he provides me all the time. If you haven't listened to the Wrist podcast, you're gonna love it. Thank you so much to my team, Team Body. Thank you to Marty Garcia, my podcast producer, to Joe Moore, my video producer, producer and archivist. Did you know Body storytelling has a YouTube channel? YouTube.com bodystorytelling To Dana Hanna, my project manager, to David Grossoff, my sound engineer. And a special thank you to you. I really appreciate you giving this podcast a try. If you'd share it with a friend, just one friend, our podcast numbers would double.
- [79:01]
Storyteller/Narrator
And the better we do, the more.
- [79:03]
Dixie De La Tour
Like we it is that we're going to keep at this podcasting thing, rate us and review us. We're on Spotify, we're on itunes. We're on all the places that you listen to podcasts. And I hope that you will subscribe and that you'll be back next week for more body storytelling. I'm sexual folklorist Dixie de La Tour, and here's a peek at what's next.
- [79:25]
Storyteller/Narrator
It's okay.
- [79:26]
Kevin Allison
It's just a random guy from the Internet. You're in a warehouse of Brooklyn with knives.
- [79:29]
Storyteller/Narrator
You're gonna be.