Bawdy Storytelling – Episode 61: ‘2 Player RPG‘ (Caleb Gray)
Podcast Host: Dixie De La Tour
Storyteller: Caleb Gray
Release Date: February 14, 2019
Episode Overview
This episode of Bawdy Storytelling centers on sexual folklore, sex-positivity, and the liberating experience of sharing one’s true-life sexcapades. The featured storyteller, Caleb Gray, a game developer and self-described "kinky and non-monogamous slut," shares an evocative and intimate account of connecting with a stranger-turned-lover through months of handwritten correspondence, culminating in a unique, wordless sexual adventure at E3 in Los Angeles. The narrative touches on longing, anticipation, and the joy of authentic connection, all framed within Bawdy's trademark humor and celebration of sexual exploration.
Key Discussion Points and Insights
Setting the Stage (Dixie de La Tour, 00:03–07:28)
- Dixie introduces the show, highlighting its aim to normalize honest and often hilarious sexual storytelling.
- She briefly shares a personal success story about helping an erotic artist through story coaching, underscoring the power and stakes of storytelling.
- Notable Quote: “A great story is something that you care about. We can feel what you're hoping. That's why you tell your story.” – Dixie (05:15)
- Dixie introduces Caleb Gray, providing background on his experiences as a blogger, adventurer, and his journey towards storytelling performance.
Caleb’s Story: The Erotic RPG (07:28–26:59)
Genesis: The E3 Convention and a Digital Connection (07:28–13:04)
- Caleb arrives at E3 in Los Angeles and decides to try OkCupid’s location-based features to stave off boredom.
- He meets “Mel Capensis” on OkCupid, connecting quickly through playful wit and sarcasm, but there’s no chance to meet at that time.
- Notable Quote: “It was really cool to finally have this kind of a dynamic, especially with a stranger who I, very quickly, within, like, a few messages, found out I would not be meeting this time in LA…” – Caleb (12:08)
Year-long Letter Writing Romance (13:04–16:11)
- Disappointed by their inability to meet, Caleb and Mel begin exchanging weekly handwritten letters for a year.
- The letters grow in depth and page length, moving from doodles to full-page art.
- Notable Moment: Caleb is visibly moved recalling the value of receiving such personal, creative correspondence.
- Notable Quote: “It’s so beautiful to receive something that someone spent so much time on.” – Caleb (14:57)
- Over the year, they reveal real names, building anticipation.
The Meeting: Planning a Fantasy (16:11–18:50)
- With another E3 approaching, Caleb reaches out to propose finally meeting in person.
- Mel shares a sexual fantasy: dressing as a “hooker” and acting out a specific dynamic with a partner.
- Caleb counters with his own fantasy: sharing intimacy without speaking—a silent, wordless encounter.
- Notable Quote: “How do you feel about not speaking a single word to each other verbally the entire time that we interact?” – Caleb (18:11)
- Mel is at first apprehensive, then enthusiastically agrees.
The Encounter: A Silent, Sensual Adventure (18:50–23:05)
- Caleb describes the details of the Airbnb and the deliberate setting of mood—Lana Del Rey playing, the chic environment.
- Their initial greeting is full of nervous energy and excitement, underscored by their agreement to remain nonverbal.
- They proceed to the bathroom—with its luxurious features—for an unspoken, mutual, and deeply consensual undressing.
- Bathing each other, they transition to the bed for a prolonged, passionate sexual encounter where every moan, giggle, and touch is heightened by their silent agreement.
- Notable Quote: “I never knew I was preparing for the best sex of my life until I realized that I had been preparing for the best sex of my life on that day.” – Caleb (21:39)
- The suppression of sound becomes a form of intimacy and playful control, culminating in joyous laughter and release.
Breaking the Silence: First Words (22:28–23:05)
- After hours together, Caleb finally breaks the silence, asking, “How have I not had the pleasure of listening to your voice? Please tell me your name in person.”
- This marks the true unveiling and consummation of their connection.
Soundtrack and Emotional Resonance (23:05–27:00)
- The story is interspersed with sound bites from Lana Del Rey's "Video Games," symbolizing the mood and underlining the blend of fantasy, gaming, and sensuality.
- Caleb occasionally delivers brief spoken interjections in sync with the music, maintaining the thread between gaming culture and sexual play.
Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments
- “I see her handwriting for the first time... and I want to cry right now because it’s so beautiful to receive something that someone spent so much time on.” – Caleb (13:46, 14:57)
- “How do you feel about not speaking a single word to each other verbally the entire time that we interact?” – Caleb (18:11)
- “I never knew I was preparing for the best sex of my life until I realized that I had been preparing for the best sex of my life on that day.” – Caleb (21:39)
- “How have I not had the pleasure of listening to your voice? Please tell me your name in person.” – Caleb (22:28)
- (Amid laughter over their self-control) “We were suppressing moans, we were suppressing giggles, we were suppressing every form of like... just listening to her...” – Caleb (21:48–22:15)
Timestamps for Key Segments
- 00:03–03:00 – Dixie’s intro, sex-positive ethos, and content warning
- 05:15–07:28 – Story coaching anecdote, artist success, and transition to Caleb’s intro
- 07:28–13:04 – Caleb meets Mel on OkCupid; beginnings of their long-distance rapport
- 13:04–16:11 – The year of letter writing and emotional deepening
- 16:11–18:50 – Discussion of sexual fantasies and negotiation for the first meeting
- 18:50–23:05 – The silent sexual encounter, unspoken consent, and post-coital connection
- 23:05–27:00 – Music interlude, reflective soundtrack moments, and emotional conclusion
Episode Tone & Language
The tone of the episode is candid, witty, vulnerable, and sex-positive. Both Dixie and Caleb speak with openness and humor, framing sexual exploration as transformative, joyful, and deeply human. The narrative style remains conversational, intimate, occasionally irreverent, and always celebratory of erotic truth-telling.
Extra: Bonus Fantasy (31:40)
- Caleb shares a playful fantasy he once wrote:
“To be Lieutenant Uhura getting banged by Captain Kirk while sucking off Spock.” – Caleb (31:40)
In Summary
This episode exemplifies what Bawdy Storytelling does best: turning honest sexual experiences into artful, relatable narratives that embrace quirk, desire, and the messy humanity of sex. Caleb Gray’s journey—from a gaming convention to a year-long pen-pal courtship to a silent, electric first encounter—reminds listeners of the thrill of anticipation, the beauty of mutual consent, and the delight in risk and vulnerability. The result is touching, funny, and unmistakably Bawdy.