Bawdy Storytelling – Episode 72 ‘Dirty 30’ (Tanya Gilstrap)

Podcast Date: May 1, 2019
Host: Dixie De La Tour
Storyteller: Tanya Gilstrap

Episode Overview

This episode centers on Tanya Gilstrap’s bold, hilarious, and sex-positive quest: to have sex with 30 different people in 30 days in celebration of her 30th birthday, a month-long project she dubbed “Dirty 30.” Tanya’s story explores community, consent, sexual exploration, and personal growth within the supportive, kinky, and polyamorous circles she belongs to, all set against the backdrop of the Bawdy Storytelling ethos.

Key Discussion Points & Story Breakdown

Introduction by Dixie De La Tour

• Dixie sets up the episode, explains her excitement, and introduces Tanya as a beloved part of the Seattle Bawdy team and a Best of Bawdy Storytelling winner.
• Dixie shares that the story is happening “right now” as the episode drops on Tanya’s actual 30th birthday, May 1st (04:00–04:45).

Tanya’s “Dirty 30” Project Origin (05:08–06:45)

• Tanya begins her story in the midst of a playful, kinky foursome—a scene involving her partner Kelly, Kelly’s nesting partner Landon, and a mutual friend Mitya.
• Tanya describes Landon:

  “He’s kind of what I would imagine, like, if it was possible for Legolas and Gimli to have a child...very fair skin, long soft hair, a little bit ginger going on.” (05:30)

• The group is engaging in a BDSM scene involving blindfolds, cuffs, and a guessing game with a violet wand as playful penalty.
• Tanya explains the context: she’s embarking on her “Dirty 30” mission for her golden birthday.

Planning the “Dirty 30” (06:45–09:30)

• Inspired by a joke among friends—“What if I had sex with 30 different people in 30 days?”—Tanya takes practical steps, creating a spreadsheet and reaching out to former partners and fuck buddies.

• The enthusiastic response is overwhelming:

  “Not a single person said no, which just blew my mind.” (08:00)

• She broadens her search via social media in kinky, sex-positive spaces—getting more offers than expected, especially from “straight dudes,” but desires more variety.

• Tanya actively advocates for inclusion of female-identified and nonbinary folks:

  “I highly encourage you to contact me.” (08:45)
  A memorable twist: many CIS straight men offer threesomes with their girlfriends as a result.

Early Adventures: Logistics & Sex-Positive Community (09:30–12:30)

• By April 1, Tanya’s calendar is packed with threesomes, foursomes, and back-to-back one-on-ones, managing her schedule with what she humorously calls “very efficient time management.”
• Notably supported by her partners in her quest, Tanya recounts a tender moment with her partner Aiden, who post-coitally asks for his “Dirty 30” participant temporary tattoo:

  “He looks over at me and says, ‘Are you gonna mark me now?’” (11:38)

• A friend designs custom temporary tattoos for each participant: “Tanya’s Dirty 30 participant,” adorned with pink and purple underwear, a unicorn, and a bow tie.

The Support of Partners & Community (12:30–15:00)

• Tanya is moved by the support and lack of jealousy from her polycule, including her partners Kelly and Aiden.
• She describes in detail the dynamics of the foursome, emphasizing consent, communication, and the playful honoring of titles (“sir,” “ma’am”).
• Landon, blindfolded, identifies each participant correctly and is rewarded according to the group’s playful rules:

  “He was blindfolded...not once did he mess up...He could hear us. And not once did he mess up.” (13:50)

• The culmination: a joyous, fluid-filled celebration that leaves Tanya feeling deeply affirmed and surrounded by love.

Lessons Learned & Completion of the Goal (15:00–16:50)

• As the month continues, Tanya’s participant count races ahead of schedule, with even more group experiences planned, including a pre-birthday gangbang and attending an orgy “for extra credit.”
• Key reflection:

  “I learned that it’s really important to ask for what you want, and it’s OK if you get a no, but you’re never gonna know unless you ask.” (15:36)

• Tanya credits her sex-positive community and Bawdy itself for helping her reclaim her sexuality amid personal struggles over the past year.
• Her closing words are a call to action:

  “I inspire you all to do what the fuck you want and ask for it, because you won’t know if you don’t ask.” (16:54)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On taking the initiative in sexual adventures:
  “What if I had sex with 30 different people in 30 days?” (06:20)
• On enthusiastic consent:
  “Not a single person said no, which just blew my mind.” (08:00)
• On creative inclusion:
  “If there’s any female-identified or nonbinary identified folks who would be interested in participating, I highly encourage you to contact me.” (08:45)
• Supportive partner energy:
  “He looks over at me and says, ‘Are you gonna mark me now?’” (11:38)
• Key life lesson:
  “I learned that it’s really important to ask for what you want, and it’s OK if you get a no, but you’re never gonna know unless you ask.” (15:36)
• Empowering closing:
  “I inspire you all to do what the fuck you want and ask for it, because you won’t know if you don’t ask. So, thank you.” (16:54)

Timestamps for Key Segments

• 00:00–04:00: Introduction, host commentary, community updates
• 05:08: Tanya begins her story
• 05:30–06:45: Set up of initial foursome, introduction to “Dirty 30” concept
• 06:45–09:30: Planning, recruiting participants, spreadsheet logistics
• 09:30–12:30: Week one adventures, time management, partner support and tattoos
• 12:30–15:00: Group sex dynamics, consent, playfulness, and community love
• 15:00–16:54: Reflections, lessons learned, encouragement for listeners
• 17:40–21:20: (Musical interlude, skip)
• Ads & closing announcements (skip after 21:20)

The Episode’s Tone & Takeaways

• Tanya’s story is candid, celebratory, sex-positive, and filled with moments of humor and tenderness.
• There is a strong underlying message about community support, the importance of asking for what you need, and the liberatory power of sexual self-discovery.
• Dixie’s warm, affirming hosting frames the episode, keeping it both lively and deeply personal.

Final Thoughts

Tanya’s “Dirty 30” story is a bold testament to the rewards of sex-positivity, intentional ask culture, and mutual support within chosen family. Whether you’re in the midst of your own transformative year or just along for the ride, you’ll find inspiration, laughter, and heart in this quintessential Bawdy Storytelling episode.