Bawdy Storytelling – Episode 87: ‘BadAss’ (Saren O’Grady)
September 4, 2019
Podcast Host: Dixie De La Tour
Storyteller: Saren O’Grady

Episode Overview

Episode 87 of the Bawdy Storytelling podcast features storyteller Saren O’Grady with a raw, honest, and humorous account of sexual healing, self-discovery, and resilience. The central theme is Saren’s journey through trauma, empowerment via weightlifting, sexual exploration, and recovery after personal setbacks—with a signature Bawdy blend of explicit realness and heartfelt vulnerability.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Intro & Community Building

• Host Dixie De La Tour welcomes listeners and updates on the show’s progress and upcoming tour cities, encouraging fans to participate in the “Test Tickle” campaign to bring the live Bawdy show to new locations.
  • Quote: "Touring is a gambler. Please help me hedge my bets because I'm an artist who makes her living off ticket sales to live events in a playlist kind of world. And it's tough." (05:05 - 05:30)

2. Consent, Fantasy, and Open Communication

• Dixie reiterates the core Bawdy value: “Your body, your choice.”
  • Quote: "Maybe some of the fantasies or the acts in this story are not things that you choose to do. Don’t do them. Consent, consent, consent, consent." (10:44 - 11:05)
• The show maintains a strongly sex-positive and consent-focused narrative, especially relevant as Saren’s story involves fantasy exploration.

3. Saren O’Grady’s Story: Sexual Fantasy, Empowerment & Loss

[12:06] Saren’s Confession and Fantasy

• Saren bravely opens with a taboo: “I have a rape fantasy.”
  • She shares her detailed fantasy—emphasizing strength, control, and sexual power reversal.
  • Quote: “But he doesn’t know that I’m strong, too...and finally I overpower him and I say, get on your fucking knees, motherfucker.” (12:30–12:47)

[13:41] Past Trauma & Seeking a Willing Partner

• Saren recounts first revealing her fantasy to her then-boyfriend Victor, who reacts with disgust:
  • Quote: “He looked at me like I was the scum of the earth...‘What the hell is wrong with you, Saren? No.’” (13:49–13:52)
• She leaves Victor, meets Jake (a personal trainer), who is enthusiastic about both her and her fantasies.

[14:50] Weightlifting as Healing

• Jake encourages Saren to weightlift, leading to a new outlet for confidence and agency:
  • “As soon as I picked up that weighted bar...I felt like such a badass.” (15:50)
• Sex and athleticism become intertwined sources of self-worth and healing after heartbreak.

[16:30] Jake’s Kindness, Emotional Support, and Deeper Intimacy

• Jake displays emotional intelligence and care, comforting Saren after she tells him about Victor trashing her book collection.
  • He gifts her a meaningful book with a note: “Here’s to a fresh start. Love, Jake.” (17:14)
  • The act leads to renewed intimacy.
  • Notable moment: Jake’s openness to Saren’s deepest fantasy and willingness to enthusiastically participate.

[18:16] Humor & Honesty Around Anal Sex

• Saren and Jake attempt anal sex (“because that’s love!”) with initially disastrous, vivid results—Saren suffers proctalgia fugax (“fleeting rectal pain”).
  • Quote: “Fleeting my fucking ass.” (19:40)
• Despite mishaps, vulnerability and laughter keep them close.

[20:24] Rising Success, Sudden Loss, and Depression

• Saren’s weightlifting career soars until a herniated disc abruptly ends it.
  • “The love of my life was gone.” (21:00)
• She spirals into identity loss, emotional distancing, and a painful rift with Jake.
  • “Without this body that could put £200 over my head...I had lost myself.” (22:22)

[23:05] Mental Health & Maternal Support

• Saren reaches a low point, considering suicide—saved by her mother’s intervention.
  • Mom’s advice: “Call me every day...get some help...take it one day at a time.” (23:42)
• Slowly she rebuilds, regains hope, and begins to reconnect with Jake.

[24:11] Reconnection and Sexual Self-Rediscovery

• Saren describes their first intimate moment after months, watching herself in the mirror:
  • “I saw this powerful person on top of Jake...my big, beautiful ass bouncing up and down...It’s gotten me through a lot of hard times.” (25:16)
• This renewed body-mind connection reignites her confidence and desire for ass play.

[26:44] Sexual Triumph and Joy in Reclaiming Her Body

• On a trip to LA, Saren and Jake successfully try anal sex again—this time pleasurable.
  • “This time there was no fleeting rectal pain. This time it felt fucking fantastic. I felt so full of pleasure and so connected to my body.” (27:16)
• Joyful closing declaration of life: “I’m back, baby. Now get back in my ass.” (27:58)

4. Celebrating Sex Positivity & Humor

[28:02] Musical Outro

• Comedic “butt stuff” song by Matt Griffo brings a lighthearted, musical punctuation to Saren’s journey of sexual exploration and empowerment.

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• “I have a secret, but I'm kind of nervous about it, so can I tell you? I have a rape fantasy. Okay, hear me out…”
  —Saren O’Grady, [12:06]
• “He looked at me like I was the scum of the earth...‘What the hell is wrong with you, Saren?’”
  —Saren O'Grady on Victor, [13:49]
• "He encourages me in weightlifting...I think I love you. Shut up."
  —Saren O'Grady on Jake’s support, [17:55]
• "Fleeting my fucking ass."
  —Saren O’Grady, on proctalgia fugax, [19:40]
• “Without this body that could put £200 over my head...I had lost myself.”
  —Saren O’Grady, [22:22]
• "I’m back, baby. Now get back in my ass."
  —Saren O’Grady, closing her story, [27:58]

Timeline of Important Segments

• 00:25 – 01:18 | Opening music/anthem: "My vagina is eight miles wide"
• 01:18 – 11:48 | Dixie’s intro, Test Tickle update, philosophy on consent, and Saren’s bio
• 11:48 – 12:05 | Saren’s introduction
• 12:06 – 20:23 | Saren’s story: fantasy, Victor, meeting Jake, sexual exploration, weightlifting, first anal attempt
• 20:24 – 22:02 | Injury, loss, and relationship strain
• 22:03 – 24:10 | Mental health crisis, mother’s intervention, and healing
• 24:11 – 27:58 | Sexual awakening, reconnection with Jake, successful anal sex, affirmation of life
• 28:02 – 29:49 | Comic song about “butt stuff” by Matt Griffo
• 29:52 – 39:29 | Post-story: listener calls to action, live event pitch, Patreon/community sign-up

Episode Tone & Takeaways

• Saren’s storytelling is confessional, self-effacing, and powerfully candid—balancing humor with honesty on taboo topics.
• The episode reinforces Bawdy’s mission: destigmatizing sexual desires, promoting agency and consent, and embracing both vulnerability and joy in sexual self-discovery.
• Saren’s journey from heartbreak and trauma to sexual healing is a multi-layered account of personal empowerment, the importance of supportive partners, and the courage to reclaim one’s pleasure—even if it takes a couple of tries.

For Those Who Haven’t Listened:
This episode is a powerful, funny, and unfiltered exploration of kink, vulnerability, and the resilience of the human spirit—told by a woman who journeyed through her darkest lows to proudly declare her right to pleasure and connection. True to Bawdy Storytelling’s spirit, it offers a masterclass in authenticity and the healing power of sex-positive community.

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