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Episode 88: ‘Return the Favor’ (Jessica Cerretani)
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Shouldn’t Condoms sell themselves? When sex educator wannabe Jessica Cerretani gets her dream job at a Boston’s premier prophylactic shop, she’s over the moon; not only can she make the world a safer, sexier place but people now see her as a...
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Dixie Delator
The podcast you're about to listen to is explicit and graphic. Wait, that's why you're here? Oh, get ready for the dirty details then. Here we go.
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Jessica Saratani
All of my life I've never fit. But I won't complain and I won't quit. I am enormous.
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Musical Performer (Madonna Cover)
Get used to it.
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Jessica Saratani
Everyone tells me I'm too much.
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Musical Performer (Madonna Cover)
Maybe it's just you're not enough for me.
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Jessica Saratani
Can't you see I'm the kind of woman I'm supposed to be?
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Musical Performer (Madonna Cover)
Hey, my vagina is eight miles wide. Absolutely everyone can come inside. If you're ever frightened, just run and hide. My vagina is eight miles.
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Dixie Delator
Welcome to the Body Storytelling podcast. I am sexual folklorist Dixie Delator, and this is episode 88. Y'.
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Musical Performer (Madonna Cover)
All.
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Dixie Delator
I want to give you a big old thank you. You listened last week, you listened to the podcast, you listened to me talk about what's going with the testicle and other things. And it has been so surprising, the reaction and the things that have been happening just this week, thanks to you. So if you recall, I told you about Anthony, who lives in Philadelphia, and he was talking about what he could do to increase the chances that body storytelling would come to Philadelphia. So I read you my response to him, and guess what? I started seeing people post for their cities in response to that plea to kind of rally your troops. Jessica, who's in Boston, did this great campaign on social media, and I'm gonna tell you what she wrote because it's gonna inspire what you're gonna write because we've got, you know, two and a half weeks or so until the testicle is up. That means we're in the final stretch. And that means if you want body in your town, you're gonna have to tell people to join. This thing happen. Tell people to vote. Here's what Jessica said. I just bought two tickets for live body storytelling in Boston, hoping that enough people also think that Dixie de La Tour should come to the Northeast and tell us stories. If you haven't checked out the podcast, it's basically a dirty version of the moth transformative experiences told live on stage with no notes. What Dixie is doing is setting up possible city visits, and if enough people sign up, then it'll go. If it doesn't, you get a refund. I've tagged a non exhaustive list of people that might have an interest in such an eventuality. Isn't that great? Perfect. That's perfect. And in response, I started seeing tickets for the testicle start happening in Boston. I talked about Philadelphia Last week, I started seeing tickets kind of pick up a little bit in Philadelphia. It's just amazing how you talk into a microphone in San Francisco and people respond wherever they are. This podcasting thing. Yeah, I am on board for this. Speaking of Boston, that ties into the story that I've chosen for you this week. It was our one and only show in Boston a couple of years ago, and it's a great one. And one more thing. Do you remember how last week I told you that I want to hear your voice? I want to hear what you're thinking. I want to. I want to use it for a special project. So I want recordings of you talking to other listeners of the Body Storytelling Podcast, you telling me what's going on with your life and why this is important. Well, I got one. I mean, well, I got a few of them, and thank you to the people that have sent them. But I got this one, and this one is one you have to hear right now because it's very timely and it was so moving. I sat at my desk when I read it. Well, I was reading the email, and then I clicked on the voice memo, and I was incredibly moved. And you need a little bit of that, too. I know. Right now. So I had to share it right away. This message you're about to listen to was sent to me from Todd, and. Yeah, get ready. Okay, here we go.
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Todd
Dixie. I'm 44 and I live in the Bay Area. As an artistically inclined young man, I was fascinated with performance art and spent my time in the library learning about Karen Finley, Josh Cor Bluth, John Waters. And then I found Annie Sprinkle in her post porn modernist phase, connecting the wild artistic creativity with sexual freedom and enlightenment. I've spent my life fascinated with sex, from the base to sociological, artistic, and as an empowering tool of healthy lives. As a teen, I found copies of the Happy Hooker and the Old School Joy of Sex. I followed Violet Blue, Nina Hartley, Tristan Taormino, Dan Savage, and every sex educator I can find on Twitter. I fell in love and married at 23 to a woman that had only known of Annie Sprinkle as porn that her college roommates forced her to watch. Dixie, the gap was too far. I tried to communicate and educate, and she was never ready. And I'd listen to Dan Savage saying, dump the motherfucker already, and I just couldn't. I knew somewhere in my heart that I could never bridge the gap. But we had a child, and I believed that with compassion and work, we would someday have the sex Life we both deserved. For the past three years, I've been asking to take her to see Body Live. And after this February, I told myself that I was going to the next anniversary show, even if it was alone. Three weeks ago, after 21 years of marriage, she told me that she doesn't want to be with me anymore. That everything worked but our sex life. She brought up the idea of an open relationship, and I was broken because I knew that as much as I'd thought about open relationships and sharing and everything that comes with it, I knew we didn't have the communication to make it work. Years of savage love and Body storytelling, Sunny and Ken and Annie and Violet. And I knew that we couldn't go forward and that I deserve to be as happy as she does. So after years of living, kink in my heart and vanilla in my life, I'm headed to the deep end. I'll be at Body after Folsom. I want so much to join the community I felt part of and apart from for so long. I'll be there probably bawling my eyes out because week after week I hear the stories of the lovers. They're willing to go through so much and be so supportive. And I want that to be my tribe. The ones that care, the ones that communicate, the ones that cry and are open and true to their hearts. Body doesn't need to get me laid. It's already given me hope. Thank you, Dixie. I'll see you at the end of the month. Free to live the life I'd only dreamt of before I'm ready for my post scorn modernist phase.
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Dixie Delator
Todd, thank you for that message. Thank you for letting me know what you've dreamed of and never been able to accomplish. Thank you for telling me that I'm gonna see your face in person soon. Thank you for being brave. Thank you for making your wishes known and for telling your story. Are you frustrated by the state of the world? Do you wish there was something you could do to make it a better place and maybe even get rewarded for your good deed? I'm here to ask your support for something I know you believe in. I'm here to ask for your financial support for the Body Storytelling podcast on Patreon. This is your chance to be part of something incredible, something bigger than you and a chance to build sex positive community. You and me together. Body Storytelling has gone from being a local sex and storytelling series that got fan mail for years, fan mail that requested that I bring what we do to more ears, and now it's an award winning podcast. Now the Body Storytelling Podcast is weekly. In addition to our monthly shows in multiple cities, we're scheduling live shows in brand new cities. And what we do is gaining upward momentum. But I can't keep growing this thing without you. So I'm here to seduce you into joining me on this mission. I've revamped my Patreon and it's got a lot of new rewards and ways to be part of what we're doing. I have created brand new rewards for my patrons like downloadable ad free episodes that started last week, a patron only stream where we can chat, an invitation to our private Facebook group where you can chat with me, with other podcast fans and the storytellers you hear on the podcast. And now even the musical acts are joining us there. You can get reserved tickets to the critically acclaimed bawdy storytelling show in San Francisco or Seattle. You can get story coaching sessions with me in a group or in a private session on Skype or Zoom. We'll work together to craft and fine tune your story. And you've been asking for it, so here it is. I can even create a special bawdy storytelling live show just for you and your friends. I'm adding new goals on Patreon too. When we hit our next patron goal, I'll do an ama an ask me anything and you'll be invited to be part of it. When we hit our next financial goal, which is $2,000 a month, I'll create longer story packed episodes of this podcast. This is your chance to change people's lives, to support something you believe in, to be part of something incredible, and your chance to build sex positive community wherever you are. These stories need to be amplified. They need to be heard. I know you believe that because you're listening right now. I feel like you're the final piece of this puzzle because it's all coming together right now. All I'm missing is you and your support. So go to patreon.com bodi check out the new patron rewards and sign up to support my work. There's a reward there that you've been wanting, I just know it. I want to keep building this community and I can do it with your help. Any amount is a huge contribution. So go to P A t r e o-n.com bodi and thank you for your support. Do you love to listen to stories? Yeah, I thought maybe you might. I want to tell you about Audible Escape, a monthly subscription that gives you unlimited listening to thousands of love stories. Stories that let you escape the drudgery of your day to day as it fades into the background and gives you that happily ever after you've been wanting. Audible Escape offers Unlimited Love story listening for just $12.95 a month. That's pretty good, right? Well, let's make it even better. You can join and listen free for one month right now by visiting audible.comdixie to get started. And you know you don't have to be an existing Audible member to sign up for Audible Escape. It's separate and distinct from a standard monthly Audible subscription. But hey, if you are already an Audible or Kindle Unlimited member, Audible escape is just $6.95 a month. This is a must for rom com fans. You get over 18,000 titles by best selling and beloved romance authors and stories that represent the lesbian, gay, bi, transgender, queer, intersex and asexual experience too. I'm currently listening to the coming out story Keeping youg a Secret by Julianne Peters, but I expect this to be the first of many. Go to audible.com Dixie Download the free Audible app and listen for free for one month. You know there really isn't anything like this on the market. Join Audible Escape and see where love can take you. You ready for your story for this episode? A couple of years ago I did my first ever show in Boston. I'd always wanted to go to Boston and the fans there were amazing. They offered to buy me like lobster rolls or tell me where the best clam chowder was. They sent me fan art and they showed up at the show so excited to finally have bawdy in Boston. This storyteller was somebody that was referred to me from a friend who works for the Mortified show. Do you know Mortified? It's this amazing podcast. It's a live show, it's a thing, it's a phenomenon. And we love the folks over at Mortified. So I'm gonna tell you about your Storyteller. Jessica Saratani is a Boston based writer, storyteller and comedian. She has performed at Club Oberon, at Improv Boston and Bambusa Naples and is currently a story curator for the Boston chapter of Mortified. When she's not sharing tales of teenage angst on stage, she's busy ghost writing sex books and wrangling her 10 cats. The storyteller is Jessica Seritani.
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Jessica Saratani
I really do have 10 pussies at home. I do. So this may come as a shock, but I've always been kind of obsessed with sex. That's why I'm here. One of my earliest Memories. My earliest formative memories was when I was about three years old, rubbing up against my parents orange tweed sofa as we watched the wizard of Oz on tv. And my parents are sex positive people. So they said to me, go to your room and when you're done you can come back out. So I did. And that sort of kicked off a whole lifetime of reading and watching and thinking and obsessing about sex. So I was also an early reader and I lived in a very small town in Connecticut. So by the time I've hit fifth grade, I've run out of books to read in the children's room of the local library. So I move to the adult section. And I mean the adult section. So you know, I'm like 10, 11, I'm reading Jackie Collins and Harold Robbins and I have this very active fantasy life in my head. And then I enter high school and I'm excited. I finally get a boyfriend, lose my virginity. None of those things in Jackie Collins happened to me in high school. Also, my boyfriend at the time later discovered that he was gay. So that was part of the issue. So fast forward to college. Now I'm in college. I've really amped up my sex library at home. And now I've got the Joy of Sex. I've got Delta of Venus, I've got the Story of O. I've got like all this other stuff, but nothing really is happening in my own life. I have an ex boyfriend who I've been sort of, I had dated for like three months, but we've been fucking on and off for like a year and a half now. And that's fine, you know, like he's actually got a huge dick and it's good, but the extent of our kink really just is limited to maybe some light bondage with the neckties that he's wearing to his job as a manager at Staples. This is as exciting as it was getting. And then I learn about this new store in Boston. And if you lived in Boston in the 90s, you may remember I was very excited about the store on Newbury Street. It was called Condom World. And I'm like, this is it. This is my dream. I'm going to work at Condom World. I am going to sell condoms to people. I am going to sell vibrators to nervous women. I am going to educate people. It's going to be amazing. This is my life calling and it's finally happening. So I'm about 19 and I go and I apply to Condom World and I get the job I was later told that I got the job because the actual boss wasn't there that day and his brother hired me. And so this should be my dream job. This was not that job. It turns out I am the worst salesperson at Condom World because Condom World is actually very sales oriented. You might think condoms sell themselves, but they don't. They don't. And I try. I tried so hard. I have my, you know, like my little tight black Condom World T shirt on and we're in a. It's like a lower level store and people would come down the stairs and you would wait five seconds and then you'd say, hey, how you doing today? To make them feel at ease. I don't know that that made them feel at ease because I said it just like that. Hey, how you doing? So, and also you were supposed to upsell. So, you know, there was everything. There was a wall of condoms, literally like a wall of condoms. And there was everything from the lowest of the low, which is a lifestyles condom, because that has the lowest rate of success. And also the condom that I lost my virginity with, go figure, all the way up to these very expensive, very thin Japanese condoms, which is what you were supposed to get people to buy. And so I would try, you know, people would come over and if they lingered in front of the wall of condoms for more than two seconds, you were supposed to say, you know, oh, can I help you today? And it was full of, you know, I had heard every line after like a month at this job, you know, do you have a dressing room or, you know, are the Japanese ones really smaller? They are, but also the best. So things weren't really working out as I had hoped. And I quickly sort of got demoted to, you know, I literally was like mopping the floors at Condom World, which is not as gross as it sounds, but I was doing things like that. And like, I wasn't even allowed to count out the till. And meanwhile, I'm up front, you know, sort of looking through. We have many books on sexual positions and I'm looking through those and educating myself as, you know, my much cooler Condom World co workers are having anal sex, unprotected anal sex in the back office while I'm working. So this is a very sad time in my life. Right, I know, I know, I know. So it's a very sad time in my life. But also around this time, people heard, oh, she works at Condom World. Oh, that's the greatest job. Oh, you know, like they automatically make assumptions about you. And the assumption was like, oh, she's super sexy and free and she's getting laid all the time. And, you know, she's got all these, like, mad skills, which I did in my head. And that's how Matt saw me. And Matt was a friend of one of my best friends. And he was a very sweet, sort of wannabe TV writer that I went to college with who would be best described as maybe looking like Steve from Blue's Clues, which is not an insult. He was adorable. And he asked me out, and we started to date. Google it. And so we went on a few dates. And it was very clear from early on that there was no chemistry and everything that was happening was very first base. And I had heard from our mutual friend Heather that he was a bit of a man whore because he was going on a lot of dates. And so I thought, well, this will be good. This will be good way to get me sort of, like, over the X that I'm still fucking and, you know, like, I'll be able to move on. So I persevered and we kept going on dates. And so one night he's over my apartment and we're drinking a lot of, like, iced tea or water or something because it's like July or August, and I live in a basement. And not only do I live in a basement, but I sleep in a closet within the basement because it's a studio apartment. And the closet allows me to put my bed in there. It was a large closet, and it was like a sleeping alcove, kind of. And I had a roommate. So he's over, and my roommate's away for the evening, and we get to talking or watching a movie or whatever, and time passes and he misses his train, so he says, can I stay over? So I say, sure, you know, on the couch, because I was trying to take things slow. And he's like, oh, but you have a fan in the closet. And it just looks so much nicer in there. So much more comfortable in your twin bed in the closet. So I allow him into the closet and I fall asleep. And you know how, like, when you're not used to sleeping with somebody and you sort of, like, you're half asleep and you sense their present, but you're not really sure who it is. So that's what was happening. And I think somewhere in my brain I think, well, this is my ex slash fuck buddy. And yes. And so I sort of am half awake and I start, like, rubbing up against Matt, not my ex. And I sort of, you know. Then he responds, because he's like, yes. And, you know, then it's all a blur. We're making out. He's like, ripping my top off. He's ripping my panties off. He's going down on me. And I'm like, he is definitely a man whore because he knows what the fuck he is doing down there. So I come pretty fast and then I'm like, well, I'm gonna return the favor. So I do, and he comes pretty fast and it's fine. And then it gets really awkward again and he's like, kind of quiet and he's like, can I get you a drink? And I'm like, no, I'm good. And I go to sleep and I'm kind of regretful about the whole thing because I'm thinking, like, we weren't, you know, like, I wasn't really wanting this to happen yet. Fall asleep, wake up the next morning, we promise to call each other. We don't. Ten years pass, our mutual friend gets married. I see him there. He doesn't look like Steve from Blue's Clues anymore. He's grown like three feet, and now he's quite handsome. And, you know, I'm feeling bad because I kind of like blew him off after I blew him. But anyway, it's fine. Then a couple more years pass and now we're in the days of MySpace and I see that he is friends with our mutual friend. So I send him a friend request, you know, why not? And he's like, very surprised and yet happy to hear from me. And we chat and we've both been married and divorced by now, and it's all good, you know, and we exchange email addresses. And then a little while later, I receive an email message from him and the subject line says overshare question mark. And the only text in it is a link to a blog. And it's his blog. And at the time, Matt had like a relatively well traveled blog that, you know, got a fair amount of traffic. And some of the posts he would be like, answer, you know, like, ask me anything or something like that. And this link is to one that says, what is your most embarrassing sexual experience? And I'm like, why is he sending this to me? But I start to read, and I start reading a story of. He describes a girl that he went to college with and she's super sexual and very confident and has lots of skills and she worked at a sex shop. And she's like a bombshell. And I'm like, that's not me, is it? I continue to read and it talks about how he was over her house one night and it's late, and she, you know, she invites him to sleep in the closet. She kind of throws him on the bed, has her way with him. And he's like, despite the fact, you know, he had good kissing skills, he's totally psyched and yet completely weirded out because he's a virgin. Oh, it gets better. A virgin with excellent kissing skills and a virgin who was able to rip my panties off and suck my clit right into his mouth, even though he had never seen a woman naked in real life before. And so then he goes on to explain how she returned the favor. And they must have taught her some really good kisses skills at Condom World, because this was amazing. Even though he never had a blow job before. And he's like, it's building. It's building. He can't help it anymore. He just lets go and he pees into her mouth. My mouth. Right. As you might imagine, I also had a lot of questions. So many. Because now it's like 15 years later, and I'm like, you know, I wasn't super experienced then, but I'm pretty sure I can tell the difference between semen and urine. So I email him back, this didn't happen, did it? Did you add that for comedic effect? And he swears up and down that this did. Why do you think I offered you the glass of water afterwards? So Now I'm embarrassed 15 years later because I'm like, how would I not know that? I still don't think this happened. It's like a mystery for the ages. We still don't know. And in the end, though, I mean, that blog he sent me was kind of a gift because I felt here is someone who saw me in a way that I never saw myself as this sort of very sexual, confident bombshell of a little girl, really, at 19, and just for a moment, I was the coolest Condom World employee ever. Because, as one of the commenters on his blog noted, she didn't have to swallow, but she did. Thank you, guys.
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Musical Performer (Madonna Cover)
I can give you everything that you want. Get off my pole. Get off my pole. You can't buy this at no luxury St. Get off my pole. Get off my pole. There's a place you got to go before I let you take it all. It's like a drug, it should be illegal. Baby, you should get down low and drink my precious alcohol. You look so thirsty. I think you made it. Kiss it, kiss it.
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Don't it taste like holy water? Don't it Taste like holy water Kiss it Don't it taste like holy water?
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Kiss it, kiss it I can teach you all the things you don't know bitch get off my pole get off my pole it's rare like make it something you wanna own get off my pole get off my pole there's something you gotta hear it's secret and a immaculate I can let you in heaven's door I promise you it's not a sin Find salvation We can do it here on the floor Kiss it, kiss it don't it taste like molly water?
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Make it don't it taste like water?
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Kiss it don't it taste like molly water? Kiss the.
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Don'T it taste like holy water? Like holy water? Don't it taste like holy water?
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Bless yourself and genuflect don't it taste like holy water?
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Like holy water? Don't it taste like holy water?
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If you like it, please confess don't.
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It taste like holy water? Like holy water? Don't it taste like holy water?
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Bless yourself and genuflect don't it taste like holy water?
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Like holy water? Don't it taste like holy water?
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Jesus loves my best Ladies with an attitude don't just stand there don't just stand there don't just stand there let's get to it Strike a pose there's nothing to it there's something you gotta hear it's sacred and immaculate I promise you it's not a sin Find salvation deep within.
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Kiss it Don't it taste like holy water?
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Make it water, make it water don't.
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It taste like holy water?
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Kiss it, make it don't it taste like holy water? Kiss it, kiss it.
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Don'T it taste like holy water? Like holy water? Don't it taste like holy water?
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Bless yourself and genuine fact don't it.
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Taste like holy water? Like holy water? Don't it taste like holy water?
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Jesus loves my Jesus loves my pussy best.
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Dixie Delator
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Jessica Saratani
You have to understand the San Franciscans that when you get one of you in London town with one of us, we think we're in for like the hottest, filthiest, nastiest, most fucked up night of our lives. Your reputation precedes you.