Bawdy Storytelling – Episode 91: "Dipstick" (Dara M. Wilson)

Podcast: Bawdy Storytelling
Host: Dixie De La Tour
Episode Date: October 4, 2019
Storyteller: Dara M. Wilson

Episode Overview

This episode features the storytelling prowess of Dara M. Wilson, who shares a humorous, sex-positive, and authentic account of both erotic mishap and creative exploration in her sex life. True to Bawdy Storytelling’s ethos—raw, unscripted, and celebratory of honesty—Dara narrates a memorable night with her ex, Jason, that blends comedy, awkwardness, and a message of openness to pleasure. The episode is hosted by Dixie De La Tour, whose intro and outro frame the story with her characteristic warmth and enthusiasm.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

Host's Updates and Pre-Story Highlights (01:12 – 12:47)

• Dixie’s Recap of Recent Bawdy Shows

  • Describes producing ten shows in ten weeks, including standout events: the Folsom Street Fair (largest kink event in the US) and memorable stories like Melaina Williams Haas’ pony play, which included a near-mystical moment when the "pony" persona took over after a lighting failure.
  • “My dream of having a story from a human pony, so much better than I ever expected. The pony took over, spoke into the mic and told us about what it’s like to be a pony...” (05:56)

• Personal Adventure: Fireboat Photo Shoot

  • Dixie recounts an unplanned adventure to get photos taken on a San Francisco fireboat—demonstrates her philosophy that embracing experiences creates great stories.
  • Humorous attempts to win over firemen with gourmet donuts ("We’re here to bribe you with donuts.") and stories about feeding seagulls and facing her self-consciousness.

• Connecting Pleasure to Everyday Life

  • Dixie encourages listeners to "reconnect with yourself and prioritize your pleasure," promoting self-care and the playful spirit of the podcast (10:55).

Dara M. Wilson’s Story: “Dipstick” (12:47 – 24:56)

Setting the Scene (12:47 – 14:45)

• Dara opens with gratitude to the crowd and a self-deprecating quip:
  • “It’s like you think I know how to suck my own dick. I don’t and I can’t. So I’m gonna stick to what I do know.” (12:49)
• Halloween tradition with her ex-boyfriend Jason—costumes always geeky, never sexy. That year, she’d nailed a triple "Wilson" costume (from Castaway, House, and Home Improvement).

The Night in Question: Building Anticipation (14:45 – 16:20)

• Describes party atmosphere and Jason, her "cocaine chic" boyfriend:
  • “He kind of looks like Jesse Williams…more gaunt, like American Gothic. He didn’t do drugs, but he looked like he did drugs. And that’s kind of my sweet spot.” (15:08)
• Feels empowered to initiate sex after being previously critiqued for not being the "sexual aggressor."

The Sexual Mishap (16:20 – 18:54)

• They sneak away from the party; Dara enjoys the exhibitionistic thrill of possibly being seen.
• Initiates oral sex, then sex—but is hit by blinding, unfamiliar vaginal pain:
  • “I feel a pain in my vagina like I have never experienced in my life. It’s searing and bright and shooting out to my fingertips and my toes. It is horrible.” (17:34)
• Attempts to continue ("turn over?") but Dara is nervous and overthinks things—Jason gently clarifies he only wants to perform oral sex:
  • “Hang on, calm down. Stop spinning. I’m just talking about using my tongue. And I’ll do it until you fall asleep. And that's what he did.” (18:38)

The Morning After: "Research" and the Quest for an Answer (18:54 – 21:48)

• Dara adopts humor—her vagina “is broken,” she needs to “take her gal to the shop.”
• Recounts awkward, unfulfilling visit to her disliked gynecologist, Dr. Benny—no medical explanation found.
  • “She is not as gentle as Jason.” (20:48)
• The couple decides to investigate alternative forms of pleasure—brunch with bottomless mimosas turns into research via Google and a trip to Good Vibrations.

Discovery & Resolution: A New Path to Pleasure (21:48 – 24:56)

• Dara and Jason, post-champagne, buy toys and lube, preparing for their “research.”
• Nervousness gives way to intimacy—they try anal sex (for the first time).
  • Dara lightens the mood with nervous jokes:
    • “I’m the kind of person that jokes when they’re nervous. So I’m like cracking jokes and he’s like, shut up…” (23:53)
• The experiment pays off—she experiences her best orgasm yet:
  • “Inside that rhythm, I find the greatest feeling and the best orgasm I had ever had to date. Research always pays off. That’s the lesson there.” (24:34)
  • The story concludes with Dara celebrating sexual creativity and adaptability:
    • “…even after my vagina took leave of me for reasons that are still unknown, I found a new way with my partner to find pleasure.” (24:49)

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• Dixie De La Tour on Bawdy’s Ethos:
  “Stories make everything better, don’t they? The things you have to do, like getting your inbox to zero or making dinner every single day, it can make you feel like you haven’t taken a deep breath since yesterday. Well, why not take a moment to reconnect with yourself and prioritize your pleasure…” (10:55)

• Dara M. Wilson’s Humor Amidst Crisis:
  “I got a girl down. Like, my vagina is broken. I don’t know why I’ve gotta take my gal to the shop. Like, let’s pop the hood, rotate the tires. Something about a dipstick. Car jokes, you know what I mean?” (19:50)

• About Communication and Consent:
  “I just feel like I haven’t done my research, and if I could do some more research, like, I’d be more comfortable... Because if I’m not comfortable, you’re not gonna be comfortable. So we should do research. We should do research together. You know how much I love research.” (18:25)

• On Adaptation and Pleasure:
  “Research always pays off. That’s the lesson there. It was just so. It was nice. It was really lovely that even after my vagina took leave of me for reasons that are still unknown, I found a new way with my partner to find pleasure.” (24:34)

Important Timestamps

• 12:47 – Dara’s story introduction
• 14:15 – Halloween party and costume humor
• 15:08 – Description of Jason/"cocaine chic" attraction
• 17:34 – Painful sexual mishap described
• 18:38 – Jason’s gentle clarification and comfort
• 19:50 – “I got a girl down…”: car jokes & humor
• 21:00 – Visit to the gynecologist
• 21:48 – “Let’s do some research”—Good Vibrations adventure
• 23:53 – Nervous jokes during anal sex attempt
• 24:34 – Breakthrough orgasm, lesson about research

Episode Tone & Takeaways

• Tone: Irreverent, funny, honest, and sex-positive, reflecting both Bawdy Storytelling's ethos and Dara’s comedic style.
• Core Messages: Openness to communication and “research” in relationships is vital; pleasure can take unexpected forms; humor and authenticity are powerful tools for navigating sexual mishaps.
• Final Thought: Even when things don’t go as planned, creativity, vulnerability, and a touch of humor can lead to deeper connection and incredibly satisfying experiences.

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