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Susie Welch (1:02)
Hi everyone, I'm Susie Welch and this is part two of the Becoming youg series we're calling who's Afraid of Becoming you? Welcome for the First Time? Or welcome back to Becoming youg for the 50th time, the podcast where each week we walk alongside you lovingly and supportingly, but also very realistically on your journey to living authentically. I'm so happy you're here. So one time, like four years ago, I asked everyone I worked with to write down the first word that came to their mind when my name popped up on their phone screen. Like when I called them, they saw Susie Welch on their phone. What word came to their mind? That's what I wanted to know. And I made them each write it down on a little piece of paper. And I passed a hat around so I could anonymously see how I was being experienced. So in came the responses. What my colleagues felt when they saw my name, Susie Welch, on their phone. One person was like, oh shit, did I forget something? And another person was like, something's up. And one darling suck up wrote, caring. All right, so it was mainly stuff you would expect, but mixed into the pile there was a little piece of paper folded in half ten times, and on it there was one word. Machine. Machine. Well, I knew immediately who wrote this about me and we will hear from her later in the podcast because, you know I ran to her and said, explain this. Please explain this machine part of me, please, I need to know. Even though I don't really want to hear what you have to say, I should hear what you have to say. And that, dear listeners, is the topic of today's podcast, why we must and how we can face into the biggest, scariest mystery in the universe ourselves. So last week, in the first episode of our Be Not Afraid series, I made the case that to find your purpose, to find out where you're going, you have no choice. At some point, you have to figure out who you are standing still. It's like that old saying, if you don't know where you're going, any old road will do. And that is why becoming you as a methodology basically says, we cannot begin to talk about your purpose out there until we excavate inside here. And by excavate inside here, I mean identify your true values, your true aptitudes, and your true interest. Yes, it takes an excavation. You know, the Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung said, I love this quote, people will do anything, no matter how absurd, to avoid facing their own souls. And that is so true. It's too true. Which is why really, underneath it all, that I invented the Values bridge, the digital tool we use in becoming you to identify your values and tell you how much you're living by them. So much noise gets between us and an honest reckoning of our values. So much it doesn't make a bit of difference how smart you are or how much therapy you've had or how hard you're trying to be honest. There's always going to be the static of a parent in our heads telling us who we can and cannot be. There's going to be the desire not to have a fight with someone we love about the truth of who we really are. There's going to be a baby in the next room crying and making you feel guilty. Or this ever present problem. Pressure sense, I've got to make more money. I call these blockers the four horsemen of values destruction. And we've talked about them before on this podcast. There's expectations, which is what the world expects of us or what we expect of ourselves. Expedients, just the simple human desire to take the path of least resistance. Okay, events, just big life events that just drop into our lives and get in the way of us living our values. And then economic security, which I noticed. The desire, the pressure for just good old money. These dynamics can just gallop away with our values. And so finally, I created this digital tool the Values Bridge. Basically, the test outwits you in a very scientifically validated way into revealing your true values and into revealing how much you're actually living each one. We call that distance the authenticity gap, and the Values Bridge measures it value by value, and then overall. But here's the thing. To take the Values bridge to find out your values in stark, unvarnished detail, and to realize how much of them you're living or not living, to find out your authenticity gaps. That requires courage. It does. And that is sometimes courage we do not have.
