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Host
This is a Headgum podcast.
Nicole
Hello, Sasha.
Sasheer
Hello, Nicole.
Nicole
How are you? I'm good.
Sasheer
How are you? How are you, Allie?
Host
Wow.
Sasheer
Ally, my God, she's drunk.
Nicole
She's like, nobody's asked me. I am okay. Yeah. I had a tooth pulled.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
So I. I feel a little just like sore. Of course, not as bad as when I had my wisdom teeth pulled.
Sasheer
Okay.
Nicole
That's good because I was awake for that. And I had a root canal, I think, at the same time. And I felt crazy after.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
And I drove home after and I was like, oh, my God, that's not safe.
Host
No.
Nicole
And then I had a therapy.
Sasheer
They didn't put you.
Nicole
They didn't put me under. No. But I had a horrific traumatic experience for hours.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Where my mouth was open and there was people in me. And then I had a therapy appointment that I didn't cancel. So I was like sobbing on the side of the road, being like, mary, they took my teeth. And in hindsight, pretty dramatic. Pretty dramatic.
Sasheer
Taking your teeth is dramatic. They did take your teeth.
Nicole
They did. They took em. But this time I got put under. Cause I kept saying, I'm scared. And she was very, very nice. And I remember them putting a thing in my arm. And then the lady was like, do you want something stronger for after? And I said, if you don't mind. Cause the pain that I have or that I had last time was too much. And she goes, okay. And then she goes, what's your pharmacy? And I told her, she was like, can I get send it to the pharmacy downstairs? And I said, sure. And then I remember being like, keep your eyes open so you know when you fall asleep. And then I was like, when are you going to take my tooth? And they're like, we took it. And I was like, what? It was wild this year.
Sasheer
Why did you want your eyes open?
Nicole
Because I wanted to know when I was going to fall asleep.
Sasheer
But what? Like would like to see how fast the medicine would kick in or I.
Nicole
Wanted to know when it was going to kick in. Okay. But I didn't know at all. Yeah. And they just took my tooth. But they gave it to me. So they didn't take it.
Sasheer
Oh, that's nice.
Nicole
They took it out of me and gave it to me.
Sasheer
The last experience would have been better if they gave you your teeth.
Nicole
The last experience would have been better if they had put me out and not left an instrument in my mouth.
Sasheer
Yeah. Yeah. That would have been mild.
Nicole
I think that would have been optimal. Best case scenario, five stars. Yeah.
Sasheer
What are you going to do with your teeth now that you have it?
Nicole
People keep saying, make it into a necklace. I'm not that kind of girl. She's glamour. Like, I'm not wearing my teeth. You could bling it out, Sashir. I'm not that kind of girl. I'm not wearing my teeth.
Sasheer
Got it.
Nicole
I don't know what I'm gonna do. Well, the piece of the tooth that broke off that is currently in my wallet.
Sasheer
Mm.
Nicole
This tooth is too dang big, I think, for my wallet. Sashiro, it's huge.
Sasheer
It looks big. The picture that you sent look big.
Nicole
I can't believe it was in my mouth.
Sasheer
Teeth are huge. Yeah. Cause, like, there's, like, a large part past the gum.
Nicole
Yeah. Teeth have feet.
Sasheer
They have those hidden feet that they don't talk about. They have.
Nicole
They got four little feet. They're crazy. Teeth are crazy. The human body is sick as hell.
Sasheer
It's sick.
Nicole
It's disgusting.
Sasheer
So is it now just a hole in your mouth?
Nicole
I have bone graft in this mouth.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
So, yeah, about hoes in the house. Yeah. Yeah. But you change it to a hole in my mouth.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Yeah. It's very quick.
Sasheer
Thank you.
Nicole
There is technically, I guess, a hole. A hole in my mouth, but there's bone graft in there. We even talked about this.
Sasheer
I think you mentioned it. I didn't know if it was happening, like, right after the surgery or if there's another step eventually.
Nicole
Well, there was an infection.
Sasheer
Oh, no.
Nicole
Which is why the tooth had to get pulled. So there was an instrument in me and an infection, and she was gross. She was like, I really had to scrape that infection out. And I was like, okay, you don't have to make me feel even more disgusting than I currently feel. She's infected. She's infected in patient zero. But then I guess after you scrape out infection, bone graft goes in. Okay. Which is cow bone and dead people bone. So I'm concerned that one day I'll wake up mooing or be possessed by whoever dead person bone is in me. By whoever dead person bone is in me. That was a terrible sentence. I know. I went to school, but sometimes it doesn't feel like it.
Sasheer
But we can blame it on the drugs.
Nicole
Thank you. Yes. I've been on some mild drugs that have put me right to sleep.
Sasheer
Do they. Is the dead person bone that's in you, is it also tooth, or do we not know what kind of bone it is?
Nicole
I didn't ask. Yeah, I figured it'd be tooth for Tooth.
Sasheer
That would make sense.
Nicole
But maybe it's just other bone.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
How do they get the bone? What? Whoa. What? Howard, What?
Sasheer
I guess.
Nicole
What?
Sasheer
Because aren't some. Because I guess if you're an organ donor, maybe. But that's not an organ.
Nicole
No, it's a bone. And that's like saving lives. This is vanity. This is pure vanity. I just don't want a hole in my mouth. I don't know. I don't know.
Sasheer
Sometimes I don't. I think. I feel like there are a lot of theories as to what happens with.
Nicole
Bodies.
Sasheer
After they pass.
Nicole
Yeah. Some end up in museums. Yeah. The bodies exhibit. Yeah. Some end up in the ground burials. Some end up burnt up, cremation. Some are buried at sea.
Sasheer
Yeah. Some are just in the water. There was a story about this man who I think donated his mom's body to science. And then I don't even know how he found this out, but her body ended up being used as, like, a crash dummy for, like, for Volvo. I have no idea. Are they known for that? Why did you pick Volvo specifically? I don't know what brand of car it was.
Nicole
Volvos are really safe.
Sasheer
Oh, okay. So you're like, she helped the cause.
Nicole
So I was like, they probably use, like, real people. Cause they're so safe.
Sasheer
Maybe. I don't know. I don't know how many car companies actually use real bodies. But, yeah, she was used for as.
Nicole
Like, a. I mean, that's science. That's.
Sasheer
Yeah, I guess that's. I guess that is. But I think he was, like, hoping it'd be like, she helps solve a disease or something, as opposed to just throw in a car, like, hit a wall.
Nicole
Honestly, I wouldn't mind that. Yeah. Maybe I'll donate my body to science and write specifically. Give me the Volvo. I want to help them. I want to help them with the cars.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Do you want to donate your body?
Sasheer
I think I want to be cremated. I think I don't want anyone to do anything to my body.
Nicole
In the original version of my will, before I was told that I can't force people to do things, I had written that I wanted my sister to take my cremated remains to the airport and then dump me out at the departure gate, because you're not going to go home. You got to make that flight. So I go to a lot of different places, but I feel like, isn't.
Sasheer
There a law against that? I think so.
Nicole
I think she go right to jail.
Sasheer
Yeah. You can't. You can't put, like, remains on humans. On people who didn't ask for this.
Nicole
Yeah, but I want to go on trips international. Don't take me to Burbank. Yeah, take me to lax. You go places. You know how I feel about Burbank. That's not a real airport.
Sasheer
Yeah, but it's so small and quick.
Nicole
I don't like it. I feel like it's cosplaying as an airport. It's disgusting. These people are flying domestic. Like, I just. I don't know. I want to be with world travelers also. Sasheer, can you tell that I'm like, glowing? There's glitter all over me.
Sasheer
I do see a shimmer on you.
Nicole
So I talked about using lotion on this podcast, and the nice man in my life, his sister was like, oh, I went to this store and I got you soaps that also have lotions in them. So I got out of the shower and I was like, whoa, my skin is soft. And then I put on my glasses and I was like, I'm also covered in glitter. My whole body is covered in glitter.
Sasheer
Soap has glitter.
Nicole
I didn't realize that the soap had glitter.
Sasheer
Oh, but that's a weird choice for the soap company.
Nicole
Yes.
Sasheer
Why would they want to add glitter to it?
Nicole
I don't know why they sell it to a grown up lady who said, I'm buying it for another grown up lady. And they're like, maybe she didn't say those words.
Sasheer
I'm buying this soap lotion for my grown up lady friend.
Nicole
And I feel like my skin feel was smooth. Really smooth. Yeah, I like the results, minus the glitter. I've had to wash my hands eight times because I keep touching my body. And then I'd be like, there's more glitter on me.
Sasheer
Wait, so does the glitter transfer to other things? Like, are you leaving glitter on your clothes and on the.
Nicole
I'm pretty sure, fabric?
Sasheer
I can definitely see the glitter on your legs.
Nicole
Yes. I think there's glitter on the inside of my pant legs.
Sasheer
That's so strange. Why would anyone think people wanted that?
Nicole
I don't know. Maybe they're trying to teach me a lesson for not using lotion for so long.
Sasheer
Or maybe they're like, you see the spots that don't have glitter. You need to put moisture on that.
Nicole
You didn't wash that part. Yeah, but I wash myself good. There is glitter all over me. And it's funny because you can see where you didn't wash, because I washed my face with face wash, so my face did not have glitter. But down had glitter.
Sasheer
I Mean, thank God. Like, you don't want glitter on your face. That'll also be there forever.
Nicole
Yes, yes, yes, yes. Well, I didn't want to put that on because I don't put body soap on my face.
Sasheer
Yeah, I don't either.
Nicole
I put face wash on my face.
Sasheer
It's different for some reason.
Nicole
For some reason our faces are different. I think it's because it's more sensitive skin skiing.
Sasheer
Yeah, I can see that.
Nicole
Where's this sweater from? Other people skiing.
Sasheer
There's people skiing on the sweater. They're going places.
Nicole
They are up. Yeah. Which is kind of crazy. They should be going down, right?
Sasheer
Oh, I guess so. But then someone told me that, like, when you ski, you are going uphill.
Nicole
No.
Sasheer
And I still don't understand.
Nicole
No. Do you guys understand that's a lie?
Sasheer
I don't understand.
Nicole
Whoever told you that was messing with you.
Sasheer
But I think it's like, when you're carving or, like, go like zigzagging or something, sometimes you are going up.
Nicole
So she. You're absolutely not.
Sasheer
It doesn't make sense to me.
Nicole
No. Because you take that.
Sasheer
The thingy up for sure, you're going.
Nicole
Up that hill, and then you end up the gondola.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
And then you got to take the God back up if you want to ski some more.
Sasheer
I know.
Nicole
Whoever told you that was really trying to mess with your brain.
Sasheer
It still messes with me.
Nicole
They want you to look stupid. They want you to say that on your podcast. Hundreds of people to hear.
Sasheer
Or maybe they were saying, you have to look up, like you're looking up at the mountain. And I was like, when would you look up at the mountain? They're like, when you're turning. And I was like, but aren't you going down? Wouldn't you be looking forward the whole time? Maybe that's just snowboarding, because I feel like skiing. You have to go forward the whole time.
Nicole
I don't know. Whoever you're talking to, you up. Wait. This is so wild. I'm 100% sure. Maybe you don't look down. Maybe you look up. Like with roller skating, you're not supposed to look down. You're supposed to look ahead. Maybe that's what they meant.
Sasheer
I really feel like she was saying, like, the mountain behind you, you're looking at it. I don't. I don't know when. Oh, I guess, because. Okay, so if you're. Okay, you're snowboarding, you kind of. You're kind of like, your feet are side to side. So you do have to, like, be perpendicular to the mountain at some point. And then I guess when you turn, maybe your back's now towards downhill.
Nicole
This is. So Should I call someone who knows how to snowboard?
Sasheer
Sure.
Nicole
Okay. Who do you know that nice man in my life? His brother. Brother in law.
Sasheer
Okay, great. We're gonna phone a friend.
Nicole
Do we know what the question is?
Sasheer
Are there times when you're snowboarding when you are looking up at the mountain, looking uphill?
Nicole
Okay, let's see if he answers. He has a job.
Sasheer
Stop what you're doing. Stop what you're doing.
Nicole
I have a question. See if he hates this.
Sasheer
Hey, Nicole.
Nicole
Hi, Kramer. Okay, you're on speakerphone. I am recording a podcast. I have a question about snowboarding. You can say, no, thank you.
Sasheer
Let's do it.
Nicole
Okay, Sasheer, what is the question?
Sasheer
When. Hi, Shashir.
Nicole
Hi there.
Sasheer
When you're snowboarding, are there moments when you are. When your body is turned in a way that you are looking up, uphill, like up at the mountain behind you? Absolutely, absolutely.
Nicole
Why? Why?
Sasheer
When you turn, you're either on your heel edge or on your toe edge. And when you're on your toe edge, your. Your body is kind of facing perpendicular, but your. But your head is somewhat uphill. You should be looking forward, but you. You have an opportunity where your body is facing the mountain, essentially.
Nicole
Oh, and it's a good idea to.
Sasheer
Look behind you in case somebody is coming down faster or you're cutting somebody off.
Nicole
Oh, and you're going downhill. Yep.
Sasheer
Wow. Wow.
Nicole
Okay.
Sasheer
Okay.
Nicole
Thank you, Kramer.
Host
Of course.
Sasheer
Nice to hear from you.
Nicole
Nice to hear from you. Bye. Bye.
Sasheer
Bye. Bye. Wow.
Nicole
Okay. So whoever you were talking to knew what they were talking about.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
But here's the thing. It was explained. I still don't really understand.
Sasheer
No, neither. It was fully explained to me the first time, and I was like, I still don't get it. Yeah, your toe edge.
Nicole
Oh, okay. I guess not the whole time. But since you're going down the mountain that way, you want to look behind you if you are cutting somebody off or if someone's coming down really fast.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
So I think you're looking, looking, looking, looking. I think we solved that.
Sasheer
I thought it was like, you truly are like your body's turned cause you're carving. Yeah.
Nicole
You're like. So you have heel, toe, and you're like. I see. Sometimes it's your back and sometimes it's your front facing the top of the mountain. This is crazy, because I feel like Kramer just said that, and I was like, got it. And then I was like, here's something totally different.
Sasheer
Yeah, you just made up a whole new theory because you're looking, you're turning your head.
Nicole
You didn't say that, but now I get it. When you go that way, you are looking behind, and then you go, ah, yeah. Should we go snowboarding now? I don't know. Now my phone's making lots of noises.
Sasheer
Oh, the potato.
Nicole
The potato wants.
Sasheer
Camera's like, I got more there. All right.
Nicole
The potatoes on do not disturb.
Sasheer
I can't tell if I would want. Well, I don't not. I don't really want to be cold. I don't really do a winter sport, but a lot of people I know do them. So it does seem like it could be fun.
Nicole
Well, I heard that you get chicken nuggets at the top of the mountain.
Sasheer
I've never heard that before in my life. At every mountain, any mountain that we go to, we can get chicken nuggets.
Nicole
I was told. I Kraber said, hey, Nicole, you want. You want to go skiing? There's chicken nuggets at the top of the mountain. And I said, I get a view and chicken nuggets. And I was like, I think I'll go skiing. But maybe not a maybe just the mountain he goes to.
Sasheer
I don't know. I don't know. I didn't hear that. I don't know either reason.
Nicole
Maybe they're telling me a story. Maybe there is no chicken at the top. There probably are.
Sasheer
There probably is chicken.
Nicole
And you know me, I'm on the hunt for chicken. Specifically spicy chicken from Middletown High School South.
Sasheer
Yes, but we got an email, didn't we? We did, yes.
Nicole
And I knew about this.
Sasheer
It was sent this morning. But you don't check your email.
Nicole
You know I don't. You know I don't. I'm learning all the time in real time, too. What does the email say?
Host
A listener found your middle school menu.
Nicole
My high school menu.
Host
Our high school menu.
Nicole
Yeah.
Host
Online and sent it. And spicy chicken, I think is on Wednesdays.
Nicole
Wednesdays. Wow, that's nice. I moved it to right in the middle of week. Something to look forward to every Monday.
Sasheer
And keep it going for the rest of the week.
Nicole
What is the rest of the menu? Let me pull it up. That's crazy that they have a posted menu somewhere.
Sasheer
Yeah. Why is it online for everybody to see?
Nicole
Maybe more people can just show us.
Sasheer
Oh, you know what? I'm in the neighborhood.
Nicole
I would like some spicy chicken.
Host
Middletown High School's current menu is Is.
Nicole
It north or south? Or does it just say Middletown?
Host
It says it's plural. Middletown High schools. Okay, so it might be both. There's a lot of different stations. Okay. It's saying available daily. Pizza, pepperoni pizza, vegetable pizza. And then at the Coyote Grill.
Nicole
The Coyote. We didn't have a Coyote Grill.
Host
There's nachos, Mexican rice and veggies, tacos.
Sasheer
Sounds good.
Host
At Miss Ruby's.
Nicole
Miss Ruby's, which I think this is.
Host
There must be just different food stations. You can get hamburgers or cheeseburgers, turkey burgers, veggie burgers. I guess these are all saying it's available daily.
Nicole
Wow, this is a lot available daily.
Sasheer
Is this like a food court?
Nicole
Is this a Sizzler?
Host
And then there's the Great American, which is the sandwich station. And then there's assorted Boar's Head cold cuts.
Nicole
That there.
Sasheer
Wow.
Nicole
Wow. Boar's Head.
Sasheer
Okay.
Host
And. Well, and at Miss Ruby's, along with the hamburgers, cheeseburgers, and turkey burgers, that's where you can get the crispy and spicy chicken.
Nicole
Wow, that's crazy.
Sasheer
That's really elaborate for a high school.
Nicole
Don't remember our cafeteria being that big.
Sasheer
Yeah. I feel like that's what my college cafeteria was like, where we had, like, restaurants inside the cafeteria.
Nicole
You had restaurants inside the cafeteria?
Host
Yeah.
Sasheer
The only one I can remember is.
Nicole
Chick Fil A. Wow.
Sasheer
But South.
Nicole
That's the one you remember. Wow.
Sasheer
She's a bigot.
Nicole
Wow. She loves Chick Fil a On Sundays. She doesn't eat.
Sasheer
I just don't eat, period. Let's get a break.
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Nicole
And we're back.
Sasheer
We're back. That's wild. Will you go down to on Wednesdays to get Miss Ruby's spicy chicken?
Nicole
Well, I asked if you would come with me, and you said no.
Sasheer
I said yes eventually.
Nicole
Oh, yeah.
Sasheer
Then you sweetened it with a romantic hotel getaway in the Poconos. It was a romantic hotel getaway.
Nicole
Yes, I remember now. Yeah. If you come with me and if we go to the Poconos to sit in that champagne flute. Or no, I think it's a coupe. A champagne coupe Bathtub. We're gonna go to Middletown High School south, and we're gonna get chicken fingers from Miss Ruby's.
Sasheer
Nice.
Nicole
Who's Miss Ruby?
Sasheer
I don't know.
Nicole
I don't know either.
Sasheer
They probably just made her up. Cause it's telling me the spicy chicken existed before Ms. Ruby did.
Nicole
Unless Ms. Ruby was there and she was just not acknowledged while I was in school.
Sasheer
Oh, yeah. Maybe they're like, we're finally acknowledging your.
Nicole
Contributions to the school. Maybe it's like, when I worked at Lame Giant, we had a model employee, and her name was Sophie, and Sophie did not exist. And we used to have, like, employee of the month. And I remember once I posted just a blank paper and wrote Sophie on it. And nobody thought it was funny. Nobody thought anything I did at Lane Bryant was funny.
Sasheer
That is funny.
Nicole
Thank you. Thank you. I thought it was so funny.
Sasheer
So wait, Sophie was supposed to inspire the other employees to be as good as Sophie?
Nicole
Yes. And in the, like, employee handbook, it was like, sophie does this. Sophie doesn't do this. Sophie sells that credit card. And then we all had to be like, Sophie. And then it was called Sophie's closet, but I would call it Sophie's Palooza. That's when we get 55 off stuff to buy.
Sasheer
Okay.
Nicole
They want you to wear the merch.
Sasheer
I see. I see. Wow.
Nicole
Yeah. I was not a model employee. Do you wanna know what I did?
Sasheer
Sure.
Nicole
I thought it was good.
Sasheer
Okay.
Nicole
They didn't think it was good. So you had to push the credit cards on people. You go, do you want to open a credit card to get 10 off your purchase. 10% off. $100 is $10. It's not really worth it to fuck up your credit and get a ding on your credit score. Yeah. So when people had huge purchases, like a thousand dollars, it's $100 off, or. No, it was 15% off, so it's like 150 off. I'd be like, hey, do you want to open a Lane Bryant credit card? And they go, I don't know. And I go, you'd save this much, this. This amount of money? And I'd be like, I don't know. Maybe we're gonna pay with a debit card today. And they'd be like, yes. And I go, open the Lane Bryant credit card. It will put a ding on your credit. But if you pay it off today, that is. That might, you know, increase it. Increase your credit score a little bit or not knock it as much.
Sasheer
Yeah. And they'd be like, oh, okay.
Nicole
And then my manager heard me doing that, was like, you can't do that. You can't have them open the credit card and, like, essentially close it the same day.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
And I was like, well, it open. I'm still opening the credit card.
Sasheer
Yeah, you still sold it.
Nicole
In fact, I'm opening more than most people because I'm giving them that option.
Sasheer
And you're helping them.
Nicole
Yes, but they didn't want me to help them. They wanted them to get into debt.
Sasheer
Rude.
Nicole
And pay that. That interest. Historic cards have insane interest. They do.
Sasheer
It's really wild that stores can have credit cards.
Nicole
Yes. Like that.
Sasheer
Anyone other than a bank can have a credit card.
Nicole
Yes. It's wild.
Sasheer
It's wild. It's also. While we even have a credit card system.
Nicole
Yeah.
Sasheer
It just keeps everyone in debt.
Nicole
Yes. I mean, the way we should explain credit cards to people is like, if you cannot pay that in full the next month, you can't afford it. And we don't do that. We just go buy now, pay later.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
It's crazy.
Sasheer
It's crazy.
Nicole
It's crazy. Do you have a credit card?
Sasheer
I do have a credit card.
Nicole
Oh, wait, I know this.
Sasheer
But I didn't have one until. Maybe after college. Yeah. Because I feel like my parents were like, you can have a debit card. And I just had a debit card because I was like, please don't spend.
Nicole
More than you have. And then. Yeah.
Sasheer
I can't remember when I actually signed up for my first credit card, but even then, I was still like, I'm scared to use it. I don't want to use it.
Nicole
And that's how you should be. I had so many credit cards.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
I had a Macy's card, a Macy's Visa. So I could use it at Macy's and other places. Oh, a hello Kitty Visa card. Okay. A capital one card. I think that was also Visa. And then maxed all of those out. And then after you max out credit cards, the real predatory ones start mailing you cards, being like, you can have this. You're just pre approved. This one has $500. You go, okay. You get another ones. Like this one has $500. You're like, oh, okay. And I just kept getting these like 500. I had like eight 500 limit cards that I just kept maxing out. It was wild.
Sasheer
Yeah, that's wild.
Nicole
Good times. Couldn't afford anything I was buying.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
So much stuff. Ugh.
Sasheer
When did you start closing them out?
Nicole
2008. Nice. Papa passed. And then I said, well, this will be the last time he helps me. And now I have the thing in the back of my mind, Once it's gone, it's gone. And that's what he used to say all the time. And now I get it. Now I get it. Once money's gone, it's gone.
Sasheer
Yeah, it's true.
Nicole
It is true. Where are these shoes from?
Sasheer
These are like old school. Like Velcro. Also describing to people who can't see it.
Nicole
Oh. I was like, oh, does she think I'm dumb?
Sasheer
It's a QVC commercial. So these are. Yeah. Velcro lace up Reebok sneakers.
Nicole
High tops.
Sasheer
High tops. And Tracy Morgan gave them to me.
Nicole
Oh.
Sasheer
Because I did last OG and he got a lot of the cast and crew, these old school Reeboks because I guess his character is like old school from New York. And I think it was like homage to that.
Nicole
And. Yeah, that's lovely. Yeah. Wow, look at you wearing your gift.
Sasheer
I actually have been doing that recently. I like stored a lot of like swag and things I've gotten from shows and was like, oh, I won't touch it. And I'm like, whatever, it's mine.
Nicole
Yeah, it's yours. Wear that shirt. Yeah, I'm trying to wear things that I bought that I was like, oh, but I love them and if I wear them, it'll wear them down. And I've been saying, fuck it, it's okay. Wear the things you like.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Like I've been trying to wear my rings more. Yeah. I'm like, what if I lose them? And it's like, well, that Means I had a nice time and I lost them.
Sasheer
Things are meant to be used.
Nicole
Things are meant to be used. Yeah. Yeah. Like, oh, and I got this this weekend.
Sasheer
I haven't seen it. Yeah, I like it.
Nicole
Yeah. I went to the Los Feliz flea market.
Sasheer
Oh, that's right.
Nicole
$5.
Sasheer
Wow.
Nicole
$20. Wow. $25. Wow.
Sasheer
This is all from the flea, huh? Oh, nice.
Nicole
I went wild.
Sasheer
That bracelet bend.
Nicole
No.
Sasheer
Okay.
Nicole
Oh.
Sasheer
Just sliding it off. There he goes. And you know what? If you didn't have moisture on your hand, it'd be much harder.
Nicole
So much harder.
Sasheer
Oh, I like it. Oh, I thought this was like. I thought this would be like.
Nicole
Like, flexible. Yeah.
Sasheer
Gummy. It's like, I feel like asmr.
Nicole
This.
Sasheer
This is a purple hard bracelet. A purple hard bracelet. One of those purple hard bracelets. It's made of metal and has a gold. Gold tip on it.
Nicole
And I don't know, Sashir. That sounded nasty. I don't know why.
Sasheer
Gold tip, gold tip.
Nicole
Purple hard bracelet, hard bracelet. Purple like an eggplant. Last night, I was watching Pole to Poll with Will Smith.
Sasheer
Speaking of eggplants, that title is wild. What? No one was like, Pole to Pole does sound like.
Nicole
It sounds insane.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
And it really fucking feels like Will Smith is going to these extremes to, like, avoid his wife.
Sasheer
I'm gonna get the furthest I can.
Nicole
The furthest I can from my wife. Which is, like, sad, because they bring me constant entertainment. I maintain nothing has happened at an award show that was funnier than him slapping Chris Rock.
Sasheer
Absolutely not.
Nicole
The Oscars are next month.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
What's gonna happen?
Sasheer
Nothing that can top that.
Nicole
No. But I. Here is. Here's my. My plea for the celebrities this February. Get wild.
Sasheer
Get wild. Get wild.
Nicole
Do something nuts. Yeah. Do something out of character.
Sasheer
Celebrities are getting a little bit more wild, and I like it.
Nicole
I like it, too.
Sasheer
All the, like, Ashley Tisdale mom drama. Like, great.
Nicole
I love it. Call each other out. Yeah.
Sasheer
Feuds are back.
Nicole
Dudes are back.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Kanye west apologized for all that he did.
Sasheer
That was pretty wild.
Nicole
And I said, I don't know if I'm sorry. We'll do so.
Sasheer
It's been a while.
Nicole
It's been a while. It's been a while.
Sasheer
And you've done a lot.
Nicole
You did a lot of things. You did a lot of things.
Sasheer
Yeah. But he's also sick.
Nicole
He is sick. And to that, I say put out an album, and maybe we'll think about that apology.
Sasheer
Yeah. And you put out, like, three really.
Nicole
Great albums in a Row quiet for a little bit.
Sasheer
Yeah. To make up for the fact that you made a song about Hitler. The fuck? What?
Nicole
It's really actually crazy.
Sasheer
It's crazy.
Nicole
He also sold T shirts with swastikasada, and he's like, oopsies. And I think there's a lot of mentally ill people out there, you know?
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
A lot of people who have swings and moods. I have swings and moods. Not once have I ever said, I'm gonna sell swastikas.
Sasheer
Yeah. Yeah.
Nicole
But maybe I'm not that sick.
Sasheer
But also not a competition to things that other people who are ill don't.
Nicole
Yeah.
Sasheer
You know, like, maybe they. Maybe other people would be doing this more, but they're just, like, screaming out to the ether, and he's like, I can actually make this happen.
Nicole
I can put this on the radio. Yeah.
Sasheer
That is.
Nicole
That is wild.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
I follow this lady. Or I don't follow her. She pops up on my for you page a lot. Her name is Stacy Kinnison, and the only reason why I know her name is because she says it before every video, and she says the wildest things.
Sasheer
Oh, no.
Nicole
She thinks Sandra Bullock is, like, after her.
Sasheer
I think you sent me one of these videos. Yeah.
Nicole
And she's, like, just saying things into the ether. But I feel like more people have, like, found her, and they'll comment. They'll be like, you better get Sandra Bullock. Or like, sandra Bullock is after you.
Sasheer
Or like, girl, like, watch out. She's coming out with a new movie for you. Yes.
Nicole
And I'm like, maybe that's not how we should respond to that.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
But also it's like, how should we respond?
Sasheer
I don't know her.
Nicole
Yeah. I don't know.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Times are getting wilder.
Sasheer
Times are getting very wild.
Nicole
And what we need is celebrities to be wild, not the regulars. I want the. The celebs to be wild. Wild, wild. Yeah. Also on Instagram. I was served. What is his name? He owns Amazon. Mr. Bae. Mr. Bae Bezos.
Sasheer
Mr. Bae. Yeah.
Nicole
Mr. Besos. His wife never looks good. It's, like, actually unhinged.
Sasheer
Yeah. You'd think with that much money.
Nicole
Yes, you. You would look good.
Sasheer
But also, like, maybe who. Maybe her stylists are, like, sabotaging. Oh, maybe from the inside.
Nicole
Maybe she was wearing this, like, fur thing that I was like, yikes, this looks tough. And then it was like, Dior, and I was like, what? How do you make Dior look like that?
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
And then this is really mean. And I'm not, like, body shaming her. Face is fucked. Her face is like. It's like. It's very gremlin. Like, lady Gremlin. Like, I love how you're not participating. It's okay. I could be on this hill alone.
Sasheer
It's like.
Nicole
It'S. I can't really do it because of my mouth. But, like, her. Her mouth is so, like, wide. She looks like there's a toy or like a cartoon where like. Like, talk like that at their mouth. Like, the mouth split. That's what she looks like to me. It is so nuts. And, like, if I, you know, sold my soul for money and, like, became an evil person, I'm gonna look so good.
Sasheer
You would think, right?
Nicole
I'm gonna look like Cruella de Vil. Like, custom. Yeah.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
This is wearing off the rack and making it look like garbage. Yeah. Wild.
Sasheer
It's wild.
Nicole
Wild, wild, wild. Thanks for letting me get that off my chest and not adding a single thing.
Sasheer
Yeah, you got it, girl.
Nicole
Should we answer questions and queries?
Host
Yeah.
Sasheer
Yeah. Ooh. Whoa. Was that your neck? Oh, my God. Are you okay?
Nicole
No, I'm falling apart at the scenes.
Sasheer
It seems like I have to get.
Nicole
On a plane tomorrow.
Sasheer
Oh, my God. I. I do too. What time is your plane?
Nicole
9. What time's your plane?
Sasheer
11.
Nicole
Oh, I'll be there before you. Hopefully I'll be comfortable. My butt's a little smaller. That's honestly, like, the issue I have.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
My butt is too wide for economy seats. And honestly, the average woman is a size 16. A size 16 should be able to fit in an economy size seat comfortably. Right?
Sasheer
You're right. But he trying to squeeze more people on a plane to make more money.
Nicole
I get that. Do you remember? I think it was the travel man.
Sasheer
Who's the travel man?
Nicole
I don't know.
Sasheer
Points guy.
Nicole
No, he's like, a White House person. Somebody in the White House was like, people should dress up for flights again.
Sasheer
I didn't see that.
Nicole
You didn't see that? No. Wait, Allie, did you see that?
Host
Yeah, I did. He was like, if you dress nicer, maybe you'll be helped better and it'll go smoother for you.
Sasheer
When was the point of what he held a press conference for this? What was. What was the overarching conversation with what? Like.
Host
Like, back in the day when it was Pan Am and people were. Would wear fits. He was like, let's do that again.
Nicole
Yeah. And it's like, I'm sorry. You charge you nickel and dime for everything. The food is inedible. Like, who am I dressing up for truly, I'm literally dressing for a sky. A sky bed. I'm going to sleep. I don't want to be awake for this.
Sasheer
Yeah. People were dressing up when you got served full steaks.
Nicole
Yes.
Sasheer
Smoke cigars on a plane. And like. And there was a dance floor and a bar. Literally, there were planes that had dance floors and bars. It's like, I would dress up for that. Not like I'm squished in a middle seat.
Nicole
And like, imagine wearing a three piece suit in economy.
Sasheer
Ridiculous. And my. My outlet doesn't work. My screen is broken.
Nicole
Are you kidding me? No. No.
Sasheer
Wearing sweats.
Nicole
Yeah, I wear sweats. My sweats at least match.
Sasheer
There you go. You know, that's a set.
Nicole
That's a set.
Sasheer
That's.
Nicole
But I would dress up if flying was nicer. Yeah.
Sasheer
You know, give me an environment to. For it to be nice.
Nicole
Yes.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Imagine dancing on a plane in the sky.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
That would be so fun.
Sasheer
It would be really fun.
Nicole
Should bring back fun like that.
Sasheer
Yeah. I mean, I also feel like there was probably less turbulence back then, so it probably was. You would be like, we're really doing the twist.
Nicole
Wait, a map.
Sasheer
We're really doing the twist.
Nicole
Ooh, that got me good. But imagine they like had like little lassos that like attach to the wall for turbulence.
Sasheer
Like when like on subway. Like one of those straps that hang from the pole.
Nicole
Yeah.
Sasheer
Or like, is it around your waist?
Nicole
Okay. What you came up with was better. Like poles and you could like hang on to it. No, I was thinking you were strapped in and then it tethered to the wall. But I guess that doesn't really work if you go up.
Sasheer
Like when you leash a child.
Nicole
Yeah. Okay. Okay. Answer these questions to find out what type of best friend you are. You either have a chaotic bestie or you are one. I think we know the answers to this.
Sasheer
We all play roles in our friend groups. While we may be different things to different people, who are you to your closest friend? Says a lot about you. Your friend personality can be influenced by a variety of things. Maybe your zodiac sign. Maybe you. Your. Maybe your zodiac sign makes you bossy. Fire signs. Or growing up as the oldest child and your family has made you a natural caretaker.
Nicole
Which of these would you gift your friend if you were their Secret Santa?
Sasheer
Concert tickets.
Nicole
An all expense paid trip.
Sasheer
Dream date with a celebrity.
Nicole
A shopping spree. Whoa. We have money in this.
Sasheer
Yeah. This situation, like, money's unlimited.
Nicole
See? For my friend.
Sasheer
Mm. For Secret Santa.
Nicole
Yes. I'm going to pick. I was Gonna pick concert tickets. But there could be a concert in an all expense paid trip.
Sasheer
Oh. I mean, it's one of the expenses.
Nicole
I'm gonna do an all expense paid trip.
Sasheer
Yeah, I would do. I would do concert tickets because then we could do this together and maybe I get tickets for all of our friends and we do have a fun trip together. Y' all pick an iconic best friend.
Nicole
Charles Boyle from Brooklyn. 9.
Sasheer
9. Chandler Bing from Friends.
Nicole
Aditi from Yay. Jawani. Holly. Diwani. Yay.
Sasheer
Joanni. Hi. Diwani. Oh, I've even heard of this.
Nicole
Me either.
Sasheer
Circuit from Muna by mbbs. I also haven't heard of that.
Nicole
Interesting.
Sasheer
Well, I'm gonna say Chandler. Bang.
Nicole
This is oddly specific.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
And I'm gonna say Aditi because she seems like fun. Actually, no, I'm gonna say Circuit. He looks like fun. Look at those gold chains.
Sasheer
And Circuit's a fun name.
Nicole
That's a great name.
Sasheer
Yeah. Probably really energetic.
Nicole
Your best friend wants to get back with their ex. What do you do?
Sasheer
Be supportive.
Nicole
Make sarcastic comments.
Sasheer
Take them out. Oh, talk them out of it. I was like, take them out. My God, you're not gonna kill them.
Nicole
Set them up with someone else immediately. I think at this point in my life I'm gonna be supportive. Nice.
Sasheer
I think.
Nicole
Yeah.
Sasheer
I think it would also be supportive because you can't talk someone out of it. It's up to them.
Nicole
They're gonna make a choice. Yeah.
Sasheer
Pick an activity to do with your friend.
Nicole
Club hopping, trekking. Wine tasting.
Sasheer
Sit and do nothing.
Nicole
That picture is funny because they're stretching. It seems like they're doing something.
Sasheer
Yeah. Their legs are in the air.
Nicole
Yeah.
Sasheer
I'm gonna say sit and do nothing.
Nicole
Okay.
Sasheer
I like when you can hang out with people and do nothing.
Nicole
That is nice. You know, club hopping looks like fun. And honestly, catch me on a good day. I'll do it the rest of the year. Nah. So I'm gonna say I like wine tasting. Yeah. Wine tasting is lovely.
Sasheer
It's lovely. What do your friends like the most about you?
Nicole
Honesty, Sense of humor, Intelligence.
Sasheer
Kindness.
Nicole
It's really funny that honesty and sense of humor are blue, intelligence is black, and kindness is red.
Sasheer
Feels like there is like one of those, like, magic tricks where they want you to pick a certain one. The color.
Nicole
Yeah, like the color indicates what we to pick.
Host
Yeah.
Nicole
Ow. I think I'm going to say sense of humor.
Sasheer
I think I'm going to say kindness. I don't think. I don't know if my friends like my honesty.
Nicole
Maybe they like Your honesty. When they're asking for honesty, no, sometimes they don't actually. Okay.
Sasheer
Pick a classic Bollywood movie to watch together.
Nicole
Kabihi Kushni Kambi Gum Perry. Dilwale Dulhan.
Sasheer
Diwali Dulhania Le Jang. And then Zing Zind, Zindagi Nah Malegi Dobara.
Nicole
I think we did a really good job pronouncing those. I'm gonna say the first one because there's a woman in it. I watched a Bollywood movie on a plane. I wish I could remember what it was, but it was so fun.
Sasheer
They're fun.
Nicole
The dad slash mom friend. You're a neat guy. You're always armed with puns. A fanny pack full of snacks and dance move straight from the 90s. You're the responsible one of the group. But you. You sure are a joy to be around. You're indispensable.
Sasheer
That feels like it should be mine.
Nicole
Yes.
Sasheer
I always have a fanny pack and snacks.
Nicole
I never have a snack. I'm constantly so hungry.
Sasheer
Yeah. Okay, I'm gonna say Diwali Duhani La Ja Ange, because there's a guitar there, and maybe he's gonna serenade with me. And so I am the dad slash mom friend. Is everybody. What do you do with this quiz? Yeah, that's the only option.
Nicole
I wonder if we go back to mine and I pick a different movie, will it give us a different. Yeah, do Hera Perry.
Sasheer
I don't know if we can.
Nicole
Oh, we gotta do the whole thing again.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
You know what? That's okay.
Sasheer
Yeah. All right. We're the dad slash mom.
Nicole
I'll be the dad.
Sasheer
I'll be the mom.
Nicole
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Sasheer
Should we answer some questions?
Nicole
Let's answer some questions and queries.
Host
Hey Nicole and Sashir, I have a question about hanging out with an old friend. We originally were best friends in high school and drifted apart in our early 20s. I recently found his Instagram so we added each other and reconnected. I drove out to meet up and we decided to hit up a few bars. I'm all for having a couple drinks and chatting it up, but he was looking to take shots all night and stumble from bar to bar and partake in additional substances. No judgment, just not what I had in mind. Being blacked out around people or being hungover myself gives me too much anxiety now and I need 2 to 3 business days to recover. LOL. Apparently he doesn't feel the same way as he is always suggesting Going for bar crawls, staying up all night and offering to crash at his place. One detail is that he is openly gay, so I do get that there is a different party scene in the gay community. I love catching up with him and hearing about his adventures. I'm just not into the bar hopping scene anymore. He also doesn't live in the safest area. He's told me some stories of him getting into fights and being robbed, which as a woman also makes me hesitant to walk the streets drunk late at night. I haven't confronted him about this yet, but I have said things like, oh, those party days are behind me. He just keeps suggesting to go out and I say I'm busy. Or if I bring up him driving to meet me, he just says, well, there's nothing really to do in your area. How do I suggest a chill hangout without sounding judgmental or like, I don't want to hang out with him. Love to hear your take. Yours truly, a lightweight homebody, 30 something year old.
Sasheer
I get it. I get it, sister. I mean, maybe if the like deterrent for him to come to your area is there's nothing to do, Suggest something to do. Like be like, come to my area and let's get brunch. Gays love brunch. Get brunch. Do a daytime hang.
Nicole
Yes.
Sasheer
There's a museum I want to go to. There's a pottery studio I want to hit up. You know, like suggest an activity other than just come to my area and then hopefully I'll be a draw.
Nicole
Yeah, I think, I think that's a good idea. I also think you can do night things. Like do a night like bingo loco. Like do. Do an activity where like they can drink. You don't necessarily have to drink. There's a finite end to it. And you could be like. And that's it for me. And they can go out and go bar hopping if they want to after. Yeah. But I think planning an activity is like a good way to be like. And that's the end of the night for me. As opposed to bar hopping and whatnot.
Sasheer
Yeah, yeah. There's also some bars that have like fun activities, like the virtual golf club station. What are those things called?
Nicole
Topgolf.
Sasheer
No, not top. It's virtual where they have like a screen and you're like. It's like we. Where you're like, you like hit the. You have like a club and you like hit a pretend ball and it like goes somewhere.
Nicole
Oh, that's fun.
Sasheer
I forgot there's like a term for It. But yeah, those are like pool or pinball or duck pin bowling. What is it? Like the. It's like the smaller ball, and then the pins are attached to strings, like a little marionette, and then when you hit them, they go up and then they come back down. So it's like a small and it's a smaller lane or just regular bowling.
Nicole
I know that one. Yeah. But the regular bowling, there's places where.
Sasheer
There'S an activity and drinking can still happen. So. And like we said, if he still wants to party after, he can do that. But you don't have to come with.
Nicole
Yes, I think that's the plan. Make a plan.
Host
Yeah.
Sasheer
And if you feel like you want to say something, you can be like, you know, partying is not my vibe at this point in my life, so I'd rather do activities. But also you can just suggest things.
Nicole
And hopefully, yes, you can have a movie night. You can go see a movie, go to a bar, go see a movie.
Sasheer
Yeah, I. I did have a friend, or she's still my friend, but she used to get high a lot. Lot. And when we would meet up, it was difficult for me to, like, engage with her because I felt like there was like a literal cloud in front of me and we weren't really connecting. And I was like, oh, I kind of like hanging out with you to connect. And so I did bring it up and I was like, yeah, I kind of would like you to be less high or just not high when we meet up because I find it difficult to actually, like, have conversations with you and connect unless we're partying, but, like, if we're not, I. I don't want to be the only one in the situation who's not high. And she. She understood and she was like, got it. I will work on that. And. And then it made our experiences much better.
Nicole
Yeah. Sometimes you just have to say, hey, I want you.
Sasheer
Yeah. Yeah.
Host
Solved. Hi, Nicole and Sasheer. I'm so happy the podcast is back from hiatus. I'm so happy to have your lovely dynamic back in my feed, everyone. Wednesday. I'll try to keep my gushing to a minimum because I feel like this email is already novel length smiley face. I have a group of five friends I've known since middle school, and we're now in our early 30s. Over the years, we've scattered across the country and now mostly keep in touch via group chat and periodic video calls of the group. There are two people that I still consider some of my closest friends. However, I've drifted further and further from the other three and have very little in common with any of them anymore. When we do talk, I find myself coming away from any time spent with them, annoyed and sometimes even angry. I feel like they only want to talk about themselves and often are dismissive or condescending about my life. I've already begun the process of distancing myself from them and I haven't replied in the group chat in almost six months and no one seemed to notice, making me even more sure that my presence is not important to these people. The problem is the two people I remain close with are very resistant to me continuing to dis the people I. The two people I remain close with are very resistant to me continuing to distance myself from the group. If I ignore invitations to FaceTime, they'll text me and guilt me into joining in. Do you think there's a diplomatic way to maintain space from the rest of the group without jeopardizing the connections with the two people I'm still close with? Should I just suck it up and continue engaging with the other people even though it causes nothing but annoy and stress? Am I being selfish letting go of 20 plus year friendships? Thank you for. Thank you so much for all that you do.
Nicole
I'm very much like, if it's not serving, you, get rid of it.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
But if the other two are like, kind of putting up a fight or whatever, maybe it's like, okay, you do do the face times, but there's a limit. You know, you do five minutes and you're like, oh, I'm so sorry I have to do X, Y and Z. It's so hard to, like, get a day where I'm free to do longer face times because I'm doing X, Y and Z. Yeah.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
But I also don't love the mental gymnastics of trying to keep these people in your life that, like, you don't care about.
Sasheer
I know.
Nicole
Yeah.
Sasheer
I wonder, because you could just tell those other two people, like, I'd rather just talk to you guys. Like, we can have our own separate thing where we do FaceTimes and chat and stuff, but I don't really want to talk to the main group group anymore. And I don't know if that's worth a conversation with the other girls or.
Nicole
Yeah, I think maybe the ones that they still like, they can explain how they feel.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
And why they don't want to do, you know, things with the other people. Because that's happened in my life where, like, it's like, oh, I don't really Want to hang out with this person anymore because of X, Y and Z. And I'm like, oh, okay, well, I'll still hang out with them. Oh, now I actually see what that person's saying. I don't really want to hang out with them anymore either.
Sasheer
Yeah. So, yeah, maybe the front. Maybe the friends that she does talk to don't know why she's feeling that way. So maybe, like, further explain, like, this is what I'm feeling. And maybe they'll see it themselves. And. Yeah. Because maybe those friends are also like, yeah, join the FaceTime. Because it just feels easier to be like, there's no problem here. But, like, once you have. Once you're like, there is a problem and I don't want to participate in this, then you have to actually, like, analyze it.
Nicole
Yeah.
Sasheer
And that's not fun. No. Yeah. But, yeah, I think be honest with yourself and the friends that you like to talk to. And you can also just remove yourself from the group.
Nicole
Yeah.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
You can remove yourself from the group text. Yeah. And I will say, when you're left over from that, sometimes it hurts leftover. I've been in a group text where someone has left, and because it announces it, it goes so. And so has left the conversation.
Sasheer
And you're like, what? Yeah, yeah, it does feel dramatic. It's actually kind of rude that they. Yes. Put it. Yes, this person has left.
Nicole
Left the conversation.
Sasheer
Let them leave silently.
Nicole
Yes.
Sasheer
So rude. But yeah, but also, like, it could just be like, they're just protecting their piece.
Nicole
Yes.
Sasheer
And you guys can have your own thoughts about it, but they just want.
Nicole
They just gotta get out. They gotta get out. They gotta get out.
Sasheer
Yeah, yeah, yeah. I don't think. I don't think you have to, like.
Nicole
No.
Sasheer
Figure out. Because also, I've tried to have a FaceTime, a group FaceTime with someone who I was not getting along with at the time, and I can't fake it. Like, it's just, like, it sucks your energy. And I'm like, why am I doing.
Nicole
Yeah, why am I doing this? Why am I pretending for this person who's being awful?
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Get out of there.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Do one more.
Sasheer
Let's do more.
Host
Hey, Nicole, Sasheer and everyone at Team Best Friends. My name is Jasmine, and I've been having a little bit of a struggle making friends. I live with my boyfriend of two years, and for most of our relationship, we've both had at least one friend. But recently he's been making a lot more friends and hanging out a lot more. I'm super happy for him to have new friends, but I can't help but feel alone when he's out. It gets me to a point where I make it about me and cry about how he doesn't have time for me as much anymore. But in reality, I guess I just feel a little left out. I understand he needs guy time and time for himself, so it makes me feel bad that I'm being a buzzkill and making it about me. I live in a small town, so making friends is kind of a challenge. I would love some advice on how I can make more friends and get myself out there. I'm kind of shy, so it's hard for me to talk to others because I'm always overthinking about how they won't like me. Thank you so much and I love the podcast. P.S. nicole, do you listen to Cupcake? If not, I highly suggest you listen to some of her music because I feel like you two match the same vibe about dicks.
Nicole
I understand that. I do listen to Cupcake. I have a cupcake shirt that I once wore to the gym and forgot I was wearing. Has one of her lyrics on it. It says, I want to blow bubbles with your sperm. And I was walking around the gym, LA Fitness in Hollywood, and people were staring at me and I was like, what the fuck? And then I went to the, the fitting room, the changing room, the locker room, and I looked in the mirror and I was like, that's why they're all staring. I forgot I was wearing this shirt. But yeah, I love cupcakes. She's nasty.
Sasheer
That's fun.
Nicole
Yeah. She's got a song about a dick looking like Squidward's nose. She is. Is delightful. None of her songs are like, safe for you to listen around other people. Like, it's. She's wild. I love her. But to our, to our friend, our listener, I think you gotta get a hobby. That's always my advice. Get a hobby.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
Because you'll make friends doing that hobby because you already like the heavy lifting is kind of done. You have a shared interest. You have something automatic to talk about.
Sasheer
And even if you don't make a friend at the hobby, at least you're doing something fun. Like, at least you're doing something that you like. And maybe it's fun to have a solo activity.
Nicole
Yeah.
Sasheer
But then, yeah, ideally you meet somebody that feels like minded and you can hopefully grow from there. You can also ask your boyfriend, like, are there any friends that have a girlfriend and we could do a double date or something.
Nicole
That's also a very good idea.
Sasheer
Yeah. And hopefully you vibe with that person and hopefully make a new friend that way.
Nicole
And I will say I feel like they need to resist the urge about crying and saying, you don't have time for me, because, you know, because you're saying on one level that, you know, it's just because they've made more friends and that you haven't. So you're, like, taking it out on him, even though, you know, it's, like, not a you problem per se, but, like, you know that you. If you had more friends, you wouldn't be feeling this way.
Sasheer
Yeah.
Nicole
So it's like, don't. Don't take it out on him because he has friends.
Sasheer
Yeah. Yeah. And like, you should want him to have friends. Like, that's gonna enrich both of your lives if you both have community outside of each other.
Nicole
Yes.
Sasheer
So, yeah. Yeah. It really is. Like, what can you do to help yourself get more community? And not necessarily. What does he need to do to make you feel better about this? Unless it is, like, ask your friends.
Host
Who.
Sasheer
Who else can I hang out with? And it sounds like they each had one friend when they went into this relationship. So maybe you also ask your one friend, hey, I'm looking for more friends. Do you have any that you think would. I would jive well with or drive well with?
Nicole
No. So sure, use those words. Hey, you got anybody I could jive well with?
Sasheer
I'm trying to drive.
Nicole
I'm trying to drive the crew, you know, trying to get a crew to drive. You know, get out there, drive.
Sasheer
That's why she doesn't have friends. She says jive all the time. Like, I would hang out with her.
Nicole
But she says drive too much and we don't like it. But, yeah, see if there's anyone you can jive with. Be a drive jerky.
Sasheer
And Bumble Bumble has that friend thing, which. Yeah, I think that's, like, there's no shame in that. Like, everyone's finding people online. May as well find friends too.
Nicole
Yeah. Why not? Yeah. So.
Sasheer
And if you have any questions or queries, you can email us at Sashir and Nicole at. Or is it Nicole, Nicole and Sashir, Nicole and Sashir? Gmail dot com.
Host
And we got a number, and it is 323238-6554.
Sasheer
Well, well, see you later. See you later. Ew. Don't touch me with your feet. What are you doing, guys?
Nicole
Saying goodbye. Goodbye. Best Friends is a production of Headgum Studios.
Sasheer
Our producer is Ali Khan.
Nicole
Our executive producer is Anya Konovskaya.
Sasheer
The show is edited, mixed and engineered by Richelle Chen.
Host
That was a headgum pod.
Episode: Nicole Phones a Friend
Date: February 11, 2026
Network: Headgum
This vibrant episode centers on friendship dynamics, dental horror stories, adventures in skincare, an impromptu "phone a friend" about snowboarding, and candid conversations about boundaries, credit, and relationships. Throughout, Nicole and Sasheer delight each other with playful banter, memorable anecdotes, and genuine advice—particularly regarding maintaining connections and personal wellbeing. The episode also features listener questions about managing old friends, outgrowing social groups, and building new friendships as an adult.
Nicole, on her extracted tooth:
"People keep saying, make it into a necklace. I'm not that kind of girl. She's glamour." [02:50]
On body donation:
"Maybe I'll donate my body to science and write specifically: Give me the Volvo." – Nicole [07:20]
On modern cafeterias:
"Is this a food court? Is this a Sizzler?" – Nicole [18:39]
On using possessions:
"Wear the things you like. Things are meant to be used." – Nicole [30:43]
Celebrity slap:
"Nothing has happened at an award show that was funnier than him slapping Chris Rock." – Nicole [32:43]
On friend group tension:
"Why am I pretending for this person who's being awful? Get out of there." – Nicole [62:21]
The episode is light, candid, and brimming with the duo's signature irreverent humor. Nicole brings lively storytelling and zany hypotheticals, while Sasheer grounds the exchanges with thoughtful perspectives and gentle ribbing. Listener questions are treated with warmth, empathy, and actionable advice.
"Nicole Phones a Friend" exemplifies what makes Best Friends so beloved—a space where the messy, funny, and sometimes tender parts of adult friendship are explored without filter or judgment. Whether you want insights, laughs, or permission to let go of old baggage, Nicole and Sasheer make you feel right at home.