Loading summary
Nicole
This is a headgun podcast.
Sashir
We did it.
Ally
We did it.
Sashir
Close this year.
Ally
Hello, Nicole.
Sashir
I am in the market for culottes. I want culottes.
Ally
She wants culottes.
Sashir
It's all I want.
Ally
Oh, for Christmas.
Tessa
All I want for Christmas is culottes.
Ally
Wow.
Sashir
I just saw a woman on the street wearing big chunky shoes and culottes.
Ally
That's fun.
Sashir
And I was like, this is who I want to be. Yeah.
Ally
Now to remind my brain, culottes are wide and like kind of mid mid shin length.
Sashir
Yeah, it's like a midi skirt. Wait a minute.
Tessa
Those are. Those are shorts.
Ally
Is this a midi skirt? Oh, no, no, no, no.
Sashir
These are midi shorts. I
Tessa
love a culotte. A gaucho.
Ally
Yeah, yeah, yeah.
Sashir
Wait, am I thinking of a gaucho?
Ally
What's the difference between a gaucho and a culotte?
Sashir
Damn, damn, damn. I hope the fashion girlies weren't like, she fucked that up.
Ally
Damn, Daniel.
Tessa
Do you remember that? It's my favorite meme. Damn, Daniel. Back at it again. White dance.
Sashir
Okay.
Nicole
Culottes are generally more voluminous and skirt, like, higher, often higher waisted and ending at or below the knee. While gauchos are usually less flowy, resemble wide leg cropped pants and often end at mid calf.
Ally
Okay, okay.
Sashir
So I think I'm in a cue lot. I want it big.
Ally
Nice big, Right?
Sashir
Yeah. I'm excited at who I'm gonna become.
Ally
I'm excited for this journey.
Sashir
Lots of jewelry and culottes. Man, I got so excited when you said, damn, Daniel. I literally did this.
Tessa
I was like, she's a closet.
Ally
That's when the Internet was fun.
Sashir
Yeah, the Internet was a nice time back in the day where, you know, Ellen would have you on when you went viral. Yeah, yeah. Daniel from Target. I think that was his name.
Tessa
Do you remember him?
Ally
I don't.
Sashir
Ted from Target. It was just a kid who worked at Target. I don't think he did anything. I think he scanned items.
Ally
Backpack kid.
Sashir
Backpack kid.
Ally
Yeah.
Tessa
Oh, Charlie bit my finger.
Ally
Yeah, yeah, I remember that.
Tessa
That's so funny.
Ally
Yeah. Good times.
Sashir
Good times.
Ally
I actually,
Sashir
I don't.
Ally
I. I don't know if these are culottes or gauchos. Maybe gauchos because they were jeans. But I probably have talked about this before. It's a really great outfit that I would wear today, but I wore it in middle school and no one was liking it.
Tessa
It was.
Ally
I had a tight bodysuit that buttoned at the. At the crotch. It was black and white striped horizontal Stripes.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
And like a faded black denim gaucho situation that were high waisted. This is a cute outfit. By the time.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
Any pants that were above your ankle were not cool.
Sashir
Not cool.
Ally
Not cool. The flood's coming. Yes. You were flooding. And they made fun of everybody, including teachers who had any pants, including teachers, including adults.
Tessa
You stood no chance.
Ally
You said, no chance. So I had these crazy pants and
Tessa
people were like, she's flooding. Oh, my God.
Ally
And I like, ate my lunch in the library.
Tessa
No sheer.
Ally
And my friends were like, what? Have you untucked your shirt? And I was like, it's a body suit.
Tessa
It's a bodysuit. I can't change it at all. Oh, no.
Sashir
That is interesting because I feel like we're in an era now where it's like, wear what you want.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Actually, I don't know. I'm not in high school. I don't know if the kids make fun of one another for being outdated.
Ally
I have no idea.
Sashir
Because when I was in school, it was like, if you wore things like hand me downs that were clear hand me downs from like 10 years ago, you would get fudgeing. Made fun of.
Ally
Yes.
Sashir
But I'm like, now with the like, thrifting is cool. I saw on the Internet an influencer had a story where they were like, I got into a Savers, the new Savers, two days early.
Tessa
Make sure you get to the.
Sashir
And I was like, so we're like influencing thrift stores.
Ally
Yeah. Yeah.
Sashir
And then flooding them with people. And I've been influenced. I have driven too far to go to a Savers.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
And they didn't have nothing I needed and wanted.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
It was. It was pretty. It was a bummer.
Ally
Yeah. The things aren't as well. There's not much good things to thrift anymore.
Sashir
It is wild.
Ally
It's really sad.
Sashir
But that does sound like a slamming outfit.
Ally
Right. I'm like, I wish I had it now.
Sashir
Yeah. Do you have any pictures of it?
Ally
No, I'm sure I don't.
Sashir
You're like, never again.
Ally
Bad day. I remember there was a kid in elementary school, he loved the Beatles. He had a Beatles bowl cut like. Like his hair was like jet black, like hanging above his eyebrows, around his ear, to the back. He always had a Beatles shirt on. Like, he just loved be. Everyone's like, you freak. They like thought it was so weird. And looking back, I'm like, that kid knew who the hell he was.
Sashir
Yes.
Ally
Like, that's awesome.
Tessa
Yeah.
Sashir
He was like, this is what I want to look like, this is what I listen to.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
I actually don't care if you have something to say about it. Yeah. I do love that I would wear to school these gigantic Steve Madden platforms. They were like 4 inches, 5 inches. They were huge. I couldn't walk in them. We would change classes, the bell would ring, and I would just be teetering
Tessa
alone in the hall.
Ally
Funny I give a fuck that I
Sashir
couldn't walk in them.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
And I suffered because I wouldn't bring a second pair of shoes. So, like, by the end of the day, I'd be, like, hobbling around.
Ally
So you did this to yourself? Sure did. Yeah.
Sashir
I remember my mom made me wear. I don't know why she made me wear this, but it was this, like, gray sweatsuit that I hated with, like, weird shapes on it. I would wear it now.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
But I was like, I don't want to wear this to school. And she was like, it looks fine. And I was like, I don't want it. But honestly, I'm having. I might be having selective memory. I might have begged her to buy it and then didn't want to wear it. Oh, so, like, maybe that's what it was.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Because I can't remember. I'm like, why does she make me wear this? I cried. Oh, I was at. Nobody said a word to me. It was a fine ensemble.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
But I was like. The whole day was just mad.
Ally
Dang.
Sashir
Do you have anything that you wore where you see a picture and you're like, huh? Why? Why did I put that together?
Ally
Definitely. I mean, I had some real, like, we're figuring out moments. Like, I feel like most of my early outfits in New York was like, we're just figuring it out. We're not quite there yet. There were so many vests. There were. I. I remember there was a dress that I wore. It was in a Broad City video. It was like the finale of their web series or something like that. And I remember it was me and maybe Sabrina, Jaleese, I don't know. We were, like, standing on a street's corner or something. And Alana and Abby were supposed to, like, pass us and do something else. And they were, like, bopping around New York, and I don't know who I was talking to, but they're like, it's so crazy. They put you in that, like, matronly dress. And I was like.
Sashir
And you're like, I put myself in it.
Tessa
I put my.
Ally
I brought my own wardrobe.
Tessa
This was my outfit.
Ally
I thought I looked really good.
Sashir
That's really Funny.
Tessa
It was matronly. It was just this long sleeve, princess collar up to my neck, long dress. It was blue with flowers on it. But I thought, it looks so good,
Sashir
I gotta see it.
Tessa
I'd really like to see it.
Ally
Probably find it, but God, that's so funny. And then later I was like, I'll hem it. That's what I'll do.
Tessa
That's what. I'll fix it.
Ally
Making it shorter.
Sashir
That'll do it. That'll make it less matronly. So sure. That's so funny. We watched an old video that we had shot where I looked at it, and I was like, I've come full circle because I went out of my jewelry era. And I was like, I don't have any bracelets. I don't have any jewelry. And then I was watching that video, I was like, I had so much
Ally
jewelry, used to wear so many bracelets.
Sashir
I had no idea. I went through a watch face. I was wearing a watch.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
I couldn't believe it.
Tessa
I was like, this is. This is freaky deaky. Freaky deaky, freaky deaky.
Sashir
My God.
Ally
What do you think made you stop the jewelry phase?
Sashir
I'm 100% sure it is. Once I got very busy and then started touring and then was like, oh, I'm having trouble doing things. That's why the uniform appeared where I was like, I don't want to wear the same thing, but if I wear jeans and a striped shirt, I get my color in. But I. I don't have to think about it. Yeah. And I think I was like, well, I can retire jewelry. So that's the thing I don't have to think about. Oh. And now I'm like, well, I guess I'll just be slightly later so I
Tessa
can put on jewelry.
Sashir
Which that's not what it should be. I should just. It's so hard to get out of bed. But, like, in a perfect world, I would set aside a full hour to get ready so then I can, like, pick and choose the jewelry I want to wear. But also, when I was in my first jewelry phase, I wore the same thing.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
There was no variety. No variety. It was a zebra bracelet, two silver bracelets that I could not get off a bunch of bangles. And I was, oh, you know what? Maybe also I left my jewelry phase because when I finally lost enough weight to get them off of me, I
Tessa
was like, well, I'm free.
Sashir
Better not put anything else on my wrist.
Tessa
Yeah, get out of here. My God.
Sashir
No more shackles. No more take Those shackles off my
Tessa
wrist so I can dance. Just wanna praise it. Dom Daniels.
Ally
Tom Daniels.
Sashir
I can't believe that's how I reacted. I was so excited. I was in the company of people I don't know well. And it was that nice man's friends and one of his friends went, damn, Daniel. And I laughed so hard that it was maybe humiliating. Like, wasn't that funny?
Tessa
But now he knows, if he says it, I'll laugh. I will laugh so hard I'll cry. I'm almost crying now. Damn, Daniel's so funny to me. It's so funny to me. It's so funny to me. I just love the way that kiss sounds. Damn. Damn.
Sashir
It's so funny that sometimes people think I'm under the influence and I'm like, this is me.
Tessa
This is.
Ally
This is just who I am.
Tessa
Jennifer Lopez. This is who I am.
Sashir
What's it called?
Ally
This is me now.
Sashir
This is who I am.
Tessa
Jennifer Love is who I am. What are you talking about?
Sashir
You know, it's funny when we post clips from this show, sometimes people are really mean. Like the lotion video. But then sometimes people are mean, but then also helpful. So we posted a video where I talked about sewing and you were like, use tweezers to thread the needle. And I was like, oh my God. The comments all say, I have a self threading sewing machine.
Ally
Wow.
Sashir
I don't know how.
Tessa
I don't know how.
Sashir
And I, I simply, I simply can't bring myself to watch a video to figure out how it works.
Ally
Yeah, but you could. But some of those comments also were talking about a threader or whatever that's like tweezers.
Sashir
Yes. But if my, if my machine self threads, that would make my life so much easier.
Ally
Go watch that video.
Sashir
I guess I gotta watch that video.
Ally
I think I've done it before.
Sashir
Really?
Ally
I don't remember how though. I think I learned it in the sewing class. But yeah, you like bring the thread across or something and like twist the needle and it goes down and it picks it back up. But I don't remember how it does
Sashir
it because I have a foot or whatever at the back that brings the. Wait, the foot's. It's got to be in front of me for me to know anything that I'm talking about. But tonight I'm going to a sewing party.
Ally
Nice.
Sashir
So I'm going to bring up the question and let someone teach me.
Ally
I'll show you. Yes. Yes. Perfect.
Sashir
And my goal at sewing party is because I already have a pattern for pants. And I revisited a pair of pants that I made, and I was like, these are actually pretty good. I was, like, kind of upset about the quality. And I was like, actually, this quality is pretty good. You just have to, like, seam rip something, like a little bit of the band and redo that. But other than that, good job, girlfriend. But I want to make a pattern for a little jumpsuit.
Tessa
Ooh.
Ally
Yes.
Sashir
Because I do love a jumpsuit, and I love it.
Tessa
I think I could do it.
Ally
I think you could. And it'd be nice to do it in a way where it's like, okay, it's to my measurements. As opposed to, like, hoping somebody else can make a jumpsuit that fits you.
Sashir
Yes. And I bought a jumpsuit pattern, and I unfolded it and I went, I don't get it. And I folded it right back up.
Ally
I would imagine it's daunting.
Sashir
Put it right in a drawer.
Ally
It's a lot.
Sashir
So, yeah, that's what I'll be working on tonight.
Ally
Fun.
Sashir
I'm very excited.
Ally
It is exciting. Nice.
Sashir
I'm gonna be a sewer.
Ally
You are a sewer. Hey. Thank you. You've made many garments.
Tessa
I really have.
Sashir
You have.
Ally
You be sewing.
Tessa
I be sewing.
Sashir
I'm a designer.
Ally
What did. I was gonna say, Susan be sewing. What did Tessa say?
Tessa
What was it?
Ally
Oh, Susan B. Fluten.
Sashir
Yes. She's. She looked us dead in the eyes.
Tessa
Oh.
Sashir
Because she asked, did anyone play instruments growing up? And I said, the flute. And she went, susan B. Fluten.
Tessa
And I said, what the fuck are
Sashir
you saying to me?
Tessa
What does that mean?
Ally
And she's like, is this not a
Tessa
video we've all seen? She's like, this isn't on par with Yo Yo Ma.
Sashir
It was so funny. Tessa's so funny. She's very funny. Oh, my God. Sometimes I'm like, what if I take the whole day and sew something? I think I'm gonna have theme days.
Ally
That's fun.
Sashir
I was really proud of myself because I stayed. I was procrastinating all damn day. All damn day. Found so many fucking things to do. And one of them was, like, not being on my phone. And I don't know how I did that, but I was like, more. More of that.
Ally
More of that.
Tessa
More of that, please.
Ally
Yeah, give me two helpings of that, please.
Tessa
You're crushing me, Ted. I don't know why that was so funny to me.
Sashir
Oh, boy. We talked about your standup show in a prior episode or a future episode. I don't know when the fuck these
Ally
air,
Sashir
but you Said something, and it was just a setup, and there was
Tessa
silence, and I was like, ah.
Sashir
And then I was like, ooh, I gotta, like, be quiet.
Ally
You don't have to.
Sashir
Well, sometimes.
Tessa
Well, when you're just setting something up and it's not the funny part. And then I find that funny because
Sashir
I know you so well. No, you just. You should just keep it inside a little.
Ally
I'll take any laugh.
Sashir
Okay.
Ally
I think it's also, like, sometimes people just, like. Like, what's happening? And, like, even if you haven't gotten to the punchline, they're just like. Like, they're just, like, excited to get there.
Sashir
I'm like, hell, yeah.
Ally
Let's all laugh.
Sashir
I don't want to, like, give away a joke, but you talk about Tevas at one point, and you did this setup. I laughed real hard, turned to Tessa, and went, divas.
Tessa
And then you said the punchline with divas in it. And then I went.
Ally
That's why you chose not to laugh.
Tessa
Yes.
Ally
When the punchline happened, I'm glad that,
Sashir
like, the audience members are in the dark, because I was, like, psychotic.
Ally
I was like, that's really funny. I remember there was a JFL in Montreal.
Tessa
I remember this where I was doing
Ally
a show, and it was, like, kind
Tessa
of a small room, and you were
Ally
in the back, and your laugh was
Tessa
so prominent, and so, like, you would
Ally
laugh, and then everyone laugh. They would laugh at the joke, but also laugh at you laughing at the joke.
Sashir
That was fun. And people turned around and looked at
Ally
me, and I'd be like, I just.
Sashir
I know her. But also, I don't know. I love comedy so much that, like, watching people perform, I get really, like,
Ally
delighted by it, definitely.
Sashir
And then, you know, sometimes I'm just
Ally
laughing a little too hard, but that's okay. I'll take it.
Sashir
But it was wild that I, like, I whispered the.
Tessa
And then you said it, and I
Sashir
was, like, just emphatically nodding my head.
Tessa
Divas.
Ally
Oh, that's fun.
Sashir
Oh, boy. Is there anything that you. Because all of my special interests. I've included you on the journeys. Yeah. Did you ever decide to. Did you ever want to start sewing again? Because you do have a sewing machine, right?
Ally
I do have a sewing. Sewing machine. It's very dusty in my closet, but it's there. Yeah. I think we probably have the same issue of, like, having, like, having so many things you want to do, but just being like. But now I'm on this thing.
Sashir
I've moved on.
Ally
Yeah. I would like to sew again. I Don't know if I want to make clothes, but I would like to alter things. I have. I think it'd be a fun journey. And I went to remainders yesterday to buy some fabric to paste it onto my drawers in my closet.
Tessa
And.
Ally
And when I got there, I was like, I didn't measure. I don't. I have no idea how much fabric I need. So now I need to measure and then go back to get fabric and then do the thing I wanted to do. Yeah, I feel like there's always something around my house. I'm trying to, like, hang or attach to something.
Sashir
I. Man, I got a lot of special interests. Yeah, She's a farmer. Yeah. So I found. I found. I discovered this place called Armstrong Garden center, and I really like them. They're really knowledgeable, really helpful.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Like, I just had a cart full of stuff, and this guy was like, oh, you got to put them in these little plant holders so you can just, like, carry them all when you get to your car. Also, I see you looking at tomatoes. You like an heirloom.
Tessa
And I was like, yeah, I'm looking for an heirloom. And he was like, the heirlooms are over here. And I was like, oh,
Sashir
I'm getting horny for customer service. Like, I was so elated that this man wanted to help me. I was like, what a fucking treat. Then I got home, and I was like, bitch, why didn't you ask for more help? So I have two plants that I looked at the little bin, and it said, partial sun. These plants, I was like, these are going in full sun. So I planted them and I went. God willing, you'll live.
Ally
Good luck to all of us.
Sashir
Good night and good luck.
Tessa
We gotta take a break.
Ally
Let's take a break.
Sashir
Support for this podcast is brought to you by Chamberlain University. I have to tell you, anytime I go to the hospital or a clinic, my anxiety is absolutely through the roof. It's just an overwhelming, scary place to be. But I feel like we've all experienced meeting an exceptional nurse who walks into the room and changes your day completely. They are so experienced, and they know exactly what to say to take the panic out of the room and make a terrifying day feel completely manageable. And if you're looking for a new career path or you just want to do a job that truly matters, you cannot help but think, wow, that is exactly the kind of nurse I want to be. Chamberlain University is where you start. Discover your calling @chamberlain.edu. chamberlain University belong to something greater. Certified to operate by Chevy. This episode is brought to you by Alma. A year from today, who do you want to be? What version of yourself would you like to meet? Do you feel less anxious or feel more like yourself? Maybe your relationship is stronger or the grief feels smaller. What if that thing you've been secretly worried about just took up less space in your mind? The right therapist can help you get there. Alma will help you find them. Alma has a directory of 20,000 therapists with different specialties, life experiences and identities. And 99 of them take insurance. You deserve to feel like that future version of yourself. A year from today isn't that far away. Get started now@hello Alma.com Best friends. That's hello, Alma.com B E S T F R I E N D S. And we're back to me and my farm. And then I have two more plants that plan set out right in the sun. And it said partial shade. And I was like, why didn't I ask? Why didn't I ask a question? Yeah, like, so then I was like, wait, I can make those. I can. I do have a spot for them. I just. I make things harder for myself. Much like you in not measuring me, not going. Huh. What do I need to get. That's full sun versus partial sun.
Ally
Yeah, it's hard.
Sashir
It's so hard.
Ally
I also bought a frame. I did. What I did do at remainders was I bought a frame to put pressed flowers in. And I have so many pressed flowers in books waiting to be put somewhere. So I, you know, one day I'll jump back into that and start arranging. Press flowers and little designs and stuff and put it in a frame and either give it to somebody or keep
Sashir
it, I guess a lot of like. So like, when we were roller skating, it was like, that's an activity I go to.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
But it's like sewing or pressing flowers or lining your drawers. It's like, that's home.
Tessa
I'm home.
Ally
I'm home. And I don't anything else.
Tessa
I watch tv.
Ally
Yeah.
Tessa
Go to sleep.
Ally
But once I do something, I'm like, that's so much nicer.
Tessa
I hung that thing on the wall,
Ally
and I feel so good about it. And I get to look at it all the time.
Sashir
Yes. When I hemmed a bunch of sweatshirts, I was like, I'm a little factory. I nimble hands. I'm doing it. And then I was like, well, that's one project done. Second project is since I'm into culottes and I don't wear dresses as much, I was Like, I think I can slice up the middle, sew that up. I think you can create some culottes.
Ally
I think you can.
Sashir
So that's the next project.
Ally
That's exciting.
Sashir
Thank you. I'm really excited about it. And then I have a pair of pants that I'm trying to combine to make one super pant.
Tessa
The biggest pan of all, the biggest pants you've ever seen,
Sashir
I think. Yeah. Jumpsuit pattern tonight. And then try to combine those pants with these pants combined.
Tessa
What am I thinking of?
Ally
With our powers combined.
Sashir
Captain Planet.
Ally
Yes. Yes, yes, yes, yes.
Sashir
Wow. We were fed a lot of, like,
Ally
save the planet stuff, and they said no more.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
The planet is that crazy. I know.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
I love that stuff. I was like, I loved cabin plants so much, and I would be so annoying to my parents. I'd be like, we have to recycle, reduce, reuse, recycle. And they're like, just put in the trash.
Sashir
My God, that's so funny. I. Yeah. I loved Captain Planet. The Captain Planet. Come on, like, normal channels. It must have, because I watched it.
Ally
I think it did maybe ABC or something. I feel like it was, like, Saturday
Sashir
morning cartoons, because sometimes I'm like, how do I know it? I didn't grow up with cable.
Ally
I was different.
Tessa
Yeah. I'm just built different.
Ally
Also, I, like. I recently looked back at pictures of Captain Planet because they're rebooting it, and I was like, ooh, like, who? Who did it before? And I thought Gaia, who was, like, the, like, Earth goddess. I thought she was a black woman, and she's just, like, ethnically ambiguous or maybe white in the cartoon. Oh, but she was voiced by Whoopi Goldberg, and that's when my brain thought she was black.
Sashir
Interesting.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Voice representation matters. It matters. Do you mind, Ally, pulling up the cast of Captain Planet? Not the cast. I don't remember what they look like, but Captain Planet is a blue man.
Ally
He's a blue man. Yeah.
Sashir
With green hair. Yes.
Ally
That's why you know exactly what's going on.
Sashir
I sure do. His face is the sea, the ocean, and his head.
Ally
His hair is the Earth, the land. It's pretty funny. And then, like, there was fire, who was a redheaded kid. Water was a blue.
Sashir
I'm so sorry. This man from Pompeii looks like he's got a Jerry curl. I just.
Tessa
I just needed you.
Ally
Was that Kit Harrington?
Sashir
I have no idea.
Ally
Captain Planet. Look at all those happy kids.
Sashir
Oh, interesting, interesting. There's one black kid.
Ally
Yes. That's Earth.
Sashir
And then there's an indigenous friend.
Ally
Yeah. He was heart.
Sashir
Yes.
Ally
And he had a monkey friend.
Tessa
Oh, my God. I can't believe how much of Captain Planet you remember.
Ally
Watched a lot of it.
Sashir
Is it coming back as a live action or a cartoon?
Ally
I don't actually know.
Sashir
Bring it fucking back, though. Like, let's not litter. Let's have a nice time.
Ally
We need to save Planet desperately now more than ever.
Sashir
Yeah.
Tessa
We got AI eating up all the water. It's crazy. Why does AI eat water?
Sashir
Because it's just so hot.
Ally
Those computers are so damn hot.
Nicole
The new version is going to be live action.
Sashir
Oh, that's fun.
Ally
Oh, are they talking to Glen Powell about it?
Sashir
Oh, interesting. He's discouraging it. He's like, I like littering.
Ally
Okay.
Sashir
Oh, interesting. What year is that from? Is it recent? 2025.
Ally
This year or last year?
Sashir
Last year.
Ally
Okay.
Tessa
Okay.
Sashir
All right.
Nicole
Leonardo DiCaprio producing.
Ally
Oh, he loves the plan.
Tessa
He loves Satan. I took my breath away. I don't know why. Oh, he loves the planet. And it was just so quick. Oh, Leonard. Oh, he loves the planet. That was really funny.
Sashir
Wait.
Tessa
Leonardo DiCaprio looked so hot at the Oscars.
Ally
Did you see we had a little mustache?
Tessa
Yes.
Ally
Yeah, I liked it.
Tessa
I thought, Good.
Ally
Sakurae Blue.
Sashir
He looks so good.
Ally
It looked really good. Yeah.
Tessa
Wow.
Sashir
Yeah. Also, Michael B. Jordan looks so good. Yeah, he's so handsome. Wow.
Ally
I'm really happy for him.
Sashir
Me too. I'm very, very happy for him because he's been. He's been working for so long.
Tessa
Like, what's wrong with me?
Ally
Well, there was a thing that HBO did to be like, congratulations on your Oscar, Michael B. Jordan. And they put like, different scenes from the Wire next to Sinners. And it was like.
Sashir
It was.
Ally
It was really well edited. Just like. Like their same head movements then like little motions and stuff like that. And they're like, we're proud of you. And I was like, I don't think HBO has ever done that before.
Tessa
They had a lot of people go
Ally
on their shows, probably won awards. But also, I think it, like you said, it's like, been 20 years of a career.
Sashir
He, before the Wire was in an episode of Sopranos. He was like a kid on the street. And I was like, michael B. Jordan.
Ally
Oh, that's fun.
Sashir
He's been working for a long time. He's been, uh. Oh, what's the song I'm trying to do?
Ally
Coming round the Corner. Winnie. What?
Sashir
Is that what you're doing? No. Working on the railroad? Nope. Wait, there's a railroad song.
Tessa
Working at the car wash he's chugging on the railroad There's a railroad, railroad
Sashir
he's been working on the railroad Working
Tessa
all the live long day what? How do I know that?
Ally
I've been working on the railroad all
Tessa
the livelong day well, you got.
Ally
I've been laying on the railroad Till the sun. No. Till the moon passed away hey.
Tessa
Jingle bells, jingle bells. Sure. This episode is really so the nice man in my life. He goes. So he goes.
Sashir
Just.
Tessa
He goes. This podcast is just YouTube, like, just saying short things and then, like, really laughing. And I was like, huh? And people like it. Can you believe people like, jingle bells, jingle bells I think I've cried three times this episode. You're killing me. Oh, the last long day hey. Jingle bells, jingle bells oh, my God. What if you were DJ and the beat dropped? Everyone's like, jingle bells. We gotta go to a club.
Sashir
I've been dying to go to a club.
Tessa
Let's go to a club.
Ally
Wow.
Tessa
We just made ourselves laugh so hard. We had to fan ourselves. Like, I'm exhausted. Oh, I'm so hot.
Ally
There are like, can we turn the air up?
Tessa
I'm dying. Yeah, I'm dying. I'm dying.
Sashir
You went.
Ally
What were you saying? Oh, there are clubs, or I guess they're not clubs, but coffee shops are doing, like, DJ stuff during the day. And I think that's my speech.
Sashir
Okay.
Ally
Like a daytime club situation. Yes.
Sashir
I like that. But I would like some booze. And do they have the booze?
Ally
Probably. Oh, there's probably bars that do it too.
Sashir
See, daytime clubbing does sound like fun.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Until you do it in Vegas and you're like, no, it's bad.
Ally
Well, that's a different.
Sashir
During the day, these people are crap.
Tessa
They're wild.
Ally
Because they never stopped.
Sashir
No, because they're, like, cracked.
Tessa
I'll be like, you want hugs Benedict?
Ally
And you're like, no, no, no, no, no, no.
Sashir
But yeah, I think I. I haven't been dancing in a minute.
Ally
Let's go dancing.
Sashir
I would really like that.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
With, like, good music. You remember when we went to Barcelona?
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
And we went to Jamboree.
Ally
Yes.
Tessa
Yes.
Sashir
Oh, good recall.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
They. It was us. We got there early because Europe is like, oh, we're not out until 1am yeah. But we were there at, like, 11 or something. Yeah. And the DJ was playing fucking some of the best music. And there was a black guy right by the DJ booth with every song kept going.
Tessa
Oh, wow.
Sashir
And I was like, I'm right There with you.
Ally
I agree. It was so fun.
Sashir
Yeah, that was fun.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Yeah. I want to dance.
Ally
Let's dance.
Sashir
I did see Lady Gaga again.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
And I wore heels.
Ally
Oh.
Sashir
And by heels, I mean 2 inches block, not a real heel. And I danced my little face off. And I could not walk after.
Tessa
Damn.
Sashir
It was. So I sent you the video. Oh, yes, you did. That's how I was walking. And it wasn't a bit like, I really was like, there's. I. I can't. And that's how I walked in the hallways at school with those platforms because it was tough.
Ally
Did you have socks on?
Sashir
With my shoes?
Ally
Yes. I have sometimes taken my shoes off at a concert and just wore my socks. We're not outside.
Sashir
At Sofi. You want you.
Ally
Mm, mm. I may have done it at Sofi.
Sashir
Mm, mm. You want me. Mm, mm. Feet to the. Mm, mm. People spill, and the spills travel.
Ally
If a spill traveled, for sure, I put my shoes back on.
Sashir
But what if it traveled before you got your shoes back on and now the spill that has traveled to you is now traveled inside your shoe, and you're gonna bring that spill home.
Ally
Okay.
Sashir
I mean, I have seen you take your shoes off at shows. You did it at Missy Elliott, I think. And I looked down and I said, hey.
Ally
And you went, you gotta be comfy.
Sashir
I really can't at Lady Gaga, though. There was a Lady Dogs out. Feet to the floor, to the earth.
Ally
No, I can't do that.
Sashir
That made me really upset. Yeah, I did not like that. But no, it was boots, too. And I was like, you made me bring a clear fanny pack. I don't have anywhere to put these. I gotta wear these boots.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Yeah. No, my luck would have it that, like, someone would barf and that would travel to me. Like, I have no my. I'm so scared right now.
Tessa
You're holding your feet right now. No one's coming for your feet. They're coming. Coming for my toes.
Ally
No, I understand. I get it.
Sashir
It's not for everyone.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
But yeah, I want to dance and I want to wear heels while I do it, which is. Which means I have to, like, cap it to, like, an hour. I want to wear heels more.
Tessa
Okay.
Sashir
I want to look down at people.
Ally
Yeah. Get tall. Get tall, girl.
Tessa
Yeah. You little idiots down there.
Ally
I mean, you do have many, like, tall, like, chunky boots that so many don't seem like heels. You can be tall that way.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Although on Saturday, I wore a big chunky heel, and I almost died.
Ally
Oh.
Sashir
But I was also wearing a pant. It was like a 5 inch heel and my pants were, like, getting under the heel and I was like, why these pants so long?
Ally
Those are very long pants.
Tessa
Why they so long?
Sashir
Lord Jesus.
Ally
I almost tripped up the stairs on my dang pants. On my jeans? No, my bell bottom ones. My foot caught into the bottom of one and I almost took me out and I was like, on my own pants. On my own stairs with my own foot. The hell.
Tessa
All of my own things. My own things coming to get me.
Sashir
That's like when I fell down my stairs and broke my dang ankle.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
In my own house.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
On my own dress. Yeah. Rude. Yeah. But now.
Tessa
Ooh wee.
Sashir
The way I go downstairs is carefully. I'm sure anywhere I am, I am being careful. You're not gonna get me. I'm not falling down the stairs again.
Ally
I still think you should put those little, like, pads on the tops of your stairs.
Sashir
I won't. Just aesthetically, no.
Ally
There's some cute ones.
Sashir
Aesthetically, I can't. All right. But also, I walk around my house. Dogs to the earth.
Ally
Oh, that's true. I wear socks.
Sashir
Yes. And when I carry things, what happened is the dress was long and I slipped under it. So when I carry things. And that could have happened on a carpeted stair as well.
Ally
That's true.
Sashir
I think it was just, you know, the slickness made it easier. But yeah, I'm more careful when I carry things up and down the stairs. And I yell at Clyde to go first because he likes to get under my feet when I walk down the stairs. He really just loves being under my feet. But then if you step on him, he makes the. The most insufferable noise.
Ally
It's like, well, you put yourself.
Sashir
You did it. Yeah, but he's also such a little guy.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Imagine being that little. I can't imagine. Imagine you had to crawl around everywhere. That's basically what he does.
Ally
Oh, if you think about it, yeah, it's true.
Sashir
But he's not really crawling. His legs are just so short.
Ally
That's just how his legs are.
Tessa
Imagine being a dog.
Ally
I can't.
Sashir
Me either. What a crazy life.
Tessa
We gotta take a break. Have you thought more about being a dog?
Ally
I haven't, but that's how my cat is too. Like, he'll just get up in your business all the time. If you're trying to pack a suitcase, he'll jump in. And I'm like, what are you doing? Get out. No, it's not for you.
Sashir
Why are You.
Ally
Why are you my pillow? Now? Get out of here. Why?
Tessa
Why?
Ally
Just everywhere you want him to not be, that's where.
Sashir
That's where he's gonna be.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Clyde also loves getting into suitcases. And then he sits and he stares. And I'm like, well, get out. Get out.
Tessa
What are you doing?
Ally
It's not for you.
Sashir
He also. He loves a bag.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
He loves a box.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
And I like putting him in a box and just closing the lid. And then when he's ready, he'll go. And then it looks like he's like, jack in the box.
Ally
That's cute. That's very cute.
Sashir
Yeah. What a cutie. I love him so much.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Sometimes I hug him and squeeze him, and I'm like, don't you. Do you know how much I love you?
Ally
I'm sure he does.
Sashir
I hope he does.
Ally
I think he does.
Sashir
Back to my farm. Oh, yes. Okay. So did you know, like, planting things has instructions?
Ally
Oh, well, I do now. I didn't before, so.
Sashir
Home Depot. Shame on them. Big Box Corporation. I'm not going back. Oh, they don't give you instructions. It does not say anywhere how to plant things. Because they want you to come back, spend more money.
Ally
Definitely.
Sashir
But Armstrong Garden center is here to help you. They're not paying me at all.
Tessa
It feels like I'm doing, like, that partnership or something.
Sashir
But on the side of all of the plants, it's like, oh, this does well, like, 12 inches from the other plant. And I was like, oh, shit. I only got one pot. So I went, well, you're all going.
Tessa
You're going in there together.
Ally
I think it's like, instructions will definitely help them. But also, plants be growing wherever. Like, they'll find a way. I've had many plants that I thought were straight up dead. And I sent you videos where I'm like, look at this thing. It's a. It's.
Tessa
This is a metaphor for resiliency. I thought this thing was dead, and I know. It came back. It came back. It just needed time.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
So.
Ally
And then also, like, things where it's like, this is not supposed to go in this area, but it survived for some reason, or I thought everything was set up for success for some reason. It does not like being there. And so you move it, and then it's better. It's just like, it'll happen or it won't.
Sashir
You're right.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
You're right. And I'm all, okay, do you see this? This cut? Oh, that cut. Oh, I gotta. I think some I don't remember. The other ones are.
Ally
That one.
Sashir
Oh, yeah, that's one.
Ally
Who's doing that to you?
Tessa
Did Who?
Sashir
Who did that? It's happening in my own home.
Tessa
Who. Who did that?
Sashir
The bu.
Tessa
The.
Sashir
Yes. That's how you say it. I.
Ally
They are scratchy.
Sashir
Oh, my God. I did not realize how thorny they are. I'm trying to train them to grow up, so I was like, I'll just tie them to the branches behind them.
Tessa
These bitches ate me up.
Ally
Yeah.
Tessa
Oh, my God.
Ally
We do that.
Tessa
They just.
Sashir
And then at one point, the one that you pointed out.
Ally
Mm.
Sashir
I think my. I was, like, stuck to it, and I was like, no. Oh, God. And I had to, like, rip it. Oof.
Ally
Yeah. Wear gloves and long sleeves.
Sashir
I was in a bikini, like, gloveless. The way I garden is disgusting. I do have a shovel, and I do have scissors. And if something's dyed but the roots are deep, I, like, cut it up barehanded, scoop it out, and dig it out. Whoa. Because my nails help. They're little diggers. I got 10 diggers.
Tessa
That sounded like a slur.
Sashir
Yikes.
Ally
Girl, you can't just say that.
Tessa
It came out of my mouth, and
Sashir
I was like, oh.
Tessa
It felt really rude to myself.
Ally
Hard R and everything.
Tessa
I got 10 shovels.
Ally
I actually did buy some gloves like that. They had, like, little, like, claws on them so that you could dig. They sucked, though. They were not good. Yeah, I could imagine. Yeah.
Sashir
That's really funny, though.
Ally
It's like you're like badger or something. But they weren't very strong. It was, like, plastic.
Sashir
That's so funny. Yeah. I've broken nails and, like, reglued them. Put a band aid over it and went back to digging.
Ally
Girl, use a shovel. You have tools? I have shovels, yes.
Sashir
I have two shovels.
Ally
Use them.
Sashir
And then I have a pick. A pickaxe.
Ally
Oh, not an axe. Where are they? Where are they stored? Oh, where do you have them?
Sashir
Outside.
Ally
They're outside. So you really have no excuse.
Sashir
I didn't know if they were, like,
Ally
in an inaccessible place or something.
Sashir
Nope, they're outside. They're really, really in close. Like, a very close proximity to where I was working.
Ally
I see.
Sashir
I think what happens. I go, hmm, Getting the shovel and shoveling. That's gonna take too long.
Tessa
Dig, dig, dig. I've done it. There's no time. There's no time. I have to garden. I'm a farmer. Tick tock, Mr. Wick. Everyone needs their strawberries. I was meeting that nice man and his friends.
Sashir
And I was running late, and I sent a text that was like, I'm sorry. I'm running late. I put on too much blush. I felt humiliated. I had to tone it down. Also, I was about. I was going to bring strawberries. They're not sweet. It's not in season, But I forgot them. I turned around, but then I turned around. I'm on my way. And he just went, okay. I keep trying to bring these strawberries to people who are like, hey, wait
Tessa
till they're in season.
Ally
That's really funny.
Tessa
And I'm like, I won't.
Sashir
I simply won't.
Ally
I have bad strawberries for you.
Sashir
I have. Because they maybe. I don't know. Maybe it's like, heat helps them grow and be sweet. But these strawberries, they're not sweet. Oh, I'm doing something wrong.
Ally
Oh, no.
Sashir
But what did I buy? I bought two cucumbers.
Ally
Okay.
Sashir
I bought. I think they're called Beefy Boys. Beefy Boy Tomatoes. A black heirloom. A regular heirloom. I bought these strawberries. I think they're called Seascape or Escape something. But those are really sweet. I've had those before. And the farm is back up and running. Nice.
Ally
Hell, yeah.
Sashir
Oh, God, yeah. That's smart. When I did the. In the backyard, along the. Like, the wall, I did wear long sleeves and gloves because it's very, very outside, and sometimes there's worms in there.
Ally
Ooh.
Sashir
And, like, buggies.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
And I'm like, I don't want to be touching a buggy.
Ally
No, I don't be touching those.
Sashir
The first time I cleared them out, John Milhiser, who used to live with me, we found potatoes. These, like, really beautiful purple potatoes.
Tessa
What?
Sashir
Yeah. And I was like, did they plant potatoes?
Ally
Oh, probably.
Sashir
Yeah, maybe. And there might still be potatoes in.
Ally
Check.
Sashir
I don't remember which box. Which planter box they were in.
Ally
Get your diggers in there.
Tessa
Get your diggers in there. This sounded like a slur. It really does. Get your diggers in there.
Sashir
We were gonna eat the potatoes, but then we were like, we don't know if they're potatoes.
Ally
Did you slice it?
Sashir
No.
Ally
What'd you do? They just threw it away.
Sashir
Threw them away because I didn't plant them, and I didn't know if they had planted them, and there was no way to know if they did. Even though I have the people who used to live there, I have their numbers. I should text them and see how they are. Yeah. Hey, guys.
Tessa
What's going on?
Ally
I'm sure they would love that.
Sashir
Do you miss your old house? You want to come back?
Tessa
Let's have a birdie.
Ally
They would love that.
Sashir
I have a question that maybe you would know the answer to. If I were to rent an inflatable house and put it in the cul de sac, would I have to get a street permit for it, or is this is the cul de sac for everyone?
Ally
I feel like you do have to get a street permit because it's also, like, blocking traffic. Oh, if it's on your property, no. But I think in the street, probably. Ally, did you find anything?
Tessa
Yes.
Nicole
You need a street permit or a special event permit to put a bouncy house on a public street, sidewalk, or city property, and it's minimum $50 in Los Angeles.
Sashir
Oh, wait a minute. That's affordable.
Ally
That's affordable.
Sashir
Yeah. I can just charge everyone a dollar for coming to the bouncy house.
Ally
You gotta charge us.
Tessa
I gotta recoup.
Sashir
I gotta recoup on that permit.
Ally
You can spring $50.
Tessa
So here, I gotta recoup.
Sashir
You want me to pay for our joy? No, I wouldn't charge, but I was like, ooh, maybe for Fourth of July, because I love doing a great big party.
Tessa
Yeah.
Sashir
Maybe I get a bouncy house or something.
Ally
I love that.
Sashir
Right? I think that would be really fun.
Ally
Yeah, I like that. Do it. Do it.
Sashir
Yeah, I think I might. I wonder if. Can you. Can you have alcohol on the streets if you do?
Tessa
Party time.
Ally
Let's get fucked up and bounce on the street.
Tessa
Bouncing in the street.
Nicole
Yes.
Sashir
Whoa.
Nicole
You can have a special permit for festivals, parades, or designated entertainment zones.
Sashir
Okay.
Nicole
So. And then you'd be able to drink in public legally within there.
Sashir
Okay.
Ally
All right.
Sashir
I think that might be really fun.
Ally
I think it'd be fun, too. Yeah. Dancing in the street.
Sashir
And maybe I'll set up a slip and slide.
Ally
Yes.
Sashir
I wonder if they have, like, inflatable slip and slides, because you don't want to put a slip and slide on concrete.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Huh.
Ally
Probably.
Sashir
This is perfect.
Tessa
Time to start planning.
Ally
Yes. Did you see?
Tessa
I did the math to get to
Sashir
how many months away it is.
Ally
You didn't say out loud, though. Boy.
Nicole
And yes, you can get inflatable ones.
Ally
Oh, perfect.
Sashir
I think I'm gonna get a bouncy house in an inflatable slip and slide and be like. Because then I can double the invite list. Yes.
Ally
Hang outside.
Tessa
Yes.
Ally
And you can put chairs and stuff in the driveway.
Tessa
Y.
Sashir
Wow. This is gonna be really fun.
Ally
Yes.
Sashir
I can't wait.
Ally
I Can't wait either.
Sashir
I have a block party.
Ally
Yes. Rock the Block.
Sashir
Rock the Block, which was an HGTV show.
Ally
That's right.
Sashir
It went down in quality as seasons went on.
Ally
Dang.
Sashir
It's a real bummer because it's such a fun promise for a show.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
I feel like shows feel like they have to, like, push the boundary and give you more than we gave you last season. But I'm like, I don't know. I think if you get interesting people to do your same idea, they'll come at a different way.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Like Leanne Ford on the first season of Rock the Block. She's, like, kind of stony all the time. Sony baloney with her. Her brother who builds things, and they're really fun. And she was redesigning this kitchen. She was like, you know what? No whitewash this rock. And I'm not putting a refrigerator in this kitchen.
Ally
Oh.
Sashir
I'm build a whole room where all the appliances are. Also no shelving.
Ally
Wow.
Sashir
She said, I'm gonna build a kitchen that is not functional but very aesthetically pleasing. And I'm like, yeah, don't give them bigger houses. Get more interesting designers to do things that you wouldn't expect. But then they got into a partnership with a bigger company, and they supply all of the things, and I'm like, I let them source their own stuff. And I want to see. I want to see a Ferris wheel in, like, a living room. Like, I want to see something weird where the Ferris wheel is the sofa and you have to watch TV as you go around. Like, I want to see someone's Looney Tunes ideas. Do you know what I mean? Like, that is a treat for me.
Ally
I like that.
Sashir
Don't like bigger houses. Like, no, give them a four bedroom house and go, whatever you want. Like, I want to see chandeliers on the floor. Like, I just want to see weird shit.
Ally
That's a funny.
Sashir
I mean, they came up with it, but they just didn't follow through with it.
Ally
Mm. Damn. You know?
Sashir
Yeah, I love hgtv, but I don't love what HGTV has done for interior design.
Ally
That's like their whole thing.
Tessa
I mean.
Sashir
Well, yes, yes and no. I think.
Ally
Oh, there are gardens, too. Home and garden tv. Is that not what it's called? Shit, man.
Sashir
It is.
Ally
Shit, man.
Tessa
It is. I think it's home and garden television.
Sashir
I was.
Tessa
What are you saying to me? They should show more garden stuff?
Ally
Yeah. Where's the garden stuff?
Tessa
Yes.
Sashir
Show me how to make, like, a. Like, if I'm doing Planter boxes. Show me an arrangement, like, what flowers grow well with one another. Yeah, hgtv. Get on it.
Ally
Get on it.
Sashir
There's farmers out there like me who go to Armstrong Garden center and don't know what they're looking for.
Ally
That's true.
Sashir
And if HGTV showed me, I could go to Armstrong Garden center and know exactly what to do at Armstrong Garden Center.
Ally
This is a long commercial for Armstrong Garden.
Tessa
People are like, I actually don't want to go. She's making it so weird.
Sashir
But that's really interesting. I forgot that. Like, I think I'm feeling very nostalgic for, like, simple things where, like, yeah, just show me somebody gardening. Just show that to me. Yeah, I'll watch it. Or like, Food Network in a gardener. Like I, I, I. The Barefoot Contessa.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Just show her making potato soup. I like that.
Ally
Me too.
Sashir
Where she talks to me calmly and I go, maybe I can do that.
Ally
Or Bob Ross painting happy little trees. Yes. So calming.
Sashir
Oh, my God. We got to return to basics.
Ally
That'd be nice.
Sashir
Mm.
Ally
She answers some questions.
Sashir
No, I want to keep chatting about Armstrong Gardens.
Ally
No. Yes.
Nicole
Hey, nns. I recently confessed to a close friend via email that I had feelings for her. I did not expect her to return my feelings, as she does have a boyfriend. I only wanted her to know how special and important she was to me, and I told her this. Later. We had a conversation about it where she told me she still wants to be friends, and I believe at least part of her meant it. But naturally, things are different now, and I don't quite feel as close to her as I did before. I suppose I don't expect things to go back to how they were, especially since she did tell her boyfriend, who I have nothing against but is a strong contender for being the most boring man alive. I can't help but feel like maybe she just said that to keep the peace in our friend group, which doesn't make sense to me because I'm the newcomer and was only ever really close to her. I guess my question is, was I wrong for telling her how I felt? And do you think there's a way for us to be close again? I just really miss my friend and singing partner. Love the show and keep up the good work. Anonymous.
Ally
Who were the other friends? Like, you didn't have another friend to say to, like, workshop this way?
Sashir
Yes, I agree. Because once you tell somebody something like that, it does change things. Like, you don't want to lead somebody on, and if you don't Reciprocate it. It does. Even if you're not even trying to. You're like, I feel like I'm leading you on. Like, it's hard to just be friends, knowing that about somebody. And I think anytime you're gonna, like, reveal to a friend that you got feelings, you gotta ask yourself a question. Why am I doing it? And what response am I expecting?
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Because I think the response is always. They're gonna magically say they feel the same thing about me.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
But it's like, if they're already partnered, that magic. That magic isn't gonna happen. It might, but, like, it probably won't. Yeah.
Ally
You're kind of just creating a sticky situation for yourself and for them.
Sashir
Like.
Ally
Yeah. Yeah. Because they're in. They're in a relationship.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
And it's kind of not nice to.
Sashir
Yes.
Ally
To put that on them if they were single. If they, like. Yeah, go for it, Go for it. Because you never know.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
But it's like, well, they're can't do anything about this right now. And I guess, like, who knows what could happen in the future? Maybe the relationship will end and maybe they'll. Maybe they do have those same feelings and they can act on them, but they can't now.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
And so now what? You just pretend that this didn't happen?
Sashir
Like, yeah, I think that's a little tough. I. Maybe I'm like, maybe another talk is in order. But it's like. But then I feel like as the other person, I'd be like, oh, my God. We're just gonna keep having a series of, like, long talks.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
But, like, maybe it's like. Maybe you're like, I didn't mean to make things weird between us. I guess I've been trying to be more honest with my friends, and I didn't really think of what the outcome actually meant. I don't wish to act. I don't know. I don't know. Because that's too much.
Ally
It's too much. I think you just gotta move towns. Yeah.
Sashir
Different identity and start over again. Start a different singing group.
Ally
I mean, if it. Maybe this person needed to get this off their chest because it was truly torturing them.
Sashir
Yes.
Ally
And they. It was, like, keeping them up at night. So I hope you do feel better that you got off your chest, but you have to be okay with whatever happens after. Like, it's not in your control, like, how this person feels now that the information's out there. Like, it's out there, and people can feel however they feel. About it and I hope you guys can stay friends. But things are different.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
Because things. You have said it out loud. So, like, there's really nothing you can do to, like, fix it. It just hopefully time. Hopefully, maybe like more normal hangs.
Sashir
Yes.
Ally
Will make it feel more normal.
Sashir
Quickly get a partner yourself and then be like, look, I love you.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
I love Jim.
Ally
And maybe your friend will be so jealous, they'll break up with their boring boyfriend and then come and be like,
Tessa
actually, I love you. I love you always and forever me.
Sashir
Yeah. I mean, I think you're right. I think it's just like cause and effect. You did something that was the effect. That sucks. But bravo for being brave.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
And that was something you wanted to get off your chest and you did so, like, feel really great about that. But, you know, it might take some time to, like, repair or your relationship might just be different and that's okay too, because relationships do evolve.
Ally
Yeah.
Tessa
Yeah.
Sashir
Evolution, you dinosaur.
Ally
Evolution, you dinosaur.
Nicole
Hi, Nicole. Hi, Sashir. I have a friendship dating quandary and I'd love to get your. I'd love to get your advice. I was friends with this guy all of last year and low key had a crush on him. I decided to be brave and ruined the friendship and kissed him at a party, which led to us hooking up that night. We went on a few dates after that. On the first date, I told him I was interested in a relationship if things trend well between us. And he told me that he liked me but that he was a officially planning to move out of LA in a few months. We went on two more dates and it felt like I got mixed signals from him. Everything was great when we were together in person. He paid for the dates, great conversation, holding hands, but he didn't initiate a single date or ever text me. First. I told him that I was okay with dating until he leaves for the new city in three months. But he ultimately ended things with me, saying that he didn't want to get more romantically invested when he's about to move away. He said that he had a good time with me and that he would like to continue hanging out as friends. I chose to take some space as I know that I still have strong romantic feelings for him. It's been a little over a month now since all this went down, but it's been absolutely haunting me. What does it mean when someone offers to continue being friends after ending a relationship? Does it mean that they never really liked you as anything other than a friend? Does it mean that they do like you and want to keep the door open.
Ally
Open.
Nicole
Is it really possible to return to being friends with someone when the what if will always plague your mind? I would like to be his friend again. So how do I get over my feelings for him? Should I reach out before he moves to get some clarity and let him know we can continue being friends? All advice is appreciated. I vented about this to everyone I know, and everyone seems to have a different opinion on the situation. So I need advice from the professionals.
Sashir
I think this is clearly a situation of someone tasting something that they didn't know if they would like. They taste it and they said, this is fine. I just don't think I'm gonna eat any more of it. But it can stay on the table. Which sounds dismissive and rude, but I think this. I think he was like, I don't know. Let's see if this works. And I think he was like, it doesn't work, but I do actually value your friendship. I don't think he likes our listener.
Ally
That's possible. But also, even if he liked her, he's moving regardless.
Sashir
Yes.
Ally
So I think he was also like, this just won't happen.
Sashir
Yes.
Ally
Like, I can't even allow myself to let this happen because I am moving. So we. And maybe because the listener was straight up, like, I'm willing to have a relationship. And he's like, well, I can't. Like, I just. I simply cannot. And maybe he's. Maybe it was a situation where he's down to have fun. Like, he does enjoy your time. Like, he want.
Sashir
He went on the dates.
Ally
Like, he does want to hang out with you.
Sashir
He also didn't initiate any of the dates. So it's like, I'm happy to. I'm happy to taste this tuna tartar. I don't want to keep eating the tuna tartar.
Tessa
Stay on the table. I'm really trying to make this metaphor work.
Ally
You are the tasting and leaving on the table.
Sashir
I think he was down to clown.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
But ultimately was like, not joining the circus.
Ally
I'm just a part time clown. I do not want to commit.
Sashir
But I think you're right. He's moving. So he's like, and I don't want to be in a long distance relationship.
Ally
So. Yeah.
Sashir
Yeah. And I think if you have romantic feelings for somebody and they're like, we can still be friends. I don't think you should do that because why torture yourself for a couple months?
Ally
It's torture.
Sashir
And then maybe. Will it happen? No, it won't.
Ally
It simply Won't.
Sashir
Yeah. He said, no, it's not going to. I don't want to be in a long distance relationship is essentially what he said.
Ally
And maybe the friends or the leaving it on the table also is like. Like, I'm willing to hook up.
Sashir
It is absolutely what that means. I am willing to be friends with benefits for a little bit. Or it means, sure, I like you. I also don't want to hurt your feelings.
Ally
Yeah. Because you already told me you like me and want to be in a relationship. Yeah.
Sashir
Yeah. I think. I think get romantic thoughts out of your head. If you want to hang out with this person, do it as a friend. But, like, don't expect anything more. Do not let yourself take a ride of what ifs, because that's not what reality is.
Ally
No.
Sashir
But also, I think if you. I honestly, from personal experience, I think if you have romantic feelings for somebody and they go, let's just be friends, it hurts your feelings. Or my feelings would get hurt really easily to be like, well, if you just want to be like my friend, you hung out with me and we had such a good time. Why don't you want to kiss me again? It's like, because they want to be your friend. You kiss your friends.
Tessa
Some of them, but for the most part, I don't.
Ally
Yeah, I agree. Yeah. I think. I think. I think it's. It's okay to step away.
Sashir
Yeah.
Ally
And be like, we had a fun time. I. And I kind of like, the last listener, like, spoke my truth. I got it off my chest, saw what could happen. And, like, it's cool that we even had a moment together. But ultimately it wouldn't work anyway because he is leaving.
Sashir
Yes. And I do think you should find somebody who's, like, really excited about being with you.
Ally
Yeah.
Sashir
Who is like, yes, emphatically. I want to hang out with you. I want to be your friend, and I want to be your lover. Yeah.
Tessa
You know?
Ally
Yeah, I agree. Can we be lovers and friends From Usher? The Usher song.
Sashir
Which one?
Ally
Tell me again. Can we be lovers and friends?
Tessa
This is the Killing me, the little wiggle. Remember when we saw Usher in, like,
Sashir
I don't know, it was like a half hour in. You went, whoa, short concert.
Tessa
He did all his hits. I was like, he didn't do all his hits yet. But you very earnestly were like, huh. Seems to be a rap.
Ally
I couldn't believe we started at a 10. Yes. He was skating. There were pole dancers he was doing. Yeah, Like, I was like, yeah, you're right.
Sashir
He did do yeah, very early.
Ally
I was like, what is this, the end of the show? No, he just has so many hits.
Sashir
So many hits.
Ally
I loved that show so much.
Sashir
Somebody was like, what is your favorite love song? And I was like, that Usher song
Ally
where he's like, we're going nowhere fast.
Sashir
Yeah. That song's about a breakup.
Ally
It is.
Sashir
It's very.
Ally
Like you already said the lyric that's saying that we're going nowhere fast.
Sashir
Well, remember, up until a few years ago, I didn't know that lyrics had meaning. I was just like, this song is sexy. This is my favorite love song.
Ally
It's a really good song. And Confessions. Got one on the way.
Sashir
Never once at the concert did you dance like that. And I'm pretty upset about it.
Tessa
I wish I did.
Ally
I wish I knew about this move.
Tessa
Hold your head.
Sashir
Wiggle the hips. Remember they zoomed in on a woman's phone that said full storage? And he was right in front of her.
Ally
So sad.
Sashir
It was really funny. Sometimes the camera operators are really funny. Remember when I was like, I think I saw a video of Lady Gaga Sing Alejandro. And then they zoomed in on a Hispanic man. You were like, you didn't see that? Other than the concert that we were at.
Ally
We were there in person. That happened when we were there, I
Sashir
think I thought it was so wild that I was like, I must have seen that.
Ally
It was very wild.
Sashir
Not in front of my face.
Ally
And we had a lot of drugs in our system.
Sashir
We had so many drugs in our system. Man, we were so funny that night. Mateo truly was like, why are you guys so funny? And we were like, we took drugs.
Ally
Yeah. Good times.
Sashir
Good times. You ate a chicken sandwich so loud.
Ally
No, a hot dog.
Sashir
Oh, a hot dog. It was not actually loud, but. But you could hear it.
Ally
You had supersonic hearing at that moment.
Sashir
To me, it was like. And I was like, you were sitting.
Tessa
You were sitting in front of this
Sashir
lady that we didn't know. And I was like, oh, my God, that lady's gonna be so mad that
Tessa
she's chomping so hard. I have to tell her. And I was like, he. You're chewing really loudly.
Sashir
You were like, what?
Tessa
We're gonna state.
Sashir
We were in the Met state.
Ally
Like, open air, thousands of people.
Tessa
There's no way. Anyone.
Sashir
You're like, no, there is no way. And I was like, are you sure?
Tessa
She's gonna be so mad at you.
Sashir
And then another lady was eating a chicken sandwich, and I was like, I think I'm gonna ask her for some.
Tessa
And you're like, you can. And we were not closer.
Ally
And you're just staring at her eating it. And she was like, what do you want?
Sashir
Brave is what I call that. Brave. I've never been that high in public ever again.
Ally
Same.
Sashir
And then we did more drugs.
Ally
Yeah. But I felt safe.
Tessa
I felt so safe in that stadium.
Sashir
I mean, we were with the girls in the gays. Somebody would have taken care of us if something bad happened.
Ally
We were held.
Sashir
I can't remember what we took, but it hit when Just dance.
Ally
We. So we had mushroom tea and then we did a molly flip.
Sashir
Ah, yes. I remember. Just dance hit. And I looked at you and you
Ally
were like clutching my pearls.
Sashir
Yes. And then I was going, she wants us to dance.
Tessa
We also locked eyes and we were like, it's happening. Wow.
Ally
Solved. Solved. Well, if you have any questions or queries, you can email us@nicoleandsashirmail.com and we have.
Tessa
We have a phone number.
Sashir
When you were doing the email address,
Tessa
I just went and I don't know why, I just shook my little finger.
Sashir
We have a phone number where you can leave a voicemail, a text message.
Ally
What is it?
Nicole
323-238-6554.
Sashir
Oh, man, I fully forgot to take my medicine today.
Tessa
Did I tell you?
Ally
You did, yeah. I'm exhausted.
Sashir
Me too. We really laughed.
Ally
We had a.
Sashir
Goodbye.
Ally
Goodbye.
Sashir
Best Friends is a production of Headgum Studios.
Ally
Our producer is Ali Khan.
Sashir
Our executive producer is Anya Konovskaya.
Ally
The show is edited, mixed and engineered by Richelle Chen.
Sashir
Hi, I am Mandy Moore.
Tessa
Sterling K. Brown.
Sashir
And I'm Chris Sullivan. And we host the podcast that was us now on Headgum. Each episode going to go into a deep dive from our show. This is us.
Tessa
That's right.
Nicole
We're going to go episode by episode. We're also going to pepper in episodes
Sashir
with different guest stars and writers and casting directors. Are we going to cry? Yes, a little bit. Are we going to laugh a lot?
Tessa
A whole lot. That's what I'm hoping, man.
Sashir
Listen to that was us on your favorite podcast app. Or watch full video episodes on YouTube
Ally
or Spotify new episodes every Tuesday.
Release Date: April 29, 2026
Host: Headgum
Featuring: Nicole Byer, Sasheer Zamata, Ally, Tessa
In this lively episode of Best Friends, Nicole, Sasheer, and their friends, Ally and Tessa, catch up about all things fashion nostalgia, meme culture, personal style journeys, home projects, and entertaining mishaps. The conversation hops between hilarious memories of middle school fashion faux pas, the enduring amusement of internet memes like “Damn, Daniel,” and the joy and anxiety of creative hobbies like sewing and gardening. Later, they tackle heartfelt listener questions about friendships complicated by confessions of romantic feelings.
00:18 – 03:59
03:59 – 07:10
07:10 – 09:53
10:38 – 11:33
11:48 – 23:53
46:11 – 49:01
19:08 – 23:53, 39:03 – 43:48
30:35 – 38:00
52:36 – 64:36
| Time | Segment | |--------------|------------------------------------------------------------------------| | 00:18–03:59 | Culottes vs. gauchos, fashion obsession, and early Internet memes | | 04:39–07:10 | Middle school “floods,” being teased, and finding confidence | | 08:09–09:53 | Awkward wardrobe choices and jewelry era reflections | | 10:38–11:33 | “Damn, Daniel” meme hysteria and the joy of silly humor | | 12:20–23:53 | Sewing ambitions, DIY projects, and creative home improvement | | 19:08–23:53, 39:03–43:48 | Gardening tips, disasters, Armstrong Garden Center love | | 30:35–38:00 | Clubbing memories, dancing, shoes at concerts, and physical comedy | | 52:36–56:29 | Listener Q1: Confessing romantic feelings to a friend | | 57:35–64:36 | Listener Q2: Navigating friendship after romance ends |
The episode exudes joyful chaos and best-friend energy—affectionate roasting, nostalgia, openness, and a whole lot of laughter. The candid confessions, vulnerable advice, and playful tangents create an atmosphere that’s both deeply relatable and irresistibly entertaining—just like hanging out with your funniest, most sincere friends.
For listeners who missed the episode:
Catch up on hilarious fashion mishaps, joyful meme reminiscing, creative home hacks (and hazards!), and heartfelt advice for life’s stickier social situations—all with the inimitable warmth and humor of Nicole, Sasheer, and friends.