What if your church pain is the very tool God is using to heal you? In this episode, Mark and Erica show how humility turns offense into breakthrough—Naaman-style.

Mark and Erica explore how pride can make us “miss the miracle,” using Naaman’s story (2 Kings 5) as a lens for modern church hurt. They unpack how offense, unrealistic expectations, and unprocessed wounds trap leaders and disciples alike—and how humility, honest friendships, and prayer break the cycle. From modeling the “lower seat” (Luke 14) to resisting online outrage, the episode offers practical ways to lead people through offense toward healing. You’ll hear actionable counsel on team culture, spiritual warfare against offense, and staying rooted in heaven-minded hope.

📋 Key Takeaways (3–5)

Humility unlocks healing. Like Naaman, we can nearly forfeit our breakthrough because we don’t like God’s method. Humility is the road God travels to exalt us (2 Kings 5; 1 Pet. 5:6).
Offense is a trap, not a personality type. Treat offense as spiritual warfare against your progress. Pray proactively against it in your church and teams (Heb. 12:11; James 4:6–7).
Expectations need discipleship. Unreasonable, immature, or uncommunicated expectations often masquerade as “hurt.” Clarify, communicate, and submit them to Jesus.
You can’t heal alone. Naaman needed friends; so do we. Invite truth-tellers who can “wound” you faithfully and help you see your blind spots (Prov. 27:6).
Leaders model the lower place. Walk, speak, and staff in ways that reject celebrity culture. Give credit, tell on yourself, and cultivate a team ethic that prizes humility (Luke 14:7–11; Prov. 10:19).

💬 Quotes & Soundbites

“Pride is like bad breath—you’re the last one to know you have it.” — Mark
“Offense is almost always a threat; humility is almost always the way through.” — Mark
“Naaman needed his friends. Ask the Lord for people who will tell you the truth—and receive it.” — Erica
“It’s sin to be suspicious of others; it’s wisdom to be suspicious of my own self-applause.” — Mark

🕐 Timestamps

00:06 — Welcome & framing: “What if we’re the problem?”
01:16 — Naaman’s story (2 Kings 5): missing the miracle through pride
03:12 — Pride, offense, and the enemy’s strategy
04:24 — Expectations: unreasonable, immature, and uncommunicated
06:37 — Unprocessed pain leaking into leadership
11:55 — Leading others through offense; cultivating truth-telling friendships
19:59 — Modeling the lower seat; team culture and platforming humility
26:01 — Rejecting celebrityism; “no red carpets here”
33:54 — Tips & hacks: slow down, skip online fights, invite feedback
38:13 — Training friends to give (and receive) honest feedback
38:13–44:32 — Heaven-minded leadership: perspective and perseverance
44:32–45:39 — Discipline that produces peace; a healthy suspicion of self

📖 Scripture Tie-Ins

2 Kings 5:1–14 — Naaman’s humbling & healing
Luke 14:7–11 — Take the lower place
Proverbs 27:6 — “Wounds from a friend can be trusted”
Proverbs 10:19 — Few words, prudent tongue
Hebrews 12:11 — Discipline yields righteousness and peace
Isaiah 60:1 — “Arise, shine…” kingdom witness
James 4:6–7 — God resists the proud, gives grace to the humble
1 Peter 5:6 — Humble yourselves under God’s mighty hand

🛠️ Next Steps for Listeners

Act / Pray / Reflect:

Ask for the mirror. Text two trusted friends: “Tell me one way pride or offense might be blinding me right now.” Receive it without defending.
Pray daily (7 days): “Jesus, where am I not seeing this rightly? Renew my mind. Teach me the lower place.”
Expectations audit: List 3 expectations you hold (of church, leaders, or teammates). Mark each Unreasonable / Immature / Uncommunicated, then take one step to clarify or surrender it to the Lord.
Community move: If you feel isolated, join a group or serving team this week. Don’t wait—Naaman needed friends.
Digital wisdom: Fast one week from online debates; post one measured encouragement instead.

Journaling Prompts:

Where did offense recently knock on my door? What would humility have done?
Which “lower seat” can I intentionally take this month?
Who are my three truth-telling friends? How can I make it safe for them to speak?

Suggested Resources:

The Bait of Satan — John Bevere (on offense)
Humility — Andrew Murray
Spiritual Authority — Watchman Nee (read discerningly)
Imagine Heaven — John Burke
Church Hurt Sermon Series — Pastor Carter, Fierce Church

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