Podcast
Black Girls Heal
Hosted by Shena Lashey · EN
Black Girls Heal helps women break out of cycles of unhealthy relationships with unavailable partners and feeling not enough by combining coaching, therapeutic support, and practical tools. Every episode, we will talk about intimacy, attachment, healing unresolved trauma, and growing in our self worth.
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#335: 3 Ways to Find Positivity in Times of Stress
2w ago00:25:47Tap to summarizeJoin me in the BGH Method for 12 weeks of recovery from love addiction, love avoidance, and the trauma that causes it to get the relationships you want: Click here to learn moreOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →#334: Future Fakers, Secret Emotional Abusers, & Cheaters Do Not Deserve You
3w ago00:30:41Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Shena uses Megan Thee Stallion’s recent breakup to unpack critical relationship red flags, including cheating, emotional instability, and “future faking.” She reinforces that a partner’s betrayal is never your fault, and that patterns like mood swings, lack of accountability, and a history of dishonesty are warning signs that shouldn’t be overlooked. This episode serves as a powerful reminder that you are not responsible for fixing or saving anyone, real love is grounded in emotional safety, consistency, and integrity.Resources mentioned in the episode:BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapConnect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →#333: When You're Healing Alone
4w ago00:26:00Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Shena explores what it looks like to navigate your healing journey without the support system you wish you had. If you’re in a season where you’ve outgrown certain relationships but haven’t yet found your tribe, this conversation will meet you right where you are.This episode is a reminder that even if you’re healing alone, you’re not stuck but you’re creating space for the relationships and life you truly desire.Resources mentioned in the episode:BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapConnect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →#332: Why Your Feelings Need Structure
Apr 1500:21:56Tap to summarizeYour feelings are powerful but they aren’t always telling you the truth. In this episode, I explore why intense emotions can keep you stuck in unhealthy patterns and how giving your feelings structure can help you reclaim your power.Drawing from my work on the No Contact process, I broke down how emotional overwhelm, trauma bonds, and familiar patterns can make it difficult to walk away from relationships that no longer serve you. You’ll learn how to shift from being led by your feelings to creating balance between your emotional and logical mind so you can make decisions rooted in your highest good.Whether you’re navigating no contact, healing inner child wounds, or setting boundaries, this episode will help you reframe your relationship with your emotions and move forward with clarity and intention.Special Offer:Use code FEELINGS to get $97 off the BGH Method.This discount applies to both pay-in-full and payment plans.Resources mentioned in the episode:BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapConnect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →#331: 3 Strengths Gained by Taking Your Power Back in No Contact
Apr 800:27:51Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Shena discussed 3 powerful strengths you gain by taking your power back in no contact.Free No Contact Cheat Sheets: Click here to downloadResources mentioned in the episode:BGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodThe 4 Step Roadmap to Heal Love Addiction: https://www.blackgirlsheal.org/roadmapConnect with us:Website: Blackgirlsheal.orgInstagram: @BlackGirlsHealTikTok: @blackgirlshealFacebook: Black Girls HealThanks for listening, and if you like what you've heard, feel free to share this episode with your friends! There are so many amazing women waiting to discover the Black Girls Heal podcast, and I'd love you to help me spread the word. Don’t forget to come back next week for the new episode.Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →#330: Writing the No Contact Book (Behind the Scenes & More)
Apr 100:27:07Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Shena takes you behind the scenes on writing her latest book on her signature 90 Day No Contact healing process.Pre-Order the No Contact BookOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →#329: When You’re Too Busy to Find Love
Mar 1800:46:55Tap to summarizeIn this episode, Shena shares a powerful live discussion on what it really means to pursue love when life feels overwhelmingly busy, especially if your schedule, past heartbreak, or emotional patterns are holding you back from meaningful connection. She breaks down the deeper reasons behind “being too busy” for love and offers three transformative mindset shifts - helping you prioritize your emotional well-being, let people in, and redefine relationships as nourishing rather than draining while sharing practical insights you can apply right away to build self-worth and healthier connections.Join me in the BGH MethodGet our free 5 step roadmap to heal from love addictionOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →#328: Why your breakups hit differently (why they hurt so much more)
Mar 1100:21:24Tap to summarizeIn this episode, I go over why your breakup pain hits differently than others, describe the process named "withdrawal," and what you can do about it.Join me in the BGH MethodGet our free 5 step roadmap to heal from love addictionOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →#327: 3 Tips to Cope With a Breakup
Mar 400:19:29Tap to summarizeBreakups are painful.But when you struggle with love addiction, trauma bonding, or unresolved childhood wounds, breakups can feel devastating, consuming, and nearly impossible to move through.In this episode, I break down how to navigate heartbreak when your nervous system is deeply activated and your attachment patterns are involved.This conversation is about compassion and not criticism. Awareness and not shame. And breaking generational patterns, not repeating them.If you relate to symptoms of love addiction, love avoidance, or love deprivation, download our free roadmap.Our Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →#326: Where am I in my love addiction journey? (5 stages of healing)
Feb 2500:27:51Tap to summarizeBGH Method: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/methodProfessional Certification: http://www.blackgirlsheal.org/certificationOur Sponsors:* Check out Time4Learning: https://www.time4learning.comAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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