Podcast
Brilliant Balance
Hosted by Cherylanne Skolnicki · EN
You deserve a big, full life and the freedom to enjoy it. The Brilliant Balance Podcast helps women in leadership design their next chapter for sustainable success—without burnout.
Every week, host Cherylanne Skolnicki, a leading expert in work-life balance, leadership growth, and mindset coaching, shares ideas, inspiration, and insights to help high-achieving women align their ambition with personal fulfillment. Through conversations on leadership mindset, time management, and personal growth, you'll gain the tools to thrive in both your career and personal life.
Whether you're considering a career pivot or craving more time for your personal life, you might find yourself asking:
How do I advance my career—without working 24/7?
Can I achieve my goals while still having time for my family?
How do I stop feeling overwhelmed and start feeling in control?
What's next for me—and how do I design it intentionally?
If you've ever wondered how to fulfill your potential without breaking your life, this podcast is for you. In addition to sharing her own insights, Cherylanne sits down with experts, thought leaders, and ambitious women who reveal their strategies for burnout recovery, productivity for women, and redefining success on their terms.
You'll love the Brilliant Balance Podcast if you like podcasts like: Unlocking Us or Dare to Lead with Brene Brown, Women at Work by Harvard Business Review, The Midlife with Reshma Saujani, We Can Do Hard Things with Glennon Doyle, The Mel Robbins Podcast, HerMoney with Jean Chatzky, So Money with Farnoosh Torabi
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What If You Let Them Take the Wheel?
1w ago00:21:41Tap to summarizeDo you always end up taking charge of others' problems because you know you can solve them faster or better? I know I do, and if you're a high-achiever, this episode will hit close to home. Today, I'm sharing why so many highly competent women have this pattern of taking the wheel for others. I'm inviting you to consider how our can-do mindset, while celebrated, can quietly drain our energy, stunt others' growth, and even erode our closest connections. Discover the telltale signs of over-helping, the hidden costs, and how to reclaim your time and sanity without sacrificing your drive. Let's learn to let go, let others step up, build true confidence, and create space for everyone—including ourselves—to thrive. Show Highlights: The high-performer's instinct to solve problems. [01:15] Hardwired servant leadership vs. detrimental overhelping. [02:52] When is it right to grab the wheel from your leaner-driver teen? [04:50] Micromanaging at work and how it stifles others' growth. [07:48] How arguing over doing chores your way leads to overload. [10:10] Learning to listen, not solve. [12:30] What to tell a chronic helper to help them step back. [13:41] The importance of letting others build skills and confidence. [14:55] Eroded connection and people avoiding opening up. [17:02] Why habitual problem-solvers rarely get to feel supported. [18:04] The power supportive coaching with The Coaching Circle. [19:19] Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
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What Conversation Do You Need to Have?
2w ago00:23:33Tap to summarizeAre you avoiding that one conversation you know you need to have? I get it, most of us have a tricky topic we're sidestepping at work, at home, or even with a friend. In this episode, I'm sharing why everything you want—whether it's more flexibility, healthier relationships, or a sense of confidence—is often waiting for you on the other side of a courageous conversation. I'll walk you through the emotions that hold us back, reveal my story of asking for something that felt impossible (and actually getting it!), and challenge you to take that first step, even if it's uncomfortable. This is your moment to take a breath, get honest, and watch what happens when you speak up for what you truly want. Let's rewrite your story, one conversation at a time. Show Highlights: Are you avoiding having difficult but necessary conversations? [00:48] The power of courageous, imperfect conversations. [02:31] What chronic problems in life manifest from. [04:30] The emotions, stories, and "crystal ball" view behind avoidance. [05:53] Link desired outcomes to the conversation they need. [09:34] An example of how to ask for more flexibility at work. [10:35] Approaching sensitive topics with your Mom, friend, or teen. [12:29] Discover an effective workplace practice for clearing the air. [15:32] Three key freedoms courageous conversations build up. [17:33] Shift from knowing to doing with The Coaching Circle. [20:27] Take this week's action step and share with us how it went. [22:02] Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
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The Hidden Costs of Drive
3w ago00:24:14Tap to summarizeEver feel like the very drive that's building your dreams is running your life instead of serving it? If you're the woman everyone admires for getting it all done, but you secretly wonder what it's costing you, this episode is for you. Today, I'm calling out the hidden costs of unchecked overdrive and allowing drive to become our default operating system: constant urgency, the struggle to pause for what really matters, and the slow fade of relationships we hold dear. But there's a solution for this and I'll explain why it isn't eliminating ambition and how to restore your balance. This conversation is about more than productivity. It's about making sure our ambition actually takes us somewhere we want to go. Let's make every effort and every moment count. Show Highlights: A story about missing out due to drive and what caused it. [00:46] Identifying the line between ambition and overdrive. [03:05] The gift of drive as a tool vs. an operating system. [05:58] How the Coaching Circle resolves deeply wired imbalances. [08:27] The costs of constant internal urgency. [09:07] What's the actual pace of recovery we need? [10:35] The problem of optimizing the wrong problems. [11:56] How overdrive leads to relationship drift. [14:07] The skill of intentional drive modulation. [17:54] Exiting overdrive culture for a setting for retraining healthy drive. [19:32] The value of the Coaching Circle and how to sign up. [21:04] Join The Coaching Circle to apply what you learn on the podcast with structure & support: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
Transcribe →Why Highly Competent Women Still Feel Overwhelmed (And What I Built to Help)
4w ago00:31:36Tap to summarizeHave you ever wondered why, despite being wildly competent and organized, you sometimes still feel like everything is just too much? I know that feeling well, and I'm sharing my take on why so many accomplished women live in overwhelm - it's certainly not because we aren't capable! Sometimes we even know what to do but we can't make time to do it. So this week I'm introducing something brand new - The Coaching Circle - to bridge the gap between knowing and doing when it comes to Brilliant Balance practices. If you're ready for more ease, less overwhelm, and a circle of women who truly get it, this one's for you. Show Highlights: When overwhelm hit the tipping point in my personal story. [00:54] How getting coaching provided me with a "map" and ease. [03:21] The undercurrent of pressure in competent women. [06:17] Can an outdated "life OS" manage peak complexity levels? [07:57] The crisis of insight not leading to action and change. [11:03] Introducing The Coaching Circle by Brilliant Balance [14:03] How the Coaching Circle works and its unique benefits. [17:52] Structural challenges women face that aren't personal failures. [20:49] Learn who this is ideal for and see if or sounds like you. [22:15] Discover the three elements that drive real change. [26:57] Details and topic of the first Coaching Circle master class. [28:26] If you're ready to have structure and support to apply the ideas you learn on the podcast, check out The Coaching Circle: https://brilliant-balance.com/coachingcircle Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
Transcribe →Functional Freeze: The Hidden Nervous System Pattern Holding Women Back with Beatriz Albina
Apr 2100:34:53Tap to summarizeThis week, I'm joined by Beatriz Albina, a nurse practitioner, somatic coach, and the bestselling author of End Emotional Outsourcing, to discuss a hidden nervous system epidemic among professional women: "functional freeze." Do you look poised and unstoppable on the outside, but often feel disconnected from yourself? Beatriz breaks down the functional freeze phenomenon and "emotional outsourcing," the reason you might be stuck in a pattern of overgiving, perfectionism, and people-pleasing.She explains how chronic disconnection from our bodies is a protective response deeply rooted in our nervous systems. This compassionate and science-backed conversation will illuminate why willpower alone isn't the answer—and how you can begin to reclaim your self-trust and honor your humanness to design an authentic, brilliant next chapter. Don't miss it! Show Highlights: What is functional freeze? [04:05] Is functional freeze a common problem? [07:18] Emotional outsourcing vs. healthy co-regulation. [09:30] Navigating the self and curiosity vs. external expectations. [12:45] The importance of finding "grown-up" support and a "village." [17:22] Why somatic, body-based nervous system rewiring matters. [18:20] A simple "What am I feeling right now?" awareness self-check. [19:44] Reconnection practices to check in with your body and honor it. [21:43] The need to heal from "I'm fine" conditioning. [28:05] Where to find Beatriz Albina's free resources and her book. [32:29] To find Beatriz Albina's work and the free meditations she's offering: https://beatrizalbina.com/free-meditations/ Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
Transcribe →Setting Boundaries That Actually Hold: Listener Questions Answered
Apr 1400:29:00Tap to summarizeToday, I'm mixing things up a bit by answering YOUR questions all about setting boundaries that actually hold, especially at work. If you've ever found it tough to say no, wondered how to handle tricky power dynamics, or felt overwhelmed by requests after hours, you're in the right place. I'll share five real situations that listeners have asked about, along with practical strategies you can use right away. You'll hear about everything from managing expectations with leaders to finding your voice as the "new person" in the office. My hope is that you'll recognize your own experiences, pick up some actionable tips, and start shaping boundaries that help you shine without burning out. Show Highlights: Don't miss Kate Northrup's free "Good with Money" workshop. [00:56] What boundaries mean beyond just saying no. [03:52] Boundary setting with senior leaders who ignore preferences. [04:23] Consistency as the key to fostering boundary respect. [07:43] How to make a work increase you can't refuse negotiable. [08:09] Creating clarity without saying no. [11:33] Resetting after-hours etiquette with always-on colleagues. [12:12] Benefits of "beginning as you mean to go on" in a new job. [17:07] Tips for avoiding unpaid work and protecting your time. [20:26] Are you letting others define your boundaries for you? [27:02] To register for Kate Northrup's Good with Money Free Masterclass click here: https://thefreefam.ontraport.net/t?orid=497195&opid=170 Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
Transcribe →Life is not linear: If I had known then what I know now about the momentum cycle
Apr 700:33:26Tap to summarizeToday, I'm sharing a simple truth that often goes unspoken: life is not linear. We're conditioned to believe that progress should be a steady, upward journey, but what if our lives actually operate in cycles, not straight lines? I'm unpacking the "momentum cycle" and exploring why your energy, creativity, and focus naturally ebb and flow through distinct seasons—surges of expansion, hard stops of crisis, the uncertainty of transitions, and the necessity of recovery—and why striving to always be at your peak can actually hinder your progress. If you're tired of measuring your life against an unfair expectation of nonstop achievement, tune in for fresh insights on honoring your energy, matching your actions to your current season, and finding power, even in the pauses. Show Highlights: Details of Kate Northrup's upcoming money workshop. [00:59] The fallacy that life is linear vs. the "momentum cycle." [03:44] The highs and gradual low of growth and expansion. [07:31] Navigating crisis periods with focus. [09:40] How transition and change can become accelerators. [12:49] Do you allow yourself time to recover and heal? [16:59] Suffering due to misaligned output and capacity. [21:00] How can you honor your human limits? [24:57] The power and opportunity in pausing. [26:24] Find out whether you're in sync with your phase. [28:53] The joy of trusting the cycle and celebrating others' wins. [30:00] To register for Good with Money click here: https://thefreefam.ontraport.net/t?orid=497195&opid=170 Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
Transcribe →Getting Good with Money: A Conversation with Kate Northrup
Mar 3100:44:59Tap to summarizeToday, I'm sitting down for an eye-opening conversation about wealth with bestselling author, entrepreneur, and creator of the Relaxed Money Method, Kate Northrup, who brings a refreshing perspective on money—seeing it as a relationship, not just a set of numbers. Why does making good money not necessarily make us good with money? Kate explains to us how our stories about money shift through life's seasons, the surprising role our nervous system plays in financial decision-making, and why feeling truly safe with abundance is the real prize. If you've struggled with the tension between ambition and the pull of "real life," or financial shame and secrecy, take the first step to recalibrating your relationship with wealth with Kate's wisdom. After the episode, you may want to join Kate's upcoming workshop! Show Highlights: Money as a number vs. a relationship in your real context. [02:17] Reimagine financial tasks with the "money date" concept. [05:02] Financial shame in successful women and the cost of secrecy. [08:19] The real key to being good with money beyond the topline. [11:47] Uncouple your identity and nervous system from money beliefs. [18:23] How to power-reset your nervous system. [24:07] The lie of scarcity and separation vs. energy of clarity. [30:01] Kate Northrup's free "Good with Money" workshop. [38:24] Check out Kate's podcast Plenty. [41:13] To register for Good with Money, click here: https://thefreefam.ontraport.net/t?orid=497195&opid=170 To find Kate's podcast Plenty: https://katenorthrup.com Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
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When Being Liked Becomes a Limiter
Mar 2400:26:37Tap to summarizeAre you ready to reevaluate how much being liked really matters? In this episode, I'm talking about the surprising, powerful, and sometimes uncomfortable truth that seeking approval can actually keep us from reaching our full potential. I'll explain how the need to be liked is a fuel woven into our early lives and careers, but then becomes a constraint as we step into midlife and leadership roles. I'll show you why we need to trade our need for approval for clarity, courage, and the kind of power that inspires true leadership—the power of shifting focus from managing perceptions to forging real outcomes. If you've felt the powerful pull of wanting to be liked, ever softened your opinions, over-accommodated, or hesitated to claim your authority for fear of ruffling feathers, you know what this episode is about. Tune in to discover how trading approval for influence can open up a chapter of freedom and impact, and the legacy you crave! Show Highlights: What does our need for approval stem from? [01:05] The early power of approval and high-achiever conditioning. [04:35] How approval becomes a clashing limiter at midlife. [06:47] Approval-oriented vs. power/influence-oriented behaviors. [07:45] Understand true power. [11:48] Learning to withstand disapproval and hold your own. [13:46] Costs of overoptimizing for approval and underclaiming space. [15:42] The "I" statements of the "liked" vs. "influential" identity. [18:58] Five steps to reclaim influence without approval polling. [21:08] The benefits of earning influence over approval. [24:02] Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
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Carrying the Family: The Burden & Blessing of Daughtering with Dr. Allison Alford
Mar 1700:32:50Tap to summarizeToday, I'm joined by communication scholar and Baylor professor Dr. Allison Alford to shine a light on a topic that speaks directly to the heart of so many women—the often unseen work of "daughtering." If you're the steady anchor of your family, the go-to for remembering birthdays, managing sibling dynamics, and smoothing over tensions before anyone else even notices, this conversation is for you! Dr. Alford is the author of Good Daughtering and brings wisdom, empathy, and refreshing clarity to the subtle yet significant roles that many professional women carry as adult daughters, and the interplay of obligation and autonomy, devotion and depletion. She offers practical strategies to lighten your load, reclaim your agency, and reshape your definition of what it means to be "enough." You'll discover why recognizing your "daughtering" labor is both liberating and essential. This conversation offers a fresh perspective on modeling daughtering, so tune in for inspiration to purposely create a life with a more sustainable, joyful balance! Show Highlights: What does "daughtering" mean? [05:06] The doing, thinking, feeling, and being work of daughters. [06:34] Acknowledging the blessing/burden duality of daughtering. [11:45] Is it love or duty that motivates daughtering work? [13:04] Identifying hedonic vs. eudaimonic happiness. [13:39] How daughtering can shift to overfunctioning and resentment. [16:21] Research findings on daughter and son roles in family care. [19:36] Redefining "enough" and embracing being a B+ daughter. [23:18] How to practice microdosing daughtering and agency. [26:01] Self-care as daughters and modeling it for the next generation. [28:44] Dr. Alford's book and where to find her work or contact her. [31:46] Connect with Allison Alford here: https://www.instagram.com/daughtering101/?hl=en Subscribe to the Brilliant Balance Weekly: www.brilliant-balance.com/weekly Follow Cherylanne on Instagram: www.instagram.com/cskolnicki
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