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Brooke
You found it. The second Date Update podcast. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Thank you so much for being here and we love hearing how you found us. I know we've gotten a lot of comments about viral tick tocks about people finding us even on Facebook. Oh yeah.
Jose
Or being forced by their friends to listen to us.
Brooke
Oh, that's always when people say that one. Yeah, yeah, that's always a good one. And today we got a special treat. It's a closure call. If you haven't heard one of these, you know, like you've said before, Jose, it's kind of the most intense segment that we do. Yeah. And this one, out of all the closure calls we've ever done, definitely took the most amount of energy to make it happen for.
Alex
Yeah, I mean, think about it. Some people hold all this weight for so long to actually get that closure or have that conversation that they never had. Yeah, it could be crazy.
Brooke
And honestly, this one proves that our producer is amazing. To actually get this person the answers that they needed, the fact that he.
Alex
Can remember the next day, even follow up, is impressive to me.
Jose
Good thing he won't hear this to know we actually like him.
Alex
That's a great point.
Brooke
Good point. All right. Hey, here's the closure call. Enjoy.
Jeffrey
Despite what everyone listening may think, it actually takes a lot of work to put on this mediocre radio show.
Brooke
Go preach, Jeffrey.
Jeffrey
Mediocre. That's a generous term.
Brooke
Yeah, thank you.
Jeffrey
Because it's hard to get people to actually answer their phones for second date calls and phone taps.
Alex
So many failed ones.
Brooke
I blame Jinzy.
Jose
You can blame us. I'm not answering.
Jeffrey
Sometimes we wait days or weeks to get a response. But nothing compares to what our producer had to go through to make today's closure call happen. Cuz this all started when one of our listeners received a mysterious message on Facebook. And what it said was so shocking, she had to find out if it was true.
Brooke
Oh, my God.
Jeffrey
And now, after a full year of our producer tracking this person down, trying to convince them to respond, we finally got some answers. And it might be the most emotional email that we've ever had to send. You're gonna understand why in your brand new closure call. Next. We've been doing the closure calls for a while now, but today is a first.
Brooke
Oh, why?
Jeffrey
Because we reached out to someone that our listener has never even met before.
Brooke
Wait, what?
Jeffrey
Never seen in person either.
Brooke
Why would you need closure for someone who is not part of your life at all?
Alex
How does that work?
Jeffrey
These are good questions that we should ask her, but they desperately need to get closure on this. And from the little bit that I do know, it is a very interesting, very shocking, mysterious story.
Brooke
Okay. Because at first I was thinking, why is our producer picking this person? Yeah.
Jeffrey
Let's ask some of these questions to Marissa. And welcome to the show. Hey, Marissa. How's it going?
Marissa
Hey, guys. It's going okay. How are you?
Alex
Good.
Brooke
Confused.
Alex
Are you, like, hitting up, like, Madonna to ask her why she's not making music anymore?
Brooke
She's actually still making music.
Jeffrey
Yeah.
Marissa
Good music.
Alex
Thank you, Jeff.
Brooke
Okay, thanks for the old reference.
Jeffrey
We can speculate, but let's just have Marissa tell us what made you email the show for help.
Marissa
Okay, so this is kind of a crazy story. It kind of blows my mind too. But this. This chick named Aspen hit me up. Instant or direct message?
Brooke
Okay.
Marissa
And she had a crazy story for me.
Brooke
Did she tell you the story right away, or was it one of those, like. I don't know, she's setting you up for a scam or something? Yeah, exactly.
Alex
Yeah, exactly.
Marissa
Funny you mentioned that. I thought it was a scam at first because it was so crazy, but she said she just found out that 30 years ago she was accidentally swapped at birth for another bab at the hospital, and that baby was me.
Brooke
What?
Jeffrey
What?
Brooke
Whoa, wait, she's claiming. How would she know? What?
Marissa
Yeah, Swap Sisters. I was like, okay, that sounds really weird.
Jeffrey
Like, swap Sisters. Dude, it sounds like a show on tlc.
Brooke
She's saying your parents aren't your parents. That they're her parents.
Marissa
Yeah. Crazy, right? So I deleted it.
Brooke
Yeah.
Jeffrey
Oh, you thought it was a scam?
Alex
I would have had questions.
Brooke
No way, dude. I would think it's a. I mean.
Jose
You can tell if you're related to your.
Brooke
Well, I mean, if you do a DNA test. I mean, you can do those Tests. And a lot of people are finding out stuff like. Like, oh, that's not really my dad is usually how it goes down.
Jeffrey
Oh, Brooklyn knows. Yeah, totally.
Brooke
Typically, you know who your mom is?
Alex
Yeah, kind of makes more sense.
Marissa
She sent me another message and she's like, this is not a scam. So I hit up my parents and I was like, mom, dad, can you tell me about this? And they seem totally shocked.
Brooke
Well, that's what happens with SWAT babies. The parents don't know. That's the big, like, to do about it, right? It's like back in the day, they'd take the babies into a room. Now, you're never separated from your baby after you give birth.
Alex
Really?
Brooke
Yeah, unless you ask them to take it away so you can sleep.
Jeffrey
So your parents who raised you, they didn't believe it.
Marissa
They thought it was a scam, too. Like some elaborate AI thing.
Brooke
Oh, my gosh. So wait, did you go to Aspen's page? Could you see any resemblance?
Marissa
Well, so she sent me some pictures, and what's weird is the photos looked exactly like me of her parents.
Brooke
Wait, what?
Alex
Oh, you look like her parents?
Marissa
Yeah. So I finally wrote back here, and I was like, how do you know all this information? Yeah, and what else can you tell me?
Brooke
What else can you tell me? Okay, what'd she say?
Marissa
Her last message was something totally mysterious. She thinks her mom and dad might know about it, but they're so mad at me for bringing it up, they won't talk about it.
Brooke
Oh, so she's saying she actually doesn't even know all the details. She just knows that their family all knows. It's like some big family secret and.
Alex
They don't want to.
Marissa
Yeah, I think she might have gotten in trouble for even reaching out to me.
Alex
So the fact that they don't want any information or, hey, drop it. Like that makes it sound like it is legit. But why would this, like, stop asking questions?
Brooke
Like, I mean, I guess, like, if you have an adult child, right, you've raised them your whole life, and then you just then find out that they were swapped at birth. It's like, you can't just be like.
Alex
I know you're 23, but we're sending you back to the hospital.
Jeffrey
Switch. What's that saying? Like, you know, not knowing is bliss.
Brooke
Ignorance is.
Jeffrey
Ignorance is bliss. Maybe that was their stance on it.
Brooke
So, like, how are you feeling?
Marissa
I'm just kind of freaked out, to be honest. Like, this is the weirdest thing that I think has ever happened to me. If it's true, but.
Jeffrey
Oh, yeah. And how long has this been going on? You with the back and forth with this girl?
Marissa
This happened four years ago.
Brooke
Oh, four years ago. Wait, you've been sitting on this for four years?
Jose
Did you get DNA tested with your parents?
Marissa
No, but I think I found my mom on Facebook, but she wouldn't respond.
Brooke
Wait, you're already calling her my mom?
Jeffrey
What should she call her?
Brooke
Brooke, I think just the woman. I don't know what her name is, but, like, you know that. One for a fact and two, like, your mom is still your mom.
Marissa
Yeah.
Brooke
I mean, that's crazy. You've got to be happy. Like a whole identity crisis because of this.
Jeffrey
And so your biological, biological mom wasn't responding to your messages, and that's when you reached out to us.
Marissa
Right? My supposed biological mom that looks like me.
Brooke
Oh, my gosh.
Alex
Is that the case?
Brooke
Wait, is that who you wrote with our producer? You wrote the biological mom with the questions?
Marissa
Right.
Jeffrey
She actually emailed us about a year ago, it turns out. And our producer has been working on this every single week, trying to soften up the mom in order to respond. Marissa, you know that we wouldn't have you on the show right now if she did didn't answer us.
Brooke
She finally answered after a year.
Alex
Yeah, she said stop contacting.
Jeffrey
We got her responses back a couple days ago.
Brooke
Oh, my God. Aspen, are you sitting down? Are you in a safe place? Sorry, I mean, Marissa.
Marissa
Yes.
Jeffrey
Okay, maybe you should lie down for this one because it could get kind of emotional. But hopefully we can help give you some finality when we do your closure call right after this.
Marissa
Thank you.
Jeffrey
Just hold on.
Brooke
Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Jeffrey
This could be such an emotional closure call. I think we need to have some sad piano music for it.
Brooke
What? No.
Jeffrey
Wait, what? No, I said. I said sad piano. Not bad piano. What is this?
Brooke
I see the mix up. Okay. Oh, my God.
Jeffrey
See, this is why I have to listen to the music ahead of time. Stop this.
Brooke
Yes.
Jeffrey
Let me. Let me get some sad piano music, please. No. Okay, now this is not sad. This is fast piano.
Brooke
It's kind of impressive.
Jeffrey
Yeah, but it doesn't fit the tone. Stop.
Brooke
What is this?
Alex
Your father? I feel like it's an evil.
Jeffrey
Bring the music down. No, no, no, no. I'm sad. Like emotional music. Okay, after the fast one, I know.
Brooke
I want to go back to the happy one.
Jeffrey
We're talking about swapped at birth. Just doesn't feel right anymore.
Alex
You missed your. You missed your window.
Brooke
You say it with frustration. You're Frustrated at the music.
Jeffrey
I'm not. But swapped at birth, this is something that you don't hear about much anymore, thankfully, because the hospitals are better at not doing it. But 30 years ago.
Brooke
Or they're better at hiding it.
Jeffrey
Yeah, maybe that' 30 years ago, though, it did happen to one of our listeners. Marissa maybe got a random message on her socials from a girl named Aspen claiming to be her swap sister.
Brooke
Yeah.
Jeffrey
Saying they were accidentally swapped at the hospital and they've been raised by each other's parents for years.
Brooke
Which, by the way, I wouldn't Google search the term swap sister. I just think that you're gonna end up with something you don't want to see.
Jeffrey
That's not an official term. Aspen came up with it, but the thing is, the details about it were a little bit sketchy and there was some hesitation to answer everything. That's why a year ago, Marissa reached out to us asking if we could contact her biological mom for her and hopefully get her some closure on what really happened.
Alex
Usually if you hit us up a year in advance, we don't get to it just because we're lazy. Apparently our producer's been working on this a lot.
Jeffrey
We're running out of time thanks to all the bad piano music, so we better just get to it. We sent four questions to Marissa's mom. Marissa, are you ready to hear some answers to this? I know you've been waiting a long time.
Marissa
Yes. Yes, I am.
Brooke
What musical track do you want him to play behind it when he reads it?
Alex
It's not important. Why are we focusing on?
Jose
Maybe it's not your tears in the back when you start crying during this.
Brooke
I. I'm joking. I'm joking, Marissa. I mean, this is crazy because, I mean, you're going to finally know. Hopefully you're going to hear from the mom.
Marissa
Yeah, yeah. I mean, this has been a time coming just getting some of these answers I've been looking for. You know, it's just been such a mystery.
Jeffrey
Let's get to the first one. And this is going to be the first time I've read the answers too. I was just handed the sheet with what she wrote back.
Brooke
You needed to pre read them, Jeff, so that you weren't crying.
Alex
Producer Boyd went through all this.
Jeffrey
I'm sure I needed to focus on the piano music is what I needed.
Brooke
Let's get to the focus harder. So it would have gone better, but sure.
Jeffrey
Question one. We said your daughter Aspen reached out to me years ago, telling me you were my real biological mom.
Brooke
Right.
Jeffrey
Is this true? So she wrote back.
Brooke
Oh, my gosh. Are you ready for this?
Marissa
Yes, please.
Jeffrey
Okay, because if you said no, we would have had to stop the segment, and that would have been really annoying.
Alex
Jeff has a Blake. Y'all ready for this?
Jeffrey
She wrote back. It is true. But Aspen didn't reach out to you. I did.
Brooke
Wait, what?
Alex
I need to calm down.
Brooke
Wait, I'm confused. I'm confused. So she faked being Aspen?
Jeffrey
She says I made up a fake Facebook account for her because I was too ashamed to speak directly to you.
Brooke
Oh, my.
Jeffrey
I'm sorry.
Brooke
So is Aspen the girl that you were really swapped with? Oh, yeah.
Jeffrey
Marissa.
Marissa
Yeah.
Brooke
Are you okay?
Jeffrey
Do you have all the answers you need, or would you like to continue?
Brooke
Hey, check on her. She sounds upset.
Jeffrey
Are you okay?
Marissa
No, it's. It's just shocking. It's amazing and shocking, and I. I can't thank you guys enough for reaching out to her and helping me, but.
Alex
I mean, it's not.
Brooke
So wait, so you just believe her straight out the gate, like, this is a woman who's faking to be Aspen?
Marissa
Yeah, I mean, I really don't know what to believe. I'm really curious to know what she does next.
Alex
Sounds like you almost want it to be real.
Jeffrey
Well, let's get to the second question, which was, tell me what you know about me getting swapped at birth. How did you find out about that? She wrote back. Well, honestly, when I reached out four years ago, I made it up.
Brooke
Oh, what? Wait, she says, who is she?
Jeffrey
Then I knew I wanted to speak with you, but I didn't know how to do it without making it seem like I was a terrible parent. Because the truth is, I gave you up for adoption at birth.
Alex
All the twists and turns.
Jeffrey
She said. I'm sorry again.
Alex
Wait, so she still is your mom, but it wasn't a swat.
Jeffrey
Okay, so she was ashamed to admit the truth.
Brooke
Did you know you were adopted by your.
Marissa
By your mom?
Brooke
Your parents?
Jeffrey
Maybe the parents didn't know that they adopted her?
Brooke
No, they definitely could be in the dark, but the mom would be pretty clear.
Alex
A lot of paperwork involved, Jeff.
Brooke
But why would your parents not come clean with you when you approach them about being swapped at birth? They would know you were, like, gonna find something out.
Alex
They weren't lying.
Marissa
I don't know. I think it was just too much for them. You know, and just mentioning thing, we're.
Jeffrey
Getting a lot of Text in at 78592 from listeners who are supporting you, by the way. Yeah, so keep those coming we're going to forward those to her after the segment so that she could read them all. But this is already going way different than we thought this call was going to be. So I don't know if the third question is going to be relevant still, because again, we write all the questions before we know the answers. But the third question was, how do I know this is really my biological moment? My parents who raised me are both shocked and know nothing about it. Do you have any proof?
Brooke
That's still a valid question. I mean, valid question still.
Alex
We're talking right to her.
Brooke
Like, what if this is still someone who's. I mean, she already lied about, you know, whole story.
Marissa
What? What did she say?
Jeffrey
She wrote back, there are birth records that I had you, and we both have the same color blonde hair as I've shown you in the pictures I sent. Yeah, I'm not sure I'm ready for a DNA test, but it would also prove it as well.
Brooke
Huh?
Jeffrey
I'm sorry, lady. She keeps saying I'm sorry at the end of every answer, so she clearly feels pretty bad.
Brooke
Yeah, but she shouldn't feel bad. You have a great life. Like, I mean, if she couldn't provide you with what you needed as a child.
Alex
Yeah, well said.
Marissa
I don't understand. So that means my parents are lying or something?
Brooke
Or she's lying. I mean, somebody's not telling the truth in this situation, that's for sure.
Jeffrey
Maybe trying to protect you. One party is trying to protect you from something. But let's go to the fourth question because we are running out of time here. It says, is there anything else that I should know about what happened? We like to leave it kind of open in general for them to fill in the blanks.
Brooke
Well, thank God we did, since we didn't know what the hell was going on.
Jeffrey
It's definitely taking a turn. But your mom wrote back. She said, there is obviously a lot to tell you, but I'm sure you're angry at me about how I handled it. I am getting older, though, and I just wanted to have a chance to get to meet my daughter and know you. She says, I don't expect you to forgive me, but I would love to meet up with you in person, if you're willing.
Marissa
I guess I just need some time to think about it. I mean, I'm curious, too, but I have so many unanswered questions at this moment, even for my parents who raised me.
Brooke
You know, I know it feels like you have a lot to deal with before you even think about Meeting up with this woman who claims to be your biological mom. Yeah, like, who's your dad then, too? Like, there's so many.
Jeffrey
But again, this is a woman who, like, we've tried to reach out to on Facebook and is clearly used to lying. We don't know if any of this is actually true. So I wouldn't necessarily come in with guns ablaze.
Brooke
I totally agree. I would come in super guarded. I mean. Yeah, like I said, somebody's lying to you. My instinct would be this woman, because you don't even know her. You know, you would trust your parents more.
Jeffrey
You need to bring your current parents with the biological mom and have them meet, and they. Maybe something will become true.
Brooke
What does your birth certificate say?
Marissa
I don't know. I haven't really looked at it.
Jeffrey
Go get it. We'll wait, maybe come back with it later. But I'm sorry, I know this is a lot of information that was just tossed on you. We'll give you some time to process. But do you feel like maybe it helped get you a step towards closure?
Marissa
I feel like I have a lot more questions, to be honest.
Jeffrey
Okay.
Brooke
Yeah. I was thinking opens everything up, doesn't close anything.
Jeffrey
We'll stay in touch with you, and hopefully we can do a closure call update and figure out what's really going on if you do meet up with your biological mom. If she is your biological mom.
Brooke
Yeah.
Marissa
Okay. Thank you, guys.
Jeffrey
All right.
Brooke
I just want to give you a hug right now.
Jeffrey
Give me some happy piano music to play us out, please. Okay.
Brooke
It's kind of tense.
Alex
Yeah.
Jeffrey
All right. That was a.
Alex
That's dramatic.
Jeffrey
It's a successful closure call.
Brooke
Successful, Jeff.
Jeffrey
At all. All right, well, it was a closure call.
Alex
Yeah.
Brooke
With zero closure.
Jeffrey
It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. It's what you get when you email us for help.
Brooke
Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Podcast Summary: Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update
Episode Title: Closure Call: Switch Sitch
Release Date: April 20, 2025
Host/Author: iHeartPodcasts
In this emotionally charged episode of Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update, hosts Brooke and Jeffrey delve into one of their most intense segments yet: a closure call with a listener named Marissa. This episode, titled "Closure Call: Switch Sitch," explores the complexities and emotional turmoil surrounding a claim of being swapped at birth—a narrative that intertwines deception, family secrets, and the quest for identity.
The episode begins with Brooke and Jeffrey introducing the concept of a closure call—a dedicated segment where they help listeners seek answers and finality regarding unresolved personal matters. Brooke describes this particular closure call as the most energy-intensive they have undertaken:
Brooke [01:11]: "...this one proves that our producer is amazing. To actually get this person the answers that they needed..."
Jeffrey acknowledges the dedication required to secure such calls, emphasizing the challenge of getting participants to engage:
Jeffrey [01:46]: "Because it's hard to get people to actually answer their phones for second date calls and phone taps."
Marissa, the guest, shares her unsettling experience of receiving a mysterious direct message from a woman named Aspen on Facebook. Aspen claims that they were accidentally swapped at birth 30 years ago, asserting that Aspen is Marissa's biological sister:
Marissa [03:58]: "She had a crazy story for me. Aspen hit me up. Instant or direct message... she just found out that 30 years ago she was accidentally swapped at birth for another baby... that baby was me."
Initially skeptical, Marissa dismissed the message as a potential scam due to its bizarre nature. However, Aspen provided compelling evidence, including photos strikingly similar to Marissa’s and her parents':
Marissa [05:52]: "The photos looked exactly like me of her parents."
Brooke and Jeffrey highlight the relentless efforts of their producer, Boyd, who spent a year tracking down Aspen to facilitate this closure call. Boyd's dedication is praised for finally eliciting responses from Aspen's side:
Brooke [02:21]: "And now, after a full year of our producer tracking this person down... we finally got some answers."
Jeffrey underscores the emotional weight of this achievement:
Jeffrey [11:55]: "She says I made up a fake Facebook account for her because I was too ashamed to speak directly to you."
As the closure call progresses, significant revelations surface. Aspen admits that she fabricated the initial contact, revealing that the swap at birth was not accidental but a result of Aspen’s inability to raise Marissa:
Aspen [12:03]: "I made it up... I gave you up for adoption at birth."
This confession shatters Marissa’s hopes for straightforward answers, introducing doubt and confusion. Marissa grapples with the conflicting narratives, questioning the authenticity of both Aspen’s claims and her parents' silence:
Marissa [15:14]: "I really don't know what to believe. I'm really curious to know what she does next."
The hosts and fellow team members express empathy and concern for Marissa’s emotional state, acknowledging the psychological impact of such revelations. They encourage Marissa to approach the situation cautiously, suggesting DNA testing and involving her current parents in any future discussions with Aspen:
Brooke [16:34]: "My instinct would be this woman, because you don't even know her. You would trust your parents more."
Jeffrey [16:43]: "You need to bring your current parents with the biological mom and have them meet."
Listeners also reach out with support, emphasizing the community aspect of the show and the importance of seeking truth amidst uncertainty.
The episode concludes without definitive closure, leaving Marissa with more questions than answers. The hosts express their commitment to continue supporting her journey, hoping for future closure:
Brooke [17:15]: "Yeah. If she does meet up with your biological mom. If she is your biological mom."
Jeffrey [17:25]: "We'll stay in touch with you, and hopefully we can do a closure call update and figure out what's really going on."
The final moments highlight the complexity of identity and familial bonds, underscoring that some closures evolve into ongoing quests for truth.
This episode of Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update masterfully navigates the intricate layers of personal identity, deception, and the quest for closure. Through Marissa's story, listeners are invited to contemplate the profound implications of family secrets and the enduring human desire to uncover one's true origins. The heartfelt discussions, combined with the hosts' unwavering support, make "Closure Call: Switch Sitch" a compelling and thought-provoking installment in the podcast series.