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Brooke
You know, Alexis, we have so much in common.
Alexis
Do we?
Brooke
Yeah. Like, we're both blonde. Everybody always thinks that I'm the same age as you.
Alexis
Yeah, I don't know about everybody, but.
Brooke
You know, okay, but honestly, we both love Stella Rosa wines.
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Yes.
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Alexis
Yes, I love having it on a movie night with my roommate. Or hey, if I bring it to family dinner, it looks like I contributed something.
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Jeff
Man, who knew people loved hearing other people's dating fails so much.
Brooke
Seriously. And it's really a universal language. Yeah, I mean, honestly, it is. It is all over the globe right now.
Jeff
What do you mean?
Brooke
Well, we're getting comments. One from Austin Mason that says shout out from Canada. Keezo wrote us and said shout out from Tanzania, which is amazing. And then exhausted is the handle. Shout out from South Africa.
Jeff
Wow. Shouted at by people all over the world. It's like a United nations meeting.
Brooke
Another one from Serbia. I think that's so cool.
Jeff
Let's get all the continents in on the action as we count down our top ten signs. Second date updates. We're at number six in the countdown today, which is titled no fun Top Gun, so enjoy. Second date update. When you go on a first date to a restaurant or a bar, you ever think about how there's probably other couples who are also having first dates at the exact same time right next to you?
Jose
I don't.
Brooke
That's really a bonding thought.
Jeff
Yeah. You know, I don't think of it as bonding. Like, oh, I don't want to be out romanced by somebody else in there.
Brooke
I thought it was a comforting thing other people were in these same awkward positions.
Jeff
It's a competition. It's not a good look on me. That's why I always buy flowers and cake for every woman in the bar to prove I'm the alpha lover of this Sizzler.
Brooke
I think you just got taken advantage of, but I appreciate the cake, but.
Jeff
One of our listeners, Cameron, says, hey, he definitely got one upped by another dude on his date, and he was actually cool with it.
Brooke
Okay.
Jeff
So, Cameron, I guess you're at that Sizzler, huh? Sorry, man.
Cameron
Yeah, I guess so.
Brooke
Yeah. Did your date fall hard for Jeffrey and you just had no control over the situation?
Cameron
I mean, that's the only explanation, I guess.
Brooke
Yes. I see.
Jeff
I apologize already. But tell us about the woman that you went out with. What's her name?
Cameron
Her name is Lauren.
Brooke
Okay. And I'm guessing you met on a dating app or something.
Cameron
We did.
Brooke
Okay, what did you like about, like, a psychic? What did you like about her?
Cameron
I mean, she's really pretty and.
Brooke
Okay.
Cameron
It happened really quick. Asked her out pretty immediately.
Brooke
Okay.
Jeff
Oh, wow. Like, second text message, like, hey, sup? Want a date?
Cameron
Yeah. No, I wasn't really wasting any time here.
Brooke
You must be hot if that worked.
Jeff
Appreciate the efficiency.
Brooke
Yay. I mean, that's Going into, like, the date with. Not a lot of knowledge, right? You're pretty blind.
Cameron
Yeah, but it's good because, you know, I've had dates where I've talked with the girl online forever, and then there's just nothing to talk about at dinner.
Brooke
I can see that, too.
Jeff
Yeah, don't waste all the conversation up front. I see what you're saying. Where did you end up going for your date?
Cameron
Well, I took her to a hanger where I fly planes.
Brooke
Whoa. He was coming out of the gate with a flex, huh?
Jose
Oh, my gosh.
Jeff
You're a pilot?
Jose
Planes, bro.
Cameron
Yeah. So I made a point in making my profile pic of me in a plane cockpit because I figured that was cool.
Jeff
That's why she went out with you immediately.
Alexis
My head goes to free flights.
Jose
Yeah, and he's rich. He's a pilot.
Brooke
Well, do you own a plane or you share a plane with somebody, so.
Cameron
Not yet. Okay. I've been taking lessons.
Jeff
Oh, cool. Okay, Alexis has officially stopped listening to the conversation.
Alexis
I already know people that are pilots. I don't need you anymore.
Jose
She's like, you don't have your wings yet.
Brooke
Okay, so, I mean, what was the date plan at the hangar, though? You just walk around some planes and look at them?
Cameron
Yes. I mean, I go to this flight school. It's 30 minutes outside the city, and I thought that would be a really cool first date. You know, just give her, like, exclusive access to an airfield that I can get into and, you know, just look around, look at the planes.
Jose
That's awesome.
Brooke
Was there any food involved?
Jeff
Yeah, peanuts.
Brooke
Brooke.
Cameron
I mean, we were planning to go to a bar afterwards.
Brooke
Okay.
Cameron
You know, I just wanted to show her my thing, and, you know, she seemed interested.
Jose
Oh, so you didn't go flying? You didn't, like, take her up in a plane?
Cameron
No, I'm not allowed.
Brooke
Yeah, but that's cool, though. I mean, it's cool that she was interested in it.
Jeff
Was she impressed by the plane tour?
Cameron
She was. The weird thing is, when we got there, there were some huge letters on the Runway. It spelled out, will you marry me?
Jose
Oh, my gosh, bro, you're moving a little fast here.
Cameron
Yeah, no, I didn't do that. I didn't do that.
Jeff
Are you sure? Because you asked her out. Second text message. I could see you marrying her immediate.
Brooke
There was a marriage proposal at the same time for someone else.
Jeff
That's why you were one upped on the date.
Cameron
Yeah, I mean, it just proves my point that it's a romantic spot, but. No, I mean, Yeah, I mean, it was awkward for a while. Like, just seeing the letters. It's like, well, you move quick.
Brooke
Did you guys actually witness the couple there, or did you just see the letters on the Runway?
Cameron
No, no, we didn't see the couple. We just saw the guy taking off.
Brooke
But you said it was awkward. Like, what do you mean?
Cameron
It was awkward for a minute just to see that. And, you know, she made a joke about it, and, you know, we moved through it pretty quick, but because it's.
Jeff
Got to be hard to witness somebody do something ultra romantic right in front of you on your first date and then have to try and come off looking smooth.
Jose
You should have done a sign that's, like, ready to go to the bar.
Jeff
Now, attached it to a little paper airplane and tossed it in front of her. But, I mean, it sounds like you were able to make it work. Did you end up going with her to the bar?
Cameron
Well, we did, but it kind of died there.
Jeff
Uh. Oh. Why?
Cameron
While we were there, we know we witnessed this whole, like, big romantic gesture and everything. I think we're all kind of hyped up on looking at planes and everything. Yeah, she really wanted to go up in a plane. She wanted me to take her up.
Brooke
Wait, she knew that you didn't have your license yet, right?
Cameron
I think she just thought we could sneak away with it and, you know, just have, like, this spontaneous romantic adventure in the sky.
Brooke
What does this girl want? A death wish? Like, wouldn't meet some random dude who takes me out to a little airfield with some Cessnas, think, hey, pull me up in that plane.
Cameron
Well, it wasn't just that. She wanted to sit in the cockpit, too, but I had to tell her.
Jeff
No, even just to take pictures.
Jose
I'd want to do that, right?
Alexis
She thought she was getting experience because it was more like an educational lesson, it seems like.
Jose
That's an airplane. That's an airplane. That's another airplane.
Jeff
Okay, let's get out of here. It's a good hook for a future date, though. It's like, well, if you stick around, then maybe I will be after, what.
Alexis
Hundreds of flight hours?
Brooke
No, I mean, it kind of paints you, too, as, like, you continually having to say, no, no, no on a date that you're kind of. Do you know what I mean? And I don't think that of you, but I could see from her perspective.
Cameron
I mean, I guess, but I'm at my flight school. I didn't want to get dinged, so I thought just showing her would be enough.
Jeff
I mean, how did you leave it on the day. How did it end?
Cameron
The sparks kind of died down towards the end. I mean, I still like her and I think we had a good time. I just, you know, I don't know what else I could have done.
Brooke
And she hasn't responded to you at all?
Cameron
No.
Brooke
Okay.
Jose
It's almost like it backfired. Like you tried to impress her and you ended up like, yeah, sounds like.
Jeff
Maybe you should have stolen a plane and taken her up anyway.
Alexis
It would have been hot.
Jeff
Yeah, it would have been a rebel move. Bold thing to do, but let's play a song, come back and call Lauren for you, try to get you a second date update.
Cameron
All right.
Jeff
Okay, hold on. Second date update. Muscular dudes flying around in F16s buzzing the tower, doing an inverted dive against a Russian MiG before jetting off into the sunset.
Brooke
I mean, close.
Jeff
All of that was not allowed on Cameron's first date. You could just point at the planes parked on the tarmac and say, hey, isn't that one kind of cool looking?
Jose
Yeah, it's not mine, so let's move away from it.
Jeff
I can't even show you inside. That's because Cameron doesn't have his pilot's license yet. But he was able to show Lauren around the airfield where he's learning.
Brooke
Yeah, which is cool. And she was interested in it. I mean, he told her that.
Jeff
Yeah, but to make matters worse, while they were there, they saw someone else proposing with a giant will you marry me? Banner. And so after all that excitement at the airfield, the date kind of fizzled after that. Yeah, but Cameron, today we're gonna be your Goose for this second date update.
Brooke
Pull him out of his nosedive? Is that what you're thinking?
Jeff
We're gonna try. Just please promise me that you're not gonna eject until we hit the sweet spot. Can you do that? Because that didn't turn out so well for Goose.
Cameron
That's really nice, you guys. Yeah.
Jose
Wait, no spoilers. What happened to Goose?
Brooke
Yeah, I haven't seen the new one.
Jeff
No, that's the old one.
Brooke
Oh, okay. Okay. Okay, cool.
Jeff
Good thing we're all. We're all up.
Brooke
Yeah, whatever.
Jeff
But bottom line is we're going to call Lauren and see if we can get you another date here. You feel ready, man?
Cameron
I'm ready. Let's do it.
Brooke
Okay. And. And this next day, you know, you just make it a little bit more about her and maybe she'll be more into it. Yeah.
Jose
And we'll just hope that there's not a lot of Turbulence.
Brooke
Okay.
Jeff
No, I think there's more airplane puns coming, but let's just.
Jose
I'm trying to hold him back.
Alexis
I'm sorry.
Jeff
Let's dial this number grounded and talk to Lauren. Here we.
Brooke
Foreign.
Lauren
Hello?
Jeff
Hey, is this Lauren?
Lauren
Yeah, Lauren. Who's this?
Jeff
Hey, my name is Jeff from a morning radio show called Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning.
Lauren
A morning radio show?
Brooke
Yeah. Hey, Lauren, we're all here.
Lauren
Hey, good morning.
Jeff
Sorry, did we wake you up?
Lauren
No, I've actually just never heard of this show. I don't. I don't know what's going on here.
Brooke
Well, we're on Spotify too, if you listen to podcasts that didn't sound really sad and desperate.
Jeff
But we're. We're doing a segment, a very popular segment, extremely well known and beloved, called Second Date Update. Okay, yeah, clearly not beloved by Lauren, but we're trying to help out one of our listeners that you went out with recently.
Lauren
And who was that?
Jeff
You guys went to an airfield together and then a bar.
Lauren
Cameron. I know exactly who you're talking about.
Brooke
Cameron seemed like a nice guy, like a good dude who wanted to show you a good time.
Jeff
A sexpot, if you ask me. That's the term that came to mind for me.
Jose
Just came out of nowhere.
Jeff
What did you think of Cameron?
Lauren
It was a cool date. Actually, it was the coolest date I've ever been on.
Brooke
What?
DSW Voice
Oh, it was.
Lauren
It was. I was really interested in the planes and seeing them and everything, and I was really happy because we didn't just go to the bar and hook up because that's what most guys want to do. So his date was really a girls want to do.
Brooke
Well, that. I mean, that's great to hear. So you. I mean, you weren't disappointed in the airfield at all? Because he was kind of worried about that, that maybe you expected to go up in a plane and you didn't or something.
Lauren
No, but I was still excited to go.
Jeff
Okay.
Jose
Airplanes are cool. Guys, girls, kids, doesn't matter. Airplanes are just interesting.
Jeff
Absolutely. So if this is one of the best dates that you've ever been on, why not call Cameron back?
Lauren
Well, I said it was the most original date that I've been on, and I liked his choice. But some things happened. He made a comment later on and it threw me off.
Jose
One comment.
Brooke
Doesn't seem like he remembers that. I mean, do you think it registered with him that he said something that upset you?
Lauren
Of course. Can I tell you guys what he said?
Jeff
Yes, please. Nothing's ringing a bell for Us.
Lauren
So I don't know if he told you. There was this weird part where we saw a plane taking off and it was a proposal.
Jeff
Yeah, he mentioned that to us. The big will you marry me? Banner.
Brooke
Yeah.
Lauren
And that was pretty weird. But as the plane was taken off, it was the comment that he made that he expects the woman to ask him to marry him. So I better be taking notes.
Jose
Was he serious or was he kidding?
Jeff
That sounds like a joke.
Lauren
No, I laughed. He said he was a feminist, so he believes that women should be able to ask men to marry them.
Brooke
Okay.
Jeff
Is it a bad thing?
Brooke
Yeah. Why is that bad?
Lauren
Because maybe I'm more traditional, but in my dream, the man is supposed to propose to me. Like, I thought maybe, you know, this could be a great dream. If it turns out good, then he'll do that for me, you know?
Jose
But no, you kind of took your dream away.
Brooke
I mean, it's a first date. Like, maybe he's just trying to read you as an independent woman and he thought that that would be something that you would also stand behind. You know, like, you don't know for sure that he would never propose to you. Right. Like, he's just making a simple comment.
Lauren
He said, for sure you need to ask me to marry you.
Jose
Wow.
Brooke
Even if it was a woman coming to a man, it would be a.
Alexis
Strange comment on a first date.
Jeff
We didn't know that. We didn't know that any of that was coming up in conversation between you guys. He didn't mention it, but maybe we should ask him about it. Because, I mean, I don't know what your dreams say about your perfect man. Maybe you're dreaming that he's on the other line listening.
Brooke
Is that a dream?
Jeff
Dreams do come true. Because Cameron's been there the whole time and wants to talk to you.
Cameron
Yeah, I didn't realize that set you off. Really?
Lauren
What. What do you mean you don't realize that set me off? Cameron, you're a madman.
Brooke
What does that mean?
Lauren
On the first date? Why would you say, I need to ask you to marry me? Why would you?
Cameron
I'm letting you know that I'm a feminist and I'm, you know, I'm into the cause and whatever, and, you know, I just want you to know that up front, you know, I want you to know that, you know, you have. I believe you have, you know, agency, and I think assertive women are sexy and.
Jeff
Okay, but. So, Cameron, you believe that all women should be proposing to men or just Lauren to you?
Cameron
No, I think all women should Be doing that.
Brooke
Okay.
Cameron
I want to just empower women to propose. Like, I think it's going to be healthier for our society.
Alexis
Is this so you don't have to pay for a ring?
Brooke
I don't. I get what you're trying to say, and I appreciate any man who, you know, is open to the feminism.
Jose
Don't listen to her.
Brooke
She's not a feminist. But you'd be open if the. If the woman wanted you to propose, you would be open to then taking on that role, right?
Cameron
I mean, I could, but I. You know, I'd find a way to screw it up. You know, I put like, a ring on a KFC chicken wing or something. You know what I mean? Like, guys are just, like, not good at that, I think. You know, my mom proposed to my dad, and it was really romantic.
Brooke
Okay, so you. You want what your parents have in a relationship.
Jeff
You want to marry your mom?
Jose
No, I'm having this conversation before. It's always mixed. Some guys are all about, and other guys are like, no, I want to ask, like, traditionally. So maybe it's just kind of a. More of a surprise to her.
Jeff
Yeah, I mean, Lauren, is this a first for you? Have you. Have you never met a guy like this?
Lauren
This. This is a first and only and a one and done.
Brooke
You're that much of a deal breaker for you?
Lauren
A deal breaker? Completely. Like, especially after I saw that romantic couple going up. I wanted that immediately. And he immediately, like, crushed my dream with that.
Jeff
Well, maybe.
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Alexis
Up marriage on a first date.
Jeff
Never do it. Well, we're coming in for a rough landing here, but I gotta ask before.
Jose
We crash, there was turbulence.
Jeff
Lauren, we'd like to offer to send you out on another date with Cameron, and we'll let you pay it as a feminist. Yeah, that's what a good feminist man would do.
Brooke
You guys are really. I think we need to do some more research into feminism.
Jose
Yeah, I don't know a lot about that.
Jeff
Honestly, Lauren, I do think I know your answer, but I need to hear it from you.
Lauren
It's a very strong no for me.
Brooke
That's all right. I mean, Cameron, you can't be too disappointed. Like, she's not. Doesn't seem like the right person for you.
Cameron
I mean, I guess not. I mean, she is making her own choice. And, you know, that's. I'm all for that.
Brooke
Hey, I love this. I think that's sexy.
Jeff
If she wants to set Women back another 50 years by not proposing that's good for her.
Cameron
Exactly.
Jeff
Look at Jeffrey in the morning.
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Podcast Summary: Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update – "No Fun Top Gun" (#6)
Release Date: December 18, 2024
Introduction
In the June episode titled "No Fun Top Gun," hosts Brooke and Jeff delve into the intriguing and often tumultuous world of first and second dates. This episode primarily focuses on a listener’s date experience that took an unexpected turn, exploring the dynamics of modern dating and the challenges of aligning expectations.
Listener Engagement and Global Reach
The episode kicks off with Brooke and Jeff expressing their surprise and delight at the global audience engaging with their show. Brooke mentions receiving comments from listeners across various continents, including Canada, Tanzania, South Africa, and Serbia, highlighting the universal nature of dating struggles.
Brooke (02:35): “We’re getting comments. One from Austin Mason that says shout out from Canada. Keezo wrote us and said shout out from Tanzania...”
Cameron’s Date with Lauren: An Airfield Adventure
The heart of the episode centers around Cameron’s first date with Lauren, which Cameron recounted with a mix of enthusiasm and regret. Seeking to impress, Cameron chose a unique venue—a flight school hangar—to showcase his passion for aviation.
Cameron (05:12): “I took her to a hanger where I fly planes.”
However, the romantic outing was overshadowed by an unexpected event: a marriage proposal occurring simultaneously nearby.
Cameron (07:00): “When we got there, there were some huge letters on the Runway. It spelled out, 'Will you marry me?'”
This unforeseen proposal not only dampened the mood but also inadvertently highlighted Cameron's forward-thinking approach to relationships.
Analyzing the Date Dynamics
Brooke and Jeff dissect the various elements that contributed to the date's outcome. They discuss the importance of balancing personal interests with the date's comfort and expectations.
Jeff (05:05): “Where did you end up going for your date?”
Cameron (05:12): “I took her to a hanger where I fly planes.”
The hosts emphasize the need for adaptability and sensitivity to the other person's interests, suggesting that while unique date ideas can be impressive, they must also resonate with the partner's comfort zone.
Unexpected Twists and Communication Breakdowns
As the date progressed, Cameron mentioned that Lauren expressed a desire to experience piloting a plane, despite Cameron not yet possessing a pilot’s license.
Lauren (12:56): “We didn’t just go to the bar and hook up because that’s what most guys want to do. So his date was really a girl’s want to do.”
This led to a misalignment in expectations, where Lauren anticipated a more interactive experience, which Cameron couldn’t provide. The lack of clear communication and preparedness for such requests ultimately led to Lauren's disinterest in a second date.
Telephone Intervention: Connecting with Lauren
In a bold move, Brooke and Jeff reach out directly to Lauren to gain deeper insights into her perspective. Through this interaction, Lauren clarifies her feelings:
Lauren (13:09): “It was really happy because we didn’t just go to the bar and hook up because that’s what most guys want to do.”
However, Lauren explains that a comment Cameron made about expecting women to propose marriage clashed with her traditional views, leading to the end of the budding relationship.
Lauren (14:28): “He said he was a feminist... but in my dream, the man is supposed to propose to me.”
Lessons Learned and Final Thoughts
Brooke and Jeff extract valuable lessons from Cameron’s experience, emphasizing the significance of understanding and respecting differing perspectives on relationships and gender roles. They highlight the importance of aligning personal values with those of a potential partner to foster meaningful connections.
Brooke (18:25): “Hey, I love this. I think that’s sexy.”
Jeff (18:35): “If she wants to set women back another 50 years by not proposing, that’s good for her.”
Conclusion
The episode concludes with Brooke and Jeff offering words of encouragement to Cameron, advising him to seek partners whose values and expectations align more closely with his own. They reinforce the show's mission to provide both entertainment and insightful advice on the complexities of modern dating.
Notable Quotes with Timestamps
Final Thoughts
"No Fun Top Gun" serves as a compelling exploration of how well-intentioned date plans can unravel when expectations and communication falter. Brooke and Jeff adeptly navigate the conversation, offering both empathy and practical advice, making it a valuable listen for anyone navigating the unpredictable terrain of dating.