Second Date Update: Red Flaggy Much?

Summary

Podcast Summary: Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update – "Red Flaggy Much?"

Episode Overview

In the episode titled "Second Date Update: Red Flaggy Much?" from the podcast Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update, hosted by iHeartPodcasts, Brooke and Jeffrey dive into the complexities of modern dating by analyzing listener-submitted stories. This episode, released on February 28, 2025, centers around Jordy's experience with his second date and the unexpected challenges that followed a promising first encounter.

Introduction and Listener Engagement [02:03 – 03:04]

The episode kicks off with Brooke acknowledging and reading listener comments about the podcast's merchandise, highlighting the show's community engagement and charitable support for the LA Wildfire Relief through Convoy of Hope. This segment emphasizes the hosts' gratitude towards their audience and sets a welcoming tone for the episode.

Brooke [02:03]: "Novalio wrote, I just looked at the merch and it's so pretty. Yeah, they said, I just bought it and cannot wait to wear it."

Jordy's Story: A Promising First Date [03:04 – 07:02]

Jordy, a listener, shares his experience of meeting Harper at a German bar where he was playing bocce ball. Their first date was seemingly successful, characterized by good conversation, shared activities, and mutual interest, culminating in a kiss and promising texts.

Jordy [06:07]: "We actually, like, kissed at the end of the day, so that was nice. And she was the one who texted me that night saying that she got home safe and that she couldn't wait to see me."

The Red Flag Emerges [07:02 – 09:33]

Despite the positive first date, Jordy encounters a significant hurdle: Harper ceases communication after ten days. Brooke and Jeffrey explore possible reasons, delving into societal perceptions and individual behaviors in dating dynamics. The hosts discuss how Harper's lack of response could be misconstrued and the importance of understanding mixed signals.

Brooke [07:24]: "Are you sure you didn't read that wrong, too?"

Deep Dive: Harper’s Perspective [09:33 – 16:58]

The narrative intensifies as Brooke and Jeffrey decide to reach out directly to Harper to uncover the reasons behind her sudden silence. Harper articulates her concerns, citing Jordy's excessive availability as a red flag. She expresses discomfort with Jordy's eagerness, interpreting his multiple date options as a lack of personal ambition.

Harper [12:25]: "He's a loser because he gave you three options of times where he wants to hang out because he likes you."

Throughout this segment, the hosts challenge Harper's viewpoint, questioning societal stereotypes and the validity of judging someone's availability as a negative trait.

Brooke [14:11]: "I don't know that it does make sense to me. He's not a loser."

Climactic Confrontation and Resolution [16:58 – 19:57]

The conversation reaches a peak as Harper confronts Jordy directly on the radio show. Tensions rise as misunderstandings and preconceived notions clash. Harper reiterates her stance that Jordy's availability signals a lack of purpose, while Jordy defends his genuine interest and availability.

Harper [17:07]: "I mean, the reality is you sent me a lot of freaking texts with, like, a lot of freaking dates, and now you have me on a radio show."

The interaction highlights the often complex and subjective nature of dating signals, emphasizing the need for clear communication and avoiding snap judgments based on availability.

Hosts’ Reflections and Conclusion [19:57 – 22:09]

In the concluding moments, Brooke and Jeffrey reflect on the episode's events, acknowledging the nuanced perspectives presented by both Jordy and Harper. They encourage listeners to consider the underlying motivations and societal influences that shape modern dating behaviors.

Jeffrey [19:29]: "Yes, it also matters what you're busy doing."

The episode wraps up with a reminder for listeners to engage with the show by submitting their own dating stories and checking out related podcasts, fostering a community of shared experiences and support.

Notable Quotes with Timestamps

• Brooke [03:21]: "That's crazy. That's a huge jump. It's like the pandemic, like, super bad."
• Jordy [05:52]: "We went out for drinks, a little food. You know, she looked amazing."
• Harper [12:50]: "He gave me three options to hang out all in a row. Like Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Like, why is he so available?"
• Jeffrey [14:17]: "But he's too available for you."
• Jordy [17:24]: "So you think I'm a loser because I want to go out a second time?"
• Alexis [19:50]: "Sorry, but I make tons of money. Hello?"

Key Takeaways

1. Perception of Availability: The episode underscores how excessive availability can be misconstrued as a lack of ambition or purpose, highlighting societal biases in dating.

2. Communication is Crucial: Clear and honest communication between potential partners is essential to prevent misunderstandings and to foster genuine connections.

3. Challenging Stereotypes: Brooke and Jeffrey challenge the notion that being readily available is inherently negative, promoting a more balanced view of dating dynamics.

4. Community Support: The podcast emphasizes the importance of listener engagement and support, fostering a sense of community among individuals navigating the complexities of modern relationships.

Conclusion

"Red Flaggy Much?" serves as a thought-provoking exploration of the intricate dance of modern dating, where signals can be easily misread, and societal expectations shape personal interactions. Brooke and Jeffrey effectively navigate Jordy's challenging situation, providing listeners with both entertainment and insightful commentary on the ever-evolving landscape of relationships.

Transcript

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[Brooke]

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[Alexis]

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[Jeffrey]

Second, the results are in. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning. Because recent studies have shown about 50% of couples now meet online compared to just 22% only five years ago.

[Brooke]

That's crazy. That's a huge jump. It's like the pandemic, like, super bad.

[Alexis]

It made it really normal, really quick.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah. So now, going forward, Brooke, if you want to spice up the relationship with your husband, you're going to have to make him a dating profile.

[Brooke]

Oh, okay. At least you to pick his. You know, I think I could make him a really good one. I mean, to be honest.

[Jeffrey]

Well, I think joke's on you. He already has one.

[Brooke]

Wait, what?

[Jeffrey]

Apparently, you guys, you're looking for a third right now, according to him. And we're not going to go into that because.

[Brooke]

Wait a minute.

[Jeffrey]

I want to talk right now to Jordy, the listener who wrote into our show because apparently he met a girl out in real life bucking all of the latest trends.

[Brooke]

Dude, you're in the minority now.

[Alexis]

Irl.

[Jeffrey]

Jordy, good work. Welcome to the show.

[Jordy]

Hey, guys.

[Brooke]

Hey. So where'd you meet this woman?

[Jordy]

So I met Harper at this German bar. Actually, you know, I was playing bocce ball. Do you guys know what that is?

[Brooke]

Bocce ball. I've heard of it.

[Alexis]

I have bocce ball on my rooftop, on my apartment complex.

[Jeffrey]

Like, you toss big. These like big colorful balls onto like a field and then you try to toss other balls towards the balls.

[Alexis]

One goes farther and quicker.

[Brooke]

It's an Italian game planed at a German bar, but whatever.

[Jordy]

Yeah, whatever.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, okay. So you said her name was Harper?

[Jordy]

Yeah, yeah, she was actually a waitress there.

[Brooke]

Oh. Oh.

[Jeffrey]

I assumed that she was gonna be like playing in the stall next to you or something like that, right?

[Jordy]

No, no, no, no, no. She was super cute and I mean, she was super helpful too, because I actually had to have this like, long talk with her to tell her to cut off one of my drunk Friends?

[Brooke]

Oh, yeah, you cut off your friend. Lame.

[Alexis]

You had to do it, like, nicely, like Alexis. Tell them I told you.

[Brooke]

I'm sure that's happened to you and you just don't.

[Alexis]

If you have good friends, if anything.

[Jeffrey]

It probably makes you look kind of seem like a responsible guy.

[Jordy]

Oh, yeah, exactly. It's like watching Jerry Springer. It's like you look better than those people.

[Brooke]

Oh, can I ask real quick? Was there an indication that she was interested in you? Because cute waitresses get hit on all.

[Alexis]

The time and they smile and they do their job and everyone thinks they're getting hit.

[Jeffrey]

I know. Brooke tries to get them to be the third in her relationship and they get so annoying.

[Brooke]

I mean, Harper is a hot name.

[Jeffrey]

But again, sorry, that is a conversation for another day. Tell us, how did you work Harper? That's not the right way, Jody. How did you get Harper to agree to a date?

[Alexis]

There it is.

[Jordy]

Well, I just simply asked her on the way out. I was like, look, are you single? And she said, who's asking? And I said, I am.

[Brooke]

Good response.

[Jeffrey]

I like that.

[Alexis]

I'm flirty.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah.

[Jordy]

And I just said, I'd love to take you out sometime. And she actually gave me her number.

[Brooke]

Oh, hey, dude, if we dial this and it's our loser line.

[Alexis]

Oh, we are on the loser line.

[Brooke]

That'd be awesome.

[Jeffrey]

Your only meetup or did you guys actually have a date?

[Jordy]

No, no, we had a date.

[Jeffrey]

Okay.

[Alexis]

Okay.

[Jeffrey]

So it is her number.

[Alexis]

Because we all thought, oh, she probably just gave your number to get ready.

[Jeffrey]

Right.

[Brooke]

So what did you do?

[Jordy]

We went out for drinks, a little food. You know, she looked amazing. I mean, when she was, like, out of her waiter outfit.

[Brooke]

Didn't need to mention the second part. She knows. Yeah.

[Jordy]

I mean, I did have one embarrassing moment on the date. We tried to order some Keisha Lorraine and I said, quickie Loran. You know, I didn't take French in high school. Like, excuse me.

[Alexis]

Yeah, well, you're also clashing with the bocce ball and the German. Don't.

[Jordy]

French.

[Brooke]

Don't want to be elitist by being able to say quiche.

[Alexis]

Cliche.

[Jeffrey]

That's a tough word. What was her reaction?

[Jordy]

She totally laughed it off. It was a little embarrassing, but after that, like, I think it kind of lightened the mood a little bit. And from there, like, the day was great.

[Brooke]

Especially if you can be self deprecating about it.

[Jordy]

Yeah.

[Brooke]

You know what I mean? Like, it could almost even turn into, like, your instincts. Joke together.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah.

[Alexis]

Oh, let me remember the next thing I speak German. And then you just ruin it.

[Jordy]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah. So we actually, like, kissed at the end of the day, so that was nice. And she was the one who texted me that night saying that she got home safe and that she couldn't wait to see me. So, like, it seems super clear, right?

[Brooke]

Are you sure you didn't read that wrong, too?

[Jeffrey]

There's no way to read that wrong.

[Jordy]

No, no, it was in English, I think.

[Jeffrey]

So you.

[Brooke]

You've.

[Jeffrey]

You've had a solid first date. You kissed her at the end of it, she's the one saying, I can't wait to hang out again.

[Brooke]

And how long has it been?

[Jordy]

It's been like, 10 days or so.

[Alexis]

Well, something must have happened in her life. Like, I already have a feeling. This is not your fault. I hate.

[Brooke]

Oh, I can see that. Like, where? I don't know, maybe work out crazy or there's a family emergency, or she.

[Alexis]

Rekindled something and was just.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, who knows? But what's happened in those 10 days? That's a long time. Have you asked her? Like, what have you done? Yeah.

[Jordy]

Yeah. I mean, there was one time where I thought one date was going to work, but then she asked about a different date, so I don't know.

[Brooke]

Okay. A hot basketball player came into her work.

[Jordy]

Might be.

[Jeffrey]

Okay, well, we can reach out to Harper for you and see if she agrees to going out with you one more time. If not, then you might have a backup option because Brooke and her husband, you know.

[Brooke]

But in the meantime, Jeffrey is not online.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, that's right.

[Brooke]

Yeah, we only like the online one.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, you need to be able to keep some distance. Yeah, sorry. But you know what? We'll work on Harper first and try and get you your second date update right after this. Second date update. We're in the middle of a second date update with our listener, Jordy. And Jordy likes cute waitresses at German bocce ball bars. He likes to mispronounce quiche Lorraine just to seem vulnerable and flawed.

[Brooke]

How did he say it? Kiki, somehow.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, you said quickie. What did you say, Jordyn?

[Jordy]

I said quickie Loran.

[Jeffrey]

Quickie Loran.

[Brooke]

I like that. Quickie Loran.

[Jeffrey]

And he really likes to receive texts saying, I can't wait to see you again, because that's exactly what his date Harper said to him after they went out. So why is she not jumping at the chance to hang out again?

[Brooke]

Yeah, she's the one that said she wanted to.

[Jeffrey]

Jordi, you think there's another guy who mispronounces French words even worse than you do. Maybe that's her thing.

[Jordy]

Yeah, maybe.

[Brooke]

Yeah.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah.

[Alexis]

He tried to order me a quabernet savignon.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, go.

[Brooke]

Oh, yeah.

[Jeffrey]

That's hot. Yeah.

[Brooke]

I don't even know how you mispronounce du jour.

[Alexis]

Yeah, how do you so much you can't mispronounce it?

[Jordy]

I mean, look, Harper's a really cute waitress. She probably has a lot of guys asking her out.

[Brooke]

Oh, my God. I bet she's saying no 50 times.

[Alexis]

A day like every other table.

[Brooke]

It's so annoying. But that's why you're so special, is that she said yes to you and you guys had a great date and.

[Alexis]

She went out and she said she liked you.

[Jordy]

Yeah, but, like, look, guys, if that's it, if that's the thing where she has another guy, like, just convince her that I'm a good guy.

[Brooke]

Oh, okay. Hopefully she thinks that already. You know what? In the five minutes we've spent with you, totally will vouch for you. Thank you. You're welcome.

[Alexis]

I'm like a good guy. I mean, honestly, not even kidding.

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, a lot of good guys insist how good they are.

[Brooke]

Yeah, that's right.

[Alexis]

Okay, maybe that is a red flag.

[Jeffrey]

So I'm. We're just going to trust you on that. And we're going to call Harper. Let's see if she answers. Okay.

[Brooke]

All right.

[Jeffrey]

I don't know you. I mean, you seem nice from a little bit. We have be spoken.

[Alexis]

Okay, you stay where you're at, though, buddy. We don't know you that way.

[Brooke]

Yeah, let's get on the phone.

[Jeffrey]

Here we go.

[Brooke]

Hello?

[Jeffrey]

Hey, is this Harper?

[Harper]

Yeah, who's calling?

[Jeffrey]

We're a radio show calling called Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

[Alexis]

Hi, good morning.

[Brooke]

Hi, Harper.

[Jeffrey]

That half of the room isn't very excited to talk to you, obviously, but.

[Brooke]

I don't think she's excited to talk to us.

[Jeffrey]

This half of the room is very confused.

[Brooke]

Just don't want to come in too hot.

[Harper]

Jeff, what are you calling for?

[Brooke]

See?

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, we're working. Yeah, this is. This is something we do called a second date update, and one of our listeners named Jordy asked us to reach out to you.

[Brooke]

Ringing bells, I said. What do you.

[Harper]

What do you want me to say?

[Alexis]

You remember Jordy.

[Jeffrey]

Okay, we're just trying to help him out because according to Jordy, he says he's been putting in a lot of effort trying to figure out a good time that would work for you to meet up just because he felt like you guys bonded, connected.

[Brooke]

Is it just something where the schedules aren't aligning?

[Harper]

No, there was just like a lot of effort. That's kind of a problem.

[Brooke]

What?

[Alexis]

Too much effort?

[Brooke]

What do you mean?

[Jeffrey]

Yeah, can you elaborate?

[Harper]

I mean, like, on the surface when I met him, like, I was working and then we went and hung out and like, he was a good guy and. Well, that's kind of like what I was looking for.

[Brooke]

Yeah, like he's what you were looking for. I mean.

[Harper]

Yeah, like, I thought so.

[Brooke]

Okay, so what changed?

[Harper]

So we hung out and it. It wasn't until after that I realized something was off.

[Brooke]

What?

[Harper]

Like, I had every intention to go out again.

[Jeffrey]

Okay, okay, what's the problem?

[Alexis]

Is it something about him?

[Harper]

Yeah. He gave me three options to hang out all in a row. Like Friday, Saturday, Sunday. Like, why is he so available?

[Brooke]

What?

[Alexis]

Wait, what do you.

[Brooke]

Hold on.

[Alexis]

Did he want a three day date or he was just like, pick a day and we can do that one?

[Harper]

No, he was like, these are all the days that I'm available. And I have this belief, me and my friends do that there's a guy between the age 24 and 32 ish. If they have that much time to hang out, it really means that he's a loser.

[Jeffrey]

Wait, a loser? You're calling him a loser because he gave you multiple options of times where he wants to hang out because he likes you?

[Harper]

Yeah, because like, they're all in a row and it's like he should be grinding away, planning for his future, maybe not working or like working on a promotion or getting somewhere.

[Brooke]

Maybe he is, like, in my mind, you're a waitress. So he's probably just trying to give you options because it's probably hard to align schedules. Like, he probably figures you work on the weekends.

[Harper]

I mean, that sounds like an excuse he'd use.

[Brooke]

I guess it sounds like he's doing.

[Jeffrey]

It for you because nowadays we hear from a lot of women who tell us guys don't put in enough effort. They want the easy thing, they don't really care. Yeah, Jordy sounds like the total opposite. Like he's willing to do whatever just.

[Brooke]

To see you plans the other days that you say you can't.

[Harper]

Yeah, but he didn't say that. He was like, I'm wide open. And I'm like, well, what else are you doing with your life? Just pursuing me.

[Brooke]

Okay, What?

[Alexis]

Okay, sadly this makes sense, but doesn't mean we agree with it.

[Brooke]

I don't know that it does make sense to me. He's not A loser. Like, you liked him. You liked everything about him. You said that he checked all your boxes. Basically, yeah.

[Harper]

I mean, he did. He actually had decent hygiene, which, See.

[Brooke]

Okay, but a big box.

[Jeffrey]

But he's too available for you.

[Brooke]

Maybe that's why his hygiene is so good. He has got time for it.

[Alexis]

He showers daily.

[Brooke]

I mean, I get. You don't want to date someone who wants to hang out every single single day. Sometimes, like, they need to have a life.

[Alexis]

Well, sure.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, yeah.

[Harper]

And especially in the beginning, getting to know who they are. And it just seems like he's just wide open to do whatever and we're trying to build who we are as people.

[Brooke]

What would you want his response to be when you say, hey, I can't wait to see you again? What should he have written back to you?

[Harper]

He shouldn't have. He should have just let me hang for a bit.

[Jeffrey]

Okay, now that was a red flag.

[Brooke]

Okay, well, it's kind of like a game.

[Jeffrey]

I don't. I don't even want to tell you this because. Oh, no, it's not that. He's like, super available to talk to you at any time. That's not what this is.

[Brooke]

He was so busy. It's like we had to call him so many times to be able to.

[Jeffrey]

Do this just in the middle of his extremely hectic day. He's taken a little bit of time to jump on the phone right now to talk to you because Jordy's there.

[Jordy]

Hey, Harper.

[Harper]

Oh, so you've been on the phone.

[Jeffrey]

Just a little bit.

[Jordy]

Yeah.

[Jeffrey]

Like, barely.

[Jordy]

I heard you call me a loser who has too much time on his hands.

[Harper]

Well, yeah. They asked me to be honest, and I was honest. He actually didn't say ask me what was up.

[Brooke]

I mean, that's what Jordy wanted. He wanted to know.

[Alexis]

He did want us.

[Jordy]

So you think I'm a loser because I want to go out a second time? Like, that part doesn't make any sense.

[Harper]

It's just a little red flaggy to be able to hang out three nights in a row. And like, my perfect guy would never do that. He shouldn't have all the time in the world for me.

[Brooke]

You know, I'm sorry, my perfect guy shouldn't have all the time in the world for me.

[Jordy]

To be totally clear, I didn't want to hang out with you three nights in a row. I gave you three options.

[Harper]

Okay, you're just being a little way too chill at this time of your life. You know, Now's the time to work hard and we're going to chill later.

[Brooke]

Yeah, well, girl, you're serving steins in a German bar. Like, I mean, I'm just saying, she probably makes more than I do here. Yeah, well, it's just like, what are you doing to do the same thing?

[Harper]

Well, you don't even know me, so how about you shut your mouth?

[Alexis]

Yeah, shut your mouth.

[Jeffrey]

Who are you complaining about people bringing you alcohol?

[Brooke]

I think being a server is a great job. But she's, like, expecting him to, like, do all these big great things like jobs. Why don't. What are you doing to plan for your future?

[Jeffrey]

Stay in your lane and keep not tipping people after they give you great service.

[Brooke]

I just, like. I hate when people do that.

[Jeffrey]

This is about Jordy. Jordy. She's concerned that you're too free and you're too available. Prove to her that that's not true and how much you got going on.

[Brooke]

Tell her you don't want to date.

[Jordy]

Yeah, I mean, it sounds like that would be more attractive to you. I mean, I. I just don't understand why you want to play these games like real life. I thought you were a good person.

[Alexis]

Okay, that's actually a point.

[Jeffrey]

And how busy are you right now?

[Jordy]

I mean, I'm kind of busy. I'm not totally busy.

[Jeffrey]

I mean, you're super busy, right? Slam.

[Jordy]

Okay, like, look, I'm looking to get busier.

[Jeffrey]

I'm looking.

[Jordy]

Right?

[Harper]

See? Red flaggy much?

[Brooke]

I think he sounds like a nice guy.

[Jeffrey]

But that's not what she wants. She doesn't want that, Brooke.

[Brooke]

But you did want it that night.

[Jordy]

Look, look, Harper, let's rewind. Pretend I didn't call you for two weeks. Are you turned on now?

[Harper]

It hasn't been two weeks. It's only been 10 days.

[Brooke]

Harper.

[Harper]

I mean, the reality is you sent me a lot of freaking texts with, like, a lot of freaking dates, and now you have me on a radio show.

[Alexis]

Yeah, it does look bad.

[Brooke]

Gives her the ick, huh?

[Alexis]

Okay, it's pretty bad.

[Jeffrey]

You know what? The thing is, we made him do it.

[Alexis]

Yeah, we got all the time in the world.

[Jeffrey]

He didn't even want to be here.

[Brooke]

He didn't have time to.

[Jeffrey]

No, but he was kind enough to take a little bit of time out to do this with us, just so that I could ask you if you would like to see Jordy one more time, and we would pay for that date. I don't even know if he's free. Honestly, Jordy, are you even free?

[Jordy]

Not anymore. I'm all booked up for a while.

[Brooke]

Now finally he got it.

[Jeffrey]

I'm sorry.

[Alexis]

She's like, so I'll see you next weekend.

[Harper]

I mean, I'm not really into these games that he's playing with me, and I'm not gonna fall for it now.

[Jeffrey]

You don't like the game?

[Brooke]

Look in the mirror.

[Jordy]

Sweet.

[Brooke]

Oh, God.

[Jeffrey]

Talking like Brooke now, this is not good.

[Brooke]

Okay, you know what?

[Jeffrey]

No second date, all right?

[Alexis]

We are not tipping them either.

[Jeffrey]

This is going bad. Look at Jeffrey in the morning. Got a text into 78592 that says, with that outlook, I hope she's ready to die alone.

[Brooke]

Oh, my God. I mean, honestly, I think she just doesn't actually want a boyfriend. Yeah, you know, like everybody's saying that she's like, looking. She says she's looking for something, but she found out it cuz like what?

[Alexis]

She just wants to be wanted.

[Jeffrey]

And the outlook that I think they're referring to is the theory that if a guy says he's available to hang out with you multiple nights in a row, that means he's a loser and must have absolutely nothing going on.

[Alexis]

Can I correct that? Cuz when girls try to hang out with me and I tell them I'm sorry, I got two jobs. I'm streaming video games every single night. It also deters that don't have that. A busy guy cannot deter women.

[Jeffrey]

Yes, it also matters what you're busy doing.

[Brooke]

I got my DND club on Friday and Saturday night, so I can't hang out.

[Alexis]

Sorry, but I make tons of money. Hello?

[Brooke]

Hello?

[Alexis]

Hello?

[Jeffrey]

You know, guys, just give up. It's gonna be easier if you just quit because actually they're gonna feel more attracted to you that you've given up on them.

[Alexis]

Really hard to win.

[Brooke]

You cannot define all women based on her. I mean, just too late.

[Jeffrey]

She speaks for all women. And now we know how it works.

[Brooke]

Okay, Hey, I just got canceled on my two guys.

[Jeffrey]

Who saw that coming. But you know what? If you need help with your dating life, go ahead, email the show. We'll call that person and calling you back. And go check out all of our podcasts. We are the home of the second date. Update wherever you get yours at. Brooke and Jeffrey.

[Brooke]

Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.

[Ruthie]

In this Oscar night episode of Ruthie's Table 4, we hear from three of this year's nominees. Elton John.

[Alexis]

I like all sorts of things that.

[Brooke]

Aren'T good for me.

[Ruthie]

Fried chicken, fried chicken, donuts, Zoe Saldana.

[Brooke]

We dance and everybody sits in someone's backyard.

[Ruthie]

And Ray finds I love a martini.

[Jordy]

I love a Negroni.

[Ruthie]

I just love that little listen to Ruthie's Table 4 on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

[Brooke]

Hey y'all.

[Maria Fernanda Diaz]

I'm Maria Fernanda Diaz. When youn're Invisible is my love letter to the working class people and immigrants who shaped me. Season 2 shares stories about community and being underestimated.

[Jeffrey]

All the greatest changes have happened when a couple of people said, this sucks, let's do something about it.

[Brooke]

We get paid to serve you, but were made out of the same things. It's rare to have black male teachers.

[Jeffrey]

Sometimes I am the testament.

[Maria Fernanda Diaz]

Listen to when youn're Invisible on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.

[Colleen Witt]

Are you hungry? Colleen Witt here and Eating While Broke is back for season four every Thursday on the Black Effect Podcast Network. This season we've got a legendary lineup serving up broke dishes and even better stories on the menu. We have Tony Baker, Nick Cannon, Melissa Ford, October London, and Carri Harper Howey turning Big Macs into big moves. Catch Eating While Broke every Thursday on the Black Effect Podcast Network. IHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts. Wherever you get your favorite shows, come hungry for season four.

[A.J. Jacobs]

Dressing. Dressing.

[Jeffrey]

Oh, French dressing.

[A.J. Jacobs]

Exactly.

[Jeffrey]

That's good.

[A.J. Jacobs]

I'm AJ Jacobs and my current obsession is puzzles. And that has given birth to my podcast cast the Puzzler.

[Jeffrey]

Something about Mary Poppins?

[A.J. Jacobs]

Exactly.

[Brooke]

This is fun.

[A.J. Jacobs]

You can get your daily puzzle nuggets delivered straight to your ears. Listen to the Puzzler every day on the iHeartRadio app, Apple Podcasts or wherever you get your podcasts.