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Jeff
Second date update on a first date. If you're a woman, where's the safest place to meet a guy for the first time?
Brooke
Public. Yeah, lots of people.
Jeff
Public is too general.
Alexis
Outside of a police station.
Brooke
I mean anywhere. A bar, a restaurant.
Jeff
I've crossed off a few suggestions Jose gave earlier. Dark web. No. Although it does provide good energy. Anonymity on.
Brooke
Wait, is that.
Alexis
What about like the dim web? Like not a full dark.
Brooke
Maybe a children a place. Yeah.
Jeff
Okay. Children's toy store where the security guard can see you. Safe, visual with fun.
Brooke
I think they're all closed, aren't they? Like maybe.
Jeff
I know Alexis doesn't feel comfortable giving guys her apartment, so she always gives them the address to Brooke's house.
Brooke
Oh, yeah.
Jeff
Meets them there.
Alexis
It's really big. They'll get lost in that house.
Brooke
Yeah, nobody wants to steal anything from there anyway. Is that how that gutter guy ended up in my house? And actually a door to door salesman we hired.
Jeff
Yeah, one of our listeners, Davis, said he met his date at a place that he never expected he would. So let's learn more about it. Davis, welcome to the show. What's this girl's name, first of all?
Brooke
Hey.
Davis
So her name's Ashley.
Jeff
Ashley.
Brooke
Ashley.
Jeff
Where did Ashley want to meet you?
Davis
So we were going to go out and she asked me to give her a ride, which I thought was really interesting. That doesn't usually happen.
Brooke
Step to not safest things to do on a date. Yeah, I'm guessing. Had you met in person before or is this meet up off the apps?
Davis
No, this is off an app.
Alexis
Yeah, so that's kind of sketch, getting in a car.
Brooke
Shouldn't you just never do that, ever?
Alexis
Yeah.
Jeff
I mean, honestly, Davis, I trust you immediately. So you can come to the radio station wherever you want. How long were you guys talking before the date happened?
Davis
So we only talked once and it was on the phone, but it was for like three hours.
Brooke
Oh, so I mean, you Obviously were vibing and you were clicking, talking for three hours.
Alexis
You gotta have a good connection with somebody.
Brooke
But it. Was there a reason why she wanted you to pick her up?
Davis
You know, she didn't mention. She just asked if I could pick her up. And I thought, okay, that's fine.
Jeff
So she gave you an address and this turned out to be the actual place that she really lived?
Brooke
Yeah, why wouldn't it be?
Jeff
I'm just saying.
Alexis
Gotcha.
Jeff
I don't know. I could give a different address.
Brooke
That is so weird.
Jeff
That's what I would do. But I don't know.
Brooke
What was it like when you showed up at her house and if it was her house or apartment and you got her?
Davis
Yeah, I mean, it was great. So it was a house and she has a roommate, but her roommate was out for the night. So, you know, I said, hey, yeah, let's. Why don't we, you know, head out, we'll go. And she said, well, first, do you want a drink? Like, I can give you a tour. And I was like, oh, okay.
Jeff
Oh, wow. She's inviting you inside immediately.
Alexis
And a drink. That's great.
Brooke
And they're hanging.
Davis
Yeah. How can I say no? So after the tour, we just sat on the porch and just started talking, and that turned into, like, longer and longer, and eventually we didn't even end up going out.
Brooke
It's just like. It's just like your phone call from the first time you met, like, you just get lost in conversation together. That's such a great sign. What'd you guys, like, connect over?
Davis
We connected over a lot of stuff. We have, like, a very similar sense of humor.
Jeff
We.
Davis
We like a lot of similar things, like similar movies and shows and things like that.
Alexis
What's the issue, though?
Jeff
Did anything weird happen?
Davis
Well, okay. Not. I don't know if it was weird. Like, okay, so we were on the front porch. We had a few drinks throughout the time that we were there.
Jeff
Yeah.
Davis
So I kept going in and out to get the drinks and come back out with them. And she has a dog named Nugget. Really cute.
Jeff
Yeah.
Davis
Yeah. But she kept warning me, you know, hey, like, just make sure you're mindful of shutting the door, because, you know he'll run away if he gets out. Yeah. So after a few drinks, kind of forgot that she had a dog for a little bit. So I did leave the door crack while I was handing her drink. And Nugget almost got out. He was, like, halfway out the door. And I had this sort of. Yeah, I had to dive to grab him.
Brooke
Oh, my God. But you got him.
Davis
I did. I got him. Yeah.
Jeff
Okay.
Brooke
Okay.
Davis
But then after that, it was getting dark. I said, why don't we put on the light? Do you have a light out here? And she said, well, I would, but it's sort of broken and too high for me to change. And I said, oh, well, that's not that high. I can reach that. So I reached up and I changed the light, and she said, oh, you know, that was really nice for you to do. I appreciate that. And I said, oh, yeah, I'm a little handy. A little.
Brooke
Sometimes you're a little handy by changing a light bulb.
Jeff
That's handy. If you change a light bulb, that's something that's useful that you do around the house.
Brooke
That is not handy, Jeff. Anybody can change a light bulb.
Jeff
It's using your.
Brooke
Handy means that you have, like, skill and you know how to.
Jeff
You have to twist it one way and then twist it back the other.
Alexis
And then sometimes as a dud, you gotta do it twice.
Brooke
I understand it's handy where you grew up, Davis.
Jeff
She doesn't consider you handy, man.
Brooke
Well, not for that.
Davis
You know what? I did fix her burner, too.
Jeff
Oh, what burner?
Brooke
Wait a minute.
Alexis
That is handy.
Brooke
Her burner phone?
Alexis
Yeah, I threw it.
Davis
I hope not. No, the burner on her kitchen stove.
Brooke
Wow. Okay. That's handy.
Jeff
Yeah.
Brooke
Yeah.
Davis
Thank you.
Jeff
You screwed in a gas pipe this time, which is way more different.
Brooke
Less romantic vibes.
Alexis
Yeah, it does sound like you help you talk for a few hours. You may just be a really best friend now.
Brooke
Or maybe she's not getting back to you because there's CO2 poisoning in her house. I didn't do it, right.
Davis
I hope not.
Jeff
Was there any romance? Like, any kissing action or.
Davis
We did kiss a little bit at the end of the night before I left.
Jeff
Okay.
Davis
Well, she's romantically into me. Why isn't she answering my text now?
Alexis
She should be excited to text you. If anything. She should be like, oh, my God. Okay, wait 30 minutes before you text him back.
Brooke
Totally. It sounds so good. All of it.
Davis
Yeah, I thought it was.
Alexis
Something's wrong with her, bro. No way.
Brooke
It's you.
Alexis
Yeah, we'll find out what her problem is.
Jeff
Too handy, even. We don't know.
Brooke
Maybe it's handsy.
Ashley
Maybe that was the problem.
Jeff
Well, Brooke would consider that a perk.
Brooke
Everybody has a different opinion, Jeff.
Jeff
Let's figure this out. We're gonna call Ashley for you, get you a second date update right after this. Hold on. Second date update. Most other radio shows try to lift up their listeners. Praise them for doing nice things and good deeds on a first date. Yeah, that's not really our style. We like to downplay your positive traits and good deeds. And we'll even insult your handy skills because we're trying to help you to realize your own flaws.
Brooke
Why are you so stuck on this? Changing a light bulb is not handy, Jeff. And that's good.
Alexis
Yes. Double down.
Jeff
Insult his manhood.
Brooke
I'm not insulting a manhood.
Jeff
Real love isn't about caring. Real love isn't about support. It's about flaw finding. And our listener Davis appreciates that. Right, Davis?
Davis
I guess so, yes.
Jeff
Now, brooke wrote down 15 other shortcomings that she noticed during the date.
Brooke
He was super nice and helped her out.
Jeff
O too nice.
Davis
She made one call.
Brooke
She might not be calling you. You are so impossible some days.
Jeff
Davis, she's calling you impossible.
Brooke
No, I'm talking to you, Jeffrey.
Jeff
Oh, hard to tell sometimes.
Brooke
You're exhausting.
Jeff
Yeah, well, it's possible that he did exhaust her because Davis was with her at her house for many, many hours, drinking out on her front porch.
Brooke
It's so cute, though. Like, I can't believe she's not calling you back.
Davis
Same.
Brooke
Same.
Jeff
I'm hoping that the reason that she's not calling you back is that her dog just got loose and she's been out looking for it. If anything, she probably needs your help to track him down.
Brooke
Not a good alternative.
Jeff
Can you screw with.
Brooke
That's your positivity, Jess.
Jeff
We're here to help her in her time of need. That's a good thing. Let's dial her and see where she's at. And if she needs a little listen. Here we go. Hopefully she picks up.
Ashley
Hello?
Jeff
Hey, is this Ashley?
Ashley
Yes, it is. Who's this?
Jeff
Hey.
Brooke
Hey, Ashley.
Jeff
We're a radio show. We just wanted to know, is Nugget there?
Brooke
Can you put Nugget up to the phone?
Jeff
Is Nugget safe?
Ashley
What?
Jeff
Your dog?
Alexis
Yeah, your dog, Nugget.
Brooke
That has the cutest name ever. Good job on naming your dog.
Ashley
Thanks. I don't know how you know my.
Jeff
Dog'S name, but we heard it from a listener to our show that you met up with for a date recently. His name's Davis.
Ashley
Okay. I don't really. I don't really remember.
Jeff
You don't remember Davis?
Ashley
I. Yeah, I don't know. I just. I kind of hang out with a lot of people.
Brooke
So do you guys talked for hours. He came to your house?
Jeff
Yeah.
Brooke
I think you just hung out with him, like, a week ago.
Ashley
A week ago?
Jeff
Yeah. According to him, you guys met on a dating app. You asked him to come pick you up for a date, and then he ended up just staying there, drinking with you on your front porch.
Brooke
Which, you know, we were actually shocked that you were so trusting of him so quickly. I mean, because it's just a guy you met on the Internet.
Alexis
Yeah.
Ashley
Does he have dark hair? I think he was wearing a gray shirt.
Jeff
We've never seen him, but that does sound like him.
Alexis
Yeah, good old gray shirty.
Jeff
He sounded very. Gray shirt and dark hair. Over the.
Brooke
How many dates? I mean, it's impressive you're fitting that many in a week. How could you not remember someone like that you spent hours with?
Ashley
Well, to be honest, I mean, that's kind of like just how I use the dating apps. I've been doing this for a while.
Brooke
Doing what?
Jeff
Wait, what?
Alexis
You invite people over and talk to them and then let them leave. That's called a date. You're not tricking anyone.
Brooke
But it feels like you didn't even know his name while he was at your house.
Ashley
Yeah, I've been using dating apps for over a year now. And when I started, I was looking for a relationship, but I don't. I don't really know if that's where I'm at anymore.
Brooke
What do you mean? Like, you. You just. You don't want to see anybody seriously, or, like, why go out on the date to begin with if that?
Jeff
I just.
Ashley
I saw, like, too many people just want to mess around, you know? And after a while, it just really kind of, I don't know, mess with my head. So I just decided, screw it, I'm just gonna be in my free handyman phase.
Brooke
Your what?
Jeff
Free handyman phase.
Alexis
So you do admit he's handy.
Brooke
What do you mean?
Ashley
Well, so I'll set up a meeting with a guy, and they will end up fixing stuff for me.
Brooke
What?
Alexis
You don't like him?
Brooke
How do you even know they're handy when you meet him on the app?
Alexis
Oh, that's a good point. Cause if some girl asked me to do some stuff.
Brooke
Yeah, you're stuck with them for hours.
Ashley
I mean, come on. All guys like to think they're handy, whether they really are or not.
Brooke
I mean, Jeff, I think so much time. Jeffrey did think that he was handy with the light bulb, so.
Jeff
Yeah, I'll screw in any light bulb in this studio. Watch me.
Brooke
Dude, that's so messed up. You're just using these people but you spend hours with them and kiss them all for. Oh, yeah, they did.
Alexis
Yeah. Wait a minute.
Brooke
That sucks.
Ashley
God, guys, chill out. I mean, look, I'll have him back over if something else goes wrong in.
Jeff
The house, but what about romantic? Like, he thought that he was going over there to have, like, a genuine connection with you.
Alexis
I thought you were pretty.
Brooke
And honestly, if you are pretty, you could probably just put on the apps just looking for a handyman and guys would still volunteer to do that. Or do you have a landlord? Exactly.
Alexis
Yeah, that's true, too.
Ashley
Yeah, the landlord takes forever to solve things. And look, if I put just looking for a handyman on an app, people are going to show up thinking that it's like an X rated request.
Alexis
Oh, that's kind of true. Just looking for a pizza guy.
Jeff
Okay.
Alexis
Show up in uniform. Oh, I would show up so ready.
Brooke
Dude, that's so messed up. He's gonna be hurt.
Jeff
Is he gonna be hurt? We don't know. The only way to find out is if we actually just talk to him, because he just happens to be on the other line right now waiting to jump in on this conversation.
Brooke
Oh, my God, he heard everything.
Alexis
Is he there?
Ashley
Listen, before he jumps in, I'm just. I'm still trying to figure out which guy he is because I had two come over in the same weekend.
Brooke
How many broken things do you have in your home?
Ashley
Did he. I just. Did he recog the bathtub or anything about any recognition?
Brooke
No, he fixed your stove.
Jeff
Unless we missed that part of the story. Davis, are you there?
Alexis
You would have remembered that word.
Davis
Yeah. Hey, I'm here.
Brooke
What?
Davis
Ashley, I think you're confused. I'm trying to date for love, and I'm looking for someone who wants the same.
Brooke
Oh, that was such a sweet response.
Alexis
Maybe you're confused.
Ashley
Well, I really love that you fixed my stove.
Brooke
No.
Alexis
She's so bad.
Brooke
Actually, you had a connection with him. Maybe you're just jaded from being hurt. You know?
Ashley
I mean, that's true. And I'm sorry you feel bad. I mean, I. You were nice to talk to. I mean, I'm happy to hang out again with you at my place while.
Jeff
He fixes something else for you, like.
Ashley
Well, only if he wants to.
Alexis
Oh, that's good.
Brooke
She's being honest. What an offer. How could anyone pass that up?
Ashley
I mean, the good news is I've already got a guy who's really good with plumbing, so I'll never ask you to do any plumbing.
Jeff
Oh, there's a different guy.
Brooke
You have that Many plumbing issues. Well, it's hard to find a good.
Alexis
Plumber, just in general.
Davis
I just feel so taken advantage of right now. I really thought we had a. A real connection. And it looks like you have this kind of connection with a lot of people.
Ashley
Oh, David, I'm really sorry you feel that way.
Jeff
It's Davis with an S. Davis.
Davis
Oh, my God, David.
Brooke
I can't believe you kissed him still.
Alexis
I know. Was that because you were drinking? What was that?
Brooke
Or is that the tip?
Ashley
You know, he did a nice thing for me. What's wrong with a little harmless kissing.
Brooke
Everything when he thinks there's more?
Alexis
Because he's like, bye, I love you. She's like, yeah, bye, Ryan. Whatever your name was.
Brooke
That's awful.
Ashley
Again, like, I'm sorry if he was confused about things, but I just know where I am at in my life. I'm in this handyman phase.
Brooke
But you didn't tell him that.
Ashley
Yeah, well, now he knows. If he'd like to come over again, I'd be open to it.
Brooke
There is no way Davis still wants to hang out with her.
Alexis
Come on, buy some wood and go build her a deck, bro. If you love her, go get her.
Jeff
Never underestimate the shallowness of a guy. You know, you never know what he's gonna say if it means scoring another date with a cute girl, so.
Alexis
That's true.
Jeff
Davis, remember how pretty Ashley was?
Ashley
And I think I hear a noise in my ceiling fan.
Jeff
Another opportunity to demonstrate your manly handliness for her.
Alexis
She just pulls the cord through.
Brooke
She just pays you in kisses.
Jeff
What do you think, Davis?
Davis
My handiness is deserved for someone who loves me.
Brooke
Oh, that's right, Davis. Way to have a standard. That should be a bumper sticker.
Davis
Yeah.
Jeff
Well, thank you for being on. On the show with us, David, and good luck.
Brooke
Oh, my God, you're so good luck.
Jeff
With all your handy dating life stuff in the future.
Davis
All right, thank you.
Jeff
And, Ashley, I know a couple guys on our text board at 78592, say they will be available at a moment's notice to come and fix your ceiling fan or whatever you got going on.
Brooke
Do you have no dignity left?
Alexis
No.
Jeff
She kisses at the end of the date.
Davis
Yeah.
Alexis
You know, last time I kissed somebody.
Brooke
Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Jeff
I wasn't kidding. We really were Getting texts at 78592 from many gentlemen who would not mind helping Ashley with her household problems.
Alexis
Dude, but we're men. We want to feel useful. And we like pretty women.
Brooke
Have some respect. Get paid for it.
Jeff
At least that's the thing you have to think about. Like, I know we were saying earlier that having a stranger who you just met on the Internet come over to your house for a date is kind of sketchy. But how is that any different than finding a random handyman on the Internet and hiring him to come out to your house?
Brooke
Yeah, Jeff, I don't. I don't have those guys come to my house when I'm home alone. Yeah, like. Well, you literally make sure that someone else is there. That's what women do. And, like, make sure you know their name. Maybe.
Jeff
I'm just saying, either way, it's a random dude that you're inviting over to your house. But at least Ashley's plan was economical because she got free work done.
Brooke
I don't know. She can't change her own light bulb. I'm just like, I'm disappointed in her as a human.
Alexis
Switch was just off.
Brooke
Yeah.
Jeff
Do you know how many people I've paid to come out and change my light bulbs for me? And I pay them. She's just given all the women of the world a great life hack.
Alexis
You just bought a house and you're paying people to change your life.
Brooke
Pay me next time.
Jeff
I don't know. I don't know if you guys are handyman certified.
Brooke
Again, it doesn't take a handyman.
Jeff
I need to see the check mark next to your name if I'm going to believe you're going to fix my stuff. But if you ever want help with your dating life. We're not certified at all for that.
Alexis
We will help.
Jeff
We'll step in and give it our best try. It's Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Brooke
Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Podcast Information:
The episode titled “Too Handy Not Handsy” delves into the dynamics of modern dating pitfalls, specifically focusing on how certain behaviors can inadvertently sabotage potential relationships. Brooke and Jeffrey engage with a listener named Davis, who shares his recent dating experience, leading to a humorous yet insightful exploration of what went wrong during his date with Ashley.
Initial Contact & Setting Up the Date ([02:40] - [05:10])
The Date Unfolds ([05:19] - [07:57])
Demonstrating Handiness ([07:12] - [08:11])
Brooke and Jeffrey’s Analysis ([08:24] - [10:00])
Identifying the Problem
Connecting with Ashley
Brooke and Jeffrey’s Reaction ([12:00] - [17:58])
Conclusion of the Call
Brooke and Jeffrey’s Insights ([18:28] - [20:25])
Key Takeaways:
Davis on Initial Attraction:
Brooke Critiquing Handiness:
Jeff’s Sarcastic Advice:
Ashley’s Honesty:
Davis’s Reflection:
Jeff’s Humorous Take:
In this episode of “Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update,” Brooke and Jeffrey explore the intricate dynamics of dating where practical skills intersect with romantic intentions. Through the story of Davis and Ashley, listeners are presented with a humorous yet cautionary tale about the importance of balancing helpfulness with sincere emotional connection. The episode underscores the need for clear communication and genuine interest in building meaningful relationships beyond just practical assistance.
Note: This summary excludes non-content sections such as advertisements, intros, and outros to focus solely on the core discussions and interactions central to the episode's theme.