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Jeff
If you didn't know, we've been counting down our top 10 second date updates.
Brooke
Oh my God, it's so fun.
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Appreciate all the feedback and we have seen your requests. We do apologize that Alexis is not in the thumbnail photo for our second date update.
Brooke
I was in the studio that day too.
Jeff
Yeah, well, someone requested that you not appear in these photos specifically.
Brooke
Well, it's just like there's only room for one blonde. Yeah, it's like when there's two blondes, it kind of like puts people off. You know what I mean? But we could go off. Who's is more natural? Maybe I win that one.
Alexis
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Jeff
Yes.
Brooke
Just kidding.
Jeff
Lot of losers happening. Especially in the dating world. Liking today's number five top ten second date update countdown. This one is titled Trust fails. Oh, second date update. We haven't been to a lot of off site team bonding events at our radio station, but I've heard that, can.
Brooke
We say, thankfully, we don't want to give management any ideas. Jeff, I don't know what you're saying.
Jeff
I have heard that other companies do that. Yeah, they do. Okay. And one of the big events that they do is the trust fall. Where you stand with your arms crossed, either on top of a desk or on a tree stump out in the woods and you fall back and just trust that your team likes you enough to catch you.
Brooke
There is no way I would trust any of you to catch me.
Jeff
The only good part of that is the part where you get to close your eyes for a sec. Yeah, I will say I do know the one person in this room that I would accidentally lut slip through my fingers. I guess you'll just have to fall and see. Yeah, but it all comes down to trust. And unfortunately our listener Kevin recently asked his date to just trust him. Was he a trust fall with his date? No, it wasn't that. Okay, that be really awkward, but it was possibly the worst thing that could have happened when she said yes. No, Kevin, you came to the right place because we were just voted the least trusted morning show in North America. So welcome brother.
Kevin
Well, congratulations on that award everyone.
Brooke
Sounds like from Jeff's description that you should be part of our show. Exactly. Very untrustworthy, sir.
Kevin
I mean it's not my fault, but I still feel terrible about what happened.
Brooke
Never is.
Jeff
I trust you already. Let's start at the beginning. Tell us about the girl that you met and how you met her.
Kevin
All right. So her name is Courtney. Met her online. And, like, it's obviously online, so I can only do off the pictures. But in the pictures, you know, she had a great smile, and she was sporting bangs, which to me, is usually a red flag, but she rocked it.
Jeff
Well, Brooke has bangs.
Brooke
Exactly. You're not trustworthy, and I'm offended. I think you're reading the room, right? What don't you like about bangs? Why is that a red flag?
Kevin
Here's the bangs look good on certain people. It looked good on her. It's that usually when a girl decides to get bangs, it's after something traumatic happened in their life.
Jeff
Good point. Brook got married, and then right away.
Brooke
Seem more convinced now. No, that part kind of checked out. Yeah.
Jeff
So what did you and Courtney decide to do for your date?
Kevin
Well, you know, we were talking a little bit, and, you know, it seemed like we were getting along fine, and she said I get to pick where we go on the first date.
Brooke
Yeah. Nice.
Kevin
We decided to do dinner. I love wings. It's my favorite food.
Brooke
Wings. It could be a questionable first date food, though, because it's so messy.
Jeff
Yeah.
Kevin
But here's the thing. That's actually why I love wings on a first date, because it is messy. You, like, put your guard down. You can tell a lot about someone by how they eat their way.
Jeff
Okay, very true.
Kevin
Yeah. So she tells me she doesn't normally eat wings, but I told her about this, like, place I love, and she said she trusted me, which I did. I feel really bad that she did trust me, but that's where the trust comes.
Jeff
Why? I mean, what happened?
Kevin
Well, you know, we. We sit down, we start looking at the menu, and she admits to me that she's never had bone in wings before. She's only ever eaten boneless wings.
Brooke
I married a man who doesn't want to know that animals have bones. For some reason, I think animals better, for sure. You're just eating chicken nuggets, then. Perfect. Yeah.
Jeff
So did you want to end the date right there or did you keep going?
Kevin
No, because here's the thing. Like I said, that was, like, red flag number two for me.
Brooke
Oh, it was a red flag for you.
Jeff
Oh, it should be.
Brooke
I mean, I think it shows that she's adventur and that she's open to trying new things, like, she's never tried it before, but she's there. She's ready to do it.
Kevin
Well, that's what I liked about her, though. She said that she's never had boneless wings. And I said, tell you what, why don't you order some and you can have some of my bone in waynes. I can sort of show you how to eat them.
Jeff
Okay. That's a green flag instead of a red flag. Actually, I think it takes away a red flag.
Brooke
So not only one red flag, but it's also showing. He does compromise. Right. Because she's ordering bone free. You guys are thinking it.
Jeff
That's a yellow flag. So now we have. We have a green flag, two red flags, and a yellow flag, which I.
Brooke
Think means we're at purple.
Jeff
Oh, yeah. Mix them all together. We have a rainbow flag, which we love as well. Yeah, sure. It's like, it's all kinds of colors. All right, we approve. Bottom line so far. Kevin, what happens next?
Kevin
So the food gets there, and I give her one of my bone in Waynes, and she honestly, I thought it was adorable. She, like, genuinely did not even know how to approach the.
Jeff
I think people can see that if you've never had one. Okay, how was it?
Kevin
She loved it. She was like, oh, my God, this is so much better. And I said, I know.
Brooke
It does taste so much better.
Kevin
Yeah. So I give her a couple of my bone in wings. I take some of her chicken nuggets, and legit. The third wing she bites into, she actually just bit into it. I don't know if, like, she forgot that the bone was in there or something.
Brooke
Oh, that just hurt my mouth.
Jeff
She crack a tooth? She.
Kevin
Yes, Straight up chipped her front tooth.
Brooke
Her front tooth.
Kevin
Front tooth.
Brooke
Oh, that's so embarrassing.
Kevin
She sees on my face that I'm freaking out, and she starts freaking out. She, like, gets upset. I have to leave. I have to leave right now.
Brooke
Oh, it's so embarrassing.
Jeff
That and bangs together. Could you imagine? Not a good look. Just horrible.
Kevin
I mean, here's the thing. There's, like, something of a happy ending here. I told her a friend of the family is, like, a dentist, and so I called them up, and she said that she could see her right now. So we jumped in an Uber. We went over there like it was after hours, but she opened up just to, like, see her and actually fixed it up. Like, you really couldn't tell that anything had even happened.
Brooke
Wow, bro, I'll give you credit.
Jeff
You are a problem solver. This whole time, she throws little things at you and you.
Brooke
Just maybe, like, maybe she's not calling you back because she got the dentist bill.
Alexis
Oh, yeah.
Jeff
That's going to be $4,000. Is that true? Did you have to pay for it?
Kevin
No, no, my friend said it was free of charge.
Jeff
You're coming off actually looking really good here.
Brooke
And he found the one nice dentist in the world.
Jeff
So, I mean, is that where the date ended? I'm assuming you said goodbye after that.
Kevin
I mean, if you want to call it a day. And I feel like we were on a date for about 20 something minutes. Another like two to three hours together.
Jeff
But we're more on a medical em.
Kevin
Exactly. And I've been in contact with her. You know, it's like we still talk, but whenever I ask, like if she's busy or she wants to hang out again, that's when she doesn't respond.
Brooke
Oh, interesting. All right, we're pin her down and make her answer.
Jeff
We're at an orange flag with her right now. We gotta get to the green again. So we're gonna play a song, come back and try and get your second date update right after this. All right?
Kevin
All right, thanks.
Jeff
All right, hold on. Second date update. You know, there's that famous saying, ain't no thang but a chicken wing. Yes. Love that thing. Turns out chicken wings are a little more dangerous than we originally thought.
Brooke
Yeah.
Jeff
Cause one of our listeners, Kevin, encouraged his date, Courtney, to taste a bone in chicken wing for the very first time in her life. Which was great, except for the part where she chipped her front tooth on the bone.
Brooke
Not worth it, I could see. I mean, she was eating boneless and bone in at the same time, so I could see her when she bit down. She just wasn't thinking.
Jeff
Get a little confused. Luckily, Kevin had a family connection with a dentist and got it fixed for her that night free of charge.
Brooke
That's amazing.
Jeff
Impressive. Still, though, she's been acting a little bit different. He said. Still cordial between them, but not much else going on. And he wants a redo.
Brooke
Kevin, the one thing I didn't ask you, was she like super grateful for the dentist or was she kind of blaming you for having to go get her tooth fixed?
Kevin
No, she was super duper nice about it. She said, I can't believe I did that, but thank God you knew someone could help. So she seemed like she was in good spirits.
Jeff
So it's hard for me to believe no one's in good spirits after visiting the dentist. I don't care how nice they are.
Brooke
Maybe you got laughing guys.
Jeff
Oh, yeah. She was high. Yeah, for sure. Well, let's just call her. I mean, we'll see if she even picks up, but hopefully she does and we can get a little bit more of an explanation from her. All right.
Kevin
Yeah, okay.
Jeff
Hopefully she's not, like, whistling through her.
Brooke
Tooth a little bit.
Jeff
I'm gonna dial her number right now. Here we go.
Courtney
Hello?
Jeff
Hey, is this Courtney?
Courtney
Yeah, speaking.
Jeff
Hey, Courtney. My name is Jeff from the radio show Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning. Okay, I can't gauge her.
Brooke
Yeah, just say hi. Just continue the conversation.
Jeff
Hi, I'm Jeff.
Courtney
I'm sorry, who is this?
Jeff
Yep, Jeff from the radio show Brooke and Jeffrey in the Morning, as per mentioned previously.
Brooke
And we're all here, too. I'm Brooke.
Courtney
Oh, okay. It's like a conference call.
Brooke
Kind of. Yeah, except we're all in a radio studio just calling. You got it.
Courtney
Why?
Jeff
Because one of our listeners went out on a date with you recently, and afterwards, things have cooled down between the two of you. He's hoping that it could heat back up. That's a weird way to say it. What? Like a chicken wing heated up.
Courtney
Oh, my God.
Brooke
You know who we're talking about after he said chicken wing.
Courtney
Yeah, for sure.
Brooke
Okay, okay.
Jeff
We're talking about Kevin.
Brooke
Just to be clear, he sounds darling. I mean, when we talk to him.
Courtney
Yeah, no, he's a nice person.
Jeff
Yeah, totally.
Courtney
Just that whole date was just, like, pretty much like the worst date of my life. But not his fault, you know what I mean?
Brooke
Oh, my God.
Jeff
I thought we assume that he agrees. I mean, it was out of his control. But obviously getting rushed to the dentist is not, like, your dream date.
Courtney
No, no. And I don't really know exactly what he told you guys, but. Yeah, it just didn't leave me, you know, feeling too comfortable about.
Jeff
Well, I can fill you in on the parts that we do know, which is that you guys went to a chicken wing place. He encouraged you to try a bone in chicken for the first time, which caused you to chip your tooth. But then he said he had a family connection.
Courtney
Yeah, well, that part was really wonderful, and he was really awesome to do that. But there was, like, a whole situation at the dentist.
Brooke
Did you not like the doctor?
Courtney
No, she was really sweet. It just. It felt like it took longer than it should have.
Brooke
You know, it's a chipped tooth. I couldn't believe. Honestly, I couldn't believe they could even just fix it in one visit.
Courtney
Yeah, yeah, no, they were. This woman was like. I think her name Was like, claire, she was really nice, so that's not the issue. And I don't know if he told you, but, like, she's really beautiful, hot. Okay, let's just. She's a really hot dentist.
Jeff
Can I get a number?
Brooke
That's a bath? Is that a bad thing?
Courtney
No. Except for the fact that Kevin was just openly flirting with her the whole time. Like, right in front of me. Just, like, saying, like, all this. He didn't need to. How nice she looks, how she's so sweet and all this, like, family from who knows when.
Brooke
Yeah, but she was doing him a favor, right? Like, no staying late. He's probably just trying to compliment her.
Courtney
I was there. I know what it was. She's flirting back, and there was a lot of chemistry. And don't get me wrong, there was chemistry between me and him, too, but.
Brooke
But you're just sitting there with a broken front tooth.
Courtney
Seriously, like, I couldn't even open my mouth. I mean, forget about talking. And he's over there talking about how great she looks.
Jeff
Okay, Is that why. Is that why you say that it took so long, that he was just flirting with her the whole time?
Courtney
Yes. Yes. Really, Literally. She would stop and they would talk and laugh, and then she's like, oh, let me change my gloves, and blah, blah, blah, and I'm just there, you know? Like, you went to get her coffee, they drank.
Brooke
It sounds like you kind of felt.
Jeff
Like you were watching another date happen on your.
Courtney
Exactly right. That is exactly right.
Brooke
They came in with martinis. Where'd you get those from?
Jeff
Are you remembering this correctly? Were you on any anesthesia or anything, or.
Courtney
You know, I didn't have any anesthesia. No.
Jeff
Okay. Just know. Are you sure you didn't hallucinate that whole thing?
Courtney
Like, obviously, she's really cool, and it was great that she did this, but I just felt like maybe they have some emotions there that they need to kind of figure out.
Brooke
You're making a lot of assumptions. Like, it to me, it's just, like, it's a family friend. I would assume she's older, because she's.
Courtney
No, she is not older. She is his age. And he couldn't, like, keep his eyes or his attention off of her. Like, he literally didn't talk to me until we were leaving.
Brooke
Okay, well, I don't.
Jeff
I mean, I can. I can understand why you may have felt that way that night, but I would love to hear how Kevin actually felt because he's actually on the other line listening right now and wants to talk to you. Unless, I don't know, he's on a second call with Claire.
Brooke
Oh, stop it, Doctor.
Courtney
You're joking.
Jeff
I'm not. Kevin.
Courtney
Oh, my God.
Kevin
Hey, Courtney. Sorry to surprise you. Is it okay if I asked you a few things about this?
Courtney
Oh, well, sure. What do you want to ask me?
Kevin
I just. I don't even know where to begin. Like, this is just very weird to me. That's how you saw it. I just want to let you know the bad story with me and Claire. She's literally my mom's best friend's daughter, so she's like, my God, sister, essentially.
Brooke
That doesn't make it better.
Jeff
Yeah, that doesn't really.
Kevin
But, like, here's the thing. Like, we were literally just catching up. I hadn't seen her in 12 months.
Courtney
Yeah, but I get that. But, like, catching up about how you have the most amazing eyes. Oh, and that's smile. It's just like when you complimented her smile, and I literally wasn't sure if I was gonna have a front tooth. It just wasn't the right time, you know?
Kevin
Look, I. I didn't mean to be inconsiderate, but just, like, she is beautiful, you know? Like, she has literally, completely.
Courtney
We know. We established that.
Kevin
Okay, but, like, I feel like just because she's beautiful, you can't hold that against me. I feel like that's.
Courtney
No, it wasn't how she looks. No, it wasn't how she looks. It's how you gave her so much attention during a really difficult moment for me.
Brooke
Can I just ask Kevin why. Why would you compliment her eyes? You know, like, I could even say smile, because she's a dentist. I could maybe see that.
Jeff
But, like, have you ever sat in one of those dentist chairs with those bright lights shining on you? It makes your eyes pop.
Brooke
She wasn't sitting in the chair.
Jeff
The whole room. The whole room, everybody in the room is instantly gorgeous.
Brooke
It's just. That's. That's not, like, a friendly compliment. That's like. It's a flirty compliment.
Jeff
I feel like I need to ask this question, Kevin. Have you ever hooked up with Claire before?
Brooke
We want this answer. I don't know that we.
Jeff
I think we do.
Kevin
I'll tell you straight up. No, we never have. And what. Yes, we have, like, some sort of, like, vibe or chemistry or whatever. But here's the thing. Like, I heard you asked, like, you didn't know if she was single. She is single. She's been single for a while. I just never wanted to go down that road with her because Like I said, I see her almost like a family member, but not really.
Brooke
This is so hard. I can understand both their points. I really can.
Jeff
Yeah, I mean, Courtney, I don't want to invalidate your feelings, but they've known each other going way, way back. There's already, like, just an established friendship there, and I don't think it's fair to have a beauty contest in the middle of your oral exam.
Brooke
I don't think that's it. I think it's about the way he made her feel.
Jeff
He promises to call you Beautiful at least 100 times on your next date that we will send you on and pay for if you're still up for it. What do you think, Courtney?
Courtney
Guys, I'm just enjoying my new tooth.
Brooke
You got a free tooth? I like it.
Jeff
New tooth life. It's a gorgeous tooth, by the way.
Brooke
Yeah, sexiest tooth I've ever seen.
Jeff
Good job, Jeff. Kevin, would you like to throw in some compliments about her pretty teeth?
Kevin
I mean, I literally said I thought you had a great smile when they asked me about you, and you still do. I'm happy about that. I'm just disappointed that apparently we're not going to go out again.
Jeff
Oh, man.
Brooke
I don't blame you, buddy.
Jeff
You know what you learn? Never be friends with women. I feel you, man.
Brooke
I support that.
Jeff
Actually.
Brooke
Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
Jeff
I think the part of the second date that I just can't wrap my head around is, like, I get she felt a little ignored, you know? But what is a guy supposed to say to a girl who's propped up in a dentist chair for two hours to make her feel special?
Brooke
Anything but complimenting another girl. I mean, honestly, he could find memes. He could find YouTube videos to show her. He could get on Tik Tok and be like, look at this. This is funny. Like, he actually doesn't even have to say anything. He just has to feign interest in her. That was good, bro.
Jeff
Just. Just sit there and shut up for two hours while you comp this.
Brooke
I mean, are you serious that you would actually compliment a family friend by telling her she has beautiful eyes if they looked beautiful?
Jeff
I think. I think people like compliments.
Brooke
No, that's not a thing.
Jeff
I don't think it's fair. Like, if you went somewhere, you wouldn't be allowed to talk to a family friend in front of your husband.
Brooke
I mean, he admitted they had a thing. Like, they had a vibe, right? Him and the dentist. It's just he hadn't acted on it. I mean, I could see his side. I understand why he wants a date. And he's still interested in Courtney. Oh, you can.
Jeff
It doesn't sound like you can.
Brooke
I can see both sides. I can.
Jeff
Yeah.
Brooke
Same here.
Jeff
You know, I can see both.
Brooke
He put. He put effort into going out with Courtney again. I think she should have said yes.
Jeff
I think he said two. Too many compliments. Okay, Too many. Well, I was gonna tell Brooke what I thought about her eyes, but forget it.
Brooke
You can't even see him behind these glasses.
Jeff
All right, never mind then. I won't say anything. I'll just say if you ever want to get a second date. Update. Email the show. We'll call the person who isn't calling you back.
Brooke
Brooke and Jeffrey in the morning.
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Podcast Summary: Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update – Trust Fails (#5)
Host/Author: iHeartPodcasts
Release Date: December 20, 2024
In the episode titled "Second Date Update: Trust Fails (#5)," hosts Brooke and Jeffrey delve into the complexities and challenges of dating, particularly focusing on how trust—or the lack thereof—can impact second dates. This episode highlights a real listener story, analyzing the pitfalls and offering insights to help listeners navigate their romantic endeavors more effectively.
Kevin, a listener, shares his recent experience with Courtney during their second date, which took an unexpected turn due to issues surrounding trust.
Initial Connection:
Kevin met Courtney online. Intrigued by her smile and bangs—a feature Kevin initially viewed skeptically as a potential red flag—he decided to meet her in person. [04:53]
The Wing Incident:
For their date, Kevin chose a wing restaurant, believing that the messiness of wings would help break the ice and reveal Courtney's true self through her eating habits. Courtney, however, revealed she had only ever eaten boneless wings, leading Kevin to encourage her to try bone-in wings, emphasizing trust in his choice. [05:17]
Kevin: "I love having it on a movie night with my roommate. Or hey, if I bring it to family dinner, it looks like I contributed something."
Unexpected Consequences:
Courtney ended up chipping her front tooth on a bone-in wing, an incident that not only caused physical discomfort but also emotional distress. Despite Kevin's swift action in arranging a dental appointment through a family connection, the aftermath left their budding relationship strained. [08:25]
Brooke: "Oh, that just hurt my mouth."
Post-Date Communication Breakdown:
Following the accident, Courtney became distant, ceasing to respond to Kevin’s attempts to reconnect. This led to confusion and disappointment for Kevin, who believed he had handled the situation with care and responsibility. [07:42]
Brooke and Jeffrey dissect Kevin’s story, exploring the dynamics of trust and communication in dating scenarios.
Identifying Red and Green Flags:
The hosts humorously categorize the events into signal flags, highlighting Kevin’s initial misjudgment and subsequent efforts to mend the situation.
Jeff: "Okay, that's a green flag instead of a red flag."
Trust and Compromise:
Kevin’s decision to have Courtney try bone-in wings was seen as both a red flag (encouraging her out of her comfort zone) and a green flag (showing willingness to share his preferences and help her).
Brooke: "She does compromise. Right. Because she's ordering bone free. You guys are thinking it."
Handling Accidents with Grace:
While Kevin took immediate steps to rectify the situation, the emotional fallout suggests that trust issues extend beyond mere actions to perceptions and feelings of attentiveness.
To gain a comprehensive understanding, Brooke and Jeff invite Courtney to share her side of the story, providing a balanced view of the events.
Courtney’s Experience:
Courtney describes feeling overshadowed during the dental procedure, where Kevin’s attention seemed divided between her and his mother’s best friend, Claire, the dentist. This led to her feeling neglected and uncomfortable, exacerbating her reluctance to pursue a second date. [12:45]
Courtney: "I couldn't even open my mouth. And he's over there talking about how great she looks."
Kevin’s Clarification:
Kevin explains that his relationship with Claire is purely platonic, emphasizing their long-standing and familial connection. He expresses regret over how the situation unfolded and his intentions to maintain both relationships respectfully. [16:45]
Kevin: "She's like my God sister, essentially."
Mutual Understanding:
Both Courtney and Kevin acknowledge the misunderstandings that arose, highlighting the importance of clear communication and boundaries in relationships. Brooke and Jeff mediate the conversation, offering empathy and constructive feedback. [17:00]
Through Kevin and Courtney's story, several key lessons emerge for listeners navigating the dating landscape:
Clear Communication is Crucial:
Misunderstandings, especially regarding intentions and relationships with others, can severely impact trust and rapport.
Balancing Attention:
Ensuring that one partner feels valued and prioritized is essential, especially in potentially awkward or high-stress situations like accidents or emergencies.
Navigating Third-Party Relationships:
Transparency about existing relationships and their boundaries can prevent feelings of neglect or jealousy.
Handling Accidents Gracefully:
Accidents can be opportunities to showcase character traits such as responsibility, empathy, and problem-solving abilities, but they also test the foundation of trust built so far.
Perception Matters:
Even with good intentions, actions can be perceived differently by others. It's vital to be mindful of how behaviors and decisions may be interpreted.
In this episode of Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update, the story of Kevin and Courtney serves as a poignant reminder of the delicate nature of trust in budding relationships. Through candid discussions and a transparent call-in segment, listeners are encouraged to reflect on their own dating practices, emphasizing the importance of communication, attentiveness, and understanding. Brooke and Jeff adeptly navigate the conversation, offering both humor and heartfelt advice, ensuring that the lessons gleaned are both engaging and educational for their audience.
Brooke at [03:02]: "Well, Alexis, we have so much in common. Do we?"
Jeff at [07:09]: "Okay, that's a green flag instead of a red flag."
Courtney at [12:45]: "I couldn't even open my mouth. And he's over there talking about how great she looks."
Kevin at [16:45]: "She's like my God sister, essentially."
Brooke at [20:27]: "You can't even see him behind these glasses."
By presenting Kevin and Courtney’s narrative alongside insightful analysis, Brooke and Jeffrey offer a comprehensive look into the challenges of building and maintaining trust on second dates, providing listeners with valuable lessons to enhance their own romantic journeys.