Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update - UPDATE: Phone Paux

Episode Date: September 25, 2025
Podcast: Brooke and Jeffrey: Second Date Update (iHeartPodcasts)
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Episode Overview

This episode presents a follow-up ("Update Update") to a memorable Second Date Update call involving Paul and Kelly. After a gym-themed first date and some unexpected honesty with personal phones, Paul was ghosted by Kelly. The team seeks out Kelly to discover the real reason and, in the process, uncover the most eccentric and oddly endearing "dealbreaker" yet. The episode revisits the story, delivers behind-the-scenes commentary, and updates listeners on Paul and Kelly’s relationship today.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Phone Etiquette as a Dating Litmus Test

• [05:55] The show opens with the hosts debating “phone up” vs. “phone face down” on dates.
  • Alexis: "I put it in my purse. Usually, I don't have it out."
  • Brooke: Highlights the perception that phone face down could mean hiding something.

2. How Paul and Kelly Met and Their Gym Date

• [07:01] Paul and Kelly know each other from the gym—she usually tells men she has a boyfriend but makes an exception for Paul.
• Both have tight schedules, so their first "date" is at the gym, followed by a healthy dinner at Paul's place (Alexis and Jose are skeptical but amused).

3. The Phone Passcode Moment

• [08:14] Paul, while doing dishes, asks Kelly to check and respond to a text on his phone—he gives her his passcode.
  • Paul: “I don’t have anything to hide. I gave her my passcode. I don’t care.”
  • The cohosts debate whether this is a “green flag” or just weirdly trusting.

4. Post-Date Vibes and Paul's Concern

• [10:42] No kiss, just a hug. Since then, Kelly’s gone cold (“energy shift”) and Paul doesn’t know why.
  • Brooke: “It’s weird because you were so open with her.”

5. Kelly Reveals the Real Issue

• [15:06-17:04] Kelly confesses: she snooped through Paul’s phone, specifically his Notes app, and found…
  • Kelly: “There’s a bunch of drafts in there, and they’re a bunch of, like, over the top, aggressive, negative Yelp reviews… for public restrooms.”
    • Example: “The hinges on the door were, like, loose, and the latch was hanging on for dear life like it was a marriage on its last leg…” ([16:32])
  • The hosts are initially shocked, then amused by Paul's oddly specific bathroom critiques.

6. Debate: Is This Behavior Charming or a Red Flag?

• [17:04-18:22] The hosts alternate between defending Paul’s quirky hobby (shoutout to clean bathrooms everywhere) and ribbing Kelly for looking through his private notes.
  • Alexis: “Think of how creative those reviews were. You’ve got a man who’s good with words!”
  • Brooke: “Brooke has never stood up for a man like she has public bathroom Yelp review…” ([18:22])

7. Resolution: Bathroom Reviews, Trust, and a Second Chance

• [19:20] Paul’s bathroom at home was, per Kelly, “sparkling clean,” though she notes the toilet paper was dispensed "under," which irks her.
• Kelly admits to self-sabotaging and agrees to a second date as long as “the place has a solid bathroom rating from [Paul].”
• Paul: “I’d love to go out with Kelly again.”

8. Update Update: Are They Still Together?

• [21:57] Both join for a live update, confirming they're giving the relationship a real shot.
  • Paul is trying to be “less aggressive” in his negative public restroom reviews, but “it still happens, especially around urinals.” ([22:24])
  • Brooke: “We’re happy to hear, Kelly and Paul, that you’re still together and reforming each other and doing well.” ([22:44])

Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

On Phone Trust:

• Paul ([08:46]): "I gave her my passcode. I don't care."
• Alexis ([08:53]): "Jumping right in."

On Public Restroom Reviews:

• Kelly ([16:20]): "These are for public restrooms."
• Brooke ([16:52]): "And it’s useful, because now I know not to go to that McDonald’s."

On Quirkiness and Dating:

• Alexis ([18:08]): "Listen to me. That is clean."
• Brooke ([18:22]): "Brooke has never stood up for a man like she has public bathroom, Yelp review…"

Update Reflections:

• Paul ([22:04]): "I've been trying to just focus more on the good and being less aggressive about it."
• Brooke ([22:44]): "We’re happy to hear, Kelly and Paul, that you're still together and reforming each other and doing well."

Important Timestamps

• 03:12 — Hosts introduce the Update Update and recap the concept.
• 05:55 — First date phone etiquette debate begins.
• 07:01-08:46 — Paul recounts first date details and the phone handover.
• 15:06-17:04 — Kelly’s confession about snooping and finding Paul's aggressive bathroom notes.
• 18:22 — Hosts passionately debate bathroom review culture.
• 19:20 — Kelly and Paul agree to a quirky second date.
• 21:57-22:50 — Update: Kelly and Paul are still together and navigating Paul's review "habit".

Final Thoughts & Tone

The episode maintains the show’s hallmark blend of empathy, playful skepticism, and offbeat humor. The hosts—especially Brooke—cheerfully advocate for Paul’s bathroom review obsession and Kelly’s openness to giving love (and quirkiness) a second chance. As always, the Second Date Update team delivers both resolution and entertainment, proving that relationship red flags are all about perspective.

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