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Brown Girl Self-Care
Hosted by Brown Girl Self-Care · EN
Join Bre, aka The Self-Care Pusher from Southern California, as she shares life experiences, weighs in on current events, amps up her wellness/health habits and finds clean(ish) products to try all for the sake of taking her physical, spiritual and emotional well-being to the next level and (hopefully) inspiring other women of color to do so as well. It's time to become obsessed with our self-care!
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Trusting Yourself After Making Bad Choices
5d ago00:49:20Tap to summarizeWhen plans fall apart or life throws a curveball, what is the very first thing that starts spinning in your head? For most of us, the shock is immediately followed by a wave of self-attack: “I should have known better. I should have tried harder. I should have done things differently.”In this episode, lets talk about the "should" spiral and how we abandon our internal authority when things go south.True alignment and self-trust don't come from doing more; they come from choosing to be more. I'm sharing a personal story about a moment my own intuition loudly yelled, "F that noise,"* and why reclaiming your wisdom means stepping out of the frantic hustle and creating a safe space for the part of you that is just terrified of making a mistake.If you are currently sitting in the wreckage of a recent setback and second-guessing your every move, this conversation is your invitation to put down the heavy labor, return to your own bones, and remember that you are allowed to be human.Key Topics CoveredThe "Should" Spiral: How we weaponize expectations against ourselves after a setback and drive a wedge into our own self-trust.The Trap of Doing vs. Being: Exposing the frantic urge to over-research, seek validation, and prove ourselves to the world instead of trusting the brilliance already within us.Intuition as an Internal Power: Grounding ourselves in the true definition of intuition—the natural ability to know something without needing external proof or evidence.Healing the Little Girl Within: Why rebuilding trust starts with comforting the inner child who learned at a young age to reject her own body's wisdom.Lessons over Failure: Shifting our perspective so that mistakes become an anchor for deeper wisdom rather than a reason to abandon ourselves.Our Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →It's Beyond Time To Be Thinking About Your Endgame.
2w ago00:36:17Tap to summarizeNow, more than ever, is the right time for you to be thinking about yourself. If you are a Black woman in your 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond, chances are you have spent decades as a caregiver. Whether you are managing children, siblings, grandchildren, or aging parents, you might be at a point where something simply has to give. If you notice that you are constantly exhausted and your health is feeling iffy, it is time to look in the mirror and ask a real question: What is your endgame?In this intimate solo episode, I am sharing some major shifts happening in my own life. I recently made the decision to scale back my hours at work to 24 hours a week because my body was flat-out rejecting a grueling schedule. Our energy is finite, and pushing through back spasms and exhaustion just to survive in a system that does not prioritize our wellness is no longer an option.I am also talking about the necessity of stepping back from mothering our adult children. I share a recent story about my daughter getting her hair braided that reminded me that she is a grown woman with her own job and her own money. When we step back, we allow our children to grow into who they are meant to be, and we reclaim valuable time for our own rest, reflection, and restoration.Finally, I am diving into why the environment we live in makes holistic health so difficult for Black women, and why I am actively planning a personal exit strategy (part of MY endgamge) to move overseas by 2028. Self-care requires extensive, consistent dedication, and it is time to stop putting your life on hold.Our Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →There is Something For You. Lots of Somethings.
3w ago00:31:55Tap to summarizeHave you ever looked at your life and realized things are not going the way you initially designed or imagined? You’re making the changes, you’re being intentional, you’re doing the work—but that "one great thing" you had your heart set on just didn't pan out.In this intimate solo episode I am reminding you that there is something amazing (many somethings in fact) out there for you even if your "one great thing" slipped out of reach.We often tie our worth to a specific outcome, believing that if we just get that one thing, everything will be perfect and we’ll finally be "good enough." But what if that disappointment is actually a mirror? In This Episode, We Cover:The "One Great Thing" Trap: Why we mistakenly give external milestones the power to validate our entire existence.Sitting in the Lane: The radical act of allowing yourself to feel disappointment without rushing to fix it or force a pivot.Who Are You Becoming? Shifting the focus from what you can get to who you are growing into while you wait.Key Takeaways to Carry With You:"Sometimes we have to just sit in that initial lane of disappointment for the things that we don't get, that we had our heart set on. That doesn't mean that goodness is not for you. It just means that it's gonna look different than what you imagine.""Sometimes there's a lesson in the waiting. And it's not so much about what you can get, but about who you are becoming or who you are growing into as you wait."Our Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →Generational Healing and Blooming w/ Tara Pringle Jefferson
4w ago01:09:27Tap to summarizeToday I am in conversation with Tara Pringle Jefferson, Author of Bloom How You Must: A Black Woman’s Guide to Self-Care and Generational Healing. Tara is the founder of The Self Care Suite, a digital wellness community for Black women. Over the last decade, she has brought her wellness expertise to corporate audiences including WW, SiriusXM, Wayfair, and Priceline.During our time together we talk about generational healing for Black women and the ways we are currently growing and blooming in sptie of what we (as Black women) have endured for decades.To learn more about Tara please check her out here:instagram.com/wherewomenbloom facebook.com/wherewomenbloomOur Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →About those times you go out of your way to go against your goals and vision
Jun 100:40:04Tap to summarizeHave you ever caught yourself fighting for a situation you already know you don't want because it shrinks you? In this episode, I’m sharing a moment of clarity I had after spending half an hour chasing down someone in a store to inquire about a job. It will make sense when you hit "play" and have a listen.We try so hard to make an uncomfortable situation comfortable just because it feels safe. We look for little things, like “well, at least it’s closer to home,” to justify staying on autopilot. But true liberation means you stop fighting for the bare minimum. It means you stop settling for a minute amount of money, space, love, and you actually start allowing the alignment of your true vision (which for me is working less, earning more, and pouring into my purpose).What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:Seeking Derailment vs. Allowing Alignment: What it looks like when you are fighting, inquiring over and over, and pushing for full-time hours in a place that shrinks you, instead of allowing the space to do things that actually align with your vision.Making the Uncomfortable Comfortable: How we look for little things to make a limiting situation feel okay, and how that comfort keeps us limited and stuck on autopilot.The Bare Minimum Trap: The moment you tell yourself that all of your wants, your needs, and your hopes don't matter as long as the basics are taken care of and a little bit of money is coming in.Our Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →Are You The Pusher Or The Driver?
May 2500:28:13Tap to summarizeI'm back behind the mic and dropping some real talk about what happens when life forces you to wake up from autopilot. This week, I’m sharing the raw reality of working a labor-intensive retail job at 50, dealing with the daily grind of pushing carts, and how a repetitive question from an older gentleman in the store literally stopped me dead in my tracks and forced me to look at how I'm navigating my life.Spoiler alert: You have permission to take control of your own damn life.True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your circumstances are perfect to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in a hard season, looking at your life, and choosing your power anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to stop living on autopilot and step into the driver's seat of your own liberation.What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:The Retail Reality Check: The logistics of being back in the retail trenches in decade number five, the physical toll of pushing carts, and navigating a season that feels heavy and labor-intensive.The Pusher vs. The Driver: The exact moment a daily question from a retail customer bypassed my ears and hit my understanding, sparking a deep revelation about survival mode vs. conscious sovereignty.The Anatomy of Autopilot: Breaking down how trauma, people-pleasing, and public validation trick us into letting life just "happen" to us, instead of mapping out our own master blueprint.The Power of Stillness: Why reclaiming your life requires getting quiet, turning off the noise and distractions, and allowing what’s beneath the surface to bubble up so you can figure out what you actually want.Getting Sick of Your Own Sh*t: A real-talk reality check on how we get comfortable in our excuses, make them our identity, and why hitting a wall with your own patterns is often the exact catalyst needed for true healing.The Reclaiming of Your Power: Why you have a right to hold the map, choose your destination, change your mind, and fully embrace every single gift and talent inside of you before you leave this earth.Our Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →Outside Is Still Ghetto (But My Voice Is Valid)
May 1800:34:18Tap to summarizeAfter an extended hiatus, I'm back behind the mic!! I’m sharing the raw reality of navigating a major life transition at 50, dealing with the structural games of the "outside world," and wrestling with the deeply colonized fear that unless you are young, trendy, and constantly producing, your voice doesn't matter.Spoiler alert: It does matter.True, decolonized self-care isn't about performing wellness or waiting until your life is perfectly wrapped in a bow to claim your space. It’s about standing squarely in your "unknown" and choosing your purpose anyway. Lean in as we untangle what it means to practice liberation in real-time, right from the trenches.What We’re Unpacking In This Episode:The Reality of the Hiatus: Why I went silent for two months, and the vulnerability of questioning my validity in a digital age obsessed with youth and algorithms."Outside is Still Ghetto": The logistics of taking a retail job for stability, navigating spaces that treat you like a number, and the sovereign act of collecting a paycheck without giving away your soul.The Universal Struggle for Meaning: Why checking external boxes will never fill an internal void, and how to find your anchor when your surroundings feel sparse or uncertain.The Reclaiming at 50: Why my mission to provide a space of encouragement and liberation for Black women doesn't pause just because I'm figuring out my own next steps.Our Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →Un-Laboring In This Season When $$ May Be Tight
Feb 2300:22:43Tap to summarizeLet's talk a little about when you are in a season that requires you to un-labor a bit and stop grinding. I believe that Black women deserve more ease and to receive income and abundance with ease, myself included, so there will be times that we are required to un-labor and allow God to step in and provide miracles. This is counterintuitive to the lessons we learned that told us that in order to be successful, wealthy, even safe, we must labor in all ways and all the time. Hit "play" on this episode and lt's unpack things a little bit.Our Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →For Black Women Love Isn't Enough - When to Stop Fixing a Dead Relationship
Feb 1600:37:07Tap to summarizeValentine's Day was just a few days ago, but today we’re talking about the side of love we rarely discuss: the grace of letting go. Inspired by a surprising lesson from Mr. Rogers, this episode explores why we often keep pouring our "salt"—our energy, labor, and essence—into relationships that are no longer viable.Let's talk about the "Fixer" trap, the difference between a rough patch and a dead one, and how to reclaim your sweetness by choosing to stop performing CPR on a "dead fish". Ways to support me and the podcast:Buy me a coffee or even a book. Cashapp and Venmo are @browngirlselfcare (thank you!!)Leave a message on Spotify or rating and review on iTunes (thank you!!)Our Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
Transcribe →2026 Is Not The Year For Distractions
Feb 900:32:26Tap to summarizeLate in 2025 one of my distractions, one that I wasn't aware of for a while, was fear. I was afraid that If I didn't earn income or receive it in a certain way, I wasn't doing things "right." This ended up putting me into a bit of freeze mode and if you've ever experienced freeze mode you know how much that feels like being stuck in time.In todays episode, let's talk a bit about distractions and how they might show up in your life and put a halt on living the life you deserve.Our Sponsors:* Check out Bilt and use my code joinbilt.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.biltrewards.com* Check out Chime and use my code chime.com/SELFCARE for a great deal: https://www.chime.comSupport this podcast at — https://redcircle.com/brown-girl-self-care/exclusive-contentAdvertising Inquiries: https://redcircle.com/brandsPrivacy & Opt-Out: https://redcircle.com/privacy
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