
This week, Father Cooper travels to London and sits down with Olivia Attwood. Olivia discusses her life before Love Island and recounts her days partying and traveling the world as a grid girl. Olivia’s dating life before Love Island? Tattoos on the first date and countless cheating stories…it was toxic. The pair then discuss Olivia’s experience exploring the world of OnlyFans and Pornhub and the lives of cam girls and sugar babies. Olivia breaks down the reality of these internet ventures and reveals the dark side you’ve never heard about before. Olivia joins OnlyFans and speaks about the struggles she faced while on the site. What is the most twisted request cam girls receive? Is sugar baby-ing as easy as it seems? Why shoot porn if OnlyFans exists? Every question is addressed and every misconception debunked.
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Alex Cooper
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Olivia Atwood
What is up, Daddy gang? It is your founding father, Alex Co.
Alex Cooper
With Call her Daddy.
Olivia Atwood
Hello.
Guest
Oh, my God. I feel like I know you. I know.
Olivia Atwood
I've been so excited to meet you. This is gonna be so good. Do you need anything?
Guest
No. I've literally helped myself to, like, free prosecco from the.
Olivia Atwood
Wait. What?
Guest
I know there was. I don't even know, guys.
Olivia Atwood
I didn't get offered any.
Guest
It was in a fridge. I just took it.
Olivia Atwood
You're like, let's go.
Guest
Welcome to London, babe.
Olivia Atwood
Oh, my God. I'm so happy to be here.
Guest
What are we at?
Olivia Atwood
We're swearing for this Pod, you fucking little dirty cunt. I'm gonna slide a dildo up your pod. You can say whatever the fuck you want.
Guest
But I wondered, like, are we gonna make drinks or whatever?
Olivia Atwood
Because I was like, I know. No one offered me a drink. So I was like, I think, guys.
Guest
Can we get Alex in Paseka?
Olivia Atwood
So apparently Olivia's been drinking without me.
Guest
I found in a fridge I might have pay someone that goes to corner shop. It's upstairs in the fridge. There was four bottles, and I just took a tumbler.
Olivia Atwood
Okay, ready?
Guest
Yeah. Ready?
Olivia Atwood
Olivia Atwood, welcome to Call Her Daddy.
Guest
Like, that sentence just gave me chills, by the way. Like, I've got goosebumps.
Olivia Atwood
Wait. I love it so much. I am so happy to be here in your presence.
Guest
Really?
Olivia Atwood
Yes. Okay. I'm going to give you backstory because I'm going to, like, I'm going to lube you up here. Okay?
Guest
Okay.
Olivia Atwood
Pandemic. I'm sitting in my New York City apartment. I am so bored, as we all are. And I'm like, I need to find a TV show that I can, like, go and binge. Like, I need to be here for days on end. And I find Love island. And I put on my social media and I'm like, what season do I start? Obviously, uk. And everyone is like, you have to watch three or five. You have to watch three or five. And so naturally I'm like, I'm starting with three. I click on three, your beautiful face pops up. And the entire season, I was obsessed. You were so incredible. I was like, I need to interview this girl. And I thought this like, over a year and a half ago to two years ago. So naturally, I flew 5,000 miles so I could sit down with you and interview Olivia Atwood. Woo.
Guest
This is crazy. This is crazy to me. Like, I've been a fan of the podcast forever. Like, I swear to God, the Instagram, everything is wild. Daddy Gang, be nice to me.
Olivia Atwood
Are you kidding me? They're going to be. They are going to be so nice to you. I've actually had people wanting you to come on the show for so freaking long. And I had reached out to your team, and I think we had originally been like, we can just do a zoom.
Guest
I remember this a little bit. Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
I was like, are you fucking kidding me? I'm not doing a zoom with Olivia Atwood.
Guest
It's just not the same.
Olivia Atwood
We can't drink for a second.
Guest
I can't fucking.
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Olivia Atwood
Let's go back a little bit, okay? Because everyone knows you from Love island and you were incredible on it.
Alex Cooper
But before Love island, young, young Olivia.
Olivia Atwood
Not that young, but like, you know, now I'm not saying she's like 10 years old doing this. But you were, like, so creepy.
Alex Cooper
You were a grid girl.
Guest
Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
Can you explain what is a grid girl? What was your job? What were you doing?
Guest
I was a model, but doing grid girl and promotion stuff to, like, fill the gaps, you know. And I was at this thing we have in the UK called that, the Touring Car Championships. It's like pretty low key, whatever it was there. It was a miserable fucking day. It was like the north of England. And I was like, what am I actually doing, like, standing here with this sad little flag? And then the Monster girls were there with another team and one of the girls approached me and she was like, would you, you know, want to work with us? But you, when you work with Monster, you can only do, like, Monster. You can't do, like, a bit of this, bit of that. So I said, yeah. And then, yeah, I started like a week after. And I did that solidly for, like, oh, God, four or five years. I was like a monster girl. So it's everything. It's like all sporting events, like ski, skate, like track cars, motorbikes. It's crazy.
Olivia Atwood
Obviously, it's a bunch of hot girls and you're hanging out and naturally, I can only imagine, like, the parties and the vibes. What is one of the wildest nights out you remember having during that time of your life?
Guest
They were always wild. Like, it was, you know, the amount of times I turned up with on no sleep. Like, I mean, I was just a different animal back then. Like, I couldn't do it now. Like, I'd be in a fetal position, like, rocking, crying. Like I was. I could go out all night and then still look hot the next day. It was like, you know, it's like to be that age, just the dream. But people always say to me, all the riders, the drivers. But, you know, like, the thing was, like, Formula one drivers, motor gpu, they don't drink. Like, really they don't. They're like. They are like quite a weird breed. Like, they're not super social. It's a very, like, you know, isolated sport. So they don't really get involved in, like, you know, partying and stuff. So it was more like I'd end up, like, with the mechanics. Like, I didn't give a. If he was down to, like, drink with me and get messy. I was all about it. Like, I didn't care if you were changing tires earlier. You saw grease on your hands. If you want to go and like, well, pound a bottle of Jager, let's do it. Like, I had no prejudice. I didn't go, shit.
Olivia Atwood
I love that for you so much. Also, I was thinking about it because I've dated athletes before. I know you're engaged to one, and so I'm thinking, like, I forgot that concept. Like, when you're younger, you want to go for these athletes, but it's almost like, wait till you're like a little bit older because they don't fucking party.
Guest
No. And they're so, like, obviously dedicated to what they're doing and focus and nothing is gonna, like, just disgusting. Oh, my God. Imagine having dedication and, you know, self control.
Olivia Atwood
Olivia and I are like, it's so annoying that they won't party with us. Like, I don't comprehend it. I want to get a vibe, Olivia, of like, how would you describe your dating life before Love Island? Give it to us.
Guest
So I had a long term relationship with just this piece of shit. But I was with him for like four or five years. It was like my first real thing. And I was doing modeling and I was very obsessed with this relationship. And I always, you know, my modeling agency was so done with me because I would flake on things because I just wanted to be with him all the time. Like, I didn't even care to have my own money. I had no drive. It was a really good lesson for me. I learned. I'm so glad I had that kind of relationship at that young age because it taught me everything that I needed to know. Do you know what I mean? Like, to have your own money, to have your own independence. I just was obsessed and I was flaking on jobs. He used to do this thing where he'd break up with me, like, on the Friday and be like, oh, I'm going, whatever. Like, you know, I'd be all anxious and, like, I'd be a mess. And then on Monday he'd come back and be like, oh, no. Like, let's work it out. He just picked me up and dropped me all the time. So when like, Monster actually gave me like, a lifeline that at that time that I needed. It's weird. Everything in my life, I feel like with Love Island Monster, it's like the universe has like, thrown me this, like, life vest. Like, at that time, it's like, because doing Monster, at first, when I. When I realized how much travel it was, I was a bit like, I don't want to, like, travel and be away from him because I was, like, obsessed for some reason. And it's like doing that and seeing the world and meeting new people. Open my eyes to like, oh, my God, this is like massive world out there. And you've made your. Your world so freaking small. Like, for what reason? So it kind of opened my eyes to how dire the situation I was in was. And then that broke down, like, for a good reason. But then following that, my dating was, like, pretty erratic. Like, I just used to, like, you know, go from one guy to the next. I jump in, really, feet first. Like, I am all about that. I want them to obsessed with me. I want to be obsessed with them. I want to get tattoos on the second day. I want them to move in. Like, I might, you know, they could come to the second date with my name tattooed on their head and I'd be like, I'm what? Yeah, I'm literally. Do you want to go upstairs? My friends are like, that's insane. I'm like, I love him. Like, yeah, so I love that. That obsessive being in love. So I was always, you know, going kind of once the next chasing that feeling.
Olivia Atwood
Sometimes you have to go through those relationships, right? I don't know anyone that hasn't had that one obsessive relationship that borders unhealthy. And it takes you having distance and space from someone to then be like, oh, my God. And it may literally be like you going away for your job a bunch, and then all of a sudden you're like, wait, this shit is not healthy. Whether you're like, viewing your friends or the people around you, and you all of a sudden are like, okay, I need to, like, look at this differently.
Guest
At one point, I don't think I had, like, my own debit cards. It was ridiculous. Like, I didn't. I literally, like, when I say pulled the rug from under my feet. Every time he, like, left me, I was like, you know, I was underweight and I was crying and I was just. I was just like, I was just. It was so unhealthy. And I just. It just learning that at that age, like, you know, my late teens, early 20s, was like, I think a really important lesson to learn. It just. I remember how I felt and I thought, I'm never going to let myself be in that situation again. Yeah, if Brad walked out tomorrow, it would hurt. Like, I wouldn't get over it in a day. But I could still get in my car that I own, drive somewhere, get my own house. I mean, I'm good. Like, I'd be heartbroken, but I'm good. I'm not going to be on my knees like I was with that situation.
Olivia Atwood
I've been in one of those two, and I think it's like, we. If he left tomorrow, what happened? Like, am I okay? Like, again, heartbroken is different than, like, wait, I literally have nowhere to live, no money, no friends. My family is gone. Because I distanced myself, like, checking those moments.
Guest
I was like, distance from everyone. Like, friends, family, like, completely isolated. Like, so, yeah, Monster was like, you know, it was. It threw me a lifeline. And we had the best. I traveled the world. This is my thing that I say is, like, you know, people get on about grid girls or like, you know, ring girls and this anti feminism, like, who. We've had men telling us what to do. Now we've got other women telling us what to do. If you feel empowered doing something and you're safe and you're in an environment, like, Monster is a safe. You know, is a very safe gig for me. Who's anyone else to tell me what that empowered me, changed my life, if threw me a lifeline, you know, that is amazing. But at the same time, you know, it. I couldn't. I did it for four or five years and, you know, it's. I got to the end of my thing with it. You know, when you're working for a brand like that is you. There's not much individuality. Like, you know, you have to have your hair a certain way, your nails a certain way, you do this, that the other. And towards the end, I. Because I felt like. Like I was outgrowing it a little bit. I started pushing the boundaries, like, burning some bridges, you know, just like, acting like, just acting up. Because I started to be like, no, I'm gonna come with red nails, like, just for the fucking hell.
Olivia Atwood
Right? That's actually really cool, though, for you to like, hear about the whole concept of how Monster helped you, because I agree. I feel like so many people are so quick, especially with whatever women are doing. If anything has to do with your looks, they're like, it's degrading.
Alex Cooper
You're not empowering yourself.
Olivia Atwood
And it's like, hold on. Like, why don't you ask me how I feel first?
Guest
Thank you. And I feel like, what the thing is without this. How do I say this without it coming off really bad? Obviously, I think of myself as somewhat intelligent, but some girls, they are just. They just do want to do their fucking hair and look pretty, and that might be their thing in life. And why can you tell them that that's not good enough or that's not empowering? Like, you know, I'm not telling the girls at NASA you can't work there. Cause I'm not clever enough to work there. Like let people do their thing.
Olivia Atwood
Thank you for sharing that. You're so welco Love Island. Okay, so we're gonna, we're gonna go through a little bit of that for people that don't know also, I just want you to know I only watch Love island uk. I think it's entertaining. I haven't watched the Australia one, have you?
Guest
I dipped in a little bit, but not like, is it as good?
Olivia Atwood
I don't think anything. It's not, it's just not. Okay. So for anyone who has never seen Love island do. How do you describe like the concept of the show?
Guest
Oh, it's like good looking girls and guys on an island dating. It's a game show. There's money at the end. But the essentially it's like you get coupled up and you have challenges thrown at you and it's, it's a test. It's, you know, who can find a real connection. A connection real enough to take you to the final and maybe win that money. Although it's weird with Love island, like when you're in there, no one really talk gives a shit about the money. Yeah, it's the kind of like you wouldn't, you don't even need the money at the end. The money, it's just like a thing. But it's, it's, it kind of. Yeah. No one focuses on that in a weird way.
Olivia Atwood
I love that though, because I was thinking about it. I feel like Love island is so much more accepted and loved than consider like the Bachelor. It's like it's not realistic that after six weeks you're going to get married. Like I love how Love island is like, are we gonna hit it off and are we gonna leave here together as a couple? Like that's so much more realistic. And obviously being in a house together and there's alcohol and there's nothing else.
Guest
To do other than alcohol. There's like two glasses.
Olivia Atwood
Yeah. No, but it is kind of. Wait, they would, would they limit you?
Guest
Are you joking? Wait, are you joking?
Olivia Atwood
Why don't I know?
Guest
Two glasses on my series. Okay, I can't speak. We were all like balls to the wall crazy. So we might have been limited more than others, but we had two glasses of wine a night or beer.
Olivia Atwood
That's shocking because I didn't realize none of you were hammered.
Guest
So all that stuff I'm doing, I'm basically sober.
Olivia Atwood
I'm just, I'm Saying, be hammered when the fight scene happens.
Guest
No, I didn't have my drink yet. And then I went outside and the producer said, you're not getting anything tonight. I was like, oh, you're joking. I was like, honestly, I swear, that.
Olivia Atwood
Makes it so much better.
Guest
Can you imagine everyone licking up? It'd be like Fight Club.
Olivia Atwood
No, it actually would have been probably like not even arable because it would have gotten so wild.
Guest
So the reason is they said because I questioned them every day to the point where they were like, if you ask about it again, you're going to get a written warning is what I was told in the beach hut, because I asked, argued it every day. Is that the show is because it's about dating, about love. They don't want people doing stuff, you know, driven by alcohol and the next day waking up being like, oh, I don't actually like him. I only snogged him because I was drunk. Because it's not that kind of show wouldn't make sense. They want people kissing and being in bed together because they want to, not because they're drunk.
Olivia Atwood
Right. Which is so different. I feel like in real life, though, because let's be real.
Guest
I mean, I've gone from living on my own since I was like 21 to doing what I want to being told, like, you know, you get two glasses. It was real hard for my head, like, to deal with.
Olivia Atwood
I feel like I would feel that way too. Okay, so that's a really good insider info. I did not know. So when you got there in your mind and your experience, like, what was the atmosphere and energy on that set?
Guest
Series three was the one that like blew up. Right. So we had series one and two in the UK that were popular. So I was meant to go on series two. This is like the tea.
Olivia Atwood
Give us how you were cast. Like, tell me the tea.
Guest
So it's really like an eye rolling kind of like nauseating ways. But I was approached on Instagram. They DM'd me. So series two, they DM'd me. I only watched little bits of series one. It was popular, but really, like, no one was really talking about it. I was doing the monster thing. I'd started a thing off with this guy was like a rider, whatever, like motocross thing. And I was all about him. We'd done the tattoos and stuff after second day. It was sweet. And then you actually did that. Yeah, I've got it still now. It's like a bit faded, but yeah, we did that.
Olivia Atwood
Is Brad, like, can we get rid.
Guest
Of that, he's the most leg back guy. He's practically horizontal. Like he's. He's got like the bde, like, you know, is that what Kim says? Like he's got that big dick energy. You couldn't give a shit. Like he's. Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
What is the tattoo of?
Guest
It's just his initial. Yeah, I did it like this two weeks into the.
Olivia Atwood
Would you care if Brad had that?
Guest
I don't think so. Really? I don't know. I would have cut it out of him sleeping.
Olivia Atwood
You're like, no, I wouldn't care. I would have just sliced it off. During his time sleeping, he wakes up.
Guest
What are you doing? Nothing.
Olivia Atwood
Also for everyone listening, Brad is Olivia's fiance.
Guest
Yeah, that's my long suffering fiance.
Olivia Atwood
You meet this guy, you get to have two second date.
Guest
Yeah, we're all into it. They approached me, they were like, you know, so I went and I didn't. We were just dating. So I was like, you know, I'll see it through. Went to meet, like interviews, whatever. Then they offered me on. I was all like. I was basically carrying it on as if I was gonna do it. And then it got to like, literally I'm leaving in like two weeks. And I was like, oh, I don't know that like I've got a really good thing going. I like this guy a lot. This show, is it a bit like, you know, I've seen all the kind of the program images with the colorful backgrounds and it was. No one had really thought it was cool yet. So I was like, I'm doing something that I think is quite cool and I'm with this guy. So anyway, I just, I just ghosted. I just blocked everyone from basic itv. I just.
Olivia Atwood
And were they like, hello?
Guest
Yeah, they were like calling and so just panics. Blocked everyone. I was like, it's gonna carry my life. And then basically I was with him for a good like nine months or something. Anyway, he cheats on me, sleeps with this girl. I go like, how'd you find out? I had like a, you know, just like a sixth sense. I can't remember now the exact.
Olivia Atwood
You just knew in your gut.
Guest
I just knew. And I just. I honestly, I've medlowed so much. I just went like. I was. Yeah, I was quite crazy.
Olivia Atwood
Wait, what did you do? You have to tell someone. Call her Daddy. Olivia.
Guest
I was just like writing on my Instagram, like wild stuff, like ugly pictures of him. Like, look at this piece of that Cheated on me. I was just like, stuff that it's A shame, because I could never do that now because people would be like, oh, like, you can't. You know, I just really enjoyed being like a nobody, you know, like, just say what I want. Here I was calling up his work nonstop. I was just inside insane. I was just literally, my mum. We were shopping in London when I found out. My mum's like, wrestling me, like, in selfie. Just trying to get the phone out of my hand because I'm doing so much damage. She's like, you need to stop. You need to stop. I'm like, I can't. And she's like, it's all for the better. I'm like, no, it's not. I'm like, comedy, who's done this to me?
Olivia Atwood
No, I get that feeling, though. You're like, he needs to feel a little bit of the hurt that I felt. And so I get that. I get that.
Guest
Yeah. I just. I just went. I reindulged myself. I treated myself to a proper meltdown. Like, I really did. I was like, smashed at 4pm, rolling around London, just like ringing up his work, just fucking crazy. Rang his mom, just everything. I'm like, your son's a piece of shit. And she's like, oh, yes. And then I saw this advert, I swear, again, it's like a whole universe moment. I saw this advert, like, casting for Love Island. It was on, like a bus stop or something. Two, like season three. And I thought, I should have done that last year. So I go on my phone, I find these people from Love Island. I unblock a couple of them. I just ring him up. Don't. I just rang him up, shout out to Lewis. He took the call. I was like, hi. I was like, do you remember me? And he was like, yes, you're the girl that disappeared, like. And I was like, well, I was like, I would love to have a chance to come on the show. Like, I keep a straight face saying it. And he was like, I don't know what the execs are going to say. They're probably going to tell you to, like, take a run and jump. He's like, but I will speak to them. It's quite late in the day for, like, you know, they think they'd already cast most people. I just hung up. I was then got all my feelings, like, what am I doing? I don't want to do monster anymore. Like, this guy's loser. And any calling back, like, the next day, and he's like, you can come on if you leave in two weeks. So literally that was it. I went, like, on a mad, like, Zara hall, like, other brands are available, and just got all the bikinis, dresses, and like, two weeks later, I was gone.
Olivia Atwood
So once you got there and you were hanging, what. What was, do you think the biggest key to success on Love Island?
Guest
So my thing going into it, and I, you know, I'm really open about this. When I had nervous feelings, like, going in, I thought, the worst thing you can do on these kind of shows, I think, is go in, be booted out in week one, and no one even remembers you were there. Like, what was the point? Like, I've left Monster. They're not going to have me back. I've burnt all those bridges. I've left my modeling agency. I've, you know, screwed off the guy that I was seeing. Like, I felt like, if I'm going to do this, I have to do this properly. And I'm gonna make sure everyone knows that I'm in the building. Like, that was my main thing. And I really, you know, I just thought, I'm gonna. I thought to myself, when I get in there, I'm gonna forget those cameras. I'm just gonna do it how I would live life. But it's crazy. Like, I know everyone says it, but, like, after, like, 24 hours, you really forget. Like, you really forget. You're all, like, being watched. Oh, my God. Like, you know, there were certain members in that villa who maybe were slightly more canny and were, you know, more self aware. I've always been unself aware. I'd like to say, like, if you put me in now, I know that they get how many billions of viewers a night that I would behave a different way? I probably wouldn't, because I can't. I cannot be anything but a hot mess.
Olivia Atwood
I always talk about on my show, like, guys, self awareness is so key. And Olivia's walking and be like, I am so unself aware. Can you give us examples of what you mean by that? Because you don't see. I get what you're saying of, like, the hot mess. You look great put together right now. You're speaking eloquently. But what do you mean by your unself aware?
Guest
Just, I, you know, I hate this expression, but, you know, like, wear your heart on your sleeve. I'm very like, if I feel something or I don't like something, I don't like someone. I can't help but kind of. Either my face says it or my mouth says it, one of them is going to say it. Like, I can't, you know, I can't be a wallflower. Despite trying at times, it's like verbal diarrhea. I feel like I'm literally, like, chewing my lips and then it's. I just.
Olivia Atwood
Did you get in trouble for that a lot when you were younger?
Guest
Oh, like, oh, my God. My mum used to say to me, like, what is this? I'm adhd. Which I know now, which explains a lot. But at school, I used to do the weirdest shit and then get in so much trouble. And then I'd cry on the way home. My mum like, but why did you do that? And I'd be like, I don't know. I leave.
Olivia Atwood
Okay, well, it made for really great reality tv. Okay, so wrapping up Love island, when you look back, what did you learn about yourself during or after filming that entire experience?
Guest
If I watch her now, like, you know, I watch myself on Love Island, I was quite a angry, you know, my back was up, like I was looking for an argument all the time. I think I've mellowed and I think it's not. There's nothing I would have done differently because that's who I was at that time. And hindsight and age, I'm a lot more relaxed now. I wouldn't get wound up about those kind of things, but that's who I was then. And also, it's like everything that has happened in my life is as a result, if I'd gone in there, like, you know, medicated in the corner, like, not talking, then I wouldn't be sitting here talking to you now.
Olivia Atwood
So I think that's such a good answer because I relate to that where, like, I started my show and I was 10 times crazier saying shit that probably, like, maybe wasn't at the. Now I look back, I'm like, I would never fucking say that now. Like, I don't know if I would say that about a guy or a girl now. But I think it's like, that's growth, right? And people are like, no. Like, you can't change. I'm not saying I changed. I just grown and I had a different outlook on, like, the way I was when I was younger. And there's different reasons why you did what you did on that show. And if you went in there, you still be loud and rowdy, but you wouldn't maybe come off, like, in certain ways like you did in the past, because you don't have that, like. Like, baggage of those men you over like you did when you were going in.
Guest
Yeah.
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Olivia Atwood
Congratulations. Of the new docu series, getting filthy rich.
Guest
Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
First of all, I just have to ask you, like, how does that even feel?
Guest
I'm already having massive imposter syndrome even being here with you, but that's just tipped me over the edge. I now feel like I'm sitting in someone else's body.
Olivia Atwood
No, no. Own it because you're a boss. Like, it's incredible. So I want to just explain. I got an advanced copy of the first episode. And so to anyone listening, this show follows Olivia on her journey as she participates in various ways people use their body to make money on the Internet. In the episode I saw, Olivia dives into the world of only fans. She creates a profile and interviews a number of content creators to see what really goes on behind the scenes with people making money on only fans. Okay, Okay.
Guest
I had to check myself.
Olivia Atwood
Let's check ourselves.
Alex Cooper
How do we look?
Olivia Atwood
Okay. Had you ever considered doing only Fans.
Guest
Prior to creating the series, not in a serious way. I think I'd thought about it because I had heard this thing. People kept saying to me, oh, you should make this photos that you pose. You should. You could make loads of money on OnlyFans. Kept hearing that again and again and again. So I was intrigued, thinking, is it as easy as that?
Olivia Atwood
Right?
Guest
So that was more, I think, you know, I think take me back pre Love island, like, you know, Grid Girl, Olivia, she probably would have done OnlyFans, do you know what I mean? But me, right now, where I was, I was more just intrigued. Is it as simple as it sounds? It sounds way too good to be true.
Olivia Atwood
Totally. Is OnlyFans what started it for you or like, how did the show come about for you?
Guest
I think we were, you know, I was really looking to get into like docu series world. Obviously being from reality tv, like, you can be obviously put in a box and I'm happy with that box. I actually love reality TV and I've got no, like, desire to be like, it's the worst thing and get me out that box. But I was interested. I feel like, you know, on a good day when I'm sober, I've got a quite decent brain. I can articulate myself, like to a certain degree. So I thought I definitely have more spring to the table. So, yeah, we were talking with different networks, different ideas, and when this one came up, I thought, that's a really good fit and I'm genuinely fascinated. So it's going to be like, like exploring that area is gonna be a genuine interest.
Olivia Atwood
Absolutely. And I feel like. I know I only saw the first episode, but like, it translates. Like, I was talking about it with my team and we were like, this is exactly what you were meant to do in terms of like, I don't know many people that could have handled it as gracefully and respectfully, but also made it so fun as you because it is like a sensitive topic and definitely another woman needs to be in that room, but also someone that's like willing to see both sides and be a part of the experience. I thought it was really cool. So you get on Only Fans in episode one. What was the most difficult aspect of being on only fans?
Guest
The 24 hour aspect of it. Like, I didn't. I really thought it was something where the way it was sold to me, you know, from people I spoke to, is you made the profile, you stick the pictures on and the money just comes in. That's not how you make money. The money's made in the dms, like, the constant communication, it's like the girls that are making the big money, they are on the site 24 hours a day. Like, you know, talking to these people respond. And when you don't respond, because they've paid to be on your page, they just hound you like, question mark, question mark. Like, you're like, where are you? Like, you know, I was, like, quite taken back by that at first.
Olivia Atwood
I was also. Because, again, I think that's why I loved how you're peeling this layer back of, like, everyone listening. If you don't have only fans. We all kind of have this idea in our head, right? Of, like, you're right. The girl has the profile, she posts some photos, she gets money. And in this episode, it was so fascinating, and everyone needs to go watch it because it really gives this inside look of how hard these women are working. Like, when you were like, wait, so what would happen if a guy is going to pay you, like, a thousand dollars to sext him and you're out? And she was like, I would go to the bathroom, and I was like, oh, shit. Like, it never stops. And I could see you were kind of like, wait, this is giving me anxiety, having this many messages on my phone. And these people kind of thinking they have, like, a claim over me of like, hi. Like, you owe me something. Yeah. Did you feel empowered while on Only Fans?
Guest
I don't think I did because I had the account, obviously, for documentary purposes, so it was my own. But I also. I couldn't take, like, ownership over it, you know, because I was trying to find that line of, like, you know, I'm using it and I'm seeing how it works to do, you know, justice to this show. But also, it's not mine in the sense where I'm gonna engage in, like, you. I'm not gonna send nudes out because they'd be out there forever. So it was hard for me to, you know, land in a place where it felt like I was in control, I guess, because, you know, these people subscribe. They want nudity. They want, like, they don't want bikini pictures. Like, that's. That's the biggest myth that I think, you know, I think if you're already famous, whatever, you could monetize your bikini underwear pictures for a certain amount of time, a limited amount of time, and then you're gonna have to do more or it's just gonna die out, or you're gonna be earning not enough to, like, live off.
Olivia Atwood
I think that's also insightful. Cause I feel like I've heard a lot of people like, oh, I'm just gonna post some of, like, my bikini photos on there. And no one really talks about how it lasts for two seconds. And then people get annoyed. It's like, we'll take your top off, blah, blah, blah. And there's a lot of. It feels like pressure on the site that I don't think a lot of women are prepared for.
Guest
100, I think. And, you know, the temptation is like, it's crazy. You know, the DM start coming through, like, you know, 500 quid for. It's a picture of your nipples and it's like, if you were in a situation where you need 500 quid, like, how easy would it be? Just. And I think there's a disconnect, isn't there, between doing something in real life and doing it with your phone where, like, you could just do it and send it and there's the money. But then it's like, it's gone and you can never bring it back. And I think. And it sounds like I said that with judgment because you can see what I have no judgment. But I think the danger is, I think for some girls, it's absolutely gray and they kill it and every downside of it. The preconceived notions that they're a whore or they're promiscuous, it's water for Duck's back. But for a lot of girls, they can't. And they find themselves on this site and they weren't expecting the pressure and they maybe succumb to pressure that they weren't going to. They go in there saying, I'm going to do X and they end up doing more. And then you're. That feeling of regret and shame. And I think that's sad, you know, Totally.
Olivia Atwood
I felt like in the episode, you did a really good job of meeting with, like, a multitude of people showing the difference. Like, there were some people in this episode that had such a niche, like, way about going about it, like, whether it was the fitness woman that was doing fitness and then sometimes naked while doing fitness. And it's like she kind of had her angle and she felt, I think it appeared empowered because she was doing something she loves, which is working out and then just monetizing the hell out of it. Then there were some other girls that were kind of like, I started and I just kind of started, like, with just underwear pictures.
Guest
And then.
Olivia Atwood
And then it starts where. What is the boundary? And they've crossed it for themselves and Then I'm sure it feels like there's no going back.
Guest
Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
Did you feel like when you were around all these women, did you feel like they appeared to be empowered by what they were doing?
Guest
I think it was a mix, to be honest. I think some very much, yes, and some not so much. Like, you know, I always. It's my thing. When I went back talking about the Grid girl thing, it's like the whole feminist argument, it's like, who is anyone else to say what empowers someone? If someone's telling me this makes me feel as an empowered woman, more power to you, like, get it? Like, 100%. But I think there was some that I met with and definitely over the other films, like, you know, the porn episode and Sugar Babies again, you know, I met meet both sides. I meet people that I can see are really struggling with that lifestyle choice and others that are thriving. So I think it's just. It's not for everyone. And the thing that was going into it in the whole, you know, it's like a cheeky title, how to Get Filthy Rich. But the idea was to see, like, is it actually that easy? Because we all do it. I do that thing where I'm like, oh, I'm doing something. I'm like, oh, I'm just going to quit and do onlyfans and do something easy, like. And then you realize, oh, shit, like, it's not easy.
Olivia Atwood
Which I think is great, especially for women, that this show is coming out, because I do think it's going to put a stop to that comment because I so agree with you. People are like, oh, fuck this, I'm gonna quit my day job and go do only fans. And it's like, I don't think people understand the gravity of that comment because of how much not only goes into it actually physically, but also mentally seeing these women. There's just, like, a lot behind it that it's doing a great job of capturing for me.
Guest
It's like every job, right. You do in the world has, like, this added tax. Right? So if you're, you know what I do, I'm showing every part of my life has Attack. Your Instagram has an emotional tax. It makes you feel. Sometimes I feel judged, I feel stressed. Or if you work in the city and you're there, like, you know, six days a week, 10 o'clock at night, you don't see your kids. That's a tax. So does this. Like, this is not. Does not come without the downside, you know, like the judgment. And I think you know these sites and you know you're seeing in cam girls episode as well. It's like the. It is a hiding place for men as well to, like, express some pretty weird shit. Like, and these girls have to read this stuff, hear this stuff with no one to really help them, like, break down the terrible things they've either said to them or they asked them to do.
Olivia Atwood
Right.
Guest
And some of the things that I heard were just absolutely, like, shocking. Like, you know, the fact they have to read these messages and then just get on with their day. And how does that then affect their relationship with, you know, other straight men in their lives? Because what I think is so interesting, this whole online sexual economy debate, we're all so focused on the girls. Like, the girls who are doing onlyfans, like, oh, my God, they're the worst. But it's our dad's brothers, colleagues who are buying the shit. No one's worried about them. They're the ones asking for them to do X, Y, stick this up your ass. They're not like these mythical creatures that come up from the sewers. They are the men in our lives.
Olivia Atwood
I love how you're saying that. As much as it. They pain people. You're right. It's like, it's true. It's your dad, it's your brother. Because the man doing it is someone's son, is someone's dad, is someone's husband. You know what I mean?
Guest
We don't have a problem with them. We have a problem with the girls providing the content. But we're talking about millions of pounds a year. This isn't like a niche. This is like the majority of men, not all the majority.
Olivia Atwood
It's really interesting talking about cam girls. I was interested because I obviously haven't seen the episode, but can you explain what a camgirl is and how it's different from participating on only Fans?
Guest
So for me, when we were sitting down going to make the show and we talked about what the different episodes would be, I was like, cam girls, I think. I don't know if you have it in the States, like, babe station, you know, the TV channel where they've got the phone. And I was like, is that even a thing anymore? It felt very 90s. It's the kind of thing that I would flick onto when I was younger and like the home telly and be like, oh, my God, like so. But it turns. That is still like big money industry. And this is like, you know, we went. I spent 24 hours at a studio where it's on the phones, but it's also on like webcam. So they kind of like they log on and they pay to be on like the stream and the girls there and then they can call the phone, the girl will take the phone. So it's like they can either do it from their home or in the studio, but it's contained to like the site. Do you know what I mean?
Olivia Atwood
Yeah. Did you find that most of those women have only fans or not a lot?
Guest
Yeah, not all, but most because it's just a no brainer. But a lot of the girls who work in the site, they maybe have only fans and they just like kind of dip their toe in it because they do the camming. Because they like the fact that they log on for like a camming shift for like five, six hours and then they, they go and they leave and it's done. Whereas like onlyfans never leaves you alone. It's constantly, you know, it's on your phone. You never get a break. So they finally like doing the camming or going to a studio and being a cam girl, it really is work. And then literally like clock off, go home and they've got kids and normal lives and husbands and they just leave that. And then the next day they go back and they go back to work.
Olivia Atwood
That makes sense because the only fans episode really like again, you guys have to go watch it because you feel how it's an everyday, every minute of your life thing where now I'm. Now I understand. Cause I'm like, why would a girl do cam girling if it's onlyfans? You can do it from home. There is a boundary.
Guest
Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
Do you know like which cam girls? Obviously we haven't seen the episode yet, but like the idea of it, like who would make the most money? Like what kind of version of camming? In what sense are there different things that girls do that you can make like a different tier in camming?
Guest
I mean like it's inside one thing. Across all episodes you'll see is like this. And I really want to sit down like with a clinical psychologist and pick this apart. Because there has to be a reason this feet thing, right across every single episode there's this undercurrent about feet. So the girls in the Camry, the ones who are like great at the feature, who can like dangle the stiletto on their big toe, like do all the. They kill it. Because literally 6 out of 10 calls will be about feet.
Alex Cooper
What the is up with men and feet?
Guest
I don't know. But we need. I need to get the bottom of that.
Olivia Atwood
I do, too. We should honestly call it, like, I'm gonna call my therapist right now and be like, hi. What the.
Guest
Is that like some interesting. Something like, Freudian nightmare? Because this all the way through. Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
Okay. You talk about sugar babies. What was the biggest misconception you had about sugar babies?
Guest
There is always an exchange, maybe for sex, for money. And I met girls, you know, and people might roll their eyes and, oh, bullshit. No, these girls are, like, honest with me. Like, there is arrangements where it's not sexual. It's just dinner, like, or it's just company or some of them, it's not even in person. It's just talking. And he might, you know, pin them, like 500 quid or whatever, right? So I thought, who the hell is gonna give someone money? Do you know what I mean? For nothing, basically.
Olivia Atwood
Oh, yeah, I've heard of people. Also, like, I had a friend that did it, and it was just to go to dinner and just to basically be his date. And I'm like, eventually, is it gonna progress to sex? Eventually? They do kind of ask, I think, but for a while, you can kind of stay in that gray zone, which, again, kind of reminds me of the only fans thing where, like, you can stay in this gray zone for a little bit of, like, I'm comfortable with this. And then someone's going to ask, and then you have to know, like, how to set that boundary for yourself 100%.
Guest
And I think one of the girls I've met, she, you know, she'd had this arrangement with a guy for, like, three, four years. You know, she's never had sex with him. And she said it's all about your approach. Like, from day one, you set that. You. It's the way you approach the situation that you approach that guy and you let him know that. And I think that's, you know, experience, age, everything comes into it. Same with only fans. I think, you know, you have to be a very strong person to be like, this is my boundaries, and I'm not going to move. Whereas I think if you approached it and you're not really sure what you're going to. Your angle is. And it's easier for someone to maybe coerce you totally, because you don't even know yourself.
Olivia Atwood
But I think what did you find is the hardest thing about being a sugar baby?
Guest
I think maybe just living in that limbo land. You know, it's like, you don't have a boyfriend, but you're not single, and. And they and essentially they are the one handing out the money. So you have to kind of, you know, I guess, I mean, it depends how much money we're talking. You know, a lot of the girls, it's like, it's hard for them to have a normal job and be a sugar baby because some of these guys want them with them all the time. And then, you know, I think some of the girls I spoke to, it's like, it's great if you've got a great thing going, but if he just like drops you like that, you can go from living this, like, unreal lifestyle. That's where it's like being smart, like, you know, getting the allowance, banking the money. Whereas, like, I think if you're younger and just like living life and spending, and then he's just like, I'll buy. You could be like, I can't afford my apartment, I can't afford my car.
Olivia Atwood
Like, it's a very fine line of, like, thriving and succeeding and using the system and kind of like doing your thing with it. But you have to know, like, this takes way more work than we give these women credit for.
Guest
Oh, like, they are straight up hustlers. Like, if you, the girls that do it right, it's like it's an art form at the peak. Like, you know, like you say, it's like it's like any relationship when you're young or like, you know, you're not thinking straight, you don't set your boundaries or your standards. So that means the standards and the. It's just all a mess. Like, so it's like anything you have to go in and be like, this is what it is. This is what I want from you. This is what I'm going to give you.
Olivia Atwood
It's like we literally, we need someone to like, that's done this to like, create a crash course, which I kind of think you're. In a way, this is like the beginning of it because. Because by you peeling this layer back, it's giving people kind of that, like, introduction of what the world will be if you're interested in it. And I think for a while there hasn't been that. So women are just blindly going into it because they just have money on the mind, which I so get. Who doesn't? But it's like, there's no idea of, like, how far it's going to go and what's going to happen.
Guest
Because I think what I love about this show is that it's like an immersive documentary, but it has heart and it has humor, and we're not coming at from an angle. Whereas I think other shows that have looked at these subjects are coming from, like, a slightly judgmental. It feels kind of, like, seedy. I don't think there's anything wrong with, you know, dating someone for, like, financial gain or, you know, life experience or, you know, whatever it may be for travel. Like, what the hell? You know, if you're two consenting adults, you're. You're not hurting anyone. What does it matter? But I think, like, you say, like, young girls need to. And I think that's what this show is. Nice because it's very balanced. We're not glorifying anything. The girls are really honest. They're like, I make, you know, Bonnie, she's like, I'm making 250 grand a month, my best month. But it's a heavy load to carry. Like, it's not just as easy as that, you know?
Olivia Atwood
Totally. I know I haven't watched it yet, and we're all going to see it. But you also experienced the pornhub world. What was your approach for that episode? Were you nervous?
Guest
I was excited.
Olivia Atwood
Oh, yeah.
Guest
I was excited. I was like. I actually think I say in the beginning of episodes, like, I've only seen one penis for the last couple of years. I was like, let's see it. So I was excited to, like, see some willies and, like, just be amongst it. And also, just as someone that's like, you know, everyone's watched porn, but to actually see how it's made. Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
How was that? What was that like?
Guest
Like, I mean, obviously, I went to an orgy one time. I'm, like, giggling because it's, you know, when it's right there in the flesh, but it's just. It's also different to how you imagine it to be. Like, I learned, like, the cum shot, you know, like, on the thumbnails on the website. That's like Gaviscon. Do you have Gaviscon? It's like a. Like, heartburn medication. They just throw it over the girl's face. Not even semen.
Olivia Atwood
Stop.
Guest
I swear, at the beginning of the shoot, they'll sit there and they pour, like, this heartburn medication or something, like, goopy, and they position it all perfectly and they do all the photos. Yeah. Cause I. I was thinking, like, actually, when you think about it now, it makes sense because, like, who has, like, that much semen? And also the positioning of. It's always, like, perfect, perfect. Then they wipe it all off. Then they do, like. Then they'll do still shots. Then they'll plan out like you're gonna be there doing doggy. It's just mental production, full production, which.
Olivia Atwood
I think is nice to hear. And I'm glad that you're kind of like breaking down that wall again, because I know when I was like, I'm gonna get a facial from this guy's penis and he's gonna go all over my. My face. And I remember the first time it happened, it went right in my eye and I fully was like, blackout. Like, couldn't see, like, was just, like, fucked for the rest of the week. And I'm like, wait, why does it look like this on porn? Because it doesn't actually fucking happen.
Guest
No, it doesn't happen like that.
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Olivia Atwood
What? Why are people, do you think, still shooting for porn sites if only fans exist?
Guest
We had this kind of. That was like a question that went throughout that film and ultimately is that there is still a demand for high production value porn. People still like it, you know, OnlyFans, I think is like your impersonating intimacy. You know, it's that intimate thing, the back and forth, the messages, you know, giving someone that like personal, personalized experience. Whereas porn is much more, you know, a fantasy. It's costumes, it might be in a style that someone, you know, like they do the sci fi shit and whatever. Like, it's a different. It's a completely different thing.
Olivia Atwood
But aren't women in porn not making as much?
Guest
Oh, sorry, you meant the actors.
Olivia Atwood
No, no, that was actually helpful too.
Guest
Yeah, so a lot of them are doing both now. But the thing is with the bigger porn stars, they might have like really big contracts with like a brazzers or, you know, digital playground or. And they like on really good money. So it's. And I think some of them have like, no OnlyFans policy if you have that contract. I know obviously that the money you can earn is a lot more in the States than it is in the UK in terms of porn and stuff. But yeah, the bigger porn stars, I think they stick to their. Like, it's like a trade, isn't it? Like, you know, there's a skill they've, you know, and they have. They make really good money. So all they have to do is go and maybe shoot two films a week and get like the big check. Whereas what they'd have to do on Onlyfans to make the same would be.
Olivia Atwood
Way more labour in your episodes and through your experience. Like, did you find any women struggling with knowing if they wanted to stay in porn or not?
Guest
I met a girl who was a girl, Alex, who was. She'd done Onlyfans and she was wanting to move into porn and she to me was someone who seemed really unsure. It filled me with a lot of anxiety after I met her actually. And she went and she did like, I think like a hand job video, whatever. And she hated it. And then she realized it wasn't for her. And I was like, thank God that you did that and not something else like so you could make that decision. I. I spoke to you. The girls who are like regular porn stars, like Scarlet, I spoke to like a lot of the really professional shoots. They will have like a check sheet at the beginning. So they'll be like, they'll go through it. The stars. It'll be like anal tech or strangling. She could be like, no, don't. And they X and tick everything. That's like a yes or a no. And then that's like the print. Like no one strays from that. She, she said, don't touch my asshole so he can't. Or vice. Do you know what I mean? But then she said she'll go to shoots where they don't do the checklist. And it's just a bit of a free for all. So there is, I think there is risk involved. I think that's why OnlyFans as well is appealing to a lot of sex workers. Because it takes away that risk, doesn't it, of having to interact with other people.
Olivia Atwood
Absolutely. Which episode was your favorite to create and watch? Why?
Guest
I'm going to surprise everyone this, I think. But Cam Girls, I think is my favorite episode. Purely just. It's a really hard one. Cuz it's. It's like they love them all. That's like my babies. But cam girls, the girls I met were just. I, they. I really, I don't know, I just connected with them. It was just so much heart and they were so open with me and it was such a diverse like kind of range of girls who like go to this studio, do this job, which is just so crazy to a lot of us. Like, you know, and then they go home and their mothers or they've got other jobs and it's just like there's so much more than what people would pigeonhole them as. And I just loved it. I love being at the studio. I love being with the girl.
Olivia Atwood
What's the studio like?
Guest
Just.
Olivia Atwood
Are they in a room by themselves?
Guest
It's like this big studio and it's like sectioned down all the way. It's open, right. And each booth is like different colors or different themes. And the girls are all in there on the phone and the webcam. And so when you're on an evening I was in there. It's just a room of, like, sex noises, dirty talk, like, all competing over each other. But they say, like, they can hear.
Olivia Atwood
Each other a bit, but it's not that loud.
Guest
But to me, it was like, how can you even think straight? Because it's like, literally, I'm talking like, you know, like when you go to a photo shoot and they use those polystyrene.
Olivia Atwood
Yes, exactly.
Guest
That's what's separating each thing. And it was my head when I left that night was, like, spinning. I was, like, just listening to everything. The phone's ringing. I answer the phones. This guy, and he's, like, panting down the phone. I was like, this is.
Olivia Atwood
Did you talk to someone?
Guest
Yeah, I was, like, giving him all the chat, and then I just couldn't.
Olivia Atwood
And I give us a little preview.
Guest
Hey, baby, are you horny? And then the. I don't know why I'm doing American accent. That's just what came out. I feel like if you're going to do a porn voice, it has to be American even.
Olivia Atwood
Really?
Guest
Yes.
Olivia Atwood
Like, oh, I didn't think about that.
Guest
Because I just feel like most porn.
Olivia Atwood
You watch is, give me your best American kid. Hey, baby, are you horny? Do you want to.
Guest
Was that not like, hey, hey, daddy. Hey, daddy gang.
Olivia Atwood
Yeah, we're, like, getting so nasty. Like, daddy gang. That's really interesting, too. Did you find a lot of these women in the cam world were, like, friends or did. Was it kind of like, do I get out of there?
Guest
I think that's why I, like, That's why I kind of got emotionally involved with that place, because they were like. It's like a bit of a sorority vibe. Like, they was all like. And what was made me feel nice is. Is that. And the thing which I think makes doing only fans or coming from home really hard, if they got a call and some guy asked them, like, to do some terrible thing, you know, if people call up and ask, like, disturbing things, like, will you pretend to be like, my sister or my mom and I'm gonna rape you, it's just horrendous. And they have to, like, mentally, like, process the fact that that is the actual human being out there in the world having these thoughts, they then have each other to lean on. They can be like, I just had this call, and they all can relate. Whereas, you know, other girls who are doing only fans and maybe their other girlfriends aren't doing only fans if they ring their friend who works, like, as a dental hygienist. I'm like, someone just asked me to stick a remote control up my ass. Like, she's gonna be like, can't relate.
Olivia Atwood
Like, yeah, like at work, babe.
Guest
Yeah, Yeah, I can't help you. Whereas I think for them, it's like being around other girls who are doing the same thing, and they can all relate to each other.
Olivia Atwood
And that's amazing. And I think it's just cool to hear that because I can imagine at times the onlyfans world can be a bit isolating and lonely because the perks of shooting at home sure are great. But then being alone, you're like, what the fuck?
Guest
And it's all about the numbers. And it can be quite competitive, I think. And they're obsessing over. Yeah, totally.
Olivia Atwood
So you really immersed yourself in each of these episodes. Was there ever a specific moment where you felt uncomfortable?
Guest
Do you know what it is? It was hard for me. It's like, I'm open. I'm pretty liberal. Like, I. You know this. It's hard because there's stuff that I would do if I wasn't like, live from Love island because I'm. I was trying to always walk the line of, like, I want to do this documentary. I want to be immersive. I want to get my hands dirty. But I also want people to, like, not get confused. I don't want this to become about me. So if I, you know, I was thinking on only fans, I want to post something more sexy to, like, see that. But then I'm thinking the only thing will happen is then that photo of me will just get pulled out of there, putting British tabloids out of context, and then it's not going to become about what it's about. So it was me trying to be really immersive without going to a point where people get distracted and they're just worried about what I'm doing. Oh, my God, she's got a kit off. Or, you know, I'm sure this, when the show comes out, you know, there's going to be, you know, I do this sex call and whatever, and people are going to, you know, I was an extra in a porno and all this shit, and I love that. But it's like, yeah, it was just fun of trying to find the right.
Olivia Atwood
Right. Wait, in the porno, do you get naked?
Guest
No.
Olivia Atwood
Okay.
Guest
You see, I maybe would have, like, got. Yeah, I wouldn't have, like, went topless.
Olivia Atwood
Or something, but, yeah, I feel like I can't for who I am now.
Guest
Yeah. Because it would have been people would have been like, oh, you know, she's just. Yeah. And again, it's almost like the whole thing. I'm doing this documentary and I'm. I'm wanting to, like, break down these walls of, like, stigma and the way we pigeonhole women. And then I'm the. I'm there. It was like a head fuck because I'm like, well, I can't go in my underwear. And people would be like, well, she's not really a presenter because she's constantly naked. So it's like. And I'm feeling the same stigma myself. It's like a matrix.
Olivia Atwood
Yeah. When I was watching episode one and with the only fans there were, when two of the girls were shooting on the side, you made a comment and you were like, oh, my God. I have this, like. I'm feeling, like, this maternal instinct towards these girls. What? Why did you feel that?
Guest
I think I know this thing you're talking about. Just those two girls were so young, and I don't want to sound patronized. They probably, like, would think, oh, fuck off, we're fine. Like, mind your own business, grandma. Like, do you know what I mean? When I was their age, I would have been thinking, I'm literally making money. But I just think I just. I saw especially more in one than the other. I was like. I just reminded me when I was her age and I was so, like, ambitious and I reckless, and she might be way more mature than I am, and she might do this for the next 10 years and smash it. And I hope that is the case. But you know when someone's a lot younger than you as a girl, and I just look to her. I know. I just, just. I just felt she was talking, reading out some messages she'd have from guys that were, like, pretty hardcore, like, really emotionless. And I just thought, I hope that you're okay. Like, I hope. Do you know what I mean? I just. And that sounds really fucking patronizing, but that's me being really honest of how I felt in that moment. I'm not. You know, I appreciate it and no judgment. I just. It's like more of like, a big sister feeling. I want it to be like, yes.
Olivia Atwood
I mean, I felt it while. Because I was like, oh, my God. Like, I just want to make sure. Because there maybe aren't guidelines of when that one girl mentioned, like, this guy, like, sent me my address and said, I know where you live. I was like, yeah. When it comes to safety of these women, that's where I get really nervous. And I think that's something that's not talked about enough is like, sure, we can glamorize all of it that the media does, but, like, this show is helping because you're hearing from their mouth, not other people that gossip of, like, what their day to day.
Guest
But like you say, it's like taking out the shadows. Like, if your friend wants to have a sugar daddy, fine, but she needs to feel like she can tell you and where she's going rather than sulking off, like, into the darkness and not telling and putting themselves in danger.
Olivia Atwood
Being judged.
Guest
Yes. If they feel, like, safe and it's. It's accepted, they can tell their f. I'm going to drop my pin. You can check that. You know, I'm safe. Because it's like a murky world.
Olivia Atwood
It is. Which of the four ways selling essentially your body on the Internet seemed like the healthiest and safest option?
Guest
Oh, God, that's really hard because I feel like it's just down to the individual. Some people, you know, being a sugar baby just wouldn't work. Whereas, you know, other people being on. I couldn't spend much time on my phone. I hate how much time I spend on my phone as it is, like doing Instagram and stuff. Like, I could not be that logged into a website, you know, so it's. Yeah, I think it's person to person.
Olivia Atwood
Yeah. That's interesting because it's like, if you are a super outgoing person, maybe the sugar baby situation is more for your personality. Whereas maybe if you're like, more introverted or whatever, like maybe only fans or.
Alex Cooper
That could not be the case.
Olivia Atwood
Like, everyone's gonna feel differently if you.
Guest
Want to be out and you want to travel and you want to be social, like, being a sugar baby would be great. Or, you know, vice versa, I think. Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
What? Okay, so now we're like, wrapping up, like, having this conversation. I really appreciate this series and what you're doing to kind of conclude in this conversation, though, like, what advice would you give to women after experiencing and watching all of this that are interested in getting into either camming or only fans or porn or sugar Baby?
Guest
I think as hard as it is, like, to block out the outside noise of like, what other people think you should be doing, doing? Because I always think when people say always something bad, like, does it feel bad? If it makes you feel good, go for it. But think, think about it. Like, don't, like, just sleep on it a little bit. And also going into any of those areas of work, as hard as it may be to stick to them. I think try and go in with like your boundaries. This is what I'm going to do. You know, I always think you're with onlyfans that run the massive issues is like the content leaking if something which unfortunately at the moment the leaking is such a problem. Whatever you post 9 times out of 10 will be leaked. So if you would just die if that was out and your family and friends saw it, then maybe you don't post it. Yeah. If you wouldn't, if you could own it, then do it. I think it's just like, yeah. Having your boundaries and what you can be happy with.
Olivia Atwood
I love that because I feel like even just the first episode I would was so interested and listening and really learning from it. And there's so many great things that I can't even imagine the rest of the series. Like every single person listening, we have to go watch it when it comes out. Because I feel like the boundary thing, you're right. That is it. It's like watching these girls starting on only fans and the girls were like, I started posting this photo. But then when you, you're so right. When you earlier said like when someone offers you so much money to just quickly take. Take a picture of your tits and your phone is in front of you, you never have to like interact and see the man. It's like it's a fake world almost in your mind. So you really have to keep in mind of like, what did I come into this believing in for myself is right. And how I'm gonna be able to sleep at night feeling good.
Guest
Yeah.
Olivia Atwood
And I appreciate you saying that. You're right. Like 9 times out of 10 these photos will be on the Internet and if you are okay with that thrive bitch. But just know that line because I don't think enough people talk about that.
Guest
No, you know what I mean?
Olivia Atwood
Mean.
Guest
And I think you're right. And I think it's, you know, it's. It's not about glorifying it or condemning it. It's just being real.
Olivia Atwood
Like, yeah, like we're not here to judge and we're not saying like everyone go sign up today. Like it's like it's happening in the world so we need to talk about it. Especially because it's mostly women. But it's also like, let's just have an honest conversation about it.
Guest
It's like I would say, you know about reality tv when people, it's so easy for people to condemn it. It's like no one's got a gun to anyone's head. Right. So if you go into it with your eyes open. So if you are willing to. To go onto a TV show and expose yourself to the world, think about it. Do you sleep on it and think of the pros and the cons? Make a list. I mean, it's easy for me, so I'm really impulsive. I literally make all my decisions like that. But, I mean, yeah, it'd be a nice idea to weigh everything up.
Olivia Atwood
Totally. And I think. And then I have one last question, but I do think it was really cool because I was thinking about it when I was watching that first episode, and I was like, I feel like a really also good way for women before getting into it would be reaching out to some creators and being like, hey, I know you have no idea who I am. I'm thinking of starting an Only fans. Do you have, like, five minutes of your time to just chat? Because your show.
Guest
I just forgot. One area that really freaked me out is the referral thing. So other content creators, if they can get someone to sign up, they get, like, a bonus. So that was one area that I was a bit like. Oh. Like. So I think, yeah, if you do someone you trust. But I do think there's a bit of a, like, a thing where, like, girls are recruiting other girls.
Olivia Atwood
It's like an ulterior motive.
Guest
Yeah. So that's the only thing. Because they give that girl or boy. Right. You know, this boy is, you know, like a bonus if they get someone to sign up. So I think, yes. You just have to be really savvy.
Olivia Atwood
Okay. So definitely don't reach out to anyone. Never mind. Just literally watch Liv's new show because that is. You're breaking it down and everyone has a different perspective. Last question.
Guest
Okay.
Olivia Atwood
What was your biggest takeaway from creating this series?
Guest
I think I touched on it briefly. Is just the interesting that we live in this world where all the obsession is on the women creating the content, but no one's talking about the people buying it.
Olivia Atwood
Right.
Guest
The reason OnlyFans is what it is is because all the men in our society the demand so. And not there's anything wrong with that, but I just think it's interesting. We're never looking at the people asking for, you know, whatever it is. We're always looking at the people providing it and, you know, and shaming them and looking down on them. But we don't worry about the fact that it's probably Bob from next door. Like, he's the one asking for the feet videos. You Know what I mean? I just think we've got a long way to go to move that. The sexism and the stigma. I think, you know, I hope shows like this will break down boundaries and, you know, it kind of humanizes these girls. I think it's very easy to dehumanize people that work in a sex industry. And I think the online sexual economy is even more dehumanizing because we just see them as like robots online. But these are real people with real lives, with families, with partners, whatever. Yeah. And they should be treated like that.
Olivia Atwood
I think that this show truly is breaking down a barrier of, like, showing the behind the scenes and exactly what you said. We are, all of us are essentially dehumanized because of social media and the world we live in, 100%. And this show is like, no, let's humanize these people. Let's go into their bedrooms. Let's see their lives. Let's see the cars they drive. Let's watch them through day to day. And I think it's amazing. Daddy gang, you need to go watch. It is going to be amazing. I love you. I'm so honored you're here. This was so fun. Thank you so much. Amazing.
Guest
Thank you for having me.
Olivia Atwood
The amount of things that are said on Love island that as someone from the United States, I had to Google furiously because I'm like, what is she saying? He's a melt. What does a melt mean? What is happening? What is going on? I'm googling like a freak. And I just was obsessed. I started speaking in the accent, then it was awful. Then I had to move on. But I need to go through some of these terms and ask you to explain them for me.
Guest
I'm like, damn, with the kids enough to actually get this. I might be sad.
Olivia Atwood
Okay, you can start with, what the fuck does a melt mean?
Guest
A melt, like, so a drip. Do you say that in the States? No, with her. Just like normally if you say about a guy who goes, got no backbone, they just. A drip. Just like a wet rag.
Olivia Atwood
I feel like we would say, say like. Like a pushover, like week.
Guest
Yeah. Or maybe it's. It can be a guy or a girl, but a lot of pit times people say it about a boy, you know? You know when they start to like a girl and they go soft, they go, oh, he's a male. Like, yeah, yeah, yeah. It's that, you know, it's toxic masculinity thing of being like, if you're nice to a girl, you're a male. If that's what it is.
Olivia Atwood
Okay, that makes sense. Okay, what about he pied me off?
Guest
Like, ghosted. Like, just.
Olivia Atwood
Okay, but you guys say pied instead of ghosted.
Guest
Well, we say ghosted, but pied is like, he ended it. He just broke up.
Olivia Atwood
Yeah, got it. Okay. Mugged off.
Guest
The similar thing, like, mugged up would be more just like. Yeah. A guy just kind of tosses you to the side, like, with not much explanation.
Olivia Atwood
And if you were saying someone's attractive, you guys would say, he's fit. Yeah, love that.
Guest
And it has no, like, relation to their physical.
Olivia Atwood
Like, what would you call someone if you're like, oh, he's a lot of girls?
Guest
Sh. Shagga.
Olivia Atwood
Shagga. Okay, we would say. I guess, like, I tried to do the accent. It came out so bad. It's like a mix between, like, Australian and, like, Brit. It's awful. Okay, so we would probably say, like, he's a player or like a man whore.
Guest
We say. We say fuck boy, but not. Yeah, we say, but, yeah. Or she's a shagger. Like, shagger. Shagger.
Olivia Atwood
Okay, what else? Okay, Cracking on. What does that mean?
Guest
Cracking on would normally mean, like, you meet a girl, you've exchanged number, you're going on date, you're cracking on. You just like you.
Olivia Atwood
We would say, like, vibing.
Guest
Yeah, got it.
Olivia Atwood
Okay. What is grafting?
Guest
You know, I can't think of what the American term would be, but, like, working a girl. Like, you're dming you, asking you out. He's putting the work. He's got the hard hat on, the boots, the shovel. Like, he is. He's in it. Yeah. He's doing everything.
Olivia Atwood
Like, do you see that as a negative kind of. No.
Guest
Like, they hate.
Olivia Atwood
Like, he's putting and work.
Guest
Yeah. Like you. They need to graft. Like, for sure.
Olivia Atwood
Because I remember in the show, it was like, oh, he's really grafting. Or he's grafting. He's grafting. Grafting. Grafting.
Guest
Or grafting, if you're in the north.
Olivia Atwood
Grafting. We're grafting. Okay. That makes a lot of sense because it was so fun. I think that's also why I enjoyed, because I was, like, learning so much about this education. Yeah, it was education mixed with a little psychotic behavior, and it made for great tv. Hi, I'm Angie Hicks, co founder of angie.
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Call Her Daddy Episode Summary
Episode Title: Olivia Attwood: OnlyFans, Cam Girls, Pornhub and Sugar Babies (FBF)
Release Date: November 22, 2024
Host: Alex Cooper
Guest: Olivia Atwood
In this episode of Call Her Daddy, host Alex Cooper welcomes Olivia Atwood, a familiar face from Love Island UK, to discuss her journey beyond reality TV. Olivia shares her transition from being a grid girl to becoming an influential voice exploring the dynamics of online sexual economies through her documentary series, Getting Filthy Rich.
Notable Quote:
Olivia Atwood introduces herself with enthusiasm:
"What is up, Daddy gang? It is your founding father, Alex Co."
(02:03)
Olivia delves into her early career as a grid girl for Monster Energy during the Touring Car Championships in the UK. She describes the role as a blend of modeling and promotional work, emphasizing the wild nightlife and the camaraderie among the Monster girls.
Notable Quote:
"I wasn't doing just a bit of this, a bit of that. So I said, yeah. And then, yeah, I started like a week after. And I did that solidly for, like, oh, God, four or five years."
(07:54)
Before her stint on Love Island, Olivia discusses her tumultuous long-term relationship that spanned four to five years. This period was marked by obsession and a lack of personal independence, which ultimately led her to seek growth through her work with Monster and eventually participating in the reality show.
Notable Quote:
Olivia reflects on her past relationship:
"At one point, I don't think I had, like, my own debit cards. It was ridiculous."
(13:04)
Olivia provides an insider's perspective on Love Island UK, clarifying misconceptions about the show's environment. Contrary to popular belief, participants were limited to two alcoholic beverages per night, ensuring that relationships formed were genuine rather than influenced by excessive drinking.
Notable Quote:
She explains the controlled environment:
"They said because I questioned them every day to the point where they were like, if you ask about it again, you're going to get a written warning."
(18:00)
Olivia shares her motivations behind creating Getting Filthy Rich, a documentary series that explores various facets of the online sexual economy, including OnlyFans, Cam Girls, Pornhub, and Sugar Babies. She emphasizes the importance of shedding light on the complexities and challenges faced by women in these industries.
Olivia discusses the reality behind OnlyFans, debunking the myth that it’s merely about posting photos for quick money. She highlights the constant engagement required and the pressure content creators face to maintain their subscriber base.
Notable Quote:
"The money's made in the DMs, like the constant communication. It's like the girls that are making the big money, they are on the site 24 hours a day."
(32:17)
This episode focuses on the lives of cam girls, differentiating between those who work from studios and those who manage their content from home. Olivia emphasizes the supportive community among cam girls and the emotional challenges they encounter.
Notable Quote:
Olivia describes the studio environment:
"It's a room of, like, sex noises, dirty talk, like, all competing over each other."
(55:25)
Olivia explores the production side of Pornhub, revealing the meticulous processes behind pornographic content creation. She discusses the differences between traditional porn stars and independent creators on platforms like OnlyFans.
Notable Quote:
She shares her observations:
"They pour, like, this heartburn medication or something, like a goopy, and they position it all perfectly."
(47:37)
The discussion shifts to sugar babies, challenging the stereotype that these relationships are purely transactional. Olivia highlights the varied motivations behind such arrangements, from companionship to financial support, and the emotional complexities involved.
Notable Quote:
Olivia addresses misconceptions:
"There is always an exchange, maybe for sex, for money. And I met girls, you know, and people might roll their eyes and, oh, bullshit."
(43:01)
Throughout the episode, Olivia emphasizes the importance of setting personal boundaries and being aware of the potential risks associated with participating in online sexual economies. She advocates for a balanced perspective, recognizing both the empowerment and the challenges these platforms present to women.
Notable Quote:
Her advice to women:
"If you would just die if that was out and your family and friends saw it, then maybe you don't post it. Yeah. If you wouldn't, if you could own it, then do it."
(63:13)
Olivia discusses the societal stigmas attached to women participating in platforms like OnlyFans and camming. She calls for a more empathetic understanding, highlighting that the demand often comes from men within one's personal life, such as family members or colleagues, and stresses the need to humanize the experiences of these women.
Notable Quote:
On societal perceptions:
"The reason OnlyFans is what it is is because all the men in our society demand so. And not there's anything wrong with that, but I just think it's interesting."
(67:06)
In wrapping up, Olivia reiterates the purpose of her documentary series—to provide an authentic and nuanced view of the online sexual economy. She hopes that her work will contribute to breaking down barriers and reducing the dehumanization of women in these industries.
Notable Quote:
Her closing remarks:
"We're here to humanize these people. Let's go into their bedrooms. Let's see their lives."
(67:19)
Key Takeaways:
Audience Recommendation:
This episode is highly recommended for listeners interested in understanding the deeper dynamics of online sexual economies and the personal journeys of women navigating these spaces. Olivia Atwood provides insightful perspectives that challenge common stereotypes and encourage a more compassionate viewpoint.