If you've spent your whole life making sure everyone else is okay before you even THINK about yourself…this episode is for youuuuu.

Because somewhere along the way, you probably learned there were only two choices in life: either you become the person who shows up for everyone all the time no matter what it costs you…or you become an asshole.

So naturally? You chose exhausted.

In this episode, we're talking about:

people pleasing
hypervigilance
emotional overfunctioning
why your nervous system keeps pulling you back into self abandonment
and why there are actually NINETEEN other options between martyr and asshole

Also, I tell the story about the time my son genuinely thought he could grow up to be a dog, which somehow became the perfect metaphor for this entire conversation.

If you are tired of being the exhausted background character in your own life, this episode will feel like a giant nervous system exhale.

In this episode, we talk about:

why people pleasing starts so early for so many of us
how childhood conditioning teaches us to become "good"
the connection between hypervigilance and overgiving
why boundaries feel unsafe to the nervous system
emotional burnout and resentment
the Calm AF Scale and nervous system regulation
the "martyr vs asshole" trap
why there are nineteen other choices between those extremes
how to become the main character in your own life again
nervous system recalibration and repetition
why caring less does NOT make you selfish

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