Gomer's dad is out of the hospital and in a care home and this episode starts there, in the territory of walking a parent toward the end of his life. Luke and Gomer work through the lessons Gomer has picked up in the trenches: what hospitals won't tell you, how to have the DNR conversation, and why AI has become an unlikely companion through all of it.

In This Episode:

Why hospitals won't spell out what's actually happening with your loved one and how Gomer used AI to decode his dad's medical charts and communicate clearly with family
Lesson one from the hospital: no one will tell you what's going on unless you make them, and the only people who will are in palliative care
The do-over myth and why middle age is when you realize the world stopped giving them to you—you don't go back, you live with the scar tissue
The DNR conversation: what it actually means, why outside-of-hospital DNR requires a signed document on the door, and why you should have it sooner than you think
When specialists miss the whole person: how productivity-driven, siloed medicine can leave no one reading the full picture

Chapters:

00:00: Welcome Back
00:46: Gomer's Dad and the Care Home
02:08: Lesson One—Hospitals Won't Tell You Anything
07:25: Luke's Dad and Losing People Too Soon
20:00: The Gradual Decline You Can't See Coming
24:00: Reality, Do-Overs, and the Things That Can't Be Undone
29:38: When Specialists Miss the Whole Person
37:54: The DNR Conversation
41:47: Big Fish and What We Learn from Our Parents' Stories
48:21: What Parents Say When They Think It's Time
53:23: AI, Claude, and the Bot That Said It Was Praying for You

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