Cate & Ty Break It Down

Episode: In Retrospect… Our First Decade & an Autism Diagnosis

Date: August 27, 2025
Hosts: Catelynn (“Cate”) and Tyler (“Ty”) Baltierra

Episode Overview

In this heartfelt and candid episode marking their ten-year wedding anniversary, Catelynn and Tyler reflect on a decade of marriage, parenthood, and personal evolution—culminating in Tyler’s recent autism diagnosis as an adult. They discuss the challenges and triumphs of their relationship, the impact of mental health on their journey, and how understanding neurodiversity has transformed their family dynamic, especially as they support their daughter Veda. With vulnerability and humor, Cate and Ty invite listeners into the raw realities behind their “Teen Mom” fame, hoping to demystify late autism diagnosis and encourage self-advocacy, communication, and empathy in parenting and partnerships.

Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. A Decade Together: Marriage Reflections

• Start of the Episode / (01:11–02:10)

  • Cate and Ty celebrate their ten-year wedding anniversary, joking about their daughter's confusion around the timeline versus their much longer partnership.
  • Cate shares, “I honestly feel sometimes…like almost too good to be true, in a way. Because you just hear so many horror stories.” (02:10)

• Marriage Hardships

  • Both recall their “hellish” first year of marriage despite many years together beforehand.
  • Ty points out that mental health difficulties, including Cate’s care fatigue, were their toughest hurdles.
  • “It was a lot of the mental health stuff that sucked…me trying to figure it out…you feeling like you're having to be a caretaker…” – Ty (02:57)

• Therapy & Temporary Separation (03:25–06:00)

  • They recount attending holistic couples’ therapy in Arizona, which led to a brief separation that ultimately felt forced and unhelpful.
  • Cate: “I should have just followed my gut and not did it…For me, it was a waste of time, but what it did reveal…was, I should just follow my gut.” (04:49)

• Open Communication in Difficult Times

  • Cate admits she struggled to voice her needs post-therapy for fear of “ruining any progress.”
  • Ty: “That's just shitty. You shouldn't have to feel that. You know what I mean?” (07:09)

2. Navigating Mental Health Within Marriage

• Cate describes feeling her issues were secondary to Ty’s after his treatment. Ty acknowledges how his own anxieties led him to inadvertently deprioritize Cate’s struggles (08:48).

• They discuss the importance of both partners having space for their needs—even when one is going through crisis.

Notable Quote

“A lot of people can relate to that: when you have people going through very severe mental illness, and sometimes…the other person’s mental health gets overlooked. That’s not fair at all.”
— Ty (08:48)

3. Parenthood Changes Everything

• On Adding Children to a Relationship (14:19–17:42)
  • Cate challenges the notion that children are just a cute addition: “No, no. Everything changes. Your dynamic changes, scheduling changes, effort, mood, just everything…” (14:48)
  • Ty notes: “You have to talk even more.” (14:56)
  • They laugh about the misconception that parents should always prioritize their spouse before children, agreeing their instincts are the opposite. “I know you would want me to save the kid first.” – Cate (17:08)

Parenting Through Milestones

• Both hosts reflect on how each child gets a different parent—simply because their own growth and circumstances evolve.
• Ty: “Your children always get a different version of you, which is so true.” (15:14)

4. Discovery & Diagnosis: Autism in Adulthood

• The Link Between Parenting and Self-Discovery (19:23–22:03)

  • Cate wonders aloud: “If I would have known about my stuff being autistic or being on the spectrum, would that have changed my therapy?” (19:47)
  • Ty details how seeing their daughter Veda’s unique challenges at school caused him to reflect on his own childhood behaviors and eventually seek autism testing.

• Realization and Masking (25:27–26:19)

  • Tyler’s diagnosis revealed high masking: “What you’ve done is dissected all the things socially growing up…so it doesn’t come across externally, because you’ve been doing it for so long.” (25:55)

• Misdiagnosis & The Mental Health Spectrum

  • Ty suspects many, like him, were misdiagnosed as Bipolar or ADHD due to lack of understanding of autism in prior decades.
  • Cate: “Ever since the, like, mental health stuff that we went through, I mean, things have been really good. I think we learned a lot about each other.” (13:57)

Memorable Moment

“I just thought about all the stuff I went through as a kid, because I felt so sad for that little kid who just was like, 'What’s wrong with me? Why am I not normal? Why is this so easy for other people?'”
— Ty (28:54–29:07)

5. Parenting and Supporting an Autistic Child

• Ty and Cate discuss the challenges of school for Veda, referencing meltdowns, routines, and sensory sensitivities.

• They stress the importance of detailed, logical explanations over arbitrary rules for both Tyler in his youth and Veda today (33:33–34:29).

• Reframing Labels

  • Ty shares his relief that Veda is receiving support, whereas he was labeled as a “bad kid” or “oppositional” (45:44–46:09).
  • Cate: “I think parents need to be cautious: don’t say things in front of your children like that…Of course you’re gonna think you’re the crazy kid…because that’s all you’re hearing…” (46:18)

Notable Quotes

“Kids teach a lot more than you can teach kids. Teach your kids how to survive…but they teach you a whole bunch of stuff.”
— Ty (55:12)

“To say that it’s not overwhelming and hard…But I think it helps…to step back and be like, okay, it’s because she stepped in dog slobber and it pissed her off because she struggles with sensory stuff.”
— Ty (48:09)

6. Personal Stories & Lighthearted Moments

• Ty humorously describes his childhood urge to somersault everywhere, his obsession with certain routines, and his belief he could be the first human never to poop—shedding light on common but often misunderstood autistic behaviors (39:02, 49:47).
• Cate relates identifying Tyler’s “autistic traits” before diagnosis—like his uncanny memory for random pop culture details (54:13).

Timestamps for Important Segments

• Anniversary Reflection & Marriage Challenges: 01:11–10:00
• Therapy, Mental Health, and Communication: 03:25–13:34
• Shifting Identity Through Parenthood: 14:13–17:42
• Catalyst: Tyler’s Late Autism Diagnosis: 19:47–29:59
• Masking & Social Navigation: 25:27–27:43
• Re-examining Childhood Labels: 45:44–46:57
• Parenting Neurodiverse Kids: 33:33–49:21
• Light Moments: Childhood Stories: 39:02–41:18, 49:47–53:13
• Looking Ahead, Seeking Community: 57:12–58:18

Tone & Style Notes

The episode is warm, self-deprecating, and insightfully raw—alternating between laughter, vulnerability, and educational reflection. Cate balances empathy and honesty. Ty is animated, open, and enthusiastic about self-discovery, often leaning into metaphors and jokes to soften heavier themes. Both hosts consistently encourage honesty, curiosity, and self-forgiveness.

Final Takeaways & Outreach

Cate and Ty urge listeners to trust their instincts, advocate for themselves and their children, and seek answers even if they come “late.” Tyler’s story emphasizes that therapy, while expert-guided, must be an active partnership with individual intuition.

“If anyone’s listening out there—can you relate to anything I’m saying?…I have not talked about it publicly…it’d be nice to hear some other people’s experiences because everyone’s gonna have a different one.”
— Ty (57:12)

They close with a promise to keep sharing their journey and welcome community feedback and connection, inviting listeners—especially neurodivergent adults and parents with neurodiverse kids—to share their experiences.

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