We're Not Really Strangers: Weird Dreams & Empath Problems

Summary

Cate & Ty Break It Down

Episode: We're Not Really Strangers: Weird Dreams & Empath Problems

Date: September 24, 2025
Hosts: Catelynn and Tyler Baltierra

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Main Theme & Purpose

This episode sees Catelynn and Tyler—beloved from MTV’s 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom—reflect candidly on their journey from their earliest days together to their present lives as parents, partners, and individuals. Through honest stories and playful banter, they delve into topics like class, nostalgia for their youth, weird dreams, empathic struggles, and the complexities of their relationship. The episode’s latter half focuses on deepening their connection through the “We’re Not Really Strangers” card game, leading to vulnerable, funny, and touching moments.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

Baxter the Chihuahua & Early Banter

• Cate and Ty introduce their new rescue dog, Baxter, describing his anxiety and PTSD-like behavior due to his past (00:08–01:26).
• The hosts joke about being “classy,” riffing on stereotypes about class and their modest upbringing (01:39–04:43).

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Life in Trailers & First Apartments

• They reminisce about moving out young, getting their first apartment (with makeshift furniture and borrowed kitchenware), and eventually upgrading to a trailer they renovated together:
  • “Paint the paneling, border it out with cheap MDF… Trim out the windows… Carpet makes it feel, you know…” (Tyler, 05:02–05:24)
  • “When you first move out on your own… you don’t realize all the little tiny things that you need.” (Catelynn, 08:31)
• They recount stretching limited resources, moving mattresses with extension cords, and the challenges of adulthood as teens (07:05–09:13).

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Strict Parents & Moving Out Young

• Humor and honesty mix as Cate and Ty recall their parents’ reactions to them living together as teens and their struggles to prove their maturity (09:14–11:50).
• Memorable moment: Cate’s mom catching them skipping school because she drove by their apartment on the one day they played hooky (10:10–11:10).

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Early Independence, Negotiating with Landlords

• Recalling frustrations with a “slumlord” and a broken dishwasher, they discuss their first legal dispute:
  • “I had it documented so many times… I have videos of the standing water and the mold in this dishwasher.” (Catelynn, 16:13)
  • Ty slides the flip camera across the table in court, leading to a quick settlement (17:20–17:32).

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Family & Upcoming Events

• The couple looks forward to family plans: kids’ camping, trick-or-treating, and a Disney trip—worrying humorously about avoiding illness (18:54–20:20).
  • “I retract all of my achievements.” (Catelynn, on not jinxing Disney, 20:26)

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The “We’re Not Really Strangers” Card Game

(22:04–54:33)
The core of the episode features Cate and Ty pulling and answering deep personal questions, sparking humorous tangents and heartfelt admissions.

Noteworthy Questions & Exchanges

• Assumptions About Each Other:

  • “What assumption did you make about me that turned out to be right?”
    • Tyler: “That you’d be a good mom.” (22:17)
    • Catelynn: “That you’d be a very good… partner. Husband.” (22:44)

• Weird Dreams & Psychic Moments:

  • Cate describes a bizarre dream involving Tyler, her friend Ray, and her mom, blending humor, vulnerability, and the strange intersections of their lives (23:10–28:39).
    • “In my dream, I was pissed off because like, why the f*** are you sending this video to Ray?” (Catelynn, 25:25)
    • “You should be more mad your mom was in the room while I'm filming a Chuck A. Badge video.” (Tyler, 26:37)

• Empath Problems & Parenting Anxiety:

  • Discussing empath sensitivities, Catelynn shares feelings of anxiety as her kids go to school, influenced by world events:
    • “I feel like I have more anxiety… I don't know if it's because of things going on in the world, per se.” (Catelynn, 34:02)
    • “You are not of me, be gone… you have to talk to your body.” (Catelynn, referencing Teresa Caputo, 36:01)

• Derealization & Mental Health:

  • Tyler opens up about experiencing derealization: “Everything is fake. This is all fake…” (30:13–31:04)
  • Cate encourages seeking therapy for both of them; recognition of their ongoing mental health journeys (33:24–33:37).

• Types of Empaths & Personality Reflection:

  • They Google different “emotional types” and discuss how their trauma history shaped their empathy and coping mechanisms (37:03–39:08).

• Parenting Moments:

  • Cate recounts a touching story of sharing an emotional poem with their daughter Nova—both ending up in tears (39:09–41:10).
    • “She cries, you're crying is guaranteed.” (Tyler, 41:06)

• Lighthearted Relationship Questions:

  • On who apologizes first: “I feel like I apologize more.” (Catelynn, 47:43)
  • On each other’s cooking/cuddling:
    • “Solid 7.5… no, 8!” (Tyler, 48:13)
    • “We fit together like PB&J… 10 out of 10!” (Tyler, 48:32)

• Sex Life Honesty:

  • “What title would you give this chapter of our sex life?”
    • “No f***s given.” (Catelynn, 49:12)
    • “Sometimes I'm like, whatever, traumatize the children.” (Tyler, 49:45)

• Growth & Communication:

  • On their relationship improving: “In every way… communication, everything.” (Tyler, 54:04)
  • Quoting an old man: “67 years wasn’t enough… 65 was better than year one.” (Tyler, 45:41; 54:13)

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Memorable Quotes & Moments (with Timestamps)

• “Paint the paneling… trim out the windows…” (Tyler, 05:02–05:24)
• “I said what you do… you trim out the windows…” (Tyler, on trailer upgrades, 05:21)
• “Imposter syndrome. I said, dude… I'm not mature. I don't even have a broom.” (Tyler, 08:50)
• “Why am I telling him no?” (Catelynn, on her mom’s pressure, 09:29)
• “You know what? If I want to skip school one day, I'm playing hooky today, right? And the one day I do it, my mom banging on my window.” (Tyler, 11:00)
• “I have videos of the standing water and the mold in this dishwasher.” (Catelynn, 16:13)
• “Be gone; you are not of me.” (Catelynn, 36:04)
• “You're a caring… that shows what's—that’s my opinion.” (Tyler, about Cate’s morning prep, 44:09)
• “We fit together like PB and J.” (Tyler, 48:37)
• “What title would you give this chapter of our sex life? — No f***s given.” (Catelynn, 49:12)
• “67 years wasn’t enough… 65 was better than year one.” (Tyler, 45:41, 54:13)

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Notable Segments & Timestamps

• Early Struggles, Living Together & “Class” – 00:08–06:40
• First Homes & Adulting Mishaps – 06:41–11:50
• Card Game & Deep Relationship Talk – 22:04–54:33
• Empath Discussion, Dreams, Mental Health – 30:00–39:10
• Parenting Reflection & Emotional Moments – 39:11–41:28
• Sex, Honesty, and Vulnerability – 49:03–54:33

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Tone & Flow

Throughout, Cate and Ty maintain their signature conversational, irreverent, and self-deprecating tone. They oscillate seamlessly between laughter and deep vulnerability, making the episode accessible and engaging for listeners who value humor, honesty, and real-life relationship talk.

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Final Notes

• The episode is a warm and sometimes chaotic blend of storytelling, playful teasing, deeply personal dialog, and emotional openness about the day-to-day realities of marriage, parenthood, and healing.
• For anyone who has followed Cate and Ty’s journey, this episode feels like catching up with old friends—full of inside jokes, hard-won insights, and a strong, visible love.
• Listeners looking for perfectly structured, linear episodes might find it “all over the place,” but fans will appreciate the authenticity, laughter, and heart.

Transcript

[A]

Well, it's Wednesday and you know what that means. Hump day and a new episode of K and Ty. Break it down.

[B]

Baxter. It's okay. We have the dog on Kate's lap. So if you hear like a Grandm.

[A]

Growl or he's right here because Chihuahua's.

[B]

And he's still getting used to the everything.

[A]

Yeah. And he noises he hates. Tyler's niece.

[B]

I don't know what it is. I think she works in a dog groomer. So she comes in here and I swear that's what it is. See? Yeah. Growling.

[A]

So she smells like 50 million dogs.

[B]

That's gotta be why, like he's sitting.

[A]

Here shaking right now. And every time she comes here, he's like, I even went downstairs to grab my phone and she's like, look at he's barking and he can't even see me. And I was like, yeah, because he can smell you and all that 50 million dogs that you bathe a day, you know, so. Yeah. Well, Baxter's been with us. I don't know what is probably two. Two weeks.

[B]

Yeah, two weeks. So he's still a new. He's getting used to everything and he's a petrified pdsd. This dog be having post traumatic everything as.

[A]

Listen, he definitely has post traumatic stress disorder.

[B]

I've never seen a dog shake and tremble as much as this dog. Or like have any. Like, you can't even go behind him too fast or else he'll crouch down.

[A]

And he'll yelp like you don't even touch him. And.

[B]

Yeah, so he's. I don't know, man.

[A]

Yeah, so I don't know if like previous owners like spanked him on his rear end or what. But we're still just in the.

[B]

You said rear.

[A]

Oh, I did? Yeah. Spectim on his butt.

[B]

Ever say rear end?

[A]

No, you haven't.

[B]

No. There was really ass. But whatever. I never heard you say rear end.

[A]

It just sounds about his rear end.

[B]

Wow, it sounds so professional.

[A]

Very. Yeah, yeah. Professional, classy.

[B]

Very classy.

[A]

Which I supposedly. We lack.

[B]

Oh, we definitely like class. No, I'm not even going to pretend that we have.

[A]

I can go to a classy restaurant. Totally classy.

[B]

I mean hillbillies and still go to a classy restaurant. You shine them up, spit on them, and there you go. Put some nice shoes on and some gel in their hair, give them a bath and they're ready to go. What?

[A]

I'm. Whatever.

[B]

But to pretend that we a class would be a lie. What, you think we're classy?

[A]

I Think we have. I think we have a volume of class. No, I know.

[B]

Okay. All right.

[A]

Definitely. We do.

[B]

Volume of class. What? Where are we at? We got the mine. Coal miners. We got the. You know.

[A]

What are you trying to say about coal miners?

[B]

I'm saying. I'm thinking old Western day. We got the coal miner. We got the. The. The shopkeeper. We got the, you know, Tanner with all the hides.

[A]

I mean, I would say, like, aristocrats. I would say that we are like. Like, we're classy, but roughed edged classy. Like, I don't know. That means, like. Like, we're not dirty people. We're not, like, I don't know, like, we cuss and stuff. Yeah, but I don't. I don't know. I don't know. Like, I don't. I don't know. I guess. I don't know.

[B]

Well, I'm gonna tell you right now, and for my opinion, I don't think we're very classy at all. I think.

[A]

What's your definition of classy?

[B]

Classy is like yacht clubs and, you know, a whole bunch of little, like, nice cars driving with the. You know what I mean? We got very normal cars. We got. You know, they're still nice cars. I'm not wearing no Versace. Dolce Gabbana. That's right.

[A]

So that's class in your class.

[B]

Like. But I guess that doesn't mean anything, right? I don't know what I'm trying to say. All I know is I think we're just came from white trash trailer park people.

[A]

I mean, yeah, I guess.

[B]

But, you know, and. And.

[A]

But it's weird because I feel like some people, like, I don't know, some people's definition of white trash is, like, dirty. Gross.

[B]

Yeah, No, I agree.

[A]

Gummy. And it's like, no, we weren't dirty and scummy.

[B]

No, I get it.

[A]

You know?

[B]

I guess. Yeah. Because when I think of white trash, I mean, I think of, like, there's garbage all over.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And they're just like, you know, the kids are wearing three XL shirts because, you know what I'm saying?

[A]

They're just mama's smoking meth in the bathroom, you know?

[B]

I mean.

[A]

I mean, I don't know. I don't. I don't know.

[B]

But anyway, I just thought that was funny because you said that. And then I'm like, wait, what do you think we are, class wise? I think we're.

[A]

I think we're normal.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I guess if they're. Whatever your definition of normal, I'm not.

[B]

Talking about, like, money wise. I guess I'm not.

[A]

No. Right.

[B]

About how we live and what we wear and how it is.

[A]

Huh.

[B]

I think we're. I think we just got above the white trash.

[A]

Wow. You have low status.

[B]

I don't think it's low.

[A]

I think.

[B]

I think it's smart as hell. I mean, think about it. When you. When we got out of school, we were young and we got the trailer. We were. I mean, that's smart. Get a trailer.

[A]

Yeah. We were in apartment first.

[B]

I know what we do. And got a trailer. It's cheap.

[A]

Absolutely.

[B]

$8,000.

[A]

Guys, I loved my trailer.

[B]

I mean, I mean, listen, remember we redid it. Yeah. We painted it. I put. I added baseboard trim.

[A]

That made a big difference.

[B]

Didn't it, though?

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I said, what we. I said, what you do? I was like, how do you doctor up a trailer? I'll tell you how you do it. You go get the MDF cheap. Baseboards that are wobbly and kind of like. They're not. It's mdf. It's not real wood. You don't spend that. You know, get cheap and you border it out. You paint the paneling and then you trim out the windows with the same mdf.

[A]

Oh, right. Yeah, we did trim out the windows.

[B]

And it give.

[A]

I'm telling you, we painted everything. We put the floors in there, and.

[B]

Carpet makes it feel, you know.

[A]

Yeah. And it was a single wide. And so after a while, it was like, you're sick and tired of just walking back and forth. You can't really walk. Yeah, you can't really walk width wise. But hey, I mean, how long do.

[B]

We stay there for?

[A]

We were there for a few years.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

I mean, up until we got Caesar, which was our Doberman. And then they were like, you can't have Dobermans here. And I was like, he's a min pin liar. Well, we were in the process of buying.

[B]

I know that's true.

[A]

And so I was just. I was like, whatever.

[B]

You know what's cool is that we left the trailer and we literally were like, all right, we're just gonna buy a house. Cash.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

We were, what, 19 years old? It was 2000.

[A]

Trying to think, oh, Lord, 2010, maybe.

[B]

Housing was crap. Everything was cheap. It was like, well, it was a.

[A]

Super, super cheap house.

[B]

Very, very cheap.

[A]

Like, dirt cheap. You ain't finding that ever again, you.

[B]

Know, you ain't finding that house.

[A]

But yeah, and we are blessed to be able to do that, for sure.

[B]

Very blessed. I Remember? Never. Remember we got in our first house and we literally had to plan to get the floor sanded, but we didn't care. We went in the only bedroom that had carpet, got an air mattress and put it in there.

[A]

And I think we only did redid the bottom floor though.

[B]

Yeah, we did.

[A]

Yeah. So we were upstairs. Yeah. Oh, yeah. We were sleeping in that house. All the floors were getting done.

[B]

Y. Yeah.

[A]

We had.

[B]

Never forget it.

[A]

Cuz I remember you couldn't step on the floors downstairs, so you had to go down. You had to like stop at the very base of the stairs and then hop out the front door.

[B]

Front door.

[A]

Because you couldn't touch the floors that were getting right now.

[B]

You might want to just move in after the floors are done. We were so excited. We're like, we can't.

[A]

No. So excited.

[B]

Yep. Air mattress in the bedroom.

[A]

Yeah, we've. I mean, shoot. I remember people. I'm sure people remember the scene too. Even when we moved into our apartment and we got your mattress on your mom's minivan and we didn't have tie downs. What did we use? Was that an extension cord?

[B]

It was extension cords.

[A]

Right. And I had to hold it down in the back.

[B]

Did a certain way. I said, oh, you hold this. If you keep tension on this extension cord. That has no.

[A]

Was it an extension cord?

[B]

I had no bungies. And I said, you know, we're getting this moving on the van. Yeah. Yeah.

[A]

Oh my God. That was funny because we were. And it's our first place that we had to literally, like, we didn't have a couch. It was a. A futon mattress. Yeah, like a futon couch that turned into a bed. Because I think that was my bed.

[B]

It was. It was a lower. Yeah.

[A]

And it didn't even have feet. Yeah, like we literally had it. We literally had it on milk crates.

[B]

Sitting on milk crates angled up like a couch.

[A]

And my grandma. My grandma took a. Took me. We went garage saling and that's where we got like our microwave and she took me to like the resale shop. So we got pots and pans and stuff like that and.

[B]

Yeah. Do you remember though, when we were sitting there and we were like, oh, yeah, this is so great. I love this new apartment. Then we're like, oh, oh, I'm gonna start sweeping. I said, oh, we don't gotta. We don't got a broom.

[A]

Right? Just a little.

[B]

Dude. I was like, we don't have a broom.

[A]

The little things. Yeah, the little things.

[B]

The floor.

[A]

Uhhuh. It's like the. It's like when you first move in, like, move out on your own. Yeah. You don't realize all the little tiny things that you need.

[B]

I know.

[A]

You know, Crazy. I was like, oh, wait, I don't have a. I don't even know like, the most random thing about the broom.

[B]

I was like, man, this is insane.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Ready for this? I was like, that's what I'll hit me. I said, I'm. What is it called? Imposter syndrome? I said, dude, I don't. I'm not old enough. I'm not mature. I don't even have a broom. Who's out of the house without a broom?

[A]

That we did.

[B]

Who moves out of the house without proper pots and pans? Yeah, we had one frying pan.

[A]

Well, you know, we had to do what we had to do. You know, it was like, I need to get out. And then you were just coming. I was going to be out regardless, but.

[B]

But wow. Yeah, I was coming. My mom was pissed.

[A]

Oh, she was. She was mad. I'll never forget that. That anxiety that I felt when she was like, you need to tell him no.

[B]

And I was like, like, do I please the mom? Do I tell my wife? Right. No. Does he need.

[A]

And I was just kind of like, I can't. You need to tell him no. Like, how? What? Why am I telling him no?

[B]

Well, I guess now that I think about it, too, is that I was 17, so I'm trying to think that I was a parent. Like, all right, 17 is still, like, you're still my kid in my house at 17.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

So I don't know if Noah moved out at 17. I mean, I guess, yeah, sure. I wouldn't be mad about it. I mean, mad about it. I would just be like, I mean, as long as you go to school and don't be stupid.

[A]

Yeah. And I think that's what your. Where your mom's fears were. And it's funny because we lived on this, like. Like one of the main corners in our town. So, like, you had to take specific roads.

[B]

All the trucks came.

[A]

Yeah. But you had to, like, specific roads to get to the freeway every day. And I know, like, Ty's mom, one of her biggest things was like, you have to go to school every day. And so, you know, when she would drive to work every day, I mean, she always had to pass by our apartment complex. And I'll never forget the one and only time we decided not to go to school the one day. And she stopped. She actually stopped at our apartment Complex because she said she would always drive by and see if, like, the smoke was coming from our car, you know? Yeah.

[B]

Little.

[A]

And she literally stopped. Stopped. And she just banged on our window, our bedroom window. Like, she didn't even knock on the door. Boom, boom, boom.

[B]

Yeah, bro.

[A]

And it's like we've been going to school every day. The one day that we're like, man, we're not gonna go today. All the days that we've gone, one.

[B]

Day, I was like, you know what? And I remember, I think in my head, I'm like, dude, I'm living on my own. If I want to skip school one day, I'm playing hooky today, right? And the one day I do it, my mom banging on my window.

[A]

Oh, yeah. Because that was one of her biggest fears, was like, you know, you have to finish school. You have to finish school. You finish school.

[B]

I would, yeah.

[A]

And we did. But I can understand, as a parent, like, but I can understand that. I mean, you know what I mean? Like, you're on your own. You think you know the world and all the things and. Yeah. And plus, we are so really young.

[B]

Now that we're this age, though. Like, I mean, I remember being that age, everything. My.

[A]

And then now you think you are.

[B]

And now I'm being our age. Now I'm like, dude, little 17 year olds, I'm like, dude, you don't know. You know what I mean? Like, now, now I get why. Yeah, I get it, Mom. I understand.

[A]

Well, that's even like your niece and nephew and stuff when they say stuff. And I'm like, oh, God, you have no clue.

[B]

I know. You know, you just kind of like, oh, you just nod your head.

[A]

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[A]

But also I remember like I hated one of the things that I okay, so I, I hated living in an apartment just because like we didn't even really like know her. I didn't. I don't even remember seeing any of our neighbors.

[B]

Oh I didn't miss our really old neighbors.

[A]

But that was like back in the day when I we were like young and just crazy and dumb or whatever and I'll never for like I used to smoke weed back in that day.

[B]

Oh yeah, you Did.

[A]

Yeah, I did. But I remember being so paranoid because.

[B]

You can smell it everywhere. You walk in the front door. You know how the. If everyone knows the old cheap apartments, you walk in the front door and it's got a door to the left or the right. Stairs, right, door to the right. I mean, that's like.

[A]

It's like a shared landing area.

[B]

Staircase area.

[A]

Yeah. So paranoid.

[B]

Like, seven towels in the door.

[A]

Stupid as when really.

[B]

It's like, if we're old enough to pay our own bills, I'm old enough to smoke a joint in my living room.

[A]

So.

[B]

Calm down. Let me do it, man. Let me stop my. Dude, you know?

[A]

Yeah, yeah.

[B]

You would get.

[A]

Yeah, dude. And then I'll never forget, too, when we. So we ended up buying our trailer. Like, I think we lived there.

[B]

I don't even know.

[A]

Probably less than he was not so.

[B]

I know, I know it's for a fact. He got older. He was a little dog to big dog. So it had him at least a year.

[A]

No, but I'm saying the apartment.

[B]

Oh, the apartment was eight months, I think.

[A]

Yeah, I was gonna say, I think we left before a year and. But I'll never forget because we left and this freaking slum lord dude, he took us to court because he wanted us to pay, like the last few months of the rent and stuff. And I was like, hell no. Because I remember I kept all my receipts that I paid for rent, all the things. And I had it documented so many times. Like, the reason why we moved into this specific apartment was because it came with all the appliances. It had a dishwasher, had a washer and dryer, fridge, stove, all of that.

[B]

We.

[A]

Yeah, yeah. Because all the other apartments we looked at, it was like, you had to buy your own appliances. And we didn't know that, you know? And so. And I'll never forget, the dishwasher never worked. One time while we were there, it.

[B]

Had sitting water in it, and it was disgusting. And I filmed. I mean, I got. I got over it. I filmed it. I want to make sure I had it documented.

[A]

But well, after I reached out so many freaking times, I'm like, yeah. And then he took us to court, and his lawyer was like, well, you need to pay. You know, if you. You need to pay the last months of rent or something like that. And I was like. I said, well, I have proof. And I was. Thankfully, we were smart and documented all the times that we reached out to him and all the things. And. And I was like, it was the old school flip cam Days, you know, and so I was like, I have videos of the standing water and the mold and this dishwasher. And all the times that I have.

[B]

Asked, reached out to him and said, hey, can you please fix your dishwasher? Yeah, I'll do it. Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. Oh, my God.

[B]

Remember the sink was okay. Fix this thing. You know, I'm all right.

[A]

So many things.

[B]

So many things that. And then I never forget sliding that flip camera across the table to attorney. I said, here, look at.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And he looked at it and he closed it. And he's like, I'll be right back.

[A]

Yeah. And then he came back.

[B]

And then he came back.

[A]

He came back.

[B]

Dismissal, whatever.

[A]

Well, no, but he was like. He came back and he said, just pay one month. And I was like, that's fine.

[B]

True. But, you know, in the beginning of the month, and we said, oh, I'm not gonna pay. Or in the middle of the month. So.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And I remember thinking when I was younger, back down. Oh, I'm not gonna pay, you know, for a full month. When I left halfway through the month.

[A]

Right. But that's not. Yeah. That's not how it looks. How adults.

[B]

I was there two weeks. You know what I mean? So anyway. Yeah.

[A]

But yeah, then his lawyer came back and was like, okay, well, you know what? Just pay a month or whatever. And you know what's funny is, too, is, like, when we lived in an apartment, our blinds in our bedroom had, like, a whole square cut out of it. And we would drive by that apartment complex for 10 years, and it was the same blinds with the same cutout.

[B]

But you remember I wrote. I wrote him. I said, hey, like, just for. I was trying to be nice in, like, suggestions.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I wasn't like, hey, you know, like, just, I'll get new blind thing, whatever. Yeah. And I mean, I guess I could have got my own new blinds, but I remember, like, thinking in my head, like, no, man, I. I picked this apartment because.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You're supposed to have all that anyway. Yeah, but.

[A]

But I murdered. Yeah. Driving by for years, and I'm like, dude, this blindness still gotta cut out. Like, what? That's crazy to me.

[B]

Isn't it?

[A]

Yeah. I feel like we're all over the place.

[B]

Sorry, guys.

[A]

I know.

[B]

Talking about old, but it just made me laugh.

[A]

It was funny. But. So we actually. We're going to Ty's mom's house this weekend, taking the kids trick or treating. So that'll be fun.

[B]

Can't wait.

[A]

Yeah. They always love her. Like, her. Like, I don't know, Campground place does, like, early trick or treating and stuff like that. So we get to go camping with the kids this weekend, and that'll be fun. And then it's only, like, less than two weeks till we go to Disney.

[B]

Do Disney.

[A]

I'm just praying that nobody gets sick.

[B]

What?

[A]

I'm praying that nobody gets sick, okay?

[B]

No one's gonna get sick.

[A]

Oh, I sure hope not.

[B]

No one's getting sick. And if they are, then we're sick. We're. We're doing it. Give them some medicine. Sure.

[A]

Nah, nah.

[B]

What are we gonna do? We can't just skip out on Disney.

[A]

Oh, somebody's gonna have to stay home with the sick kid. I don't know.

[B]

It ain't gonna be us, but. Wait my whole life for this?

[A]

No, because I'm just like, oh, my God, My brother. My mom's house, I guess, just tested positive for two very. Two different types of COVID Like, he's got two types of covered right now. What does that mean at the same time?

[B]

Oh, at the same time?

[A]

Yes.

[B]

Oh, I thought, oh, what?

[A]

Yeah. And I guess it can happen.

[B]

Something. And he had something.

[A]

He's got. I guess he tested positive for two different variants, and he's got it both right now. And I'm just thinking in my head, I'm like, bro, it can take, like, days until somebody else tests positive for it. And then if you're out there spreading it, and then you give it to us, and then we're at Disney and everybody's got Covid. Could you imagine?

[B]

Oh, my God. No. Yeah. Please. I don't understand why you even say this out loud. Oh, don't even say this out loud. The universe doesn't even know what's going on.

[A]

I retract all of my achievements.

[B]

Retract.

[A]

I retract them all.

[B]

It's gonna be the best time ever.

[A]

I know. I'm excited. I'm excited for it. I can't wait to go. I told him. I asked my dad if he would. I told him, actually. I was like, I'll fly you out.

[B]

If he'll drive up there.

[A]

But I guess he's just like, we're just really. Things are really tight right now.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

All right.

[B]

I mean, it's a long. He's not like, we're going down here in Florida and he's all the way up there.

[A]

Yeah, I know. But I was like, I'll fly you guys out, like, even. Just, like, for the weekend or whatever. But yeah, he said things are really tight right now for him even working, like on the weekends, too. So I don't know.

[B]

Yeah, well. Yeah, whatever. It's a whole different.

[A]

Yeah, I know, but I would really like to see my dad. I'm mad that I didn't go out there this summer like I wanted to.

[B]

We can still go out there. Or you could go out there, whatever.

[A]

Yeah, I would. Just obviously they would like to see kids too.

[B]

I know. I feel like it's almost mean.

[A]

It is.

[B]

If I show up and your dad's like, what?

[A]

His wife will be like, where's Rya?

[B]

Where are the kids?

[A]

Where's Raya?

[B]

I know, you're right. Yeah.

[A]

But I did. I got these little cards out again because I thought. I thought that they were fine. They were the last time that we did them. And I think a few of these.

[B]

What?

[A]

Are Right. I just wanted to take those ones out because I don't even know if we told people. So we got. They're actually. The cards are called we're not really strangers. And it's like, what's more romantic than being understood? No, I'm just kidding. All right. So I figured we could pull a couple of these, too. Unless you have anything else to talk about too.

[B]

No, no. I was saying I wanted to get to this because this is what people really liked last time. Oh, they liked the little questions.

[A]

Do one first, I think it's like, level one, and then, you know, level two.

[B]

Start with level one. Is level one. What? Is it lame? Is it lame?

[A]

What assumption did you make about me that turned out to be right?

[B]

What assumption did I make about you that turned out to be right? Yeah, well, that you're being a good mom.

[A]

Oh, thanks. That's sweet.

[B]

Yeah, that was. I mean, that. That's one thing.

[A]

An assumption that I made about you. An assumption? Yeah. I'm like, wait, what? An assumption that I made about you. I could also say the good dad thing, too, but that I. I always knew that you would be a very good. I made the assumption that you'd be a very good, like, partner. Husband.

[B]

Well, there you go then.

[A]

You are.

[B]

That was easy.

[A]

It's a weird question, but I feel.

[B]

Like you knew before I ever did.

[A]

I did.

[B]

So I. I don't know, man. I think you manifested that you put. You put some weird ass kind of spell out there in the world and.

[A]

No, I don't know. I just. I. The moment I met, I was like, I'm gonna marry him and have his babies. I just do it.

[B]

And then your dreams were so weird. Yeah.

[A]

Yeah. I Had weird dreams. Yeah, it's because I'm a psychic, bro.

[B]

Watch out.

[A]

I'm psychic. My dreams. Tell me like the one today.

[B]

Dude, nah, bro, that dream was literally weird, as you had the weirdest dreams. And I swear, it's like, what is it? What?

[A]

Dude, dude. Yeah, it had to do with our friend Ray, and she's like a lesbian and married. Has a wife, and she wasn't doing anything with her.

[B]

Explain yourself. Not yet to explain yourself. Okay, go. What was your dream? Oh, my God. What was the dream? Go ahead.

[A]

So I had a dream this morning that I saw. I saw a video that Tyler took of himself.

[B]

Yeah, yeah, yeah.

[A]

He was in our spare bedroom downstairs laying the bed. So in this video, he loved, like, seeing a video that he took of himself.

[B]

In your dream.

[A]

Yeah. And so he was, like, shooting a video of himself from the waist down. Like, he was laying in the spare bed and he was, like, naked from the waist down. But, you know, have you ever seen a guy, when they talk, they do.

[B]

A tuck a badge?

[A]

Yeah, they tuck their. They tuck their vagina.

[B]

All the guys out there have done it. You know, it's funny as hell. You know, you joke around. You take all your. So in the video between your legs.

[A]

And I'm a girl. Yeah, he edit. He was like, shooting a video, and it was like the waist down, and he was completely naked, but he had his dick tucked, you know, so, like, you couldn't see his dick.

[B]

Took a match.

[A]

Took a. And he's shooting this video. And then my mom was in the room.

[B]

Her mom. Everyone, if you didn't hear, her mom in the dream was in her room in the.

[A]

In the room with you. In the room with me while you're taking the video.

[B]

My tuck a video. All right, Just put in context for everybody. Keep trying to keep them up.

[A]

And my mom said. Well, she said something to the effect of like, it's okay if it's broken. You can get a new one.

[B]

Broken. I'm tucking it. It's done.

[A]

And in my dream, it was like, I'm seeing this video because he sent this video to my friend Ray. And I remember in my dream, I was pissed off because I'm like, why the are you sending this video to Rey? Like, half naked video. Like, that's up. And I guess in my dream, supposedly. Should I even say this part? Yeah, I guess in my dream, the reason why my mom said, well, it's okay if it's broken. You can get a new one.

[B]

It's okay if it's Broken, you can get a new one. You didn't tell them that part. So the mom says, like, hey, in.

[A]

The video, she's like, you all tell her students video of it. My mom's standing in the corner of the room in the video and she says, it's okay if it's broken. You can get a new one. And I guess the reason why she said that was because I guess supposedly I was like trying to get him hard for six hours and it wasn't working.

[B]

Oh, God.

[A]

But I just. In my dream, I was like, I just remember being so mad that you send a half naked. I guess half naked because your dick was tucked. A half naked video to my friend Ray. And then this morning, Tyler was like, how come you're not more upset that your mom was in the room?

[B]

She's like, well, I don't know why he's in this video. I say, bro, it wasn't even a real dick. It was a Tucker badge. It's like, it's just skin for one. So you shouldn't be mad at. You should be more mad that your mom's in the room while I'm filming a Chuck A. Badge video. You know what I mean?

[A]

It was the most random dream I've ever had in my life. And I've had some weird ones.

[B]

No, you've had some very strange dreams.

[A]

I have had some really weird ones. Yeah.

[B]

No, but you have. I. I will say I don't know. Okay. I don't know how often this is about how people. But you. I feel like you have a lot of sex dreams. More than I've ever heard of anyone ever having. A lot. You have at least two a month.

[A]

Not that much.

[B]

Well, that's what it feels like. Times like, hey, I have the gym. I'm always like, was it me?

[A]

Oh, and it is.

[B]

It is crazy.

[A]

Yeah, but that was just. I just remember waking up this morning, I was like, that is a weird dream.

[B]

Like, you have some weird ass dreams.

[A]

And I know for sure it wouldn't take me six hours.

[B]

You're in the growing dreamland. Like, how the hell is this happening?

[A]

Yeah, but for my mom, I'm in the dreams, okay? If it's broken, you get a new one. Like, did she mean like a new man? A new.

[B]

You know what I mean? We'll take it as.

[A]

Send it to Ray. Like, sorry, Ray, if you're hearing this, I don't know why some weird bro. And maybe that's why it was a tuck of match because you're gay, like lesbian I don't know, maybe. Maybe like subconscious.

[B]

Yeah, you're right.

[A]

Like subconscious, you know. So it's playing in my dream? I don't know. But I have had some dreams that.

[B]

Like rumors with real life and then. Weird.

[A]

Oh my God. Yeah. Yeah. Why? Was my mom there?

[B]

No, there's actually people who like study dreams.

[A]

I mean, I've had dreams that have it. Like they have came true. Like the exact thing that has played out in my dream happened. Which is trippy telling you because I'm psychic, bro. So Ray, if he ever texts you a picture, better tell me, girl. No, just kidding. But no, I have had like dreams that have actually happened and like played out exactly to detail.

[B]

So I have never had dreams that have played out exactly to detail. But I have literally sat in an experience and let it go as long as it could go.

[A]

Oh, in a dream.

[B]

Yeah. And I knew and I just like it's repeating itself. It's this. I. This is it. This is it. Okay. And it's weird because I make sure to try to almost like I try to like not ruin it. Cuz I don't want to like admit to myself it's actually happening. So I'll be. Oh, it's that thing's going on again. Let's just see what happens. That thing ding over there.

[A]

There's like people that say that too. You shouldn't say it out loud.

[B]

I actually tried to ignore it. Like, oh my God, I feel this happen. Don't even think about it. Well, let's just experience the thing.

[A]

Yeah, and.

[B]

But I can't help it because I'm like, if this thing dings or something stupid ding. I'm like, oh my God, it's happening.

[A]

So it's like the same repetitive dream.

[B]

No, it's not repetitive. I'm talking like, I guess call it deja vu.

[A]

Yeah. Or something of a dream.

[B]

No, it's not a dream. I'm like living in real life and all of a sudden, all of a sudden it's like, oh, so you mean like you let.

[A]

You try to let deja vu play out?

[B]

Yeah, I try to ignore that it's happening. But like for instance, like, oh my God, you know, something happens over here. Like he barks. I knew he's in a bark.

[A]

Right.

[B]

You know what I'm saying?

[A]

Deja vu is chirpy, dude.

[B]

It freaks me out a little bit.

[A]

Yeah, it happens to me because it is weird.

[B]

I don't know, I just feel really weird when it happens and I'm like, what's going on.

[A]

And I wonder if it's. I wonder if it's because your soul, like, has experienced the same thing but in a different time. So like, maybe a different life.

[B]

Yeah, no, I. That's what I'm saying. Because there's no way.

[A]

Like, how do they even explain deja vu?

[B]

How, how, how? I. Yeah, I know, and it's really weird.

[A]

I haven't had deja vu in a long time.

[B]

I have it all the time.

[A]

Oh, I. It's trippy. It is trippy.

[B]

Yeah. And I remember when I was younger, I remember feeling like, really? You're like derealization, where you feel like you're literally. It's not that I'm the Truman show, but like I'm trying, like, you know that. But it's just nothing is real. This is all fake. Like, you know what I mean?

[A]

Like from autism.

[B]

I don't know, maybe. I don't know.

[A]

Or a good thing to look. I don't know.

[B]

But, but derealization, it's like, for me at least, it's literally like everything is fake.

[A]

Like, should look up the net and.

[B]

Then it'll go on a little bit where it gets really scary, it gets hard, it gets kind of freaky. You know what I mean? Like, eerie feeling.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

So then I try to be like. I'll literally be like, oh, leaf.

[A]

Like the leaf is real.

[B]

What I'm saying, like, is that weird? I know I probably saw frickin nut.

[A]

So do I. Saying that I have dreams that play out and you know, my mom saying, where.

[B]

Dude, it's really weird.

[A]

So what I'm going to say, what is, what is it?

[B]

Derealization realization.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

It was the closest thing I ever.

[A]

Get to what it is a mental health condition that causes people to feel detached from the world around them or to perceive it as a distorted unreal. Yeah, It's a type of dissociation, which is a disconnect between a person's sense of self, thoughts and body. Symptoms include distorted perception. Objects may appear the wrong size or color or surroundings may seem blurry or colorless.

[B]

Okay. Nothing seems bigger or out of order. But I will say that it feels like I'm slowly.

[A]

That's what I says right here.

[B]

Almost a drain. You know, a pool. If you took a pool and it starts tornadoing.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

And it starts going down that drain. It feels like nothing is bigger than it's supposed to be. But I do feel a sense of like, I'm going down.

[A]

Well, it says, I know I sound crazy, but. Well, no, but it says it feels like an out of body sensation from your surroundings, foggy or detached. People, object. Objects and. And time may seem distorted. Yeah, it's like a dream, like state.

[B]

Well, I'll be honest with you, I didn't know it was a mental condition. I'm not saying I have.

[A]

No, it makes.

[B]

Sure.

[A]

Well, no, because when you were talking.

[B]

About it explains what it feels like.

[A]

But when you were talking about it, that's what it reminded me of, was like dissociation.

[B]

Yeah. Yeah, right. Right. I guess. Yeah. Yeah, right.

[A]

Does that happen to you often?

[B]

No, not often, but when it does happen, I don't. You'll never know what happens. I guess I tell you afterward I just had a derivation moment. But like. No, I mean, I use. I've always kept it to myself.

[A]

Oh, my God. Does that happen to you often?

[B]

I mean, I remember being a kid and being. It would freak me out a little bit. Like I'd feel scared, I guess. Scared's wrong word. I knew it was safe, technically, but it just felt like freaky, you know, like creepy.

[A]

Yeah, that's weird. Yeah. I wonder if it's dissociation though, and not really deep realization. I'm sorry. Don't do that. I. I'm just thinking out loud here.

[B]

I don't know what. I didn't really know what. I mean, I just. I remember being a kid and looking it up and that was the closest thing I got. I was like, I don't know. This feels. I remember typing in, like, feeling like I'm not Feeling like life's not real. I'm an object. And a weird thing that I'm not, my object doesn't have any relation to this realness around me.

[A]

That's autism, dude.

[B]

Literally. I don't know. Anyway, see, we're getting off track.

[A]

Sorry. No, you should probably talk to a therapist about that.

[B]

What do you. What?

[A]

I don't know. I'm just thinking. I feel like I need to talk to a therapist too. So.

[B]

We'Re just a nutty waggedy daggity. I don't know.

[A]

You know.

[B]

Anyway, probably shouldn't have said that out loud. Whatever. I'm not. I'm real. Guys, this is what you're getting. You know, I'm. I'm. No, no, no filters here with this podcast.

[A]

I feel like since the kids have been in school, I'm like. I feel like I have more anxiety. I don't know if it's because of things going on in the world, per se.

[B]

You know what I mean?

[A]

Do You?

[B]

Yeah. Like, I feel just a sense of. Huh? It's just like, feels a lot of energy shifting and swirling and kind of just heavy. It feels heavy.

[A]

I was thinking about today. I'm like, is it because they're all in school and I don't know what to do myself, or is it because of just everything going on in the world? But the one morning where I got up with them and took them all to school and stuff, I was like, not like panic attack, but definitely, like, high anxiety.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

But that was just right after all that craziness that happened in Colorado and, you know, just everything.

[B]

Did it. Did it feel different as the day, as the morning went on, or did it alleviate when you dropped them off? You know what I mean? Like, when did.

[A]

No, and now it lasted a lot of the day.

[B]

Oh, okay. So it's one of those days.

[A]

Yeah. But like, not like overtaking, but it was just like. And I still have been feeling a little bit of anxiety and I think it is just because of the world and, you know, not feeling, I don't know, 100 safe sending your kids to school, which is up.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know, but I think.

[B]

I think you just take on a lot of. I think you're just feeling everything.

[A]

Yeah, I don't like it.

[B]

Yeah, well, I mean, yeah, I don't think anybody does.

[A]

Yay, empath. Love it for me.

[B]

Let me just take all your heavy burden emotions and I'll just put them.

[A]

On myself and feel. I do have to remember, though, because I remember. So I listened to Teresa Caputo's podcast a lot, and I need her. I. She says this thing which I love is like, when you are an empath and stuff and you're feeling. Thing is like a lot of the times you need to talk to yourself and say, like, be gone. You are not of me. Like, you are somebody. Like, you have to kind of talk to yourself and be like, you are not of me. You're somebody else's feelings and emotions and whatever. Like, you have to like, I don't know, talk to your body or whatever.

[B]

No. Separate yourself from it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

You can get like, kind of like drown in it.

[A]

And I remember the first time she said that, I was like, oh, my God. I love, like, the way she said it was so powerful. And I'm like, dude, yes. Because as empaths, like, we feel everything going on in the world and people's emotions.

[B]

You are not of me. Be gone. You are not.

[A]

Yeah, be gone. You are not of me. You are not my feelings. I Am feeling the world's feelings or somebody else's or whatever. But yeah, love being in a path. For me, it's weird because I don't think I'm.

[B]

I don't even know what I would classify myself as. I don't know what I am.

[A]

I don't know. I'm definitely an empath. I can feel people's emotions.

[B]

My question is what are the different categories? There's empath, what is it? Oh, you know what I'm saying? What would that be considered?

[A]

Google? I don't know.

[B]

Personality type, Would that be considered like, what is it?

[A]

What else is there besides empath? Let's say that. What else is there besides being an empath? I don't really know. Let's see. Four emotional. Oh, so there's four?

[B]

Yeah. Okay, what are they?

[A]

Okay, besides an empath, there are many other personal personality traits, roles and paths. So being an intellectual, I feel like that's you.

[B]

I will say one of my therapists told me that intellect I intellectualize as a coping mechanism. That was like blew my mind actually, because that's exactly what I do.

[A]

God, there's so many different types of empaths too. What the. Okay, so intellectual Rock. A gush. The intellectual. This type often focuses on logical thinking and can be more detached from emotions. The rock. This person tends to be a stable and supportive individual for others remaining grounded. The gusher. This type is expressive and open, often sharing their emotions and feelings readily.

[B]

I feel like I'm all of them mashing together.

[A]

Right?

[B]

Yeah, I don't know. That's weird.

[A]

See like I'm definitely a conventional. I feel like highly sensitive to emotions and energies, sometimes absorbing others feelings without a filter.

[B]

Yeah, I think I, I agree because I, I even watch old clips sometimes and I can like. I know you so well. Now that I. Look at yourself when you're with your mom and she's going through all her shit and you can see you, you can. Well, I don't know about anyone else. I can literally see your body shift into a different position mode. Your eyes, your brow gets different and you can like, I can tell that you're gonna say something. Really, you're not gonna argue. It's just gonna be like very like. Okay, yeah. Like you're just like, I don't know, you're taking the brunch back and literally see it in your body like when you do it. Yeah, no, it's really trippy.

[A]

Yeah, I mean I'm the type of per. I can, like literally, I can even with You. I can tell off Rip when you're in a bad mood.

[B]

No words spoken.

[A]

Yeah. Oh, I feel it.

[B]

Yeah. Which I think that's honestly probably a part of. Like. I mean, you probably just had to do that for survival.

[A]

Probably.

[B]

You know what I'm saying?

[A]

Yeah. I was wired to be an empath, literally.

[B]

Because you're. I mean, she's unpredictable.

[A]

Yeah. I don't know. Nova's an empath, too, though. She's very our. She's very are. She is our. Sensitive. You know? I showed her this video yesterday.

[B]

What?

[A]

I sent it to her phone because it made me think of her.

[B]

What was it?

[A]

And then I look at her in the car because I'm like, did you see what I sent you? Or whatever. And she's like, no, I didn't. And so I showed her, and then she started crying, and then I started crying, and then I gave her a hug in the car, and I was like. I was like. It just made me think of you. Yeah.

[B]

That's cute.

[A]

It was cute. Should I play it?

[B]

What? What is. I want to cry. What is it, honey? What is it? Because I'll tell you what I was. You see me last night. I was a stupid wreck from that old man.

[A]

I was a rat. I mean, when old people cry, he's.

[B]

So sad, think about her smile. And he goes, oh. And he, like, he. He lit us.

[A]

So it was this one. It's just. Let me see.

[B]

Oh, it's a poem. Yeah.

[C]

Not the easiest, but the kind that wraps itself around your heart and never lets go. I blinked, and the newborn I rocked asleep turned into a toddler with scraped knees and wild opinions. You used to reach for me with tiny hands and sleepy eyes. And now you're running ahead, already needing me a little less. And I know that's the goal, to raise you up, not hold you back. But some days I miss the weight of you pressed against my chest, your breath sinking with mine like the world stopped spinning just for us. I miss the firsts, first giggle, first steps, first time you said mama like it was the only word that mattered. And still every phase has brought its own kind of magic. New laughs, new lessons, new versions of you that I get the honor of meeting. Being your mother has stretched me, changed me, made me softer in places that used to be guarded. And I know someday you'll be too big to carry, too much cool for bedtime kisses, too busy for Saturday morning pancakes. But I'll never stop showing up, never stop cheering you on. I'll never stop being your Safe place. Because being your mom is the kind of blessing that only grows with time. And I'll spend the rest of my life grateful that I got to be yours.

[A]

Oh, I know.

[B]

There you go, honey.

[A]

I know. So also. So. She, like, put my vault. She looked at me. She's like.

[B]

And I was like, she cries. You're crying is guaranteed.

[A]

Oh, for sure. And I was like. It just made me think of you, like, you know, you are. You're getting bigger and all those little things, you know? And I was just. When I saw it, I was, like, crying on the couch to myself in the house. You were in the garage putting stupid bike seat on the bike. I'm watching stupid. Tick tock. Got me crying all the time.

[B]

Oh, my God. That's why.

[A]

All the time. Well, anytime. Old men cry or old people, period. It's sad.

[B]

No, but Hunter Prosper. If you don't know him, go on Instagram. Hunter Prosper. He posted these. He'll just, like, stories from strangers, secrets from strangers, and. Oh, dude, this guy, man. Oh, he was talking about his wife that just died, and he's. Oh, it's horrible. It's horrible. What are you doing? What? What are you doing?

[A]

What are you doing? Dad?

[B]

What?

[A]

I'm recording, actually, right now. What are.

[B]

Oh, hi, dad.

[A]

My podcast. Dad says hi. Let me.

[B]

Let me fix my hair. Hey, I'll call you back later when you're not busy.

[A]

All right? I love you. No, he said, I got him a new pet.

[B]

I know. That's why. That's why I froze. I was like, oh, man. Your dad has to get a new pet.

[A]

My dad is crazy. Yeah, no, he actually. I talked to him the other day, and he was like. So he's like, we have these big, like, skinks down here. It's like lizards, okay? They're, like, purple and, like, yellow and all these different colors. He's like, I don't really know how I would ship one to Nova.

[B]

What? Hey, dad, keep the damn lizards, amphibians, and everything like that in Florida, though. I don't know. You can't do it.

[A]

That's funny.

[B]

Another car. We're getting distracted. See?

[A]

Oh, I'm sorry. Well, because it leads. It leads to other conversations, and we do it. Sorry. Because it leads to other things.

[B]

I know. I guess you're right. Let's say if you think they're stupid, discard.

[A]

I don't know if it's stupid or not. What's one small thing I do that tells you everything you need to know about me?

[B]

Damn.

[A]

It's a hard one.

[B]

Tell me one small thing that lets you know everything you need to know about me. One small thing.

[A]

I would say the way that you. For me, I would say the way that you play with our girls tells me everything about you.

[B]

Oh.

[A]

I would say, because the. How it tells me everything about you was like. Because when you play with our girls and stuff and, like, you're just doing, like, they're laughing and doing all those things, and I'm like, oh, my God, look at him being a dad that he didn't have.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

You know what I mean?

[B]

Well, it's funny because I was gonna say now when you said that the one small thing is just how you have the kids stuff lined up in the morning and you're in your. Your. The lunch. Like, you have everything. So, like. And that. That because you care, you just love. You love so endlessly. And so just your capacity for. It's endless. And I can. You can see it. You can see it.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

I mean, it's. It's a small thing, but it's a big thing. That's. I. I guess my. That's what I got from that question.

[A]

Yeah, but. Right.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

Yeah, definitely. With me, it's like more structured thing. Everything's gotta be in this place, laid out.

[B]

Yeah. Because, you know, it's like you're. You're a caring. Not even just mother, but just. That shows what's. That's my opinion.

[A]

Picture days. Tomorrow. Oh, yep, Tomorrow.

[B]

I told Nova. Yeah. Shower night. Anyway, so. Yeah, she knows. All right.

[A]

Hers is. It's Vedas.

[B]

Oh. It's Betas.

[A]

All right. Yeah. Do you think I have any unconventional views on love?

[B]

Unconventional?

[A]

No, I don't think you do.

[B]

No. No, No. I think our views are pretty normal.

[A]

I mean, maybe not to some people. No, I believe love is love and everybody should be able to love whoever they want to love.

[B]

But I also think, like. Well, I will say unconventional on love. I think what might be considered unconventional is that a lot of people are like, oh, I don't need anyone to be happy. And it's. I believe that. I'm not saying, oh, shit. See, I'm saying. I'm not saying I'll believe you when you. When you're telling me that, oh, I don't need to be with someone to be happy. And I believe that, and I think that's great. But I really do think that our lives and our cycle that we're here for, like, love makes it better. Love makes the whole sharing.

[A]

It's what Someone.

[B]

This little slice of journey that you're having. You know what I'm saying?

[A]

More fun or. I don't know. Yeah, just share it with somebody.

[B]

I think you owe it to yourself to not give up on it and just find it. Try to find it. Because once you do, you're like, that One guy said 67 years wasn't enough. He said. He said what we had. 67 years wasn't enough, he said, because it got better every time. It got better anyway.

[A]

Yeah, he said, because he was like. So what did he say? He's like, 65 was better than year one.

[B]

Yeah, 65 was better than year one. Oh.

[A]

What about me first stood out to you physically? That's.

[B]

We already answered. I already.

[A]

My boobs.

[B]

Yeah, your titties. I mean, I was in the seventh grade.

[A]

That was your answer. No, I'm just kidding. I never even saw the dick for a long time.

[B]

You're. She was actually. Guys, she was.

[A]

Oh, you want to pull one?

[B]

Oh, yeah.

[A]

I was a prude.

[B]

Yeah, you were.

[A]

Well, had to make sure you were gonna stick around.

[B]

No.

[A]

Okay.

[B]

Yeah. Have I ever betrayed your trust in. In any way, big or small? What would help rebuild that trust? Jesus.

[A]

Well, we've already rebuilt trust, for sure. I think the only thing for me, which. God, we've been together so long, it's, like, over with now. But the. I think the only thing that really hurt me was back in the day when you dumped me for another girl because she said that I was cheating on you when it wasn't true or accurate.

[B]

Right.

[A]

And then you ended up dating her and. Yeah. She was not a very nice person.

[B]

No. No, she wasn't.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay, next one. What fight of ours did you struggle with most? What felt particularly hard for you about it?

[A]

Mine would be, which. We've talked about this on a previous episode, but I would have to say the time when we quote, unquote, I guess separated, that was the hardest for me.

[B]

Yeah.

[A]

We didn't really suffering, but, yeah, I think that was the hardest for me especially just, like, being pregnant, having all these feelings and emotions. I'm like, oh, my God, he doesn't. Does he not want to be with me? We're gonna get divorced. Yeah. All that.

[B]

I. I would have to say when we were younger. Yeah. All that stuff, Florida stuff, just was killing.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Yeah. Killed me. Okay. Oh, I don't know what this means.

[A]

What does it say?

[B]

Wild card.

[A]

Oh.

[B]

Between the two of us, who apologizes first after a fight?

[A]

Me.

[B]

Write down their name and compare answers. Oh, I get. If you're supposed to do something like.

[A]

This, I feel like I apologize first.

[B]

I apologize. You mean I apologize.

[A]

You do, But I feel like I apologize more.

[B]

I mean, okay, yes, you definitely apologize more than me. What question felt most vulnerable for you to ask?

[A]

That's nothing. Yeah, that's dumb reflection.

[B]

No more wild cards.

[A]

Why? What is this one?

[B]

I don't know.

[A]

Rate each other's cooking skills on a scale of 1 to 10.

[B]

Oh. Oh. I would say you are definitely a solid 7.5.

[A]

Okay, I was gonna say 8.

[B]

I almost said 8, but then I'm like, yeah, no, I would say 8. I would say 8. I would Say 8. Yeah, I would.

[A]

Yeah.

[B]

Okay.

[A]

You're all about seasoning.

[B]

Rate each other's cuddling skills on a scale of 1 to 10.

[A]

Oh, 10.

[B]

10.

[A]

He's always the big spoon.

[B]

We fit together like.

[A]

Like PB and J.

[B]

Listen and listen. Dead arm, one arm under the head, which, you know, you got dead out of your guy. Big spoon, I guess, whatever. One arm under the head, other hand. Titty perfectly fit. Like a little spoon.

[A]

Comfy.

[B]

10. 10 out of 11. Out of 10?

[A]

Yeah. Love cuddles. So I kind of fall asleep last night. Life, dude. What?

[B]

What title would you give this chapter of our sex life?

[A]

Wait, what title?

[B]

Yeah. Title? Yeah, that's what it said. What title would you give this chapter?

[A]

No. Given. I don't know. That's just what came to my mind.

[B]

No, that's actually exactly.

[A]

Even the one night I was like. I thought we were. I thought, like, don't you care about, like, being quiet anymore?

[B]

I know, dude.

[A]

I was like, what's going on?

[B]

I thought we were like, bro, like.

[A]

And we have to be because she's right there.

[B]

Okay, well, you better tell yourself that, dude. I'm over here, like, having a great time, and I'm. Look, I'm like. But I'm also like, hey, man, what you. I'm.

[A]

We need to switch her room. She needs to go downstairs, cuz.

[B]

I'm like, just, what? What? Tonight? You don't care, like, what's going on? Sometimes I'm like, whatever. I don't care. Traumatize the children.

[A]

I don't got a traumatize children.

[B]

You're like, listen, we'll pay for therapy later. But this moment is mine and you're claiming it. I guess. Hey, whatever. Funny.

[A]

It's so funny.

[B]

Quiet.

[A]

Hello.

[B]

My God. Can you get a house?

[A]

She's got to switch rooms.

[B]

That's stupid. When during this game, did you feel connected to me it's like, what?

[A]

We don't care about that.

[B]

In what ways is the relationship unlike any other before? Well, you're not a hoe and you didn't cheat on me, so that's good.

[A]

You're not drug addict. You don't have a big nose up. That's up. That is.

[B]

Man, you better calm your ass down. I don't know what else to think of.

[A]

God.

[B]

You said big nose dick.

[A]

Do your best impersonation of each other. Did you know? Did you know that our bodies are 99.9-stardust? Oh, also. And it's like 10:30 at night, you know, and you're laying it, but did you know?

[B]

No, listen, be honest because I'm telling you, I know there are times that I'm speaking or I'll be and you're just like, like you are just like.

[A]

Sometimes I just don't want to think.

[B]

I always want to think.

[A]

Yeah, I don't like. No, sometimes I don't want to think because I think all day.

[B]

Okay, well.

[A]

And I'm over stimulated all day and.

[B]

It seems like you're not thinking a lot or try not to think a lot.

[A]

All day.

[B]

No, not all day. I'm saying, I'm saying when you're saying like you're.

[A]

No, at night time, I'm like those.

[B]

Moments in time when I'm like saying something. I look over, I can just tell. And you're just imagining. She didn't listen.

[A]

Some, some.

[B]

All right, but listen, can you just look at me and say I. I didn't hear anything you just said.

[A]

Yeah, no, I hear what you say. Yes, I do. I do. I hear what you say.

[B]

Yes, you hear what I say. But you're just like. Or what? What? You know what I'm saying?

[A]

I don't know. Sometimes I'm just.

[B]

What? I gotta be annoying. I understand this.

[A]

No, it's not annoying. I feel like sometimes.

[B]

And guys, don't let her fool you. I know, I'm in my head. I know.

[A]

I feel like sometimes at the end of the day, I have been so over stimulated all day, I want to sit and not think about nothing.

[B]

No, it happens. Not even at night time, middle a day when you're on the phone, I can see on your phone, you're on something, you're doing whatever. And I'm like.

[A]

Please, Mr. Scroller, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll, scroll.

[B]

I'm saying in the moments that I'm looking, you know what I mean? I'll be. Yeah, say something. And then I can see You. And you're just like. I can tell. I'm like, yeah, she's doing the head.

[A]

Here's Ty with this. Did you know? I'm just kidding.

[B]

But why not just say, I don't want to hear anything right now.

[A]

That sounds rude as fuck.

[B]

Is it really? Yeah. Is that rude? I want to talk right now or not? Not right now. Or how do you do it? How would you do it right now? Well, see, when you. I'm not very honest, you know, I can't. Like, if I'm doing something, I can't.

[A]

I know. Yeah, you don't know. You don't even answer. You just ignore. And I'm like, hello?

[B]

Because I. Because I had to make a choice.

[A]

So you ignore me. But let's.

[B]

You ignore me.

[A]

But you just, like, attached to the phone.

[B]

No, no, no.

[A]

Yeah, that's what happens usually when I'm.

[B]

Writing or I'm reading. If I'm reading, bro, it's really hard. I cannot stop. Because if I stop reading now, I'm gonna lose a place. Yeah, but like. Yeah, it's usually when that happens. And then I. But I say, I can't talk right now. I can't. I don't hear what you're saying. Or I'll say, I don't know. You just said, I don't know. You just said. Yeah.

[A]

Okay. What? Yeah, you short circuit.

[B]

I get like, I'm reading or whatever. I don't know.

[A]

Oh, I gotta go get these kids. Oh, okay. Wait, it's 226. Oh, okay.

[B]

Oh, my God. I'm so sorry, guys. We're. What a sloppy episode.

[A]

We're just all over the place.

[B]

Sorry.

[A]

All right. What's one way our relationship has gotten better over time?

[B]

What's one way it's gotten better? Yeah, I honestly, in every way I.

[A]

Could think I'll say.

[B]

I feel like everything. Communication, everything. Just all of it. I mean, just all of it. I would. Yeah.

[A]

Like that old guy said, oh, 67.

[B]

Years is never enough.

[A]

He said, 65 was better than year one.

[B]

Better than year one. And it just kept getting better in 67 years wasn't enough for what we were experiencing with each other. That's what he said, bro, that quote. But, dude. Yeah. Yeah, I was crying in bed last night, like a little.

[A]

No, it is sad even that. Even the old guy that was crying on the. There was an old guy crying on the news this morning. Don't cry, because I'm gonna cry. Listen, listen, Linda. Okay?

[B]

Thanks for being with us while we're Just sloppy and.

[A]

Well, I'm super excited. Well, well, not classy, but I'm super excited. We have some guests coming up in the future that I'm super excited for you guys to hear.

[B]

Yeah, we've been busy planning, kind of getting the whole.

[A]

Yes, we get to get. We get to recording with all those people in like two weeks. Actually. Less than two weeks.

[B]

Yes, less than two weeks. Yeah.

[A]

So I'm super excited that. For that. That's like a whole different variety of people. Like, just a variety of people. And so that'll be fun. And please make sure you guys like and rate our show. That helps us out a lot. Check out our Patreon, where you can watch full video episodes a week later. And we love you guys and we just appreciate the support and, you know, all the love. Not stay classy.

[B]

Stay classy at your level, your level.

[A]

And have a good week.

[B]

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