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Alrighty, guys. Welcome back to K and Ty Break It Down. This week's episode is just with me and Ty.
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Oh, my. Everyone keeps saying, like, hey, what's going on? Like, all right.
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I'm sure people will be excited about that. I think for us, it was just really, what's going on in our life right now is a lot of adoption stuff. That's what was kind of going on. And I feel like, you know, we kind of realized a lot of adoptees don't have voices and other birth parents. So I feel like that's why we recorded so many episodes with adoptees and. And, you know, people involved in the adoption triad and stuff.
B
I think people are just getting like. They're like, all right, adoption, adoption, adoption. But it's like, you have to understand we're recording these in real time.
A
Yeah.
B
As things happen in life. And that's just what's happening right now.
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Right. And when we went and recorded all of those, it was like we went to New York City on purpose and we had a bunch of adoptees and people that have wrote adoption books and birth parents. And so there will definitely be some more adoptive voices shared.
B
Yeah. Because we have more stories to tell.
A
Right.
B
But we hear you guys. We understand. We're breaking it up.
A
I get it. Like, Okay. I get it. Sorry. Sorry for the delay in just me and Ty.
B
Yeah. But I also feel like even. I mean, I just feel like there are certain aspects in this whole journey that we're never going to do. Right. People are always gonna hate on us.
A
And I mean. Yeah. I remember when we first started, I said I could be, like, out in the streets feeding the homeless and somebody be like, you're giving him too many carbs. You know, like, they'll always pick up something to hate on.
B
Alcohol with that money. What's wrong with you?
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Right? Or like I said, I'm feed. Literally feeding them. They would hate on me for it. Like, no matter what you do in life when you're in the spotlight.
B
Yeah. But I think it's way different. Like, Tick Tock is just, like, this most toxic place I've ever seen.
A
I feel like it's your algorithm or something.
B
I haven't. I don't spend enough time on it. Maybe you're right. Because I. I'll go to Tick Tock only to post, like, our podcast stuff.
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Yeah. Because, like, my stuff is always, like, funny stuff.
B
I need to get.
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I mean, obviously I will see some negative things about us every once in a while, and I just scroll right past it. I don't even give it the time of day.
B
Well, yeah, I mean, I don't either, but I just feel like that's all it is because I guess I. It's probably because I'm posting about our podcast and hashtag and all. I don't know how.
A
I don't know why it is for you, but. Yeah, it's a lot of toxicity.
B
Well, no. And there's people on there that have a whole accounts dedicated to just us.
A
It's insane to hating literal hating.
B
Their obsession is create. Like, I actually would like to say you're welcome to that because of the fact that, like, you're welcome for giving you 16 years worth of learning and growing and making a lot of mistakes for you to use.
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Because we were growing.
B
For you to stitch together.
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Yeah.
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To further this preconceived narrative about us that you hate us so much or whatever. So you're welcome for giving you 16 years worth of learning and growing and making mistakes on national television for you to be able to cut together to further push your narrative of who we are and what's wrong with us and why we deserve all the hate and whatever. Whatever. And it's like, I want to say, you're welcome for giving you that. All that. And also for you to be so obsessed with it that you're creating your own echo chamber to fill.
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Yeah.
B
People who only have that same idea.
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Like that one girl, like our friend Aaron, who she was not Dopty, that was on our. On the podcast. She. She messaged me all the time. She's like, oh, God. So and so's at it again with her 156th video of you guys. I'm like, she's got a lot of damn time on her hands.
B
She loves me.
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Right. Like, what? You're so obsessed.
B
But it's weird because, like, I noticed that they create their own echo chamber. Like, they don't want to hear, like.
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Well, they block anybody that, like, tries to stick up for us or anything.
B
These adoptees write me and say I was just trying to correct them on certain stuff, and they literally were like, no, block, whatever.
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Because you don't agree. Like, you said, you don't agree with our echo, you know, or what we believe in. So you're blocked, and now you can't comment.
B
I just wanted to take a moment to say you're welcome.
A
Yeah. Yeah. Your TikTok is definitely super negative.
B
I know. But I. I'm not on it enough. That's probably my problem, right?
A
I don't know. Yeah. What do you do? You just watch, like, Instagram reels or. Where are you watching? Like, boring.
B
I'm a grown up, all right? I watch Tick Tock.
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I'm a grown up. I watch Tick Tock.
B
I watch Tick Tocks on Instagram, Instagram reels posted up. Tick Tocks. I don't.
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Lame.
B
Is that the millennial in me, maybe?
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No, because I'm a millennial and I totally would rather do Tick Tock. That's like, when he. You hopped up on Instagram Instagram Live, like, a week ago, and I was like, ew. Instagram Live. Like, that's gross. Like, you need to go on Tik Tok Live.
B
I will say Tik Tok Live is a little more, like, way better. Yeah.
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Like, yeah, you get so many more views.
B
Like, you know, I don't know any of this.
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I don't know. But yeah, it was funny. Cuz even my friend was like, where is he? I can't find him. And she's like, oh. I was like, I know. I hate to. I hate Instagram Live. She was like, me too.
B
Why does everyone hate it?
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I don't know. I just feel like it's better. But yeah, your algorithm is messed up.
B
So maybe I just need to invest in it more, I guess.
A
But you're. You're a Tick Tock hater, so. Yeah. Like, come on, dude.
B
Well, dude, this app is insane. It. It's. Something's off with it.
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No, like, you were so happy it was getting banned, and I'm like, you're weird.
B
Like, why, dude? Because I'm telling you, I even. Just a little amount of time I spend on it, I can see the. This crazy algorithm in this. It's like they're mind reading. You could be saying something about babies, and all of a sudden it's just like, baby stuff. And it's just. It's. Dude, it's crazy.
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Honestly, I feel like Facebook's a little worse because ever since we booked our Disney trip, that's all my reels have been.
B
Dude, it's my first time going to Disney.
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I know. Are you excited?
B
I'm actually super pumped.
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Yeah. So for people that don't know Ty, we've talked about booking a Disney trip for literally years.
B
Oh, my God.
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Yeah.
B
Long time.
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Really long time. And so we finally just booked our Disney trip for fall. Sometime in fall. And it'll be Ty's first time. My first time is like an adult. I. I was like, 10 when we went. And it'll be, you know, first time for our Kids. All of our kids. And Nova's 10, so she's, you know, it is a good time. Like, we have to do it now.
B
Yeah, well, I didn't want to wait. I didn't want to do it too early because I feel like kids ain't gonna remember nothing.
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Well, Rya's not gonna remember crap when we take her.
B
I know, but. But our oldest is 10.
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Yeah.
B
So we had to do it. Now. Maybe we'll take Ryan again.
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Right. Vadel will remember. But we've already missed that window with Nova where she's, like, not into princesses or anything. But that's why I'm excited we're doing Universal with her because she. She's like, listening to all the Harry Potter books right now. Oh, yeah. She, like, knows the stories. She's been watching the movies as she. After she listens to the books and stuff. So I'm excited to take her to Universal.
B
I'm pumped because I got her into Harry Potter. I said, yeah, listen, if you don't like Harry Potter, something's wrong with you.
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Love it.
B
It is not like Harry Potter. Yeah, like, dude, it's amazing when she sees Universal Studios.
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My only fear with her is like, you know, we took her to Cedar Point last year, and for people that don't know, Cedar Point is like a huge amusement park in Ohio with tons of roller coasters and stuff. And we took her on one roller coaster after that. She got off, started crying, and didn't ride crap the rest of the day. I'm like, that's all Disney and Universal is. Is rides.
B
That was.
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So what are we gonna do? I thought about that the other day. I'm like, what are we gonna do? We take Nova, and she doesn't want.
B
To go on anything the time that let me take over. Yeah, okay.
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Like, they have that, like, in Hogwarts. They have that cool bike ride where you get on the bikes and you ride with what's his face. She's gon ride, you know, like, oh, she better dude around. That's a big, big ass waste of money.
B
For real. No, this is. This is the moment. I know. People are like, it's so wrong. Don't force him. No, you're riding. You're riding the roller coaster and you're gonna lock your seat down. And the. The. The last time the person was like, do you want to get off? I said, no, she's fine.
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And she was crying and he was like, he let her off.
B
He let her off. I said, bro, I'm the parent yeah.
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No, it's a. Dang, man. I mean, imagine being a worker. You. I would feel so bad. There ain't no way in hell.
B
Well, I gave him the. I said, man, that's crazy.
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Yep. Yeah. So. I don't know. We'll. We'll have to see.
B
I know. I can't be alone, though. I know. There's got to be other adults who've never been to Disney World.
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Oh, for sure.
B
Because I, like, I'm telling you, like, it's something that I always wanted to do, but obviously my mom can never afford it.
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I mean, my mom couldn't afford it either was my grandma that paid for us. But I do have to say, like, I remember the first day we did. I think it was Universal Studios, and I was like, 10 or 11 years old, and I was traumatized. Absolutely. Universal trauma ties. Yes. Because there's this we. My mom took me in this one thing at Universal, so it's like, realistic like that, you know, it's like movies there. You do these rides, and it's like, you are in this movie, and it was an alien one. And it's like, you all sit in these chairs. I don't know.
B
You ever seen the movie Alien?
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Yeah, but all I know is, like, you go and you sit in these chairs, and there's a tube full of water with an alien inside the water. And there's like, all these scientists and stuff. And then all of a sudden, they start freaking out. The lights go black and the alien escapes out of the tube. And he's, like, breathing in the back. Your neck. You can hear him walking around the room. I was sobbing, freaking out, sobbing. I remember there being, like, holes on the back of the chair, and I thought, like, some shit's gonna come out there and, like, bite my neck, you know? Like, I was freaking out. So I'm like, lean down. My mom is laughing hysterically, hysterically at me because I'm freaking out. We get out of there, and I'm like, this is crazy. Like, I'm never going on anything ever again. And then right after that, we did the Jurassic park ride. And it's like, in the beginning, it's water, it's all pretty, and it's like you got the long necks, and it's so cool, dude. Yes. And they start breaking out, attacking. And then you're like, you know, you go to this freaking T. Rex that's, like, chomping at your boat. Huge T. Rex. I'm freaking out.
B
Is it a robot or it's like a vision oh, it's robots.
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Oh, so it's like a. Yeah, like. No, it's real. You know, like, it looks real, and it's.
B
It was how old, though?
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I was like, 10 or 11.
B
Oh, wow.
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After that, I wouldn't go on not another. Damn right. They even tried to get me to ride on the Popeye ride, which is like, a water ride, and I was like, hell, no. I don't give a. About Popeye. No.
B
Dramatized.
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Yes. So you got to be careful with, like, that, because Universal is so real.
B
Like, so if you're talking about Alien, like, you ever see the movie Alien?
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No. You know, I've never really watched that. No.
B
It's a horror movie, so the fact that.
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Yeah, I was in a horror ride, freaking out.
B
The fact that your mom put you on a horror movie ride is freaky.
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And then they were so upset because I wouldn't want to go on anything else. Well, are you kidding me? I was damn traumatized.
B
Like, funny.
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And I don't really remember Disney too much. No. And I think it's because I was freaking. All I remember is the bad stuff. Jurassic park ride and the Alien ride. That's all I remember. And not wanting to go on the Popeye water ride. So you got to be careful with.
B
Stuff like that once or twice.
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Once.
B
Okay.
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But we've been to, like, Universal in California, but it's not the same. It's really not.
B
No. Like, I was actually disappointed because I saw the. I'm thinking. I'm thinking. I didn't know there's a difference between California Disney World and. And Universal versus Florida. I had no clue. I thought they're both exactly the same.
A
No, no, dude, Florida's way better.
B
Yeah. That's what I mean, the pictures. I was like, what the.
A
Yeah. So I'm super. I'm excited for that trip. I think Veda and Rye are gonna have a blast. So is Nova, like, Junior Universal?
B
Because, honestly, Nova, she actually. She don't like Disney princesses, which maybe she doesn't, but I catch her playing with.
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Well, she'll play Barbies and stuff. Yeah. But. But some of those other, like, rides are going to be fun and cool. Like, the frozen ride is. I mean, I will love that. You know, like, certain things like. That I do remember, like, they have, like, a Winnie the Pooh ride, and that was fun and cute.
B
The Winnie the Pooh.
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Okay.
B
Yeah, sure.
A
But. No, but I'm excited. I'm excited for that trip. Especially because you've never been.
B
I've never been, and I'M actually. I get to experience it for the first time myself with my kids. Yeah, I'm very lucky guy.
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Except, damn Disney. When I was talking to this lady, I was telling me, buy tickets and stuff. I'm like, this is wrong.
B
What?
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Like, Disney should be for every child. Well, you know what I mean? Like, for every kid. And it's not.
B
It's not.
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It's not. And that is messed up.
B
You can't afford. We can't. No one can afford that.
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It's wrong.
B
I'm surprised people are even going.
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That's. Why do you think we. I, like, didn't book it for years. Because every time I'd go to book, I'm like, this is stupid. Like, I'm not doing. This is dumb. Like, exp. Expensive dumb, you know? But so then finally. I know. Then finally I bit the bullet. But that's what I mean. Disney is messed up. Like, it's for kids. But then not every kid can go. That's sad.
B
Well, maybe we should do a Disney sponsorship.
A
I know, right? Because that's so sad to me.
B
It is sad.
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Yeah.
B
It deserves it.
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To experience it.
B
I would see pictures. My friends would come back to school.
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Yeah.
B
They'd be gone. They come back with a tan. You know?
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Right.
B
I went to Disney. I'm like, oh, picture shirts.
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Yeah.
B
And I'm just like, that sounds great.
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I know. It is.
B
You know, I'm like, that sounds cool.
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It is super.
B
And then when you tell them as kids, oh, like when you went to Disney on the ones at Disney World, I'm like, I never went to Disney World.
A
Right. Never been.
B
And they're like, you never went to Disney World. I'm like, dude, right?
A
Your mom couldn't. Your mom can't afford that crap.
B
I might have to work at a bar. It's a fetus.
A
Yeah. But I mean, this has been years in the making, so I'm excited. I'm excited for it.
B
Yeah, I'm excited.
A
Thankfully, your mom's coming, so she can take Raya when she, like, you know.
B
Yeah. But it is really expensive, and it's not fair.
A
No, it's not fair. It's sad. It is sad, but I'm looking forward to it. I'm excited.
B
Yeah.
A
Excited to take the kids. What other life updates do we have going on? Well, Nova. What? She finished her cheer. Competitive cheers over.
B
Oh, my gosh. For all you cheer parents. You guys know how it is, man. The traveling, the money, the. The insanity, the culture, the. The parents, the screaming and the just crying when they kids crying.
A
Yeah, dude.
B
The amount of girls crying.
A
I know, Ty. Yeah.
B
It's almost kind of disheartening. I'm like, this poor child is just destroyed.
A
Yeah. And they were all crying for a bunch of different reasons.
B
One. One's moving away. One didn't mad. They didn't hit zero. One. It's like, man, she was a whole different thing, man.
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It really is.
B
But Noah loves it.
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Yeah. But she. Even this. She was like, after this season, she's like, I just want to take a break from it.
B
Which we're like, that's cool.
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Yeah.
B
I think it's important, like, let the kid. I'm not like, I understand if they make a commitment I want them to make. I want them to see the commitment through. Right.
A
That was Nova on the team. Right.
B
You gotta keep going. When the season's over, you have an opportunity to not do it again.
A
Right. And be done.
B
Yeah.
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Because even she was fighting me the last couple weeks about not wanting to go to practice, things like that, I'm like, absolutely not. You are part of a team, and without you, your team cannot do what they are coming and showing up to do. So. No, you have. Sorry.
B
You have to.
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Yeah.
B
I don't think it's right to, like, let them just quit in the middle.
A
No, not at all. I will not.
B
Especially because they're team. So if you quit, you're letting everyone else down. And that's not how it works.
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And plus, there was a few times, too. She'd go to practice and then come out, and she's like, I'm so glad you made me go. I had so much fun. I'm like, ah. Remember that? Lock that in your brain, kid. So, yeah, competitive season of cheer is done. Which this year was crazy. Yeah. Like Chicago, Nashville, Ohio, you know? But also, Nova loves it. Yeah. They. She makes tons of memories and makes friends. And now I just. Veda just had her first little taste tryout practice. I'm hoping she likes cheer because I personally, me, I love the cheer stuff. I love.
B
I mean, I like it. It's just. Dude.
A
But I'm saying I love the moms. I love the experiences. I love the kids being able to experience things. And if Veda ends up liking it, sorry, Nova's gonna have to be the same way as it was. Like, now it's about Veda when we do competitive cheer. Like, I think that's only fair, you know, like, because it was about. All right, this is our time where we get to spend time with quality, like, quality time with Novo. When we go to different places and go to hotels.
B
Now here's the thing, though. Do we bring. What if Nova wants to go to Vedas, do we let her go?
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I don't know.
B
What do we do?
A
I don't know. Part of me is like, that's not really fair.
B
She couldn't come to.
A
Because she came to a couple. Yeah.
B
A couple. Which was fine. And Noah was fine with it. But at the end of the day, we like to say that it's Nova's thing.
A
Yeah. And it's our time to spend with her. Just like when we take note Beta to gymnastics and stuff. I don't take any other kids with me. I'm like, no, no. It's my quality time with you.
B
Hell no. But no, you can't go.
A
Yep. I don't know. We'll have to play by ear. Maybe we let her come to a couple. I don't really know. Yeah, maybe. I don't know. Well, that's. Even if Babe even ends up liking it, you know, she seemed to really enjoy it yesterday though, so I'm kind of hope. Part of me is like, please, like, cheer.
B
I think she'll like it.
A
It's fine.
B
She went through a couple times in Nova. She was just like.
A
The coach yesterday was really impressed with Beta's handstands.
B
This girl, she's been practicing the living room, almost breaking her neck and stuff. I'm like, dude, it's stressful. I'm like, dad, watch this. She goes, yeah. She literally throws her head first. Dude, you gotta. Dude, you gotta have your hands.
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Gotta brace yourself, cuz.
B
She's just one. Watch head first. And then putting her hands out. I'm like, dude, oh my God.
A
Yeah, she. So the coach was pretty impressed yesterday with her handstands. And I'm like, oh, yep. She does them all the time, everywhere, you know. And the one mom was like, oh, my gosh. She almost like threw herself over in her handstand. She was just like, yeah, she's. She's wild, but she likes it. She loves to flip and stuff, so I hope she likes it. And then with Nova, too, I told her, I said, well, cheers over. Because Nova's very much like, I want to have the summer off. And I'm like, I don't blame you. Kids like summer, you want to camp and swim and, you know, just do kid things. Yeah. But I told her, I said, but you need to be in something. Whether you pick up more art classes, whether you want to do horseback riding or swim or whatever. It Is. But, like, I want you to be in something at least.
B
She said she wants to do more art classes, but.
A
Yeah. And then she was like, I really would. I really would like to do horseback riding. I'm like, that's fine. But I feel like kids, especially where we live in the middle of nowhere, the childhoods me and you had, like, I feel. I feel like they have to be involved in something just to keep your mind, like, busy and making friends out here.
B
When you think about it, like, the amount of time. Well, the amount of time that our kids are at home, like, is. When I was Nova's age, I didn't come home to the street. Lights came out.
A
No, we were riding our bikes and.
B
Yeah. And. But they don't live in, like, a town. No, we live out in the middle of nowhere.
A
Got to be driven to somebody's house. Literally, you know, Literally, you can't even.
B
Ride your bike to your friend's house. You know what I'm saying? Because dirt roads are so. It's like, they have a totally different, like, childhood and lifestyle, I feel like, than we did.
A
That's why I think it's important. Yeah. Literally. But I had fun.
B
I had so much.
A
So much fun.
B
I'm saying, like, a part of me is kind of sad for him. Like, dang, you don't get to experience, like, what that was like.
A
Right. Like, you know, riding to your front. Riding your bike to your friend's house.
B
And the only way you knew where everyone was with all the bikes in the front yard, I was like, oh, they're over. They're over. Yo. Someone's house.
A
I feel like we were the last good generation for that, though.
B
I think we were.
A
So that's why I'm like, I want them to be involved in something. That's how you make friends. And even when she had the whole middle school thing, like, she saw friends that she met at Cheer that don't even go to the same school she does now, but they're all merging at the one school now, like, next year. And it's funny. I'm like, see, look at all these girls.
B
This whole thing. This whole thing about fifth grade and middle school is just. It's messing my mind up because I remember fifth grade very clearly, and I could not imagine being in middle school at fifth grade. Like, what?
A
Yeah, but they have their own wing and stuff, too. Like, I don't.
B
It's weird.
A
It is what it is. Do you think it's weird? When I first. Yeah. When we first moved here and I Found out, like, fifth grades at the middle school and not the elementary school. Yeah, that was weird to me. But then I've talked to a lot of the parents. I've talked to, you know, a dad that works at the school, and just the way that they have talked about it, and I'm like, oh, okay, that, you know, that makes sense. They very much so, like, want to keep them private. They don't interact with the, you know, seventh, sixth, seventh, and eighth graders. They have their own lunches, all of that. Like, I mean, it is what it is.
B
I guess it makes sense, too, because you do four years of elementary, and then technically you do four years of.
A
I mean, middle school and then four years of high school. Yeah.
B
All right. I just feel like fifth graders being in middle school is weird. And they do combination locks, and it's just different.
A
We're not used to it, so. And, you know, they have playground. Yeah, they do.
B
That was crazy.
A
I'm glad that they do, though. I was nervous about not having recess in fifth grade. Like, come on now.
B
Do you remember when we first went to middle school, though? And you, like, there's just nothing.
A
It was weird.
B
It was weird. That's a basketball court, a couple tables.
A
Yeah. We all just.
B
At recess. I'm like, what do we do?
A
Stood around and gossiped. Looked at each other's faces. That's all we did. Yeah, it was. That's why. Yeah. It is nice that they have a playground there. So. Yeah, that's crazy. Nova going into a whole totally different school next year. Then you have little Veda.
B
Oh, don't.
A
She makes me sad.
B
It's okay. She's fine. She's exactly where she needs to be.
A
Yeah. She makes me sad, though.
B
I mean, we had to make the decision, and we did. I mean, I think it's. I think it's the right. I think it's the right move. We had the beats with her teachers. She needs to do one more year kindergarten before moving on. It's fine. A lot of kids.
A
I know, but it makes, like, her friends. She loves, like, you know, she's got little friends that she says, you know, talks about, and, like, they'll say bye in the drive lines and, you know.
B
Like, I know we'll still make friends. I know it's.
A
It is. I mean, I think that's so hard as, like, a parent. It's like, I know it's the best thing for her. We've had. I love the school district that we're in. We've had tons of meetings with her teachers and like, her. Her. The other people that pull her out for classroom. Out of the classroom. So, like, speech. And there's another lady that helps her with, like, writing and stuff like that. And we've met up, like, gosh, I think we've met like, four times this year.
B
Yeah.
A
And I mean, from the beginning, I've always, like, I've kind of pep talked myself. I feel like, where I'm like, listen, you guys are the professionals. If, you know, if you're at the end of the year, I want to have a meeting because if you guys feel like she needs extra support and more time, then obviously I want her to be. I'd rather her be held back in kindergarten than do it in, like, first or fifth grade grade or fourth grade. But I think that is still, like, no matter how much you pep yourself up for, and, you know, it's the best thing, it still sucks. Like, I feel bad for her, like, but I also. I don't want her to grow up struggling through school and not being able to catch on and.
B
Well, I don't want to set up for failure. And I feel like pushing her into first grade is just. That's exactly what it would do.
A
Yeah.
B
And plus, I think with the way we explained, it was great. We're just like, you're. You're so good. At kindergarten, the teacher wanted you to stay one more year to help all the other kids.
A
I know.
B
It's like she was like, oh, my. Yeah, see?
A
I know. But then she says, she's like, but I really want to go to first grade. And I'm like, I know. I know, Vader.
B
You will, baby. It's so sad.
A
I do. I almost cried in the classroom.
B
No, I know. I could tell you're. I. I know. I could tell.
A
Yeah. I'm like, I want to cry, but I'm not gonna cry in front of all these people because I know it's the right thing for her.
B
It's so hard, though.
A
Yeah, it is. I mean, that's even like when she was in preschool and I broke down just by them saying, like, she struggles more than most kids. And I'm like, oh, my God, I knew it.
B
You know, like, known she's had a little things about her, you know.
A
Yeah.
B
She has just the loud noise. She gets scared.
A
Yeah. She has the sensory things.
B
And it's okay. It's. It's.
A
Yeah.
B
She reminds me a lot of me when I was little. And I wonder. I wonder. I just wonder a lot. This stuff.
A
Yeah.
B
About myself.
A
Right.
B
Watching Beta, like, as an adult, like, as an apparent parenting her.
A
Yeah.
B
Like, I'm just like, yeah. I see some stuff that I'm like, interesting, because if you don't understand it, you're gonna. I think people like people. I got. I was. I was always criticized for just being, like, misbehaved.
A
Yeah.
B
I was right. Didn't behave right. I was, you know, insubordinate.
A
Thankfully, we don't have that problem with her.
B
No. Right. But, like, I look at certain things that she does, or she'll question certain things or something will bother her.
A
Yeah.
B
You know what? I'm like, like, and most people will be like, you better just, you know, be respectful. It's like. But it's not that. It's like, when you have issues like that, it's different.
A
I feel like it is different, too. Like, she, like, even Vieta gets very, like, angry fast or frustrated fast or. Than normal kids would. I feel like, more so at home, thankfully.
B
Order.
A
Right. I would rather have that at home than at school any day, so. God, your poor mother. But, yeah, because I just noticed, like, she's just. And she's always been like that. I remember her being, like, little, little and just getting mad because she couldn't talk.
B
Yep.
A
And she'd get frustrated because.
B
What? Milk, chair? What?
A
And she would get so frustrated then. Yeah. So. But I mean, the good thing is, is, too, is, like, how we're. They all showed us yesterday at the school meeting. Like, she's progressing.
B
She is.
A
You know, it's. I've said, well, it's good. I'm glad the line's not going down. It's going up. You know, it's just taking her a little bit longer and still sucks. I know.
B
I think she's got. I think kids like her come in with a wiser soul than their body can externally represent. Like, does that make sense? Like, they're. They're. They've been here before. They know, like, shut up, idiots. Like, I know what I'm doing, even though they don't. Like, like, they're almost like their soul is wiser than their bodies, capable of producing or showing.
A
Right.
B
And it's like, so that's. They get. They get so frustrated because it's just like, dude, you're not getting it.
A
I guess the other plus is, like, it's going to set her up for success, which that's obviously what we want as parents. And also, her and Rye will be, like, in the same schools.
B
Yep.
A
Throughout. They might miss, like, one year away from each other. When she goes to the middle school. Yeah.
B
Go through school.
A
And they're already super close. Yeah, Those two are super close. Yeah. And then little Ms. Raya. What? She's gonna be in preschool full time next year. I know, but right now she's. What? Yeah. You know, just two days a week. And she's about to be four.
B
All day every day.
A
That's what she's gonna do, Ty.
B
Why, though?
A
Because that's how you set them up for success, is you put them in preschool.
B
Can't we just, like. Whatever. I already thought about 8 million.
A
Thankfully, though, she'll be with the teacher that, you know, we both adore, and she's had every single one of our kids.
B
It's true.
A
And I think it's good for them. It starts teaching them their names and ABCs and numbers and.
B
But that means we're gonna go six hours of not seeing her.
A
Yeah. It's not even six, is it?
B
Whatever. I don't know what it is. It feels like nine, right?
A
I know.
B
It's all day.
A
No, I think. Yeah. Next. Yeah. After this summer, it'll be the first year of, like, we literally have no babies in the house.
B
What the.
A
That's crazy. Yeah. What the Is going on crazy?
B
Maybe just I have another one. Maybe.
A
I don't want to start all over. Sometimes I think about it and then they start fighting and screaming at each.
B
Other, and I'm like, I tell you what. That is one of the most unexpected struggles that I didn't think I would have after getting snipped.
A
Yeah.
B
Was like, even if I wanted one, I couldn't.
A
You could. There's other ways.
B
Yeah, but I did, like, without just, you know, I have to go get snit. I did, like, make it. I plan it out. I mean, I really, you know.
A
Right.
B
Like.
A
Right.
B
This is a whole different.
A
It's not like I just get off birth control or we stop using production and then have a baby.
B
I'm never gonna. I'm never gonna, like, rub your belly or nothing.
A
No. Or hold a little newborn.
B
That's sad to me.
A
We're 32.
B
I know, but I love you. I love your pregnant.
A
We're 32 or 33?
B
We're 33.
A
Okay.
B
We are third, guys. You have no idea. Okay. You guys understand?
A
She.
B
You don't. She. What did you say the other, like, couple weeks ago, you were like, am I 34? I'm not 34. I'm like, you're not 34. I'm 34. You are not 34. I increase your age. And usually people go, I'm like 31. No, you're 33. Say, no, I'm 30. I'm like, you're, you're, you're adding a year.
A
No, I forget, I forget how old I am.
B
33. We're 33.
A
I do. I forget how. Well, yeah. Okay, so I'm 33.
B
Are we sure?
A
Yeah, Like, I don't want to start over again. I mean, there's days that, where I'm like, yes, I would love to have a newborn baby and experience the hospital. Hospital. Or I wish I would have. I wish I would have soaked in the hospital moments more or whatever. Like I, I go through all these mental things or like sometimes I think of like, oh, wow, you know, like a little thing next to my bed or whatever. And then I'm like, but I also don't want to start over.
B
I know.
A
You know? And it's like I saw something on Tick Tock actually the other day where it was like the next time you experience this and it was like flashes of like the hospital rooms and like newborn blankets and stuff. It was like the next time you experience this is when your grandparents. I was like, oh, my God, that's sad. Yeah, that's. So we gotta wait. You know, I'm pretty sure your, your niece and nephew will probably have babies before we're grandparents. Oh, yeah, it is. For me. It is.
B
No, but I will love on that baby. Our babies, babies. That's way different.
A
But it's still your bloodline. I mean, I know niece and nephew's babies, but yeah, but like, no, but yeah, to experience like our baby's baby. We'll be grandparents.
B
Well, one thing I didn't think about was just not seeing you pregnant.
A
Yeah.
B
Again, that's what I, I. All the babies are babies, but like, I'm never gonna see you pregnant again. That is devastating.
A
Is it?
B
Yeah. I don't think you get it because you're kind of going through all this.
A
Yeah, hell no.
B
But from a guy perspective, a husband, whatever. It's just shitty. Like I'm never gonna be able. That sucks.
A
I do not forget those. I will. I do not miss the vagina shocks.
B
Oh, yeah.
A
It's like out of nowhere. Oh, we'll never miss that, ever. I did. I mean, I feel like I was the person I enjoyed being pregnant. I loved, you know, a lot of it. But towards the end and middle of it, I was like, no, you're done. Yeah, dude. Restless legs. Cancer sleeps.
B
Legs.
A
That was the worst freaking pelvic.
B
Floor, whatever.
A
Whatever. It was like, hurt so bad. Yeah. Like, I will not. I will not. But yeah. So it's crazy. Our life is changing. The kids are getting older.
B
We're.
A
They're doing sports, we're busy. We're, you know, they're all going to be in school. Freaking crazy. What? Oh, and also too, it's like, I don't think a lot of people realize too that your niece has been living with us. So. She lives with us.
B
Yeah. I mean, she just graduated high school.
A
Yep.
B
Which was huge because. Yeah. She. I mean, listen, she.
A
Well, she's been here for about a year.
B
She's been over a year.
A
No, no, May. May would have been May.
B
You're right. She, you know, she was living with my sister down in Texas. And I don't want to say too much about, you know, I'm not going to share her story, whatever. But like, you know, my sister's had her own struggles down there in Texas. And I think the biggest thing was like, you know, when, when my sister and her started fighting down in Texas and she was behind in school, work.
A
Yeah.
B
It was like, we got to get her out of there. We got like.
A
Well, no. Yeah. Lex was just. I'm coming there. She just left.
B
So it's like, I mean, it was a big decision.
A
Yeah.
B
To figure this out and stuff because I feel like I had to look at it not like saving my sister, but helping Lex. You know what I mean?
A
No, because that's what it.
B
I mean, I can't just go rescue Amber all the time. I can't go rescue my sister.
A
All.
B
You know what I mean? No, but it's not, it's more than that. It's not rescuing my sister. It's. It's helping my niece get her footing in life. And so you. Yeah. Moved her in. Said, we're going to get you through school.
A
Yeah.
B
We're going to help you get a car.
A
Yeah.
B
We're going to help you get your first place when you graduate. As long as you do everything you're supposed to do. Like.
A
And she's been doing good. Yeah. What? She graduated, she works a full time job. She, you know, got her car. So I mean, she's doing all the right things.
B
And that's what I told both my niece and nephew because I know that they didn't get the. They didn't hit the lottery with parents.
A
They got dealt with shitty hands for sure.
B
So I felt like I wanted to like, as an uncle and just like, all right, I need to like, absolutely Give them a little jump start to independent life that not a lot of kids get. Not a lot of kids get a free first car, a free first month, last month rent.
A
Right.
B
They don't get that as long as.
A
They'Re doing the right things.
B
Yeah, they don't get those opportunities. So I wanted to like just give them a little springboard.
A
Yep. So I'm proud of her. She's been doing really good and the kids, our kids absolutely love her and she's helped, you know, she's helped watch them and babysit and you know, if.
B
It wasn't for Lex, I wouldn't be able to go to a couple competitions.
A
Yeah.
B
Nova's cheer, you know, like she's really helped out a lot.
A
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B
Okay, yeah, I'm, I'm going to start off by saying this. You think being a passenger princess or prince in the side of her car and when she's driving, you guys are all crazy. This woman revs she'll speed towards brake lights. There'll be brake lights in front of us.
A
Whatever.
B
No, you know it. There'll be brake lights in front of us. And she's literally just like. Yeah. So anyway, I'm like, dude, we are going towards brake lights with the accelerator going. I literally will. You know how many times I'm driving? I grab the. I'll grab this. I'll grab the side of this chair. Or you notice I'll put my hand on. Yeah. And you'll be like.
A
You make a weird noise. I'm like, I'm fine.
B
You're not fine. Because we are literally going 30 miles an hour towards brake lights. And I should have known. What I was teaching how to drive when we were kids, and you were literally didn't know how to keep your foot steady.
A
Just cruise control that.
B
No, you'd be like. And 30 miles. I never drove 30 miles an hour. Let go. 30 miles an hour. It's a dude. Oh, I was gonna bring it up. The one driver we had was doing.
A
It, you know, in Nashville. Dude, I was like, oh, my God.
B
Babe, that is you still to this day. Swear to God. I'm gonna listen.
A
Still to this day.
B
You're driving, though, so you can't feel what it feels like. The anticipating of the. Of the ride.
A
I still do that to this day.
B
Yes.
A
You're a lie.
B
I swear. You swear to God. Did you feel what he was doing?
A
Yes. Yes. It was driving me nuts. It literally was. I'm gonna puke.
B
I saw you shift towards an lc.
A
I'm gonna puke.
B
Yeah. Anyway, I can't. I don't drive. It's not because I don't like driving. It's because you get motion sickness.
A
Yeah.
B
Anyone else drives?
A
No. And it's gotten worse with age, too.
B
You can't even ride roller coasters.
A
No, I know. I don't know what I'm gonna do at Disney.
B
Sit there and watch us. No, I'm not just passenger princess in the.
A
I'll puke because I'm experiencing that. But no. So people. It's funny because I'm like, dude, if people only knew, like, I have to drive or I will puke. Literally, I will vomit everywhere. Like. Or I have to be in the front. But even I don't know, sometimes with your driving makes me want to puke.
B
What's wrong with my driving?
A
Oh, it just makes me want to puke, dude.
B
If you're lucky, I don't have motion sickness. If I had motion sickness, too, we would both Be so fun.
A
We'd be driving separately everywhere, literally.
B
Because you. Dude, man.
A
Yeah. I can't ask your mom. Oh, my mom hates my driving. So does my grandma. Yeah. My mom's like, anxiety, like, doesn't want to look. And my grandma's like, yeah. I'm like, grandma, calm down. Put your seatbelt on.
B
It's because you drive towards brake lights.
A
Still never gotten a crash this day. Not going.
B
That's true.
A
Actually, I have.
B
Yeah, you have it with a truck. Oh.
A
I was like, the turkey. You saw the truck?
B
Oh, what truck?
A
I remember it was little, and it was me, Nova, and Nick and that weird. There's like, this weird intersection on the back road. Remember that truck pulled out in front of me, though. It wasn't my fault. I had. I had the green light. They were having to stop. They were turning left, and I was in my Red and Benny van. Yeah. Me, Nick, and Nova and I. She, like, turned in front of me, and of course my caught her. And then she pulled off to the side, and then she looked at how bad my van looked, thinking that I wouldn't be able to drive anymore. And so she went to go take off, and I went to. I chased her.
B
Oh, yeah, that's right. That's right. That's right. I do remember this. Yes.
A
Yeah. And then she got out of her truck and she was like, are you guys okay? I'm like. I'm like, I'm okay, but why did you pull out in front of me? And then she was starting to get loud, and I was like, okay, whatever. But even the cops were like, yeah, that's this bitch's fault. Like, what the hell?
B
Yeah.
A
So that's the only crash I got into.
B
I said, the turkey.
A
I was thinking, that turkey hit me, though. I did not hit the turkey. So, yeah. My craft. Yeah. My crashes in life have been very, like. I don't know. It's been an animal. And then I just, like, hit stupid. So it's not even like, cars.
B
Curbs and stuff.
A
Feel like curbs. The poles. Yep. Stuff like that.
B
Yeah.
A
That's why all of our children will be taking driver's training.
B
Yeah. And I. I think that's a lot to do with it. Because me teaching how to drive wasn't the same as going through driver's day.
A
No, not at all.
B
That was hard. You were a hard. You were a hard student.
A
Yeah, because for years. I mean, for, God, a few years when you had your license, I definitely was a passenger princess because my motion sickness wasn't bad back Then. And then you were like, you need to go get your license. I'll never forget being like, no, I don't.
B
Yeah, you're. Dude, you. I wanted to get my license. You drive. I'm like, dude, because eventually you're going to go somewhere, and I'm going to go somewhere.
A
Yep. So Ty forced me. He's like, no, you got to go ahead. So fine.
B
And then. Then I was like, all right, I'll teach you to drive. It's not a big deal. I'm thinking by this point, though, you're not gonna be that bad. You're pretty bad. Parking was bad.
A
Yeah. But I. Eventually. I mean, I did it. I didn't fail my first driver's test or anything.
B
I passed that parking lot. Never forget trying to get you to parking. That was.
A
That's why I'm like, all right. All of our kids will take driver's training for sure.
B
Yeah. They have to. Because I think it affected you.
A
Oh, duh. Yeah. I mean, that would affect anybody.
B
Yeah.
A
I wonder how your niece is as a driver. I've never really drove with her much. She's also. I mean, drove in lots.
B
Yeah. Driven.
A
Yeah, she's driven last.
B
Drove in.
A
She's drove in.
B
No. I heard someone say, yeah, I was drunk in it. I was what? Yeah. Oh, I drunk it. I swear. I don't know of anyone else out.
A
There, but, like, circuited in your brain.
B
So I call it short circuiting my brain because that's what it feels like. It feels like my brain starts, like, if I'm a robot, when I hear people say stuff like that.
A
Yeah.
B
That would be you. Oh, I. Yeah, I drunk it. No, you know, you didn't drunk it.
A
You drank it.
B
You drank.
A
So it's drove. Not a Right. That. Drove is a word.
B
I know, but it drove in.
A
Droven.
B
It's not.
A
Driven.
B
Yes.
A
Thank you.
B
Yeah. Yeah, yeah, yeah.
A
I'm like. Wait, is drove a word?
B
Yeah, it is. It is.
A
Okay.
B
It's like, drunk's a word.
A
Huh.
B
But it's.
A
That's like a tipsy past tense.
B
Yeah. You can't. No, it's. Yeah.
A
Because how would you even say. You would always say, I drink. I would never say, like, I drunk water.
B
No. Someone said, well, I didn't know I drunk it. Or I was out. I was like, no, dude, you did it. Oh, my God.
A
I drunk it.
B
Or, like, we'll watch something on tv. I'm like, that was spelled. I don't.
A
Oh, yeah. You always pick out weird things. You do things that I would never. Nobody would ever in a million years think. To think about.
B
But it's one of those things where almost it's annoying to my brain.
A
I can imagine. Because sometimes you're just like, oh, wait a minute, that was on Sims 3 in 2008. And I'm like, what? Like, how would you know that? And then he'll pull it up on Google and play it. And I'm like, oh, I guess you're right. But like, who. Who thinks of that?
B
It's because the TLC will use background.
A
Oh, I know. Yeah. From the Sims and stuff.
B
Yep. So it must have been a copyrighted free.
A
Okay. I don't know. But, yeah, your brain.
B
I don't know why it's locked in there. Yeah.
A
I don't know.
B
There could be more useful information in there.
A
Yeah.
B
But, no, I remember stupid, weird melody songs from.
A
And voices and stuff.
B
Voices. Yeah.
A
I don't know.
B
It's weird.
A
What else was. Yeah. Because there was one. So the reason why I always drive.
B
Yep.
A
Is because if I don't drive, I will puke.
B
And honestly, people say, oh, my heart saw. Someone's like, oh, yeah, it's because Tyler's a passenger princess or whatever. I'm like, bro, you don't even know what it's like being in the other seat, in the driver's seat next to this woman driving. It ain't no. It ain't no walk in the park.
A
Yeah. I think I've said sorry a lot. Oh, sorry. Oh, it's fine.
B
You know what's funny is something will be breaking, too. And you know, it's a bad break. You know it. Because all of a sudden you're like. I can see you kind of like, yeah, yeah, yeah. You know, you had to.
A
Oh, snap the brakes. Yeah, I know. You know, I drive just like my grandpa. That's what my grandma says.
B
You do? Yes.
A
She's like, you remind me so much of your grandpa. And I'm like, oh, that's bad.
B
He's a rever.
A
Yeah, that's like. That reminds me that one time, too, when we were driving on the freeway in wintertime. I was probably like, what, I don't know, 18, 19 years old. And this car, like, Jeep, spun out on the freeway and smacked the side of the road. The. What is that? Like, the median? The median, yeah. But the cement medium. And I'm just driving. I'm like, oh, my God. What is. Oh, my God, that is crazy. And he's like, Teller's like, are you gonna slow down?
B
No.
A
Are you gonna stop?
B
No. You were going 50 miles an hour torque. You're like, whoa, someone's crashing up there towards the crash as they're spinning out everyone else. You're the only car. Don't all the other cars break? No, there's cake on. Oh, my gosh. Look what's happening. Driving towards the spinning wreckage.
A
Oh, my God. I know.
B
And then when I said that, you're like, oh, yeah, right.
A
I need a break. Yeah. You're like, it's like I'm in a video game.
B
I know, I know. Nothing's happened to me.
A
I don't know why I can just.
B
Crash through the car as it's spinning around and keep going. No.
A
Yeah. I have an issue. A driving issue. I wonder if you can take driver's training now.
B
Like, still, I think there should be a requirement after the age is 60 something years old. You should be taking that off.
A
Well, I think they do make you, like, check your, like, your eyesight and stuff. And if you can't. You know what I mean?
B
Are these questions from people? Because I definitely want to answer the people's questions.
A
What the. What? Somebody said you guys have to talk about the girl who abandoned her adopted son for a uterus transplant.
B
Whoa.
A
So that she could have two biological babies through ivf. Now calls adopted son her nephew. I have to do more investigating on that.
B
Say it again.
A
Blueberry said, you guys have to talk about the girl who abandoned her adopted son for a uterus transplant so that way she could have two biological babies through IVF and now calls her adopted son her nephew.
B
Oh, my God. First off, uterine transplant. That's different. All right. I don't know.
A
Yeah, I'm like, I'd have to do some more investigation on that.
B
That at all. That's confusing people.
A
I don't know if you will ever bring back your o. F. No, I don't know, dude.
B
I. You know, I can't post out workout, but I can't do anything. I can't. And I guess it's my fault a little bit.
A
Maybe it's my fault.
B
Your fault? I came in like, I don't even know, but I was almost assailed by.
A
A lot of people masquerade over your picture.
B
What the. Okay, dude, one thing.
A
Why am I getting that in my question?
B
I don't know, but I don't know. But I almost disabled my comments on my last Instagram post. I literally.
A
Bro, your workout post. I thought you looked hot.
B
My. My leg day. Yeah, I just posted it. Yeah, dude. Okay.
A
I'm like, yeah, he's hot.
B
No, no. I'll be honest. I think all you are looking for because you'd have to really be looking for something in order to. To see stuff. And for no fact that you're. Yeah. You have to be like. Like, you're not looking at, like, oh, you know.
A
No, they're just staring at your bulge.
B
What the.
A
Dude, I'm sorry.
B
And. And someone's like, oh, wear underwear. I never not wear.
A
No, you would never be going to the gym without underwear. That's not like you.
B
Yeah.
A
Even around the house, around kit. Even just our kids. Tyler is very much like, absolutely not. Because honestly, because I tell them what also scarred me.
B
You. You. You think that. You think that that's what I like without. You would be mortified if I really wore no underwear. That is with great sa x x shout out best underwear out there. Only thing that works for me. But anyway, I can't post workout videos, bro.
A
Yeah, it kind of.
B
No, I'll be honest with you. I was going through stuff and I'm like, this is like. I kind of feel like what it feels like to be a woman in a way. Like, I swear to God, like. Like if a girl was a sports bra, like, is working out and they're like, yeah, look at her titties. Oh, yeah. Oh, yeah. She's doing that on purpose. Whatever. Whatever they're saying, it's like, dude, like, you know what?
A
Like, you know the feeling now of like, a little bit. Yeah.
B
I mean, I know it's probably not as bad. I'm not trying to compare it, but you know what I'm talking about. You can relate to find the out of me. I'm literally posting my leg day.
A
Or the video or even the videos of like your morning routine with the girls. I thought so cute.
B
Thank you.
A
Yeah, bro.
B
What the.
A
Anyway, also, by the way, everybody's like, where's Caitlin? Is she sleeping? Yeah, I'm sleeping.
B
Yeah, she's sleeping. What's the big deal? That really blew my mind.
A
You know why? Because I do the bath time.
B
Yep.
A
I do the book time. I do the tuck in time. So, yeah, I am sleeping.
B
And I think it's smart we work morning night time. Two.
A
Yeah.
B
There's two routines. One's gotta be done. One other one's gotta be done. We do it.
A
Yeah. We just split it.
B
And so my. And also. But one thing that I noticed though was that, like, dude, first off, all you women are telling on yourself because you're literally just saying out loud that.
A
You have a crappy partner.
B
A crappy partner who's not willing to pull their weight very much. Do certain stuff. The fact that you're shocked the guy's cooking his kids eggs or brushing his kid's hair or in fact, going to the lengths of saying I'm gay because I can brush right. And curl my kids hair. What the. What is wrong, bro? That's for. Are we for real right now?
A
You might need to go see Jonathan soon.
B
Dude. If.
A
You know. You know, people are ridiculous. I do feel bad, but no, I think that's messed up. Like, of course you're a we. And it's like, we are a partnership. Like, we are best friends. We are husband and wife. We're. We have kids together. So we also are a partnership when it comes to the kids. Like, and there's been times too, where you'll say, I don't want to get up with them in the morning. And I'm like, okay, I will. And I've always told you, like, sometimes I'll compliment attitude. And I'm like, but.
B
But it's useful.
A
But I have told him, like, but if you don't want to and you're not. You can't sleep good or whatever. Absolutely wake me up because we're a partnership.
B
Because I didn't get good sleep last night and I'm literally up insomnia. Like, yes, it's so. And I.
A
But of course, even though.
B
But there's so many times, though, where that happens to me and I still don't do it because it's like, it's just one. I mean, I'm not gonna do it every time.
A
You should.
B
But my sleeping pattern gets messed up sometimes.
A
Yeah.
B
Some days. There's some nights where I'm like, all right, I've been up every hour for four hours. There's no way I'm going to be happy. I know. For. Yeah. And. And I really think it's important that, like, I want to get my kids up. Gentle. Morning. I love you so much. You want some eggs?
A
You absolutely should. I agree.
B
Some. You know, what do you want to do? Breakfast? What do you want to watch while we do what I'm saying I don't want to be like, all right, everybody, that's.
A
You ever see, like, kids crying in the morning or their mom. It is sad. And then it starts their whole day off like that. And it's not their fault. Yeah, it's my fault.
B
And sleep last night?
A
No. You remember that one little boy at preschool and I came home, started Sobbing.
B
Yeah, that was sad.
A
I think about that little boy a lot. I really do. Yeah. This one time, there was this. I went to drop off Beta at preschool and there was this little boy in the parking lot. And every morning when I would drop her off, like, I would just. I would see him and he was always just. He always just looked so tired. He was dirty, like, his hair wasn't brushed and stuff. And I'll never.
B
That really kills me.
A
Yeah. And I'll never forget the one time. So I. I go there, I'm dropping him, like, getting Beta and stuff out of the car, and I hear the person that's dropping him off like, come on, we gotta go, we gotta go. And he wasn't wanting to go or whatever. And then she just literally, like, blood curd, like, screamed at this little boy to go. They bring him into the building, she drops him off and he starts crying. And the teacher's like, oh, no, what's wrong? And I look at the teacher and I'm like, well, if somebody were to scream at me like that in the morning, I'd be upset too, like. And so I told the teachers what happened.
B
Yeah. Which is good, I think. Smart. You don't.
A
Yeah. He needs a little extra love today, you know, I came home and I started telling Ty about it. I just could not control it. Like, just literally started sobbing. Like, I just felt so bad for this little boy because now his whole day is, like, ruined because. And I'm sure, you know, his grandma or whoever was dropping off, like, probably you don't know what's going on in their days or they're, you know, or what. I don't know. Like, it. To me, it seemed like it looked. What I've heard. It seems like the grandma raises all these kids, you know, Like, I don't think Mom's involved in stuff, but I just remember feeling so bad for this little boy. And honestly, he pops into my mind still to this day sometimes where I'm just like. I just wanted to, like, take him and hug him, you know? Like, I just felt so. I agree with you. Like, you can't start kids off like.
B
Yeah. And that's why when. When I hug every hour in the hour, I usually give it until like, 4 o' clock, 4 in the morning, if I. If I've been all right, I gotta give up.
A
Yeah, I know.
B
I gotta go.
A
And then my alarm will go off and I'll open it and I'll see a text from Ty. I'm so sorry.
B
I'm like, it's fine, whatever.
A
What are you gonna do?
B
You know, because I usually will set the alarm on your phone and accept the defeat that I have fought all night and it's four in the morning.
A
But to go back to like what you said about how females that were commenting on that stuff and asking where I was and stuff like that, like my opinion is, is that you, you definitely need to have a better partner because. And. Or you need to get a divorce because I'm not taking care of a man child and somebody that I have kids with that can't help me with his kids. Not. I'd rather do it by myself then.
B
That's what I mean.
A
You know what I mean?
B
Without the peanut gallery randomly, I'm gonna be single.
A
Then like if you're not, if you were not helping at all or not, you know, or if we weren't connecting at all or doing anything, what are we? I'm gone. Then I'm already doing it by myself. Why do I have you here? Like, I couldn't imagine that feeling. I don't not jealous of anybody that has to feel like that. If anything, I feel really bad for you. I feel like you need to find somebody who is a partner in this relationship and also like a lover and friend. Like all of that combined because it's super important. There's no way in hell I'd be like, absolutely not.
B
And I honestly, I had to say I don't care what the. I don't care what your schedule is. Like, I don't care what kind of job you have. You're a dad and you have daughters. You should be able to brush their hair and put their hair in a ponytail or you should be able to. Dude, certain things that the comments I'm getting. The fact that society is so warped that they're going to go to the lengths to say that I'm gay.
A
Yeah.
B
Because I can curl my kids hair is just really like we have a lot of work to do.
A
Absolutely.
B
Because.
A
Because in my mind, in my mind I see a dad who adores his kids and when their daughters are like, dad, I really want to feel pretty today. And you know how to do it. Like, yeah, right on. That's a attractive to me. No.
B
Well, I'm saying. And no one doesn't ask to curl her hair every day.
A
No.
B
But when she asked you. Damn right.
A
Right.
B
I'm gonna get the curling iron out and curl her hair that day.
A
Yes. That is so cute.
B
Beta wants two bows instead of one ponytail. We're getting two bows right you know what I mean?
A
And you know what, too is, like, they. When they're older and stuff, and even when you pass one day, they're gonna remember that.
B
No.
A
How many girls have you gotten messages from saying, oh, my God, it makes me think of my dad and he used to brush my hair every morning. You know what I mean? Like, no, I know. Like, I'm telling you right now, reading some. And I've told you a lot, like, killed me. And I've told you a lot, like, little girls and their dads, it's just different. It's different. I know it's different. They're important.
B
I know.
A
We as girls remember so vividly of our dads and, like, how they make us feel in love. And like, I mean, even for me, like, a lot of my good memories was with my dad. And even though it was like, stupid random, but, like, it's so important, like, they will remember all of that. No.
B
The message I was getting from, oh, my God, this reminds me of my dad. He used to brush my hair every day. Yeah, I wish he was still here. I missed him.
A
I'm like, yeah, I know, dude.
B
What? And they're like, oh, my God, this reminds. I haven't thought about my dad in years because he passed or whatever. And this just made me think of him. Thank you so much for posting. This made me think of him and it reminded me of him. And I was like, oh, my God.
A
And see, so it's like you get some stupid people who say dumb, but then it's like the other people that say things, or they are like, oh, my God. Or it makes them feel like, oh, my gosh, I had the same. Or not. That's what makes it. Yeah, it's like, you know, you have like two or three negative comments and. But all the positive ones, I'm like, you know, the haters.
B
Yeah, Well, I just thought it was interesting how, like, you're literally gonna. The, like, in my. I commented a couple people, I responded to him. I was like, listen, if this was Kate getting these girls ready, none of you would be asking where I am.
A
Not at all.
B
None of you would be asking, what's dad doing? Where's dad? Why isn't dad getting the girls up for school? Why isn't dad. Where's the dad? You wouldn't be saying, none of that, dude. None of it. And then I actually had some pretty, like, I think triggered women saying, yeah, well, my husband works, you know, different job hours and so. And so he can't do that. And I'm like, not my fault. You're mad at. You're yelling at the wrong guy. Like, you don't even mad at me. You're like, well, my husband doesn't have the hours you have, or else he'd probably do that too. And I'm like, in my head. That's why I said, I don't give a what your schedule is on the weekends, Mom. If mom can't sleep in while you as a dad who worked Monday through Friday on the week, on Saturday morning, you can't curl their hair, brush their teeth, and get them breakfast. There is something wrong.
A
I agree.
B
And you need to figure it out because you shouldn't have had kids.
A
I agree.
B
Because you, you, you. You're not. What. What's it for, baby?
A
Like, no, thank you.
B
Like you said, I'd rather be single. You're added pressure. I don't need all this. You know what I'm saying?
A
Like, because if you're not helping the kids and like that, you know, she's probably has resentments up the ass. She's probably not talking about. Right, right.
B
She's defending her husband. Like, he doesn't have the hours you have. I'm like, dude, okay, man. You're yelling at the wrong. Like, okay, who you mad at?
A
But I do have to say I feel like our generation, millennial generation, that I think it's a good thing. Like, because, you know, you have. You do see dads being more involved and more hands on. And what they've even done studies about.
B
It where, like, I think 33% can change a diaper or there's some kind of.
A
They're just more hands on and they're more involved and they. You know, I've noticed even when Nova has things at school or Veda and stuff, I see a lot of dads there. We're back in the day, it'd be like, all moms, you know, so it's like we're doing something different. And the females that are just jealous and mad. You should probably find yourself a better partner.
B
Talk to your husband and say, hey. Because I think a lot of it comes down to, like, you're not speaking. Like, hey, I'm feeling really. I'm feeling burnt out. I feel like I do everything. I feel like you're not doing enough or whatever the case is. Just tell him that. And if he still doesn't.
A
I was gonna say, depending on his reaction. I mean.
B
Yeah.
A
Or his comments, then either divorce papers or say, I'm out of here. I'm Already doing it. I'm by myself. I might as well just do by myself. I don't know.
B
And I also feel like you're doing a disservice to your kids because you're showing them, especially if you're raising girls. I think it's really important you're raising girls and raising boys, too, because then they're gonna expect to find a girl anyway. Agree with that.
A
You know, just for kids. It's for kids.
B
It's so important to watch the balance. They. They will watch the balance of mom and dad, and they will get that well rounded full picture kind of like inspiration about how they're going to be. So if you're. If the child only sees a dad working Monday through Friday, coming home, eating, going to sleep.
A
Yeah, they're gonna. That's what you do.
B
They're gonna.
A
That means the sons are gonna go.
B
Find a guy like that.
A
Right?
B
That's okay. And then with the resentments and think, oh, I deserve to have resentments. I deserve to be feeling like I'm left alone because my mom did it. Every other woman did it before me. And then the boys are gonna think, oh, my God, I don't have to.
A
Do this is what a dad does. Literally. You are teaching your kids.
B
Stop. So you need to figure it out. All you people who are triggered in the comments.
A
Bro, that's why I love these. I've been seeing. I've seen a few, like, reels and stuff of videos, and it said, my kids are gonna remember. They always were just. They were always asking us to quit flirting with one another. They're not gonna ever remember the fighting. And I'm like, so, so awesome. And your kids look at you, and that's how they figure out how a relationship is and how it's supposed to work.
B
And every time we love each other or something that you see our kids, a.
A
And then they call you little love.
B
Birds or like Nova. Always like, you little cuties. Just little cuties.
A
Now she's older.
B
Yeah.
A
And when they. When they were younger, they've always ran into the circle. Like, they want to join in on.
B
The love because they sense it. I think they can. They're more. Their wisdom is kind of like, more spiritual.
A
Even riot and stage should, like, peek over, like. And then she'll come in. Yeah. And then she's like, all right, I want to be in the middle of this love fest. And we just let her. So, yeah, I think it's important. It's important your kids look at you about how relationships work. How they pick partners, all of that. And I think I'm blessed that our girls have you to look up to.
B
I'm blessed that they have you.
A
Thanks.
B
Because you know, I mean, damn. I just, I think it's going to set them up for. I never saw a balance in my house. My mom by herself.
A
Right.
B
And everything.
A
Yeah.
B
So.
A
And I think say my mom was a single mom.
B
Yeah. And then when she. Even when she was the guy, it was like another man child.
A
Yeah.
B
You know what I mean? Did you ever see him back then? Do you ever see him? You know what I mean? Like I just feel like there's certain.
A
Some of them want you things.
B
Well, you know what I mean though? Like I feel like the guys that you know, your mom was with probably wasn't.
A
They weren't top tier. That's for sure. My poor mom.
B
Yeah. But like I said, I think it's one of those things where that's in impactful generationally. Like because your mom probably accepted that kind of accepted the lower class dudes because she saw whatever she saw growing up.
A
Yeah.
B
I mean so you just kind of accept certain things that you assume or think is normal or okay or oh well, everyone else did it and that's a big. I have a big problem with people going oh well I did it. My mom did it. Well, I went through that and I was fine. It's like your, your whole idea of shared self suffering is weird. Like I hate it so much and it's almost.
A
It's like our parents generations.
B
It is. Oh well, I had to pay all my student loans back, so you should bro. So what you're saying. And it was such a struggle for you because you're clearly mad about it. You're like all mad that you had to pay it and this kid doesn't. And I think it's really weird that you don't want the next generation to have it easier than you did.
A
Yeah. To not struggle. I'll never.
B
That's the whole point, bro.
A
Echo. Shut up. I'll never understand it.
B
That's the whole point. The next generation should have it easier. Easier than you had.
A
Absolutely. I agree.
B
What are we doing here with evolution?
A
I don't know. Switzerland, here we come. Knocking.
B
I just think it's weird. It doesn't make any sense. Everyone's idea of like or, or even like for the instance, like for the, the comments about me not having a normal 9 to 5 job and I'm able to have this luxury of brushing my kids hair. It's like so you believe, like, you know, your idea of shared suffering is weird. Like, oh, you're only worthy of my respect if you suffer the same amount that I had to suffer.
A
And what do you mean, even say. We always say, like, we are beyond blessed. Like, we will never. You never get these years back with your children. Our children have never had to be in daycare. They have never had to be washed by other people while we work every day. And we are. We have always said that, like, we are blessed because you will never, ever get these younger years with your kids. And believe me, we know how blessed we are.
B
Yes.
A
We don't take that for granted. Like, come on now, anybody who really knows me and Ty know that we're super humble. Oh, my God. And like, that means yes.
B
Just all the time. I'm like, yes, speaking out loud because.
A
We will never get that back so.
B
Much because these years, your kids are. I think what. There's a study that was like, oh, you're gonna spend 75 of your time with your children is done by the age of like, 13.
A
Yeah. It's sad.
B
So after 13, they're hanging out their friends. 20 of the rest of your life is going to be after their children. We have the small window when they're kids that you'll never be able to get back. And so I don't regret.
A
I don't regret nothing.
B
I don't. And people. Oh, well, you know, what'd you do? Just. You just were worth them every single day. Yeah, it was.
A
Yeah, it was something for worked or whatever then.
B
Yeah, obviously. I mean, there's times we had to go out for work, for long trips, whatever. But I'm saying, like, in. In the grand scheme of things, like, no, I'm not. I'm. I am very grateful and I feel very blessed that I'll have this every morning with my children, every night with my kids. I never had to sacrifice.
A
Right.
B
And so when they move out and get, you know, I mean, whenever. When it's all done and over with, I'm not gonna have any regrets.
A
No. Yeah. Blessed for it.
B
I don't care. So, I mean, it is what it is, but.
A
No, I just love you.
B
I love you.
A
So, anyways, I just want to say a huge thank you to everybody for your love and continued support. Support. It's been. We're really having fun here. I hope you're having fun, right?
B
Yes, I'm having fun.
A
Yeah. I hope.
B
I hope people are, because I remember the first time, like, I don't know if they're gonna like, wanna, like. Then all of a sudden, the episodes, we're like, oh, we're interview people, you know, and they're like, where are you guys?
A
I know.
B
Here you are. Calm down. I thought 16 years on TV, I thought, right?
A
And don't you have enough just us? Like. I guess not.
B
So here we are.
A
So, yeah. So just, you know, thank you again for your continued love and support and we'll catch you next week.
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Podcast Summary: Cate & Ty Break It Down
Episode: "You're Welcome for 16 Years of Reality TV"
Release Date: May 21, 2025
In this heartfelt and candid episode of Cate & Ty Break It Down, hosts Catelynn (Cate) and Tyler (Ty) Baltierra delve deep into their journey beyond the glare of reality television. Celebrating 16 years of being in the limelight through MTV’s 16 and Pregnant and Teen Mom, Cate and Ty explore the complexities of their personal lives, focusing on themes of adoption, family dynamics, and navigating public perception.
[00:19] Cate:
"A lot of adoption stuff. We realized a lot of adoptees don't have voices and other birth parents."
Cate opens the discussion by highlighting their commitment to shedding light on adoption. They emphasize the importance of giving a platform to adoptees and birth parents, aiming to break silences and foster understanding within the adoption community.
[00:53] Ty:
"We're recording these in real time as things happen in life."
Ty explains that their recent focus on adoption-related content is a reflection of their current life experiences, ensuring authenticity and relevance in their discussions.
The hosts venture into the challenges of maintaining a positive online presence amidst growing negativity, particularly on TikTok.
[02:21] Cate:
"There's a lot of toxicity."
Cate candidly addresses the relentless negativity they face online, attributing it to TikTok’s unpredictable algorithm.
[03:28] Ty:
"You're welcome for giving you 16 years worth of learning and growing and making a lot of mistakes."
Ty responds to persistent hate by asserting that their extensive history on reality TV inadvertently provides material for detractors to exploit, yet they remain resilient and grateful for the journey.
Cate and Ty share their excitement about finally booking a Disney trip after years of anticipation, reflecting on their children’s readiness and the challenges of ensuring a memorable experience for everyone.
[05:00] Ty:
"It's my first time going to Disney. It's crazy to me."
Ty expresses his excitement and slight apprehension about experiencing Disney for the first time as an adult alongside Cate and their children.
[06:09] Cate:
"Nova's 10, so she’s, you know, it is a good time."
Cate discusses their decision to wait until their children are older to embark on the trip, ensuring that the experience is enjoyable and memorable for Nova and her siblings.
The conversation shifts to their children's involvement in competitive cheerleading, highlighting both the joys and the emotional toll it takes on the family.
[13:17] Cate:
"Competitive season of cheer is done. Which this year was crazy."
Cate reflects on the intense competitive season, including travels to various states, and acknowledges the hard work and dedication Nova has put into cheerleading.
[14:25] Ty:
"I don’t want to let them just quit in the middle."
Ty emphasizes the importance of commitment in team activities, advocating for their children to see through their commitments for the sake of the team and personal growth.
Cate and Ty discuss the challenges and decisions surrounding their daughter Nova’s educational needs, emphasizing their proactive approach to ensure her success.
[21:05] Ty:
"She needs extra support and more time, then obviously I want her to be held back in kindergarten."
Ty shares their difficult decision to have Nova repeat kindergarten to provide her with the necessary support, prioritizing her long-term educational outcomes over immediate challenges.
[22:24] Ty:
"You never get these years back with your children."
Ty poignantly reminds listeners of the irreplaceable time spent with children, underscoring the sacrifices and commitments required in parenting.
The hosts delve into the intricacies of balancing parenting responsibilities, maintaining a strong marital relationship, and being role models for their children.
[46:14] Cate:
"We are a partnership when it comes to the kids."
Cate reinforces the idea that parenting is a collaborative effort, highlighting the importance of mutual support and shared responsibilities to provide a stable and loving environment for their children.
[54:35] Ty:
"The next generation should have it easier than you had."
Ty underscores their commitment to ensuring that their children have opportunities and support systems that perhaps weren’t available to them, striving to break the cycle of challenges they faced.
Cate and Ty infuse humor into their conversation, sharing personal stories that highlight their unique dynamics and the lighter side of their parenting journey.
[36:03] Cate:
"I was in this weird intersection, and a truck pulled out in front of me. The cops said it was her fault!"
Cate recounts a humorous incident where Ty deflects blame after a minor car accident, showcasing their playful banter and strong teamwork even in stressful situations.
[39:04] Ty:
"I will puke because of your driving."
Ty jokes about Cate’s driving habits, adding levity to their discussion about navigating daily routines and responsibilities.
The hosts address comments and questions from their audience, demonstrating their commitment to interacting with listeners and fostering a supportive community.
[42:25] Cate:
"Blueberry said, you guys have to talk about the girl who abandoned her adopted son for a uterus transplant."
Cate mentions a listener’s comment, indicating their openness to discussing diverse and perhaps controversial topics relevant to their focus on adoption.
[52:19] Ty:
"I see some stuff that I'm like... it's so important they're gonna remember all of that."
Ty discusses the impact of their public interactions, emphasizing the positive messages that reinforce healthy relationships and responsible parenting.
In closing, Cate and Ty express gratitude towards their audience for their continued support and share their anticipation for future episodes.
[60:29] Cate:
"I do not regret nothing."
Cate reflects on their journey with a sense of fulfillment and no regrets, highlighting the meaningful experiences and lessons learned over the years.
[60:53] Ty:
"Thank you for your continued love and support."
Ty extends heartfelt thanks to their listeners, reaffirming their dedication to providing authentic and valuable content.
Conclusion:
In "You're Welcome for 16 Years of Reality TV," Cate and Ty Baltierra offer an intimate look into their lives beyond the screen. Through discussions on adoption, parenting challenges, relationship dynamics, and personal anecdotes, they provide listeners with a genuine narrative of growth, resilience, and unwavering love. This episode not only celebrates their long-standing presence in reality TV but also underscores their commitment to fostering a supportive and engaging community.
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