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Two weeks. I think God's still gonna add some value to our life. Luke, chapter John, chapter number 11, beginning at verse one, says this. Now, a man named Lazarus was sick. He was from Bethany, the village of Mary and her sister Martha. This Mary, whose brother Lazarus now lay sick, was the same one who poured perfume on the Lord and wiped his feet with her hair. So the sister sent word to Jesus, Lord, the one you love is sick. And when he heard this, Jesus said, this sickness will not end in death. No, it is for God's glory, so that God's son may be glorified through it. Now, Jesus loved Martha and her sister Lazarus. Listen to verse six. So when he heard that Lazarus was sick, he stayed where he was two more days. I want to stop the reading of Scripture, then talk from this subject. This is. Is taking too long. Clap your hands, everybody, if you're honest. This. This is taking too long. I want to leap into this lesson where the question. It's a question for your ref. Reflection. The question is simply this. Have you ever had a reality check? All right, y' all got dishonest since I've been gone. All right. Have you ever had a reality check? Yeah. In other words, have you had an experience where your assumptions were interrupted and you came face to face with the facts that this is not what I thought it was, they are not who I thought they were, and I am am not where I thought I should be? If you have ever had that experience, then you can admit that. That reality checks are often revelations that end up producing appreciation. Because I'd rather be disappointed short term by what's real than deceived long term by what's fake. I can't solve a problem I can't see and I can't fix what I can't face. And this is why reality checks are not just accessories, they are necessities. And Jesus himself corroborates this claim when he makes a statement about reality checks. In John chapter number eight, Jesus talked about reality checks. Yes. Yes, he did. Where did Jesus talk about reality checks? In John 8, when did Jesus talk about reality checks? When he said, you will know the truth and the truth will set you free. When Jesus uses the word truth, he uses a Greek word that literally means truth as reality actually is. He is literally saying that truth is. Brings you into a collision with reality. Jesus is suggesting that when I give you truth, I am actually giving you a reality check about the way God works, about the way life works, and about the way you work. Therefore, proclamation of truth is more than just the distribution of information. Proclamation of truth is an act of liberation. When you get truth, you get freedom, it says. Sets us free from deception from the devil about the way life works, the way God works and the way you work. Because the devil wants to use deception to influence our decisions so that it creates defunct dysfunction that leads to destruction. The enemy wants to infiltrate our ideology. Come here. And even our theology. We're falseness about the way God works, the way life works and the way you work. But Jesus says, I want to set you free from destruction by setting you free from deception. And the truth sets you free. Because my destruction is a result of dysfunction which is the result of decisions that are often influenced by deception. Deception about the way God works. So I am expecting something from God that he never committed to give. Deception about the way God works. Deception about the way I work. So now I am behaving in a way that is actually acting against my own best interest. Self imposed nuisance. Self imposed nuisance. Self s impose I nuisance in. When I am sinning. I am acting in a way that is not consistent with my own best interests. This is why God hates sin. He doesn't hate the sinner. He hates sin because he hates what sin does to you. Are y' all here? Yeah. And so if the enemy infiltrates our ideology and our theology with deception about the way we work, then we will end up doing things like assuming I can feed my mind with negativity, cynicism, pessimism, gossip and slander and then still be full of optimism, faith and focus. That's a lie. Jesus gives us truth that brings us into reality. Whatsoever is good. Come on in here. Whatsoever is lovely. Whatever is of a good report. If there be any virtue, if there be any praise. Think on these things and in the peace of God that passes all understanding will rule your heart and mind. Reality check. The enemy wants to infiltrate our theology and ideology with errors. That says I can associate with individuals regularly. And did not impact me practically. When the truth is walk with the wise and become wise for a companion of fools suffer harm, I will become like who I'm walking with. Did you hear what I just said? This is why we've got to do relationshipology. Because that old adage, even though it's not found in Scripture, is supported by Scripture. Show me your friends, I'll show you your future. Be not deceived. Bad company corrupts good character. The devil wants me to see about the way God works, about the way life works, about the way I work and about the way life works. And truth sets us free from making decisions based on deception. Because decisions based on deception lead to dysfunction, and that dysfunction will lead to some destruction. So if you will allow me the pastoral privilege on my first Sunday back to lovingly and humbly offer us a reality check in an area that's extremely important, yet often overlooked, I'm going to do my best to be biblically faithful and highly practical and just share with you some things that I've seen in scripture, because I think this is an area we might need, a reality check. And if you'll give me permission, I'm going to do my best to share with you. Do I have your permission? I said, do I have your permission? Okay, here it is. This reality check I want to offer can be summarized in one statement. Here it is for my note takers. Most of the strides you want to make are going to take longer than you want them to take. Now, see, every service gave me that little golf clap right there. And I just. I'm going to say it again, and I want us to learn how to respond to truth. Okay, I didn't say all, but most of the strides that you want to make are going to take longer than you want them to take. Period. Clock it. That many. Did you hear what I just said? Yeah. That. Whether we are talking maritally, whether we are talking professionally, whether we're talking spiritually, whether we're talking financially, most of the strides we want to make. Listen to this. Are going to take longer than we want them to take. This is not cynicism. This is realism. And faith doesn't deny reality. This is a truth that can set you free from the anxiousness and the aggravation associated with the assumption that certain things shouldn't take this long. Who told you it shouldn't take this long? How can you say you behind schedule when you don't know the schedule? I need a church that will talk back to me today. Did not God say to Israel through Jeremiah, I know the plans I have for you? He didn't say, you know the plans. And God's like you anxious and you aggravated cause you think you behind schedule when you don't even know the schedule. That when I put your destiny in my divine design, I calculated your steps and your mistakes. You didn't know you would waste those years. I knew you would waste your years. So I saved the best of your years on the other side of your mistake. You not behind schedule. And many people have anxiousness and aggravation because somehow you think it's not supposed to take this long. You think you can get saved on Saturday and then be able to rebuke a storm on Sunday? Where you get that from? You don't know enough scripture yet? Y' all not talking to me? Yeah, you. You don't know enough scripture yet. You hadn't had enough experience yet to anchor your conviction in the truth. Who told you you were supposed to have figured out? You just got started. And then a lot of people that's acting like they got it figured out don't have it figured out either. Who told you that you can get that Song of Songs, Song of Solomon type of relationship overnight? Who told you that? Who told you you can really be in a state of unbreakable love with each other without going through a season where you don't like each other? Y' all not ready. I'm going. Let me go over here. Who told you that? How can you say you behind schedule? You don't know the schedule. And if we were to objectively observe Scripture, here's what you will see in this book. You will see repeated and consistent admonitions for patience. And the admonitions and exhortations for patience is an indication you're gonna have to wait a lot. Romans 12:12 says, Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction. Why would he say, be patient in affliction if you weren't gonna have to be in affliction longer than you wanted to? Going to this section right here, Galatians 6, 9 says, let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time, we will reap a harvest. If. Here's the way the King James says, be not weary in well doing, for in due season, you see, I taught you this. Endless times. In culture, they only have four seasons. Winter, spring, summer, fall. But in the kingdom, we got five. Winter, spring, summer, fall, and due season. Give your neighbor a high five and say, the weather's changing. I feel due season. In this section, I feel due season in this section. I feel due season. In this section, I feel due season. What the Bible seems to Support is something Dr. Mark Batterson frames this way. What the Bible seems to Support is something Dr. Mark Batterson frames this way. Much of what God is going to do in and through your life. Now listen to Kap. I know it's my first Sunday back, and it's the 1230, and if this is your first time coming to the 12:30, you came to a situation. This is. I tell you. I tell people. I tell people all the time. Listen if you come to the 1230 and it's too much, don't change the church, just change the service. Cuz at this one right here, it's up. Okay, I know where I'm at. Okay, here it is. Much of what the Bible supports that you can expect. Here's what you can realistically expect. It's supported by the Bible. It's captured by Dr. Mark Batterson. He says this much of what God's going to do in and through your life will happen gradually, then suddenly. Gradually, then suddenly. Gradually, then suddenly. Suddenly. And very often Christian, when we engage in exegesis of some of the miracles we see in the New Testament, we often emphasize disproportionately the back end of miracles that happen suddenly. We'll see like the woman with the issue of blood who touched the hem of his garment. And the King James Version says straight way. One translation says immediately she was healed from that issue. So we look at the suddenly, but we, we don't give proper attention to the fact that she suffered with that issue for 12 years. It was gradually, then suddenly. Yeah, yeah, yeah. There are stories like the Gospel of John, chapter number five. There's this man who has this unidentified infirmity and he is by this place called the pool of Bethesda. And there was this myth that once a year an angel came and troubled the water and whoever stepped in first got healed. It's bad theology. So much wrong with that. It's superstition. It's attributing power to angels that they don't have. It is portraying God as a God who's not just. It is advocating impulsive impulsivity and quickness. Not realizing that God not only works fast, he works slow. And Jesus walks up to a man and says, do you want to be made whole? And this man starts to offer excuses and Jesus says, I don't got time for that. Take up your bed and walk. And immediately he got healed. But for 38 years he was in that condition gradually then. Do you not remember when Jesus goes into the synagogue to teach and there's a woman in the synagogue who has a bent over back, probably some sort of bone or spinal or muscular issue. And she's in the synagogue which represents, represents the church and she can't get straight because we all got some areas we need. God. Y' all not talking to me. I know you've been to Sunday school, but you still got some areas God need to. I know you've been to vacation Bible school, but you still got some areas this is why the Bible restricts and forbids judgment. Because while you judging them because they need to straighten something out over here. God's like, you need to be looking at yourself because you got something you need to straighten out over there. We all need some straightening. And Jesus interrupts his teaching from the Torah. If we were using Greek language, he, he, he interrupts. He interrupts his communication of the logos that's found in the graphe. And he gives a rhema and stops the sermon, looks at the woman. King James said, woman, thou art loosed from thine infirmity. And it happened suddenly. But we missed the fact that she was in that condition 18 years. It happened gradually, then suddenly. Gradually, then suddenly. Gradually, then suddenly. How's God gonna turn it around? How you gonna bounce back? How you gonna recover? But if you cannot survive the gradually, you will miss the suddenly. That's reality. That's reality. That's the way God works. That's the way life works, and that's the way you work. God works this way. And God has ordained life will work this way, to work this way, because this way works best for you. Gradually, then suddenly works best for you. So God works this way. And God arranged for life to work this way because it's best for you that things work this way gradually, this, then suddenly. So what believers need discipling and development in is how properly manage to gradually. Because for many of us, we were taught to wait. We were told to wait, but not trained, coach or disciple on how to wait. You got me. Because when what you need is literally at the mercy of the sovereignty of God, you have no choice but to wait. I'm waiting on the Lord. You don't have a. Which is why in the New Testament, when Paul in the book of Galatians talks about the fruit of the Spirit, Eli, the word patience there. When you really look at what he talks about in the Greek, it's not dealing with waiting. It is dealing with how you handle you when you wait. Look at it. Yeah, yeah, yeah. So the evidence, the fruit, the tangible expression of the spirit governing and guiding your life will produce an ability not just to wait. Sometimes we have no choice but to wait. Well, because if I don't know how to wait, well, the weight becomes a weight. So I need the Scriptures to teach me how to wait. Well, and in John Chapter number 11, we see some insight on how to wait. Well, John is one of the most interesting Gospel writers to me, and it's really, really interesting, Right? So let's just say, for example, just to make sure. I know I've taught you this before, but just in case someone hadn't heard it, let's just say I can't. But let's just say I ran across stage and now turn the cartwheel. I can't. Praise God. And let's say I pulled four of you. And I said, I want four of you to write what you saw. There would be things in all four of your accounts that are similar. And then there are going to be some things in your accounts that are different. Does it make sense? So let's say one person is a painter and another person is an engineer. There are going to be some dynamics about their accounts that are different because one might be more inclined to detail. The engineer may say he took four steps, then he gathered himself, leap. The left hand hit the ground first. When the creative may say, that was a crazy flip. Got me. Saw the same thing. But you write about it differently from your vantage point. So to get a comprehensive picture of what happened, you need more than one viewpoint, because everybody's looking at my flip through their lens. This is why you've got Matthew, Mark, Luke, and John. They're all telling their account of the life and the ministry of Jesus from their unique perspectives. So there's some things in the Gospels that are the same, and there's some things in the Gospels that are different. And John's Gospel, in my opinion, is most unique not just because of the way John presents Jesus, and he does present Jesus differently. There's really this unique emphasis on Jesus's divinity in John's writing, but. But not just because of the way John presents Jesus. And I hope y' all can handle this. I know you can handle this. But because of the way John presents himself, John talks about himself differently. You understand what I'm saying? Like, you don't see Matthew really talking about himself, and you don't see Mark talking about himself. You don't see Luke talk, the physician talking about himself. But John four times in his Gospel describes himself this way. The one that Jesus loved. And Jesus said to the one that he loved. Now, I don't know why John said this about himself. Here's one reason, one reason could be pretty powerful and profound. It could be that John had an experience with love from Jesus that was so unique, it became the anchor of his identity. That what mattered more to him in this season of his life was not that he was a son of Zebedee, but he was loved by Jesus. That. That he. That he experienced something so radical that he said what Matters to me now is not just what I can do for Jesus. I want to be identified by what Jesus had done for me. And I think that would be a fair treatment of John's motives here. But if we were to stop there, we would be intellectually dishonest because Jesus is the only God man in Scripture, and he's the only person we deify, which means John's not perfect. And I am not going to make assumptions about John's motives. But I will say there are some patterns that I can't ignore. When Jesus is confronted. Two gospel writers talk about this Jesus. At least two Jesus talks about Jesus confronted. One gospel writer says it was James and John's mother. Another says it's James and John. They say, jesus, when you get into your kingdom, let me sit on the right and on the left hand. So you can't ignore just in that request alone what seems to be a desire to have some special treatment or to feel like I'm occupying a special place in Jesus's plan. John models something here that is a reason delay always works in our faith. He models something here that many Christians wrestle with, but they're afraid to admit. I don't know why they're afraid to admit it, because it doesn't mean they're bad. It means they're human. But they never address it because they won't admit. The tension that John models here is a tension of mixed motives. Maybe it's not one or the other. Maybe it's both. Maybe he had a revelation of love that came from Jesus, that it became the anchor of his identity and more than his name, he wanted to be known as one that was loved by Jesus. And then maybe at the same time, because of that, he wanted to have a special place in Jesus's plan. And he wanted to sit on the right hand and on the left hand. It's only two seats. I'm gonna let the other 10 disciples figure out where they sit. But me and my brother, we want to sit next to you. And if many people are honest and they objectively examine the inner recesses of their soul, they would have to admit that there is some mixture there. John wants Jesus to get glory, but he wants to make himself look good. John wants Jesus to be exalted, but he wants himself to be known. John wants Jesus to be seen as a suffering servant, and John wants to be special. John wants to make Jesus name great, and he wants his name great too. And everybody has some mixture. The question is, is the meter going in the right direction? Because by the end of John's life, the meter had gone in. In the right direction to the degree that John became a martyr for the faith. He got to the point where he said, it's all about you, not about me to the degree I'm willing to give my life. Which means part of what happens when you spiritually mature is that God begins to move the meter on the mixture. And some of us. You told me I could. Some of us are too mixed for what you asking for. God, like, nah, it's way too much of you in this right now. And so you're gonna get a lot of glory of this. So you want my help, but you want the glory. That's exactly what it is. You won't say that because you've been conditioned in church not to honestly articulate the condition of your soul. What you really want me to do is to bless you so that you look good and you'll give me a little side credit, but you won't give me all the credit and all the glory. You too mixed for what you praying for. So God's like, I can't do you like I did, Esther. Cuz you're going to get in that palace. And sometimes when I put you in a position of prominence, you got to be willing to risk the what to accomplish the why. But when you get in that what so long, you fall in love with the what. And you'll think that God put you in the what for you not realizing he put you in the what for them. You just become a beneficiary of divine placement. But you aren't placed there just for God to bless you, Esther. You're placed there so that you can be a blessing. And if you love the palace more than the purpose, you won't accomplish the purpose when you get to the palace. Says you. You too mixed for it. You want your name to be great. It's not the gifting, it's the mixture. We had what's called son and daughter Sunday last week. Clap your hands for all of that. Here's why I'm so proud of them. I'm not proud of their performance. I was already proud before I put them up. Y' all missed that. I didn't gain trust from the performance. The placement was the trust. And they're incredibly gifted. There are a few of them that are gifted enough that I'll put on any stage in the country. But the reason they were up here at Change, the reason I entrusted this platform to them across all of our locations was not just because they're incredibly gifted. These are sons and daughters that manage mixture. I knew that the ones I picked were not going to stand up here and treat this stage like an opportunity. They were going to treat it like an assignment. That they were going to love you, that they were going to be prepared, that they were going to be thorough, that they were not going to perform, that they were going to be themselves, that they were going to operate in their uniqueness and their oil. And even though it was their personality, you could sitting and say, it's us. Come on, y'. All. You can say, it's us. Why? So they're not just talented. They get. They got the stage cuz they manage their mixture. Christian preached the 10:15 here last week. Watch this, watch this. But he preached in a prison a few weeks before at our prison location. He preached there. No cameras, no screen. Y' all aren't talking to me. Eli produces almost every known gospel artist you know of. Almost everyone you know who was at the prison. Eli. Y' all aren't clapping in here. Y' all can't see this drama. Y' all can't see this drama. You don't. Y' all can't see this drama. But this guy right here, this guy was doing residency for Mariah Carey in Vegas, would do the shows Saturday night, hop on a red eye, fly all the way from the west coast, land in Atlanta in the morning, come straight to church and play our four services back those days in Gwinnett, y' all aren't. Tario is played for everybody. Now, some of them got the Holy Ghost and some of them don't. But he's still anointed. Tario has been playing in Budapest and fly all night. Come to a church. It's not just the talent, it's the mixture. And your heavenly Father sees it the same way. He's like, okay, there's some stages you want to stand on you good enough for, but you're too mixed for. So I'm not surprised that John really emphasizes this delay in Lazarus miracle. So when he tells this story, he gives us a degree of detail. Well, the delay is pretty prominent. Mary and Martha and Lazarus are siblings, and Jesus had a unique relationship with them. And Lazarus gets sick. Jesus is not in Bethany. So the sisters send word to Jesus, and here's what they say, Lord, the one you love is sick. This is not just some information. This is an invitation. It's a summons. It's saying, I know you love him, so do something about this. Because if you love me deeply, I Expect you to act quickly. You hear what I just said? And the Bible says, when Jesus got word, he stayed where he was two more days. Wait a minute. If you love me deeply, why don't you move quickly? But he stayed where he was two more days. He waited, Pastor. Why did he wait? Give me verse four. He says verse four. This sickness will not end in death. It's for God's glory so that God's son may be glorified through it. God's glory so that God's Son may be glorified through will not end in death. Don't misread what Jesus said. Because you misread what Jesus said, you'll come to the conclusion that he contradicts himself because Lazarus dies. As a matter of fact, by the time Jesus gets to where Lazarus is, he's been to grave four days. But he says right here, this will not end in death. Is Jesus lying? He's not lying. He never said Lazarus wouldn't die. He said it wouldn't end in death. I want to tell somebody. It won't end. Just because you're in it. Just because you're in it doesn't mean it's gonna end this way. You may have to pass through death. Come on. By the time he gets to where Lazarus is, he's been dead four days. Let's wrap up. Tar. Yo. Here it is, y'. All. Okay, we wrapping up. Here it is. I've been gone. Here it is. Here it is. Here it is. By the time he gets to where last year's. It's been four days, guys. Four days. Laris is dead. And when Jesus gets there, it's really, really, really, really interesting to me. Four days this man's been dead. And the only explanation they get in terms of why they had to wait was so that God would be glorified and God's Son, meaning Jesus, would be glorified through it. So he literally says, one of the reasons for the wait is glory. You have to wait. Because what I'm going to do for you on the other side of the weight isn't just going to put attention on you, is going to put attention on me. Listen to me. This is. This is interesting because. And I'm getting ready to do this whole thing in, in the fall on spiritual gifts, spiritual fruit, whole nine yards. Tell me what Lazarus's spiritual gift is. You don't know. Does he have a teaching gift? You don't know. Does he have an encouragement gift? You don't know. But did God use Lazarus? He used his gift. He used his life. So sometimes when you say, God, I want you to use me, we're thinking, God, use my performance. And God's like, I'm gonna make you a picture of possibility. I'm gonna let you stay dead long enough to assemble an audience. Y' all not ready. And when an audience is assembled, there's a degree of embarrassment that comes with that. Hallelujah. But I'm gonna give you a resurrection in the presence of the same audience that saw you go in the grave. And your resurrection is going to give me glory, even though it worked for your good. So what Mary and Martha and Lazarus endure is not for Mary and Martha and Lazarus. It's for us, Jesus. Sometimes your assignment is your example. Why did I have to go through all of this just to get to that? So that when people read your story. And Mary and Martha in the middle of this delay, they're not perfect, they're human. But they teach us how to wait. Well, there are three things I see in the text that. That. That they had for them to wait. Well, that we need to have if we're going to wait. Well, number one, I'm done is the power of perception. Watch what the text says. Jesus literally says in verse 11. He went on to tell them, our friend Lazarus has fallen asleep. But I'm going there to wake him up. You can't wait. Well, if you don't understand the power of perception, what does this mean? It means that you got to understand that you and God don't see your Lazarus the same way. And he not rushing because he not worried. He taking his time because to you it's an emergency. To him it's not you like it's dead. He like, it's sleep. So a resurrection to you is a wake up. To him, He says, you're thinking it's got to be done by a certain time frame. When you don't realize, whenever I get there sometime. Number two, you got to understand the power paradox. When Martha goes to Jesus, I love this. She says, if you'd have been here, my brother would have died. Wouldn't have died. And then she says, but even now, I know you can raise them up paradox. Because if you would have been here, my brother wouldn't have died. That's frustration. She was frustrated. But even now, that's faith. And if you're gonna wait, well, you're gonna have to learn how to manage both. Because just because I'm frustrated doesn't mean I don't have faith. She says, if you would have been here. Meaning I'm frustrated that I'm in this situation. But even now is, I believe you can get me out. Am I talking to anybody who will testify? I'm frustrated, but I still got faith. I don't like that I'm in it, but I believe he's gonna get me out of it. You're gonna have both, but don't let the frustration kill the faith. And then number three, you got to manage the power of position. Look at the text. Martha goes to Jesus first. Mary stays in the house. Martha says, if you'd have been here, my brother wouldn't have died. But even now, you can raise him up. Jesus say, your brother will rise again. She said, I know. Don't get me to death. Da da da da da. My brother will rise again. I know. So here's what the text says. She goes back to the house and called her sister Mary aside and say, the teacher is here and he is asking for you. Now, either one or two things happen. Either one, Jesus really did ask Martha to go get married and John didn't record it. Or it's probably more likely because John seems to be pretty detailed. Probably more likely, there's nothing in the text that says Jesus told Martha to go get married. Martha goes to get married. Say Jesus wants you because she's having this conversation with Jesus and Jesus still not moving. Now, remember we read. We read that this is the same Mary who opened the alabaster box. This is the same Mary. Remember when Jesus came to visit their house and Martha was busy putting stuff together and Mary was sitting at his feet, and Martha got agitated with Mary and say, jesus, make her help me. She's probably thinking, I can't get Jesus to move, but maybe Mary can get him to move. Watch this. Because the same people that's critiquing you sitting at his feet in one season are the same people that will be asking for your help in another. The same people that say, you all in that church let the bottom fall out in their life. They texting you saying, what time is service? And when Mary comes, she says the same thing. Martha says, if you would have been here, my brother wouldn't have died. And Jesus said, show me where you laid him. I got to go. Y' all missed that. He didn't give Mary a theological discourse or a Sunday school lesson. When a praiser got in front of him, he said, show me where you lay there. Do I have any Mary's in this house? Raise your voice. Show me. Show me where you lay there. Look at me. I know it feels like it's taking too long. I know you wore out. I know you are tired of this spiritual and emotional roller coaster. I know you just ready for some consistency. I know you feel like it's taking too long. And I know you feel like something's wrong. But here's a reality check. Lovingly and pastorally. Most of the strides you want to make are going to take longer than you want them to take. The delay is in your favor. Listen to me. It won't always be like this. The Lord will perfect that concerning you sooner or later. Be like this. The Lord will perfect that concern Prophesy. Sing it prophesy. One more time. It won't always prophesy. Yes, the Lord will perfect that. Come on, church say sooner or later. Later. It'll turn in. Sooner or later it'll turn in. It's turning around for me. Turning around. I'm getting ready to pray for your strength and we're going home. Jesus said to Peter, peter, Satan desires to sift you as wheat. But I have prayed for you that your faith fail not. Put your hand on the shoulder of your neck neighbor and tell them, survive. My God, I felt the Holy Ghost on that. Survive. Survive. What will I? What can I do, Pastor? Survive. I will live and not die to declare the works of the Lord. Survive.
Change Church Podcast | Pastor Dharius Daniels
Date: July 22, 2026
In this sermon, Pastor Dharius Daniels tackles the frustrations and spiritual lessons behind delays in life, inspired by the story of Lazarus in John 11. With honesty and a practical approach, he guides listeners through a “reality check” that confronts unrealistic expectations about the pace of progress. Pastor Daniels challenges cultural and personal assumptions, showing how spiritual growth and God’s plans often take longer than we hope, for reasons that serve both our good and God’s glory. The message offers encouragement on how to wait well, manage mixed motives, and reinterpret waiting as purposeful and necessary.
[01:20 – 06:15]
Reality checks force us out of denial:
“Reality checks are often revelations that end up producing appreciation. Because I’d rather be disappointed short term by what’s real than deceived long term by what’s fake. I can’t solve a problem I can’t see and I can’t fix what I can’t face.” – Pastor Dharius Daniels [02:35]
Truth as a liberator:
Drawing from John 8, Pastor Daniels notes that knowing the truth (reality) sets you free—not just as knowledge, but from the deceptions that cause dysfunctional decisions and, ultimately, destruction.
Deception’s impact:
The enemy influences us with false ideas about God, life, and ourselves, leading us astray and harming our spiritual and practical well-being.
[06:18 – 17:45]
Most progress is slow:
“Most of the strides you want to make are going to take longer than you want them to take.” [08:00]
– A major theme, repeated for emphasis, that applies across personal, professional, spiritual, and financial spheres.
Addressing anxiousness and ‘the schedule’:
We get aggravated because we assume how long things “should” take, but only God knows the true timeline.
“How can you say you’re behind schedule when you don’t know the schedule? Did not God say to Israel through Jeremiah, ‘I know the plans I have for you’? He didn’t say, you know the plans.” [11:03]
Scripture’s repeated calls for patience:
Passages like Romans 12:12 and Galatians 6:9 support the need for endurance—“the weather’s changing, I feel due season.” [13:10]
[17:46 – 28:33]
Dr. Mark Batterson’s framework:
“Much of what God’s going to do in and through your life will happen gradually, then suddenly.” [17:55]
Miracles often have a ‘long buildup’:
Pastor Daniels revisits stories of healing in the Gospels—the woman with the issue of blood (12 years), the man by the pool of Bethesda (38 years), and a woman with a bent back (18 years).
Quote: “If you cannot survive the gradually, you will miss the suddenly. That’s reality. That’s the way God works, that’s the way life works, and that’s the way you work.” [25:30]
‘Due season’ in the Kingdom:
Delay is not denial. God ordains process to prepare us.
[28:34 – 40:00]
Waiting is not just about time, but attitude:
The fruit of the Spirit includes patience, but biblically this is about “how you handle you when you wait,” not just the act of waiting. [30:12]
Learning from John’s Gospel:
John’s narrative is uniquely personal—he refers to himself as “the one Jesus loved.” This reflects both his experience of divine love (identity anchor) and, perhaps, mixed motives.
Managing ‘mixture’ (mixed motives):
“Some of us are too mixed for what you’re asking for. God’s like, nah, it’s way too much of you in this right now. So you want my help, but you want the glory.” [35:03]
Mixture as a spiritual growth issue:
As we grow, God “moves the meter” so our motives align more with His glory and less with self-promotion.
[40:01 – 54:00]
The sisters’ appeal:
Mary and Martha send for Jesus with urgency—“Lord, the one you love is sick”—expecting His love to mean quick action.
Jesus delays intentionally:
“When Jesus got word, he stayed where he was two more days… Wait a minute. If you love me deeply, why don’t you move quickly?” [42:50]
Purpose in the wait:
“The only explanation they get…was so that God would be glorified and God’s Son, meaning Jesus, would be glorified through it. So he literally says one of the reasons for the wait is glory.” [48:22]
Sometimes your greatest ministry is your story:
God used Lazarus’s life, not his known gifts, to display what is possible.
[54:01 – 01:03:00]
The Power of Perception:
The Power of Paradox:
The Power of Position:
On Deception:
“The devil wants me deceived about the way God works, about the way life works, about the way I work.” [03:40]
On Waiting Well:
“If I don’t know how to wait well, the weight becomes a weight.” [30:29]
On Mixture of Motives:
“You want my help, but you want the glory… You too mixed for what you’re praying for.” [35:03]
On Delay and God’s Timing:
“You not behind schedule—and many people have anxiousness and aggravation because somehow you think it’s not supposed to take this long.” [11:46]
On Survival:
“What will I—What can I do, Pastor? Survive. I will live and not die to declare the works of the Lord.” [01:04:25]
Pastor Dharius Daniels delivers a deeply practical yet theologically rich message about enduring life’s delays with humility, perspective, and faith. He urges listeners to embrace reality checks, reject deceptive expectations about “quick” results, and trust that God’s timing—though often slower than we wish—is designed for both His glory and our growth. Believers are encouraged to “wait well” by managing their attitude, motives, and perceptions, knowing that what takes longer is often for our benefit and God’s grander purpose.
“Most of the strides you want to make are going to take longer than you want them to take. The delay is in your favor…It won’t always be like this.” [01:02:10 – 01:03:15]