EP 46 | relationship advice with big d

Summary

Podcast Title: CHEERS! with Avery Woods
Episode: EP 46 | Relationship Advice with Big D
Release Date: September 30, 2024
Host: Avery Woods
Guest: David (“Big D”) Woods

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Introduction

In Episode 46 of CHEERS! with Avery Woods, host Avery Woods sits down with her husband, David Woods, affectionately known as Big D, to delve into various aspects of their decade-long relationship. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of their journey, offering listeners valuable relationship advice drawn from their personal experiences.

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Annoyances in the Relationship

Avery and David kick off the conversation by addressing one of the classic relationship topics: what they find annoying about each other.

Notable Quote:

Avery Woods [02:07]: "I’d say sometimes this is her coming up with something else because she doesn't want to say what actually is in her head."

David humorously shares that Avery's habit of chewing ice is a source of irritation, leading to dental issues:

David [02:20]: "Chewing ice. And it's gotten so bad now that you have specialty ice that's softer because you completely wrecked your teeth."

They discuss how minor annoyances are a natural part of any long-term relationship and emphasize the importance of addressing them constructively.

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Future Plans: Retirement and Family

The couple envisions their lives five to ten years down the road, focusing on family, business, and personal well-being.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [07:29]: "Happy."

David [07:46]: "I've been building for the rest of our lives and securing our financial future."

They aspire to retire early, manage successful businesses, and ensure they remain actively involved in their children's lives. Avery highlights the significance of being present for their kids' milestones without being tied down to one location:

Avery Woods [12:14]: "We want to make sure we're always there for all of our kids and grandkids... so we won't be tied down anywhere specific."

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Conflict Resolution and Arguments

Avery and David share their experiences with conflicts, illustrating how they've evolved in handling disagreements over the years.

Notable Quotes:

David [08:30]: "This is how we conflict resolution."

Avery Woods [21:27]: "But usually you go to bed upset."

They recount a recent minor argument about the location of a Spirit of Halloween store, portraying it as a typical yet harmless disagreement:

Avery Woods [08:56]: "This is about how bad it gets. We'll leave that in just for an example."

They emphasize the importance of communication and spending quality time together to mitigate conflicts:

David [29:22]: "If you truly love the other person and you value them as individuals... you both are changing together to make your relationship work."

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Advice to Single Women on Dating: David’s Perspective

David offers insightful advice to single women navigating the modern dating landscape, emphasizing confidence and intentionality.

Notable Quotes:

David [33:00]: "Be very confident. I think confidence exudes sexiness."

Avery Woods [33:00]: "Men have just gotten so... not held to the standards they used to be held to back in, like, grandma and grandpa days."

He criticizes the superficial nature of dating apps and encourages women to seek meaningful connections:

David [33:42]: "Everybody." When you have the same standards as before."

David advises women to be clear about their relationship goals, whether seeking casual dating or a serious commitment, to attract like-minded partners.

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Engagement and Wedding Announcements: Rings and Upgrades

The episode shifts to personal milestones as Avery discusses her engagement ring and recent wedding band upgrade.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [38:07]: "I told him before he ever proposed what my dream ring was. And it was a Morganite because I knew I wanted rose gold."

David [39:08]: "I had to take a loan out against my retirement account to be able to do that."

Avery elaborates on the sentimental value of her custom-made ring and the practical decision to upgrade her wedding band after years of use:

Avery Woods [39:28]: "It was extremely clouded. I took it to my jeweler and I was like, hey, I kind of want to put a real diamond in this."

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Breaking the Fighting Cycle and Enhancing Quality Time

Avery and David discuss strategies to break out of negative conflict patterns and prioritize quality time to strengthen their bond.

Notable Quotes:

David [43:07]: "Identify what you're fighting about."

Avery Woods [42:34]: "I don’t feel as close to you."

They highlight the importance of recognizing the root causes of disagreements and making a conscious effort to spend meaningful time together:

David [43:30]: "Most of the time, it's kind of stupid. And then just focus on spending some quality time together."

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Lifestyle Changes: Reducing Alcohol Consumption

The couple touches on lifestyle adjustments, particularly Avery's decision to cut back on drinking and its impact on their household.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [43:53]: "I cut back drinking."

David [44:32]: "Our wine fridge is empty now just because we haven't been buying any wine."

They clarify that Avery's choice to reduce alcohol was not due to an addiction but a personal decision, fostering a supportive environment at home:

Avery Woods [45:23]: "You’re not an alcoholic to choose to take a break from drinking."

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Family and Work: Balancing Professional Trips with Parenting

Avery shares her positive experience on a brand trip to Cabo with Kosas, highlighting the company's inclusive approach by accommodating her family.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [50:38]: "What makes it better is that the founder and the whole team is so generous and incredible."

David [52:45]: "Any of the trips that I haven't been on or been invited to... create more opportunities for us to do these types of things in the future."

They express gratitude for brands that understand the dynamics of family life and the importance of including children in professional commitments.

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Plans for Vow Renewal

Looking ahead, Avery and David discuss their plans for a vow renewal celebration, aiming for a more intimate and family-friendly event.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [53:19]: "We know that a 10-year vow renewal is a celebration of love, how far you've come."

David [58:16]: "It’s gonna be awesome."

They debate potential locations, ultimately favoring California's Santa Barbara area for its personal significance and convenience for their guests, planning a festive event with food trucks and live music:

Avery Woods [54:27]: "We were like, let's just do something a little closer that people can drive to make a little bit of a vacation out of it."

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Laughter and Light Moments in the Relationship

The episode concludes on a joyful note as Avery and David share what makes each other laugh, showcasing the playful and affectionate side of their partnership.

Notable Quotes:

David [61:12]: "You are your own biggest comedian."

Avery Woods [60:23]: "Nothing makes me prouder in this life than when I make him laugh, like his high-pitched belly laugh."

They recount moments of shared humor, emphasizing how laughter strengthens their emotional connection:

Avery Woods [62:30]: "The Ellen cinema special was actually really good."

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Conclusion

Episode 46 of CHEERS! with Avery Woods offers a candid and insightful look into the dynamics of Avery and David's relationship. From addressing everyday annoyances to planning future milestones, their conversation provides listeners with relatable and actionable relationship advice. Their emphasis on communication, quality time, and mutual respect serves as a valuable guide for couples navigating their own journeys together.

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Highlighted Quotes:

• Avery Woods [02:07]: "I’d say sometimes this is her coming up with something else because she doesn't want to say what actually is in her head."

• David [28:31]: "Compromising is what I think. Any time we went through difficult stages in our relationship, there was always different parts of each of us that had to shift to show, yeah, we're going to make our relationship work."

• David [33:00]: "Men have just gotten so... not held to the standards they used to be held to back in, like, grandma and grandpa days."

• Avery Woods [43:53]: "I cut back drinking."

• Avery Woods [50:38]: "What makes it better is that the founder and the whole team is so generous and incredible."

• Avery Woods [62:30]: "The Ellen cinema special was actually really good."

Transcript

[Avery Woods]

Hi, welcome to Cheers. I'm your host, Avery Woods. Hi, guys. Welcome back to the Cheers podcast. I'm your host, Avery woods, and we have our first guest in the new studio, and it's my favorite guest, which is Big D. Thank you. Hey.

[David]

Thank you. Hi.

[Avery Woods]

We always get a bunch of relationship questions and. Or, like, when I do solo episodes, and I was like, who better to answer these with than with the person I've been with for a decade? So the husband is here. We asked all my Instagram stories, relationship questions, advice, also confessions, which I think are fun to go through. Are you so happy to be here?

[David]

I'm so happy to be here.

[Avery Woods]

Welcome back.

[David]

Our blankies.

[Avery Woods]

I know we have a crispy diet Coke from McDonald's, thanks to Scott. And yeah, David did work really hard on this podcast studio, and it looks so good. Also, we put some vanilla THC in our Diet Coke.

[David]

Oh, we. We disclose that now?

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

Do you always look at the cameras or am I just noticing that now?

[Avery Woods]

No.

[David]

I mean, no, I'm just curious.

[Avery Woods]

I don't know. Now I'm questioning myself.

[David]

No, you were looking at the camera like you're like. You're, like, talking. Talking to your audience.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, I am.

[David]

That's cool.

[Avery Woods]

But, like, when you and I talk, I look at your face.

[David]

That's true.

[Avery Woods]

You know.

[David]

Damn. That's how connected you are to your audience. Whoa.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, my God. David is absolutely.

[David]

No, it's cuz, like, when you. You're saying you make eye contact with me and you look at me.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

It's like you're looking at your people.

[Avery Woods]

I know. Isn't that crazy?

[David]

Hey, I never thought. I just never thought of it that way.

[Avery Woods]

Anyways. All right, questions.

[David]

Scotty. Scotty's like, what am I going on right now?

[Avery Woods]

Okay, first question I think is so funny. What do you find annoying about each other? There has to be something. Lol. Love you both.

[David]

I wonder if you could identify.

[Avery Woods]

I know what you would say about me.

[David]

I don't know if. Should I say it and then you confirm or should you say it?

[Avery Woods]

I think I should say first or.

[David]

At the same time. On three.

[Avery Woods]

Okay.

[David]

One, two, three. I. Chewing ice. Choosing ice. Choosing ice. When I chose ice, I couldn't make.

[Avery Woods]

Up my mind if I was to say ice chewing or chewing ice. Chewing it became choosing ice.

[David]

Chewing ice. And it's gotten so bad now that you have specialty ice that's softer because you completely wrecked your teeth.

[Avery Woods]

Okay.

[David]

Haven't been to the dentist.

[Avery Woods]

Do you know that's what Scotty So long. Scotty said that about me, too.

[David]

Don't divert.

[Avery Woods]

Well, I'm telling you, on top of my eye story, when Scotty sat in that chair and was high on an edible, he said that was the number one thing he didn't like most about me. It really hurt my feelings. Not my husband. And my. My husband.

[David]

Yeah. Like, when you're on a phone call in the background.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, my God. I really do. Voice memo.

[David]

It's.

[Avery Woods]

Emily will always be like, nice ice. Chewing in the backgr out. I'm like, I'm sorry. I don't even mention. I'm like, you'll notice I'm doing it.

[David]

You'll call me and go radio silent. And you're the one that called me, so I'm expecting there to be a point of the call, and you just go silent. And I'm left like, hello? And then you're be like, well, don't be rude. I'm like, well, you called me. No, it's.

[Avery Woods]

I listen. I'm so anemic, and sonic ice is like. I don't know. It. It literally is an addiction. Like, is that your favorite ice pica? When you're like, have you heard of pica? When you have iron deficiency, people will, like, crave soil or ice or laundry.

[David]

Like, the weird.

[Avery Woods]

Or dryer.

[David]

Laundry detergent.

[Avery Woods]

Dryer sheets is a big thing that can't be healthy.

[David]

Well, I'm glad you have the ice.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

Eating.

[Avery Woods]

I could be eating dirt in the front yard. Okay. Digging in the dirt. Like a.

[David]

Like, oh. Like, blink twice, you wake up and.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Like, why? Rock hard and super dark.

[David]

I saw a homeless guy you cat poop once. Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, my God, it's nasty.

[David]

Yep. He looked at it, and he's like, that's cat poop. Don't sit in that. And then he threw himself onto it and started eating it.

[Avery Woods]

God, the. That this man has seen. You guys don't understand.

[David]

I don't know how that correlates to, like, the soil eating disorder, but it doesn't. It doesn't. Okay, wait, you didn't say it was. I told you what I'm annoyed about. You have to say what you're annoyed about with me.

[Avery Woods]

I'd say sometimes this is her coming.

[David]

Up with something else because she doesn't want to say what actually is in her head, so.

[Avery Woods]

No, I really am. So sometimes if I tell you something that you're doing that bothers me, then you'll. Instead of being like, okay. Yeah, like, that's mean. Okay. You usually will be like, well, you did so this, this, and this. And I'm like, competition. Like, I. Every time you tell me something that I do that makes you mad on comparison. Well, earlier this week, you didn't open the door right for me or some. And every time I'm like, hey, you're being grumpy. Or like, I don't know, like, you. When you're doing this, and you're like, well, you didn't flush the toilet this morning, so whatever. Okay. Anyways, it's not.

[David]

Oh, okay. All right.

[Avery Woods]

Where do you guys see yourself in five to 10 years? Wow, that was a massive burp. Actually, I'm going to start burping, too, because this McDonald's Diet Coke, it's so crispy.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

So crispy.

[David]

Yeah. So much carbonation in there. Five to 10 years. I mean, that's so. So such a broad question, but, I.

[Avery Woods]

Mean, I know I'm, like, in business and life and family. Like, I don't know.

[David]

Yeah. I mean, not in this house, that's for sure. No, still in Arizona, I would presume maybe doing some sort of modified living during the summers since we've been exploring that. Hopefully not grandparents.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, my God. What the.

[David]

I mean, anay. Anaya will be 25. 25.

[Avery Woods]

I mean. Yeah, she could.

[David]

25 years.

[Avery Woods]

I mean, I was a parent at 23, so.

[David]

Okay. Yeah. So I should take that back. I should say hopefully not grandparents, you imagine. Hopefully grandparents.

[Avery Woods]

Hopefully when Anaya is 21, I'll be 35. Yeah. So I'm going to take that to Vegas.

[David]

Oh, we're going to have so much.

[Avery Woods]

We're going to have. We're going to party.

[David]

Don't call her that. She's a princess.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, she is a princess, but she's my girl. Like, her and I. Yeah.

[David]

Yeah. I don't. I don't know. Like, what do you.

[Avery Woods]

I would say our business would be launched and successful and hopefully in, like, I'm not gonna say specifically, but, like, certain stores outside the website in our dream home. Hopefully next year. Knock on wood. Yeah.

[David]

Be healthy.

[Avery Woods]

Be healthy. No health problems with our kids. Kids are in school and thriving.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

Happy.

[David]

I don't know. I feel like. I feel like we have a lot of things in place that we're. We've been building for, like, the rest of our lives and securing our financial future. And then other than that, I've just been kind of living in the moment and enjoying it. Yeah. As much as we can, for sure.

[Avery Woods]

All right. Dumbest arguments and who quote one?

[David]

Dumbest arguments and who won? Oh, I got one from today.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, I got one.

[David]

Oh, yours sounds like it's going to be mean.

[Avery Woods]

It's not gonna be mean. It's something you did.

[David]

Okay, so today we argued. This is the factual that happened.

[Avery Woods]

You and I argue today.

[David]

This is what I consider an argument. Because we don't. We don't like really fight or argue much anymore. It's. It's petty little things. So we had an hour between lunch and our movie, and so we're like, oh, let's go over to the Halloween store and walk around with the kids.

[Avery Woods]

You considered.

[David]

So we went back and forth in a. In a conversation for Halloween's.

[Avery Woods]

Right.

[David]

Hold on. No, hey, this is my story to tell. So we conversed back and forth in a competitive manner for probably two to three minutes. I would call that, like what you.

[Avery Woods]

Call that a competitive matter. This is about to be a bigger.

[David]

It wasn't. No, it wasn't a competition. It was. We were both stating that we believed individually we were correct and that the other person was wrong. Anyways, let me continue. Stop interrupting host.

[Avery Woods]

He's like, and I'm gonna give this podcast.

[David]

So we're gonna take the kids. We're taking the kids to spirit of Halloween to look at some stuff. And Avery's like, oh, I know. It's like across from the world market. It's in the standalone area.

[Avery Woods]

I was so.

[David]

And I was like, sure.

[Avery Woods]

I was like, so fucking sure.

[David]

I was like, babe, no, there's a new store there now. It's like a lamps plus or something. I don't know. But it's not a spirit of that. So we drive all the way around and come back. She's like, no, it's in the middle. It's in the middle. I don't think it is, but we'll drive by. I will always let her discover her faults for herself and not.

[Avery Woods]

He likes to humiliate.

[David]

I will walk her to her fault and let her observe it. I won't rub it in her.

[Avery Woods]

He walks me to that massive pasture and he's like, look out.

[David]

So we drove by it. So she's like. She goes, no, this is what she does, though. This is the part that was so inside of my heart was so satisfying. As we're driving, we're coming to a four way stop sign and she's so matter of factly, you need to turn right here. And I'm like, yes, dear. So I make the right hand turn and inside I can see like the building starting to come into View. And I know my moment of satisfaction and glory is approaching. And as we pass and she looks at it, she goes, oh, well, let's just go to the movie then. And, like, if the roles were. If. If the roles were reversed, I would have been like, sorry, babe, my bad. She's like, let's just go.

[Avery Woods]

I would rather die.

[David]

Let's just go to the movie. And Ziggy's in the back seat. He's in the back seat.

[Avery Woods]

But Mama said the Halloween was right here last year. It was okay. Graphic memory. And I was like, that's the building. I swear to God. But they didn't bring it back this year, so I was half right. At least 50%.

[David]

Spirit of Halloween is like, I don't know, like herpes. They just pop up randomly each. Each year during Halloween time.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Well, you've spent, like, at least $3,000.

[David]

No, Home Depot took our money.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, yeah, Home Depot with the giant 50.

[David]

Anybody who wants Halloween stuff the day after Halloween, go to Spirit of Halloween.

[Avery Woods]

This is an advertising.

[David]

It's a plug for Halloween. Our son's.

[Avery Woods]

Hey, Spirit of Halloween.

[David]

Can you sponsor us the day after Halloween? Everything's 50 off. I'm. All the decor that I have out this year, when I went into Spirit of Halloween, like, two days ago, the same crap. They sell the same crap every single year. So wait till the day after Halloween and just stockpile it and then put it in your garage.

[Avery Woods]

Plans for retirement and growing old together.

[David]

Gosh. I mean, so much of that for me depends on, like, where our kids are, because I don't want to be away from grandchildren, our children, and stuff like that. But, you know, I definitely would like to downsize and have a couple different homes somewhere. We've always loved, like, parts of Florida. Yeah. Destin, Florida. And then we love Coronado in California. Yeah, yeah.

[Avery Woods]

Close to the kids. We always say that, like, if our kids go off to college, we get it. It's one thing. But if they move away, we want to make sure that we have somewhere to stay that's close by, because we obviously understand, like, we've had to move states because of jobs and family and different opportunities. And so we'll never hold that against our kids if they have to permanently relocate. But we just want to make sure we're as active in their lives as possible because, like, we're not surrounded with a lot of family. We've known how difficult that can be. And so the majority of our family is just not blood. Like, we're big believers. And you choose you know, your family around you. So we want to make sure we're always there for all of our kids and grandkids and, you know, we'll be spread thin, I'm sure, because we have four kids. But that's going to be what brings us the most joy and happiness. And we also have worked really hard to invest, you know, a lot of money and start businesses so that hopefully we can retire at a pretty young age and be successful enough to take care of our kids and grandkids and also travel and be able to see, you know, school plays and events and things that they're doing because we won't be tied down anywhere specific.

[David]

So, yeah, if I'm being honest, like, if life just continues the way it's been going now, this is like living retirement. So.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Yeah. And that's pretty.

[David]

Very pretty damn happy.

[Avery Woods]

That's. I can. Can't even imagine, like, not doing anything, any sort of work, because we're so, like, we've been working to the bone our whole lives, like, both of us. And so what we do now is such a privilege. And we know that because we have something to compare it to that I can't imagine never being a part of. Like, nothing. Like, in between going and visiting family and not having kids in the house, I would. I also would go stir crazy. Like, I would need something to do because I've always been such a workaholic.

[David]

Yeah. You circle back when no kids are here and we can have this same interview and you can say, what's. What do you find annoying about your spouse and see what our answers are.

[Avery Woods]

Yes.

[David]

Seriously, no kids in the house. Hopefully nothing.

[Avery Woods]

Well, I also think we just, like, if that's. That's the biggest recent argument you can think of is, like, arguing over where Spirit Halloween store is, I think we're doing pretty good.

[David]

Was that the question? 1. The biggest argument?

[Avery Woods]

No, like the dumbest argument. But who won? Oh, I'm trying to think of mine. Maybe if he ever tells me to stop spending money, I'm kind of like, what? How dare you say that to me?

[David]

How does that even go with the question?

[Avery Woods]

Dumbest argument ever won.

[David]

Dumbest argument. And whoever won, you get what I'm saying?

[Avery Woods]

He's.

[David]

When we argue.

[Avery Woods]

David. Somewhere else.

[David]

I'm not.

[Avery Woods]

So you're saying you tell me. Like, maybe.

[David]

So you're saying anytime we argue about finances, that's dumb.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

Because you're just going to keep doing what you're doing.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, pretty much.

[David]

Oh, we haven't had a conversation like that in so long.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, that's true. I also. People don't think this. People get this opinion that I'm very materialistic. It does kind of make me laugh because they automatically think that because I choose to show what I purchase because I think it's fun. And I love watching those videos from people. Every influencer that you follow that has my general following or more is making the same amount, if not way more money than me and spending it so insanely and on a bunch of materialistic things, which is. There's not a problem with it. They just choose not to show it to the Internet. And that's just a personal preference that they have. I like, if I'm gonna be wearing something that you guys are gonna see, like, I'm gonna talk about it. And I think it's fun to unbox stuff like that because even when I was broke as I loved watching videos like that because I was like, one day. One day I'm gonna. And then I did. And I think it's fun to show it. But where I was going with that. Okay. The thought came back to me was what I was saying. When people think I have a spending problem or I'm really materialistic, they don't realize how responsible we really are with money and how much we have invested and saved and made sure our future is set up even if social media were to be gone forever.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

That's all you got to say?

[David]

Pretty much, yeah.

[Avery Woods]

Okay, next question.

[James McComb]

I'm James McComb reporting live from home in my bathrobe in slippers. Tonight we're talking Dunkin Poehler, peppermint coffee. Gene's here with the latest. Gene, do you copy?

[David]

The home with Duncan is where you want to be.

[Avery Woods]

Five fundamental relationship tips and marriage tips.

[David]

Good God. Not one, not two, not even three. Five.

[Avery Woods]

You should start with the three things that you think couples have to be in agreement on because you see this all the time before marriage.

[David]

Yeah. Money, children, and. Holy cow, why can't I think of money, children, and religion? Yeah, yeah, yeah. Money, children.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Money, children, and religion are three things that I think are extremely important to be on the same page on. I don't think politics. I had a couple questions, like, do you think. I'm sure because the election's coming up, a lot of people are arguing about this, but I don't think. I don't think people need to have the same political views.

[David]

Grandma and grandpa didn't.

[Avery Woods]

No. Married for 73 years.

[David]

Yeah. Forever.

[Avery Woods]

So. But money wise, you always need to be on the same page, you should always be involved in finances. I think it's really weird when only one person in a marriage has access to finances.

[David]

What the hell's up with that? I was just going to bring that up.

[Avery Woods]

I think that's so weird. I think not doing combined bank accounts unless you have a prenup and everything is separate and bills are split, that's one thing. But in general, I just can't imagine having a split, like, bank account. Because I think when we get married, you know, we're a family, we're under the same roof, but I think there are different circumstances that make sense.

[David]

Yeah. I think if you have like a communal bank account, I. And I'm in agreement with what you said. That's what we did. But if you have like a communal bank account where, like, the bulk of your finances go into. And then let's say you have his account in her account, that is for like, your allowance or your free spend or whatever, then that I think is acceptable. But to like, oh, you're covering electricity. I'm covering. Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

But you're living on the same roof.

[David]

Like, no, you're a family. You're a unit. You're one.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

So I think that's definitely.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

Important.

[Avery Woods]

I also.

[David]

Religion is major.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Religion's huge. Especially if you're going to have a family. Because when you are both the mother and father to one child, what is that child going to be a part of? Because they're going to feel torn in two different directions. I think if you, you know, are a couple and you don't have kids, I think that's really easy. Go to separate churches and have different beliefs. But as long as it's. You can live under the same roof. But I think when you choose to raise a child in religion, it should be in agreement.

[David]

It brings everything into. Into.

[Avery Woods]

And different morals and values, because those are also so different with every religion of how you run a household.

[David]

Well. And then once you have kids, families more involved and more opinionated and all this other kind of stuff, and it's just. Can create like a really tense, dynamic situation if you're not on the same page.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. And what's the other one? I can't think of.

[David]

Money, religion and children.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, children. That's what I was going to say. Because we've actually had friends in this situation.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

Where their whole entire dating life, you know, one wants a child and one does not. And we've also seen it where one does want the child and they're convinced once they get married and life goes on, that the other one will change their mind. And we've seen it happen where they get married and time goes on and that person does not change their mind.

[David]

Right.

[Avery Woods]

And then it can end in divorce. Because, you know, I feel like being a parent is one of those things that unless there's nothing you can do and you've tried everything, when you want to be a parent and you can't, then you come to terms with that. But I think any ready and willing person that wants to be a parent, that's not something that they're going to easily let go.

[David]

Oh, for sure.

[Avery Woods]

So, yeah. Yeah.

[David]

As far as two others.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

I don't like tips.

[Avery Woods]

I don't like to go to bed angry. David is like 50 first dates Drew Barrymore, where when he goes to sleep, it's like a reset and he just doesn't talk about what happened the night before. I am not like that.

[David]

I. So you said, I don't like to go to bed angry. I take that a step further. I don't go to bed angry. And whatever wakes, whatever in the morning, I'm not angry. When I went to bed, I wasn't angry. So why would I be angry when I wake up? The past is the past, the present is now, the future is future.

[Avery Woods]

But all if we're in the middle of an argument or we haven't come to an agreement yet. I don't like to go to bed upset. I like to talk with that through.

[David]

Yeah, yeah, I agree with that.

[Avery Woods]

But usually you go to bed upset.

[David]

I go to bed upset.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Sometimes we'll get in arguments and you'll just go to bed. Like, you'll go to sleep.

[David]

That's just because I'm done talking about it.

[Avery Woods]

But then the next morning it's.

[David]

But I've said what I've needed to say. Like, it's done.

[Avery Woods]

See, it's giving 51st days.

[David]

I'm like. He's like, mind washed the night before. I said everything that was. I needed to say, that was oh, to be spoken. And then I've said, all right.

[Avery Woods]

Do you know what I think is funny?

[David]

Go to bed next morning, cup of coffee and is woolly down in bed.

[Avery Woods]

If we're mad each other, which honestly, this has not happened in a long time. I feel like since you've been home, our marriage has only gotten so much better. Like, we really hardly argue because we're not as overworked and tired and don't see each other through our opposite schedules.

[David]

And more time with each other. Yeah, but that's a big thing. Getting to spend more quality time with your spouse, with your children, not around.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

When you realize, oh, yeah, I. I really like this person.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Oh, you really like me?

[David]

Yeah, you're my best friend. Of course.

[Avery Woods]

I love you so much.

[David]

What were you going to say now? Oh, about.

[Avery Woods]

I was going to say when we, like, were working full time and not arguing a lot, but just like having normal bickerings and we go to bed and you'd roll over and start snoring and I'm just like, like huffing and puffing and then like 10 minutes, and I'm like, well, I didn't, like, earlier.

[David]

Wake me up out of my sleep, go to bed.

[Avery Woods]

Like, you should be asleep by now. And I'm like, I know. My mind's been going through everything you've done the last three years that I could, like, throw in your face, you know, I'm like, well, three summers ago, you didn't let me sleep in on sleeping day or something like that.

[David]

Sleep in day. We used to have to do that sleep in days.

[Avery Woods]

We'd have designated sleep in days during our work weeks.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

Because if we got to sleep in one day, it was. It was like a reward.

[David]

But still, the difference is a sleep in day for David. Because my body's very weird. Is like, I'm still up. Sleeping in is like 7:30.

[Avery Woods]

No one likes a bragger.

[David]

Avery's sleeping day is like 11am she comes sauntering downstairs. Oh, good morning. Oh, my. It's damn near lunchtime. What do you mean?

[Avery Woods]

Hold the phone? The amount of sleep deprivation in the years added up of me breastfeeding all night and you never waking up. This is why I'm still catching up on the lost years of life that I've been cut.

[David]

Stevie's three and a half years old. Those babies sucked years off of me. I need to recuperate.

[Avery Woods]

Can you even remember the last time I slept in, though? Be so for real.

[David]

I mean, are you saying, like, got up, like, really late?

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. When's the last time I slept past.

[David]

8Am past 8am Oh, I can't think.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, exactly two weeks ago. The bit. No, there's no way. This is up in Adam in New York. Okay?

[David]

Are you talking about the kids?

[Avery Woods]

That's a kid free trip. I. I'm saying when we're home in routine with the kids. I am up in Adam because I'm at Pilates. We're lifting, we're dropping the kids off at school. We Got to do my kids hair hassle look good. I have to make sure that I have good outfits on. Because usually this. This renob has mismatched outfits.

[David]

That's not true.

[Avery Woods]

Do you know what reno means? Scott's dad taught me that.

[David]

That is not true.

[Avery Woods]

It's owner backwards.

[David]

You better be honest because imagine calling your kids renogs. When was the last time you changed a school outfit that for the kids? Exactly?

[Avery Woods]

Well, because sometimes I don't want to hurt your feelings.

[David]

They're literally matching sets that are on a hanger. Okay, you can get up and get them dressed.

[Avery Woods]

I am. I just.

[David]

I get up first.

[Avery Woods]

I'm not going to change them. Baby, I'm just giving you a hard time. I love you so much. You are backpedaling fashionable.

[David]

No, I get up at 6:30 every morning.

[Avery Woods]

Oh no, here he goes.

[David]

Go straight downstairs, make Ziggy's lunch, his snack. Take out their homework, get their backpacks ready, pick out their clothes.

[Avery Woods]

You do. I'm not complaining. What are you talking about? What are you throwing all that in for?

[David]

Because I don't pick out mismatched clothes. They're literally hanging on a hanger matched up.

[Avery Woods]

What does that have to do with getting up and packing their lunches?

[David]

Because I. I take care of all the school morning stuff so you can do your work.

[Avery Woods]

Do you see? This is an argument. You guys are witnessing this. This is live. This is live footage.

[David]

It's not an argument.

[Avery Woods]

This is about. This is honestly about how bad it gets. We'll leave that in just for an example. This is how we. Conflict resolution. What? This is. Is that right?

[David]

You said that right. Conflict resolution.

[Avery Woods]

I am so appreciative of everything you do for the kids. Hold my hand. Hold my hand when I talk to you. You're the best dad in the whole world. I don't think you mismatch clothes. I just was giving you a hard time.

[David]

Oh, so you were lying to make a funny.

[Avery Woods]

Okay, no, I just.

[David]

So now you're not lying. So I do mismatch clothes. Which one was it? Make a decision.

[Avery Woods]

I think sometimes your choices are questionable on certain outfits.

[David]

Our children wear camo and duck crocs.

[Avery Woods]

I think.

[David]

How do you match that up?

[Avery Woods]

I think you just don't know where certain things are located in their drawers.

[David]

Because you're sleeping.

[Avery Woods]

I know, but when I do this port, I can. What about. What if I get him dressed when I get up?

[David]

But it's time to go to school when you get up.

[Avery Woods]

That's not true. I always do Stevie's hair and get a cup of coffee on the couch.

[David]

On her school days, though. So that's every day.

[Avery Woods]

We just leave this whole fight in. Okay. Amazing. Okay, are we done now?

[David]

We're not fighting.

[Avery Woods]

Are you done? Okay, that just confuses me. Is because this is the exact tone of our spirit Halloween location today. And you considered that an argument? Yeah.

[David]

This is about as heated as it gets in our house.

[Avery Woods]

So we're not fighting, but it's an argument.

[David]

I mean, what's the. What's the definition of an argument? Hey, Siri, what's the definition of an argument? An exchange of diverging or opposite views. So, yeah. Right.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

We have opposite views on our children's clothing attire.

[Avery Woods]

Please talk about the start of your relationship and how you got through the hard times.

[David]

How we got through the hard times in our relationship just really prioritized each other and made sure we spent devoted time and dedicated time with each other. I felt like anytime things got hard in our. In our relationship was when, like, we weren't spending time together.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. I also feel like we just never gave up. Like, we kept persevering. We never.

[David]

Yeah, we're like. We're in this relationship. We're committed to making this work, our relationship work. We're committed to being together.

[Avery Woods]

It was never a question for me that, like, if things got hard, that it was the end or like, I was going to leave.

[David]

It wasn't even. It's not like. Not even an option.

[Avery Woods]

No, no.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

It was never like that. So I think just prioritizing each other and knowing that either way, we're going to make it all fine. It's just getting through that stage of life, you know?

[David]

God, that just feels like so long ago.

[Avery Woods]

I mean, we there for 10 years.

[David]

It's insane. You just kind of get, like, in different levels of relationships and stuff. It's like if you. If you truly love the other person and you. And you value them as individuals and you value them who they are, like, you change yourself, they change with you, and you both are changing together to make your relationship work. Not really. I want to say compromising, but that's what I think. When. Any time we went through difficult stages in our relationship, there was always different parts of each of us that had to shift to show, like, yeah, we're. We're going to make our relationship work.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

Yeah. And then, you know, that changes you into who you are today.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, that's very true.

[David]

We're definitely not the same people we were 10 years ago. No, five years ago, three years ago. I think nobody really is, but that's kind of part of life.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, this is a good one. David's advice to us single girls on dating, a man's point of view.

[David]

Oh, my God. I don't know. I don't know. Gosh, that's difficult.

[Avery Woods]

Coke is crispy.

[David]

That's difficult. Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

I would say you went back to your single days.

[David]

Like, so different now.

[Avery Woods]

What are.

[David]

Everything's changed in the dating world.

[Avery Woods]

It's also, like, we never did dating apps. Like, they were just becoming popular when we first started dating.

[David]

So different.

[Avery Woods]

So we haven't dated in this world where, like, you don't just go up to someone and ask for their number. You just swipe if they're pretty or not. Like, it's.

[David]

Yeah. I'd be curious what the percentages are of relationships that are. I mean, we just together, we just.

[Avery Woods]

Attended a wedding and they met on Tinder. So Alex and Taylor, the wedding we were just at, they met on Tinder.

[David]

Dating. Dating advice. What was the question? Dating advice for.

[Avery Woods]

For single girls, like, from a man's point of view, I would say for me, as a woman, I know you didn't ask. Sorry.

[David]

But specifically question directed at me, I.

[Avery Woods]

Just would say be very confident. I think confidence exudes sexiness. And also be confident in who you are and what you are looking for. And be picky. So many women just settle because they feel like they're getting old or they want to get married or have kids. Then you need to find the right person. Be picky. They need to go above and beyond. Men are so lazy nowadays. It's disgusting. Like, it's. It's really sick when people like my husband or like Jet Jet and Pookie love them, by the way. They're the best. I hate when couples like that that are, like, actually happy in real life and our men do the extra mile, as all men should, because they're not just basic. It's hated on the Internet as, like, overcompensation. Like, oh, you're overcompensating because you're not actually that in love. I'm like, is that how low your standards are nowadays? Like, you're that miserable and your standards are that low for men that you think when our men go the extra mile that it's overcompensating because we're actually miserable or they're cheating on us? I'm like, be so for real right now. Like, I think men have just gotten so. They're just not held to the standards they used to be held to back in, like, grandma and grandpa days.

[David]

Yeah. I mean, I don't know. I think, like. And I can't. I don't want to put words in anyone's mouth or anything, but I think, like, television and everything has, like, painted a very different idea of the type of men that, you know, young single women should be going after. And a lot of them do. And I would probably venture to say it's the polar opposite. Like, don't. That's like, the one thing, like, you said about the apps is, like, the whole initial attraction before you. Totally. Like, it's either a yes or no, just based off of someone's appearance and nothing else.

[Avery Woods]

100%.

[David]

And that's like, just, like, walking through life and just, like, seeing people and swiping them left or right. Just like. Nope, nope, nope, nope, nope. Okay, maybe. Yes, yes, yes. But there's, like, so much more to people and, like, having a. When, like, how we met naturally, having a conversation and everything like that. Like, had to. Had to grow from there.

[Avery Woods]

Also, we have a lot of single friends, and I'll ask them, like, who they're dating or whatever, and they'll be like, oh, it's this girl. She's brown hair, which normally isn't my type. Like, I normally only go for blondes. But it was because, like, a friend had knew her and, like, gave her my number and, like, said that we would connect. So I was like, so you really like this girl and you're saying, like, she could be the one, but if you would have just seen her face, you would have swiped? No, but because it was, like, recommended by a friend, and I hate that. That's what dating is nowadays.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

Or also meeting people in public and then just finding them on social media because you don't have the balls to be like, hey, you're gorgeous. I've loved talking to you. Whatever. I would love to get your number.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

Like, why can't men just, like, throw a pair of balls?

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[David]

Yeah, I mean, I say, like, be. Don't afraid to have converse those conversations, like, with. If you're single and you know what you're looking for and you know what you want, then just be upfront and honest with the person that you're potentially interested in and respectfully ask them for an honest response back. And I think the majority of men out there will respect that and give that, I hope. And if not, you'll probably be able to read through it pretty easily.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

But, like, I don't know. I don't think. I'm not a big fan of, like, the casual dating thing or anything like that. But then again, it's a whole different.

[Avery Woods]

I know, I know. We hear from our friends, like, oh, I got this girl, and I'm also kind of seeing this girl and kind of talking to this girl or guy. It's gone. And I'm like, how do you keep up? Like, I could not focus on one, like, more than one person.

[David]

Yeah. I would say if that's what you're wanting to do.

[Avery Woods]

Not a thing. When you and I met, huh? Like, at all. Like, before we were labeled, like, it was very much like a known thing. Like, yeah, we're not talking to other people.

[David]

Like, if you want to go. And so first I would say if I'm a single girl. So if I'm the single girl, I would first want to identify. Do I just want to casually date and have, you know, my hot summer or whatever it's called or whatnot? Summer, yeah. Have my hot girl summer and have fun. Or do I want to have a serious relationship and start traveling down that path? Neither path is correct or wrong, depending on what stage of life you're in. And one is. Might be better than the other. Maybe you should be just be casually dating. Maybe you should just be mean people and seeing where things go, but then treat it as such and if your forever partner falls into that, cool that it happened. But if you're looking for a serious relationship, I would say then make it clear that you're not casually dating and then don't fall victim to being a casual dater. Like, stick to it. And. Because there are plenty of men out there who want to be in a serious relationship, 100%. And they. And, and, and for them, a potential, like, red flag for them would be if you say you want to be in a serious relationship, but you're being very casual.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

That may be like, a red flag.

[Avery Woods]

Give, like, cheap vibes.

[David]

Yeah, same on both sides. Like, if a guy's like, oh, I want a serious relationship, then look for a. A partner.

[D]

Seriously.

[Avery Woods]

Okay, I like this question. I've had a lot of people ask about my ring, and they're asking if it's the original ring you proposed with or if it's upgraded. Just curious. It's stunning. So I actually talked about this on my tick tock. I don't have my engagement ring on right now. I only have my wedding band which I just got. I actually never had a real wedding band.

[David]

What did we buy you? A Pandora.

[Avery Woods]

Pandora?

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

For years there was like missing stones out of it that were like Kubrick zirconium.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

So I told him before he ever proposed what my dream ring was. And it was a Morganite because I knew I wanted rose gold. And so he had a ring custom made here in Arizona at a local jewelry jeweler. And it's a massive morganite. It was 4.75 carats.

[David]

Yeah. Big old oval morganite in a fort.

[Avery Woods]

16 carat. Oh, I think it's 16 karat rose gold with a pave setting with like four petals around it. It's stunning. Everyone's like was freaking out. We got engaged cuz he was a patrol cop and I'm like, this is Morganite with like teeny little diamond people.

[David]

Now mind we were broke as a joke. I had to take a loan out against my retirement account to be able to do that.

[Avery Woods]

Kids, you're not ready to get married. If you are, we're fine though.

[David]

But I think the ring in total was like under 6,000.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, I think it was like five and some change.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

But anyways, when we got married, the only money we had to buy a wedding band was from Pandora. It was like $80.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

And it was like plated rose gold. And that's.

[David]

Was it even rose gold or was it yellow?

[Avery Woods]

I mean it was. No, it was rose, but it was like painted or painted or something. And then just. Was it like what, six months ago?

[David]

No, it was this year.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. So I don't remember when, but it had started. So we had been married for. Or sorry, we'd been together for like 9ish years when I upgraded it, which means we had been married for 5ish of those. So for five years I had been washing my hands, doing all these things with it. You're not supposed to, by the way, with Morganite. Yeah. It was extremely clouded. Like it was supposed to be like a champagne color. It was very clear when we first got it. It was completely clouded. And so I took it to my jeweler and I was like, hey, I kind of want to put a real diamond in this. And she was like, okay, we can mock it up. And so they custom made a diamond that was the same shape as The Morganite and placed it in my original wedding band or engagement setting? Yeah, yeah. In the original setting with the pave diamonds and the petals. And then I was like, can you also make an eternity wedding band? Cuz I've never had a wedding band. And we had been together for nine years, married for five. And so they did the same rose gold with three carats of round diamonds in my eternity band, which if you're watching, you can see.

[David]

But wait, wait, hold on. Are you saying together for nine years, married for five.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, that was last year.

[David]

What?

[Avery Woods]

Last year when I did my band.

[David]

Nine years together, married for five last year. Yeah, we got married in 2016. Yeah, it's 2024. Oh, I was so confused. I was like, what are you talking about?

[Avery Woods]

So we've been married for seven years. Together for nine. Because now we're married for eight years.

[David]

We've been married for eight years.

[Avery Woods]

So last year it was seven.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

Okay, my bad. So seven years. I had no.

[David]

I was so confused.

[Avery Woods]

Sorry. I had no wedding band, so I got this made and I love it so much. I never wanted to solder them because my. My ring is so massive.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

I don't wear it all the time because it gets caught and stuff. So I like to wear my engagement ring or my wedding band just by itself. I love it.

[David]

I remember you used to wear that big behemoth nursing.

[Avery Woods]

Oh yeah.

[David]

Like that big ass ring.

[Avery Woods]

And it would like my gloves.

[David]

Rip your gloves.

[Avery Woods]

And then I started wearing quelos like the silicone ones.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

And then David just got.

[David]

I have the worst wedgie right now. I'm sorry.

[Avery Woods]

Oh no.

[David]

These aloes are writing.

[Avery Woods]

I feel you. David's wedding band was from K. Every kiss begins. Okay.

[David]

Because that where we got mine.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, we got you rose gold and then you lost a bunch of weight and oh my God, it didn't fit you anymore. And so recently we got you a Cartier band. And I love it.

[David]

I beat the out of this. But yeah, I do love it. I do love it.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. And I also love it because I have one that I wear my right hand that we match.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

How do you get out of the fighting cycle? I feel like we are just stuck in a cycle of fighting. Quality time.

[David]

Yeah, I mean identify. Identify what you're fighting about. Sex first. Fighting about sex.

[Avery Woods]

No, I feel like if we go too long between being intimate.

[David]

Oh yeah.

[Avery Woods]

I'm more irritable with you when we lack physical intimacy. Physical intimacy or quality time. I feel like both of those things makes me more Irritable with you.

[David]

And for you, quality time is a big.

[Avery Woods]

And I don't feel like. It's like I'm irritated at you. I'm just like, I don't feel as close to you.

[David]

Rotation in general.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Like, I need my time with you.

[David]

Yeah. Yeah. But what I. One thing I really love about you is that you identify it and you tell me you're like, we need to spend some time together. We need to go on a date. And then I kind of. For me, too, it registers in. Because I get so used to just being involved with the kids. It's like, oh, yeah, we haven't been on a date in a minute. We should probably go spend a little bit of time together.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, probably should.

[David]

But how to break out of that. Identify what you're fighting about. I would say, like. And then most of the time, it's kind of stupid. And then just focus on spending some quality time together. Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

How is it going with you not drinking? David's thoughts, feelings, reactions?

[David]

Honestly, like, I feel like nothing has changed in our life. Like, alcohol is not a. Has never really been a major component.

[Avery Woods]

To be clear, David did not stop drinking, only I did.

[David]

Yeah, that's true. But I will say. I will say that since you have stopped drinking, I have also just naturally not drank as much because I've never been a big drinker anyways. I'm not like a person that goes and gets drunk or takes, you know, multiple beverages.

[Avery Woods]

David gets very physically ill if he drinks too much, like on vacation. So he never pushes it.

[David]

Yeah, I try not to ever push it too much, but my thoughts are. Is like, I don't feel like much has changed around the house at all. I mean, our wine fridge is empty now just because we haven't been buying any wine. Sorry, Mom.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, she's been.

[David]

She's the one that found it empty.

[Avery Woods]

Wine fridge, empty. I was like, I cut back drinking. So she stocked the casita fridge.

[David]

Yes. Just put it all in there. My thoughts on it are. Is like, I think it's awesome. I think that it was nothing that was like, oh, I have this issue, or this is a problem. So now I'm going to cut it out. My New Year's resolution is this. You were just like, very matter of factly, hey, I think I'm going to stop drinking. I was like, okay, cool.

[Avery Woods]

I also think, whatever. When you talk about how, you know, like, I'm taking a break from drinking and I chose to stop drinking for a bit, people automatically assume that with addiction, like, they automatically are like, oh, you're an alcoholic.

[David]

I'm like, no, it must be an issue. That's why you don't have to be.

[Avery Woods]

An alcoholic to choose to take a break from drinking. And like I said, I'm not going to do this forever. And I'm sure when the time comes where I have a drink and talk about it, people are going to just freak the out.

[David]

We are massive. This is a little off on topic. Massive Diet Coke drinkers. Like, I love me some freaking Diet Coke right here. Love it. I became my father. I remember when I was younger, I would look at him and he'd drink like, six a day. And I'd be like, oh, my God. And my mom would say, you need to drink water. And what would. What's my coin?

[Avery Woods]

Coin? Diet Coke is my water.

[David]

Yeah, there's water in my Diet Coke. And that's what my dad would say. And I am my dad. But anyways, remember, Gosh, how long was this? Five, six years ago. We were just like, we should stop drinking soda for a year.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah.

[David]

It wasn't even January 1st. It was our New Year resolution. We're like, do you have New Year's resolution? No, not really. Do you have one? No, not really. We're doing what we're doing. Well, we should pick something. Okay. Let's stop drinking soda for a year. For an entire year, we didn't drink soda. And this was at the stage of our lives when we were, like, massive moviegoers, all that kind of stuff. And we would not even go get a Harkins Diet Coke. No soda at all. Like, we cut everything out. And then, like, literally January 1st of the next year, we went and got giant Diet Cokes.

[Avery Woods]

Yep.

[David]

And been drinking them ever since.

[Avery Woods]

Yep. And it was. It was.

[David]

But that's kind of just.

[Avery Woods]

It was just like a cool accomplishment. We're like, let's just not do it for a year and see.

[David]

Let's just see if we can. Let's just say we're gonna do it.

[Avery Woods]

We want to give it up forever. The, like, that's how I feel about red wine. I'm sorry. I am turning 30 years old this year. If you don't think I'm going to be drinking on my 30 flirty and thriving birthday party.

[David]

30 flirty?

[Avery Woods]

You're crazy. Jennifer Garner, 13 going through. She's like, I want to be 30, flirty and thriving. Oh, that's what I use for my Instagram caption, by the way. But I'm like, of course I'm Gonna have an expensive ass motherfucking bottle of red wine and I will drink the whole thing myself.

[David]

No, you won't.

[Avery Woods]

No, actually I won't. Because I would probably get sick.

[David]

You'll have one glass and.

[Avery Woods]

Because if I go that whole time, that's in April, without drinking. August to April. That's a long time. So a glass of wine would fuck me up. But I want it to be a good one.

[David]

And then maybe after that you don't drink again for a while. Maybe drink maybe. What? Who knows?

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, maybe I do. One drink a month, one a week, whatever. But I never had a problem to begin with, so I wouldn't consider drinking again if it was an actual issue.

[David]

I think it's just like. It's just like a little goal that you set for yourself that you want to do. It's like. Like no nut. November. You know people don't masturbate in November.

[Avery Woods]

Is that a thing?

[David]

It's a massive thing. Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

You know that too, Scott.

[David]

Yeah. Like, guys.

[Avery Woods]

You do it.

[David]

Guys. Guys nowadays, it's. They, like, don't masturbate.

[Avery Woods]

No shave. November. No, not November.

[David]

I think that's also the same, like the no shave for, like, men are interested for the Mormons or something because they don't masturbate at all.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, so on. In February. Is it no fap. February for women?

[David]

No fab. Is that really, like, the definition, like, jack off for men? Fapping is for women, isn't it? Because it's like, what does fapping even mean?

[Avery Woods]

I don't know. Should I look it up?

[David]

Like, I hear, like, fap, and I think, like, fap, like the. The fat fap.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, fat ass.

[David]

Fapping means fat ass?

[Avery Woods]

I think so.

[David]

What are you, an urban dictionary? See what Harry. Hey, Siri, what does fapping mean as a verb?

[Avery Woods]

Flap means.

[David]

Oh, it says flying.

[Avery Woods]

Okay, Urban dictionary. Fap. Internet slang term for male masturbation. Because it's the indication of the sound.

[David]

Yeah, yeah. See, I got it right.

[Avery Woods]

God damn it.

[David]

Got it right.

[Avery Woods]

So what is. What does a woman have? Masturbation? Like, that's so lame. Like, why do men have the cool stuff? God damn it.

[David]

Oh, that's right. Flicking the bean.

[Avery Woods]

How does the one gay man in.

[David]

This room know that Flicking the bean?

[Avery Woods]

Damn it, Scott. You know everything.

[David]

That sounds just so aggressive.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, flicking it.

[David]

Flicking. What was the question we were answering?

[Avery Woods]

I don't know.

[David]

It had nothing to do with flicking or masturbation. I'm pretty positive.

[Avery Woods]

Does David get upset when he's not able to Be included in your brain trips.

[David]

No, have. What trips have I not been included in?

[Avery Woods]

Like, free people.

[David]

Oh, actually quite a few that I haven't done. Huh? No, not at all.

[Avery Woods]

Actually, he's always happy for me because he knows it's good for my career.

[David]

Like, I know this is probably people gonna be, like, balk at it, but actually, no, because everyone on your podcast, like, it's people who love you, but it's work. Yeah, it's literally work. I will say, getting to go on the brand trip to Cabo with the kids for Kosis now, that was awesome.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Kosis is literally the most incredible makeup brand. Hi, guys. Love you. Like, I genuinely use their products on a daily basis, but what makes it better is that the founder and the whole team is so generous and incredible. And when they invited me to shoot for the New York Times, or, I'm sorry, your billboard. Yeah, the New York what?

[David]

The Times Square.

[Avery Woods]

Times Square billboard. God.

[David]

And sunset.

[Avery Woods]

And sunset. It was shot in Cabo and we got a plus one, which I took David, but I was like, let's just see if we can get the kids to go. And Kosas, obviously, were very accommodating of, like, the room size and stuff. We. We booked the kids tickets, we paid for their airfare, but they gave us, like, the most incredible sweet. They had custom robes set out for them, like little baby robes that were Kosas. They had little plushies for them, all their favorite snacks, candy. Like, they were so generous and welcoming. They felt so special.

[David]

That was so much fun.

[Avery Woods]

And I was like, that's what people don't understand is in this industry, like, I was on a brand trip with someone that was 18 years old on that same brand trip. And I love her to death. She's just the sweetest human. But I forget that in this industry, not a lot of people have kids and are doing the same things that I'm doing. And sometimes brands automatically assume that you can't make the commitment or you can't go just because you have a family, when really that's not true. Like, I am the only working person in my family right now. My husband's able to be home with the kids for the reason of me being able to just get up and go the next day if needed. But sometimes brands do leave moms out a lot because they assume that they can't make it. And we get excluded in certain things. But the fact that Kosas was so inclusive and invited the whole family, it was just really cool and also really cool to bring my Kids on something that's considered work for me, they got to literally watch me do the entire photo shoot. Like my. My picture that was on Sunset and in Times Square. My kids were right behind the photographer. So it's cool they were able to watch that, which is such a cool thing for them.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

So, yeah.

[David]

No, I think any of the trips that I haven't been on or been invited to or anything. I just understand that you going on this on these types of events creates more opportunities for us to do these types of things in the future. And that's how it's always worked out.

[Avery Woods]

Plans for Val renewal. We know. I love talking about this.

[David]

Are they potentially are changing?

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, we actually.

[David]

Probably. Definitely changing.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. So here's Rocky Point. We're not doing Rocky Point. I. Hi. For those that don't.

[David]

Mariachi band.

[Avery Woods]

If you're new here. Dave and I got married in a courthouse for 75. We never had a wedding or anything. So we Knew at our 10 year wedding anniversary, we would do a big v reul. And originally we want to do Lake Como, Italy.

[David]

Still gonna go?

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Always a dream of ours. But we really decided that a 10 year val renewal is a celebration of love. How far you've come, the people that have surrounded you. And we can't expect our family and friends to fly round trip to Lake Como, book a hotel for a week. It's a lot of money, especially when a lot of them have families would bring their kids. So we were like, let's do something a little closer that people can drive to make a little bit of a vacation out of it. And then him and I can go to Lake Como after for like a 10 year honeymoon type thing because we also never had a honeymoon. And so we were thinking of doing California because obviously that's where we're both from. Our family's there and we want to do our V renewal on the actual day, which is in June. And Arizona's really hot in June, so it wouldn't be an option to do it here.

[David]

Desire to do it here.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. Um, so a place that's very special to us is the Santa Barbara area. My grandma lives there. And that's where I feel like I spent the majority of my childhood. A lot of my family's there. People from Arizona that we know and love that are invited, you know, can drive instead of having to fly if they want to. And we were like, let's just rent like a big house on the beach for everyone to come and go as they please.

[David]

Do the valve, get Togethers hang out.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. I was thinking of even trying to find, like, a mansion or something to rent where everyone can stay. And it has, like, a big yard, very pretty.

[David]

Cool.

[Avery Woods]

You know, to do the V. So.

[David]

That'S kind of where we're at right now.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, that's where we're at. I mean, it's still in a year and almost two years. A year and a half, basically.

[David]

So could be. That could be a Disney cruise. You never know.

[Avery Woods]

Not going to be a Disney cruise. I've waited far too long for this moment. I will have three dresses. It will be an event.

[David]

You're already Talking about your 30th birthday party as well, which is totally unexpected from what I would have normally thought you would.

[Avery Woods]

Really? What would you think I would want.

[David]

To do, like, a big crazy party somewhere? But that's just how things change.

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[Avery Woods]

What kind of dress or dresses could you see me in at the Valorant?

[David]

Oh, gosh, babe. I mean, at the Val. Renewed dress or dresses. I know you're gonna. Because you have such a wide taste. Like, I would say something for the vowel portion ceremony. Like, something very lacy, conservative, but still edgy. So not like super conservative, where it's like, you know, like, that's pretty spot on, but still has, like, classy. I'm prim. Improper. Yeah. And then I would say something that's obviously, like, showing a bit more breast and leg, tighter fitting for, like, the. The. What is that? What's after the reception? Is that what it's called for the reception? Yeah, something like that. And then what's the third dress for the rehearsal party like before?

[Avery Woods]

Shorter. Like, the night before rehearsal dinner is the night before. But the day of. I'm probably gonna have three dresses.

[David]

And then for the day of dress. Like, is that your, like your get ready dress and stuff?

[Avery Woods]

No, like the vow renewal and then the reception. And then it's like, usually cocktail.

[David]

Like, renewal the reception.

[Avery Woods]

Like the end of the night, like the party.

[David]

Oh, oh, oh, okay.

[Avery Woods]

And usually women do, like, short dresses.

[David]

So then I would say my second choice was what. What I would say would be that, like, maybe something a bit longer and flowy for the second dress. Not as, like, as poppy crazy statement piece as the vow dress, but, like.

[Avery Woods]

What do you think about doing in and out trucks since we'll be in California?

[David]

That's what I said I wanted to do. I want to do, like, food trucks. I want, like, open bar.

[Avery Woods]

I want to do a live band.

[David]

Oh, absolutely. But it's got to be like, a brass band.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. 100, like, ones that you want to get.

[David]

Jazz music, party stuff. Like, we don't. You don't need to know the damn words. You just need to know, like, good pop and beat music.

[Avery Woods]

Like, yeah, it's gonna be so fun. I cannot wait. It's gonna be an event.

[David]

It's gonna be awesome.

[Avery Woods]

Okay, one more question. What's something the other person does to make them laugh?

[David]

What's something the other person. What's something you do to make me laugh? Intentionally make me laugh? I don't know, like, something that you do to intentionally make me laugh or something that just you do that makes me laugh. I think either trying to think of.

[Avery Woods]

Something you do that makes you laugh.

[David]

I would say, like, the things that I find funny is like, you're a very, like, put together woman. Like, you're just very, like, put together. And so, like, when you're out and about and people see you, you're like. I don't know, you're put together. But, like, we can be hanging out and you can be so put together, and then, like, will just be having a conversation and it's so focused. And then you'll just do, like, your weird face that you make. Or you'll just, like, do this, a weird thing, like, turn your chin into, like, a nasty double chin. Or like the thing with your eyes. You just do, like. Yeah, you just do this random. And it's so, like, sporadic. And it just. Yeah, exactly. And it. And it makes me laugh. I'm like, now you're intentionally doing it. Now you're. You're being very intentional about it. I'm talking about how you're just all put together, and then all of a sudden, whatever part of your brain that controls that thing, like, clearly not sets off because you do it. And that makes me laugh so often it makes me laugh. Or like another thing that makes me laugh inside, like an internal laugh. This is kind of actually more of like a dissatisfaction, but great.

[Avery Woods]

Ears are open.

[David]

This is like, one thing I love about you, though, I just love this about you. So, like, I'm not a very, like, social media person. Like, I'm not really on it, which is great for you because like, all the tick tocks you do to me that are like, yeah, people, I don't.

[Avery Woods]

It's an act. I'm like, he never knows I'm not on social media.

[David]

So I'm like, half the time I'm like in my head, like, what the is happening right now? Like, I know it's something to do with a video because you're recording me, but I don't know what's actually going to take place. Where was I going with this? Oh, yes, I remember. But like, you'll, I love it. Makes me laugh inside. Not outwardly inside. When you'll be like, babe, babe, come watch this. Watch this video. And, and you come over and you're so happy. It's like a funny video that you're showing me or whatever. And like, I never tell you, but like, yeah, I saw that video like four days ago. I don't know what's up with your, your, your feed or whatnot, but it gives you like the funny stuff like days after.

[Avery Woods]

Why is this thing that's so funny to you?

[David]

Because it's cute.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, that's funny.

[David]

Because you are your own biggest comedian. Like, you think, you think your shit's hilarious. I do. Like, you, you laugh at yourself constantly when you're watching like TV or whatever or in bed on your phone or all this sort of stuff. And then like, you want to include me, but I've already seen it. And so it's just funny to me.

[Avery Woods]

Or like when I'm hanging out with my friends and I'm like making a joke, I'm the only one laughing. I'm like, laugh, laugh. It's funny.

[David]

That's why Scotty, that's why Scotty's so great for you. Because he's like, he's kind of like. He's like a chihuahua that just like responds to everything.

[Avery Woods]

But I can tell when it's his fake laugh. And then I'll be like, go fuck yourself. I'm trying to think of something that you do that's funny, maybe. Okay, so one thing about David is nothing makes me prouder in this life then when I make him laugh, like his high pitched belly laugh, my belly. David has this laugh and it's very rare that it comes out, but when it does, everyone knows it's David's laugh and they'll make Fun of him for it, but I think it's so sweet. And I'm like, yeah, because when you make him laugh like that, it's like a real laugh. There's some stuff that's funny, but sometimes he'll just like. We'll be watching something. Like the other day we were watching, I think it was Ellen DeGeneres's stand up comedy.

[David]

Yeah. What did Ellen say?

[Avery Woods]

And she said something, my ass off. And he was dying, and it was like one of like, the least funniest parts for me. I thought it was a great stand up special, but, like, it was funny. I was like, oh, my God. This straight belly laughing on the couch and then it makes me die laughing.

[David]

That's true.

[Avery Woods]

The Ellen cinema special was actually really good.

[David]

Honestly. It was. I did enjoy it. I did think it was good. But the hardest I've laughed in a while was Joe Rogan.

[Avery Woods]

Oh, my God. The Joe Rogan said, like, listen, dying.

[David]

I'm not gonna lie.

[Avery Woods]

I'm not the biggest fan of him. Like, I think he does some questionable. But his stand up was funny. Like, so funny. It was hilarious. I did not expect it to be that funny. I. I know him as like the host of Fear Factor because that's what my family show was. Growing up, we love such a great show. So I'm still not used to him. Like, I don't know. I just have never seen him stand up.

[David]

Yeah.

[Avery Woods]

And so I was like, I don't really want to watch it. Oh, my God, we were dying. It was so fun. Did you watch that, Scott?

[David]

So good. Oh, you watched it with us. Oh, the second time. That was the second time.

[Avery Woods]

I don't think he really. I don't think he finished it.

[David]

You have to watch it like the first time. Yeah. We were watching comedies or never.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, that's true. Okay, well, that's all from us. We're going to go finish our diet cokes and that's pretty much it.

[David]

That's all we got.

[Avery Woods]

I don't have any popcorn to make.

[David]

That's all we got. Oh, and I got to do a Walmart. Order all the things we have to do back to normal.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah. We got to do life. Cheers. Loves you.

[David]

Thanks for having me.

[Avery Woods]

Bye.

[David]

See you soon.

[Avery Woods]

Yeah, see you soon. Come back. I'll invite you back.

[David]

I'm just a wall away.