Podcast Title: CHEERS! with Avery Woods
Episode: EP 46 | Relationship Advice with Big D
Release Date: September 30, 2024
Host: Avery Woods
Guest: David (“Big D”) Woods

Introduction

In Episode 46 of CHEERS! with Avery Woods, host Avery Woods sits down with her husband, David Woods, affectionately known as Big D, to delve into various aspects of their decade-long relationship. This episode is a heartfelt exploration of their journey, offering listeners valuable relationship advice drawn from their personal experiences.

Annoyances in the Relationship

Avery and David kick off the conversation by addressing one of the classic relationship topics: what they find annoying about each other.

Notable Quote:

Avery Woods [02:07]: "I’d say sometimes this is her coming up with something else because she doesn't want to say what actually is in her head."

David humorously shares that Avery's habit of chewing ice is a source of irritation, leading to dental issues:

David [02:20]: "Chewing ice. And it's gotten so bad now that you have specialty ice that's softer because you completely wrecked your teeth."

They discuss how minor annoyances are a natural part of any long-term relationship and emphasize the importance of addressing them constructively.

Future Plans: Retirement and Family

The couple envisions their lives five to ten years down the road, focusing on family, business, and personal well-being.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [07:29]: "Happy."

David [07:46]: "I've been building for the rest of our lives and securing our financial future."

They aspire to retire early, manage successful businesses, and ensure they remain actively involved in their children's lives. Avery highlights the significance of being present for their kids' milestones without being tied down to one location:

Avery Woods [12:14]: "We want to make sure we're always there for all of our kids and grandkids... so we won't be tied down anywhere specific."

Conflict Resolution and Arguments

Avery and David share their experiences with conflicts, illustrating how they've evolved in handling disagreements over the years.

Notable Quotes:

David [08:30]: "This is how we conflict resolution."

Avery Woods [21:27]: "But usually you go to bed upset."

They recount a recent minor argument about the location of a Spirit of Halloween store, portraying it as a typical yet harmless disagreement:

Avery Woods [08:56]: "This is about how bad it gets. We'll leave that in just for an example."

They emphasize the importance of communication and spending quality time together to mitigate conflicts:

David [29:22]: "If you truly love the other person and you value them as individuals... you both are changing together to make your relationship work."

Advice to Single Women on Dating: David’s Perspective

David offers insightful advice to single women navigating the modern dating landscape, emphasizing confidence and intentionality.

Notable Quotes:

David [33:00]: "Be very confident. I think confidence exudes sexiness."

Avery Woods [33:00]: "Men have just gotten so... not held to the standards they used to be held to back in, like, grandma and grandpa days."

He criticizes the superficial nature of dating apps and encourages women to seek meaningful connections:

David [33:42]: "Everybody." When you have the same standards as before."

David advises women to be clear about their relationship goals, whether seeking casual dating or a serious commitment, to attract like-minded partners.

Engagement and Wedding Announcements: Rings and Upgrades

The episode shifts to personal milestones as Avery discusses her engagement ring and recent wedding band upgrade.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [38:07]: "I told him before he ever proposed what my dream ring was. And it was a Morganite because I knew I wanted rose gold."

David [39:08]: "I had to take a loan out against my retirement account to be able to do that."

Avery elaborates on the sentimental value of her custom-made ring and the practical decision to upgrade her wedding band after years of use:

Avery Woods [39:28]: "It was extremely clouded. I took it to my jeweler and I was like, hey, I kind of want to put a real diamond in this."

Breaking the Fighting Cycle and Enhancing Quality Time

Avery and David discuss strategies to break out of negative conflict patterns and prioritize quality time to strengthen their bond.

Notable Quotes:

David [43:07]: "Identify what you're fighting about."

Avery Woods [42:34]: "I don’t feel as close to you."

They highlight the importance of recognizing the root causes of disagreements and making a conscious effort to spend meaningful time together:

David [43:30]: "Most of the time, it's kind of stupid. And then just focus on spending some quality time together."

Lifestyle Changes: Reducing Alcohol Consumption

The couple touches on lifestyle adjustments, particularly Avery's decision to cut back on drinking and its impact on their household.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [43:53]: "I cut back drinking."

David [44:32]: "Our wine fridge is empty now just because we haven't been buying any wine."

They clarify that Avery's choice to reduce alcohol was not due to an addiction but a personal decision, fostering a supportive environment at home:

Avery Woods [45:23]: "You’re not an alcoholic to choose to take a break from drinking."

Family and Work: Balancing Professional Trips with Parenting

Avery shares her positive experience on a brand trip to Cabo with Kosas, highlighting the company's inclusive approach by accommodating her family.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [50:38]: "What makes it better is that the founder and the whole team is so generous and incredible."

David [52:45]: "Any of the trips that I haven't been on or been invited to... create more opportunities for us to do these types of things in the future."

They express gratitude for brands that understand the dynamics of family life and the importance of including children in professional commitments.

Plans for Vow Renewal

Looking ahead, Avery and David discuss their plans for a vow renewal celebration, aiming for a more intimate and family-friendly event.

Notable Quotes:

Avery Woods [53:19]: "We know that a 10-year vow renewal is a celebration of love, how far you've come."

David [58:16]: "It’s gonna be awesome."

They debate potential locations, ultimately favoring California's Santa Barbara area for its personal significance and convenience for their guests, planning a festive event with food trucks and live music:

Avery Woods [54:27]: "We were like, let's just do something a little closer that people can drive to make a little bit of a vacation out of it."

Laughter and Light Moments in the Relationship

The episode concludes on a joyful note as Avery and David share what makes each other laugh, showcasing the playful and affectionate side of their partnership.

Notable Quotes:

David [61:12]: "You are your own biggest comedian."

Avery Woods [60:23]: "Nothing makes me prouder in this life than when I make him laugh, like his high-pitched belly laugh."

They recount moments of shared humor, emphasizing how laughter strengthens their emotional connection:

Avery Woods [62:30]: "The Ellen cinema special was actually really good."

Conclusion

Episode 46 of CHEERS! with Avery Woods offers a candid and insightful look into the dynamics of Avery and David's relationship. From addressing everyday annoyances to planning future milestones, their conversation provides listeners with relatable and actionable relationship advice. Their emphasis on communication, quality time, and mutual respect serves as a valuable guide for couples navigating their own journeys together.

Highlighted Quotes:

• Avery Woods [02:07]: "I’d say sometimes this is her coming up with something else because she doesn't want to say what actually is in her head."

• David [28:31]: "Compromising is what I think. Any time we went through difficult stages in our relationship, there was always different parts of each of us that had to shift to show, yeah, we're going to make our relationship work."

• David [33:00]: "Men have just gotten so... not held to the standards they used to be held to back in, like, grandma and grandpa days."

• Avery Woods [43:53]: "I cut back drinking."

• Avery Woods [50:38]: "What makes it better is that the founder and the whole team is so generous and incredible."

• Avery Woods [62:30]: "The Ellen cinema special was actually really good."