
Is it possible to structure our experiences to remember them more fondly?
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Think back to a recent vacation. What pieces of the trip do you remember most clearly? Probably an exciting moment, a trip highlight or low point. Maybe swimming with dolphins or an evening of fireworks. Or maybe it was when your tour bus broke down. Maybe it was seeing an old friend for the first time in years, or laughing so hard with them that it hurt. You probably don't immediately recall the details of the Uber ride you took to the airport, or the small talk you made with a concierge who offered you restaurant recommendations. And that's not an accident. It's because of an interesting way our mind selectively retains some parts of past experiences and memory while discarding others. In this episode, we've chosen to take a look at a predictable distortion in the way people remember experiences. And we're doing it in part to honor a very special memory, the memory of the great Daniel Kahneman, Nobel Laureate, international bestselling author, repeated choiceology guest and a co founder of the field that is at the heart of this show, Behavioral economics. Danny passed away in the spring of 2024 as we were wrapping up taping for our last podcast season, and we've created this episode as a way of honoring him. The topic we'll dive into today is one Danny studied late in his career, and it can have implications for the way we experience and remember the best moments of our lives, how medical procedures are designed, and even how we remember the lives of our favorite celebrities.
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Well known action movie actor Bruce Lee's sudden death has shaken many people in Hong Kong before he was a fan. Hong Kong actually.
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I'm Dr. Katie Milkman and this is Choiceology, an original podcast from Charles Schwab. It's a show about the psychology and economics behind our decisions. We bring you true and surprising stories about high stakes choices and then we examine how these stories connect to the latest research in behavioral science. We do it all to help you make better judgments and avoid costly mistakes.
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Bruce Lee, the way you think about him is he's the patron saint of Kung Fu.
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This is Matthew.
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Hi, my name is Matthew Polly. I'm the best selling author of Bruce Lee A Life, a biography of the late great Bruce Lee.
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We've asked Matthew on the show to compare the memory of Bruce Lee with a more complete story of his life. Matthew was a serious fan from a young age.
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When I was growing up, Bruce Lee's Enter the Dragon was my favorite film and he was a star that I followed. Followed so far that I went to the Shaolin Temple in China where I studied Kung Fu with the Monks for two plus years.
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So what was it that Matthew found so compelling about this action hero? It starts with his popular origin story.
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Bruce Lee was a kind of rebellious kid. He was the black sheep of his family. His older brother was the dedicated student and Bruce Lee was the one who was always getting in trouble. And he had a little group of boys who followed him around and they would get into street fights. And Bruce liked to think of himself as the toughest street fighter in all of Hong Kong. At the age of about 14, he met a boy who was better than him. And Bruce Lee couldn't stand the idea of anybody being a better fighter than he was. And so he asked him, how are you so good? And the boy said, I study under the mastery at mon. And so Bruce said, why don't you take me to this master? And he showed up, but he had slicked back hair, he was wearing sunglasses, and the instructor said he looked like a kind of Elvis character. And so they kicked him out of the class. And so Bruce Lee had to come back in a much more humble way and beg them to teach him.
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Bruce Lee finally did receive proper martial arts instruction from this master, but he wouldn't use it to his advantage for long, at least not in the way he expected. His parents sent him to the United states at age 18 to curb his street fighting and his run ins with the police. He finished high school in Seattle and went on to study philosophy and drama at the University of Washington. The philosophy part is notable.
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Bruce Lee quotes populate the Internet and oftentimes I run into people who say, you know, I wasn't interested in his martial arts, but his philosophy really touched me. So there's an aspect of Bruce Lee where he's the philosopher warrior. He's that combination of the brain and LeBron. And that's part of his kind of iconic image and makes him a unique figure within the cultural firmament. So the most famous quote attributed to Bruce Lee is be like water.
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Okay, hold that iconic quote in your memory. Be like water. We'll come back to it. In the mid-1960s, Bruce Lee developed his own martial arts discipline called Jeet kune do. It blended ancient kung fu, fencing, boxing and philosophy, emphasizing practicality and adaptability. And he wanted to introduce this new style to a wide audience. His breakthrough came when he was cast as the superhero sidekick Kato in the television series the green hornet in 1966. Despite the show's cancellation after only one season, Bruce Lee's fame grew and he began teaching jeet kune do to Hollywood stars like Steve McQueen and Kareem Abdul Jabbar. From there, he went on to work as a movie fight choreographer and action director, eventually starring in feature length Hong Kong action movies. In the early 1970s, Fist of Fury and the Way of the Dragon made Bruce Lee a superstar.
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He had become the biggest star in East Asia. He would call his friends up and say, I'm bigger than the Beatles. He couldn't walk down the street without being mobbed. He was full on in Hong Kong, the biggest star they'd ever seen. And so he did have that sense of himself as the king of the world. He was right at the peak of mass fame.
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Then, on July 20, 1973, tragedy struck. Lee had met with Australian actor George Lazenby that morning in Hong Kong to discuss a film role. Later, he visited his girlfriend, Taiwanese actress Betty Ting Pei, and complained of a headache after taking one of her prescription pain medications. Lee lay down on Betty's bed and never woke up. Despite efforts to revive him, he was declared dead at the age of 32. The official cause of death was swelling of the brain due to an allergic reaction to a headache medication.
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Today is Sunday, July 21st. Now comes a special report. Wuxia film star Bruce Lee died suddenly late last night at 11:30. He was 32 years old.
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It was such a dramatic and untimely end, particularly for a man in top physical condition and someone who was in the middle of a meteoric rise to international stardom. Fans were shocked. Many couldn't accept the official explanation for his death and rumors began to swirl. To this day, over 50 years later, dedicated fans continue to argue about the details and true cause of Bruce Lee's death.
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And finally, martial arts fans gathered at Hong Kong's Victoria harbor on Thursday to.
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Mark the 50th anniversary of Bruce Lee's death.
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In the span of a few short years, from his appearance in the Green Hornet, to his star turns in Hong Kong action films, to his sudden death at 32, Bruce Lee's reputation as a martial arts legend was cemented. In fact, his fame grew even more with the release of the movie Enter the Dragon six days after his death.
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His movie Enter the Dragon was the first martial arts movie made by a Western studio. It made like $400 million at the box office.
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It was a remarkable turn of events that made Bruce Lee a household name in America and beyond. And his influence lives on.
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Bruce Lee is considered the great popularizer of martial arts. Prior to Bruce Lee, there were maybe 10,000Americans who did karate. After Bruce Lee, there were millions and so every time you go past a strip mall and you see a Taekwondo studio, that's there because Bruce Lee popularized the sport and the art form.
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He was a trailblazer for Asian American actors in Hollywood. And his legacy extended beyond martial arts movies, inspiring generations of performers and fans.
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So the image of Bruce Lee in the public mind is this cultural innovator who was also a philosophical genius and the world's greatest fighter combined into one five foot seven human being. And so he has become the kind of icon of every picked on boy who thinks, if I study martial arts, I could be as bad as Bruce Lee.
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The thing is, Bruce Lee's peak fame and his untimely death tend to distort how we see and remember the story of his life. Many casual Bruce Lee fans believe him to be one of the greatest martial arts fighters of all time, a beacon of eastern philosophy and a man who could do no wrong.
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Anybody who does something amazing often gets built up beyond what they actually did. Every once in a while, someone moves beyond the human into this kind of archetypal status. They become a figure out of a past warrior mythos or King Arthur.
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Because he's a modern hero and because much of his life has been documented, we know that Bruce Lee, the man, as opposed to Bruce Lee, the superhuman action hero, was complicated and fallible, just like the rest of us. And his story is not nearly as straightforward as the popular narrative, starting with where he was born and when he actually started appearing in films.
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So a lot of people don't know that Bruce Lee was born in San Francisco. And that's because his father was an actor. He was a stage actor who'd come to the US on tour. And so Bruce Lee's first film, he appeared as a three month old and played a baby girl. And what that tells us is that Bruce Lee, whose movie career really began at 6, was an actor from the very beginning. He came from an entertainment family. That's who he was, that's how he identified. And martial arts was something that was an interest of his when he became a teenager.
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It might be surprising to learn that an iconic celebrity who is so deeply tied to Hong Kong, to Chinese culture and to martial arts, and seemed to come out of nowhere as a TV and movie star in the late 1960s and early 1970s, had actually been born in the US and had been involved in movie making from the very beginning of his life rather than kung fu.
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Bruce Lee was born in San Francisco, but his parents moved back to Hong Kong, which was their home when he was about five months old. And he lived there under the Japanese occupation during World War II. Once the war ended, he started a career as a child actor.
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And he wasn't an action star. In fact, quite the opposite.
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People often say he was kind of the Macaulay Culkin of Hong Kong. He didn't do kung fu movies or action. He played weepies and comedies. He was usually a kind of orphan with a heart of gold. And so Bruce Lee really grew up in a privileged background in Hong Kong. He went to very good schools, he spoke English, and he appeared in nearly 20 films and really established himself as a young heartthrob.
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Not only was his early screen career very different from what he's most known for, it was also a much longer road leading to his seemingly overnight success. And while Bruce Lee really did become a skilled martial artist as a young man, his contribution to the discipline wasn't necessarily about introducing traditional kung fu to the west, but rather adapting it into something new that could more easily be embraced by pop culture.
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Bruce Lee was an innovator in the martial arts because the martial arts were such a conservative art form. The idea was whatever your master told you was law, and that's because it had been passed down to him through generations. You weren't supposed to find your own personal, authentic voice like you do in any other art form. You were supposed to do exactly what you'd been told. And so Bruce Lee really had a kind of Western sensibility, which was you're supposed to adapt the style to what you as the individual, need and want and express yourself through the art of martial arts. And so, in many ways, he was kind of a 60s hippie, taking this kind of liberation ideology and bringing it to Eastern martial arts.
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It's funny to think of Bruce Lee as a kind of hippie counterculture figure, but compared to traditional masters of martial arts, he was just that. In our collective memory, Bruce Lee is viewed as this exotic monk like figure who brought not only fighting prowess, but also Eastern philosophy to mainstream popular culture.
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We remember Bruce Lee as this stoic, philosophical Shaolin monk who's totally a tough guy, can't be beat, but is also quite wise and quite isolated. And that, in fact, was not who Bruce Lee was as a person. He grew up as an actor. He was extremely charming. He loved being in groups and telling raunchy jokes. And as he got older, he loved the lifestyle of being a celebrity. He had a full length mink coat. He owned a Porsche. When he died, he died in his mistress's bed. So these are not the activities of a warrior monk. These are the activities of your typical 1970s celebrity. And so the image of him as this kind of person who's come out of the mountain to deliver the wisdom to us and beat the bad guys, very much a film image became part of his personal biography, even though his personal biography was very typical of a Hollywood actor in the late 60s or 70s.
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So our collective memory of Bruce Lee is not quite accurate. And remember that quote, the one attributed to Bruce Lee that led him to be venerated as a warrior monk? Be like water.
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What's interesting about that is that's a straight pull from Lao Tzu's the Tao Te ching, which any 15 year old growing up in Hong Kong would know, because it's one of the basic texts. It's like love thy neighbor. So be like water is a very common phrase. And then he taught that to Sterling Silliphan, a screenwriter. And Sterling Silliphant wrote a part for Bruce Lee in which Bruce Lee says, bruce, be like water. And then Bruce Lee repeated it. And so it became a kind of whole circle where Bruce Lee was using this very common phrase. And it's now become attributed to him to the point where Hong Kong protesters very recently were arguing that they should be like water against the government. And so Bruce Lee's popularization of an ancient Dallas phrase has become part of his legacy.
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So why is our collective memory of Bruce Lee the action hero so different from the nuanced story of Bruce Lee the man? In part, it's due to the power of his performances and the hype of the film industry and pop culture generally. But it may also be due to the way we encode memories. When remembering Bruce Lee, Many fans primarily recall the peak of his fame, the portion of his life when he was an international celebrity, and his dramatic and tragic end. But most other details of his story are forgotten. Like many famous figures who died young, think James Dean or River Phoenix or Selina or Amy Winehouse, our memories tend to coalesce around an image of them at the apex of their career and a recollection of their tragic conclusion. But when we think of them, we don't tend to remember other parts of their stories. Bruce Lee was a remarkable figure, but our fixation on the peak and end of his career has left an inaccurate impression in our collective memory of the more complete arc of his too short life.
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Bruce Lee said to someone, I was never a saint, but I wasn't as bad as the rest of them. And I think what he was thinking about was he was friends with Steve McQueen and other Hollywood actors of that time. They were his students and compared to Steve McQueen, Bruce Lee was a saint. But of course, compared to the image of him, he was pretty much a standard 1960s Hollywood actor. He had affairs, he used drugs, he spent more money than he took in, so he was always in financial trouble. He had a terrible temper, which he knew and he tried to control, but he would go off the handle and get into fights he shouldn't have. He said things to people and broke up friendships. And so he was a flawed human being like the rest of us. And on the other side, extremely charming and loving and could be quite friendly and generous. And so Bruce Lee was like any young person in the process of becoming the person he wanted to be. But by the time he died tragically at the age of 32, he certainly hadn't achieved enlightenment. He had a long journey to go.
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Matthew Polly is the best selling author of the biography Bruce A Life. You can find a link to the book in the show notes and@schwab.com podcast our collective memory of Bruce Lee's life is an illustration of a tendency we all have to overlook many aspects of a past experience, or in this case a character, but also to amplify and recall with particular vividness certain predictable components, specifically the peak and the end. This bias in our memories was first identified by the late great economics Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman, who passed away earlier this year at the age of 90 after an illustrious and incredibly productive career. Danny's peak, for which he'll be best remembered, came about in the second half of the last century when he co authored a series of path breaking papers with fellow psychologist Amos Tomorrow Tversky. These papers described an array of mental shortcuts people reliably use, now known as heuristics and biases that produce predictable errors in judgment. And that work laid the foundation for the then new field of behavioral economics. In his last years he became an intellectual celebrity, winning a Nobel Prize, a Presidential Medal of Freedom, penning a mega bestseller called Thinking Fast and Slow, and being the focus of Michael Lewis best selling book the Undoing Project. It's notable that Danny's own research with Barbara Fredrickson could have helped him predict the fact that we'll primarily remember him for his peak accomplishments and his final celebrity. And not as the young boy whose father narrowly escaped deportation to a Nazi death camp, or whose family found refuge in a chicken coop in Vichy France, or as the perfectionist academic who could never make up his mind about whether an idea was good or bad or is the ballet enthusiast or lover of a perfectly cooked Bronzino. And I want to dig into why that is. It has to do with what's called the peak end rule. My next guest has done some fascinating research into how this rule of memory can influence our willingness to stick to challenging goals and how we can leverage it to make life and work more manageable. Maurice Schweitzer is a colleague of mine at the Wharton School of Business at the University of Pennsylvania. He's the Cecilia Yen Ku professor of Operations, Information and Decisions. Hi, Maurice. Thanks so much for taking the time to talk to me today.
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I'm very happy to be here.
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I just want to kick off by asking you to define the peak end effect. How would you define this phenomenon?
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Sure. So the peak end effect is an interesting effect that really was led by a lot of work by Danny Kahneman. When, where, when we recall some event, we tend not to recall it as complete recap of what happened. Instead, our evaluations are particularly influenced by the peak. So imagine an airplane flight and you had some turbulence. That could be the peak part of that flight. And then the end. So it could be you have delayed baggage. And those two moments, those two pieces of the experience, weigh particularly heavily on your recollection of that whole event. And, and one thing that's, that's sort of interesting, it's also been called duration neglect because the full duration of the event tends not to be so influential in how we recall something. And as a result, we're really influenced by this peak and this end and not so much by the full length of what just happened. And that means that we can actually make some mistakes. That is the way we recall an event might not be the same as what our moment to moment experience of the event was really like.
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I love that I always think of going to Philly's games because we're both live in Philadelphia, and if there's a really exciting play, I'll remember that and not the six hours of sitting through nothing happening. And at the very end, if they pull it out, and then I might be more likely to go to the next game if there was that awesome peak and sort of forget about the maybe duller moments that I had to sit through. Does that kind of sum it up for you too? Or would you. Do you have other examples?
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Well, that's exactly right. So it, I think, offers us opportunities to really influence the full experience that people have or at least the one that they recall. And Danny ran Studies where he ended up making things objectively worse but retrospectively better. He did one with cold water, and the study with cold water had people put their arms in cold water at 14 degrees centigrade for 60 seconds, and that's unpleasantly cold. He also had people switch arms and do it for the same 60 seconds at 14 degrees centigrade, but then added on 30 seconds where the temperature rose to 15 degrees centigrade, still unpleasant, but less so. And then when he brought people and said, okay, you went through these two experiences, which one would you choose for the second time? You know that now, now we're going to do another one. And 65% chose the longer trial. There's the longer experience that was objectively worse but retrospectively seemed less aversive because of the ending. And so I wanted to start there because that's, I think, a very sort of simple, easy to imagine study.
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It's such a fascinating study. I want to talk about some of your recent research studying the peak end effect in a really different context. But before we get there, I actually just wanted to ask you a little bit about mechanism. Do you feel like we have a good sense of why people focus so much on the peak and the end as opposed to integrating all of their experiences in a more rational way, manner?
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I think it's a great question. I, I think I, I would go back to the idea that our memories aren't very good. And even if they were really good, we would be too encumbered by a complete recollection of everything. So if I were to ask you questions like if you're staying in a hotel during your stay, can you remember your room number? And you'd say, sure, I can. But if I were to ask you, okay, think of the last 10 hotels you've been in. What were your room numbers? And for most people, they're like, I have no idea. After I check out, I put that in the delete folder and move on. And I think the same is true for most of our experiences. So flying, you know, how many airplane flights have you had? How many car rides have you had? Can you recall all of those experiences? And I think what happens is in our memories, we're just deleting most of the stuff. And quite frankly, most of it's not very important. You know, what song were you listening to 2/3 of the way into a road trip you took three years ago? It's not very important. And I think we use these heuristics to simplify memories in ways that are broadly useful. And I think the peak in the end might be reasonable places to focus on as we're trying to capture most of the experiences that we have.
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That is a really nice and concise.
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Summary and makes a lot of sense to me.
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Could you tell us a little bit about your own recent research studying the peak end effect in this very different context of volunteering?
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Sure. So with Polly Kang and David Daniels, we analyzed about 2 million text conversations that over 14,000 volunteers had for a crisis text line. And so here, people who are experiencing some sort of crisis, sort of like a crisis hotline, the text line allows them to text in and ask for help. We have five years of data and a lot of messages. So people are texting in for a variety of crises. And we did with our analysis is we categorized all different crises that people have, and there's a set of them that the volunteers characterize later. And one type of crisis is particularly intense. So the most intense crises are more draining, they're more effortful, they're far more difficult, the conversations are longer, and they're really far more likely to cause the counselors to quit. And so we do see an effect for the sort of the intense difficulty of the very most difficult conversations. And what we did is we looked at both the peak, which we're characterizing this as streaks. So if there were several very difficult conversations in a row, people were more likely to quit. So if there were two in a row, they're more likely to quit than if they're spread out. So if there's a relatively easier conversation, an extremely difficult one, that's a streak, and that streak. And if we're ending on an extremely difficult conversation, that also makes quitting more likely. And so we found that streaks of two intense, difficult conversations increase quitting by about 22%. But in our data, because people are randomly assigned, we have so many conversations over five years, we see people that have streaks of 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, all the way up to 8. People that have long streaks become about 100% more likely to quit. So quitting in this case is a significant problem. All of the counselors in this setting were trained. They had over 30 hours of training. But retaining them remains a significant challenge.
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Yeah, I love this. And the implications for sort of thinking about how do we schedule tasks or how do we assign work are just so clear and so important. It's a great study. What got you and your collaborators interested in revisiting this classic peak end effect bias in this setting?
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Well, we were interested in thinking about the sequencing of tasks. And I've been, as you know, Katie, we've done work together in the past. I've been very interested in quitting. That is what causes people to persist and what causes people to quit. And in terms of motivation, there's some things we know. We know that paying people more money is good, giving people more autonomy is helpful. But for so many jobs, it's difficult to pull all these levers. And here for some categories like volunteers, nurses, teachers, call center employees, product managers, IT program managers, there's so many classes of people who turn over all the time here. We were interested to think about are there relatively simple interventions? Can we understand what's driving this behavior? Where quitting remains a dominant characteristic of the workplace of so many organizations?
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So sort of stepping back from thinking about the organizational implications, I'm curious if, in light of your research on the peak end rule and also the research that's sort of more classic by Kahneman and collaborators that we've talked about earlier in this conversation, are there things that you in your personal life or in your professional life do differently or would sort of recommend that other people might do differently and that maybe our listeners could even think about doing differently as they make choices and assign tasks?
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Yeah, I think that's a great idea. So when we think about the errands that we're running, the conversations that we're having with colleagues, or just the simply the tasks we perform at work, to recognize that some of them are more draining and more intense than others. And when we end on a difficult note, that's tougher for us. And we do difficult things in sequence, it's more draining to us. And so I think mixing things up, that's one clear implication we found from our data.
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And ending on a high note.
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Right.
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Rather than a low note, ending on.
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A high note is great. And if we have a sequence of errands to run or a sequence of meetings to have, if we can just break it up, breaking it up can make a big difference. We did not measure mental health, but my guess is that it improves our well being and happiness if we can just break things up, even if we have a lot of difficult tasks to do.
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I love that. So we've got to think differently about sequencing and differently about conclusions because we have this subjective lens that we impose at the end of the day or at the end of an experience. And it's not just a pure integration of all those experiences. It's really those toughest longest times and the endings that we recall. That's really Helpful, Maurice.
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I also want to ask a sort.
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Of different couple of questions because part of the reason we wanted to do an episode about the peak end effect this season is that this is one of the many really important findings Danny Kahneman left us with. And his recent passing, I think, you know, kind of gutted everyone in this field. Of course, he lived a long and productive life, and we're so happy that he did, and there's been many celebrations. But, you know, we've had him on the show repeatedly as a guest, and. And losing him in March was just devastating, I think, probably to many of our listeners, certainly to us. Could you talk a little bit about what Danny's research contributions meant to you and how you'll remember him?
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Yeah, sure. He really was this incredible thinker, had so many generative insights, and yet, I think, remained incredibly modest throughout his life. He and Amos profoundly changed the way we think, where the ideas that were not fully rational have broad implications. I think they've had shockwaves throughout academia, impacting economics and finance and of course, our area and marketing. I mean, it's so broad, but also for policy and I think organizational behavior that we've begun to understand how humans interact. And, you know, like here we're talking about the peak end rule and the streak end rule, the way we might organize the work that we do in ways that can be very, very helpful.
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I love that, and I really appreciate you taking the time to talk about your work and also to talk a little bit about Danny and his legacy.
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So thank you so much, Maurice. I'll wrap it there.
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Thank you.
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Maurice Schweitzer is a friend and colleague of mine at the Wharton School, where he's the Cecilia Yen Ku professor of Operations, Information and Decisions. He's also the author of a terrific book called Friend and When to Cooperate, when to Compete, and how to Succeed at Both. You can find links to his research in the show notes and@schwab.com podcast. Danny Kahneman's insights have practical applications across a variety of fields, but the biases and heuristics that he explored can be especially pernicious in our financial lives. For tips on how to better approach important financial decisions and to guard against the mental shortcuts that can lead to mistakes when it comes to money and investing, check out the Financial Decoder podcast. You can find it@schwab.com financialdecoder or on your favorite podcast app. While we've talked about the peak end rule in this episode, we actually haven't told you about the most famous study on this topic. It was published by Danny Kahneman, Donald Rudelmyer and Joel Katz in 2003, and it involved an experiment with, of all things, colonoscopies. This study was done in the era when colonoscopies didn't involve full sedation, so patients could feel what was happening as a doctor put a scope up their backside to look for any signs of cancer in their colon. As you can probably imagine, this was quite uncomfortable, and the end of the procedure was typically particularly unpleasant. Armed with knowledge of how peaks and ends distort our memory of experiences, Danny and his collaborators proposed and tested lengthening the very end of the colonoscopy by leaving the scope just barely in the patient for a bit longer than it needed to remain there, but in a way that wasn't very uncomfortable. So half of patients in this study, about 300 people, had a typical colonoscopy, and the other half had a longer than usual colonoscopy with an extended ending, a kind of false ending of the procedure that involved minimal pain. The rest of the procedure was identical. Guess what happened? Patients who got the behaviorally informed bonus ending colonoscopy remembered it as less unpleasant, ranked the whole experience as less aversive, and were more likely to come back in five years for their next colonoscopy.
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It's pretty remarkable, right?
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What I hope you'll remember, besides the fact that you should get your colonoscopy, is that the best or worst moment of an experience, whatever is the most extreme, is overweighted in hindsight, as is the last part. This can distort the way we remember our jobs, leading us to quit after negative peak experiences that could have been tolerated better if broken up. It can also distort the way we remember medical procedures or other uncomfortable experiences. And in this episode, we've argued, it can even distort the way we remember famous people, leading us to focus on the peak and end of their lives. This bias can be harmful to our persistence and health, but once we understand it, as Danny did, it can become an asset because it teaches us how to construct our days, our vacations, our jobs, and our medical procedures to improve the way they're remembered. By deliberately breaking up negative experiences and ending on a high note, you can change the way you look back on things for the better. So keep this in mind the next time you're scheduling a day of meetings or a vacation. My hope is that this insight will make your life a little better. And like so many of the insights we bring you on this show. That's thanks to research by the late, great Danny Kahneman, who we're so lucky to have had on this earth. We're all tremendously grateful to you, Danny. You've been listening to Choiceology, an original podcast from Charles Schwab. If you've enjoyed the show, we'd be really grateful if you'd leave us a review on Apple Podcasts, a rating on Spotify, or Feedback wherever you listen. You can also follow us for free in your favorite podcasting app. And if you want more of the kinds of insights we bring you on Choiceology about how to improve your decisions, you can order my book how to Change, or sign up for my monthly newsletter, Milkman Delivers on substack. I'm Dr. Katie Milkman. Talk to you soon.
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Guests: Maurice Schweitzer & Matthew Polly
Release Date: September 23, 2024
Podcast Host: Charles Schwab
Summary by: [Your Name]
In this episode of Choiceology, host Katy Milkman explores the "peak-end rule"—a cognitive bias in which people remember experiences based largely on the most intense moment (the peak) and the end, rather than the entirety of the experience. The episode honors the late Nobel laureate Daniel Kahneman, who extensively researched this phenomenon, highlighting how this rule shapes not just our memories of events, but also our perceptions of famous lives—especially those marked by dramatic endings, like Bruce Lee’s.
Through a narrative blending Bruce Lee’s mythic legacy with behavioral science insights and featuring experts Maurice Schweitzer and biographer Matthew Polly, the episode investigates how the peak-end rule affects decision-making, memory, motivation, and even how we structure our days for more positive recollections.
(00:07–17:38)
Memory Selection in Experience:
Katy Milkman opens the episode asking listeners what parts of a vacation they remember best—typically a highlight or a low point, but rarely the mundane in-between.
“You probably don’t immediately recall the details of the Uber ride you took to the airport, or the small talk you made with a concierge...” —Katy Milkman (00:07)
Case Study—Bruce Lee’s Legacy:
Guest Matthew Polly describes Lee’s legendary status as a result of his remarkable peak fame and tragic, early death. But this collective memory, Polly argues, is inherently distorted by the peak-end rule.
“So the image of Bruce Lee in the public mind is this cultural innovator who was also a philosophical genius and the world’s greatest fighter combined into one five foot seven human being.” —Matthew Polly (09:05)
Discrepancy Between Myth and Reality:
Polly provides anecdotes that challenge the “monk-like” image, describing Lee as fun-loving, flawed, and ambitious—far more complex than his icon status allows.
“He grew up as an actor. He was extremely charming. He loved being in groups and telling raunchy jokes...These are not the activities of a warrior monk. These are the activities of your typical 1970s celebrity.” —Matthew Polly (13:31)
Philosophy—"Be Like Water":
The famous Bruce Lee quote “Be like water” is actually a common phrase from the Tao Te Ching, not unique to Lee, but popularized by his celebrity.
“What’s interesting about that is that’s a straight pull from Lao Tzu’s the Tao Te Ching...it’s now become attributed to him to the point where Hong Kong protesters... were arguing that they should be like water against the government.” —Matthew Polly (14:42)
(17:38–35:48)
Peak-End Rule Explained:
Katy transitions to the cognitive foundation: the peak-end rule, as researched by Daniel Kahneman, which posits that when reflecting, we “overweight” the most intense moments and the ending.
“Our collective memory of Bruce Lee’s life is an illustration of a tendency we all have...to amplify and recall with particular vividness certain predictable components, specifically the peak and the end.” —Katy Milkman (17:38)
Foundations from Kahneman:
Kahneman’s work with Amos Tversky on heuristics and biases changed psychology and economics, emphasizing that our memories and decisions are predictably flawed but understandable.
Illustrative Example—Cold Water Experiment:
Guest Maurice Schweitzer explains a foundational study in which participants endured cold water trials:
“65% chose the longer trial...that was objectively worse but retrospectively seemed less aversive because of the ending.” —Maurice Schweitzer (22:14)
Rationale Behind the Bias:
Schweitzer discusses how our brains use shortcuts (heuristics) in memory, discarding low-importance details and focusing on peaks and ends—an efficient, if imperfect, strategy.
“I think what happens is in our memories we’re just deleting most of the stuff...I think we use these heuristics to simplify memories in ways that are broadly useful.” —Maurice Schweitzer (24:00)
(25:42–31:15)
Modern Application—Volunteer Burnout:
Schweitzer describes new research: analysis of 2 million crisis text line conversations revealed that counselors were more likely to quit after sequences (streaks) and endings of particularly intense, negative experiences.
“People that have long streaks become about 100% more likely to quit...All of the counselors...were trained, but retaining them remains a significant challenge.” —Maurice Schweitzer (27:15)
Implication—Task Scheduling & Well-being:
Mixing up difficult and easy tasks and ending on a “high note” can buffer negative memory, sustain motivation, and reduce burnout in intense environments.
“When we end on a difficult note, that’s tougher for us. And we do difficult things in sequence, it’s more draining to us. So, I think mixing things up...can make a big difference.” —Maurice Schweitzer (30:12)
(31:37–33:14)
“He really was this incredible thinker, had so many generative insights, and yet, I think, remained incredibly modest throughout his life.” —Maurice Schweitzer (32:18)
(33:27–35:48)
“Patients who got the behaviorally informed bonus ending colonoscopy remembered it as less unpleasant...and were more likely to come back in five years for their next colonoscopy.” —Katy Milkman (35:27)
| Timestamp | Speaker | Quote | |-----------|-------------------|-------| | 00:07 | Katy Milkman | “You probably don’t immediately recall the details of the Uber ride you took...our mind selectively retains some parts of past experiences and memory while discarding others.” | | 09:05 | Matthew Polly | “So the image of Bruce Lee in the public mind is this cultural innovator who was also a philosophical genius and the world’s greatest fighter combined into one five foot seven human being.” | | 13:31 | Matthew Polly | “...the image of him as this kind of person who’s come out of the mountain to deliver the wisdom to us and beat the bad guys—very much a film image became part of his personal biography...” | | 14:42 | Matthew Polly | “Be like water is a very common phrase...Bruce Lee was using this very common phrase. And it’s now become attributed to him...” | | 17:38 | Katy Milkman | “Our collective memory of Bruce Lee’s life is an illustration of a tendency we all have to overlook many aspects of a past experience...but also to amplify and recall with particular vividness certain predictable components, specifically the peak and the end.” | | 22:14 | Maurice Schweitzer| “65% chose the longer trial…that was objectively worse but retrospectively seemed less aversive because of the ending.” | | 27:15 | Maurice Schweitzer| “...people that have long streaks become about 100% more likely to quit...retaining them remains a significant challenge.” | | 30:12 | Maurice Schweitzer| “When we end on a difficult note, that’s tougher for us. And we do difficult things in sequence, it’s more draining to us…mixing things up, that’s one clear implication we found from our data.” | | 35:27 | Katy Milkman | “Patients who got the behaviorally informed bonus ending colonoscopy remembered it as less unpleasant... and were more likely to come back in five years for their next colonoscopy.” | | 32:18 | Maurice Schweitzer| “He really was this incredible thinker, had so many generative insights, and yet, I think, remained incredibly modest throughout his life.” |
| Segment | Start | |--------------------------------------------------------------|----------| | Introduction—Memory & Daniel Kahneman Tribute | 00:07 | | Bruce Lee: Myth, Memory, and Reality w/ Matthew Polly | 02:43 | | The Philosophy & Pop Culture Legacy | 04:42 | | Bruce Lee’s Peak, Death & Lasting Status | 06:09 | | Discrepancies Between Myth and True Biography | 10:28 | | The Peak-End Rule—Origin and Explanation | 17:38 | | Experiments and Practical Examples (Cold Water, Sports) | 22:14 | | Volunteer Burnout Study—Modern Application | 25:42 | | Implications for Organizing Life and Work | 30:12 | | Remembering Daniel Kahneman | 31:37 | | Colonoscopy Study—Medical Application | 33:27 | | Wrap Up & Practical Advice | 35:48 |
Choiceology’s “On a High Note” uses Bruce Lee’s life as a lens to explain the peak-end rule—with insights from both behavioral science and pop culture—highlighting that the moments we remember most shape our stories much more than the entirety of our experiences. The episode not only honors Daniel Kahneman but provides practical strategies for improving our lives by managing how experiences are sequenced and concluded, showing that small changes in how we structure events can have outsized positive effects on memory, motivation, and satisfaction.
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