Confessions of a Married Couple

Summary

Chrisley Confessions 2.0

Episode: Confessions of a Married Couple
Date: November 12, 2025
Hosts: Todd & Julie Chrisley
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Episode Overview

In this candid, laughter-filled episode, Todd and Julie Chrisley sit down together for “Confessions of a Married Couple”, rekindling their signature Chrisley chemistry and diving deep into honest discussions about marriage, family, aging, life challenges, and the evolving nature of their relationship after years of high-profile ups and downs. They field each other’s questions, reflect on their toughest trials, and explore trending relationship topics—like “gray divorce”—all while keeping things light, real, and occasionally irreverent.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Returning to the Podcast Together

• The couple returns to the mic after Julie missed a few episodes due to illness, setting a playful and intimate tone.
  • Todd jokes: “Hadn't seen you since we woke up.” (00:48)
  • Julie teases: “People don't want to hear [about being married to you].” (01:25)

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2. Family Favorites: In-Laws and Grandkids

• Todd quizzes Julie with questions he’d previously asked his own mother, beginning with favorite children and grandchildren.
  • Julie’s take: “She views me as a daughter more so than a daughter in law.” (02:08)
  • On favorite grandkids: Julie guesses Kyle or Savannah; Todd reveals his mom picked Savannah because she talks to her the most. (02:41)

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3. Aging and Physical Changes

• The two discuss the realities of aging—Julie, at 52, reflects on her physical changes (notably her under eyes) and striving to “hold on to some youth.” (03:31)

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4. Hardest Life Challenges (03:50)

• Julie’s list: “The trial, going to prison, being separated from you, from my kids, and breast cancer.” (03:50)
  • She notes the prison separation felt harder than her cancer battle, attributing her younger age and determination during her fight with cancer as giving her resilience.
  • Todd shares: For him, Julie’s breast cancer was the hardest: “With the breast cancer, I always had the fear of death.” (05:09)

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5. Accomplishments: Marriage, Kids, Career

• Julie identifies her greatest accomplishments as her marriage, her children, and her career in real estate. (06:42)
• Both affirm the value of sticking together through difficulties.

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6. Favorites Among Their Own Children (07:39)

• Julie flatly refuses to pick a favorite child, though she admits: “There are days that I like them differently …but I don’t have one that I would say is my favorite.” (07:52)
• Grayson and Chloe come up as “favorites” from the kids’ perspective, but Julie insists she loves them all equally, “I like them differently on certain days when they get on my nerves or they do something stupid.” (08:58)
• Todd is called out for being a rotating “cheerleader” who focuses on whichever kid needs him most at a given time. (09:13–09:59)

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7. Aging Together as a Couple

• Todd prompts a discussion about how their dreams and perspectives have shifted (or not) as they’ve grown older together.
  • Julie feels their core dreams are “still a lot the same.” (14:44)
  • Discussion of aging not only physically but emotionally and psychologically in the relationship: Julie feels they both are “aging appropriately” and have realistic, open mindsets. (15:25–17:10)

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8. Navigating Family and Parental Aging (19:12)

• Both reflect on caring for aging parents, with Julie noting the impact of being separated for 28 months due to prison: “I saw a shift… it is something you definitely think about.” (19:12–20:21)
  • Todd: “Nobody’s gonna ever take care of my mom other than me.” (20:19)

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9. “Gray Divorce” and Relationship Trends (20:28)

• Julie introduces the topic of “gray divorce” (divorce after age 50). Statistics:
  • “Since 1990, divorces for people over the age of 50 have doubled…tripled for people over 65.” (21:04)
  • 1990: 8% of divorces were over 50; today, 40%. (21:29)
  • Julie finds it “crazy” and notes often, men are the initiators.
• Humorous exchange:
  • Todd: “What does a 70-year-old do other than packing bubble gum?” (22:28)
  • Julie laughs off the reasons behind late-in-life divorce, referencing studies and personal anecdotes.

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10. Children’s Perspectives on Parents and Remarriage (30:12)

• They discuss how their adult children would feel if either parent remarried after death or divorce.
  • The Chrisley kids approve of Todd finding someone else, but not Julie—revealing a double standard.
  • Julie affirms: “You’re not a person to be by yourself… you’re a companion, a relationship kind of person.” (32:02)

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11. Honest Talk on Age, Remarriage, and Preferences

• Julie is frank about the realities of dating at 52: “A 52-year-old, a 55-year-old, a 60-year-old…they don’t want a 52-year-old.… It’s just the reality of life.” (32:21)
• Todd jokes: “It would depend on how much money she has.” (33:12)

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12. Dreams for the Next Decade (34:05)

• Julie wants to focus on health, enjoying life, and traveling: “I want us to be able to do what we want to do.” (34:16)
• Todd admits he only became interested in travel after being unable to do it—ready to make the compromise for Julie.

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13. Social Dynamics and Personality Differences

• Julie wants Todd to be less antisocial, wishing he’d accept more dinner invitations and be more present in social life.
  • Todd: “Let’s just love each other via text and on the phone and we’ll see each other when we see each other…” (41:32)
  • They discuss their friendships and dinner plans, giving real-life examples.

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14. Needs and Affirmations in Marriage

• Julie asks Todd to be less absorbed in his phone and more present, especially during meals or outings. (45:00)
  • Julie: “Sometimes… you could be a little more present.” (45:14)
  • Todd blames prison for the habit; Julie credits prison for helping her disconnect.

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15. Vitality of Communication & Honesty

• Both stress that constant communication, openness, and being vulnerable have kept their marriage strong:
  • Julie: “What continues to make it a success is that we are open, we are honest, we are vulnerable. Nobody’s marriage is perfect...” (49:47)
• They each rate each other highly as partners, sharing gratitude for one another.

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16. Listener Impact: A Message from a Former Inmate (53:20)

• Todd shares a moving DM from a listener (Ian), now a prison chaplain, expressing how much Todd’s advocacy and honesty about prison has meant to him and his peers.
  • “Every week I tune in to Chrisley Confessions 2.0 and can relate profoundly to many of your experiences…Men are free today because you…” (54:16, 55:10)

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17. Political Divides and Empathy

• Todd and Julie talk about being cast as political symbols due to their Trump pardon, yet stress they don’t define themselves by politics—valuing kindness and empathy above party lines.

  • “We should not be defined by color [party]. We need to be defined by what’s in our heart…” (64:14)

• Julie: “You can’t know how someone feels if you’ve never walked in their shoes, but you can still empathize with them.” (59:59)

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18. Honest Reflections on American Life and Values

• The episode closes with appeals for unity and compassion, particularly as the holidays approach.
  • Todd: “We shouldn’t feast while there’s famine next door…We as a people can do better. Red, blue, or purple, we need to be defined by what’s in our heart and what we know to be right…” (64:09, 64:14)

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Memorable Quotes & Moments

• Julie, on navigating life’s hardest moments:
  “The trial, going to prison, being separated from you, from my kids, and breast cancer.” (03:50)

• Todd, on his greatest fear:
  “With the breast cancer, I always had the fear of death. And so I could not even fathom the idea of not having you every day.” (05:09)

• Julie, on the reality of aging:
  “I know I’m aging. ... My biggest thing? These under eyes.” (03:25)

• Julie, refusing to pick a favorite child:
  “There are days that I like them differently… but I don’t have one that I would say is my favorite.” (07:52)

• On gray divorce:
  “Today, 40% [of divorces] are with people over 50.” (21:29)
  “It was more that the men initiated the divorce than women.” (22:38)

• Todd, with a trademark joke:
  “What does a 70-year-old do other than packing bubble gum? … It’s not like he’s blowing nobody’s back out at 70.” (22:28)

• Julie, on their future:
  “I want us to enjoy life… I want us to be hopefully, I hope and pray that our health stays good, that we are able to travel, to enjoy…” (34:16)

• Todd, on compassion:
  “We don’t need to be defined by color. We need to be defined by what’s in our heart and what we know to be… right.” (64:14)

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Notable Timestamps

• Family Favorites Game: 01:39–03:10
• Life’s Greatest Hardships: 03:50–05:56
• Marriage & Accomplishments: 06:42–07:13
• Favorite Child Debates: 07:39–09:59
• Gray Divorce Discussion: 20:28–29:15
• Remarriage and Double Standards: 30:12–33:49
• Dreams for the Future: 34:05–35:32
• Personality Differences & Social Habits: 40:37–43:53
• Listener DM Impact Segment: 53:20–56:02
• Political Reflection & Empathy: 57:56–64:14

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Tone & Style

This episode is rich in banter, honesty, and “Southern Realness.” Both Todd and Julie weave humor into even serious subjects, make light of each other’s quirks, and aren’t afraid to get deep—whether discussing trauma, forgiveness, or the little irritations of married life.

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Summary

For fans and newcomers alike, “Confessions of a Married Couple” delivers the signature Chrisley blend of cheeky humor, vulnerability, and real-life wisdom. The episode covers the ups and downs of marriage and aging, explores tough topics like illness, prison, and “gray divorce,” and ends with a plea for empathy and kindness—regardless of political view. If you miss the Chrisleys' authenticity and laughter, this episode is their confessional wide open.

Transcript

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[Todd Chrisley]

Welcome to Chrisley Confessions 2.0. I'm Todd.

[Julie Chrisley]

And I'm Julie.

[Todd Chrisley]

Julie, how are you today?

[Julie Chrisley]

Good, good.

[Todd Chrisley]

Hadn't seen you since we woke up.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right, right.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay. And so how. How's it felt? I mean, have you had separation anxiety?

[Julie Chrisley]

No, I'm good.

[Todd Chrisley]

That segues into what I asked my mother about what my new was.

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, no, you know, you. We haven't done a podcast in a minute because you did last week's with your mom.

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

And we were sick, which it threw it off a little bit, you know.

[Todd Chrisley]

So we're in la.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. So it's been crazy.

[Todd Chrisley]

Tell us. When I say us, I'm talking about, you know, all of the people that tune in to listen. Tell us how great it's been for the last two weeks of being married to me.

[Julie Chrisley]

Okay. People don't want to hear that.

[Todd Chrisley]

I think they do. I think people want to know.

[Julie Chrisley]

Todd, you are a pleasure. You know, you just, you can just imagine.

[Todd Chrisley]

I did is I interviewed mama.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

And so I asked her like a series of questions and if she didn't want to answer, she'd say pace. So I'm going to ask you the same questions to see if I get. If I get the answers to the questions that she passed on. So who would you say is mom? Is my mother's favorite child?

[Julie Chrisley]

Favorite child?

[Todd Chrisley]

Yes.

[Julie Chrisley]

Me. Because she views me as a daughter more so than a daughter in law.

[Todd Chrisley]

Who would you say is her favorite grandchildren?

[Julie Chrisley]

Oh my gosh.

[Todd Chrisley]

Now she did answer this.

[Julie Chrisley]

She did.

[Todd Chrisley]

She did.

[Julie Chrisley]

I don't know. I mean if you have.

[Todd Chrisley]

You have to.

[Julie Chrisley]

On different day.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, go ahead and finish that thought. Go finish that thought.

[Julie Chrisley]

On different days. I. My first inclination is Kyle. Uhhuh. That. That would be her favorite.

[Todd Chrisley]

Uhhuh.

[Julie Chrisley]

Then maybe Savannah. I don't know.

[Todd Chrisley]

It was Savannah.

[Julie Chrisley]

Really?

[Todd Chrisley]

She said, well, she said, well, I talked to Savannah the most.

[Julie Chrisley]

Okay.

[Todd Chrisley]

You know how she skirts.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. Okay.

[Todd Chrisley]

I want you to nail her down.

[Julie Chrisley]

Okay.

[Todd Chrisley]

She said, I talked to Savannah the most.

[Julie Chrisley]

Okay.

[Todd Chrisley]

I asked her about what it was like. Aging.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

As. What is. What is it? What would you say has been the biggest change for you as a woman who is aging in society today?

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, I mean, I'm not eight. She's 81. I'm 52. Different.

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

But, yeah, I mean, yeah, I know I'm aging. And.

[Todd Chrisley]

But what has been the thing that you have noticed most?

[Julie Chrisley]

That you're like, wow, these under eyes. That's been my biggest thing.

[Todd Chrisley]

So you. So yours is. Yours. Yours is more physical, you're saying that has been.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, I mean, yeah, probably just trying to hold on to some youth.

[Todd Chrisley]

What has been the hardest thing that you've ever gone through in your life?

[Julie Chrisley]

The trial, going to prison, being separated from you, from my kids, and breast cancer.

[Todd Chrisley]

So. And in that order.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

So really. So then really, it was harder for you to go through this sabbatical that we had.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, there was.

[Todd Chrisley]

For breast cancer.

[Julie Chrisley]

Because, I don't know, I had a much more positive attitude toward the breast cancer. Like, I was determined. I was. No, I was, like, going to do everything to fight it and to, you know, come out on the other side. And I look at my. And the situation's the same with prison, too. But I looked at. I looked at my situation that it could have been. There are so many women that have it so much worse than what I did and do.

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

That. I mean, I was blessed, really. And see.

[Todd Chrisley]

And I think that is so ironic that you would say that because you and I have discussed that. I feel like the hardest thing I've ever gone through in my life was your breast cancer.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

Not the sabbatical.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

So that's.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

Because I viewed. I always viewed the sabbatical that we were on the summer retreat, I always viewed that as, okay, there's an end to this. But with the breast cancer, I always had the fear of death.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And so I could not even fathom the idea of not having you every day.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right. Well. And maybe because I was. I was 10 years more than 10 years younger when I went through breast cancer. So I think just being younger and having this sense of, no, I'm not going to. I'm going to fight this. I'm going to overcome this. I'm going to do everything I can to be a survivor. And then, you know, as you get older. I don't know. I don't know that You. I don't. I don't want to say you get weaker, but it's just. You're older, you know, I was, what, when we went to prison? How old? Oh, I was.

[Todd Chrisley]

I don't say that we went to survivor.

[Julie Chrisley]

I was 50 versus 39, going through breast cancer. You know, so I think I was a. Just in a different place. Place in my life.

[Todd Chrisley]

And cuz I. I do think that, you know, us going to prison at 50, you know, was different.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, well, you weren't 50, but that's okay. I actually went, what, five days after my 50th birthday. Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

So I went what, three months after my 50th birthday.

[Julie Chrisley]

Okay, whatever.

[Todd Chrisley]

Because you are older than me.

[Julie Chrisley]

If it makes you feel better to say that, that's fine. So.

[Todd Chrisley]

So let's just get back to the questions.

[Julie Chrisley]

Get back to the questions, please.

[Todd Chrisley]

What do you think? So that was. That was your hard.

[Julie Chrisley]

Those were my two hearts.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay. What would you say your greatest accomplishment at up to this point in your life has been?

[Julie Chrisley]

Greatest accomplishments? Well, I think my marriage, I think my children, you know, I think the career that I had in real estate, I have a lot of accomplishments.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay, so what would your questions be to me if you could. If you could have the opportunity to. What you do right now, to ask me anything you wanted to ask me that you have not that we've never discussed?

[Julie Chrisley]

Oh, my God. I don't know. We. You kind of put me on the spot here.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, I'm letting you. I mean.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

Just ask what you want to ask.

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, I don't really. If I have a question, I ask you. I don't leave things on unsaid and said or like wondering.

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

It's not something that I do.

[Todd Chrisley]

Who is your favorite child?

[Julie Chrisley]

No, I don't have a favorite child. No.

[Todd Chrisley]

Do you know what the name of this podcast is?

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes. Chrisley Confessions 2.0.

[Todd Chrisley]

I need you to confess.

[Julie Chrisley]

No, I'm not. Because I think I love all my kids and I love them all the same. There are days that I like them differently. I like one more than the other, but I don't have one that I would say is my favorite.

[Todd Chrisley]

I mean, now you understand that Grayson's going to hear this podcast.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

Why are you laughing now?

[Julie Chrisley]

Because they all say that Grayson's the favorite.

[Todd Chrisley]

Then now on Chrisley Confessions 2.0.

[Julie Chrisley]

He's not the favorite. He is not. I love him.

[Todd Chrisley]

This is just me.

[Julie Chrisley]

You know what, Listen, I'm taking Chloe out of the equation because we didn't Even. We didn't even know Chloe was in the. In the making. Right?

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

So Grayson came along at a time when I was older, and I think I just. We had a different life when he came along. And in my mind, I knew he was the last one. Like, that was it.

[Todd Chrisley]

But now you have Chloe.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

And so would you say.

[Julie Chrisley]

And they all say, that I let Chloe get away with everything and that Chloe's the favorite. The favorite. Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

So would. Is Chloe the favorite?

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, as I said, I love them all the same. I'm not going to say that one is my favorite. I like them differently on certain days when they get on my nerves or they do something stupid.

[Todd Chrisley]

Do you think that I have a favorite?

[Julie Chrisley]

Yours goes in waves, depending on. You have this thing, like you gravitate toward one at a time, like you love them all. Now, don't get me wrong. You love them all, but you'll be a real cheerleader for one for a little bit, and then you'll kind of be a cheerleader for this one for a little bit and a cheerleader for this one for a little bit. So you kind of go in ebbs and flows with it.

[Todd Chrisley]

So explain that so I can understand it.

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, it's just I think there's times when you're closer to one than the other or you devote a little more time to one than the other.

[Todd Chrisley]

If I'm ever devoting more time to one than I am, the other is the one I'm devoting that time to in need of it more at that moment.

[Julie Chrisley]

Sometimes. Sometimes it is. But sometimes I think you think the ones that don't need it, they actually really do need it, you know? But you, in your mind, you think this one needs it. So this is what I'm giving all my attention to. If you're very, like, focused on one at a time.

[Todd Chrisley]

If someone was interviewing Savannah and they said, who are you closest to with your parents? Who would it be?

[Julie Chrisley]

Who. Who would she say is she's closer to?

[Todd Chrisley]

If someone was interviewing Savannah and they said, who do you have a closer relationship with? Your mother? Or who is your favorite?

[Julie Chrisley]

I don't know who she would say right now.

[Todd Chrisley]

Then she has done an amazing job at literally bullshitting you.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right. Well, maybe so.

[Todd Chrisley]

And who do you think Chase would say?

[Julie Chrisley]

Chase would say you.

[Todd Chrisley]

Who do you think Grayson would say?

[Julie Chrisley]

Me.

[Todd Chrisley]

Oh, is that because Chloe would say me? So is that because those are your two favorite.

[Julie Chrisley]

No, I'm just saying they would. I know they would. Okay.

[Todd Chrisley]

Would you be devastated if you found out that Savannah said that I was her favorite. No, because you've kind of, you've kind of, kind of been bitter Betty about that for a number of years.

[Julie Chrisley]

I'm not. No, I did not. I don't know. I'm. No, I'm not that way at all.

[Todd Chrisley]

You've never in the last five years said, oh, trust me, if it was between me and their daddy, they're going to pick their daddy.

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, sometimes when they're wrong, but, you know. But that's okay.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay.

[Julie Chrisley]

I'm just saying.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, we'll go with that.

[Julie Chrisley]

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[Todd Chrisley]

When we first got together and, you know, obviously our dreams were the dreams of somebody in their 20s.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

How does your dreams today differ from your dreams then?

[Julie Chrisley]

I really. I really think there's still a lot the same, actually. I mean, yes, we've been exposed to more. We've had times when we've had more and we've had less. But I think that the commonality of what we said we wanted at the beginning is still what we strive for now.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay. Do you feel like that I'm hotter today?

[Julie Chrisley]

Oh, my God. Why don't we. You need all this self validation. I'm getting you a mirror.

[Todd Chrisley]

Could you. I have plenty.

[Julie Chrisley]

I know, but obviously you don't have enough. So.

[Todd Chrisley]

Do you feel like that you are aging into our marriage comfortably? And when I say aging comfortably, I'm talking about aging comfortably, emotionally and psychologically, not physically. Do you feel like you're aging appropriately, psychologically and emotionally into our marriage?

[Julie Chrisley]

I feel like I am. Why are you asking that?

[Todd Chrisley]

No, I'm just asking because you asked that because you don't think I know because I was. I read it. I read a thing last week and it said that a lot of people look at their marriages, that. How they're aging physically in the relationship, when we should be looking at how we're aging emotionally and psychologically in the relationship.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right. Okay, I agree with that.

[Todd Chrisley]

So would you say that you are aging appropriately, emotionally and psychologically into our. Into our marriage?

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, I do, because I think I'm very realistic and I'm very. But yet I'm still open to. To change. I'm open to evolving. I'm open to. To all that.

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

I don't feel stifled at all. So, I mean, I think those are all positive things.

[Todd Chrisley]

Do you feel Safe in your marriage? Well, yeah, this is emotionally and psychologically, physically, yeah. So you feel safe in your marriage?

[Julie Chrisley]

I feel safe physically, too.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay, well, that's. I'm glad to hear that, because I feel. I feel safe in my marriage. I feel emotionally and psychologically safe in my marriage, and I do feel like that I'm aging appropriately psychologically and emotionally. Do you see that?

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes, I do. I do.

[Todd Chrisley]

When do you pause for a minute?

[Julie Chrisley]

No, I do. I do. I think there's always this dreamer aspect of you. That's always. That's always been there, I think will always be there. And I think age will not ever change that.

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

I just.

[Todd Chrisley]

How does that make you feel?

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, no, because I know you like, I know you, so I am able to plan and adjust accordingly.

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

You know, and that is. I think it's this balance that we.

[Todd Chrisley]

Have, and that's why it's worked for so long.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And I thank you for that because you have always been. When I thought of something, you're like, okay, this is how we do it. This is how we get. This is how we get your dream off of paper and into fruition.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

So.

[Julie Chrisley]

And sometimes that's not always easy because you just see there, and you don't see what it takes to get there sometimes. And then sometimes when I point that out, you're a little.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, I think get a little.

[Julie Chrisley]

You feel like I'm just being a Debbie Downer when I'm not being a Debbie Downer. I'm just being very realistic in order for us to get there. Todd, I see what you're trying to do, but we have to do this, this, and this in order for that to be able to get there.

[Todd Chrisley]

But you do. You would admit that all of the family views you kind of as a Debbie Down.

[Julie Chrisley]

No, they don't. No, they don't. I think you and Chase.

[Todd Chrisley]

Me, Chase, Savannah. I think Savannah. They have all said that.

[Julie Chrisley]

They just say that to appease you.

[Todd Chrisley]

Oh, my God.

[Julie Chrisley]

But I think I am the realest in the group. I think Chase is a dreamer just like you. And I think I'm just more realistic. I'm just.

[Todd Chrisley]

Do you think Savannah's a dreamer?

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, she is, to a certain. But she's not quite as bad as. As you.

[Todd Chrisley]

So you think that's bad?

[Julie Chrisley]

No, I'm not saying bad. She's just not.

[Todd Chrisley]

Ms. Christy, you're here testifying, okay?

[Julie Chrisley]

Now, we're not giving me no ptsd, so don't even start that.

[Todd Chrisley]

I have enough of that, so let Me ask you, how does it feel aging with aging parents?

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, that's a lot. Aging parents are a lot, I think, with yours and mine, you know, because, you know, you see it every day. And I think being gone for those 28 months, because we've always been in contact with our parents, like, seeing them on a regular basis, not like, you know, a lot of people live across the country or across the world from their parents, so they don't see them often. But we've always seen our parents regularly. And I do know it. Just in that 28 months, I saw a shift, you know, I've seen a shift. So, yeah. So it is something that you definitely think about, or I do. I think about, you know, them getting older and, you know, what are they going to do? And, you know, the burden of both of our parents will, you know, will ultimately fall on us. I mean, that's just the reality of it. I'm the only one, and you are the one that's in the place to be able to do it, and you would want to do it, so. I do think you do.

[Todd Chrisley]

Nobody's gonna ever take care of my mom other than me.

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, right. So I think you do think about, you know, and as you get older, I think it's just something that you do think about.

[Todd Chrisley]

So let's talk about this whole, like, gray divorce thing that you're talking about that you dropped on me today, that I didn't even know what it was.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. So I have been reading and listening to this whole gray divorce. And basically, a gray divorce is divorcing over the age of 50 and after you've been married for a long time. And I found it interesting that in general, they said divorce rates have gone down, actually.

[Todd Chrisley]

Really?

[Julie Chrisley]

In general, like, as a generalization.

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

But since 1990, divorces for people over the age of 50 have doubled since 1990 and tripled for people over 65.

[Todd Chrisley]

Why are you divorcing at 65? You've lived with this crusty older for I don't know how long, and now you're going to do it at 65. No, if it's that bad, I'm going to stay and torture you to the end.

[Julie Chrisley]

I mean, literally, in 1990, 8% of divorces were with people over 50. Today, 40% are with people over 50. And I thought people.

[Todd Chrisley]

Our age group is just saying, we tired of the. Yeah, we moving up.

[Julie Chrisley]

I think. I think it's crazy. And they were saying, because people are living longer, too, that people 50 are like, okay, you know, I've got another 20, 30 years. You know, people, what are you doing.

[Todd Chrisley]

In them 30 years?

[Julie Chrisley]

I guess people just are wanting to be happy. I don't know. I think they've realized that, okay, we've raised kids, we've done all this stuff, and a lot of them realized they have nothing in common. That was kind of the general consensus of it, that they realized they had nothing in common. But you were saying, making it sound like that the women were the one initiating it. But this particular study that I read, it's more men initiating.

[Todd Chrisley]

And what does a 70 year old do other than packing bubble gum?

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, I don't.

[Todd Chrisley]

I mean, it's not like he's blowing nobody's back out at 70.

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, I don't. I don't know, Todd. But I'm just saying to you that that was. It was. It was more that the men initiated the divorce than women.

[Todd Chrisley]

And this particular stuff, I blame that on Viagra. I blame that on Viagra because I just don't.

[Julie Chrisley]

But it's. It's crazy to me that these people are married 30 and 40 years and they just come in and want a divorce.

[Todd Chrisley]

You don't ever have to worry about us getting no gray divorce because I'm not breaking and training nobody else in.

[Julie Chrisley]

Oh, okay. That's what it's about.

[Todd Chrisley]

I don't have the time.

[Julie Chrisley]

But, you know, they were talking about how this. They had this one attorney on there that she kind of specializes in these divorce. These gray divorces. And she was saying that the biggest thing is she sees the men that come back and her like, dang, I made a mistake. I didn't realize what all she did. I didn't realize all the things behind the scene that she did to keep everything together.

[Todd Chrisley]

And saying, I don't have that problem because I know all of the things that I have to do for you.

[Julie Chrisley]

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[Todd Chrisley]

Yeah, you staying. So I think you ain't getting half.

[Julie Chrisley]

But I just think it's interesting at, you know, and they, they had this, this other show that I was, that I was actually listening to about it, you know, they were saying, is it just Hollywood? Because there are so many like Hollywood divorces that, that's happening to now. You know, you have Hugh Jackman, you have Keith and Nicole, you have Lori Laughlin.

[Todd Chrisley]

I'm gonna tell you, that just breaks my heart.

[Julie Chrisley]

Those are just a few of them that were married for, you know, 20 plus years and they've divorced. But that's just Hollywood. But it's really not. They're, they're saying statistically it's just on an increase, which I just think is crazy. And you know how you have to totally mourn the relationship, especially the one that didn't want it, you know. And you know, a lot of them, some of them, one of the ones, because I listened to several different perspectives and different people, it was a female audience, you know, and a lot of the women were like, I was completely blindsided. Now I don't know how, how you could be completely blind. I mean, I do feel like in some instances, I'm sure there are, but I just would have to believe you've been with somebody that long, you know, you're not completely blindsided. But some of them said that they were, you know, and like it was, it was like mourning a death. Everything that you thought was going to be this person you thought you were going to have grandchildren with and grow old with and retire and be sitting on the front porch with now is no more, you know, And I mean there were women that were, that were speaking in this audience that were like, I mean, I didn't even have a credit card. You know, they were like having to completely rebuild their life at, you know, 50 something years old, 60 something years old, start over.

[Todd Chrisley]

And I just, but that's just dumb because who, what 50 year old woman is going to, is going to leave a man if he's the paycheck and you ain't. You hadn't stolen enough at this point.

[Julie Chrisley]

You were, you're missing what I just said. Oh, because he's the audience. It was mainly the men that walked away, it wasn't the women. And a lot of them were like, they're blindsided but wonder if the man.

[Todd Chrisley]

Started stacking away cash before this happened.

[Julie Chrisley]

Before he made the plan on doing that, he probably did, but I don't know. I would tend to think, well, if.

[Todd Chrisley]

I ever call you and say, judah, I need you to start moving the money into this account for me, don't you worry. That'll be a sign. Don't you worry, because I don't know how to do it. So I'm gonna have to have you to help plan my ex.

[Julie Chrisley]

Don't you worry. So I just think. And then they had some children in there, you know, that were talking about. And most. Most of the time, these women, their children were grown, you know, but they were saying how, you know, society thinks. You know, you protect these small kids when you're going through a divorce, and because you're an adult, you know, you're supposed to just take it and just, you know. And it's really actually difficult for adult children because they're mourning what they always thought. And so many of them, like, said, we never thought our parents would get divorced.

[Todd Chrisley]

You know, but, you know, that segues back to our children. All of our children have said, if something happened to you, they would. They would want me with somebody else. But if you were with someone else, they said, that's.

[Julie Chrisley]

But you're talking about divorce. Are you talking about death?

[Todd Chrisley]

I don't think. I don't think we asked that when we were talking. What was it a week or two ago when you got so mad? When they.

[Julie Chrisley]

When I think it was talking about a death, though.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay.

[Julie Chrisley]

So I think they were saying if I died, then they would.

[Todd Chrisley]

They would expect me to be with somebody. Yes, but with you.

[Julie Chrisley]

They did. They would not expect that, which I thought was crazy.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, but because I'm their daddy, I have been there for them.

[Julie Chrisley]

I'm their mother. And I have, too.

[Todd Chrisley]

Yeah. But, I mean, I'm, like, really their daddy.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. And I'm really their mother. I just think there's a double standard, and even children, I think, have a double standard to. Or ours do. I'm not gonna want all children.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, would you want me if something happened to you? Would you want me to be with.

[Julie Chrisley]

Somebody if I died?

[Todd Chrisley]

Yes.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes, I would. Because you're not. You're not a person to be by yourself. You're not. You're not. You're not good. Wouldn't be good functioning by yourself.

[Todd Chrisley]

But what do you mean?

[Julie Chrisley]

Be too needy for our kids, like, because you just. You. You. You're a companion, a relationship kind of.

[Todd Chrisley]

Person, and so if something happened to me.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

Would you want to be with somebody?

[Julie Chrisley]

Else.

[Todd Chrisley]

But why is that? No, in all seriousness. Why is that?

[Julie Chrisley]

In all seriousness, yes. Because I am 52 years old. A 52 year old, a 55 year old, a 60 year old. They don't want a 52 year old. I mean, it's just the reality of life.

[Todd Chrisley]

So you're going back to ageism again.

[Julie Chrisley]

So I would say it would have to be somebody older. And I don't, I don't want to be.

[Todd Chrisley]

So what you're saying is that you don't want to be with somebody that's older, but you're expecting the man to be with somebody that's.

[Julie Chrisley]

No, I'm not saying older. I know, I'm not expecting. I don't, I wouldn't want to be with a younger man. But I'm just saying equal ages. 50, 50. You're 57 years old. I'm not died today. You wouldn't be with a 57 year old woman. That's just not reality. You would not want that. And I understand that.

[Todd Chrisley]

I don't know, it would just depend on how much money she has.

[Julie Chrisley]

Oh my gosh. But I'm just saying so because I'm a hoe for that reason. I just know, you know, that like again, 50, someone my age is not going to look at a 52 year old. Oh yeah. You know, it's going to have to be somebody much older. And no, I'm not. And you know, just call it whatever it is, call it life is just beat the hell out of me. But to have to get tied up with somebody else with kids and grandkids and all that stuff, I'm not.

[Todd Chrisley]

I'm just telling y', all, she has put me out here and said I am not eligible to date older women. If you have enough money, I will knock the cobwebs off. So I'm here for you. So when you look at our life.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

Where do you, where do you want to see us in 10 years? Because at that point you will be 80 and I will be 60.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. Okay.

[Todd Chrisley]

Because I will have had a facelift by then.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. Well, 10 years, all of our children will be grown, grown, grown. You know, Chloe will be grown and you know, doing her thing. I think we, I want us to enjoy life, you know, I want us to, to be hopefully, I hope and pray that our health stays good, that we are able to travel, to enjoy our ch in the relationships that they're in and the children that they have, but be able to travel and go do everything that we've ever wanted to do. You know, I mean, we kind of are playing catch up a little bit. Not a little bit. We're playing catch up a lot. And so I know that these next few years are gonna be. They're gonna be working years. They're gonna be years that we gotta really keep our nose to the grindstone. And I'm good with that. I mean, I am really good with that. Cause I am grateful for where we are today, but. Yeah, then I want to be able to enjoy that time. You know, I want us to be able to do what we want to.

[Todd Chrisley]

Do because we've made a commitment to each other that we plan to do an extensive amount of traveling.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

And that we're going to travel, which.

[Julie Chrisley]

Is crazy, because you say that and you never really want to travel.

[Todd Chrisley]

I never did until I couldn't.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. I think that's it.

[Todd Chrisley]

And now that I can. And I know that that means something to you.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

I'm willing to do that. Am I going to enjoy every bit of it? You know, I like being at home. I like what I have at home. And I think that's a testament to where. I mean, I feel safe in my home. I'm comfortable in my home, and I don't like to get outside of that, but I'm willing to do that because I know that means a lot to you because you've always had aunts in your parents. You want to go somewhere all the time.

[Julie Chrisley]

And I do appreciate that. And I think that goes back to this whole gray divorce thing where, you know, people don't want to still compromise, and they don't want to let the other person, okay, this is what I feel like I need to be fulfilled. And this is what you need to be to be fulfilled. I think people just get real selfish, and then they just kind of turn off, and then. Then that's what you're looking at with a gray divorce. You know, I mean, that's how I feel.

[Todd Chrisley]

We're not having a gray, a blonde, or a brunette divorce.

[Julie Chrisley]

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[Todd Chrisley]

But you do have some issues with some things that I do that you don't like. You don't like. You feel like that I'm antisocial.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

And that's a problem for you.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

Why is that a problem for you?

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, it's not really a pro. I wouldn't say it's a for me.

[Todd Chrisley]

But you've made very, very snarky comments about it. So why do you. Why do you feel that? Because you get mad sometimes when people invite us to dinner.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

And to go out.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

And you call me and I said, not interested. Yeah, not interested.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right. Because people are not going to continue to do that. They're not going to continue to ask you if you. If you're always. No, I'm sorry, I'm busy. I'm traveling. I'm this, I'm that, and you're traveling upstairs to your bed. I mean, that's your travel.

[Todd Chrisley]

That's not true. Yeah, not always. That's not always true.

[Julie Chrisley]

Not always true. But is sometimes true.

[Todd Chrisley]

But I feel like that people that are really close to me and that know me so well, they don't do that. They don't invite me out because they know I'm not gonna go. So, I mean, I feel like I'm a great friend to you because you're never gonna have to pay for dinner. Cause let's just love each other via text and on the phone and we'll see each other when we see each other and just know that I'm here for you. You know, we're getting ready to go to dinner.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

This weekend, which this right here should speak volumes.

[Julie Chrisley]

We're going to dinner with some friends this weekend and then in the next couple weeks we're actually going to a friend's house. That she's cooking for us.

[Todd Chrisley]

Oh, Isabel.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

My long lost sister Isabel.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes. So those are two outings that you have. So that's. That's big for you.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, we're going to dinner with this couple that we both love.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

For so many different reasons.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And just because they are real human beings.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes. And so it'll be a nice time.

[Todd Chrisley]

So.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. And.

[Todd Chrisley]

And you came to me.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

And you say, yeah, because I don't.

[Julie Chrisley]

Want to sit there and say, yeah, and then you like, I'm not going. I'm not doing that. No, I'm not doing that. I don't feel like doing that.

[Todd Chrisley]

And. But I am going to dinner because I love both of them and I love, first of all, he is hugely talented.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

And. And she is, too. I mean, of all the things that she does, they're just. They're just good, salt of the earth people. Not that the other people that invite me to dinner are not great people.

[Julie Chrisley]

That's true.

[Todd Chrisley]

It's just that this invite came along at a time to where I was like, okay, I can probably do this.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

So you would like for me to get better with that?

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. I mean, sometimes. Not. Not a lot, you know, but. And then there are times if you don't want to go, like I said. Okay, well, me and Chad are going to eat or, you know, whatever.

[Todd Chrisley]

And I am so grateful for Chad because Chad is willing to go out to dinner with Julie anytime she wants to go.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

Lunch or whatever. So. Chad.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

I love you.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. And that's fine. You know, and that works for us, you know, And I don't have to do that a lot. But.

[Todd Chrisley]

But you do like. And. And you like to talk a lot. Like, you know, like when I say talk a lot, like, you like to have conversations about things that I don't care about. Having conversations about. Would you agree with that?

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. And so do you like having conversations with things that crazy. That don't even matter, that you like to keep going? So, yeah, I think we can agree on.

[Todd Chrisley]

But I don't care about. About some of the things that. And you just said you don't care about some of the things. I don't, but if I'm talking about something, it's normally pertaining to business.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right, but you're talking about something. It's important to you.

[Todd Chrisley]

Right.

[Julie Chrisley]

So.

[Todd Chrisley]

But I don't care that Sally Joe's screwing the pool boy who's. Because her husband's gone for three days.

[Julie Chrisley]

I don't care either.

[Todd Chrisley]

When Chad talk about stuff like it.

[Julie Chrisley]

All the time and I don't involve you, so stay out of our business. Obviously, if you talking, then you. You all.

[Todd Chrisley]

Because you come back. Said it to me.

[Julie Chrisley]

Okay, well, I'm not. Oh, then I won't. Then I won't share.

[Todd Chrisley]

Oh, don't you threaten me with a.

[Julie Chrisley]

Good time of not discussing your conversations with you. That's fine.

[Todd Chrisley]

So how can I better serve you as your husband and as your partner in life at this graying age that we're approaching?

[Julie Chrisley]

How can you better serve me? Well, I want you to really work on your phone.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay.

[Julie Chrisley]

Like, because you have that phone and I understand that you have to have it, but I think it becomes a matter of knowing when it's needed and just when you just do it, to be doing it. Be on your phone for just doing it.

[Todd Chrisley]

Now you understand that I woke up this morning and you were on your phone looking at Instagram, right?

[Julie Chrisley]

But that. But I'm just saying, like, when we're out to dinner or when we're, you know, just. I think there are times when you could be a little more present.

[Todd Chrisley]

I say that prison conditioned me to be on my phone a lot.

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, see, I. And prison conditioned me that I didn't have to have a phone. So, you know, I think that's the. Again, the yin and yang. So.

[Todd Chrisley]

So I could serve you better as your spouse to not be on my phone as much.

[Julie Chrisley]

I think so. But I'm just saying, let's see, you know, I. Regardless of what you think or feel, I'm not really high maintenance.

[Todd Chrisley]

Yeah, I'm glad it ain't storming in Tennessee today.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, whatever. I'm really not, you know, that I. I'm not this needy. Like, oh, my God. I have to hold your hand and I have to make sure that you're good. And I have to be delicate. I'm not this, like, delicate.

[Todd Chrisley]

You're not that, Nicole, because you will go and do what you're going to do, right? And so you do that. But you do. You do get upset or sideways if there's not affirmations given to you at certain. At certain points. Because this whole thing about this graying divorce or whatever. Gray divorce, whatever it is, you get salty if I. If there's something on Instagram, I go, now, this is a beautiful girl. Savannah should look at her hair color. Then you turn around and slap me with it three weeks later. Yes, you did.

[Julie Chrisley]

That's not. That's. That's not. I just, you know. Why you saying that? Cuz you know I know you. You know that I know you and that I can read you like a book.

[Todd Chrisley]

That.

[Julie Chrisley]

That you're saying you can't even say anything.

[Todd Chrisley]

Not true. You can't even say you turned that whole thing into me being infatuated with this person. But that was not it. As God is my witness, that was not it. I said this girl is a beautiful girl and Savannah needs to have. Look at her hair color and stop with all of this. This one color.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And then three days later you hit me when I'm trying to brush my teeth. I saw who you was looking at on Instagram. Did you not do that?

[Julie Chrisley]

And I. And I know cuz I.

[Todd Chrisley]

You're still standing by that I could.

[Julie Chrisley]

What was that movie? What was that movie?

[Todd Chrisley]

Julia Roberts. You've already accused this of me. Where she. Where she picks her husband's next wife cuz she's dying.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes. Yes, I can see.

[Todd Chrisley]

I wouldn't trust you to do that.

[Julie Chrisley]

That.

[Todd Chrisley]

Cuz you would literally. Because you are so vindictive. You would be the type of person that would put me with somebody like my. The You.

[Julie Chrisley]

You can't even say that with.

[Todd Chrisley]

Can't even say her name.

[Julie Chrisley]

And you can't even say that with straight face. Cuz you know that I know you so well.

[Todd Chrisley]

What would you. If this was the Julia Roberts movie.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

And you had to pick because you were dying and you had to pick my next wife, who would it be? What type would it be?

[Julie Chrisley]

Your next wife or just your next companion?

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, I don't think I'll have another wife because I don't have. You have been. You have set the bar so high when it comes to wives. I would not.

[Julie Chrisley]

Well, that was very sweet. I'm gonna keep. I'm gonna reserve my comments for right now. But you know that I know you. That's all that matters.

[Todd Chrisley]

You think it's gonna be. So that's 35 years old.

[Julie Chrisley]

No, I think you'll do 40 because you. You. You want it to be a little bit older than your oldest. So. So I think you'd. It'd be a little.

[Todd Chrisley]

So you're thinking that from a social standpoint that I would feel more comfortable with somebody that's five years older than my oldest child. Yeah, gotcha.

[Julie Chrisley]

I'm saying. But, but listen, now listen. You don't discriminate because there are. I can name a 60 year old that I think you would absolutely. If. If I dropped dead today.

[Todd Chrisley]

Oh, here we go.

[Julie Chrisley]

I can name that. I can name a 38 year old. I can name a 60 year old and everything in the middle, so I. There's no doubt in my mind.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, I do appreciate you confirming that I am a cat connoisseur.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

So what. What would you ask me? I've asked you all these questions. What would you ask me?

[Julie Chrisley]

I don't. I don't have any questions to ask you right now.

[Todd Chrisley]

So then my life is taken.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, I feel like you are.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay, well, I love that. I love you.

[Julie Chrisley]

Are you just. I just didn't know I was going to get the 20 questions today. But you know what? Maybe it help. Will help someone.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, that's the goal. That's the whole goal.

[Julie Chrisley]

And I think if we constantly are talking, we're constantly evolving, we're constantly being open to different things. And, you know, and I think. I think especially here on Christly Confessions 2.0, I think that what has and what continues to make it a success is that we are open, we are honest, we are vulnerable. We. You know, nobody's marriage is perfect. Nobody's children are perfect. Nobody's life is perfect.

[Todd Chrisley]

What would you. Would you have an. Would you. Are you open to asking me what you could do better to serve me in our marriage?

[Julie Chrisley]

Sure, Ty, because you obviously want to tell me what. What I could do better. What could I do better to serve me? You.

[Todd Chrisley]

69.

[Julie Chrisley]

Todd. And that's. So, Todd, what could I do to make your life better?

[Todd Chrisley]

You know, you're. You're. You really do pretty much check all the boxes. Other than 69. But other than that, other than that, you're kind of pretty good. I mean, you're actually better than pretty good. On a scale of 1 to 10, you. I would say that you, with everything you've had to deal with and throughout the course of your life and the marriage and things, I would put you at a solid 100.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

Because I do believe that you are. And I. And I say this because you know how I bait mama. I said in the interview with her, I said, you know, how would you feel about if I married again? I'm not having nothing to do with. With her. And you know, she's always told you that. And she. And she got mad and cussed me out that time, remember? You go ahead and be that stupid. You go ahead and be stupid enough to let Julie get gone. And she said, I'll, Todd. I'll raise mortal hell. I'll run her off. You remember how she said that? So she still. In the interview, she said.

[Julie Chrisley]

She says all she Says all the time, the ty can leave. He wants to. But me and you, we. We stand right where we're at.

[Todd Chrisley]

That's what she said today, pretty much. But I do think that you have been an amazing wife, and you've been an amazing mother, and you have been a. You have given me the desire to be better in all aspects of my life. Even the things that you complain about. You keep me motivated. And so I think I feel the same way.

[Julie Chrisley]

I do because. And I feel like that's what has kept us on this kind of even ground all these years, is because we do motivate each other, and we do stick in there when it gets tough and when, you know, you could walk away or I could walk away, but we never have and we never do. I think there's something to be said for that. I really do.

[Todd Chrisley]

On that note, we're getting a lot of questions about why can we not do Chrisa Confessions 2.0 at least twice a week. Are you open to that?

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, I think it'll just be like our schedule, a scheduling thing, but, you know, maybe. You know, maybe. We'll see.

[Todd Chrisley]

Okay. I think that I always have to say something about the Bureau of Prisons and kind of where things are. I am seeing so much positive. You are too. Change within the Bureau of Prisons, believe it or not. And to see the number of men and women that are currently working with the Bureau of Prisons coming forward.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And saying, okay, I've. I've seen too much going on that should not be going on. I received a message today, and as I was going in to have my teeth bleached or cleaned, whatever I was doing, and it said, tide, first, let me say that you genuinely are one of my heroes. No cliche, no hyperbole. And not trying to make your head any hyperbole. Oh, let me start over. I pulled a fay there. Aaron. Make sure you cut that out and do the right one.

[Julie Chrisley]

Calls myself.

[Narrator/Advertiser]

Yeah, there's too many.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah, leave it in.

[Todd Chrisley]

Todd, first, let me say that you genuinely are one of my heroes. No cliche, no hyperbole.

[Julie Chrisley]

No hyperbole.

[Todd Chrisley]

Hyperbolic hyperbole. You genuinely are one of my. I can't do any more. So I got this message on Instagram today. Todd, first, let me say that you genuinely are one of my heroes. No cliche, no hyperbole. And not trying to make your head any bigger than it already is.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

We don't jam. This is the part that's important. We don't jam politically. But I am truly grateful that President Trump brought you and Julie home. I am a husband, a father, a Christian, and a felon. This month marked two years since I came home from the Texas Department of Criminal Justice. Whether it's state or federal, prison is prison. And each week I tune in to Chrisley Confessions 2.0 and can relate profoundly to many of your experiences, particularly those mentioned in your early episodes back. Every time you speak truth to power and hold those BOP officials accountable fills me with such pride. Witnessing your entire journey on back to reality left me often sobbing, as myself and my family know intimately exactly what you all felt, except I was guilty as shit. A man of your word, a man of honor. You are affecting real and tangible change, impacting countless lives. Men are free today because you. Because you have the courage to hold the powers that be accountable. I now do prison ministry and am actually a chaplain at the same unit where I once was held.

[Julie Chrisley]

Oh, I love that.

[Todd Chrisley]

Many of the men that I ate chow with, worked out on the rec yard with, and made spreads with are still here. I now have the extraordinary privilege of ministering to those men, but I get to do it in my own clothes. Additionally, I am currently working on my degree, hoping to earn a degree in film and digital media. I wish I could adequately express how truly inspired I am by you, Todd. Like I said, you're my hero. If by some chance you do come across this dm, please remember the name, because I want to be a part of the work that you do, whether in media or criminal justice reform. Working for Todd Chrisley is on the vision board. Lord, I'm praying for you and the family best. Ian. Ian, I got that dm. And here's the. And here's the irony of this. As I'm laying in the dental chair this morning, that came through. And, you know, I don't ever look at all of these DMs. I can't go through all of them. But that one was the.

[Julie Chrisley]

It was.

[Todd Chrisley]

It came through literally as I was going through messages, right? So, Ian, I heard you. I just read your message, and I'm gonna private message you. So let me say to you, you are my hero. Because the thing that's so important to me is that we don't have to agree politically, and we probably agree on more than you think we agree on, but we do and should love each other and we should try to lift each other up as much as we can. And. And I get so many messages now who address the political. And, you know, we've never. And we've never been that.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

You know, throughout our show, we never had.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And now because President Trump pardoned us.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

We're cast over here by some, you know, because Biden didn't do it.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, let me just say Biden didn't know his own children, so I surely know he didn't know me. But that we have so many people that we're friends with that are Democrats.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

Our liberals. And I don't want there to ever be a separation from our family to your family. Because you think we vote this way and you vote that way. I see you as my brother and sister in Christ. I see you as someone who, if you're kind to me, I'm kind to you.

[Julie Chrisley]

You.

[Todd Chrisley]

I want to be that person.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

I don't want to be defined by my, by my political affiliation.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah. It's a difficult time right now. I'm not going to lie. It has affected me.

[Todd Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Julie Chrisley]

On a very personal level. And so with that being said, it is what it is. You know, and, and people are entitled to feel the way that they feel, and there's nothing that you can do to change that.

[Todd Chrisley]

But we do need to.

[Julie Chrisley]

I do pride myself in and feeling like I always treat people well. And if I never want someone to walk away and say that I did not treat them well, because at the end of the day, I don't really care what your political.

[Todd Chrisley]

I think that's perfect. I think that that is exactly.

[Julie Chrisley]

And that's just where I want, you know, that's where I've always strived to be in my life. And to have that question now at 52, is, I'm not going to lie and tell you that it's not difficult for me because it really is. And, you know, it. Unfortunately, it is what it is. And.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, I think we have to be careful. We have to be careful with the words that we use and in minimizing someone else's pain.

[Julie Chrisley]

Absolutely.

[Todd Chrisley]

And I think that if we could all feel empathy towards one another, we don't have to agree with each other.

[Julie Chrisley]

And it's hard. And it's what we've all said. It's what we, you and I have said about prison. Unless you've gone through it, unless you, you faced with it, it's not something that you can relate to. You know, I, I say it all the time. I battle my weight for years. It's, it's, it's hard for somebody that's never had a weight issue. You know, it's easy for them to look at me and say, how can you not just work out every day and, you know, cut your carbs? Because it's not your hard. You know, it's hard for somebody that's a. A smoker or. It's easy for me. I'm not a smoker. How can you. How can you smoke a cigarette? How can you drink alcohol? Because I'm not a drinker. So it's easy when it's not your heart, when it's not something that you've had to deal with in your life. So I get that I can't know how someone feels if you've never walked in their shoes, but you can still empathize with them. And so, yeah, I think it's just. Yeah, it's unfortunate.

[Todd Chrisley]

I love that you said that. It's not your hard.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

Because it's hard.

[Julie Chrisley]

And it's. It's hard for me because I just. I mean, I've been an adult through several presidents. You know, like, I never thought that I wasn't going to be someone's friend because they voted for Barack Obama and Barack Obama became president. I never thought I wasn't going to be friends with somebody because they were a Clinton supporter. I. That just never cross is like, it never crossed my mind. No.

[Todd Chrisley]

Because we always had great. We always had great conversations.

[Julie Chrisley]

If that's not. That's not something that I would ever even like. That never even crossed my mind. It has never, up until now, crossed my mind. I can honest and truthfully 100% tell you that.

[Todd Chrisley]

I know that because I know who you are.

[Julie Chrisley]

It's, you know, but it is an issue. And now I think we're seeing it, you know, we're seeing this divide like never, ever, ever before.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, I just think that, you know, I'm not. I would have never voted for Kamala Harris.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

But I have friends that did.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And it doesn't change how I feel about them. I still love them the same. But. Because I know what subject you're talking about. But I think to help you kind of put this in the right perspective is that sometimes people. Sometimes people have hurt and pain. Pain.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yes.

[Todd Chrisley]

And. And that pain has nothing to do with you.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

But it's pain that has not been addressed over there, over from childhood forward.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And our country has. Has been noted for being insensitive.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And our. And our. So many households and raising children have noted. Have been insensitive.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

I've been accused of it.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

But I think that we have to recognize that even if we're not on the Same political field. Nothing that we do should ever be in a harmful or hurtful manner. And we should not take someone's weak spot and zone in on that. So we have an easy target.

[Julie Chrisley]

No, I agree.

[Todd Chrisley]

So I think that, I mean, I hope.

[Julie Chrisley]

Discussion that. Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

And I hope that that will help.

[Julie Chrisley]

Will continue to happen.

[Todd Chrisley]

Yeah. Because I think that, you know, it.

[Julie Chrisley]

Is what it is. Right?

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, I mean, mean, it is what it is.

[Julie Chrisley]

We have talked about a lot of stuff today. This has been a lot.

[Todd Chrisley]

Well, I think that it's a lot because there's so much that needs to be said.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And I think that in this world right now, what we need is we need an old school revival of the people.

[Julie Chrisley]

Yeah.

[Todd Chrisley]

We need the. We need the people of our nation to come together. And everyone knows where we stand on immigration.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

I do not believe that we should have open borders, but I also believe that we are the United States of America. We are the greatest nation on earth. And no child should be hungry. No child should be homeless.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

And I do believe that we're supposed to lift our brothers and sisters up that are not where you are. Because the scripture says, to whom much is given, much is required.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

So you and I should not be feasting while there's famine going on next door.

[Julie Chrisley]

Right.

[Todd Chrisley]

So that's on that note. I'm going to leave it there. I just feel like that we as a people can do better. Red, blue, or purple. We don't need to be defined by color. We need to be defined by what's in our heart and what we know to be. What we know to be is the right thing when it comes to other people's feelings. So, you know, me and Savannah can fight over some of that. Me and you fight over some of that.

[Julie Chrisley]

Absolutely.

[Todd Chrisley]

But I'm gonna still love you when you're wrong. And so, with that being said, folks, until next week, don't forget, wherever you.

[Julie Chrisley]

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