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Todd Chrisley
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Julie Chrisley
How are you today darling?
Todd Chrisley
I'm good. How are you?
Julie Chrisley
Well, if I was any better, I'd have a twin. And you do. Both of us.
Todd Chrisley
Oh my God no. This world can only handle one. So I am super excited to delve into something. It seems like every conversation that you and I have with other parents of adult children, it always circles back to raising adult children. And so today we're talking about what it really looks like to raise adult children. Letting go, staying connected, setting boundaries and learning when to speak and when to stay quiet.
Julie Chrisley
Well, clearly I have mastered none of those.
Todd Chrisley
Right. But I think. I think everybody's in the same boat. And I think that's why I'm so excited to do this episode, because we can only speak for us. We can only speak for what has worked, what hasn't worked. And we can only speak to how we're navigating this in this. In this current time, like we are navigating it as we speak.
Julie Chrisley
Right.
Todd Chrisley
And I think there's so many people who are in our same boat and they don't really know what to do because let's say we've never raised adult children. You've never raised adult children until you've raised adult children, right?
Julie Chrisley
Well, I mean, I guess I could look at it from two sides. I guess I could say if you're having to raise adult children, then somewhere along the way of raising the children, you maybe didn't get something. Right. And I'm speaking about us in general, right? Because I look back on how we raised our children and clearly we didn't get a lot of shit. Right? Because ours has stepped outside of their raising more times than they stayed in it.
Todd Chrisley
Right. But I don't, and I agree with that to a certain degree, but I also feel like that when I say raising adult children, I think it just means for me, continuing as a parent with adult children, how that changes. Not necessarily raising, even though we are. But it's the dynamics, it's the relationship, relationships. It's how, how your relationship evolves once they become, quote, unquote, adults.
Julie Chrisley
Well, I think that for me, I have had to learn to look at our children not as my children anymore, but as fellow adults or, you know, people that are.
Todd Chrisley
But they're still your children.
Julie Chrisley
They are still your children, but as adults. And I would. Without my 28 month sabbatical, I don't know that I would have ever gotten to the place that I'm at right now. I've done my job right. I have raised my children right. I have done everything in my power, whether it was right or wrong. It was always done with the right intentions.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
I did not have my first child. When I had my first child, it didn't. That child did not come with a handbook.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
So I had to learn.
Todd Chrisley
And you really were a child having a child?
Julie Chrisley
Well, I was 21 and a child having a child. The. So, you know, then I Had my second one 14 months later. And so hopefully I was a little bit better with the, you know, the second one than I was with the first one. And then I. I believe I was way better with the third one and then certainly better with the fourth one and then with the fifth one. I think that I was just. I was older and more mature, and things didn't bother me the way that they bothered me, you know, when I was 21 years old, when I was trying to prove to everyone that I could do everything and get it all right at the same time. Right now I feel like that we've done what we can do. Right, as parents. We raised our children to the best of our ability.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
I think that when you have adult children, that your door needs to be open.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
As long as whoever's coming through that door is going to treat that as a safe space. Space. One that is to be respected and to be cherished, because it's a blessing for an adult child to be able to come home to their parents and sit down and have a heartfelt conversation and say, mom, did you ever go through this. I'm going through this situation. Or, dad, I'm going through this situation. But we have raised this generation, I believe, is truly one of the most selfish, lazy generations that's ever been raised.
Todd Chrisley
I agree.
Julie Chrisley
And I think that you have siblings that are so jealous of each other.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
That they bring so much heartache into the household. Because as a parent, you're trying to be the peacekeeper. You want your kids.
Todd Chrisley
I am the peacekeeper of the whole family. Do you know that?
Julie Chrisley
Yes, I do.
Todd Chrisley
That has my role. I don't know how I got stuck with it, but I did. I am the peacekeeper when it comes to you and the kids. The kids and the kids. The kids and other people. Because of course I want peace. I want peace between my children.
Julie Chrisley
But is it really peace if you have to bend every time on what your core values are? Is it peace because the situation calmed down because you gave them what they wanted?
Todd Chrisley
Well, not always.
Julie Chrisley
Or did you voluntarily sacrifice your peace in order for them to find.
Todd Chrisley
Well, I do think you do that as a parent. You do that.
Julie Chrisley
I don't think. I don't. I don't believe you should. I do not believe that as an. I don't believe that as. As an adult. That you owe someone else your piece.
Todd Chrisley
No, I don't think that you owe
Julie Chrisley
it because I don't think that. I think that that breeds resentment.
Todd Chrisley
I don't think that you owe It. No, I don't. I don't. I can remember back, and I probably talked about this before, but I can. I mean, it's so vivid. I can remember being in the grocery store with the four kids. And when I say the four kids, I'm meaning Lindsay, Calchase, Savannah. Right. And Chase and Savannah were just babies. I want to say Savannah was like a newborn and Chase was one. And so they were like, what, six and seven? And I can remember having them all four in the grocery store and walking through that grocery store thinking, what have I done?
Julie Chrisley
I think that's normal.
Todd Chrisley
What have I done? I can't do this. Like, there's no way. I have these four kids that I am raising every day. I can't do this. And I look back now, and it was the easiest time ever, because that was physically exhausting to me.
Julie Chrisley
But the reason that was, that you can look back now and say that was the easiest time is because you're past that.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
You're now going into unchartered territory, which is what you was doing in the grocery store that day with all four of them. That was unchartered territory for you. It's easy to look back after you've overcome something and say, that was the easiest time.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Well, and that again, that was physically exhausting. Now I feel like it's emotionally exhausting.
Julie Chrisley
Absolutely.
Todd Chrisley
As, you know, as parents, we're learning that our opinion is no longer the final word and that it's not the final word. We watch our adult children make decisions that we don't agree with. You know, that. And even more so not agree with. Yes, we watch that, but we also. It's like we can see what's going to happen. We know what's going to happen either because we've lived it or because of the earth long enough to know what the end result is going to be. And it's like. And you say it's not going to work out, it's not going to work out. And, you know, then you get labeled as, oh, you're just a Debbie Downer. You don't want this for me. You don't want me to be happy. No, I can see how this is going to work out. I know it, but I know it as good as I'm sitting here right now that it's not going to work out, but they gonna bust a gut and do it. It just doesn't matter.
Julie Chrisley
Well, for me. And again, I do think that this is where you and I. You and I are at a different place.
Todd Chrisley
With this, right?
Julie Chrisley
I don't give a shit anymore. I don't care if you want to go out here and act trashy as hell. If you want to go shack up with this one and you want to go this. Do this with this one, go.
Todd Chrisley
Do you.
Julie Chrisley
Because it's no longer a representation of how you were raised, right? It's a representation of your lack of good judgment, right? That is what it is. So I'm in a place now to where I'm willing to let mine catch those sands, right?
Todd Chrisley
But how do you stay supportive instead of always being reactive?
Julie Chrisley
I think that you stay supportive, first off, by protecting your peace. Because if. If you come in my house to where everything was calm, diptyque candles going, and we have created our space of calmness, and you come in and you turn it upside down, you got to go. Because you've now disrespected my peace, right? Now, if you come in and accept this space as being a nurturing, carefully caring, safe place for you, right? And you're going to respect that, then I want to have a conversation with you.
Todd Chrisley
But don't you think. And I'm not just saying this about our children. I'm saying this about people in general. Most of. Most of the time, people say, okay, they want your input. They want your opinion. But really, if it doesn't. If it doesn't go with their narrative,
Julie Chrisley
if it doesn't take their narrative, they don't want it.
Todd Chrisley
They really don't want.
Julie Chrisley
And then they resent that you took the time to give it to them, right? I mean, you sit and say to me, because, folks, listen, if I'm done, I'm done. I'm not coming back to revisit it. I am done with certain situations in my life, right? That bothers you? Because you can't be done, right?
Todd Chrisley
I can be done with certain things
Julie Chrisley
and certain people, yes, but you can't be done with our kids.
Todd Chrisley
No, never.
Julie Chrisley
And I can be. I can be done with your bullshit, right? I'm not going to keep listening to you doing the same shit over and over and over. And the end result is the same every time. So that means you're stuck on stupid, right? So you need to be getting some mental help, right? And I'm not your therapist. And you're not taking up my whole damn day. You're not consuming my life anymore. I raised you. I did as much or more than any daddy that I know of, right? So I don't owe you anything else. After that time that you go out here and start making these stupid ass decisions.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
You're not going to come in here because we, our kids is the same as everybody else's. That's why I said when the show that was out with Sally Fields brothers and sisters, it was the best description of our family. Yeah, I really felt that way. Yeah, because you had. You had the oldest sister and then you had the youngest sister and those two were constantly doing this. Then you had the other. You had the older brother and you had the younger brother and they was doing this. And who was stuck in the middle? The mama, Sally. And you. And my mother and Sally Fields are exactly the same. Because if Chase is bitching about Savannah to you. Mm, mm. When a. Chase, you don't mean that. Savannah beeps in what are you doing talking to Chase? Oh, I'm sure he was talking shit about. No, Savannah, he wasn't. Chase, you're still there. Yes, that was Savannah. No, I did not tell her. And you're going to stop. I don't do that. I tell them shut the hell up.
Todd Chrisley
That's my thing. If it doesn't further, if it doesn't make the situation better, why do I need. Because I know he's just spouting off or I know she's just.
Julie Chrisley
You just need to blow it up and get it over with.
Todd Chrisley
Because at the end of the day, I know they're just mad or they're just frustrated and they're just. They just want to be heard for a minute. Why would I go tell them everything?
Julie Chrisley
It's like I have said, I'm not saying you tell them everything. I don't tell them what the other ones are saying. I say to both of them and have to all of them shut the hell up. Talking about your sibling when you've done sorrier than what you're accusing them of.
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Todd Chrisley
So I think again, as I was doing some research just on this topic because it has been brought to us and we have talked about it with many people. Roughly 1 in 3 adults ages 18 to 34 live with their parents in the U.S. studies show that this trend rose dramatically after Covid and has remained historically high. This same generation, adult sons, are slightly more likely than daughters to live at home. About 35 to 38% of men ages 18 to 34 lives with their parents, compared to 28 to 30% of women. And around 50 to 60% of parents with adult children provide some form of financial support, meaning rent or housing, a cell phone bill, car insurance, groceries, health insurance, blah blah, blah. You know, I need a 20 here, 50 here, whatever. And I do think this is true, you know, because it's all rel r. It's all relative to what you can do, whether it's, you know, getting your mama to Venmo you$5, you know, if that's what you got. I feel like parents still try to do anything they can do to help
Julie Chrisley
them because we're still doing it.
Todd Chrisley
Exactly. But I feel like it's just so different than when we were their ages
Julie Chrisley
because we had too much pride to call our parents and say, we can't make this house payment, we can't make this car payment.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
We can't pay our child's nursery bill.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
We were too proud.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
So we got up and got our ass on a job.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
These. And no one, this generation is not to blame for being sorry.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
We are.
Todd Chrisley
We are. Yes.
Julie Chrisley
Because we, we literally gave that generation everything that we wish we had had.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
And now we look back and say what we didn't had is what gave us the desire to be able to go out here and get it.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
They don't know how to hunt. They're sitting at the kitchen table waiting on us to walk in and bring what we killed.
Todd Chrisley
Right, right. And, you know, we've said it before. Moving out used to be, like, the norm. You couldn't wait to get old enough so that you can move out and be on your own and have a job and have your own money. And, you know, and I've said this before, and we talked about it, a lot of parents will say, well, we did it at 22. But also the financial reality of being 22 today looks very different than it did when we were 22.
Julie Chrisley
So you're saying that because rent is more.
Todd Chrisley
I'm just saying it does look differently,
Julie Chrisley
but everything looks differently. You know, it looked differently when I was out here trying to pay a house payment. And my mom and daddy's first house payment was $98.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Yeah, I.
Julie Chrisley
And mine was 600.
Todd Chrisley
Right. I do. I agree. But what I'm saying is I do think it's a different time. And in certain ways, I think because they've been exposed to so much more, it makes it more difficult. But I also, on the flip side, I'm kind of, like, stuck in the middle. Because also, on the flip side, when I say, okay, well, you know, they're only 25. But I look at where I was at 25, exactly, that I was raising four children at 25. You know, I was married, I think. I don't know. I don't know if it's just. And I kind of went down a rabbit hole of this, that. Is adulthood delayed today or is it just redefined? I think that's a very first of all.
Julie Chrisley
I can answer that for you both ways. Is adulthood redefined?
Todd Chrisley
Is it delayed today? Is adulthood delayed today? Meaning what? We considered adults back then. We don't consider them adults now.
Julie Chrisley
You know why? I know what you mean, why? Because I was educated enough to figure out. Figure that shit out. Is adulthood delayed? Yeah. You know why adulthood is delayed?
Todd Chrisley
Because we've delayed it.
Julie Chrisley
Because we've delayed it. Honey, it's okay that you fail that class. Mom and daddy will pay for you to take another one.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
So at the end of the day, this generation, our government, society as a whole, and what went on in our own homes has created this. Because we have become a country that says, there's a reason why you can't do this right? Rather than you saying, but I can do this right. It's become so easy for people. The government says, you know what? You're not making enough, you know, to buy this House. Well, let's go to the builder and say we're going to limit you on how much you can charge for this house.
Todd Chrisley
Right?
Julie Chrisley
You can't afford to buy these groceries. Let's limit the producer who paid for the fertilizer, the farm help, the time that it took to grow, to grow it. We're going to limit what you can charge for this.
Todd Chrisley
It's almost like dumbing it down.
Julie Chrisley
Exactly. And so you want to talk about other countries, how they shit on us as far as education goes. Look at China. Look at China. They know they're making excuses. Now listen, I'm not a China supporter, but they're not over there making excuses for their people being sorry as hell
Todd Chrisley
and not being educated.
Julie Chrisley
Not an option. I mean education is so important that they willing to send their kids over here and let them become citizens to get an education so they can go back to their country and take what they learned over here and bring it over there, right? I was like, oh shit, do I have a class today? I mean it's like totally not what I want to do. Screw that shit. You, if you are too sorry to go to class, get your ass on a job.
Todd Chrisley
Right?
Julie Chrisley
If you were able to go out here and screw and have kids, have them in your own home, right? You support that situation. If you want to get married, I've said this forever to our children. Marry up. Marry up. Because you marrying beneath you and you lazy as hell. That means you got one lazier than you down there. Marry up.
Todd Chrisley
Well, I think the Bible says you should marry and be equally yoked.
Julie Chrisley
So you don't need1 Sorry one, you don't need two sorry ones. If you're going to have one sorry when you got to have an overachiever. And then hopefully this one up here will bring. Unfortunately this is what happens. The overachievers up here, the underachievers here, this one right here, this one rises and this one has to come down. I know, I have dealt with it my whole life, whatever that is not true. But I just feel like that I was talking to a friend of mine the other day and it's so sad to see these kids today with the entitlement that they have.
Todd Chrisley
Yes, yes.
Julie Chrisley
Because you know, and these kids today, they got more damn shit wrong with them than anybody that me and you ever went to school with combined.
Todd Chrisley
Right. You're right.
Julie Chrisley
I mean I've never seen such shit going on. Yeah, well, I am emotionally I'm not in a well space, so I can't. Why is this house. Emotionally, I'm not in a well space to clean. Why is the car have no guests? Emotionally I'm not in a well enough space to go the gas.
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Julie Chrisley
Your parents don't owe you anything after you're grown and gone. No, they owe you nothing.
Todd Chrisley
No, no.
Julie Chrisley
You should be a joy to your mom and daddy. They should be able. When they see you pulling their driveway, they should say, oh, my. I mean, running out the door, getting their grandkids right. They should not say, shit. Here they are, here they are. You know, there's going to be some shit that's not. You've not brought them, Joey.
Todd Chrisley
No.
Julie Chrisley
They've sacrificed their whole life to educate you, to make sure you had the best that they could afford to give you to create a safe space for you.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
And I feel like that a reason a lot of these kids act the way that they do today is because they have been given a safe space to act the way that they act.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah. Yeah, you're right. So right. And folks, we're not saying anything on here today. I mean, we really are referencing ourselves. We're not like, I'm referencing ourselves and I'm referencing certain things.
Julie Chrisley
I'm referencing ourselves, but I'm also referencing so many people that reach out to me that want advice, our personal friends that have the issues.
Todd Chrisley
What I'm trying to say is we're not sitting here thinking our kids are perfect and everybody else.
Julie Chrisley
I just said we raised some of the trashes that hit the streets, right? So I'm not sitting here talking about, no, no, mine. Now, I was trashy, folks. I'm not going to sit here and lie. I was a hoe. I was a dirty hoe, but I'm not anymore. But a hoe can call a hoe a liar. Can identify a liar.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah, I agree.
Julie Chrisley
So I can identify. So my thing is, is what I'm saying is that. And I just said this to a friend of mine yesterday, day for yesterday I said, these kids have no shame.
Todd Chrisley
No.
Julie Chrisley
Now I was, you know, I mean, I was a, you know, not a holy roller back in the day, right? But they wouldn't nobody. We didn't even have Facebook.
Todd Chrisley
We didn't have anything. So we had the phone on the wall.
Julie Chrisley
Right. So nobody knew who you screwed tonight before unless you told it right. And our generation wasn't going to telling everything right.
Todd Chrisley
Exactly.
Julie Chrisley
Today, if you have a conversation with somebody within three seconds, if they said something you didn't like, you posted that shit.
Todd Chrisley
Right. And I do think that is one of the horrors of social media is people feel like they have to over share. They have to tell everything. Now you know yourself, I am a vault. I do not tell.
Julie Chrisley
No, I don't think. I think you tell more lately than. Than that is not true. Yeah, I think you talk more lately than you have in the past. You've. As you've gotten older, things have loosened up.
Todd Chrisley
That is not true, you asshole. See, he's making me curse. That's not true. I am very much a vault. People will tell you. You know yourself if you tell me don't repeat something. I do not repeat it.
Julie Chrisley
That's exactly right.
Todd Chrisley
I will hold it. And if it's not going to better a situation, it's not going to help. I'm not going to say it just to be saying it. I'm just not going to say it. But I do think there's always going to be that with financially you're always going to have those kids that are always needing something.
Julie Chrisley
But you also the dynamics with kids. Is that the jealousy amongst siblings?
Todd Chrisley
Yes.
Julie Chrisley
We didn't have that. No, I didn't have that.
Todd Chrisley
No.
Julie Chrisley
I mean I never one time thought about being jealous of my brother.
Todd Chrisley
Right. But don't you think too it's because we were the oldest in our family. I think that plays a part of
Julie Chrisley
jealous of anybody though, right?
Todd Chrisley
Me either. I mean I hadn't.
Julie Chrisley
I mean in my mind I always looked better. In my mind I always was dressed better. You know, so when you create your own universe, you ain't got nothing to be jealous about.
Todd Chrisley
Right, Right. But I do think that as your children become adults, I do think, and you said this a little bit earlier, the relationship does kind of have to shift. So there's a few talking points I just want to hit. I want to see what you think calling and texting frequency so I don't feel like. Do you feel like. Like with Savannah or with Chase that you call and text and keep up as much as you used to?
Julie Chrisley
No.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
No.
Todd Chrisley
You know, and I think as they
Julie Chrisley
just get older because I've got my own life now.
Todd Chrisley
Right, Right. And I do think that has come with time. For so long, your life was your kids and that was it.
Julie Chrisley
That's right.
Todd Chrisley
So you spent every waking moment making sure you talked to one of them or you heard from this and you was that one. And now I do think you're in just in a different place in your life.
Julie Chrisley
That's correct. It doesn't mean that I love them any less. And as you know, I will stop whatever I'm doing to do whatever they need me to do.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
But I have also come to a place in my life that if you are not interested in hearing what I have to say about a situation and you're going to do it anyway, then in my opinion, I don't feel like I need to give you my whole day of talking about this shit. You're going to do what you want to do.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
So you go on and do what you're going to do. But don't you bring that shit back to our front porch because we're not cleaning it up. And you know that I have. I've been steadfast with that.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Do you think that parents should track their adult children's location?
Julie Chrisley
I just, you know, I don't do it anymore. I think that if. I think that it's a good thing because of the society that we live in, that you should all know each other's locations.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
And my thing is, is that if you're not willing to share your location with your parents, you're doing some shady shit.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
Because do I give a shit that you care that I'm at home?
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
Do I care that you see on my phone my location that. That I'm having my hands and feet done or that I'm getting a massage or that I'm over at Nordstrom Shopping or whatever? I don't care if you know where I am.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
Because I'm not doing anything that I care if you know about me, too. I think when you say, I'm not going to let you have my location, it's because you're ashamed of your parents knowing what you're actually doing.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah, I agree. And this is a little bit different for us because we have been in the public eye. But public versus private, family issues. Don't you think that. That more people, just in general, certain things should be kept within the family as privacy?
Julie Chrisley
I don't think that anything that has to do with your family should be kept private. That is not for public consumption.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Yeah. And I do think that being in the public eye like us, we signed up for a show. We gave up a certain level of our anonymity because of that. So we. We basically said here. But I do feel like there are still some things that we should and we can keep to ourselves.
Julie Chrisley
Well, there's a lot of stuff that we've been. That we're keeping to ourselves right now.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
And that we. Because we have fiercely protected those things.
Todd Chrisley
Right, right. When do you let things go?
Julie Chrisley
In what regard?
Todd Chrisley
Just when do you let things go in dealing with your adult children?
Julie Chrisley
I think when you realize that there's going to be no change and that nothing good comes out of moving this forward, then you let go, you lay it down, and you walk away. I've done that.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Can relationships recover after major conflict?
Julie Chrisley
You know, I think that every relationship can recover as long as you have God at the center of it. I can say personally that. That for me, I have a peace that I have never had before, and that is because I've turned loose of certain things in my life. And when you hold onto something so tightly that the grip that you have on it becomes toxic to you, that your life just is chaos. And when you. It's almost like holding a snake. And you know, if you're holding that snake and squeezing it so tight just so it won't bite you, you're going to keep holding it because as long as you're holding it, it can't bite you. Right. It's not until you turn it loose that you got to worry.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
That's the fear that you have in your mind.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
It took me a long time to realize that being a parent is sometimes not enough to a child. Your view of how much you have loved and dedicated and whatever.
Todd Chrisley
I literally was saying this because I had written this down. Adult children often see their childhood differently than parents remember it to be.
Julie Chrisley
Well, I think I agree with that. I agree with that. You know, because we've experienced.
Todd Chrisley
We have experienced and there have been times I've heard, heard. I've heard all of them. I'm talking all of them, from the oldest to the youngest, say certain things that when they were growing up. Right. Or how they felt about a situation or something. And I can honestly tell you, like, where it was so different than what you're saying, than what I was, than the way I remember it and the way that it was meant to be.
Julie Chrisley
Right.
Todd Chrisley
But. But I guess ultimately, and you've said this, it's how someone takes something and how someone feels.
Julie Chrisley
It's how. It's how someone perceives the situation.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
But your perception is not always reality.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Right.
Julie Chrisley
So you know if I whipped your ass because you took alcohol to school.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
Then the perception is you got your ass beat because Daddy doesn't love me. No. You was a boy. You was a drunk in training.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
So I wore your ass out.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
If you was caught smoking cigarettes on the top of a 30,000 square foot house. House. Your perception is Daddy whipped my ass because I climbed on the roof. No smoking weeda. I whipped your ass because you climbed on the roof to smoke a Marlboro.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah. With it. With an eight year old.
Julie Chrisley
Right.
Todd Chrisley
So.
Julie Chrisley
No, let's not. Let's just call it what it is.
Todd Chrisley
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Julie Chrisley
My mind is perfectly clear, right? I know every situation that has happened
Todd Chrisley
in my life right now.
Julie Chrisley
Because you need to clean up the facts surrounding the lie that you're telling, right? So that you can be the victim, Right? That is not perception, that is manipulation. You're trying to manipulate the situation, right?
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
But it doesn't change the fact of what the reality of the situation is
Todd Chrisley
because you actually had this happen in your own relationship with your mother as a mother and child, where you have talked about things that happened in your childhood and she has a completely different recollection.
Julie Chrisley
I don't think that she has a different recollection. She knows what has happened and what has not happened. She knows that. But sometimes the truth is more painful to accept than the reality of the situation is, right? So for me, and you've been with me now for 30 years, you know that I do not run from the truth, right? I want it told. I want to live by what this fact is, Right? And I did not have that. Mine was. Okay, okay, Todd, it's over with. Just shut up about it. Move. I can't do that. I'm not built that way. When a situation happens, I have to talk about it. We have to dissect it. And I have to figure out why this happened and how was I in the middle of this. Some of my children are that way.
Todd Chrisley
Right?
Julie Chrisley
But for me, you're not going to tell me that I was a bad parent to you because I know what kind of parent I was. You're not going to tell me that I was a bad provider to you because I know what kind of provider I was. You're not going to tell me that I love this one more than I loved you because you're looking for an excuse for your bad behavior, right? So I'm not doing that. If you feel like that with me as your father, that I was not a good provider, a protector, a nurturer, and that I loved you with all of my heart, soul. If you feel like that I did not meet those parameters, then I need you to step away from. Because I need for you to get into a place to where you feel whole and happy and at peace with yourself. Because obviously you just said I couldn't Provide you those things as a child. So you go on with your life. Go with God's speed, because I've raised you, I've done my part.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
The Bible says that when you become an adult, that you are to marry, that you're to cling to your husband, you're to cling to your wife. Wife. Leave and. And leave your family. Go on. Go do that. I'm at peace with that.
Todd Chrisley
For those people who. Because there's a lot of people that listen to our podcast that are in our same position, They've got adult children, but there's a lot of people that are listening, that they have toddlers, they have babies. What would you have done differently as a parent if you could tell them or tell your younger self when you had just starting out from. From Lindsay and Kyle to chasing Savannah to Grayson and Chloe, what would you have done differently as a parent?
Julie Chrisley
Less. I would have done less.
Todd Chrisley
Less from the perspective of.
Julie Chrisley
Less of worrying about them looking perfect all the time, the image being perfect.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
Less of giving monetarily.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
Because I feel like that I give yet that. Well, I don't feel like I know it to be a fact that we gave our children way more than what they should have ever been given. I would have. I would have insisted that my children work, get on jobs early, you know, when they were 14, 15 years old, whatever the guideline was, whether it was bagging groceries at Publix or, you know, working a drive through at Burger King, because it would not have killed them. What I would have done less was making my children feel that my life surrounded, that my life existed because of theirs.
Todd Chrisley
It gave them a lot of power.
Julie Chrisley
It gave them too much power with me, and they used it against me. So I would not do that. I would allow my children to see me as a human being, as someone who had their own life and that. Who loves them, genuinely loves them with all of their heart and soul and to understand how they fit in a life that I had.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
Not me making them my whole life.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
Because that's a burden that you place on a child as well. For a child to feel like that I am everything he has.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
And it's not. It was never comfortable for me.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
I just became so used to being uncomfortable.
Todd Chrisley
Right. That's all you need.
Julie Chrisley
That's all that I knew. So for me, I would say less in every aspect. It would have been less.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Well, what's one thing that you feel like you got right?
Julie Chrisley
I don't know. I'm still trying to figure that out. I really don't know. I don't know that. I think that because all of our children have. Have had snarky comments to make because they all have entitlement issues issues, what would I say that I did right? I think that I would say that I got it right when they. Because all of my children know that they can come home. All of my children, even though they're grown, know that if they need something and they're in their. In dire straits, they can come to me. So I guess the thing that I got right was that they all is that they know that they know in their core that I love them with all of my heart and soul and that I'm there if you need me. So I guess I got that right.
Todd Chrisley
What's one thing you wish someone had told you early on?
Julie Chrisley
Don't lose who you are. Trying to be everything to someone else.
Todd Chrisley
It's pretty good. That's pretty good. So before we do some questions that some people have written in, I want to just say this little thing that I saw. It said, love changes as children age. Parenting never really ends. Sometimes silence is wiser than criticism. Adult children still need encouragement. Your children may outgrow your rules, but they never outgrow needing your love.
Julie Chrisley
I would agree with that. I really would agree with that. I don't think that any of us should ever outgrow love.
Todd Chrisley
Right? You don't stop being a parent when your kids grow up. You just learn to love them differently.
Julie Chrisley
I know that that is a fact because I love our children differently today than I've ever loved them. You know, so many people, you know, and it's been. It's just. Was the dynamic of the show that, you know, everyone said, I love Savannah more than any of our other children or what have you. And I always laughed about that because I never felt that. I mean, I never felt like I loved any of them more than I did the other.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
I will say that each of them have. Have met me at different. At different markers on my journey.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
Each child met me at a different place in my life. And I could never be the dad to Chase that I am to Grayson. I could never be the dad to Lindsey that I was to Chase because I was at a different. I was at a different place in my journey. And I feel like that. I feel like that. That my love is so deep and so pure for. For my children and for you and for my mother, that it's the safest place for me, because I know there is no contamination there, because I know that it comes from a pure well of nothing but great intentions. But, folks, let me just tell you something. I am not. I am not afraid of getting old. I am not ashamed of being 58. I'm not ashamed of having gray hair. I am at the greatest place I've ever been in my life, because I now realize that it's my life. It doesn't belong to anyone else. We've raised our children. Do I want to be a wonderful grandparent? Yes. I do want to do that, because I've never had that opportunity to have. Have that particular role. So I look forward to that. But I look forward to helping raise a healthier generation than what you and I have raised.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
And I feel like that I'm at a place to where it's okay if my grandchild messes this up. It's okay if my grandson did this or my granddaughter did that. That's okay because. Because I've now lived 58 years to know that everything that they're going to do is going to be okay.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
But when you're young, having children, you don't know if it's going to be okay.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
It's the same as the shopping trip to the grocery store with four kids. And you said, I don't think I can do this.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
I had that same feeling.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
I had the same feeling, Judy, when I would. When I would come home and the. How everybody would be in chaos and screaming and yelling and. And I'd be like, I don't want to do this. It's not that I couldn't. It was like I didn't want to do it. But that only lasted for a minute. And then I realized I can't imagine not having this. So for me, I love my children differently today than I ever have. I love them in a way that I'm okay with letting go. I'm okay with letting my children go and do what they're going to do and know that I'm going to still love them. I may not like the decisions that they make. I don't have to accept the consequences of their decisions. That's, I think, a little bit of where you and I, we have a little bit of rubbing of the edges there. Right. Because you are still at a place to where you will carry the mistakes of our children.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
I won't do that anymore. And I would have thought you would have gotten there quicker than what you have, being older than me. But, you know, if I could give you any advice, what I would say to you is, is that with me being five years old than you carrying the burden of someone else's decisions makes you better to where you can still love your child, you can still be friends with your friend, but you don't have to carry their burden.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah, yeah, that's true.
Julie Chrisley
And self inflicted burdens I'm damn sure not going to carry right now. You know, just a shit run of luck. I might help you lift a little bit.
Todd Chrisley
Right?
Julie Chrisley
But you go out here and keep creating your shit ton of bad luck. Nah, you like it. You like what you're doing. You like wallowing in the gutter, right? So I'm gonna let you get. I'm gonna let you get good and messy so you can appreciate the cleanup.
Todd Chrisley
Right?
Julie Chrisley
But I'm again, I keep going back to it and, and call it selfish, call it whatever you want to. I'm just at a good place. I'm at a good place in my life. I'm at a good place with you. I just am at a good place. I'm at a great place with my Lord and Savior because I have probably the best relationship I've ever had in my faith because I know who I am, I know what I'm doing and I know what I'm gonna do. And I don't know, I just. If you could do something different in the way that we've raised our children, what would you do?
Todd Chrisley
I would have probably. Handled it differently in the fact that they knew that they were my everything. So kind of the same thing, you know, they knew it. And I do feel like they use
Julie Chrisley
that empowers a child to manipulate.
Todd Chrisley
Right, right. Because they know that I love them so much.
Julie Chrisley
And think about the burden that you place on that child for them being your everything.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Like, they know that I love them so much, but I do think some of them use that against me at times.
Julie Chrisley
No, they all have.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah, they all have.
Julie Chrisley
I think it's also, I want to say this before we end this podcast to all the parents that are out there listening. Sometimes your best will never be good enough. But if your best is truly your best, it's all you could ever offer. And you can't be held responsible for not being able to give someone something you don't have to give.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah. But I do think once you know better, you got to do better.
Julie Chrisley
Better, 100%. And you know, not every parent and child, every relationship with that a parent has with a child is different because every child is different. And again, every parent is different at various phases of their life.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
So you can't. A child can't expect for a parent to have done the same thing with their siblings as what they did with their you. And it's not fair for you to be able to say that as a child.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
And not every child is meant to be your best friend, to show up at every Christmas or every Thanksgiving or every birthday. Sometimes certain children are not meant to be your everything and your everyday. And your everyday. Certain kids are not going to show up at Christmas every year or Thanksgiving or your birthday or Mother's Day or Father's Day or whatever. And that's okay. That's okay. And you as a parent, don't have to show up for them every day. I think that certain every individual, whether it's a parent or a child, deals with life the way that they need to deal with it in order for them to survive. And you are never going to convince someone else that their truth is not their truth.
Todd Chrisley
That's true.
Julie Chrisley
Because if someone has created their own narrative and that's what they have lived on because it made them feel more comfortable than acknowledging the truth, you will never convince them that their narrative is the wrong narrative.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
So with me, I don't give a shit what you say. You think I was a sorry parent. Okay. You think I didn't let you wear certain things? Okay. Whatever it is that I did that you don't like, I did it for a reason. And I did it for the. In my mind at that time, what I did was what I thought was best. And as the parent, I got to make that decision. Now you as a child, as an adult child, you now get to make the decision that what you did with me is not what I'm going to do with mine.
Todd Chrisley
Right? Right. Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
And I, as the adult parent, can say, your child, do it your way.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
But understand, if your child is unruly, my grandchild is unruly, has no respect for my home, and you've raised them opposite of the way I've raised you. This house hadn't changed, right?
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
This house hadn't changed.
Todd Chrisley
Right? Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
So you've heard that saying. As for me and as for me and my house, we're going to serve the Lord.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
Okay. Well, as for me and my house, we're going to abide by the rules that Todd still has because it's still my house.
Todd Chrisley
Right? Right.
Julie Chrisley
So I just. I just am not. I'm just not at a place where I'm going to fight with people anymore. I mean, I will cuss you out if you say some stupid shit on Instagram. But other than that, I just don't care enough about people in general to argue with you. You don't bring enough into my life that's positive for me to fight with you.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
So If I lose this 5% of positivity that you bring in my life, it ain't going to shift the needle right now. You know, if you bringing me 90% positivity and you walk away, I might be in my feelings until six or seven o'clock that night. And then I would have already come back and said, okay, well, screw them, I'm going to move. But I just am not going to wallow in your self pity. Your trauma is not going to be my trauma. And I think another thing is that kids, look at this generation, they've all got trauma, Every damn one of them's got trauma. But they never stop to think about the trauma that their mom and daddy has suffered. Yeah, they don't stop to think about the trauma that, you know, a parent has gone through in their life that has literally shaped the way that they have raised them.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Right. And why they did. I don't think they stopped to think about why they did. Say why your parent did what they did was because a, that's all they knew or because it had been done to them or because of trauma that they've experienced. And until you have walked in those shoes, I don't think you can tell. And I. It amazes me at the kids, adult kids that will have comments and try to say things about parenting when you've never parented an adult.
Julie Chrisley
That's it.
Todd Chrisley
Half of them never even parented a child.
Julie Chrisley
You got to love all these females out here.
Todd Chrisley
No, no, no. We're not just saying females.
Julie Chrisley
I'm gonna. Let me finish. It's always a female talking shit on social media about how you need to parent a child and you go to their profile and they got a Chihuahua, Bitch, your child eats out of a bowl. You're not going to tell me how to raise my child.
Todd Chrisley
Right?
Julie Chrisley
You didn't do this with your child and that's created trauma. Bitch got a nose ring and purple hair there.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
What. What caused it for you?
Todd Chrisley
Yeah, I agree.
Julie Chrisley
So you're not going to give me advice?
Todd Chrisley
You're right.
Julie Chrisley
No one's going to. I will take advice from someone that's raised five children.
Todd Chrisley
Right? Yeah, I'll take advice ahead of me in the game.
Julie Chrisley
That's right. If you, if you're if yours is doing better than what mine's doing, I want to sit at your table.
Todd Chrisley
Absolutely. Absolutely.
Julie Chrisley
But if yours is eating boogers on the bus. No, no, I'm not. I'm not coming to your table. Okay.
Todd Chrisley
We got to answer some. Some questions that people have. Have written in for. Okay, so. Okay, this is one. And these are just random. They're all over the board. Okay. Would you go back to give Bible studies to the inmates? Would you go back in that capacity to teach a class or do a Bible study?
Julie Chrisley
No, I don't think that. I think that I serve them better by just walking on the edge.
Todd Chrisley
Okay.
Julie Chrisley
I don't think that I am equipped to go and teach you the Bible when I'm still trying to bust you out.
Todd Chrisley
Yes. Okay. I agree. Okay. This one's no question. Just keep doing what you're doing. Thank you. Lorraine, when will you be moving? Another question.
Julie Chrisley
Well.
Todd Chrisley
And what's taking you to Texas? So those are kind of can go hand in hand.
Julie Chrisley
We're going to be filming in Texas, and because of this wonderful new bill that Governor Greg Abbott but passed with this $350 million incentive for film and television, that was our financial catalyst to move there. But a. I get more property there. I get more land there. I love Tennessee. I want to be very clear that I love Tennessee. Nashville proper has gotten a little bit too extreme for me because I don't like our mountain mayor, but I love the people in Texas, and you know that. Yeah, I. I genuinely feel good. I was coming out of. Again. This is going to shock the hell out of y'.
Todd Chrisley
All.
Julie Chrisley
I was at Hudson House this week, and I was. And so many people would come by, and they would. They'd be walking towards my table, and, you know, this other person I was having lunch with was sitting here, and I was sitting here, so they would come this way towards me, and they would look at me, and they would tilt their house or they would say, Mr. Chrisley, love to see you here. And waited out in the parking lot till I came walking out, got out of their cars, asked for their picture. Mr. Chrisley, welcome to Fort Worth. We love you. We're happy to have you.
Todd Chrisley
I love that.
Julie Chrisley
And not living in Fort Worth, but I was in Fort Worth at the Hudson house, but I would live in Fort Worth because I love Fort Worth and I love the Fort Worth people. I went to the stockyard for the first time, and I loved the people there. Just. I love Texas. So it just. It's a good fit for me right now.
Todd Chrisley
Okay, so, Jessica Olson, three zero four. Julie, you carry yourself so well. You have a great personality and attitude. Thank you. How do you do it?
Julie Chrisley
She has a husband like me.
Todd Chrisley
I am heavily medicated. No, I'm not. I'm not.
Julie Chrisley
Lies.
Todd Chrisley
You know, I just try to be my true authentic self and I feel like I do a pretty good job of that. Is like what you see is what you get. And.
Julie Chrisley
Well, that just depends on what night of the week it is. Because you do role play a lot.
Todd Chrisley
Shut up. I always. And I have always taken a lot of pride in being your wife, your partner, and being the mother to my children. And I've never. I don't feel like I've lost sight of that.
Julie Chrisley
No. Okay.
Todd Chrisley
Scouts Mama says. Want you two to know watching you guys has helped me out of dark times by giving me a laugh. Love you, you. I love that. We love you too, Sandy. Scene says loved. All of Julie's PJ sets on Chrisley Knows Best. Can she come out with her own line? Thank you so much. But I think I'm gonna leave that to my friend Mallory, who has In My Sundays.
Julie Chrisley
In my Sundays, folks, because let me
Todd Chrisley
just take some because I did. I. I had pajamas for years on Chrisley Knows Best before Mallory had her line. And I wore pajamas, pajamas all from everywhere. Right. And I have been able to give a lot of those away, especially to women who are going through breast cancer because all my pajamas buttoned up the front, if you notice. But now it's just in my Sundays
Julie Chrisley
and she stays in them. Everyone in our house stays in my Sundays.
Todd Chrisley
Yes. No question. This is from Bray. Tricia. No question. Julie, your hair looks amazing. I love it. Say thank you. I want to thank Tyler Stampley. He is my hairdresser who has keeps this gray.
Julie Chrisley
Brought her back from the dead, keeps
Todd Chrisley
this gray covered, if you know what I mean. He does do an amazing job. I'm trying to think if I'm going to do a new. Do a new cut. So I have actually been talking to a hairdresser that used to do our hair for years that we love Shannon. So I don't know.
Julie Chrisley
She's bringing Shannon back from the past so that Shannon can get her hair cut laid out. Right.
Todd Chrisley
Okay. This is from Suncy93. What changes have you seen in each other and your marriage since being released?
Julie Chrisley
The changes that I have seen in you are probably. I kind of think that you. You. You're back in your. In your normal routine.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
So, you know, you have gone back to exactly what you've always done. But I also believe that you have. That you recognize the significance of being present in a conversation more.
Todd Chrisley
Okay. Okay. Thank you. Okay.
Julie Chrisley
What about me? It was asking a question about Todd.
Todd Chrisley
Okay, Go ahead.
Julie Chrisley
No, you tell me.
Todd Chrisley
What changes have I seen? I think you have. And we talked about. You talked about it at great length during this podcast. You have taken back your life. I feel like, in so many ways, just, you know, figuratively and literal. Literally, you have. You know, from working out, focusing on yourself in that way, but just in a lot of ways. And it has taken me some getting used to, but I completely respect it. And I. And I feel like that it will help me to get to that place.
Julie Chrisley
So I like that. I feel like that. I feel like, again, that that is. And I'm glad that you've noticed that, because I feel that way.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
I feel like for the first time in my life, I have made myself a priority.
Todd Chrisley
Right. Right. Someone asking. Someone is asking.
Julie Chrisley
Who's the someone?
Todd Chrisley
Lunas of Litchfield. How's Nana, your mother? You never talk about her anymore. Are y' all still living in the same house?
Julie Chrisley
Well, Luna, where the hell have you been? You obviously are not watching this podcast every week, or you would see Q tip up in here.
Todd Chrisley
Nanny is with us. She's with us every day. She's in our home with us every day. And it's really. She's doing good, right?
Julie Chrisley
I mean, she's doing great.
Todd Chrisley
Listen, she's going to be 82.
Julie Chrisley
She's doing great.
Todd Chrisley
Christmas tree before. After Thanksgiving.
Julie Chrisley
Well, you always have hours up for Thanksgiving.
Todd Chrisley
We normally do. Yeah. And I feel like, you know, thank you, Tim, who always makes sure that it looks amazing, but he gets so busy, and I don't want to wait till later. I'd rather.
Julie Chrisley
But you've always had hours up for Thanksgiving.
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Julie Chrisley
And you know somebody that I. That I literally learned that from was Dot Abbott. Dot was this woman who. Well, she's Bill Abbott's mother, my friend, and that I grew up with. And Dot was always the epitome to me of sophistication.
Todd Chrisley
Yes.
Julie Chrisley
She always did things the right way, and her taste was good. Her timing was impeccable.
Todd Chrisley
Right.
Julie Chrisley
And so I learned a lot watching her, you know, going to Bill's house and seeing how things were done right. And her tree was always up.
Todd Chrisley
And I think it's funny because even now, when we are looking in Texas, you know, at properties and houses, you always say, oh, my gosh, but your Christmas tree could go here.
Julie Chrisley
Because I've Never been there.
Todd Chrisley
We always think about that.
Julie Chrisley
See, I've never been big on that. I mean, you know, I just.
Todd Chrisley
But I am very big on it.
Julie Chrisley
I know it's a big thing for you.
Todd Chrisley
Right?
Julie Chrisley
So, you know the. The property that we have zoned in on now that we can both agree that we're in love with.
Todd Chrisley
Yes.
Julie Chrisley
Soon as I saw this one room, I was like, oh, my God, that's where her tree goes.
Todd Chrisley
Yeah.
Julie Chrisley
And then I looked at you and said, but you have room for four more, so. And I told you, we're not doing. We're not doing five or six trees anymore. We're doing one tree. And you said, yeah, okay. That's so true. Okay.
Todd Chrisley
And on that note, I hope that this podcast truly helps you wherever you are on your parenting journey. And listen, even if you're not on
Julie Chrisley
your parenting journey, stay the hell out of somebody else.
Todd Chrisley
You have parents, so that's a journey as well. So I hope that it is able to give you some comfort in knowing that we're kind of all in this boat together.
Julie Chrisley
No, I'm not in the boat with nobody.
Todd Chrisley
We are.
Julie Chrisley
So I just pushed all of mine
Todd Chrisley
over until next week. Good luck and God bless.
Julie Chrisley
God bless.
Todd Chrisley
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Podcast: Chrisley Confessions 2.0
Hosts: Todd & Julie Chrisley
Date: June 3, 2026
Episode Theme: The reality of parenting adult children—navigating boundaries, letting go, support, and personal growth.
Todd and Julie Chrisley return with a candid and deeply personal conversation about the unique challenges of "raising" adult children. With their trademark blend of honesty and humor, they reflect on their own parenting journey, what they've learned (and unlearned), and how letting go—while still loving and supporting—shapes their relationships with their grown kids. Drawing on their personal experience and reader questions, the Chrisleys address modern generational struggles, shifting family roles, and the importance of maintaining self-composure and boundaries as your children grow up.
What They’d Do Differently:
What They Got Right:
Advice for Young Parents:
On Emotional Exhaustion:
Julie’s Signature Tough Love:
Reflection on Letting Go:
On Grandparenting Perspective:
Timestamps refer to the start or midpoint of the question/answer.
What would you do differently as a parent?
Should parents track their adult children’s location? (37:22)
What changes have you seen in each other since being released?
Dealing with unsolicited parenting advice from non-parents on social media
It’s Okay to Let Go:
Both hosts repeatedly return to the theme that adulthood—both for parent and child—means embracing change, setting boundaries, and accepting imperfection.
On Parental Self-Preservation:
Final Advice to Parents:
This episode is a masterclass in honesty, humility, humor, and hard truths about parenting grown children. Todd and Julie Chrisley open up about their regrets, wisdom, boundaries, and enduring love—and offer comfort, perspective, and advice to other parents navigating this tricky transition.
Fans and new listeners alike will find relatable stories, practical advice, and plenty of memorable one-liners in this rich and heartfelt discussion.
Key Sections & Timestamps:
This summary preserves the Chrisleys' candid, colloquial tone and includes direct quotes for accuracy and color. For any parent, child, or fan navigating the evolving family journey, this episode is both comfort and counsel—served up Chrisley-style.