← Chrisley Confessions 2.0
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A
Hi, everyone. It's Julie with Chrisley Confessions 2.0. And, yes, I'm here without Todd today, but I am super excited to have Nanny. I'm so glad you're here, and I'm.
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B
So happy to be here with you without him always stressing me out.
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A
I know, I know. Listen, I saw the last podcast that he did with you. You know, I mean, I'd love to say that that's not something that he does every day, but he really does.
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B
He likes to get me all spun up to see what I'm going to say.
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A
Right? Yes. And hopes that you say something inappropriate.
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B
But I'm not. That's not who I am. I don't want to do that. Sometimes I will.
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A
Yeah, I listened to that podcast and.
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B
There was a frustrated. I can't help myself. I have to go off.
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A
Well, I know. Trust me, I know. I know. But I am so happy that you're here today, and I feel like there's so many things that we can talk about that we wouldn't necessarily talk about if he was here, you know, and that's okay. We miss him. Of course we miss him. But it's nice just for us to be able to talk about things.
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B
Yeah. Just me and you.
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A
Yes.
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B
Just talk about what we want to.
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A
That's right. That's right. First of all, you look great.
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B
Well, thank you. And you do, always.
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A
I'm so happy that you're feeling good. You know, I have talked about on this podcast before, many times, you and my parents. You know, when I was gone, one of my biggest fears was that something would happen to one of you guys and that I wouldn't be here. And so I am grateful every day that we were able to come home and that you and my parents are still in relatively good health. I mean, I think you're in great health.
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B
We still plugging along.
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A
Yes, you are. As I've said many times, your attitude, I feel like, is part of that reason. I feel like you just continue to be positive. And even when you don't feel like it, I feel like you still get up and go, well, I do.
- [02:16]
B
And, you know, I always get up with a smile on my face and love in my heart. And I always say, I have for many, many years. You, Jesus says, nothing will come our way today that you and I can't handle. And I'm not going to let the devil win.
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A
That's right. That's right. And, you know, and that's, I think, the best attitude that you can have. And that's why at 81 that you are still moving and shaking?
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B
Yeah, I'm going to be moving on about 101. Then I'm going to try to slow down a little bit.
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A
Okay.
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B
I'm going to give up my license and at 100. And I'm going to try to stay at home a little bit.
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A
Okay. At 100.
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B
But right now I got things to do.
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A
Right.
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B
I got places to go and things to do.
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A
Listen, I have no doubt. I was actually looking on. It was on social media somewhere and I don't even know where I saw it, but there was this mother and I want to say she was in her late 90s or she, I think she was either that or close to 100. And she actually was taking care of her son because he was like in his 80s. He was like in his late. I think he was in his 80s. So she had to be like close to 100. But she was taking care of her son.
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B
And I know she loved every minute of it.
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A
I know, but how crazy is that, you know, that like some people can just go and go and go and that wouldn't shock me. That wouldn't shock me. I say all the time, you're going to outlive all of us.
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B
No, but I don't want you to go down and leave me with all of it.
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A
She literally, folks said today she was at the house and we were getting ready to drive here and she told Todd she was like, you better hope, you better hope that nothing happens to her. And I hope to God that nothing happens to her before something happens to me because I'm not dealing with all this.
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B
No, I already had enough of that by myself.
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A
Right? Yeah. For those of you who don't know, Todd's a full time job. Yeah. As you were saying today, the older he gets, the more like his dad he becomes.
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B
Now, it doesn't mean that he doesn't work, but he's needy. Needy?
- [04:33]
A
Yes, needy and very stuck in his ways.
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B
Well, that's just like I said on the way over here. I said, the older he gets, the more like his dad. Now, he always had a job, but he wants to stay home. Don't want to go nowhere.
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A
No.
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B
And then sometimes if me and you want to go somewhere, I say, todd, do you mind? Demand you to go. But see, I never had a boss.
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A
I did.
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B
Me.
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A
Yes, you did.
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B
Yes, you did.
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A
And. And he's usually good. He'll usually say, okay, I'll take Chloe or pick Chloe up from school or whatever. And she's just as happy as. As can be. She does her own thing, but she's just like him. She likes to stay at home, she likes to eat at home. She likes to have all her stuff. She's just like him in that regards. It's crazy. And me and you like to get out and adventure, you know, have an adventure.
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B
I like to meet other people.
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A
Yes, you do.
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B
And I like to be part of their life and they like to be part of mine, so I don't have to be stuck in a corner by myself.
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A
Right.
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B
That's why people say, nanny, do you feel bad living by yourself? I said, no, I find great joy in it. I said, because I have lots of people that reach out to me every day. I'm not alone, so I'm not sad.
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A
And, you know, and that happened to you kind of later in your life because when you were raising your children and you were younger, you were working so much, I feel like you had your family and like, you know, your and Jean's extended family, you know, like brothers and sisters and aunts and uncles and things like that. But you didn't have a lot of, like, friends.
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B
I didn't have budding friends.
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A
So I feel like that's happened later in your life. But I think it's also. It also happened at a time when God knew you were going to need it. Because I know while we were gone, you have said to me, your friends were so good to you. You had so many people that would check on you, that would call you, that would want to meet up with you, go to dinner, bring you something by, and that was a huge blessing.
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B
Listen, without my friends and God, I say, I would never have made this. But there wasn't a day that I know of that I didn't have tons of people calling me.
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A
Right.
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B
Nanny, you need anything today? No, I'm good. Well, you want to go have lunch? Well, I had to pick up Chloe. I had to be back in time to pick up Chloe. Well, we'll go early if you want to go.
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A
Right? But it was. It was such a blessing and because I couldn't be there, you know, and so I loved it that, you know, your friends would make sure at a holiday or at your birthday that you had flowers or you had a gift or just a card to say or just a text to say, I'm thinking about you today.
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B
Oh, I always, on special occasions, I got hundreds of text messages. Sometimes it take me days, and sometimes I've missed people and haven't went back to them. But that doesn't mean I don't love them because. Because I love each and every one of them. I never have a day that I don't ask God to keep me strong, keep me positive. And thank you for all my fans and my friends and my family because they all been good to me.
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A
But I do, I think that was such a blessing because, you know, you have people that are just from all over the country that will reach out to you and that you meet up with, whether, you know, it's in Alabama or in Mississippi or in Indiana or Chicago or St. Louis. I mean, they're everywhere. I mean, it's crazy to me, but I love that. And I feel like that that happened. I feel like it kind of started with the show, with Chrisley Knows Best.
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B
Yeah. Because, you know, I was the favorite.
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A
Yeah, you were the favorite. But I think, you know, what people don't understand. And I see this. I mean, I saw this is when we started filming Chrisley Knows Best. That was really outside your comfort zone. You were not, you were not this, like, larger than life person. I mean, I have said this, I have said that if. And you know, because I, you know, I loved Todd's dad. I love Gene, but Gene had that quick wit that Todd had, you know, and that little bit of, like, sarcastic, just fire, you know, which I loved about him. But, you know, I would always say if Gene had been alive when Krista Knows Best was filming, he. He would have give you a run for your money.
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B
Yeah.
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A
You know, so I think it's great that you were able to step out of your comfort zone because you lived your life pretty much just. You worked. You worked all the time. You took care of your kids, you helped with your grandkids. That was your life. And I feel like Chrisley Knows Best opened up a whole nother world for you. People were able to see another side of you. You were able to poke fun at yourself and just be silly and have fun. And I feel like for a large portion of your life, you were never able to do that because you were too busy trying to hold everything together.
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B
Yeah. We was trying to make a living, to raise our children, to give them more than what we had.
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A
Right.
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B
And then, you know, I raised staff, my brother's little girl, right from the time she was about 11 months old until she finished school.
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A
Right. And so you didn't have that time. You weren't afforded that time.
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B
No. And then, you know, I have to take care of my mother.
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A
Yeah. And you took care of your mother in laws.
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B
Yes. Until they passed away, right? So I had a full time job. And that's what I told Todd the other day. I said, I don't believe that God's going to allow me to suffer. He's going to let me go to bed and go, I won't wake up. Because look, I took care of my parents, I took care of his parents. Then after I retired I went on and got my real estate license and then I took care of sit at the senior place and took care of the elderly.
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A
Right? You have literally worked forever.
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B
Forever. And I love it. I want to get a job now.
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A
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B
Yeah, they love me.
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A
I think I learned from the best. You know, I mean, we had, we just had this conversation the other day that, you know, your, your mother in law, even though she had children, she had sons, she had daughters, the last couple years of her life, three years.
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B
And 18 days, you took care of.
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A
Her, she lived with you. And I think that is such a huge testament to who you are because she, and I think your father in law said when something happens to me, you make sure and you go to Faye.
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B
Yeah, that's what he told her. He said now when he knew he was probably didn't have long to live. He said, now what you need to do is you need to go over to Fay and that's where you need to stay because she'll take care of you, go to church with you and do whatever.
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A
But I mean, what a. What just a compliment that is that, you know, here is this man who has children, he's got sons, he's got daughters. But on his last days, he wanted his wife to be taken care of and he knew you were that person. And I think, like you said, I think that's why God has, has blessed you. Yes, we know. You know, everyone knows that you battled, you had bladder cancer and you handled it like a champ. I thank God was there for every appointment, every procedure. I was there with you. And we've talked about that, just like I've talked about my breast cancer journey. We both said we feel so blessed because it could have been so much worse. Yeah, there are so many people that have it so much worse than we did. And I say that all the time. Listen, what I went through, was it hard? Yes, it was hard. But when I look at other people's stories and I look at what other people go through and continue to Go through. I was so blessed, and I feel like you were too.
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B
I'm blessed every day. That's what I say.
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A
And I feel like our attitude played a huge part of that. You know, Todd has talked about it many times and we actually said on the last podcast one of the hardest things we ever went through, you know, and for me, I always say, you know, it was. It was the trial, it was going to prison, it was being away from my family. It was being away. And, you know, and Todd will still say, but, Julie, you don't feel like your breast cancer was the hardest thing you ever went through. And I said, I don't. Because I always had just such a positive outlook. I just went into this, like, fight mode. And I was like, I'm going to do everything that I can do to make sure that I, you know, that I. Now, I can't control what happens, but at the end of the day, I can control my attitude. I can't control what I do. I can't control how I react. And so I just never let it get me down. Not. Not like it did when I went through this trial and court and all that. That was the most horrible thing for me. Not to take away from anybody who's battling cancer or any kind of illness because it is a horrible, horrible disease and a horrible thing to have to go through it. Just my particular case, I felt like that the trial was worse, you know, So I feel like we've both been so blessed when it comes to that. And you, I mean, you're 81 years old. Let's just get to this, folks. She is 81 years old. She does not take one pill of any kind. She does not take blood pressure medicine. You don't take cholesterol medicine. I take both. You do. You do not take anything.
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B
I don't take Tylenol.
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A
Your hormones? No, you don't even take Tylenol. Ibuprofen. Nothing. Nothing. When you first got sick, I will never forget this, she was first, before she was ever really diagnosed. We were at Vanderbilt and they, of course, they made her go to the geriatric side of the hospital. And you were so mad because they made you go over there where you said the old people were, and the nurse and the doctor were in there with you. And I had stepped out to take a phone call and the nurse comes out there and she says, Ms. Chrisley, I need to talk to you for a minute. I said, okay. She said, is there anything going on with your mother in law, like cognitively, you know, does she have some dementia? I said, no. She said, well, she just told me that she does not take any medicine. I said, she doesn't. She doesn't take anything. She said, do you understand? I have been working here in this department for nine years, and I have never met a patient who doesn't take a pill. And I said, well, she doesn't. And that is still true to this day. And that's been, what, five or six years ago?
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B
Yeah.
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A
And I think it's just crazy. And I think it so speaks to genetics, too. And I've talked about this. Todd and I have talked about this a lot lately, you know, because you eat whatever you want to eat. You know, you grew up. Now, you grew up on a farm, so everything you ate was pretty much what was grown.
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B
Yeah, well, we growed everything. We ate everything that we growed in the fields.
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A
Yeah.
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B
The cows we raised and hogs, chickens, everything. We growed our corn and let it dry, shelled it, pick out the bad grains, take it to the grist mill to get it ground for the cornmeal. We cut wheat for our flour, took it at the rolling meal, and we. That's how we ate.
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A
But I think that speaks so much because, you know, now you. And you've said this. You know, back in my day, people weren't sick like they are today. People didn't have, you know, disease, knee surgeries, hip surgery. People just literally worked till they just fell out, till they died, you know, and. And even now, you know, and throughout the years, you know, you've never been like, okay, I'm not going to eat that, because it's not healthy. You know, if you wanted fried chicken or you wanted fat back or you wanted to season with oil or whatever, you did that. And you have never, to my knowledge, ever had, like, high cholesterol, high blood pressure, anything. And it's just crazy to. To me, because the flip side of that is me, and I unfortunately take after my dad when it comes to medical things, and that's really not a good thing because, you know, like, now I'm thinner than I've been in a long time, but yet I still am having high blood pressure. I still have high cholesterol. And I have changed my diet, I have changed the way that I eat, but I still have those issues, and I think a lot of it is hereditary. You know, I think you're just gonna have it. And Todd, I feel like, has followed in your footsteps, you know, because he doesn't. He doesn't eat a lot of anything. But he doesn't really watch what he eats. You know, if he wants something, he's gonna eat it. He's not just gonna eat. He's not just gonna eat kale and quinoa and drink water. That is not who he is.
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B
He's not gonna do that. I don't know if I ate kale, I gotta cook it.
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A
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B
I do. I say, lord have mercy on me. The last the mohegan standing.
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A
Yeah. Chloe said last night, nanny's just gonna be me. And you.
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B
See, I don't care about eating a lot of meat, but I.
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A
That is true. That is very true. And I think we really need to do some research, because you really don't. And what you eat is really just carbs. I mean, you love potatoes, you love.
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B
Bread, and baby Chloe does, too. She loves fried potatoes. She'll say, nanny said, cook us some. You know them potatoes you cook in that black frying pan? I said, fried potatoes. Cook us some of that.
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A
Yeah. So it's just crazy to me, though, because I'm like, this is not fair. This is not fair. I'm sitting here, I'm watching what I eat, and I'm still having to take this medicine. But, you know, it is what it is, so I'm grateful. Listen, it could be worse. It could be way worse. So yesterday we celebrated Chloe's birthday. Thirteen.
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B
Oh, I know. Lord have mercy. I can just remember her as a baby. And, you know, she's such a sweet kid. And you know what was so funny? You know, when I started taking her to school every day, and I'd get up and she said, now, Nanny Savannah, buy your instant oatmeal. Well, you know, she doesn't like that. And I don't either. I don't have nothing instant in my house, right? I cook whatever I'm gonna eat. If it's grits, I cook grits. If I'm gonna cook oatmeal, I cook oatmeal, right? She'll say, nanny, you gonna cook me some? Your kind of oatmeal? I said, yeah, we don't have none of that other. I done throw it all out. But you know, when I'd take her to school, when she'd get out of the car, I said, always be kind, be good. It doesn't cost you anything, and I love you. And she'd be getting out of the car. So this year, you know, two years, I took her and I said it every morning. And so this year when she started school, what but a Day or two, she started to get out of the car, she'd say, nanny, be good, be kind. Doesn't cost you anything.
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A
I love you, you know, and I love that, you know, and throughout this whole journey, you know, I have honestly tried to find the positives. And, you know, I think one takeaway, one positive takeaway is the bond that you and Chloe have established that you have grown together. And I don't know if I had been home, if that would have been the same, because I would have been taking her to school every day, you know what I'm saying? And if I was traveling or something, you would always step in and help. But I don't think it would have been like it was while we were gone, you know, and for her to be able to have that relationship, you know, technically you are her great grandmother, you know, now she views you as her grandmother just like the other kids do. But as she gets older, she will understand, you know, what a blessing it was because, you know, so many people, so many kids don't even get to have a relationship with their grandparent, let alone a great grandparent. No, you're so grand, you know, So I think it's. I think that is one of the takeaways that makes it just that you're like, okay, that was a positive to come from it, you know, that was something good. And I think as hard as it was. And listen, it was hard because for some reason, my children don't like to do laundry. So while we were gone, nanny became the laundress. And she did. There was Grayson and Chloe and Savannah.
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B
And that's a full time job.
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That was a full time job for her. But, you know, I think it did give you. It gave you something to get up for. It gave you on those days when you didn't want to get out of bed and you just wanted to lay there, you like. And I think it was another, as crazy as it sounds, another positive to come out of it, you know?
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B
And.
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A
You know, you and I, you and I talk about many times how, you know, the generations after us are just not what we are. You know what I'm saying? And it's just a different story because.
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B
We had been waited on. They used to never look at Chloe. She gets up. Not that I wouldn't have done it, because I have for mine and for my grandchildren. She gets up at 5:30 on her own.
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A
Oh, yeah, she does. Chloe does. Listen, when I tell you Chloe is better than any of my other kids. I mean, all of them combined. If you Take all the kids. If you take all five kids combined, Chloe, when it comes to getting up in the mornings and getting herself ready and being ready for school, she's better than any of them were. I mean, when Grayson would take her to school, sometimes she would get up, and then she would get him up, you know, and here she was, 10, 11 years old, 12, whatever. And that's just crazy to me.
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B
And when he had to get up, he would tell her, make sure that I get up. And she come downstairs. I'm not fooling with him no more. Said, you know, I'd have been there two times, and he didn't move it. I was almost gonna leave him alone.
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A
Right.
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B
Yeah. She'd be right back up those stairs. She was the mother.
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A
Yeah, she is. And I just. I can't believe that she. She's 13. I mean, she. She literally turned 13 yesterday. And I can't believe that I have another teenager in the house.
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B
I'm like, but she's so good.
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A
She is so good.
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B
And no matter. I have been her, and she never wanted to go nowhere. And I said, well, I can't go without you. She said, well, you go on. Then. He said, I'll be right here when you get back. I said, well, I can't leave you here like that. I just won't go. And, you know, I love to go to TJ Maxx and. Yeah, Home Goods. That's one of my favorite stores.
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A
Yes.
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B
And when she would go, I would say, you want me to buy you something? I said, find you something you want, and I'll buy it for. She said, nanny, I don't need none. Says, savannah buys me all kinds of stuff I don't need.
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A
Yeah, that's true. She was a little spoiled. She is a little spoiled, but that's okay. Well, listen, it is spoiled.
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B
As long as she don't cause no trouble, it doesn't matter.
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A
So we're just gonna keep our fingers crossed. Cause we're now in middle school, and we've turned 13. And, you know, I can remember when I. And this is how vividly I do remember. And I don't have the memory like Todd has. Todd remembers everything from the time he was a little boy. I don't have those kind of vivid memories like he does, but I just remember, like, 13, 14. And I did. I was never, like. I didn't give my parents trouble, and I was never trouble in school, But I remember 13 and 14. That 13, 14, 15. That was some, like, rocky years. So I'm just praying and it was for. It was for Savannah. I remember that time. So I'm just hoping that she, like, breaks the cycle and that she's good, you know. Of course, in middle school, there's always drama and this, and I listen to her and we talk about it, but she is. She's so good.
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B
Well, you know, we're just having a little bit of trouble in school. Lord, I shouldn't say this, but it's the truth. And they'd be wanting to pick on her or something. I said, what'd you say? She said, I didn't say nothing, Nanny. I said, well, one of them was giving her a lot of trouble. I said, you know what you should tell her. Say, do you ever watch Madea? She said, nanny, they don't even know what Madea. I said, there ain't nobody in the world don't know who Madea is. Said, that's my grandmama and she's coming for you. But, you know, even look at those, her friends when she's talking to me, say, let me talk to Nanny. And they won't talk to Nanny.
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A
Well, that's everybody.
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B
That's everybody. And then when we go to you remember, I'd take her to her track, to her cheerleading stuff, and I'd wait on her and we'd go to the games and things. And then her teachers, they all began to save me a seat.
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A
Well, that was a blessing.
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B
And her friend's parents would always save me a seat.
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A
Right.
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B
Say, nanny, call us when you get here. We. We'll come to the door and get you. We got you a seat. Listen, God's been good to me.
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A
Well, listen, people need to take more after you because as we've said, this generation, these generations, it's crazy. They're taking a nap and they napping and they can't do this because they got to do that. And they. They're tired and they're exhausted and they can't work and do their laundry and take care of kids.
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B
Well, I'm not even tired, really. I don't ever get tired.
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A
Yeah.
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B
Now, you know how Randy fusses at me all the time. Mama, you need to find a chair over there and sit yourself down in it and rest. I said, well, listen, if I did that, that chair want to light me better than I need to like it. So I'm just not going to do it. I got things to do and places to go.
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A
That's right. They literally, I was looking on social media or something that it was talking about how these younger kids and young Adults that it's like they're just rotting in bed. Like they just lay in bed. I think that's what they call it, bedrot or something. They just lay in bed scrolling on the Internet, doing absolutely nothing, nothing productive. And it just amazes me. It amazes me because I have never done that. I never, I have never been one to take a nap. I do not sleep in the daytime. And I didn't, we didn't let our kids do that. You know, if you was asleep in the daytime, you were sick, there was something wrong with you because there's too much to do. I mean, I can remember even when I was in prison, these people would want to take a nap. I would not lay my head down in the daytime. It was so I just could not force myself to do it. I could not do it. I was not going to succumb to that. I said, no, even though I'm in here, I am not going to lay in a bed. I am not going to not do something productive. If I had a day off, I'd find me another job to do. If I was off on the commissary, I'd work in the kitchen or I'd teach a class or I would do something, I'd volunteer. I just was not going to just do nothing.
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B
Well, it's not good for you because now, like me, you know, I get up early, drink me a cup of coffee, I make up my bed, I go through and wipe everything. Then maybe 10 o' clock I'll cook me some grits, put me some cheese, have a bowl of oatmeal or a bagel, and then I get me a shower. And then you know how for your day. That's exactly right. I get up and get me a shower. And then if I hadn't got anything to do, I've had a lot of calls. So, you know, it takes up a lot of my time.
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A
Yes, it does.
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B
So I was, well, I was not going to do that. I'm just going to put me a pair of pajamas on. I'm not going nowhere today. So I get over there and I be watching TV or something and I said, dang it, I woke up and I said, I done had a darn nap. I said, I've got to get my ass up from here, right, Because I don't want to get used to that. Right, because that's not good for you.
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A
And don't you think that is why you're 81 and you're still driving and you're still going places and you're still able to do, really whatever it is you want to do, you can do.
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B
I do.
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A
But I think that's why. Because so many people, they lean into their age. You know, they're like, oh, well, I'm 65 or I'm 70 or I'm whatever. I mean, even some people way younger, you know, you've heard people say, well, they're an old 55 or they're a young 65, you know, and I think just people will sometimes lean into it. And you've seen it so many times.
- [36:06]
B
Oh, I don't even think about my age.
- [36:08]
A
And you stop going. And you. And you stop interacting with people, and you start napping. Then it becomes something that you feel like you need to do.
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B
No, I don't. I don't ever think about my age. No, I just get up because if I know I'm wanting to go do something, I go do it.
- [36:24]
A
Oh, yeah. And you can listen. I will never forget one time Chad and Nick went to the casino with you, and y' all went to the casino. I'll never forget this story. Y' all went to the casino and they. Y' all ate, and y' all were playing at the casino. Whatever. Well, they said, listen, we're going to. We're going to go to bed. You said, well, I'll be up there in a little bit. They slept all night, got up the next day, showered, came down for breakfast, and you were still at the same table.
- [36:58]
B
They got. What was so funny, said they woke up and they said, okay, where's she at? I don't think she's been back up here. So they get a shower and they come down, and I'm still playing.
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A
Yeah. And at this time, you're in your 70s. Yeah. And Nick's in his 20s, and Chad's probably in his 30s at this time. And you stayed the whole night.
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B
I said, well, y' all go ahead and play it. I'm gonna run upstairs and take me a shower, and I'll be back down, go get breakfast. And then I played with them. Then they left about 12:01, going back to Nashville, and they left me. I said, I'll see you in a day or two.
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A
And you stayed there and stayed up the rest of the day and night.
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B
Well, that's what they tell me now when I go, they say, nanny, are you going to pull an all niner? I said, it depends on how things go. If it don't go good and I'm still looking how say. And you know, that was so funny. You know, when y' all got your pardon, I was sitting there at the bacharach table when Savannah called me.
- [38:07]
A
Oh, that's right. You were. Yeah. Yeah.
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B
So that was a happy moment. So you know what?
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A
Happy moment and your happy place.
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B
Yeah, it happened to me in my happy place, and it was a happy moment.
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A
That's right. That's right.
- [38:20]
B
I got. I ran upstairs and. And throwed my stuff in a suitcase, and I prayed and cried all the way home, giving thanks, because I always, always have for many, many years. I always say my prayers and ask God if I've said anything wrong or did anything wrong to forgive me and help me to be a better person, right? And I said, you know, I always would pray for y', all, and I would say, always. I pray for the sick and the sad and the lonely. I said, you know who they are before I even talk about my friends, right? I said, do it for everyone, all the sick and the sad and the lonely.
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A
Because everybody's got a story. Everybody's going through something.
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B
And that's why I always say, be kind, be good. Because you know what, that person that you meet today, if you say, hey, how you doing? And you know when people. You're out and somebody's kind of ugly, especially in a store when they don't want to do something, they may have a little attitude. And you know what my thing is with that? I say, oh, honey, I hope you have a better day tomorrow. That's what I tell my.
- [39:36]
A
It is so true. And that is something that I have always tried to tell my kids. Like, people will forget your name, they'll forget your face, but they'll never forget how you made them feel. And sometimes just a kind word or just even a smile or a gesture, you know, it can turn somebody's day around. I mean, it really can. Just like, you know, a harsh word or a gesture can ruin someone's day.
- [40:02]
B
But, you know, I always feel like. And I talk my children and I tell these grandbabies, did you know what? You don't know what that person is going through.
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A
That's right. Everybody's got a story.
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B
And you know what? That hug and that kind word goes a long way. And you didn't let the devil win by you just ignoring them, right?
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A
Yeah, it is. And, you know, I think I tried to be that way. I tried to. I tried to be that way when I was in prison. And a friend of mine who has since got out, since. Since I've been out, she got out just a Couple of weeks ago, but she was listening to a podcast. Let me say this friend got out before I did, but she started listening to the podcast once we started our podcast back, and she sent me the nicest text message, and she's like, I love to listen to your podcast. She said, and I love the fact that the person that you were when you were in prison, it really is the same person that you are today. And I took that as such a huge compliment, you know, because I did try to be kind. I did try to help people. I did try to be, you know, just who I am. But I took that as a huge compliment that she was able to see that. That part, you know, because when people say, when you walk into prison, you can be anybody that you want to be. Well, I didn't feel that way because people felt like they already knew who I was, but I didn't change. You know, I didn't change when I was in there. I was the same person that I was and still tried to treat everybody with respect and be kind. Because, listen, there were people in there that were going through way harder than what I was going through. And so I always tried to be mindful of that, you know, so, you know, as the holiday season approaches and it's going to be here before we know it, and I am super grateful that we're going to be home and be able to be together. I think we have to be real mindful of that, because, you know, even though it's a holiday season, there's a lot of people still going through a lot of crappy stuff.
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B
And you know what? Y' all are home. There's a lot in there that wants to be home.
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A
That's right.
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B
They not.
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A
That's right.
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B
So we had to be real mindful.
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A
Yes. And mindful of that, because that is the worst time. Listen, from Thanksgiving to Christmas, New Year's, that's some of the hardest time. That's why you'll do in there. Because you know how much I love the holidays. You know how much I love Thanksgiving. I love Christmas. So it is. So we. We do have to be mindful and be mindful of those people that just don't have the family connections and don't have someone to be with, you know, because, listen, it's. It's a horrible, horrible thing.
- [43:09]
B
And you know what our young generation, they'll say, nanny, what you got to tell about, you know, being young, getting married and having children. Be a parent. Don't be your friends. I've told Todd and Randy Many times they would be wanting to do something. I said, no, and they didn't like that. Well, listen, I don't like you most of the time, but I love you all the time. But I've already said no, right? And I said, and I'm not changing my mind.
- [43:42]
A
So I think, folks, if you don't take anything from this podcast, that is your words of wisdom for the day. Be the parent. And that's hard. It's a hard thing to do. And especially as your children become young adults, you know, it's hard to. Your relationship does shift, but you still, at the end of the day, have to be the parents.
- [44:04]
B
I told Todd that this morning, even.
- [44:06]
A
Though he tries to be your pants sometimes.
- [44:08]
B
And I said, but listen. He said, mama said, you still want to be in control of everybody. I said, I am. I said, I'm the mama, right? I said, I've already forgotten more than y' all gonna ever know. And I said, so I know more than you do, right? I said, whether you think I do or not, I don't care, right? But I am the mama and I'm.
- [44:30]
A
Still the boss, right?
- [44:31]
B
It's just like when Savannah, I had to go to the doctor one day to Dr. Peach. And he said, nanny said, have you got, you know, something if something were to happen to you that somebody could make a choice for you? Savannah said, well, she needs to put me down. I said, no, I'm not putting nobody down. I said, because they're not going nobody be in control of me, right? I said, as long as I know my birthday, they can't nobody ever be in control of me. And I'm not going to always know that. And she said, well, Nanny, you know, I wouldn't do nothing that you wouldn't want to. I said, but I ain't gonna give you that chance, right?
- [45:07]
A
You're still gonna be a little skeptic. That's the skeptic in you.
- [45:11]
B
Yeah, I'm gonna be me and I'm gonna take care of me, right? And you know what? They'll say, so and so you need to go do this something about my car. I said, I've got an ace and a hole about my car. I said, I got the best friend in the world about my car, right? I can call him anywhere, right? And he will answer my call, right? And I say, I couldn't get my gas thing to pop open. Nanny, just go sit in the car a minute. Give it a chance. Somebody might have tried to bother your car last night, so you just go sit in that car a minute and give it five minutes. And if it don't work, call me back.
- [45:55]
A
So you gonna control things till you can't control them?
- [45:57]
B
Mm. At the end of the day, every day, all day.
- [46:02]
A
Well, and I think that is absolutely wonderful. So when you see me and Nanny and we have scurried away and gotten away for a day or two, just know that we are having the time of our life, that we are enjoying being together, and that we gonna do it till we can't do it.
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B
I'm gonna do it till I got my eyes closed.
- [46:26]
A
So, folks, thank you. Thank you for being here and thank you. Please go anywhere that you get your pods. Download Christa Confessions 2.0 for this episode and to view all our episodes. So until next week, good luck and God bless everybody.
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B
Be good, be kind.
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A
It don't cost you anything.
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B
Doesn't cost you anything. Always know Nanny's here. If you want to talk, give me a call.
- [46:52]
A
Oh, yeah, she loves a phone call.
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B
Or send me a message. I'll get back with you.
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