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Ali Yost (0:00)
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Ali Yost (1:00)
Hello, everybody. Welcome to another episode of Christ with Coffee on Ice. I am your host, Ali Yost, and I am thrilled to be here with you guys. If you are physically watching, you are seeing again that our environment is a bit different. I've never brought you guys here before, but this is my bedroom. I just felt like it. I felt like it. Well, actually, there were some obstacles with being able to record in the. In the studio today. And so last week, you guys saw everything that was happening, all the chaos with the fires, and we had to literally do last week's episode in a hotel room. But, you know, you can't stop us. I'm still going to be showing up for my girls, and we're just not stopping. We're not stopping. We're not letting the enemy stop us. And so this week, it's kind of like that again, where there were some obstacles with being able to record in the studio. And so we are just. We're recording here, and I just wanted to be cozy. I didn't feel like doing all the lights, camera, action. You know, with our normal setup, when I do record here at the house, I just. I really wanted it to be just intimate and simple. That is the gospel. Intimate and simple. That's Jesus. And so that's what we're doing. We're kind of representing that by just keeping it simple and intimate and just. Ugh. Just simple. We do have our coffee on ice. Kind of looks like chocolate milk. I put a lot of creamer in it. Oops. But we do have our Coffee. But before all else, we do have our Christmas. We have our Bible here. We will be using this in the episode because I always want to tie it back to scripture and the truth and the word. But, guys, can we just have, like, a girl hang? Sorry for our male listeners. I do believe that this is going to be relatable to men, but unfortunately, I am a woman, and so I think like a woman. I talk like a woman. And I just. I know a lot of you are gals, so I'm going to talk to my gals. But men, you are welcome. You are welcome here. That is not me kicking you out. I just don't want you to be offended if I'm saying girl, because girl. Can we just be girls right now? I need to be a girl. I need to hang out with my girls. I need to have an honest girl talk. And the honest girl talk of the day right now is like, I just want to confront the elephant in the room, because I know we all see it. It's giant. It's standing over there in the corner. And some people have acknowledged it. But then also, I feel like sometimes there's shame with also acknowledging it because you're like, oh, everyone else is, but I'ma just say it. Okay? The elephant in the room is that everyone is getting pregnant, everyone is getting engaged, and everyone is married. Okay, I'm just going to say it. That's the elephant in the room. I feel like I have officially hit an age. I'm 29, almost 30 years old, where everyone I know is literally having babies, married or engaged. And that is all beautiful. Wait, no. I'm so excited for everyone. And I mean that. I'm so excited for everybody. I love babies. I love babies. I love love. I love marriage. I love covenant. I love engagement. Like, I love love. And so I am not complaining, and I am not upset that it's happening. I pray there's more. I pray there's more. We need more love. We need more marriages. We need more successful marriages, and we need more babies. We need more babies because what a gift from God. So it's all good. It's all good. But it's an elephant, okay? And it's an elephant. Especially for us girls who are single now. Of course, I am coming from a POV of a single girly, but I also want to be sensitive to people who may be married and are still waiting to get pregnant, because that is one thing we're going to be talking about in this episode is babies. And, you know, being able to Move on to those next steps in your life. And so I do recognize that there are people who may not be single that are actually married, but are still waiting for this thing. Right? So I want to be sensitive to that. But my POV in this episode is going to be from a single girly, because that's what I am. And so, yeah, let's just talk about it. Okay, let's talk about it. The other thing that I struggle with, y'all, is, like, I don't know if anyone else feels this way, but this is how I feel. Is that the minute that I start to talk about this is the minute that I'm, like, that cliche Christian girl that, like, is waiting for her boaz and is, like, waiting for her waiting season to be over. And, like, she just wants her husband. Like, I don't know anyone who talks like that. Actually, I don't know where that came from, but do you know what I'm saying? Like, the minute that I verbalize that out loud is the minute that I am, like, afraid that that's exactly who I am is, like, that cliche Christian girl who's like, I'm single. But with that comes suppression of my actual feelings of what I'm feeling, because that is true. I am a single girl who does desire to be married, who does want to be a mommy and wants to have that in her future. Sue me. Literally, sue me. Yep. I am that girl. I am that Christian girl who's, like, discouraged from time to time because I don't have those things. And that's just me being honest. That's just me being honest. And I think a lot of times, because it's, like, such a hot topic or, like, a common topic for Christian culture even within women, like, a thing that's talked about and at the top of all of our lists, it's, like, gotten to the point where it's so cliche that the minute we actually are still feeling that, at least, I don't know, in my realm, I feel like it's gotten so cliche that the minute I start feeling it, I, like, gaslight myself. And I'm like, you sound like everyone else. Ali, stop. Like, do you even have faith in God at all? And I do feel a temptation of just a spirit of religion, you know, around that. That the minute that I start to feel those things where, you know, those waves of emotion hit me and I'm like, wow, wait, I'm, like, really single right now, and I'm almost 30 years old, and not that there's anything wrong with that? I recognize that there are women even older than me that are still, you know, in this season. But it's just like when you thought you'd be somewhere and you're not and you'll be content for a long time, and then it just kind of smacks you in the face out of nowhere where you're like, wait a minute. I was literally thriving. Why do I feel like this all of a sudden? But it does. It. That wave of, like, that. Those feelings, that emotion hits you, and you're like, the reality of it. You're like, wait, whoa. I really am, like, so single, and there's nothing happening in this, like, area of my life. There is that spirit of religion that, like, creeps up, though, and wants to make you feel as if because you're feeling these things, it means that you don't trust God. Like, you start to say things to yourself, well, I shouldn't feel this because that means I wouldn't. I wouldn't trust God, and I shouldn't be feeling this way because it. It then that means I'm not content with Christ and Christ alone. And you know what? If I'm feeling these things right now, it probably is because I don't have enough faith and I need to get my face in the Word and I need to do this. And it's like this spirit of religion that's like, well, you don't love God enough if you feel these things right now. You don't trust him enough. If you're feeling sad about this, don't feel sad about that. Oh, you're sad about it? Oh, you're sad about it. Okay, well, that means that you don't trust your heavenly Father, so stop being sad. I'm sorry. When did I sign up for that? And also when did me feeling sad in a moment, by the way, about these things mean that I suddenly don't have faith? It suddenly means that I don't trust my Father. You know, another thought that crosses my mind in moments like this is that God is so disappointed in me in that moment. Like, there's that feeling and those thoughts that come into your brain where you're like, oh, wow, the Lord is probably really disappointed in me in the way that I'm feeling sad about this because he probably thinks that I don't trust him either, you know, and it's also that temptation of being like, God isn't going to trust me with this thing anymore because I'm not content with him and him alone. And it also can trickle into that feeling of, you have to earn blessings from the Lord. Oh, my gosh. I feel like that's a whole nother rabbit hole. But sometimes I feel my brain, and it could just. It really is just dumb thoughts that are from the enemy that he just wants to fill your mind with all this garbage. But one of the garbage that he will try to plant in my mind is that the minute I start to feel these things is the minute that then God is like, oh, I can't trust you with this anymore. And now I have to earn my way back to God trusting me with that so I can get back on track to receiving that blessing one day. And that's sick, twisted, and backwards, because God does not give us blessings as if it's a contract between us where we have to earn our blessings. Granted, God's timing is perfect, and there are a lot of times where he won't give us something until we're ready or until he sees, you know, certain things in our life or within our hearts or minds, souls. Like, he waits until we're developed, probably, I'd imagine, actually. Yes. Where he's like, okay, she's ready for this. But it's not like an earning basis. You know what I'm saying? Like, oh, my gosh. Why did this just come to my brain? So I was not always the best at school, guys. I wasn't. I mean, I barely passed class. And I don't think it was because I wasn't intelligent. I do believe that the Lord has created me with a pretty bright brain. My brain is quite bright sometimes. Most times. I'm smart. I'm smart. I just didn't want to. I didn't want to. I didn't care. I couldn't stay focused. I'd rather focus on other things like Tamagotchis and boys. So I. No, I wasn't good at school. And so I was a. I was like a C's and D's type of gal. All right, that was me. And so my parents signed me up for something called Sylvan Training Center. Did anyone go to Sylvan? It was like a tutoring, I think. It's literally still around. It looks ancient. Sometimes I will go. I will be, like, driving by, and it'll be in, like, some little shopping center. And I'm like, you're still here, Sylvan. You're literally still in the room. She's still here. But I went to that. And a lot of the way that they would try to motivate us to do well was Earning, like, tokens. So whenever we would do well or, like, pass a test or whatever, girl, I don't know. I barely remember it. But you would get these tokens, and I do remember that part. And if you could get enough tokens, there were all of these prizes that you could get with those tokens, one of them being a lava lamp, which I earned, but they never sent to me. So that is something I will literally never forget for the rest of my life. I earned enough tokens, and that was a lot of tokens for a lava lamp, okay? It wasn't like a little stuffed bunny. A lava lamp was a lot of tokens, and I earned all of them, okay? I earned all of them. So this is what I mean when I said she had brains just when she wanted to use them. So the only way that you could earn that lava lamp was through my hard works of receiving these tokens. A lot of what the Bible says and refers to is our good works. And that is true as a Christian, we have to have good works, you know, but it's not out of a place of earning God's love and earning God's blessings, you know, I do think that through our faithfulness and our obedience, we do earn his trust, where he's like, okay, I really trust her. Nah, she's. She's. She's a solid one. She means it, you know, I do think that that's something we do earn from God, but earning his love, which translates to his blessings the way that he is a giver and a provider, that just comes from his love, that doesn't come from any transaction. Because the thing is, is Jesus already paid the bill. He already paid for that transaction. And God loved us first. Before all else, God loved us first. So there's nothing that we can do to earn his love. There's nothing that can separate us from his love. It's already there. 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