Scripture: Ephesians 4:29-5:2

+ De-skilling = unlearning or never learning basic relationship skills

+ 5 Directives:

Communicate Constructively
Stay In Step With The Spirit
Take Out The Trash
Commit To Kindness
Freely Forgive

Directive #1: Communicate Constructively

Proverbs 12:18 NIV

+ What you speak to people, over time, they will start to live up to, or down to.

Directive #2: Stay In Step With The Spirit

+ Challenge: Pray for your spouse.

Directive #3: Take Out The Trash

“Of the seven deadly sins, anger is possibly the most fun. To lick your wounds, to smack your lips over grievances long past, to roll over your tongue the prospect of bitter confrontation still to come, to savor to the last toothsome morsel both the pain you are given and the pain you are giving back; in many ways it is a feast fit for a king. The chief drawback is that what you are wolfing down is yourself. The skeleton at the feast is you.” - Fredrick Beuchner

Directive #4: Commit To Kindness

Directive #5: Freely Forgive