Coffee Convos: “If There Is No Purpose, There Is No Place”

Podcast: Coffee Convos with Kail Lowry and Lindsie Chrisley
Episode Date: January 8, 2026
Hosts: Kail Lowry & Lindsie Chrisley

Episode Overview

In this lively New Year’s episode, reality TV stars and unfiltered best friends, Kail and Lindsie, reflect on the chaos and growth of the past year, set intentions for 2026, and dive into candid conversations about motherhood, home organization, relationships, and personal routines. With their trademark mix of vulnerability and humor, the duo navigates topics from the meaning of "purpose" in life and belongings, to the gritty truths of parenting (including potty training and relationship breakups), to setting boundaries and the importance of giving themselves permission to say "no." Listener letters and a particularly memorable tale in their "Foul Play" segment wrap up the episode with plenty of laughter and real talk.

Major Discussion Points & Insights

1. Setting New Year Intentions & Words of the Year

Timestamps: 02:10–04:00

• Execution, Balance, Growth, Peace:

  • Kail’s word of 2026: “Execution” focusing on actually achieving her business and life goals.
    • “Happy fucking New Year. And my word of the year is execution in all my business goals.” — Kail (02:10)
  • Lindsie’s words: “Balance, growth, and peace,” emphasizing a desire for stability and self-improvement.
    • “My first one is balance… growth and peace.” — Lindsie (02:18)

• They joke about not always coming in peace:

  • “I’m not coming with peace in 2026. So if you’re looking for peaceful advice, don’t find me.” — Kail (02:35)

2. Life Updates & Parenting Moments

Timestamps: 04:01–05:35

• Kail announces that Creed (her son) is about to lose his first tooth at age five, triggering a heartfelt and hilarious discussion on “mom memorabilia”:

  • Lindsie shares: “I still have all of [Jackson’s] teeth in my kitchen spice cabinet.” — Lindsie (05:04)
  • Kail suggests turning them into a necklace for “purpose,” leading to their theme:
    • “Everything needs a purpose. And if it doesn’t have a purpose, it doesn’t have a place.” — Kail (05:18)

• Lindsie extends the motto to people as well as things:

  • “Everything that doesn’t have a purpose doesn’t have a place, including people.” — Lindsie (05:29)

3. Funny Misconceptions & Adult Realizations

Timestamps: 06:03–06:36

• The hosts admit to common phrase and pop-culture mix-ups:
  • Lindsie thought “up and at ‘em” was about a man named Adam.
  • Kail only recently realized “Alice in Wonderland” isn’t about “Alison Wonderland.”
    • “I thought Alice in Wonderland was Alison Wonderland… found out in my thirties.” — Kail (06:10)

4. Home Improvement & Organization Rants

Timestamps: 06:36–12:45, 35:03–39:50

• Underrated Pleasures: Water pressure and organizing as “life changing” for the new year.

  • “If you have bad water pressure, find a husband. Find a man and tell him to like, change your pressure.” — Lindsie (09:09)

• Home Organization: Kail needs to execute plans for moving or building a new home as her current home bursts at the seams with seven children. Both discuss the costliness of organizing:

  • “I’m not putting any more energy or money into my current home… I need to start building by end of 2026.” — Kail (35:00–37:35)
  • “It costs a lot of money to be organized the way I want to be organized with the aesthetic… But I like all the baskets that are, like, all matching.” — Lindsie (39:11)

5. Parenting Struggles & Potty Training Philosophy

Timestamps: 22:42–32:15

• Both hosts share the struggle and strategies for diapering and potty training, preferring to wait until kids are truly ready:

  • “I wait to potty train until the last possible minute… we potty train in under a week.” — Kail (24:15)
  • “If you want to walk around shitting on yourself and have no interest in a toilet, I’ll just keep buying Pampers.” — Lindsie (31:10)

• Both are firmly anti-toddler potty (those mini toilets for kids):

  • “I’ve only ever used real toilets. I’m not cleaning out shitty baby toilets.” — Kail (29:26)

6. Relationship Realities: Breaking Up & Getting Back Together

Timestamps: 19:28–21:25, 54:52–57:44

• Lindsie discusses her cyclical relationship with David (“David Gavin”), sharing that even breaks count as part of the relationship.

  • “To me as your friend, David is always your boyfriend… it’s just one of those relationships.” — Kail (21:02)
  • “This year I want to stop breaking up with Gavin.” — Lindsie (54:52)

• She opens up about post-divorce hesitation and fear:

  • “When we break up, you think that’s a hiatus… I needed some time, I needed some space, I needed some thinking… then I’m good.” — Lindsie (55:00–56:23)
  • Both relate to the fear of giving someone the power to hurt you again after past heartbreak.

• Kail echoes the self-protection instinct:

  • “I see where this is going… and I’m going to end this entire relationship before you can hurt me.” — Kail (57:12)

7. Routines, Boundaries & Giving Themselves Permission

Timestamps: 47:27–58:57

• Lindsie wants to master her bedtime routine for herself and her son, and reads before bed for alone time.

  • “My 2026 New Year’s resolution is to tighten up my bedtime routine.” — Lindsie (48:29)

• Both commit to being less of “people-pleasers” and following through with discipline and boundaries.

  • “This year I want to stop people pleasing… not following through, especially with my kids.” — Kail (51:10)
  • “This year, I’m giving myself permission to say no to people guilt free.” — Kail (58:24)
  • “I’m giving myself permission to live freely, whatever that looks like.” — Lindsie (58:31)

8. Listener Letters: Foul Play Segment

Timestamps: 59:07–64:58

• Listener writes in about having to “disimpact” themselves after surgery-related constipation, sparking a frank, graphic, and funny conversation about poop realities postpartum and otherwise.
  • “Wait a second. I didn’t know that you could pull poop out of your ass.” — Lindsie (61:11)
  • Kail calls Becky for live advice on manual disimpaction, which is treated with a mix of disbelief, information, and humor.
  • “I call it a taint… Some people call it a nacho—nacho ass, nacho balls.” — Kail & Lindsie (64:44–64:56)

Notable Quotes

• On Purpose and Letting Go:
  “If it doesn’t have a purpose, it doesn’t have a place. And so we could make use of said items… including people.”
  — Kail & Lindsie (05:18–05:29)

• On Parenting Realities:
  “A shitty diaper is a shitty diaper is a shitty diaper. Whether you’re changing one or three…”
  — Kail (23:45)

• On Boundaries:
  “This year in 2026, I’m giving myself permission to say no to people guilt free.”
  — Kail (58:24)

• On Love After Divorce:
  “True love is giving somebody the ability to hurt you and trusting that they won’t. Yeah, it’s the trusting part.”
  — Lindsie (58:06)

Memorable & Humorous Moments

• Tooth Fairy Keepsakes: Lindsie keeps all her son’s lost teeth in the spice cabinet (“I still have all of his teeth in my kitchen spice cabinet.” — Lindsie, 05:04)
• Home Water Pressure Epiphany: Lindsie finds herself “blown away” after fixing her shower’s pressure, declaring it top-tier New Year advice (09:09).
• Bird Adoption: Kail plans to make a rescued bird the Coffee Convos podcast mascot, with joint excitement over birds in hats on TikTok (16:45).
• Potty Training “Hot Takes”: Both hosts adamantly oppose toddler potties and six-month potty training sagas (29:26–32:15).
• Group Chat & “David Gavin” Jokes: The ongoing confusion over Lindsie’s boyfriend’s name provides running humor (03:04, 21:02).
• Foul Play Segment: A frank listener letter about post-surgical constipation leads to Kail calling her friend Becky for a live tutorial on manual disimpaction—a segment filled with laughter, real talk, and disbelief (61:11–64:58).

Episode Structure & Key Timestamps

| Segment / Topic | Timestamp | |----------------------------------------------------------|---------------| | New Year’s words, intentions | 02:10–04:00 | | Parenting updates, tooth fairy, “purpose” mantra | 04:01–05:29 | | Parenting memorabilia humor | 05:29–06:03 | | Phrase misconceptions (“up and at ‘em,” “Alison”) | 06:03–06:36 | | Water pressure, home improvement, organizing rants | 06:36–12:45 | | Potty training, diapers debate | 22:42–32:15 | | Relationship cycles, breaking up & reconciliation | 19:28–21:25 | | Home organization, building a new house | 35:03–39:50 | | Routines, boundaries, following through with kids | 47:27–58:57 | | Foul Play: Listener constipation story & reactions | 59:07–64:58 |

Tone & Style

True to their reality TV roots, Kail and Lindsie keep the conversation lively, candid, and peppered with explicit language, self-deprecation, and laughter. The tone oscillates between humorous banter (especially around parenting and relationships) and open vulnerability, particularly on fears, boundaries, and growth.

For Listeners Who Missed the Episode

This episode is a microcosm of the Coffee Convos vibe: relatable, unfiltered mom-life talk, real confessions, practical advice (sometimes delivered tongue-in-cheek), and the reassuring acknowledgment that no one is alone in the struggle to balance chaos, self-care, and growth. If you ever wondered about parenting strategies, the realities of living post-divorce, or just need a laugh about home repairs and bodily functions, this is an episode not to miss.