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Kale Lowry (12:56)

Oh, we had a Teen mom reunion one time in New York. I think it was where the entire Teen mom cast was there and I had to be there and I needed to do coffee combo stuff there too. So I was trying to make this one business trip work for Teen mom and for Coffee Combos. But shit hit the fan on this Teen mom set and I left. Like I literally left. I did not attend the reunion. I did not do whatever it was. For Coffee Combos podcast, we got in the sprinter van, I took my entire family, Natalie, everybody and we left. Don't remember what hit the fan, but I want to say it was some that they were planning and I was not about to do the whole like Kale, Bri, Britney situation all over again. So I was just like, I'm out and I left. I didn't participate. I'm trying to think what else. Like Lindsay and I the stomach bug. When I had the stomach bug in Chattanooga and I had to go to a walk in clinic and I'm like shitting all over the place. We were filming with Macy and Lindsay Nicholson who was previously on team 16 and pregnant. And so it was Macy was in town and just it was. I was shitting in the toilet and leaning into the sink and throwing up. Like genuinely. I had to get. If you guys remembered my friend Mark, my old friend Mark, he was in our hotel room and I was like, I cannot have this man in this hotel room while I'm and throwing up at the same time. And so we had to call the maintenance man because I'm literally throwing up in the sink and it won't go down the drain and I'm. My pants. And Mark had to get his own room and then the maintenance man had to come at like 2 in the morning. Kristen's like telling the guy what's going on. The maintenance guy. Poor Lindsay is probably gagging and throwing up. Who knows. So we've had some good times. We really have had some good times. To Kayla and Lindsay have plans for an international live show. Here's the thing. Lindsay, Lindsay doesn't travel. Lindsay does not travel abroad. The furthest she's ever going to go is Mexico or Hawaii. So I'm going to answer for her and say probably not. Becky and I will be in London in August if we can get a venue. We have not had any luck finding a venue yet, but I would guess that Lindsay and I will probably not go international. She is more than welcome to join in on the London trip. But I also just wonder that London is probably not Lindsay's vibe. Lindsay's a very much like chill by the pool vacationer. Like she's not going to go do all the activities. I want to be up at 6am and go zip lining through the rainforest. Okay. Like that's what I want to do on vacation. We got to do. What's one small win that you've had this week that made you feel like you were totally winning at life? Probably when I slept in on Sunday until 8:30, that was the top of my weekend. Okay. I love this one. Every victory, big or small, I got to sleep in and then I was at the top of my game. Okay. Georgina says I find it interesting that Adderall isn't even allowed in Germany. We can only choose between Vyvanse or Ritalin. I'm an unmedicate. I am unmedicated. But I'm struggling more and more. So I'm thinking about getting a prescription. My son will be diagnosed and the doctors have mentioned medication beforehand but I'm not sure I want my kids to be medicated as I don't see them as severe cases. This is so difficult. This is really interesting to me because Here in the US we can do this thing called Genesight or genocide spelled G E N E S I G H T. And this goes for like pretty much any medication. You can go be swabbed and it'll check with your DNA and biology with medicine to see which one would be more sufficient. And so I personally have not had a good experience on Vyvanse. I know it works very well for a lot of people, and for me, it just doesn't work. So if I'm going to Germany and I live in Germany, Vyvanse is already out. What if Ritalin also doesn't work? Then what is the alternative for people who are struggling, but those two options don't work, right? Like, that feels really challenging. Tell me about all of your favorite family vacation spots. I'm looking for something around nine hours or less from us. We are located in the Virginia Tech area of Virginia. However, I'm open to all the ideas we are planning for May. We're burnout on the beach and our oldest just started playing college ball by the ocean. I can't help you with this. I don't know anything that's around there. That's like nine maybe. Maybe Outer Banks, like North Carolina Outer Banks for vacation or like South Carolina? I don't know. I don't have an answer for that one. Oh. What are everyone's thoughts on dating? On someone dating one of their siblings? Friends off limits or is this okay? You wouldn't want your friend to date your sister? Ike is saying he would not want any of his friends to date a sister. What if one of your friends wanted to date your brother? Like a girl that's a friend wanted to date one of your brothers? Obviously when they were single. They're not single.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (17:48)

Yeah, when they were single.

Kale Lowry (17:50)

No. What about your cousin? Could your friends date your cousins? Yeah, that's fine. Not siblings. Okay. Some of the answers in here are saying, I had a baby with my best friend's older brother, ended terribly in every way possible. Yikes. Teens, early 20s, off limits, late 20s or after everyone's frontal lobes are fully developed. Go for it. I think I can get behind that. I do think I can get behind. Like, we're talking 27 and up. I feel like that's okay because your frontal lobe should be developed. My dad was friends with my mom's brother before they got married. My dad was friends with my mom's. Okay, Yeah, I could see that. The only off limit should be friends dating exes or crushes of yours. I wouldn't care if my friend wanted to date my siblings. I think it sounds good in theory. Like, you're like, okay, we're gonna be sisters. But then it's like, okay, no, because if this ends badly, it could be really freaking bad. My brother is married to his best friend's sister. His friend was a little annoyed at first, but now they're over it. Now he just gets to see his friend for holidays and other family events. I mean, what if, like, your best friend was like, I want to make your sister the happiest person in the world? Like, you wouldn't allow it. Just flat out, no. Like, no explanation. Just like, you're gonna die on that hill. Okay, hold on. Let me pull up some more. These are. All of these things are coming from the coffee combos Facebook group. So if you're not already in there, Carmen says, hi, Kale. This is my first time posting in a group, but I had to let you know that you are right about West Virginia. I listened to January 22's episode and around 34 minutes you mentioned driving through West Virginia feeling like you could hide a bot body here. Well, true crime, girlies, I have a rabbit hole for you if you desire. A girl I went to junior high, high school with here in Parkersburg, West Virginia is missing. She's been missing since 12, 4, 22. And there's strong evidence of who the guy is that took her. But here's the thing, y'. All. It's not just the lack of cctv, CCTV footage in small towns. It's the connections within the police force with tight communities. And that's all I'll say. There are some links I'll include for anyone who is interested to follow this. Apparently private investigators are hired and currently involved in the corruption here for missing women. Because Gretchen isn't the only local one. We have Kimberly Jones and Judy Petty being looked into too. Despite all the years that have passed, there is a tick tock. There is a live tick tock tonight, Sunday, February 15th. Sorry, I know this is the day after on West Virginia investigations. I'm telling you, when we drove through West Virginia, there was no cctv. Like, there was no ring cameras. There was no nothing. And Kristen and I looked at each other and we were like, you could go missing and just scatter the body, like, and animals are going to get it. No one's going to find it. There's so much land, there's so much hills. There's woods, there's everything. And low key. I said the same thing about Alabama when We went to go visit Matt. Like, you could do this. That's terrifying, because there is no CCTV out there. And so then I wonder about Nancy Guthrie. Guthrie. Guthrie, the woman missing in Arizona and talked to my friend Ray, and she was like, there's no CCTV camera footage where she went missing. So all of that is actually terrifying. Oh, my God. Okay, so I. Can I. Getting ready for bed. And we put on the Olympics. And I live under a rock, so I'm not even aware that the Olympics are happening right now. I thought they just happened in Europe, like Paris, but apparently this is the Winter Olympics, and they're different. And first of all, what channel was that? Hulu. Like, I don't even know. So Ike is saying that we were on Hulu, and it was this thing where it's like a roller coaster, but your, like, feet are locked into these skis and you go down this, like, hill, and then you, like, fly like a flying squirrel. And I just want to know, like, when this sport was started, what they were thinking, because the way that I. What are you doing? Like, what is. How. So you're locked in, and you're going down this thing, and then you just, like, squat, and then you're flying through the air. Like, what, ski jumping? Yeah.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (22:15)

You gotta tell them that they're going off of this.

Kale Lowry (22:18)

It's like this, like, roller coaster ramp thing. But they're just, like, vertical in the air, and then they're, like, horizontal with their skis. And I just. I don't understand. And, like, multiple countries do this, and I'm just wondering how and why. And, like, what would compel someone to want to do this sport? Because I feel like I would just eat. So would you try it? I feel like I would try it.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (22:42)

All right, I answer that quickly. I feel like you have to be a certain weight.

Kale Lowry (22:47)

I'm not the weight that is recommended for ski jumping. Okay. Not. But I want to know how multiple countries decided they were going to do this.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (22:55)

How is it even a sport?

Kale Lowry (22:57)

You're just.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (22:58)

You're skis with no poles.

Kale Lowry (23:02)

Yeah, I. I'm just blown away, truly. That's what I'm. That's what I'm just trying to say here is that I didn't know this was a thing. And I. There's a reason why it's an Olympic sport, but the question that I'm having is how did it become an Olympic sport? Because who decided that we were going to do this? It's actually, like, honestly upsetting because not everyone is going to have the opportunity to try this, right? Like, this isn't figure skating. This isn't running. This is ski jumping. And like, why would anyone. How do you even become good at that? You know what I mean? As a parent, I don't need to tell you how busy you are. You already know. And our next partner makes meal time for my kids so much easier and way more enjoyable. My kids are wildly picky. I've talked about it so many times on this podcast. And now, now they don't really want to do anything. So I was desperate to figure out what to introduce them to for better, healthier varieties of foods. 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This says Vyvanse Talk and this is posted in the Coffee Combos Fan Fan group. I just started back on my Vyvanse after being off of it for eight months due to insurance issues. Anyway, the one struggle I had was the eating. One of the side effects of Vyvanse is anorexia. When I was on it before I had lost about 15 pounds. I got down to skin and bones. There were times when I first started that I hadn't eaten a real meal. Maybe just a bite or two of something and just water, tons of water in three days. During the eight months I didn't take it, I did gain 10 pounds back. Well this go around I'm noticing I'm not wanting to eat again and don't want to lose drastic weight again either. Maybe five pounds. But I have a workaround. I of course tried to remain myself. I of course try to remind myself to eat at least a little something if it crosses my mind. But I'm always so busy. But I've been doing well at smoking a bit of marijuana at night when I'm ready for bed one it's my sleeping med. I can't sleep if I don't smoke. And now I give. Now I give into the munchies by choice. If you know, you know. Okay, so I'll also say this on my ADDERALL and or Vyvanse. I also don't eat. I don't know if it would help, but, like, maybe you could take your meds with a protein. That's what Alessandra taught me to do. But also, I don't get hungry on my meds either. So I've been unmedicated for four days, and I've eaten everything in sight. Don't you agree?

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (27:50)

You wouldn't stop eating yesterday.

Kale Lowry (27:52)

All I wanted to do was eat yesterday. I also have my period, to be fair, so it's like.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (27:57)

Like I don't tell them your definition of a snack at this point.

Kale Lowry (28:00)

Are you judging me?

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (28:05)

Just tell them your definition.

Kale Lowry (28:06)

I asked for a snack last night, and by snack, I meant pierogies. And they were. The Isaacs, I'll call them, were very upset by this. They said that wasn't a snack, that Elliot was making cookies, and if I wanted a snack, I need to eat that. And I said, no. Like, I wanted pierogies. No, I'm not pregnant. I had my tubes cut out. I just am unmedicated right now, and I also have my period, so if y' all could just bear with me, I may have a weight fluctuation coming up soon. Okay, let me go read some foul plays. Okay, so I have my foul play on my honeymoon. On my honeymoon, I started my period and wanted to go swimming. Never wore a tampon. Figured, okay, I can do this. One time. Nobody ever told me to take the cardboard applicator off after placement. So I came back from swimming and, oh, my God. Oh, my God. Nobody ever told me to take the cardboard applicator off after placement. So I come back from swimming and pull it out, and it stuck and had to get my new husband to pull it out. I don't know what I would do if sogging wet cardboard was stuck into my vagina. I am so sorry. And sympathize, empathize. Feel so bad because nobody also taught me how to use a tampon. Like, I figured it out myself in, like, sixth grade or, like, seventh grade. I'm, like, trying to figure out how to use a tampon. That's horrendous. And I'm so sorry. And they probably didn't have the plastic applicators at that time, because I want to say that happened in, like, I got my period in sixth grade, so it came sometime after that. And so I am so sorry that that happened to you. I hope he laughed about it. I hope he didn't make you feel like. Okay, Ashley typed in A foul play as well. And she says, I was on the phone with my friend who lives states away and we were mindlessly chatting about girl stuff. She was nervous. She's pregnant and has been begging and I've been begging her for days to just get a test because she's always on time. So called to say she. Oh. So she called to say she started and was just two days late. She told me she's on the way to the dude's house. And me out of nowhere goes, what's his penis look like? As he answered the door, he says, hi, Ashley. I'm sure, I'm sure she'll tell you later. We're busy. I was like, what the. You didn't tell me you were there already. I'm just gonna tell you all, you all now, like, don't let your husbands or your boyfriends hear this because we all talk about your dicks. Like, we just do. We're gonna talk about it. We're gonna talk about the size, we're gonna talk about the shape, we're gonna talk about the curve. We're gonna talk about all of it. It. And so if you don't want someone to talk about it, maybe don't show them your penis. Okay. Just keep it to yourself. Just keep it to yourself.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (30:49)

Wait, so you guys like have full blown conversations?

Kale Lowry (30:52)

Full blown conversations down to the tip.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (30:56)

What, what makes a good penis and what makes a bad penis?

Kale Lowry (31:00)

I am gonna say that it. Here's the thing. Size can matter. And it does matter. And we sort of talked about it last night. Like, if someone has a small dick and you fall in love with them, it's far too late. Like, you're now in love with someone that has a small dick. You can't unfall in love with them. Right? You better hope the sex is good and they stimulate you in other ways. And so if their dick is small, they'll probably not tell you. They'll just say all the other qualities that are so good because they're not going to like, embarrass their man and be like, oh, like my man's dick is small. Right? Like, they're going to be like, we have good sex. Like, they're never going to. They're going to avoid penis size conversation at all costs. I don't have to worry about that. So if you guys want to. I'm just kidding. He just completely ignored that.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (31:47)

How do you feel about. So are. Does the size of the balls matter?

Kale Lowry (31:51)

The size of the balls can matter if you like them slapping against you, which I do. And so it can matter. But some women don't care about that. And so surely you don't want someone to have, like, super small balls because you're like, wait, what's going on? You know? But, like, if they're just average, like, that's fine. Like, average balls are okay. And then you have, like, the really big ones. If you have a huge ball sack and a really small dick, that's weird. Like, I'm unfalling in love with you at that point. Do you know what I mean? Alessandra, that might be Patreon exclusive. I don't know. How far do you want to push this episode? You know what I mean? If your dick doesn't hang past your balls, you are. Your dick is not big enough to speak to me any kind of way. So be very, very mindful. If I know your dick size and you speak to me in a way that I don't appreciate. Okay? Anonymous member wrote, I finally have something to share, but I don't think it's bad enough for a foul play. Well, I'll be the judge of that. The other day, my man and I were having sex and all the activities. He was in the middle of fingering me, and I farted. We both busted out laughing, and I couldn't stop for a few minutes. Thankfully, it was his hand and not mouth down there, and it had a sound but no smell. He jokes about it every few days, and I'm like, when is this gonna stop being funny? It's never gonna stop being funny, especially if you're with the right one. Because if you're with someone that makes you feel like about it or you're, like, so embarrassed you can never talk about it again, it sounds like you have a good guy. So we love that for you. We love that. Okay. Aaliyah posted in case you needed a laugh. Maybe this can count as a foul play for the fourth. We family of five went onto a rooftop to watch some fireworks downtown. It was just us, the family of five. So we were spread out, running around, having fun. Well, my bonus son, who is five in a serial picker upper of random and all things, picked up something and said, hey, look, guys with heart eyes. I started to squint because obviously it was dark outside. Well, y', all, when I realized what it was, I started screaming and grossed out. My genius boyfriend said, calm down. It's just a firework, y'. All. It was a goddamn used tampon. I looked up what one looks like. Wait, I looked up what one Looks like up close. And they do look similar. Well, now I need to. I need to, like, Google this. Used firework versus used tampon. Oh, wow. Oh, wow. They look alike.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (34:20)

Okay, all right. I can see.

Kale Lowry (34:22)

I can see why that looks very similar. I understand. That's crazy. I didn't even know. That's actually insane. Okay, let me go back to the questions. Alessandra, good luck. Okay, one for Kale. This is from Haley, and she says, if you could describe in one word what each of your children has taught you in motherhood, what would that word be for each kid? For example, my firstborn taught me selflessness. My second taught me patience, and my third taught me grace. Elliot taught me about unconditional love. He taught me that I would literally do anything for my children. Literally anything. I do not care about their sexuality. I do not care about what interests they have. I do not care about any of that. It's like my child is my child and I love him unconditionally. I love all of them unconditionally. Lincoln taught me, has taught me to try to be kind of carefree and go with the flow of things because he really is such a go with the flow kind of kid. He will hang out with the babies or he'll hang out with. He'll go to Elliot's play or he'll go to Luxit Creed's games or like just Lincoln is. And he's also self motivated. Like Lincoln will get up to do. Elliot is too honest. Ah, Lux is too. Lux is also. I would. I would argue that Lincoln and Lux both move with a sense of urgency. Like they understand a schedule, they will follow a schedule. They are self starter, self motivated. They get themselves up in the morning. Like, I do not have to wake them up. Elliot, he. It's interesting because if Elliot. So Elliot's bus comes at 6, 10 in the morning and nobody wakes him up, Nobody gets him going, Nobody does any of that. He does that all on his own and gets himself on that bus at 6, 10 every single morning. With that being said, if there is room for wiggle room, he will participate in the wiggle room. But like, for example, today there was no school, but he had rehearsals. He has rehearsals from nine to three. I know that he's not going to move with a sense of urgency the same way he would if he has to. Elliot is. He's very much like me where, like he knows when we. When he has to. But if there is a little bit of wiggle room, he'll push the limit and I'm the same way. Creed is teaching me patience. Creed is teaching me that big emotions are, you know, he's trying to understand his own emotions, and he has had more. He's had a harder time trying to express his emotions than, I would say, the older three. And so he's taught me patience a lot. And he's also. He also reminds me. He just reminds me so much of myself and my mom. Like, we are. When we're in a really good mood, things are really good. And when we're not in a good mood, everybody's not in a good mood. That's not really a great quality to have. So we're working on that. We are working on that. Rio has taught me well. Rio is good energy. Toddlers are also hot and cold. Like, you never know what you're gonna get from them. But very funny, very caring, very entertaining. So I would say he kind of has already, like, he's taught me some of the same, like, reinforce some of the same things as the older kids. Rio is very much an older. He's like, in the birth order, he's number five, right. But at his dad's house, he's number one, right? So he has qualities of an the oldest sibling, and he also has qualities of number five, which is really interesting. Shop my favorite bras and underwear@skims.com Coffee we are a skims partner for a reason. And before skims, underwear was truly an afterthought to both of us. Lindsay and I don't typically wear underwear. We would just focus on what we wear outside and not really think about what we wear under our clothes. But skims has made us realize that the bra and panties that we put on in the morning actually define whether we feel good or not. 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I would say Lincoln exhibits sibling number one qualities and he also exhibits sibling number two. But I've read a lot about the second child in the birth order being very Challenging, testing your patience, doing all of that. And I have not had that experience, and I think that's because of the overlap of being the oldest sibling at his dad's house, he doesn't exhibit those qualities. Same for Lux. When Lux is with me, he's the third child, but when he's at his dad's house, he's the oldest. And so he does exhibit both qualities as well. Creed is like Elliot. He is the smack dab in the middle child in both households. So he's showing signs of, like, quote, unquote, middle child syndrome, which I want to avoid as much as possible. So I have put something in place that I learned from Creed's therapist, and we're gonna be trying to give him some undivided quality time more often. Every day. More often. Slash once a day is what I mean. Ellie, I took to dinner last week, and then we went to a play yesterday, just us two. And then I went to dinner with Lincoln, just the two of us. And I did the same thing with Lux, but for Creed, because he's in the middle, it's going to be a little bit different. It's a little bit more challenging. Also, his age is a lot more challenging. So when I say that little boy has taught me patience, he truly has. And I'm going to try to do something that we talked about in therapy, which is just like doing quiet alone time with just me and him in another room. But I want to try to do it every single day versus every single week, because I would imagine that being right in the middle at both houses is probably very challenging. And I would imagine that he probably doesn't feel heard. He's not quite old enough to do what the older siblings do, but he's not quite where the younger, younger siblings are either. And then the twins are just so funny. Valley is teaching me about my own self, because I look at her sometimes, and I'm like, she's me 2.0. The sass, the attitude, the demanding nature of her personality. I am learning how it might feel to deal with Kale. And so things are going as well as they can, and I'm very excited. I hope that, like. But Valley is just like me, so it's going to be a humbling experience. I can feel it. And then Verse is just teaching me to look at just the positive things out of life, because Verse is just happy all the time and in his own world, and he's just content doing whatever. It doesn't matter. He's just happy to be here. You Know, like, he's just go with the flow, happy to be here. Nothing really bothers him. Loves man man, which is spider man. And so I want to be like him when I grow up. I want to be. What is the word? I'm looking. It feels like. Like, maybe, like, whimsical. Like. Like happy, go luck. Like, just golden retriever, retriever. Golden retriever energy. And Rio is the same way. Rio is golden retriever energy. Valley's more golden retriever than I am boss, baby. So is Rio.

Lindsay Chrisley (continued or another female guest) (44:20)

Yeah, but Val, like, Valley's the boss, baby.

Kale Lowry (44:23)

So. Funny story about Rio was replacing carpets in the playroom and my living room. I had, like, extra carpets or whatever. And so papa put them down over the weekend while they were with their dad. And I say, their dad. They were with Elijah. Their dad is Elijah. But just to clarify. And so Rio comes home this morning, and I bring him in the house, and he's like, wait, I think I have the video, the audio. So he sees the living room carpet, and he's like, I like the floor. Like, he noticed the carpet, which I thought was I. Rio is gifted, y'. All. I don't care what anyone says. Like, nobody can tell me otherwise. Rio is so smart. And so he sees the real, and he's like, I can walk around. And he's walking around on this carpet. And then we go in the playroom, and the playroom also has. Huh. I do like this floor again. You like it? I do like a floor again. He does like the floor again. You like it? I do like it. The floor again. He says, I do like the floor again. So he led the floor. And so, yeah, the Rio and the twins, they're. All three of them are golden retriever, which is funny because Elijah doesn't really talk. I wouldn't call him a golden retriever or a black cat. He's just a unique man. So I don't know where the kids get their personality from. I don't know, actually, but they're all good kids. Oh, this is a good one. Felicia asks, do you think it's possible that some people are born to give more love than they will ever receive back in return? Yes, I do. And it's not fair, but I think. Yeah, I think that happens. I don't necessarily think that. That. Do you think it's possible that some are born to give more love? I don't know if they were born to give more love. I think that's just the way it plays out. And then they never get it back. Okay, I'M gonna read one from Ryan. Ryan says, my five year old is about to drive me crazy. He doesn't like the answers to any question he hears. His response often ends in fake whimpering and stomping off to his room. Dinner is, quote, gross and disgusting and I'm just not eating it. And quote, it's become where nothing is ever good enough. And he tries to have the last word with everything. If this has only started within the last two, I'd assume this had to do with the new baby. Unfortunately, it's been this way for months. Is this a phase? Is this, is this a phase? Is there life at the end of the tunnel? His attitude is so souring. It's a vibe kill. Okay, some of the responses to the I have also experienced this with Creed again being the middle, middle child. There's lots of changes for all the kids, but in the middle I think it's also challenging. My child's also five years old, so I do think it is the age a little bit. Sarah responds and she says it's normal. It's still frustrating, but normal. Maybe try the this or that method. Do you want chicken nuggets or spaghetti? Use that approach with everything. Do you want to take a bath now or wait 30 minutes? But here's the thing with that is like you can't ask questions that are not options. So that's something that I've learned with the kids in therapy and they did PC, pcit, which is Parent Child Integrated Therapy, I believe. You can't say, oh, can you go pick this up? Where it's a demand like go clean it up. So if you, you don't have the option for a bath or a shower, don't give it an option. Right. If there's you, you can't set them up for failure. And then someone else commented under saying that she was going to suggest that as well. My, my aunt also suggested something to me a couple years ago. She said something about like, like around this age is like if and when statement so. Or sorry, when and then statement. So if you say okay, when you go clean up your room, then we can go get ice cream. And so you're giving them like an expectation. I've also Ryan heard and I haven't done this. I'm just giving you advice that I've heard doing some sort of like chart system where it has like symbols for what each activity is. So if like you're gonna do something throughout the day, getting them used to the schedule, you could do like 9am is like breakfast or whatever and sort of get them used to that so that they know what they're. What they're being prepared for. I think a lot of kids, sometimes they thrive with schedules, but because of life and the economy and society today, it's less possible in my opinion, to have like a more regimented schedule. But that's something that maybe I need to try with Creed too. Someone else suggested very normal. This is the power play stage. So if you're. If your house is anything like mine, I need to stick to this more than ever right now. With Creed, someone said it's so normal. They're like Sour Patch Kids a lot of the times. And then Shay Nelson said, very normal for kids of that age to want to test boundaries. They're also very independent. I always have to position things for them to be more of my. My son's idea than mine. So like dinner, I'll give him options and let him help me build his plate. It gets him involved in the decision making. So you kind of tricking that. You're kind of tricking them into thinking it's their idea. I actually love that too. I'll tell you this. While it may be normal behavior, the way you discipline is important. You must be consistent and clearly unacceptable. They do not. They do not just move on phases and start being respectful without being taught. That's. Oh, sorry, I didn't even. They do not move just on phases and start being respectful without being taught what's acceptable and what isn't. That's true. So my daughter started this around five as well. She got entirely too much and was in my. And she was my only job at the time. Like you were saying, everything was an issue. I remember these things helped. Give him an option. Do you want hot dogs or hamburgers? Make him feel like he has a choice when he's upset. I know it's hard, but tried to think on his level. He's needing something. So I would say, I know you're upset. Hug her. Try to talk to her. It does not always work, but it helped. She's 11 now. Is ADHD and highly functioning autism. Not telling you your kid has anything, but I will say that in the back of your mind. If it doesn't improve, keep that in the back of your mind. You're doing a great job, Ryan. This is the hardest job in the world, which it freaking is. Oh. Laura Ann says, is he eating enough? Not eating enough food changes someone's personality. Does he maybe feel out of control and that's why he's trying to control control things. Why? What does he try to control? Honestly, there's a lot of good information on this post so if anyone wants to go read it in the Coffee Combos group, there is a lot of good responses. On that note, we've reached the hour. I did my best. I already filmed a solo episode of For Barely Famous this week, so I hope that Lindsay tackles everything she needs to do today. As always, you guys can follow on Spotify, Apple, wherever you get your podcast. The full video is on my patreon patreon.com Kayl Lowry we have merch on coffeecombles podcast.com and you can guide. You guys can go check over at Killer Entertainment to see all of the team and everybody's roles. I hope you guys have a great week and we'll see you next time.

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