Podcast
Coffee With Hilary and Les from State of Mind Hypnosis and Training Centre
Hosted by Hilary & Les · EN
An almost-daily podcast for the State of Mind Community.
Offering ideas and answering questions on how to use your mind for growth, happiness and ultimately peace.
Send us your questions: info@somhypnosis.com
11episodes
Episodes
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You Are Not Meant To Be Like Everyone Else
3w ago00:28:14Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We spot a rare red finch and use it as a mirror for the pressure to blend in, then follow that thread into why so many “normal” days quietly feel like suffering. We treat boredom as a serious emotional signal and land on a simple question that helps us reclaim choice without blowing up our lives. • noticing how often we live by other people’s priorities • separating the task from the story our mind adds to it • boredom as a message rather than a personality trait • how prestige and “important” jobs can still feel empty • the mental loop of bills, duty, and feeling trapped • why stepping out of line gets challenged • the Monopoly analogy for staying in a losing game • asking “What do I want?” to break the patternSupport the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
Transcribe →Are You Resisting What Is? The Definition Of Suffering
4w ago00:41:31Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We talk about how suffering often comes from resisting reality, not from the hard facts themselves. We break down how judgment and rumination become habits, then share simple ways to observe what’s happening in your mind and choose a better next step. • recognizing what is beyond your control and stopping the mental fight • treating suffering as a mental habit rather than a life sentence • noticing how family, friends, and culture teach us default reactions • separating preference from judgment using the ice cream example • seeing how hate and blame isolate us and weigh on the body • using “name it to tame it” to shift from “I am” to “there is” • trying quick regulation tools like peripheral vision and long exhales • replacing endless rumination with a small, clear “what do I want now?” I know a really cool school they could join. The infinite mind.Support the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
Transcribe →How To Stop Suffering Over What You Can’t Control
4w ago00:32:40Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We get honest about the strange suffering of waiting for something you can’t force, using our six-month home sale limbo as the real-life backdrop. We explore how resistance turns into blame and rumination, then practice a cleaner pivot: shifting attention toward hope by asking “What do I want?”• the stress of selling a home and living in limbo• how “should” thinking creates unnecessary suffering• why blame fuels anger and never fixes conditions• Stoicism as choosing your response over control• Taoism and the “be like water” model of adaptation• Buddhism on attachment, resistance, and the source of suffering• using awareness and attention as a practical lever• manifestation as a hopeful mental experiment, not a guarantee• the question “What do I want?” as a doorway to possibility• letting go as stepping back from the wall• finding support through friends, yoga, and online communitySupport the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
Transcribe →How Can We Turn Gratitude Into A Daily Habit?
Jul 300:35:15Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We talk about gratitude as a mental habit we can train, not a mood we wait for. We share simple ways to observe our thoughts, shift out of worry, and land in a calmer state fast. • noticing beauty we usually take for granted, from colors outside to small comforts at home • using a gratitude jar and daily prompts as gentle reminders • stepping back to observe thoughts, then choosing what we focus on • building bedtime gratitude into a repeatable habit and pairing it with dream guidance and a notebook • defining gratitude as “this is the way it is, and it could have been different” • checking stress with one question: does this require my attention now • turning worry into planning by asking what we want and what could improve the moment • protecting our minds from negative inputs like scrolling, news, and other people’s thought patterns • closing with a tiny gratitude meditation that lifts how we feelSupport the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
Transcribe →Your Body Holds Messages: Do You Want To Hear Them?
Jul 100:40:05Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We explore why physical symptoms can connect to emotions and life events, and how a simple reframing can turn pain into useful information instead of a personal betrayal. We lean on Louise Hay’s “Heal Your Body,” nervous system basics, and our own experience with hypnosis-style listening to show how relief often starts with awareness and kinder self-talk. • Louise Hay’s symptom chart and why it can feel uncomfortably accurate • Mind-body evidence through placebo, biofeedback, and epigenetics • Emotions as messages that seek resolution rather than suppression • A real fear scenario and practical ways to calm the stress response • Longer exhales and peripheral vision as fast regulation tools • Why the body “holds” what we refuse to feel • Talking to the cells and shifting self-criticism into support • Knee pain meanings and the left-right relationship lens • Back pain themes around support and receiving help • Using affirmations alongside medication and medical careSupport the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
Transcribe →What If Some Of Your Fears Are Not True?
Jun 2900:33:26Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We pick up the third part of our fear trilogy by naming fear as a learned habit and showing how “what could go wrong” quietly becomes a lifestyle. We trade outcome obsession for a cleaner focus on why we want something, what success means to us, and what practical steps let us move forward anyway. • normalizing fear as programming rather than personal failure • how families, workplaces, and industries reward worst-case thinking • spotting the trigger moment when fear flips into “I can’t” • fear of judgment plus fear of success showing up together • shifting from outcome fixation to process and curiosity • using probabilities realistically instead of letting tiny risks run the show • the pontoon boat story as a model for moving through fear • working-from-home patterns that intensify leaving-the-house anxiety • treating fear as a friend and asking what you need to do anyway • defining success as doing what we said we would do Support the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
Transcribe →How To Act On Inspiration Without Overthinking
Jun 800:46:51Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We start with a calm early summer morning and land on a hard truth: fear makes everyday choices feel like life-or-death. We explore how inspiration shows up naturally, how judgment cuts it off, and how to return to self-trust by focusing on what we want next.• why we suffer over decisions and choices• the fear stack behind indecision: wrong, judged, stupid, unloved• why “right” and “wrong” often mean pleasing others• inspiration as relaxed creative mind and source mind• why we cannot force inspiration but can remove fear• how boredom, phones, and FOMO feed choice paralysis• how family patterns and culture train us to critique and avoid risk• the conductor mindset: create forward, ignore the crowd behind you• how monetizing everything turns joy into pressure and quitting• “what do I want right now?” as a practical prompt for inspired actionSupport the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
Transcribe →The Approval Trap: Why We Keep Seeking Worth From Others
Jun 100:43:22Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We start with the weather and end up uncovering why so many of us treat approval like oxygen. We follow the trail from womb and early childhood conditioning to adult people-pleasing, then land on practical reframes for unconditional self-love and real permission to exist. • noticing how nature exists without earning approval • tracing external validation to early survival wiring and attachment • exploring womb experience and emotional imprinting before language • walking through a regression story that explains fear of abandonment • naming conditional self-love and how it shows up as “I’ll be happy when…” • linking worthiness to social norms and the pressure to fit • using “Says who?” to challenge the should monster • adopting the student-and-teacher mindset as a path to self-acceptance If you have any questions, visit our website, drop it in the anonymous question box. See if you can spend the day saying to yourself, I love and approve of myself. Support the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
Transcribe →You Are Worthy! Part 2
May 2700:43:02Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We talk about why we want to untie ourselves from place and stuff, then use that as a bridge into the deeper question of what makes a person worthy. We challenge the myths that link self-worth to money, status, and other people’s approval, and we share a practical way to release “I’m not worthy” from the body. • wanting freedom without losing connection • the three myths of worth being external, variable, and judged by others • how “being a good worker” becomes an identity trap • why career culture turns salary and status into a value system • money stories rooted in shame, jealousy, and protection • the superiority traps on both sides of wealth and lack • how striving keeps people locked in a system and headed for burnout • questions that reveal what you truly want versus what you were taught to want • a worthiness exercise using parts work and somatic release If you have any questions, please let us know. Support the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
Transcribe →You Are Worthy! Part 1
May 2600:37:07Tap to summarizeAsk us a Question or Leave a Comment!We start with a simple scene of apple blossoms and use it to challenge the most exhausting habit many of us carry: treating our worth like something we have to earn. We explore how work, money, comparison, and early family dynamics program the feeling of “not good enough,” and how reclaiming worth opens the door to real self-love. • noticing how nature never asks permission to be worthy • questioning what determines worth and where that belief came from • recognizing the “last 15 minutes” treadmill of work approval • unpacking the matrix of status, comparison, money, and control • understanding why retirement can trigger an identity crisis • separating what we do from who we are, replacing shame with learning • digging into childhood conditioning around “good” and “bad” • practicing questions that detach worth from results and other people’s opinions Direct message us on school. Support the showWe hope this helps a little as you go through your day.We would love to hear your feedback or questions.We will respond to both in future episodes. Check us out at www.somhypnosis.comJoin our online Community! https://www.skool.com/infinite-mind-school/aboutEmail us atinfo@somhypnosis.comStart your own podcast with Buzzsprout!https://www.buzzsprout.com/?referrer_id=1810507Support Coffee With Hilary & Leshttps://www.buzzsprout.com/1829917/support
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