From Dishwasher to 1,000+ Units — Then Nearly Losing It All ft. Jarek Tadla | Coffeez

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Episode: From Dishwasher to 1,000+ Units — Then Nearly Losing It All ft. Jarek Tadla

Date: February 14, 2026

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Overview

This deeply personal and insightful episode features Jarek Tadla, a self-made real estate mogul who emigrated from Poland, started as a dishwasher, and rose to own over 1,000 multi-unit properties. Host Joseph Shalaby guides a conversation that explores not just entrepreneurial hustle and business growth, but also the invisible costs of success—including depression, broken family connections, and spiritual crisis. Jarek shares his journey from relentless striving to self-acceptance, how he rebuilt his relationship with himself and his children, and the lessons he hopes to pass on. This is a raw, honest look at the "inner game" of success, brimming with lessons for entrepreneurs and families everywhere.

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Key Discussion Points & Insights

1. Jarek’s Immigrant Journey & Real Estate Breakthrough

• Arrived in the U.S. from Poland, not speaking English, and began as a dishwasher ([00:59]).
• Early hustling: Working, studying, flipping cars, and always “doing something on my own.”
• Life-Changing Moment: Inspiration from a girlfriend’s family who owned a fourplex and lived for free through rental income.
  • "One conversation. Like, even the conversation I have right now, one sentence changed my life… They have a fourplex. They live in one of them, and they rent the other three." ([01:30])
• Rapid real estate ascent: Starting with fourplexes, leveraging financing, and scaling to thousands of units.
  • "So those three fourplexes then turned to 16, 12, and 17 units, then 50 units, 100 units, 200 units, 500 units, thousand, 2000. And it just took off." ([02:49])
• “I’m a long-term holder, not a flipper.” ([03:36])

2. The Psychology of Relentless Hustle

• Immersion in work as self-medication: “I was sedating with work... 20, 22 hours a day.” ([04:44])
• Big wins after 2008 collapse (“I won lottery... bought a lot of properties, 10 cents on the dollar.”) ([05:23])
• Emotional cost of success: Chasing validation, never feeling “enough,” escaping “the demons and the inner dialogue.”
• Burnout, divorce, and loss amid outer success.

3. Crisis, Awakening, and Recovery

• “On the top” of life but broken inside, fell into deep depression ([06:57]).
• Spiritual turning point during a suicidal low:
  • "I heard this voice... 'dude, you have absolutely everything you can imagine, and you want to take your own life. Like, you helping so many other people, you cannot help yourself.'" ([00:00], [07:38])
  • Rescued by his girlfriend’s intervention; began a long, difficult recovery.

4. From External Validation to Inner Work

• Learning to “date myself,” creating sacred time for reflection and self-connection ([10:27]).
  • "I truly take myself on a date. It's my time."
• Power of stillness and the discomfort of being alone with one’s own thoughts ([10:27]–[12:50]).
• Transformational moment: Detained for 30 hours alone at an airport led to unprecedented self-connection ([12:50]).
  • "First time in my life I was alone, without any devices, without anything. Just sit with myself with my own thoughts…Finally the meditations, everything came in… I connected with myself." ([12:54])

5. On Presence, Parenting, and Generational Cycles

• Disconnection from kids due to emotional absence—even while physically present:

  • Missed milestones, lack of undivided attention, children feeling “not enough” ([28:47]–[36:10]).
  • Heartbreaking stories of his child remembering being ignored (phone call vs. trick) and the profound impact on self-worth ([28:51]).
  • "My kids want me… But I didn’t know how to be present with them because I didn’t know how to be present with myself." ([27:46])

• The challenge: Learning to be present and form new parenting habits; owning past mistakes, striving to do 1% better each day ([40:39]).

  • "I have to learn. I have to read books. I have to listen to podcasts… I'm learning like we learn about stuff, about business." ([41:45])

• Modeling what you want to see: Kids learn from your behavior, not advice ([39:32]):

  • “You cannot tell the kids don't watch TV if you watch TV. …They watch. They watch.” ([39:36])

6. Society, Success, and Spiritual Wisdom

• On entrepreneurship’s “people-pleasing” trap and the importance of boundaries ([09:53], [18:54]).
• "Slower is faster": Business and life benefit from intentional slowing down rather than seeking constant hustle ([16:34]).
• Social media’s power—and perils. Your digital “algorithm” mirrors your mental algorithm ([20:56], [21:00]).

7. Redefining Love, Selfishness, and Abundance

• After losing his wife/kids in divorce, had to redefine love as self-love ([23:46]).
• The word “selfish” is misunderstood. If you don’t take care of yourself, you can’t care for others ([23:46]).
• Forgiveness of self is key: “Stop with the regret. Forgiving yourself is the biggest freaking gift and it’s not easy.” ([52:56])

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Notable Quotes & Memorable Moments

• On the Reason to Start in Real Estate
  "If I buy a home for 50,000 and sell it for 60, I make 10 grand, right, instead of a thousand. That was one conversation, one sentence, changed my entire life." – Jarek ([01:10])

• On the Limitations of Hustle "I was escaping truly myself, I didn’t want to deal with the demons… all the not enough, the voices, the inner dialogue that I couldn’t control. So I needed more and more and more to prove to the whole world that I’m enough, that I’m loved. And guess what? It never happened." – Jarek ([05:46])

• On Spiritual Crisis
  "I heard this voice… 'you have everything you can imagine, and you want to take your own life…you help so many other people, you cannot help yourself.'” – Jarek ([00:00], [07:38])

• On Self-Validation
  "Can you imagine? I'm 53 years old, man, that I... every single day I date myself. I truly take myself on a date, and it's my time." – Jarek ([09:53])

• On Presence With Children
  "I have no idea who the fuck I was on the phone [with]... she took this experience 16 years later and lived with her. My dad never had time for us. Everybody was more important than me." – Jarek ([28:51])

• Children’s Real Desires
  "I like to watch TV with my dad... when you don’t touch your phone. So I can stop the TV and ask you what you see." – Jarek ([35:22])

• On the Trap of Constant Activity
  "Chaos is not our friend…we hate to be bored and we hate to be still. But that is the best idea, the best creativity — it comes when we are still." – Jarek ([10:27])

• On Emotional Intelligence in Parenting
  "They’re not going to have the grit. They're not going to have the hunger… They need to have the emotional intelligence to be able to use all the resources that we have." – Jarek ([45:24])

• On Reprogramming Ourselves
  "We are the generational changers…you can program yourself the way you want to be, not what your parents told you to be." – Jarek ([42:56])

• On Legacy
  "My personal goal is: reach 8 billion people in this world — to help them find themselves, find purpose and fulfillment and happy life, to get out of the devices and the algorithm for the instant gratification..." – Jarek ([47:37])

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Timestamps — Important Segments

• [00:59]–[02:49]: Jarek’s journey from dishwasher to multi-unit owner
• [04:44]–[07:32]: The cost of relentless work, depression, and losing himself
• [07:38]–[09:02]: Suicidal episode and spiritual awakening
• [10:27]–[12:54]: The power of stillness; time alone in airport jail
• [16:34]–[18:07]: Instant gratification, dopamine, and slowing down to build real fulfillment
• [23:37]–[24:44]: Divorce, loss of children, and redefining love
• [28:47]–[36:10]: Stories about missed moments with kids and being present
• [39:32]–[41:45]: Modeling behavior, not just teaching; continuous parental learning
• [45:24]–[46:52]: Teaching emotional intelligence, not just grit or hustle, to children
• [47:37]: Jarek’s life goals
• [49:19]: Pearly gates/legacy question and answer
• [52:56]: Self-forgiveness and acceptance
• [53:33]: Where to find/connect with Jarek

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Final Reflections

• The Real Journey: Jarek’s story illustrates that outer success—money, properties, “success” stories—means little if not accompanied by inner peace, self-connection, and presence with those you love.
• Practical Lessons: Success comes from working on yourself, setting boundaries, and above all, learning to be present—in business and with family.
• You Are Enough: All lasting change starts with self-love and self-acceptance, not just new business tactics or more hustle.

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Connect with Jarek

• Instagram & YouTube: Search “Jarek Tadla”
• Key takeaway: “You got everything you need within you. Believe me, your outer world will change.” – Jarek ([41:50])

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This episode is a must-listen for every entrepreneur, parent, and high-achiever seeking not only success, but true fulfillment and connection.

Transcript

[Jarek]

I heard this voice, and it says, like, dude, you have absolutely everything you can imagine, and you want to take your own life. Like, you helping so many other people, you cannot help yourself. And I'm not you right now. 30 seconds later, Jessica, my girlfriend, comes into the room and says word for word, I'm like, are you kidding me? And she opened the blinds. You done? You're coming out like, you done? You're not sick. You good. You gotta get out of the bed.

[Podcast Host]

Welcome to another episode. Coffees. It's a pleasure having you. We've had some great discussions before the show, and you know what? What you've told me so far has been truly, truly inspirational. You know, coming from Poland to America, not knowing the English language, how did you come to a, you know, this. This country and really break through into entrepreneurship so quickly?

[Jarek]

It's funny, I. I didn't. Like, everything happened unconscious, like, you know, unconsciously, because when I got here, you know, start washing dishes and going through school and doing everything, and I truly did it. No, like, my entire life, I was always doing something on my own, like selling bottles, you know, looking for, like. Like little deals. When I was in Poland, like, you know, always looking for something, but I did not have the skill. And when I got. When I moved here, and if anybody's listening to this, I want to know. One conversation. Like, even the conversation I have right now, one sentence changed my life because I was selling my cars, and I was, like, buying cars at the auctions. So I was working full time as a dishwasher. Then I was going to school, to college, and then I was buying and selling cars at the. You know, after the accident with the, you know, with the salvage title, selling them for, like, you know, buying them cost me like, around five grand. Selling them for six grand. So on each car, I make a thousand dollars. So there was always a real estate back in my head, but it was just a real estate. If I buy a home for 50,000 and sell it for 60, I make 10 grand, right, instead of a thousand. That was one conversation, one sentence. Changed my entire life. One sentence. There was a family of my girlfriend at that time, and they said, yeah, they have a fourplex. They live in one of them, and they rent the other three. And I'm like, what? Say it again. Yeah, we have a fourplex, and those three people pay for our rent. That's it. I got home, I told my. My girlfriend, hey, by the way, we're getting married next year. We're moving to Colorado. Because, you know, I was in school in upstate New York, Rochester, if anybody knows where it is. It's a hateful place. It's miserable. It's always raining over there. And moved to Colorado, buy my first fourplex, you know, owner occupied. Then few months later I bought another fourplex, owner occupied. But the first one I bought it, I have no idea what I'm doing. So I bought it with $50,000. I sold all my cars, borrowed money and bought my first fourplex. The second fourplex, six months later I bought owner occupied. And I only pay five grand. I took like, you know, 97% financing. That third one I bought using my X credit and that's how it started. So those three four plexus then returned to 16, 12 and 17 units, then 50 units, 100 units, 200 units, 500 units, thousand, 2000. And it just took off. Wow.

[Podcast Host]

So you've just been buying multi prop, multi unit properties for decades.

[Jarek]

Yep. But I remember I'm a long term holder, I'm not a, I'm not a flipper. I'm a long term holder. I buy and hold.

[Podcast Host]

There's not the, the margins on those aren't much though that, you know, you're only making, you know, after your mortgage and everything.

[Jarek]

But what happened is when you buy something and then you hold it, you know, and then it pays off. Because what happened, the interest goes up. The interest goes up and the rents goes up and the, the equity grows and then you just take the money free out, you know, equity, you know, without taxes and you just reinvesting, reinvesting. And then you have a, if anybody listening right now have a good track record, then people will throw you money. There's so many people out there, they don't know what to do with money. You know, attorneys, doctors, people that are successful in their own businesses, they truly don't know how to turn money into more money. And you know, if you have a track record and you know how to leverage money, I mean, sky's the limit. The sky's the limit.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah. Wow. So what was that 21 year old version of you? You weren't an entrepreneur, you were just a. You know, I didn't even know the word brother.

[Jarek]

You know, when I learned the word, like maybe when I was 40, I didn't even know what it means. Like, I think everybody does. That's what you have to do. You have to, you know, be, just be good in business or there was like, I always treated my business like work, you know, and I was, I was sedating with work, you know, and like, everybody thinks sedating is a drug, alcohol. No, I was sedating with work because I worked like 20, 22 hours a day. Because that's the thing. I was good at something. Suddenly, like, you know, I was good at something and I found completely, like a high out of it until I completely, like, you know what? I have enough. I think I have enough. You know, I was waiting. 2008 came in. In 2008, I just bought a lot of properties, 10 cents on the dollar. I won lottery, so I won lottery. When I moved to United States getting a green card. And that one lottery was with 2008 happened when Lehman brought us out of business. I just bought more and more. And in 2010, it's like, that's the second time I'm like, I'm done. I retired. I don't do this again. And then two kids, three kids, four kids. I'm gonna be a dad. I'm gonna be a dad. That didn't pay out. You know, there was not enough, like, you know, I was built for more than that. So I started doing Ironman. When I started doing Ironman, then I started dating with workouts. But by rules of society, you are. You're doing something good because it's like, wow, Yarek is successful. Jarek is doing this. But the only thing I was escaping truly myself, I didn't want to deal with the demons and all the not enough the voices, the inner dialogue that I couldn't control. So I needed more and more and more to prove the whole world that I'm enough, that I'm love. And guess what? It never happened. And in 2020, when Covet happened, I got divorced and covet happens. So of course in the COVID I knew about COVID that is gonna happening like in October because they asked me to move my money. So when covet happened, I just went back to work. I started buying more real estate. And 2021, I completely crushed. Like, I'm on the top, like on the top of the mountains, you know, I'm mentally strong, I'm emotionally strong. I found a connection with God. I don't drink, I don't sedate. With drugs and alcohol. I found the love of my life. I built relationships. I'm physically fit and I'm broken inside. You know, I got sick 3 days, 6 days. Suddenly end up in day in my bed for 40, 40 days. And it's time to go. The demon got me, you know, almost got on my boat and do the less dive. But I don't wish anybody to Go through the pain.

[Podcast Host]

What was the catalyst for you to have that spiritual awakening?

[Jarek]

You know, when I was laying in bed and when I was going through, there was a lot of wake up calls were out of like niches, like touching on me. And, and I call it is the voice. It's the, you know, like I have like the good angel, the bad angel. But when I almost commit suicide, I heard his voice and it says, like, dude, you have absolutely everything you can imagine and you want to take your own life. Like you helping so many other people, you cannot help yourself. And I'm not. Right now, 30 seconds later, Jessica, my girlfriend, comes into the room and says word for word. I'm like, are you kidding me? And she opened the blinds. You're done. You're coming out like, you done. You're not sick. You good. You got to get out of the bed. And I'm like, I gotta share my journey. You know, my entire life I was looking for validation from outside sources, you know, to get successes, to, to, to get the kudos. And I'm empty on the inside. And if I have it, none of the, none of the hardship happened, none of the debt and none of the betrayal, none of the loss, none of the financial struggles. I have everything. And I go through depression and suicidal thoughts. What about people that truly, truly have a reasons to go through it?

[Podcast Host]

Yeah, they have nothing and.

[Jarek]

Exactly. And they're happy. So. So I started looking for the journey, for the happiness and follow my voice. But it took me, it took me probably two years to recover from all this stuff. You know, I mean, I'm still, I'm still, you know what I'm telling that I'm like, I'm like alcoholic, I'm workaholic. And now I'm a recovering depression holic. So it's like, you know, I mean, everything I've done, it was always to, to more, more, more. And I just realized now that more is less.

[Podcast Host]

So, you know, the life if, like, if we could just get our life to be more simple, we'd be more happy. And the more we complicate, the more that we desire things that we don't need to impress people that don't care about us.

[Jarek]

That's really. And, but I'm, you know what? I a lot of entrepreneurs, because that was my bubble. Right? We are people pleasers. Okay. Yes. We do this for ourselves, like, you know, but, but we just do it just this for employees. This is for the kids, this is for wives. This. We do everything for everybody. We don't do it for ourselves. Can you imagine? I'm 53 years old, man, that I, you know, every single day I date myself. I truly take myself on a date and it's my time.

[Podcast Host]

How do you date yourself? I'm curious for myself.

[Jarek]

I truly, like, this is an hour nobody can interact. I don't do the phone and I stay with my own tasks with myself. I don't run the errands. I don't. Yeah, no, no, no. I do that anyway. No, that. That's what happened. Is when you. Stillness and boredom for entrepreneur is the best ever. But because we cannot. We only. We think we can only work with chaos. Chaos is our friend. No, chaos is not our friend. We hate to be bored and we hate to be still. And this was the best idea, the best creative. It comes and we feel uncomfortable when I sit down. First time. When you're successful, you have a lot of, you know, enemies, right? So I have a. I have a deal that went sour in Dominican Republic. And I got under, you know, the. The guy got me under red notice, Interpol notice. So I'm flying to Panama and you know, when I. When I landed, there's like, you know, come with us. I'm like, for what? I'm like, do you have a business in American Republic? I'm like, yeah, I do. I just came back last week. Wow, there is a problem. You have a red notice, Interpol red notice. I'm like, okay, I didn't do. So they stopped me for the interview for 24 hours. Which 24 hours end up 30 hours in. In prison. Like, not a prison. It's like a airport jail. Can you imagine being 50 years old? First time in my life I was alone for 30 hours. The first two hours I was pissed as hell. I can buy this S. But those assholes, they don't know who the hell I am. And then I just spend the time with myself. When I got home, Jessica was like, how you doing? And crying. All this stuff. My kids, dad, dad, dad. I'm like, this was the best time in my life. First time in my life I was alone, without any devices, without anything. Just sit with myself with my own thoughts my whole life. When like, finally the meditations, everything came in the prayers. And I finally connected with myself. We don't give ourselves a time when we get bored, when we get sick of. We always want to do something. Especially entrepreneurs. I'm not useful. I'm not. If I don't do anything, I'm not contributing to the society. Shut the up. Sit with Yourself, listen, be bored, be still, talk to you, spend the time with your own thoughts. Find out who you truly are. Why you doing all this stuff for? Because there's no amount of money that's gonna make you enough. There's always somebody with a bigger yacht, with the bigger jet, with a bigger helicopter, with more houses, more businesses, with pretty wife. You know, it's stop. You truly got everything within you and, and just listen to the voice. Listen to who you truly, truly, who truly you are.

[Podcast Host]

What you're saying resonates so much with me because I am that guy who cannot sit by myself. Like, I just have to be stimulated all the time.

[Jarek]

You sitting 20 minutes though, the, this,

[Podcast Host]

the only stillness I get is when I podcast.

[Jarek]

Okay.

[Podcast Host]

And I get to interview someone. You know, I, I, I obviously have my phone for, for the questions, but like, I don't, like, I'm on the go, you know, I'm. Multiple businesses, podcast content, this, that, the other four kids activities, and they're all in multiple sports. It's like running a million miles an hour. But when I do get five minutes to sit with myself and reflect, when, like when I drive home, I don't put music on. Like, it's like therapy just to just be in silence. And there's still just a million sounds in my brain, you know, but for an hour of just pure stillness and which is an incredible goal for me, that would be life changing.

[Jarek]

It doesn't have to start with an hour and get goosebumps. It doesn't have to be an hour, brother, because what happened? You know how to build new routines. It can start with 10 minutes. 10 minutes become 20, 20 becomes 30. But it's uncomfortable telling grown ass man to sit with yourself, like, what the hell's wrong with you? And the thoughts are coming and I'm telling you everything. Who the hell come up with this shit? Like I was when my coach first time sent me to the. Do you have like any, any, any, any homes? Your favorite homes? I'm like, there's a beach home that I absolutely love it. He said, go there for three days and sit there without anything. What are you talking, three days? Like, dude, I cannot find five minutes. You know the story we tell ourselves. Dude, you, you don't, you have no idea about my schedule. I don't have five minutes. He goes, that's the problem. That's the problem. What do you mean you don't have five minutes? You know, all the stuff that I created, my head is like, that's what I have to do. This, this, this, this is this. And guess what? We cannot multitask. If the men are listening to this. We men cannot multitask. It's over. We cannot walk and shoot a gun because we bite the tongue. We cannot. But guess what? That's what we're doing. So we don't do nothing. We're not present with our kids. We're not present. That's why so many divorces. We're not present with our kids. We're not present with our. And that's what. We're not present with the employees. We're not present with ourselves. We're not present with anybody. When you connect with yourself, brother, there's nothing better. It's like you, you, you overflowing. But what happened is our bucket is getting empty and emptier and you cannot satisfy with all this money. Oh, we're not a businesses or we're not a book and not a title and not a metal. It cannot, it gets empty and you break. Like me.

[Podcast Host]

How do you fill your cup? I was having the same discussion with someone at the dinner table two days ago. It's like this. Gen Z cannot work in like customer service because they have nothing left in their cup. They're so stimulated by phones and, you know, all the things around them that by the time they go to interact with humans, they're just like, they don't know how.

[Jarek]

Well, that's, you know what happiness is? We want the instant gratification. And here what happened is when you want the instant gratification, you're scrolling the phone. That's the instant gratification. Having a drink, getting a, you know, line of cocaine, you know, that's the dopamine level. It hits so much the happiness when the dopamine level is for the next 20, 30, 50 years, that's what the happiness. But we are not patient. We want everything now. You want a car, let's buy a car. Well, you cannot afford it. Well, let's get a credit. Let's buy a home. Let's buy business like everything. And we over leverage ourselves financially, emotionally, mentally, spiritually. Yeah, yeah, God, yeah, I got the time for this. Read the Bible. Yeah, I got the time for this. What about the kids? Yeah, you know, we're trying to rush it. Slower, brother, is faster. Try to build a business. When you slow down, it's next level. Try to build relationship with the, with the wife or whether you partner or with the kids. When you take what you slow down. It's amazing. But the problem, we got to find connection with Ourselves. I could not connect with myself, I could not connect it with God, so I could not connect with the wives. And I'm not the guy that gives you like a marriage devices. I'm a third one. So I, I definitely have. I'm zero for three brother. So I don't have a good track record, you know what I mean? Even my own kids stop talking to me for a year or two. So it's, it's. I'm not the guy to give you advices on that. I'm the pro, I'm the work in progress. I'm the work in progress.

[Podcast Host]

We're all work in progress. Yeah, but your progress is further than mine and your wisdom is much more profound than mine right now. So it's like I'm all in on listen to you and applying it.

[Jarek]

It's awareness in the consciousness level because we are energy and we got to raise it, you know, I mean having the awareness and understanding that we the energy and we have to connect with ourselves. It's. Everybody will benefit from you. Everybody. You guys will love to be around you. Everybody like people.

[Podcast Host]

How do you slow down? How do you slow down when you're fed so much from society and you have so. And you're this high performer and you're a big CEO and you got all this other stuff and everybody's like asking for this and the other. And you got kids and this. How do you slow down?

[Jarek]

Boundaries. Look at this shit. The boundaries. But if you don't have a boundaries with yourself because you never give a time to yourself, how can you give a boundaries to somebody else? We want to give, give, give. There's nothing else to give. Boundaries. I don't even know what it means. I didn't even know what it means. And the problem is I was never present. Everybody need to have access to me. My phone's got to have access to me. This is like we are addicts. And show me any successful person. I can guarantee you he's an addict. I can guarantee you that it's addictive personality. That's why I don't drink anymore. That's why I don't do drug anymore. Because what. I start drinking very late in my life, very late. I already retired twice and I knew if I go this way it's not gonna work. I mean now I come to LA and of course I'm in la. So let's do podcasts because this is my new mission. I know I'm an addict now. I want to serve, I want to help 8 billion people to realize that the inner world that we create, our outer world through the inner world. But we don't take care of ourselves. That's why so much toxicity, so much hate in this world, so much killing, so many wars. We are divided by the politics, by the religion, by men, women, by transgender, by color, by social status, by financial status. And I know of the day, we just want to be loved and connect with other people. That's what we were born here for. But we're playing this comparison game. Social media is the biggest gift, brother. And guess what? We're just looking, we're scrolling. Like I can look at like the, the algorithm. And I know who you're gonna be three, five years from now. Like I tell my kids, give me, tell me what you read, give me your routines, tell me, show me what you look at on the, on there. Because social media is the biggest gift. If you know how to use it,

[Podcast Host]

how would you recommend using it based on your own analytics?

[Jarek]

Well, mostly I give you that. I will go back to the question and it's a true story and love you, brother. I know you're gonna. You know what I'm talking, who I'm talking about? I have my amazing friend, he's my attorney, right, and he's in Colombia. Something through my feet came a feat as like Colombia, we don't say papa, we say papacito, you know, cocaine, drugs, alcohol, blah blah, blah, what goes to Colombia, stay in Colombia. And, and he moved to Colombia and I saw the, the, the clip and I sent it to him as a joke. It's like, oh, that's why you're in Colombia, brother. For the next three days, my whole algorithm changed. I have only Colombia. I have cocaine, I have alcohol and all this stuff. But that's what we do to ourselves. We got to change the algorithm with us. What thoughts process we put in, you know, what love we put in, what food we put in, what drink we put in, what the exercise we put in, what boundaries we put in and the stillness and what, how do we treat ourselves? You know, I'm a 53 years old man that goes in the mirror every day like, I love you, motherfucker. I'm gonna take care of you today. I neglect you for so many years. I will take care of you. I will put a good thoughts in you, lovable thoughts. I will talk to God. I will put a faith in you. And it's just.

[Podcast Host]

You do that every day, Just affirmation.

[Jarek]

Every single day. Every single day.

[Podcast Host]

We do.

[Jarek]

If you are full, everybody Will benefit. Can you imagine, like, running on the empty tank in a car and you're on the highway, it's like, it's a traffic and there's nothing like, how am I gonna get there?

[Podcast Host]

I don't know how to get full. I don't. I don't know how to fill my cup. It's like, especially after you get a divorce and you're kind of like, searching again for meaning because I'm like you. It's like, here I am. It's like success, money, all that. We got that now. Here I am, like, building a brand, podcasting. It's like a totally different venture. Not paying. It's like my contribution to society, you know, trying to, like, impact the world. Yet you. You're. You're still trying to fill your cup.

[Jarek]

Because, see, what happened is when you get to divorce, like, when that happened, right? To me, divorce happened six years ago. Right. You have to understand my. My definition of love. It was my wife and my kids. This was my definition.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah.

[Jarek]

And now suddenly I'm 48 years old, man. And it was taken away.

[Podcast Host]

48.

[Jarek]

It was taken away from me.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah.

[Jarek]

Anything I ever put a vocabulary in. Love, that's. What is that. I need somebody to love. And the little Yarek was, fuck you, asshole. What about me? Where are you gonna take care of me? But it took me years after divorce, after all this stuff, to find out that I'm the most important. If you tell people, selfish, it's a bad word. You know what, it may be, but if you don't take care of yourself, you're not going to be able to care of anybody else. Love is loving you. You are love. You are abundance. You don't need anything from the outside. Anything can be taken away. Not you. You know, is there a bankruptcy? You know, there's bankruptcy. There's, you know, you know, a hardship. Anything's going on. The kids, the wife that, you know, you lose. Close one. It's normal. It's going to happen. Nobody can take away you.

[Podcast Host]

You know, the. You contextualize it in a way that's so understandable. It's like your wife can leave you, your kids will leave at some point, your business partner leaves your. Everybody moves on, and it will happen, but you don't move.

[Jarek]

God will send you the obstacles to teach you a lesson. God loves you, and we are on this world to serve. We're not entitled to shit. We already got our body. We're already alive. That's the biggest entitlement you can possibly get. And we're not thankful for that. You know that I start thanking my body after the ski accident when I end up in hospital 6 months, 13 surgery, almost lost my leg. I was always grateful. I never thanked my body. I never think my heart to beat. I never said that. Thank you. That I have hands, that I have a brain, that I can comprehend. Never said that I have to go through tragic accident to like, holy I'm alive. I have a legs, I have a hand, I have everything else.

[Podcast Host]

Was it the ski accident that created this transformation? Was that a catalyst?

[Jarek]

I was, yeah. You know what it was? You know what it was the first obstacle that I missed that got sent to me. It's time to wake up, get out of the bubble. The reality that, the delusional reality that you know, from the outside world, that was the first. But I did not get the message. So that's what first was the skin. Then, then it was divorce. Then after divorce, was losing my kids for a while. That was like that, that, that was

[Podcast Host]

like, how do you lose your kids? For a while they just decided not to call you or there's an issue.

[Jarek]

I remember I have two older kids. So what happened is, you know, they remember when I never played the. Because remember I played the. I was never present father. So when I played the world. Why yeah, Dad, I want to do this. This. Well, you got everything, you know, so it's like, well, but I want to go to daddy father dance. I'm like, well, I don't do that. But all the fathers do. Well, do they live like us? No. So, you know, I was like, dad, I want to talk to you. And I was like, I'm in the man cave. I just did hundred miles on the bike. I don't have time for that. My kids want me. So they never have a message for me. They always have a, you know, mom is to. To raise you. I'm here to protect you and make sure that you have everything, you know, provided. So I did, I did my work. The kids language. Love is not a love. It's time. But I never give him a time. So when divorce happen and mama have all the dialogue for, you know, 10, 15, 16 years they were older. Guess what they listen to Mom. They don't listen to that. Who are you now you going to. Oh, now you father where you were for the last 16, 18, 12 years over my life and I own it, I deserve it because I was never present, but I didn't know how to be present with them because I didn't know how to be present with myself. There was always something. So they listened to the dialogue that they've been listening. I was always in raising my kids on the back seat. Not even on the driver's seat. On the back seat. Yeah. Go to mom. Go to mom. Go to mom. You know what I mean? I just wrote the check.

[Podcast Host]

We all, you know, mom is the primary caretaker. There's not much we can do as, as fathers.

[Jarek]

No. I have my kids now. Seven. Seven. And, and it's like, you know what I believe again. That's, that's, that's what the society wants us to, to, to believe. But what happened is we are the kid. Because what happened is we can spend time and be present with our kids and we never are because we're busy.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah.

[Jarek]

You know that my dad, I, I was going, nataka, I love you so. But I'm gonna say it. A year ago, six months ago, I was driving with my oldest daughter. She got a job in Montonk. And I was driving to.

[Podcast Host]

Where's Montauk?

[Jarek]

Montauk. Long Island. Right, Montauk.

[Podcast Host]

Okay.

[Jarek]

Right. And I'm like, let me drive with you so I can go. You know, I, I drive with you. I love it. So we, and I, you know, spent, you know, father daughter time. She told me a story that she learned how to ride a bike. Some kind of trick. She remembered detail for detail that she came home. She was waiting for me to show me the trick. I got out of the car, out of the garage. I was on the phone, brother, I have no idea who the fuck I was on the phone. I don't remember that shit at all. I was on the phone and she was waiting to show me the trick. Finally, she has to go back. She has to go back to bed, you know, because of her bedtime. She never did. She still remembered that. I have no idea who I was on the phone with, who was my client, if I make money or not. But she took this experience 16 years later and live with her. My dad never had time of us. Everybody was more important than me. I don't even know. I don't even remember that, but she does. I, I'm just teaching, I'm preaching, I'm telling like all the stuff. I'm going on the stages. I'm going to podcast. Six months ago, I'm coming back. I, I have a podcast with some. I don't know, I was in the, in my group with Dean, Dean and Tony and, and my son text me that there's a graduation and everybody wants to Write a letter, you know, for. For him for graduations. So that. Just, you know, make sure that you guys write the siblings rise, you know, the uncles and. And everybody that know my son. Because middle school graduation. When I got out of the. The podcast, it was like, I have like 380. I remember that I have 300 text messages, and there was like, probably 20 for my kids. But I just scroll through it about this message. I'm driving from Miami. I was on the stage. I'm driving to Miami with my best friend. My son calls me, crying. I can't believe it. I can't believe it. I'm like, wow, what happened? And he's crying. Dad. Today they were revealing the letters. Everybody got 10, 20 letters. Six letters. I got one. I'm like. I start crying, like, are you kidding me? Now I have to process this in for a month because now imagine like, he's not important. He got. You know how many uncles he has, and he's got four siblings. He got one letter just out of my house. He could get six. He got one. He trusted me. He sent me the text message because he knew I'm gonna send to my brothers for my brother. He just for my brotherhood. He will get like 100 letters. He got one because dad wasn't present. Dad scrolled through the text messages because, you know, he got 278 text messages. And that's what we do. And I could hurt my son for the rest of his life. I wasn't ever important. I was never enough. My dad never cared. My dad never loved me. Dude, I was in the podcast. I got 380 text messages. I can give you a lot of excuses.

[Podcast Host]

He doesn't care about those.

[Jarek]

No, but that's what we do to ourselves. I'm getting goosebumps. That's what we do to ourselves too. The loved one are waking us up, but we don't listen. Son, daughter, you don't get it. Like, I have a. You know, my third wife goes like, I don't care about the money. I just want you. Yeah, because we have all the money. Shut up. Where I'm gonna learn the lesson. We want to do everything for everybody, nothing for ourselves. When we become priority, when we become present with ourselves, then suddenly, even being a dis. I'm present. I have a lot of discs going right now. I can beat my head somewhere else and be here. I'm like, when the fuck this is gonna finish? It took me years to learn this too. I have a high. I'm on the high spectrum. Of adhd. Me sitting here is like a more than you can imagine.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah, me too.

[Jarek]

Yeah.

[Podcast Host]

Super high performers are always.

[Jarek]

Yeah.

[Podcast Host]

At the highest section.

[Jarek]

It's a gift. It's a gift.

[Podcast Host]

You know, matter of fact, I was talking to my son's teacher, and I. And I, by design, I tried yarik to go to everything now for my kids because I'm like, I don't care about money anymore. Like, I'm gonna go. I'm gonna go to practices, I'm gonna go to this.

[Jarek]

But do you go when you're on the phone?

[Podcast Host]

That's the problem.

[Jarek]

So you're not there. You. You see, that's you not going there.

[Podcast Host]

Like, I'm still working.

[Jarek]

Can you imagine? Like, you were doing this process right now. I'll be on the phone. Can you imagine that? Or, like, going to the dinner. I have the phone and be on the phone. I can tell you, you go to dinner with me and you on the phone, and we can make a hundred or billion dollar deal. I can guarantee you the deal is not done. We done. I'm not doing deal with you. You disrespect me if the phone is more important. Amen. You disrespect the server, the busboy, that, anybody. We done. And we do it. So I'm there. Another story. I met my girl and my son went to the dentist. And I told him, that's a good one. And I told him, son, after the dance, we're gonna go rollerblading and we're gonna go for breakfast. And now I'm gonna take you to school. We went rollerblading, went for the breakfast. I just met this girl, right? It was like five, six years ago, and. And we've been dating like six months. And she asked him a question. Patrick, so what do you like to do with your father? Like, oh, yeah, watch this. Watch. He's gonna say, we're going to the, you know, all the leg. I mean, all the Miami Heat games, you know, we on the floor or the boxes. We go to the hockey game, to the Dolphins game, Denver Broncos game. We fly, you know, our jet. We're going skiing, you know, and the same day we're going skiing and. And scuba diving. Like, wow, Teller. I mean, I'm thinking in my head, you're not gonna believe this. He goes, I like to watch TV with my dad. I'm like, yeah, tell her more. Tell her more. Tell her. Tell her all the stuff we do, the games. That is like, no, I like to watch TV with you, dad. I'm like what? There must be something more. Ready? Yes. That I like to watch TV with you when you don't touch your phone. So I can stop the TV and ask you what you see. And, and I can talk about the movie. Brother, my teardrop. Like, what the. What the. Like, what do we do, brother? What the do we do? We do this unconsciously, but we do it with ourselves too.

[Podcast Host]

So rude awakening for me personally. And that's what your kids want, you know, it's like that undivided attention.

[Jarek]

That's it.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah. And mastering that is so hard.

[Jarek]

Yarek, what are you feeling now? Because I see your body is going nuts right now. This is your podcast. I know, brother, I know. By the way, I make people cry on my podcast.

[Podcast Host]

Me too. You know, it's, it's always emotional, but it's like I can just hear my son's voice saying that to me. It's like, dad, get off your phone. My 5 year old telling me that, you know, like I could see him like at football. Like, did you see me pull the flag? I'm on the phone, but I saw him pull the flag. Give him a thumbs up. I can see the disappointment, you know? Sucks.

[Jarek]

Remember, we all guilty.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah.

[Jarek]

The devil give us bribes a little bit. This, this, this. And then we just in it and we're in the game.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah.

[Jarek]

And remember, they're gonna raise the kids. I'm a father of five. Listen. Consciously, unconsciously. My parents, my teachers hurt me. They didn't know. They programmed me the way they were programmed by the pain, by lack of knowledge, by lack of wisdom, lack of awareness. I did the same thing. And now I'm speaking to wake the people up. That we have everything within us and we need to be present. We got to connect with ourselves. We've got to connect with our kids. So there is less suicides. People are happier. People don't look for the instant gratification, you know, I mean, and, and, and because that's. They gonna model exactly what you do, you know? Like I read 12 books a week. And what happened? I was always reading the books on audiobooks so they can, you know, I mean, and my friend told me a few years ago, it's like, like, dude, you read so much. Like, dude, your kids read, right? And I'm like, no. And he goes, you read so much. I'm like, oh, no, I don't read the audiobooks. Like, I, I don't have time for that. Like, I like the audiobooks. And he goes, so how does your kids know your kids Thinks that you on the phone all the time doing business or scrolling or social media or something. I'm like, what the hell? I start reading now. My kids start, like, start putting books. Start, you know, going to. My daughter, 13, went to, like, a, you know, Barnes and Nobles buying books. I was like, wow. I did not tell him I don't eat sugar for two years. Don't eat sugar. Don't eat ice cream. It's bad for you, baba. But yet I'm eating sugar. My son just lost, like, start cutting, like, you know, £17. Just cutting sugar. You cannot tell the kids. Don't watch tv. You watch tv. Don't watch the. The. You know, I mean, the phone and then. Do you watch? They watch.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah, they see, dude, but I work.

[Jarek]

Look at the way you live. Shut the up. Like, don't complain. They don't care about any of this. Seriously, they better be with me at the economy class in the last row of the seas than on my private jet. And it's. That's what I care. That's what I want. Tadlock kids don't wait in line. They do now. I met my girl. We're flying to Poland. We're in the first class line. And I'm like, no, come here. This is a line. You know, this is like, you know, I pay $6,000 for the ticket to go to Europe. And he goes like, no, I'm back over there with the economy. I'm like, no, no, this is our line right here. I pay for it. This is like, this is the. And she goes, we're still going to the same place. We're still getting under one plane. I'm like, what the hell is wrong with you? We're entitled to all this stuff.

[Podcast Host]

So now with your kids, like, you're present. No phone, brother.

[Jarek]

I'm still screwing this up. We just talked before the podcast, right? It's like, you. You gotta do better 1% every day. You will screw up. I, like, I. I just grew up, like, a few months ago with the freaking. With the letter. I screw up all the time. But catching and, like, knowing and having the awareness. I want to be present. I want it. Like, I'm trying to do everything. I'm trying to make up the time that I lost. But the problem is we cannot change the past. We can only change the future. And actually, the moment is now. I'm trying, but it's not in my subconscious mind to sit, be present, and talk to the kids. I have to learn this stuff. It's uncomfortable. I don't know how to ask questions even. How was your day? I don't even know that. I was never present. I have to learn. I have to read books. I have to listen to podcasts. I have to listen to social media of parenting. I'm learning like we learn about stuff, about business.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah.

[Jarek]

You know, this is what.

[Podcast Host]

This is more important than business.

[Jarek]

Believe me, when you and I can guarantee you who anybody's listening to right now, when you connect with yourself and you become present and you really figured out that your inner world, truly, truly, in few years, creates your outer world, your business, the abundance will come. You are love, you are abundant, and you got everything you need within you. Believe me, your. Your outer world will change. You will get to the plane, you will get to another house. You will get to the beach house, the ski house, whatever you want. The European house, European. Everything will get there. But take your time. Slower is better. We are. We are on the journey. And the journey, there's no destination. It's who we become on the journey. That's why we have all the hardships. You know, for me was the ski trip. For me, I mean, ski. Ski accident. To me was the divorce. First, second, third. For me was the kids. You know, I mean, financial struggles. It was. Was it just the lessons? But it's nice to learn from those lessons. But we are programmed by our parents. We got to reprogram ourselves. You know how nice this. You know how nice it is to program yourself the way who you want to be? That's what your parents told you to be. I love my parents. My parents are still alive. They're 85, 82. They have no idea what they want to be to make them happy. They still don't know they're gonna die like that. We are the generational changers.

[Podcast Host]

We have the resources to figure out,

[Jarek]

like, how to improve and program yourself from inside out. How. Who do you truly want to be and who you truly are? And it's not gonna take a month or a year. It's a journey, brother. But, you know, when I. We're not people, you don't want to ask people like, who are you? The first thing, I'm entrepreneur. I'm a father. You know, I'm a boss. I'm the husband. I'm. People give you all the titles, what the identity, who. Who truly you are. Like, like, like, like I. And. And my question, like, who. Who is the addict? It keep changing. I keep evolving and keep finding who I am, but you're not gonna hear me. I'm the father. I'm an entrepreneur, or I'm a, you know, business, real estate guru. I'm a little Polish guy trying to figure out life, and I want to share with the world so they don't freaking stop killing themselves. They go through depression or through the burnout. The burnout is a bullshit story. We're just chasing something that we never will chase.

[Podcast Host]

Got a couple last questions. This one's about raising your kids. How are you? Because, you know, you came dead broke from Poland and you built an empire, a real estate empire. How are you instilling that same level of grit, that mindset into your kids to really work hard to accomplish the same kind of lifestyle? Because they've been handed everything. Flying on private jets, sitting on, you know, the floor seats of the Miami. How do you instill hustle into kids that are, you know, given, you know, a true silver spoon? I mean, a silver spoon is not even. It's an understatement.

[Jarek]

Look at this. That's a good question, actually. And I've been asked the question a lot. And, you know, like, the question comes a lot around very wealthy families, a lot at the dinner tables when we sit down and talk. And the answer is one, we got to teach them. They're not gonna have the grit. They're not gonna have the hunger. They not. They don't need to. They need to have the emotional intelligence to be able to use all the resources that we have. We give it to them, and that's hard. Not the iq, not the bq, business intelligence, not the technology, the tq, the eq, the emotional intelligence. Being able to use all the resources and all the knowledge that you. My parents, my grandparents, the past. Because there are so many families I follow so many families. They're wealthy from generation to generation. That's what they do. That's what we got to implement. Bring the awareness.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah, like, Trump was given, what, $100 million to start.

[Jarek]

But so what? Yeah, but we could do this. But then he took it and took it the next level.

[Podcast Host]

Yeah. And then how his younger and his boys now.

[Jarek]

Yeah.

[Podcast Host]

Eric Trump became a billionaire on his own. Started.

[Jarek]

You know, it is emotional intelligence.

[Podcast Host]

Being a great job teaching them.

[Jarek]

Being able. Exactly. Being able. It's like, what. You cannot just not give it to them. You got to give it to them. You spoil them, but you gotta. You gotta teach them how to use it. And when you're not present, you cannot do it. You can use. You can do it. Your kids will not start like my kids. They're not. Not suddenly I'm gonna start listening because the father said so.

[Podcast Host]

Couple last questions. This is a goal question. What's a personal goal that you have for yourself, A family goal that you have for your family? And I don't even know if you have any business goals, but we'll throw that in there too.

[Jarek]

My personal goal is reach 8 billion people in this world to help them to find themselves, find the purpose and fulfillment and happy life to get out of the devices and the algorithm for the instant gratification and quick dopamine hits. So rich people to enjoy the journey, not the destination and the person they become on a journey. So that's my personal. I want to reach 8 billion people. Am I delusional? Maybe I am, but that's my goal and it wakes me up every single morning. What is a goal for my family? Definitely reunite them, help them. Make sure that my kids truly know who they are. Not what the father wants them, that's what the mother wants them, when that's what the society wants them to. What they truly, truly want and find a purpose and fulfillment in life and happiness for business. I want to change my culture, my companies. So it's very hard in business. Be not transactional, but just change the culture. Like, like my, my emphasis will be just whatever I'm, I'm teaching, I'm preaching. When I'm gonna go on the stages, my books. It just change the culture of my company and be more present and spend more time with them, you know, I mean, because they have access to me.

[Podcast Host]

One last question. When you're in front of the pearly gates, what do you think God's gonna tell you?

[Jarek]

You did pretty good during your life. You know, I. It's. You know what? That's. That's a good. It's funny, I talk about it two days ago to my friend. I think there our life is preparing us for afterlife. So you better go and surf and whatever you're going through, hard or good, go share it with some people because people need to hear your story. And I think that's the biggest thing that I'm preparing for my afterlife. But I'm going to still live another 70 years, brother. I'm obsessed. If it comes to my. My health and you know what I put in and sorry, I'm completely obsessed with that. So.

[Podcast Host]

No, we all are. We're all biohacking, we're all cutting.

[Jarek]

You know, I'm huge on biohacking. I'm huge on the soul hacking. I want to figured out like more who truly, truly. I Am and, and the longevity, it's huge. But I'm also go deep in the spirituality, my soul, my spirit, my heart, my love, faith with God, faith with who we truly are. That's. That, that's. That's my goal. Now.

[Podcast Host]

You look like you're gonna live another 70 years.

[Jarek]

Oh, hell yeah. Watch me. I have more energy right now being 53 than I was 16 or 20.

[Podcast Host]

I'm the most, I'm in the best shape, the most energetic I've ever been myself now I'm 44. Yeah. So I get it.

[Jarek]

I'm telling you that global, you know, like this financially, like globally, financially, we are connected. The same thing with. Through all the wisdom, education and technology and the biohacking. Now there's a guy from India. We, we all sharing the wisdom right now. We have access. We don't need the doctor, we don't need an attorney. We don't need anybody anymore. We can access it from everywhere else so we can live better quality life, you know, have and, and up to. I, I tell people when you fix your inner world and you freaking truly happy, suddenly you only see happiness outside. I'm telling you, your wife is hotter, you have a better sex, your partner, your kids are smarter. Because suddenly when you truly only have love and positivity and, and, and like ecstasy in you, you only see the good stuff. Suddenly you don't see the bad stuff. So that's what that. That would be my biggest goal.

[Podcast Host]

Yarek. This has been one of my favorite podcasts. This is.

[Jarek]

Thank you, brother.

[Podcast Host]

Lots of profound wisdom. You've been very, very inspirational, motivational, and it's a true testament that, you know, who cares about money? I mean, I know like we fortunately, like money came as a result or byproduct of our efforts, but it's our inner self that's like the most important. And you really inspired me to really reflect more. And despite the fact if there's anybody listening, like, just if you touch one soul, the show is worth it. I'm sure you're gonna touch a lot of souls.

[Jarek]

Thank you, brother.

[Podcast Host]

God bless you. I hope you hit all of your goals, you know, and, and may there be more fruit in the relationship and growth with your children and all the people. And I hope, you know, you touch 8, 10, 20 billion people because I know that you're gonna live another hundred years.

[Jarek]

There you go. We have time. And that's funny, whoever listens right now, we do have lots of time. Nothing has to happen now. And, and well, I supposed to be a lot farther than this in life. No, you're supposed to be exactly where you are. You know, I mean, stop with the regret. Forgiving yourself is the biggest freaking gift and it's not easy to forgive yourself. Well, because I. I should if I would have. Shut up. We are here today. We're exactly where we're supposed to be. That's it. Yeah.

[Podcast Host]

If people want to connect with you, how do they find you?

[Jarek]

Find me on Instagram, YouTube. Instagram channel is the best one. My first and my last name. I'm gonna put a link and YouTube all my social media. When you. When you put my name, you will find me.

[Podcast Host]

J A R E J R E K so thank you. Tada. Thanks. It's been a. Thank you. It's been a pleasure to have you on the show. It's been an absolute blessing. I'm inspired. I'm pumped up. God bless you. Thank you for, for jumping on coffees for closures. Y tod make sure you connect with him, guys. This guy is going to change the world. God bless. Thanks for tuning in.