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Compassion in a T-Shirt
Hosted by Dr Stan Steindl · EN
A podcast exploring the science and practice of compassion. Offers clear and practical advice on how to cultivate compassion and self-compassion from experts in the field. Life can be difficult, and this podcast is designed to help. Compassion in a T-Shirt has featured guests including Professor Paul Gilbert, Professor Terri Moyers, Professor James Doty, Deirdre Fay, Dr Chris Germer, Dr Kristin Neff, Dr Marcela Matos, Dr James Kirby, and more.
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Therapist Burnout & the Fixer Mindset | Tania Kalkidis
4d ago00:53:23Summary readyWhat if therapist burnout isn’t a personal failure, but a consequence of how we train psychologists to relate to themselves?In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I speak with clinical psychologist and psychotherapist Tania Kalkidis about therapist burnout, the pressure to “fix” clients, and how modern mental health systems can unintentionally reinforce shame, perfectionism, emotional disconnection, and exhaustion in clinicians themselves.Drawing on psychodynamic psychotherapy, relational therapy, attachment theory, neuroscience, and supervision practice, Tania explores why unconscious processes, defenses, and countertransference are central to effective therapy — not optional extras. We discuss how ignoring the therapist’s own internal experience can lead to resistance, misattunement, self-criticism, discouragement, and burnout for both therapist and client.One of the things I found especially powerful in this conversation was Tania’s emphasis on the hidden shame many therapists carry around not knowing, struggling, or needing support themselves. We talk about emotional safety in supervision, why negative supervisory experiences can become deeply wounding, and how reflective practice and self-awareness are essential for sustainable therapeutic work.Along the way, we explore attachment, epigenetics, implicit memory, social mentalities, emotional safety, and the relational dynamics unfolding moment to moment inside the therapy room. Tania also introduces her “Parallel Realities” model, designed to help clinicians normalise their inner experiences, reduce harsh self-criticism, and reconnect with confidence, curiosity, compassion, and meaning in their work.If you’re a psychologist, therapist, counsellor, supervisor, or mental health practitioner interested in psychodynamic psychotherapy, Compassion Focused Therapy, therapist burnout, attachment theory, unconscious processes, supervision, and the deeper emotional realities of therapeutic work, I think you’ll find a lot in this conversation.Tania also shares details of her free webinar on using Socratic questioning to help therapists move beyond exhaustion and the fixer mindset.Timestamps:00:00 Therapist Burnout And The Fixer Trap02:09 Why Therapists Become Fixers03:56 System Pressures And Training Gaps09:48 Resistance, Pressure, And Client Impact14:54 Modern Psychodynamic Therapy Explained18:23 The Unconscious And Implicit Memory22:15 Attachment, Neuroscience, And Epigenetics26:51 Why The Therapist’s Inner World Matters32:51 The Parallel Realities Model42:14 Emotional Safety In Supervision44:55 Burnout Prevention And Self Reflection49:24 Encouragement For Exhausted Therapists51:52 Webinar And ClosingLinks:Tania Kalkidis’s website:https://deepmindpt.com/If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/ Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/ Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/ YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/ZlfSyMLkHMM *Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support! Video hashtags: psychology, psychodynamictherapy, therapistburnout, compassionfocusedtherapy, psychotherapy, attachmenttheory
SummaryShould Therapists be More Human? | Glenn Roberts
2w ago00:53:05Summary readyHow personal should therapists be?Should helping professionals maintain emotional distance — or is genuine human connection part of what makes therapy healing?In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I speak with consultant psychiatrist, writer, and editor Dr Glenn Roberts about one of the most important questions in therapy, psychiatry, and helping work: how much of ourselves should we bring into the room?Beginning with Carl Jung’s powerful idea of the wounded healer — “The doctor is effective only when he himself is affected” — we explore what it really means for clinicians to be touched by the suffering of others without becoming overwhelmed.Glenn offers a rich and compassionate perspective on the bridge between the personal and the professional. We discuss vulnerability, emotional openness, supervision, personal therapy, professional culture, and the difference between healthy boundaries and emotional barriers.This conversation also touches on the depersonalising effects of modern healthcare systems, the unintended costs of highly competitive training cultures, and why warmth, kindness, and compassion may be among the most therapeutic qualities a clinician can bring.We also venture into the emerging world of AI therapy, asking whether something fundamentally human is lost when care becomes entirely impersonal.One especially moving part of the conversation is Glenn’s reflection on the late Mike Shooter — former President of the Royal College of Psychiatrists — whose openness about his own depression became a important source of hope during Glenn’s own difficult period, and helped inspire the creation of his remarkable book, Personally Speaking.If you’re a psychologist, psychiatrist, therapist, doctor, coach, helping professional — or simply interested in compassion, human connection, and what makes healing possible — I think you’ll find a lot in this conversation.In this episode, we explore:• Carl Jung’s wounded healer and what it means in real clinical work• Why being “affected” may be essential to therapeutic effectiveness• Vulnerability, authenticity, and emotional presence in therapy• Professional boundaries vs emotional disconnection• The hidden costs of competitive training cultures• Supervision, personal therapy, and practitioner self-development• Recovery-oriented care and learning from lived experience• Why patients often value kindness more than technical expertise• AI therapy and whether human connection can be simulated• Building warmer, more compassionate teams and servicesTimestamps:00:00 Welcome and the big question00:42 Meet Dr Glenn Roberts and Personally Speaking02:51 Carl Jung and the wounded healer06:51 What does it mean to be “affected”?10:45 Training, vulnerability, and professional culture19:56 Supervision and personal therapy23:09 Boundaries without barriers26:10 AI therapy and the missing human element29:36 Recovery, lived experience, and service-user wisdom36:02 Warmth, compassion, and cultivating better teams42:53 Mike Shooter and a powerful personal story49:40 Practical reflections for cliniciansIf this conversation resonates, please like, subscribe, and share — it helps more people discover these important conversations.Links:Find Dr Roberts’s book Personally Speaking here:https://personally-speaking.com/If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindlTwitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindlInstagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/r7nM12grS-E*Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support!Video hashtags:compassion, psychotherapy, psychology, psychiatry, mentalhealth, woundedhealer
SummaryCompassion Is More Than Just Soothing
2w ago00:09:46Summary readyWhat if the opposite of threat isn’t relaxation… but safeness?In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, Dr Stan Steindl explores a powerful and often misunderstood idea from Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT): the soothing-affiliative system.Many people think compassion is simply about calming down, relaxing, or “down-regulating” stress. But drawing on Professor Paul Gilbert’s recent writing, Stan argues that compassion is far more alive, relational, and energising than that.Affiliative relationships don’t just soothe our threat system — they can also activate dopamine, oxytocin, and endorphin systems linked to openness, social connection, exploration, play, and vitality.Using the three systems model in Compassion Focused Therapy (threat, drive, and soothing), Stan explores why the opposite of threat may not be relaxation at all — but safeness. And safeness is not merely the absence of danger. It’s the presence of connection.Along the way, Stan reflects on insights from John Bowlby’s attachment theory, Paul Gilbert’s biopsychosocial model, and conversations from Compassion in a T-Shirt with Elaine Beaumont, Chris Irons, and Charlie Heriot-Maitland.This episode explores:. Compassion Focused Therapy explained simply. The three emotion regulation systems. Why compassion is not just soothing. The difference between relaxation and safeness. Attachment, secure base, and emotional connection. Why compassion can feel difficult or threatening. How compassion helps us change our relationship with difficult emotions. Compassion as courage, connection, and flourishingIf you’ve ever found compassion practices unexpectedly difficult—or if you’ve wondered why connection can feel both comforting and vulnerable—this episode is for you.If you enjoy these conversations, please subscribe, leave a comment, or share this video with someone who might find it helpful.Timestamps 00:00 Safeness Feels Alive 01:23 The Three Systems Model 02:13 Affiliation Opens Us 04:23 Safeness, Not Relaxation 04:56 Secure Base to Explore 05:51 The Biopsychosocial Model 07:06 When Compassion Feels Hard 08:17 Learning Safeness Gradually 09:03 Compassion Reorganises Life 09:32 Closing and Subscribe#CompassionFocusedTherapy #SelfCompassion #PaulGilbert #AttachmentTheory #MentalHealth #Psychology
SummaryHope, Compassion & Motivational Interviewing | Denise Ernst
3w ago00:54:10Summary readyHow do we find hope in the current global landscape?In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with psychologist and motivational interviewing trainer Denise Ernst for a thoughtful and deeply human conversation about hope — what it is, where it comes from, and why it may be one of the most important yet under-discussed elements of motivational interviewing.Denise describes hope not simply as optimism or positive thinking, but as a kind of living energy that exists alongside compassion, empathy, and love. We explore the idea that hope is not something we “install” into people, but something we help call forth — something already present, even beneath despair, trauma, or self-doubt.Together we discuss deep listening, the fixing reflex, change talk and “hope talk,” the role of equanimity, and how motivational interviewing creates the conditions for hope to emerge through partnership, acceptance, compassion, and empowerment. Denise also reflects on the importance of practitioners staying connected to their own “wellspring” of hope through self-awareness, self-compassion, nature, meditation, yoga, and intentional practice.This conversation moves beyond therapy techniques into something broader and more universal: how we remain connected to goodness, meaning, and possibility in difficult times.[If you enjoyed this conversation, please consider subscribing to the channel, sharing the episode, or leaving a review on your podcast app — it really helps more people discover these conversations on compassion, psychology, and human wellbeing.]Timestamps:00:00 Welcome and Introduction01:53 What Is Hope?05:34 Calling Forth What Is Already There08:46 Trauma, Threat, and Dormant Hope11:19 Discovering Your Own Wellspring of Hope16:00 Hope as a Practice20:39 MI Spirit, Presence, and Deep Listening24:32 Listening for “Hope Talk”30:29 The Fixing Reflex and Backfire35:34 Equanimity and Holding Both Hope and Despair36:10 Hope, Compassion, and the Prism Metaphor42:00 Motivational Interviewing as Human Connection45:41 Self-Compassion for Practitioners47:59 Hope in Difficult Times53:15 Final ReflectionsLinks:Dr Denise Ernst’s website:https://deniseernst.com/If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/ Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/ Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/ YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/zHZ5Caru0aA*Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support! Video hashtags:motivationalinterviewing, hope, compassion, selfcompassion, psychotherapy, mentalhealth
SummarySelf-Criticism, Shame & Compassion From the Inside | Chris Irons
4w ago01:04:44Summary readyWhat happens inside your mind when you wake up irritable frustrated…and then start criticising yourself for it?In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with clinical psychologist and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) expert Dr Chris Irons for a reflective, inside-out conversation on shame, self-criticism, and how compassion actually shows up in real life.We begin with a simple but, I suspect, relatable moment—waking up in a bad mood—and follow how threat system activation can cascade through the day, leading to frustration, disconnection, and a second layer of shame and self-criticism. Chris introduces the powerful “three arrows” metaphor (pain, defensive responses, and shame/self-criticism), and shares a vivid analogy of shame as “too much salt,” overpowering our emotional experience.We explore how self-criticism, rumination, and worry can trap us in loops, why awareness can sometimes make things worse, and how cultivating compassionate wisdom, courage, and care can help us respond differently. Chris also shares insights into Compassionate Mind Training (CMT), including the “compassionate ladder,” fears, blocks, and resistances to compassion, and how practices can be tailored to individual differences such as attachment style, shame, and neurodiversity.We also look ahead to emerging research in CFT, including ADHD, hormonal influences, and how technology and personalised approaches may shape the future of compassion-based interventions.This is a more open, less structured, conversation about what it’s actually like to be with our minds, and how we might learn to meet ourselves with compassion. I hope you enjoy it!Timestamps:00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro01:27 Irritable Morning Story03:36 Tricky Minds and Threat Loops07:37 Self Criticism and Shame Spiral12:29 The Three Arrows Explained16:12 Reconnection Needs Courage17:31 Compassion Qualities and Shame Types22:32 Shame as Too Much Salt26:13 Finding Compassion in the Dark28:40 Practice Pathways and Compassion Ladder30:37 Compassion Ladder Basics31:14 Finding Your Best Starting Point32:35 Researching Individual Differences35:58 Neurodiversity and Tailoring CMT36:55 When Compassion Triggers Threat40:29 Fears Blocks and Physiology42:04 ADHD Study and Menstrual Cycle46:49 Assessment Guided Personalisation52:04 Wearables and Daily Practice Choice53:28 Context Triggers and Self Wisdom59:47 What’s Next: Research and Access01:03:18 Spreading CFT Beyond Therapy01:04:15 Closing Thanks and FarewellLinks:Dr Chris Irons’s website:https://drchrisirons.com/If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/ Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/ Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/ YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/mfK3XBCWQWg *Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support! Video hashtags:compassionfocusedtherapy, selfcriticism, shame, mentalhealth, psychology, selfcompassion
SummaryHow Self-Compassion Can Help After Online Sexual Harm | Eve da Silva
May 100:47:12Summary readyWhat happens when shame keeps someone silent?In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I speak with clinical psychologist Dr Eve da Silva about the often hidden impact of online sexual harm — and how shame, self-criticism, and secrecy can leave young people feeling isolated and unable to seek help.Eve shares how her clinical work in CBT began to uncover a pattern: clients presenting with anxiety or low mood were often carrying unspoken experiences such as non-consensual image sharing or distressing online sexual encounters. These experiences were rarely discussed — not because they weren’t important, but because they felt too shameful to name.Drawing on Compassion Focused Therapy, Eve developed a 14-day online self-compassion programme, designed to gently support people in shifting from self-blame to self-understanding. We explore the practices involved — including soothing rhythm breathing, safe space imagery, compassionate writing, and compassionate self exercises — and why even brief interventions can make a meaningful difference.We also discuss the complexity of navigating digital intimacy, the role of peer and cultural pressures, and how shame activates threat responses that block help-seeking. Eve shares findings from her study, where participants showed reduced self-criticism, lower distress, increased self-reassurance, and more openness to seeking help.This is a thoughtful and important conversation about how compassion can help people begin to relate differently to themselves — especially in moments where they might feel most alone.You can find Eve’s free resources here: https://compassionhelps.com/resourcesTimestamps:00:00 Welcome and Topic01:33 Why This Research06:51 Online Norms and Pressure12:32 Shame and Silence16:51 Designing the Program23:18 Making It Human26:38 Study Results and Outcomes35:41 Supporting Youth Compassionately42:02 Micro Anchors Explained46:03 What’s Next and Wrap-UpLinks:Find Eve da Silva on Instagram:@drevedasilvaIf you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/ Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/ Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/ YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/twLUB3Ma118*Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support! Video hashtags:compassion focused therapy, self compassion, shame, online harm, mental health, help seeking
SummaryPsychological Flexibility, Self-Criticism & Elite Performance | Toby Jenkins
Apr 2401:01:18Summary readyWhat really drives elite performance — discipline, self-criticism, or something deeper? In this episode, I explore psychological flexibility, self-compassion, and high performance with Olympian Toby Jenkins.In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Toby Jenkins — Olympian, entrepreneur, speaker, and coach — to explore leadership, high performance, and the inner world that shapes both.Toby is also my cousin, so this was a really special conversation for me. He shares a deeply personal and powerful account of his Olympic journey, describing the yin–yang of high performance — the highs and lows, pride and disappointment, confidence and doubt, and even moments of shame.We talk openly about self-criticism — how it can drive performance, but also how it can become harsh and unhelpful. Toby reflects on the intense pressure of elite sport, and how that inner voice shaped his experience along the way.One of the most powerful moments in the conversation is a story from his early days at the Australian Institute of Sport, where a simple act of kindness — a teammate offering him an old team t-shirt — had a profound and lasting impact. It’s a beautiful example of compassion in action.Toby also shares how discovering Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT) and the science of psychological flexibility transformed his understanding of mindset. Rather than trying to eliminate stress or control emotions, he now focuses on opening up to discomfort, being present, and taking values-based action.In our conversation, we explore:- The double-edged nature of self-criticism in high performance- Why confidence can be unreliable — and competence is built through reps- How athletes and leaders can respond differently to pressure, fear, and doubt- The role of compassion and self-compassion in resilience and growth- How psychological flexibility applies across sport, business, and everyday lifeThis is a really rich, practical, and deeply human conversation about what it means to perform, lead, and live well — even when things are tough.Timestamps:00:00 Welcome And Guest Intro01:46 Cousins Reunite On Air02:39 Olympic Highs And Lows07:20 AIS Grind And Self Doubt09:00 Humiliated At Selection Camp12:25 The T Shirt Kindness Moment14:55 Pay It Forward Lessons19:12 Compassion Defined In Practice21:52 Reframing Coach With Compassion27:30 Inner Critic And Pain As Fuel30:02 When Self Criticism Helps Or Hurts32:12 Constructive vs Shame Critic33:22 Owning Pressure Out Loud35:46 Acceptance Price of Entry37:27 Finding ACT in Crisis38:49 Work Identity Wake Up44:23 Mindset Shift in Leaders47:08 Confidence vs Competence Reps53:58 Compassion Validation and Choice59:17 Wholeness Yin Yang Wrap01:00:36 Closing Thanks and FarewellLinks:Toby Jenkin’s website:https://www.tobyajenkins.com/ Toby’s LinkedIn:https://www.linkedin.com/in/tobyjenkins/ If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/ Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/ Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/ YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/KczGMCNSorQ *Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support! Hashtags:compassion, selfcompassion, psychologicalflexibility, highperformance, leadership, mentalhealth
SummaryWhy We Self-Sabotage (It’s Not What You Think) | Charlie Heriot-Maitland
Apr 1700:50:57Summary readyWhy do we self-sabotage, criticise ourselves, or even create chaos in our own lives — sometimes right when things matter most?In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with clinical psychologist Dr Charlie Heriot-Maitland to explore his powerful new book Controlled Explosions in Mental Health. Together, we unpack a surprising and compassionate idea: that many of the things we struggle with — procrastination, self-criticism, pessimism, even self-harm — may actually be our brain’s way of protecting us from something it views as even more painful.Charlie introduces the concept of “controlled explosions” — targeted, self-directed harms designed to prevent bigger feared threats like rejection, failure, humiliation, or retraumatisation. Drawing on evolutionary psychology and Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT), we explore how understanding these patterns can reduce shame and help us relate to our minds in a more compassionate and effective way.Along the way, Charlie and I reflect on our own experiences of writing and publishing books — and how self-sabotage can show up in surprisingly subtle ways, like procrastinating near the finish line or even holding back from promoting something we care deeply about. These moments bring the theory to life, showing how these “protective” processes can quietly shape our choices, often in ways we don’t immediately recognise.We also dive into the idea of the “bomb squad” — different parts of the mind (like the procrastinator, pessimist, or inner critic) that step in to protect us — and why trying to simply “get rid” of these patterns often leads to more struggle. Instead, Charlie outlines a compassionate approach of noticing, understanding, and helping — turning towards the underlying fears rather than fighting the symptoms.This is a thoughtful and deeply relatable conversation about why our minds work the way they do — and how compassion can help us work with our minds, rather than against them. Timestamps:00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro02:05 New Book Overview02:46 Controlled Explosions Metaphor06:46 Eureka Origin Story08:56 Evolution and Deshaming11:26 Bomb Squad Characters13:46 Self Sabotage Unit22:29 Self Criticism Unit28:56 Whack a Mole and Root Causes33:24 Parts Work and Personifying36:48 Continuum and Common Humanity41:03 Compassionate Practice Tools48:16 Therapy Applications and ClosingLinks:Dr Charlie Heriot-Maitland’s website:https://charlieheriotmaitland.com/Relating to Voices Using CFT (Heriot-Maitland & Longden, 2022)https://charlieheriotmaitland.com/books/relating-to-voices-using-compassion-focused-therapy/Controlled Explosions in Mental Health (Heriot-Maitland, 2026)https://charlieheriotmaitland.com/books/controlled-explosions-in-mental-health/If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/ Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/ Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/ YouTube Video URL: [link] *Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support! Hashtags:compassionfocusedtherapy, selfsabotage, selfcriticism, mentalhealth, psychologypodcast, compassion
SummaryDiscovering Compassion in Therapy | Tiffany Luxford
Apr 1000:38:03Summary readyWhat is it like to encounter Compassion Focused Therapy (CFT) for the very first time — not in a textbook, but in a real clinical service, working with people whose threat systems are truly activated?In this episode of Compassion in a T-Shirt, I sit down with Tiffany Luxford, an undergraduate psychology student working at the Anxiety Disorders Residential Unit at the South London and Maudsley NHS Foundation Trust. Tiff shares a fresh, thoughtful, and deeply human perspective on what it’s like to step into a compassionate clinical environment — and how that experience begins to shape the kind of clinician she hopes to become.We explore how compassion shows up not just in therapy, but in team culture — creating safeness, reducing burnout, and supporting both staff and clients. Tiff offers insights into how CFT is used alongside CBT for conditions like OCD and body dysmorphic disorder, including working with shame, self-criticism, and fears of self-compassion.What makes this conversation especially powerful is Tiff’s willingness to reflect on her own lived experience of recovery from an eating disorder and OCD — and how compassion might have changed that journey. She also shares reflections from her newly released TEDx talk, where she speaks about uncertainty, recovery, and the courage it takes to move toward change.This is a conversation about beginnings — about learning compassion, living it, and slowly becoming it.Watch Tiff’s TEDx talk: What recovery taught me about fear | Tiffany Luxford | TEDxKingsCollegeLondonhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlFHrSPw1kUTimestamps:00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro02:17 First Encounter With CFT06:18 Team Compassion Culture10:09 Formulating Anxiety in CFT12:42 ERP With Self Compassion16:23 Shame and Self Criticism19:01 Small Shifts in Recovery24:22 Lived Experience and Recovery28:35 TEDx Talk and Uncertainty32:29 Designing Compassionate Services34:54 Advice for New Clinicians37:27 Closing Thanks and Wrap UpLinks:Watch Tiff’s TEDx talk: What recovery taught me about fear | Tiffany Luxford | TEDxKingsCollegeLondonhttps://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TlFHrSPw1kUIf you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/ Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/ Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/ YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/WIeC6JOdZKU *Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support! Hashtags:compassion focused therapy, self compassion, anxiety treatment, OCD recovery, early career psychologist, mental health education
SummaryHow Compassion Really Works (And How to Train It) | Paul Condon
Apr 301:10:57Summary readyWhat if compassion isn’t just something we feel—but something we can train?In this conversation, I sit down with social psychologist Associate Professor Paul Condon to explore his new book How Compassion Works (with John Makransky) and their evidence-based approach to Sustainable Compassion Training (SCT).We dive into a powerful idea: that we already have an innate capacity for love, compassion, and wisdom—but life experiences, attachment patterns, and our tendency to get caught in thoughts can pull us away from it.Paul shares a clear, practical framework for reconnecting with that capacity through three key modes of practice:. Receptive mode – learning to take in care and reconnect with a “secure base”. Deepening mode – shifting from reactive thinking to expansive awareness. Inclusive mode – widening compassion beyond our usual limitsWe also explore how to develop a “holding environment” for difficult emotions, the difference between love and compassion, and how this approach can help prevent burnout, empathic distress, and compassion fatigue.If you’ve ever struggled to stay compassionate without feeling overwhelmed—or wondered how compassion actually develops—this is a deeply insightful and practical conversation.Timestamps00:00 Welcome and Guest Intro02:31 Innate Compassion Explained05:59 Why We Lose Touch13:20 Equanimity and Holding Space17:56 Love vs Compassion23:14 Sustainable Compassion Training28:43 Receptive Mode Field of Care33:09 When Care Feels Inaccessible40:28 Deepening Mode Expansive Awareness49:37 Inclusive Mode Widening the Circle58:27 Avoiding Burnout and Distress01:05:21 Motivation and Daily Practice01:10:48 Closing Thoughts and ThanksLinks:Dr Paul Condon’s website:https://paulcondon.org/How Compassion Works (Makransky & Condon, 2025)https://www.amazon.com.au/How-Compassion-Works-Step-Step/dp/164547173X/Sustainable Compassion Training: Integrating Meditation Theory With Psychological Science (Condon & Makransky, 2020) Open Access article from Frontiers in Psychology.https://www.frontiersin.org/journals/psychology/articles/10.3389/fpsyg.2020.02249/full If you would like to learn more about compassion focused therapy, you can find Dr Stan Steindl's book The Gifts of Compassion here: https://www.ausapress.com/p/the-gifts-of-compassion-how-to-understand-and-overcome-suffering/ Say hi on social: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/drstansteindl Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/StanSteindl Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/dr_stan_steindl/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/stan-steindl-150a5264/ Website: https://www.stansteindl.com/ YouTube Video URL: https://youtu.be/8zBzKtw25ew *Affiliate Disclaimer: Note this description contains affiliate links that allow you to find the items mentioned in this video and support the channel at no cost to you. While this channel may earn minimal sums when the viewer uses the links, the viewer is in no way obligated to use these links. Thank you for your support! Hashtags:compassion training, mindfulness meditation, compassion fatigue, self compassion, psychology and wellbeing, burnout prevention
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